Lamar Odom: A victim of his own reality

Odom wound up making that journey. He just never could have anticipated the trouble that would come with it.

Odom, 35, was in a coma Wednesday evening after being found unresponsive at a Nevada brothel the day before. It marked a tragic turn for a man blessed with gifts but haunted by vulnerabilities _ a Shakespearean tale, updated and reimagined for the TMZ era.

Starting out as a basketball wunderkind, Odom would go on to enjoy triumphs and titles in the NBA. He would boast celebrity friends, a Kardashian girlfriend and an enviable fortune.

But death was never far. He lost his mother to cancer when he was 12, a child to SIDS when he was 26, a cousin to a homicide when he was 31, a good friend to a drug overdose just a few months ago.

And he has lived much of his fraught life in public. Like a select few sports stars, Odom has had a career in show business, appearing on television every week as himself, or at least as a character named Lamar Odom.

On the E! network's "Keeping Up With the Kardashians," he married one of the best-known reality stars in history, Khloe Kardashian, becoming a household name to millions of Americans who had never heard of a pick-and-roll. Then he and his wife got their own spinoff, "Khloe & Lamar."

Odom was an intriguing figure _ the newcomer made famous overnight by his association with reality royalty, a low-culture Pippa Middleton. Suddenly, a tabloid-hungry public that knew little about him wanted to know a lot, Odom benefiting from _ and, perhaps, being exploited by _ a culture's seedier obsessions.

As a character on "Kardashians," Odom would disappear for days at a time (the tabloids chalked it up to drug binges), leaving Khloe distraught and wounded. But he was, for much of the time, a sympathetic figure, one who would raid the kitchen cupboards for sweets and tussle playfully with Khloe's younger siblings. In his devotion to his new family, Odom was an affable giant, a good-guy cousin, a man-child who, as he had for much of his life, simply seemed to be seeking approval.

And he was, at times, the off-screen enigma. Last Sunday, Odom's name came up on "Keeping Up With the Kardashians" as Kim Kardashian worried, to Khloe and in an aside to viewers, whether her sister was falling for her long-estranged husband again. She exhorted Khloe to stay away. Odom's face never appeared in the episode; it hasn't since early last year. He has had no input in his portrayal, no say in how the world viewed him.

It was not the first time Odom was carried along on currents only partly of his own creation.

When his mother died of colon cancer, he might have turned to his father. But Joe Odom was consumed by a heroin addiction, often scrounging to pay for his next fix. Raised by his grandmother, Lamar Odom would bounce to three high schools, leaving two of them because of poor grades. He would commit to UNLV, but saw the school renege on a scholarship after a standardized-test scandal. Odom enrolled at the University of Rhode Island for one year, then declared for the NBA draft.

"My dream is to leave this game and say, 'You know what? Lamar Odom is one of the top 50 players ever to play,'" he told the Los Angeles Times then. "Being a Hall of Fame basketball player, coming from where I came from, that would be really like mission accomplished."

Odom was taken fourth by the L.A. Clippers. His NBA career took off, and he would star for them, the Miami Heat and the L.A. Lakers in the dozen years that followed. For a number of seasons on the blue-and-gold he would average about 15 points and 10 rebounds, and was a key part of the club's NBA Finals wins in 2009 and 2010. During his Lakers tenure, he came to light as a reality star, first on "Kardashians" and then his own spinoff with Khloe.

It was a unique success story. With championship rings, great wealth and cable-television fame, Odom had transcended mere athletic achievement to become a kind of distillation of a 21st-century American fantasy.

Yet he has seemed chronically underprepared for nearly every good turn that came his way. "I'm worried about Lamar," Gary Charles, a former coach who had known Odom since he was a high school star, said in 1999. "He's not ready for this."

Sixteen years later, his estranged wife told her sister that Odom was a constant source of worry.

"I'm really on high alert for Lamar because I think anything will set him to spiral, and that's kind of the last thing I want for him," Khloe Kardashian said in a recent episode of "Keeping Up With the Kardashians."

For a man in whom his closest confidantes saw fragility, the spotlight has proved perilous. Celebrity attracts parasites like honey draws flies. It pulled in Khloe Kardashian, who seemed to genuinely care about him, but also many who saw in his renown an easy chance to make a dollar.

Odom recognized this early, but seemed unable to do anything about it. "Someone like me needs realness, which I don't come across too much. I'm always bumping into someone with an agenda," he said after the Clippers drafted him.

He was the man with the talent, but he could feel like a pawn, with no more agency over his fate than a prized painting.

Even the E! reality show _ which he admittedly signed on for _ could seem like too much, and he told the Times in 2011 that he nearly opted out of the show shortly after committing to it because the cameras wore him down.

As Odom's reflexes and stamina slowed in recent years, so did his career. He won the NBA's Sixth Man award in 2011 playing for the Lakers, but shortly after would be part of the nullified Chris Paul deal _ a trade that reportedly had him livid _ and watched his production fall off. He had an angry confrontation with Dallas Mavericks owner Mark Cuban and was let go by that team, was turned away by the Clippers and faced an exile to Europe.

The events did not go down easily, in part because Odom was more fragile than he appeared.

In 2011, after attending his cousin's funeral, an SUV he was riding in lost control on a street in New York, setting off a chain-reaction that killed a 15-year-old boy. The boy died the next day. "I think the effects of seeing (my cousin) die and then watching this kid die, it beat me down," he said, adding, "I've always been a little weak."

Odom's battles with drugs came to light shortly after, particularly in 2013. Tabloid stories of crack binges echoed the heroin addiction of his father, the complicated man he swore he would never become. That Odom lived part of the year in Vegas, a city of outsized reputation and gilded happiness, seemed only too fitting.

The brothel that Odom was found at Tuesday was the Love Ranch Vegas, a sister establishment to Dennis Hof's Moonlite Bunny Ranch, whose inner workings are well-known from the popular HBO show "Cathouse."

It was the rare moment that might have been private for Odom, out of sight of a gaping public. But thanks to the popularity of "Cathouse," Odom could now easily be imagined at the brothel surrounded by escorts, who had been with him just hours before.

Odom's personal drama was again playing out like a movie in the collective mind, the ethos of reality television impinging even in the absence of cameras. Odom appeared in these conjured scenes much as he has so often before in his life _ surrounded by people, yet eerily alone.