The Spouse Support Group meets three times a month, which includes one meeting over a meal at the dining table of Sheila Welch, coordinator of the church’s Caregiver’s Ministry and facilitator of the dementia support groups.
Welch’s job is part cheerleader, part educator. She’s there to offer you-can-do-it encouragement, but she doesn’t withhold the hard, cold facts about the task at hand.
With Alzheimer’s, the brain is dying in at least two areas, and the disease is progressive, constantly changing for the worse and terminal. Skills are being lost, and the patient’s personality changes frequently, sometimes moment to moment, Welch said.
“The person living with dementia is not living in the same reality as the person caring for them,” Welch said.
That’s particularly hard on the spouse, who often picks up the total caregiving load and is quickly overwhelmed by the responsibility. Caregivers have to learn how to take care of themselves, because if they don’t, dementia can claim two lives, not just one.
Welch saw that happen with her own parents. Her mother suffered for 12 years with Alzheimer’s, and Welch’s father was the primary caregiver for seven of those years. It took such a toll on him that he died three years before she did.
After her father passed away, Welch stepped into the role and was overcome by grief, duty and fear. Looking back, she realizes that caregivers need as much care as their loved ones. Taking breaks from the daily tasks, getting outside help, finding balance in their own lives and joining a support group are ways caregivers become more empowered.
“What we try to offer in our groups is hope that together we can get through this,” Welch said. “And you can still be standing at the end of this journey — if you take care of yourself.”
Teepa Snow, a nationally known dementia-care education specialist, will teach caregivers skills to assist their loved ones at a free workshop on March 31 from 8:30 a.m. to 4 p.m. at Due West United Methodist Church in Marietta. (Photo: HANDOUT)
The Alzheimer’s/dementia caregiver’s support groups at Due West have grown organically through the last several years. People find them because the need is increasing, Welch said.
In addition to regular meetings, the ministry sponsors conferences and workshops to help educate caregivers and give them the skills they need. An upcoming workshop will feature Teepa Snow, a nationally known dementia-care education specialist.
"A Day with Teepa Snow: Today's Voice for Dementia," is March 31, 8:30 a.m.-4 p.m. at the Due West United Methodist Church Family Life Center, 3956 Due West Road, Marietta. Family and professional caregivers can register online at duewest.org.
“The most rewarding part is meeting families who are loving their spouses through dementia,” Welch said. “I have met one hero after another.”
Pascucci is one of those heroes whom Welch admires. And Pascucci credits Welch and his group for helping him to press on.
He is learning to take care of himself, and that means not trying to do everything by himself. He’s hired some help, and he goes out with friends for lunch and other social events. And he recently took his first extended break, a weeklong vacation. Getting away helps energize him for the duties he faces in caring for his wife.
“It’s the most important thing I’ve ever done in my life, and I’m privileged to do it for my sweet wife,” Pascucci said.
FREE CAREGIVER’S WORKSHOP
WHAT: A Day with Teepa Snow: Today's Voice for Dementia
Snow is a nationally known dementia-care education specialist with more than 30 years in clinical practice. Her workshops provide a down-earth, interactive program providing knowledge behind why people with dementia are doing what they are doing and teaching caregivers skills to assist their loved one on this journey.
WHEN: Friday, March 31, 8:30 a.m-4 p.m.
WHERE: Due West United Methodist Church
3956 Due West Road, Marietta, 30064
REGISTER:duewest.org. For more information: Shelia Welch at firstname.lastname@example.org or 404-642-6027
Sponsored by Due West UMC and Cobb Senior Services
DEMENTIA/ALZHEIMER’S CAREGIVERS SUPPORT GROUPS
Due West United Methodist Church: Spouse Support Group meets three Wednesday mornings a month from 9-10:30 a.m. Family Support Group meets once a month from 7-8:30 p.m. Contact Sheila Welch for more information at 404-642-6027.
Alzheimer's Association Georgia Chapter: Numerous family support group meetings are offered throughout the state. For a full listing and more information is available at http://www.alz.org/georgia/in_my_community_support.asp#support.
For more information about the days and times of the meetings, contact the Atlanta office at 1-800-272-3900.