Debrief so you can de-escalate
When a shift's been rough for the group as a whole, Elizabeth Binsfield makes sure to reach out before the close of day. An RN for Homecare Assistance of Virginia, Binsfield uses the strategy so everyone can learn from mistakes or affirm that they made the right choices together. "Replaying the sticky points and exploring whether there were other options we had can be helpful," she says.
Take the long way home
Binsfield, who lives on a hobby farm in Central Virginia, soothes away a tough shift with a leisurely drive down back roads. "I'll either play something soothing and instrumental on the radio or leave it off altogether. Sometimes we don't realize how much noise the day exposes us to until we're alone," she says. "The silence can be deafening. And very, very peaceful."
Keep calm and shower
Once Binsfield arrives at home, she limits all stimuli for a while to keep recouping. "A long walk with my dogs, a nap or reading something simple and calming helps bring me back to balance. A shower cleanses the remainders of the day off and readies me for sleep."
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Tap into your emotions
What doesn't work on the job can be precisely what you need to rebound after a tough shift: connecting with your emotions. "Nursing is physically and emotionally demanding work which is also why nursing is so rewarding and meaningful," notes Ann Stinely, an RN at WakeMed Health & Hospitals who lives in Cary, North Carolina. "So how to remain engaged and present without becoming a bitter, burnt-out, robot? I have a routine which helps me. First, I try to recognize how I'm feeling. This sounds like an easy thing to do, but really isn't. I've been suppressing my feelings all day so I can take care of or be prepared for overwhelming emergencies all day."
Try to break into your own thoughts
Stinely says disturbed sleep and repetitive thoughts are common after an extra-stressful day. Her first line of defense is simply accepting that she's stressed out. She follows that with quiet time. "If I can't concentrate to read I do a sudoku or crossword."
Staying active also helps Stinely get it back together before returning for another shift. "I go to the gym," she says. "Long walks really help. I go birdwatching. There is no panacea, but some time doing these things always gets me on an even keel."
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If management is approachable, seek them out
Instead of stewing over a bad shift in isolation, Stinely recommends talking over the day's events with a trusted colleague in private. And if, like her, you're fortunate enough to have approachable managers, check in to clear the air and get back on track. "I'll drop in the next day to chat with them if I need to," Stinely says. "What I don't do is drink alcohol, take drugs or overeat. I don't stay in my jammies and watch TV all day. I try not to dump all my stress on my spouse. Those strategies just don't work."
Dewer likes to remind herself that the next day of work might be the opposite of the awful shift she just had. "In my experience, I might have the worst day for whatever reason and the following shift might be completely different," she says. "I also keep in mind that it's just 12 hours, either way. The next day is always a new day."