The former attorney general of the state of New York allegedly had a pattern of slapping and choking women with whom he was intimate. He also spat at them, demanded threesomes, insulted them, threatened them and called one (who had dark skin) his “brown slave,” according to recent accusations. One woman claims that without warning he slammed her so hard that he broke her eardrum. Another woman says that his palm left a red welt on her face that remained visible the following day.
These and other details about Eric Schneiderman were disclosed by Ronan Farrow and Jane Mayer in The New Yorker. Keep that in mind the next time someone suggests that the liberal media are untethered to reality and serve only partisan purposes. Schneiderman is not only a Democrat; he was a key Trump antagonist, and a champion of the #MeToo movement.
This has left a number of feminists both furious and bewildered. It’s disorienting to see people you admired and assumed to be moral betray everything they supposedly believed in — something conservative women (and men) have experienced, too. Samantha Bee, who had often lionized Schneiderman on her show, fumed, “This is especially infuriating given his supposed woke bae-ness,” she said.
The Huffington Post consulted a psychologist to help explain how it was possible that “male allies” could become “abusers.” Katha Pollitt, who once flippantly warned, “Never trust a male feminist,” is almost to the point of condemning all men now. “How simple life would be if only conservatives, or liberals … were abusers,” she wrote.
Samantha Bee’s defiant conclusion is: “You know who’s a better advocate for women? Women. … The future really is female, or at least it better be, because I am done with this.”
In my forthcoming book (out June 26), “Sex Matters: How Modern Feminism Lost Touch with Science, Love, and Common Sense,” I push back against this feminist tendency to deride men as a class and to disparage masculinity itself as somehow pathological. In the 1970s, some second-wave feminists, such as Ti-Grace Atkinson, president of the New York chapter of the National Organization for Women, were so possessed by hatred for men in general that they lost sight of basic morality.
The counterculture of the 1960s and ’70s broke down social norms, and then regretted what was unleashed. Today, feminists are grappling with the long roster of supposedly “enlightened,” i.e., feminist, men who’ve turned out to be serial abusers or worse.
Why are feminists more despairing about these revelations concerning liberal men than conservative women are about equally ugly stories concerning conservative men?
The answer, I’d suggest, is that liberals tend to believe that one’s politics and one’s morality are the same thing. If you hold the correct views about abortion, the minimum wage, women’s equality, gay marriage and guns, it means not just that you agree with me but that you are a good person.
A key conservative insight is that character is a matter of behavior, not professed beliefs. Judge people by their conduct, not their branding. How do you mold decent conduct? Conscientious parents who teach right from wrong and a culture that reinforces those lessons. The feminists helped to weaken some of the mores and institutions that tended to control male lust and abuse. At the time, they thought they were fighting an unjust “double standard,” but the sexual revolution damaged all standards, and we continue to sift through the fallout.
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