The egos that we have can be fragile and easily bruised. This is especially true when it comes to our bedroom skills. No one wants to hear a bad review or get overly criticized. I think this is why many people don’t want to be honest with their partners. They would rather fake it and hope it gets better. Is that a mistake, though.
If you keep pretending that it’s all good, that can be counterintuitive. People have their reasons for doing the fake thing but it shouldn’t be the solution. The many guy friends I asked about fakers claim to know when they are getting the fake out. It doesn’t bother them so much because they don’t think it is a reflection on them directly.
If someone called you out on faking it in bed, what would you do? Have you ever asked someone if they pretended to enjoy it? Can the faking it question lead to a discussion of how to improve things?
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