Yes, children are odd. Sometimes, they are even weird. They do odd, strange, weird, bizarre, inexplicable things that, in most cases, concerning most kids, have no meaning at all in the sense of being indicators of deep, dark problems embedded in their supposedly delicate psyches. Furthermore, most of the odd, etc. things they do are completely unrelated to and disconnected from the manner in which they have been raised. “You are not the cue ball in your child’s life,” I tell my audiences around the USA. “Your child was born with free will — both a blessing and a curse.”
Fifty-plus years ago, before professional parenting experts (Who, me?) began muddying up America’s parenting waters with psycho-garbage, there existed a parenting vernacular that is no longer in common use. It consisted of pithy phrases like “Children should be seen and not heard” and “You made this bed, so YOU are going to lie in it.” One such pithiness was “Every child has a mind of his own.” In eight words, that expressed what I used more than 50 to express in the above paragraph. My mother, her mother, her mother’s mother, and so on down the line knew that no matter how “good” their parenting was by any standard, their children were still capable, on any given day, of despicable. And no matter how smart their children were, they were capable, on any given day, of moronic behavior. So are yours. You are not your child’s personal savior, put in his life to save him from the wages of sin, to insure his admission to Heaven or his passage into perpetual Nirvana, whatever your tastes may be.