Actress and producer Mindy Kaling recently did an in-depth interview for Marie Claire and shared her thoughts on motherhood — and on freezing ones eggs.
The six-time Emmy Award nominee has successfully created spaces to help express the voices of first generation Asian-Americans. Kaling admits she’s a traditional Indian family’s nightmare — especially since having two children out of wedlock.
In the wake of Roe v. Wade, the “Never Have I Ever” creator, who is now 43 years old, said that she decided to have children in her late thirties because that’s when she felt the most financially stable and secure. And Kaling thinks lots of other women are in a similar position.
“I think in my twenties I was only focused on, okay, I don’t want to get fired. I want to be successful, and I was only thinking about myself,” she said. “In no way was I thinking about things that are the most important to me now, which is my health, holding the door open behind me for other people.”
“The choice to have a child, by yourself, on your own terms, it was the best part of my life. It’s the thing that I hope women feel confident doing by themselves.” she said.
A 2018 study “Reaching the Modern Independent Woman,” revealed that women are four times more likely to pursue a career over having a family. The study also revealed that establishing a career and being financially secure ranked more higher for participants than starting a family.
“I wish every 19-year-old girl would come home from college and that the gift — instead of buying them jewelry or a vacation or whatever — is that their parents would take them to freeze their eggs,” Kaling said.
The “Mindy Project” creator went on to say that she hopes more women can feel confident doing so but she’s also not blind to societal or financial support that some might not have. However, normalizing the decision to freeze ones eggs can make a difference.
“To focus in your twenties and thirties on your career, and yes, love, but to know that when you’re emotionally ready, and, if you don’t have a partner, you can still have children.” said Kaling