So, if you have dreams and desires you want to share with the one you love, talk to your partner about them and create a way to make them happen, so you aren’t just living life in your head.
Planning for the long term with your partner is not hard once you begin. You might start by picturing yourselves living together well into your golden years and talk about what life will be like for the two of you. Sometimes you can see your own future by just looking out your front door. That’s what happened for my partner and me.
People of all ages like to walk in our neighborhood. One older couple we have come to admire uses high-tech walkers to take their daily constitutional. These folks are living the way they want to live. They are obviously enjoying themselves every day and have been able to maintain their quality of life and their independence. Who could want anything more? Being like this couple has become one of our goals.
When you get older, a primary issue will be whether you choose to continue living independently or as part of a supportive or assisted-living community. Making plans means imagining what you would most like to happen and how you will get there. It’s also good to consider what you will do if that’s not possible.
If you intend to be with your partner for the long haul, communicating about what you want and need beyond the next trip to the market or to Disneyland is important. One benefit of this process is that when something in life changes the way you live, you can get back on track much more easily.
Being able to talk about your future together, sharing your hopes and dreams for the rest of your lives, is a true gift. Enjoy it.
Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D. is an award-winning psychotherapist and humanitarian. He is also a columnist, the author of eight books, and a blogger for PsychologyToday.com with nearly 35 million readers. He is available for in-person & video consults world-wide, reach him at Barton@BartonGoldsmith.com