Carol Thompson’s journey to caregiving began with an 18-day cross-country trip. She drove from New York to California to pick up her partner and best friend, Elizabeth Tilden. Tilden, 76, has a “moderate” form of Alzheimer’s disease.
Thompson, 74, has assumed the role of caregiver since 2021, as Tilden’s daughter lives in Sweden.
When it comes time to look for assisted living facilities, the couple hopes the facility has LGBTQ ally partnerships and a large community presence to support them.
“You need that connection. I desperately need to be around people. That’s who I am,” Thompson said.
The history of anti-LGBTQ+ sentiment reflected in U.S. laws and policies has created a stigma that’s caused painful experiences for LGBTQ+ patients seeking healthcare.
The assumed caregivers of older adults, immediate or close relatives, are often unavailable to members of the gay and lesbian community, explained Scott Fearing, a community activist and educator on LGBTQ+ issues at the University of Rochester.
“If you look at elders in the world and who cares for them, it’s usually children, grandchildren, siblings, something like that,” said Fearing. “And oftentimes, for LGBTQ seniors, those connections don’t exist. There aren’t children. There aren’t places to turn to.”
The Michigan LGBTQ+ Elders Network (MiGen) is trying to tackle challenges faced by older LGBTQ+ adults during the pandemic, which has illuminated gaps and disparities in services.
MiGen saw a massive upswell of the need for basic assistance, programming and social connection as the pandemic hit for the older LGBTQ adults it serves. It now has a whole pillar dedicated to direct services for older adults.
What the organization offers broadly falls into two buckets: education and direct services. The training and education department works directly with adult care providers, said MiGen executive director Angela Gabridge.
MiGen also works with Michigan’s area agencies on aging, long-term care facilities and healthcare systems, she said.
“We have a food assistance and tech assistance program, friendly caller reassurance, we have social programming both in-person and virtual opportunities,” said Gabridge.
This year, the organization launched a community navigator pilot program that pairs older LGBTQ+ adults and their caregivers with community members who work to assist them with any challenges or hurdles they face. The members are part of the LGBTQ+ community and are positioned to help, Gabridge said.
The navigators can step in to assist with housing or provide resources, such as when an LGBTQ+ person says they are being bullied at their long-term care facility, she said. Even when MiGen is working with allies or people who want to be supportive, it’s often difficult when there’s an absence of significant experience within the LGBTQ+ community.
“That’s one challenge that oftentimes folks don’t think of,” Gabridge said.
