"To me the biggest issue is lying about it, raising a child in his household that he pretends wasn't his child."
Schwarzenegger and Shriver, married for 25 years, announced their separation earlier this month. On Tuesday Schwarzenegger admitted that he had an illegitimate son with a member of the household staff.
Shriver appeared on one of talk host Oprah Winfrey's last shows Tuesday, to obliquely comment on her husband's behavior and to seek support. Tellingly, US Weekly described Shriver's appearance on the show as "radiant, in a sexy teal gown."
The tacet agreement: Shriver "wins" by being more attractive. And that is a misguided tendency, said Dina Zeckhausen, Atlanta psychologist and founder of the Eating Disorders Information Network.
"Marriage and affairs are very complex and people like simplicity. Our tendency is to try to boil these things down to good guys and bad guys," said Zeckhausen. "What people don’t understand about affairs is they are usually less about how the person looks and more about how the person makes you feel. What we get out of an affair is the feeling of being special again and that’s very addictive."