RECIPE: Dairy-free pudding is sweet dessert without the guilt

I find it difficult to talk to my teenage daughter about healthy eating. I know she is bombarded by body-conscious messaging every time she glances at her cellphone. I know that the amygdala in her 15-year-old brain lives in fight-or-flight mode, so if I say, “Don’t eat chips before dinner,” she hears “You are a hideous monster.” I know that words carry weight, because my own mother told me the cream cheese on my bagel was making me fat, and here I am writing about it 35 years later.

I discussed how to discuss food with other mothers of daughters. We agreed that we would give up all of our internal organs to ensure our children don’t think about their diets the way we obsess about ours. Then we wondered how much weight we would lose if we gave up all of our internal organs, and I think that’s a pretty clear indication of where the problem lies, folks.

So here’s my plan: Nutrition information is offered strictly as data. For example, “Eggs have 6 grams of protein each. An omelet will help you stay full today.” But I don’t judge what’s on her plate and, just as importantly, I don’t lament what’s on mine. I keep the house stocked with nutritious snacks. I normalize meals that are full of lean protein and colorful vegetables. And instead of villainizing sweets, my daughter and I make chia seed pudding together.