The key to a first date is keeping the conversation light while getting to know about the other’s hobbies and interests — and don’t forget humor. I would actually prefer you leave a first date not knowing any factual information, but instead knowing you laughed the whole time and felt great about yourself.
Meanwhile, avoid heavy topics that can bring up bad feelings, such as past relationships, relationship “deal-breakers”… and please don’t be one of the people who asks, “Why are you still single?” Maybe it sounds like a compliment to you, but most people don’t take it that way.
The purpose of a first date is not to map out a life plan with the person, including where you’ll send your 2.5 children to school and what to name your future dog. It’s a chance to see if you both enjoy being with each other and want to see each other again. There’s a time and place for deep conversations about the past and future, but a first date is all about being in the moment and relishing the present.
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Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge, where she helps others navigate the often intimidating world of online dating.