Readers Write 10/4

Help a battered woman get the help she needs

The stats concerning domestic violence are alarming. The individual stories are heartbreaking. Each woman was a daughter, and many were a child’s mother, a sibling’s sister or someone’s best friend.

We can prevent intimate partner violence (IPV) by identifying the warning signs of IPV, including such indicators as a ‘whirlwind’ relationship, or when a woman becomes isolated from friends and family, with frequent absences from work or social occasions. Or, perhaps she is ashamed and afraid to talk about her relationship. These are the times to speak up, ask questions and express your concern. Doing so will shatter the silence — and may save her life.

At Partnership Against Domestic Violence, the women who seek our help are often referred to us by friends and family. This is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Find out how to help your loved ones break the silence and get help.

Cathy Callaway Adams, board chair, Partnership Against Domestic Violence

GOVERNMENT

Full of gratitude for filling of pothole

My wife and I have been residents of Atlanta for almost 30 years, and have lived at the same address since 1982. In all that time, we have only called upon our City Hall for help twice. I recently sent an e-mail to Richard Mendoza, commissioner of Atlanta’s Department of Public Works, asking for his help in repairing a potentially dangerous pothole on our street. The next day, I left my home to do some errands and on my return a few hours later, I couldn’t believe my eyes — the pothole was filled with freshly poured asphalt.

Many of us are very quick to criticize our local government officials when things don’t go according to our expectations. We should be just as quick to acknowledge when someone does a good job. Mendoza’s response to my e-mail went far beyond just doing “a good job.” His response was outstanding, and exceeded our expectations.

Mr. Mendoza, we thank you. You and your thoughtful staff are truly public servants, in the most honorable and responsible sense of the words.

David Swann, Atlanta

RELIGION

Media doing its job — and Long is no victim

Regarding the Bishop Eddie Long case: The majority of the time, the media accurately reports what we project; what we display and what we have chosen to become. The saying that the media can make you or break you is another justification used to reallocate the responsibility to something outside of self. Isn’t it ironic, how the media becomes the villain when one gets himself in trouble, and does something to attract the media?

The media does its job in reporting the story that we have written with actions. We give the media our lives to monitor. That’s their job. Our job is to give ABC, NBC, and CBS nothing to share with the world — unless it is worthy of glory.

When we behave in such a way to have ourselves mocked, the best thing to do is to come clean, make amends with self, and God, and not to stand as if we have become the victim; as if we are the David, ready to battle Goliath — when we really are Saul, afraid of Goliath.

Brian Payne, Decatur

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