The key to healthy eating: Mind over mouthfuls

2 Tbsp. hoisin sauce

2 Tbsp. peanut butter

1 cucumber, cut in matchstick-size pieces

2 carrots, cut in matchstick-size pieces

2 Tbsp. mint leaves, torn into pieces

8 Boston lettuce leaves

Brown the ground meat in a large nonstick skillet over medium heat for 8 to 10 minutes, breaking up the big pieces into smaller crumbles. When meat is thoroughly cooked, drain off the fat and stir in hoisin sauce and peanut butter. Heat through. Add cucumbers, carrots and mint; toss gently. Serve beef mixture in lettuce leaves. Serves 4.

— From "Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat: How to Break Your Eat-Repent-Repeat Cycle" by Michelle May (Am I Hungry? Publishing, $19.95)

Garden Salad with Grilled Chicken, Cranberries and Walnuts

May suggests using this salad recipe as a guide, replacing the chicken with other proteins such as salmon or cheese, or the cranberries and nuts with other dried or small-cut fruit or nuts as desired. You can eat this salad on its own or wrap it in a tortilla, pita or flatbread.

For balsamic vinaigrette dressing:

1/2 cup olive oil

1/4 cup balsamic vinegar

1 clove garlic

1 tsp. sugar

Salt and pepper, to taste

For salad:

12 cups mixed greens

1 lb. grilled chicken breast, thinly sliced

6 Tbsp. dried cranberries

6 Tbsp. chopped walnuts

Place all dressing ingredients in a blender and blend for 30 seconds until emulsified; chill. (You can also whisk in a bowl or shake in a Mason jar with a lid.)

Arrange mixed greens on a plate. Arrange sliced chicken breast on top and sprinkle with cranberries and walnuts. Drizzle dressing over top. Serves 6.

— From "Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat: How to Break Your Eat-Repent-Repeat Cycle" by Michelle May (Am I Hungry? Publishing, $19.95)

Smothered Pork Chops

In her new book, "Cooking Light: Lighten Up, America!" (Oxmoor House, $29.95), Allison Fishman Task travels the country to put a Cooking Light-spin on some of the country's favorite foods.

1/2 cup all-purpose flour

1 1/2 tsp. freshly ground black pepper

3/4 cup panko

1 cup half-and-half, divided

1 large egg

4 (4 oz.) boneless center-cut loin pork chops (about 1/2 inch thick)

1/2 tsp. kosher salt

2 Tbsp. canola oil, divided

1 Tbsp. butter

1/2 cup finely chopped onion

1 (8-oz.) package cremini mushrooms, sliced

1 garlic clove, minced

1/3 cup dry white wine

1/2 tsp. all-purpose flour

1 tsp. water

1 cup unsalted chicken stock

2 Tbsp. chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley

1 Tbsp. chopped fresh chives

Combine 1/2 cup flour and pepper in a shallow bowl or dish. Place panko in a second shallow bowl or dish. Combine 1/2 cup half-and-half and egg in a third shallow bowl or dish; stir with a whisk.

Sprinkle both sides of pork chops with salt. Dredge 1 pork chop in flour mixture. Dip in egg mixture; dredge in breadcrumb mixture. Repeat procedure with remaining pork chops, flour mixture, egg mixture and breadcrumb mixture. Cover and chill 15 minutes.

Heat 1 tablespoon oil in a large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat until hot. Add chops to pan; cook 2 minutes or until lightly browned. Remove chops from pan; add remaining 1 tablespoon oil to pan. Turn chops over; return to pan. Cook 2 minutes or until lightly browned. Remove from pan; keep warm.

Heat butter in pan over medium-high heat. Add onion; sauté 1 minute. Add mushrooms; sauté 3 minutes. Add garlic; sauté 1 minute. Add wine to pan; cook until liquid almost evaporates, scraping pan to loosen browned bits. Combine 1/2 teaspoon flour and 1 teaspoon water in a small bowl; stir with a whisk. Add to cooking liquid in pan. Bring to a boil; cook 1 minute, stirring constantly. Add stock; bring to a boil. Cook until reduced to 1 1/4 cups (about 6 minutes). Stir in 1/2 cup half-and-half. Cook 3 minutes or until thick, stirring constantly. Remove from heat; stir in parsley and chives. Serve sauce with pork chops. Serves 4.

— From "Cooking Light: Lighten Up, America! Favorite American Foods Made Guilt-Free" by Allison Fishman Task (Oxmoor House, $29.95)

Tips on eating mindfully

More books about mindful eating

"Perfect Weight" and "What Are You Hungry For?" by Deepak Chopra

"Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat with Diabetes" by Michelle May

"Savor: Mindful Eating, Mindful Life" by Thich Nhat Hanh and Lilian Cheung

"Eat, Drink, and Be Mindful" by Susan Albers

Michelle May never saw her mom eat a baked potato.

When she was a kid, everyone else at the table got one, but not her mom, a slender woman who was always on a diet to stay that way.

“I believed that when I grew up, I wouldn’t get to eat potatoes anymore, either.”

It's a story she tells in "Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat" (Am I Hungry? Publishing, $19.95), which puts our modern American dieting culture into perspective.

May, a family physician turned wellness coach, explained that there are three types of eaters: restrictive eaters, like her mom, overeaters and instinctive eaters.

Most of us who have struggled with our weight (and feelings about food and eating) oscillate between the first two, either consuming every chance we get (and feeling bad about it) or eating by strict sets of pre-determined rules (and feeling bad when we break them).

But it is that third category — instinctive eating — that May wants us to strive for, no matter if it's New Year's Day or any other day of the year when we feel trapped by what she calls the eat-repent-repeat cycle.

Instinctive eating helps us refocus on what food really is: fuel for our bodies.

Starting in our teen years, and increasingly earlier, unfortunately, we learn the latest (and ever-changing research) on “good” and “bad” food, drinks, eating habits and exercise. We obsess about calories consumed. We learn how to calculate a small bag of fries into minutes on a Stairmaster.

But from birth, we learn something even harder to unlearn: eating habits and triggers. Parents tell children to “clean their plates” without realizing that they are also teaching children to ignore the natural signals in their bodies that tell them they are full.

We eat because the clock says it’s time to eat. We fill our plates with too much food because the plates are large and that’s what everybody else is doing. “We confuse thirst for hunger and food for love,” May says.

“We eat for every emotion in the book,” she says. “When a craving doesn’t come from hunger, eating will never satisfy it.”

Americans face unprecedented access to food and food advertising. You can find ready-to-eat food at work, on the way home from work and at the grocery store, movie theaters and school functions, and food commercials and advertising bridge the gaps in between.

“It’s no wonder you feel like eating all the time,” May says.

She uses the analogy of a gas station: We are surrounded by gas stations, but we don’t pull up to every one, or even every other one, to put gas in the car. “You have to ask yourself, do you really have a need for fuel, or are you experiencing another trigger?”

But reading our internal fuel gauge isn’t as easy as looking down at the dash. For many of us, we’ve forgotten what healthy hunger and satiety feel like. Maybe we let ourselves get too hungry and then overeat as compensation. Or maybe we eat a full meal though we weren’t really that hungry at the start.

We can’t eliminate the triggers, May says, but we can learn to recognize them and pause, which gives us time to think about how we really want to respond. This “respond-sability” becomes the backbone of mindfulness.

“Mindful eating means you eat with intention and attention,” she says. It means setting a purpose for your meal and becoming aware of how you feel while you’re eating, she says.

It starts not with deciding what you should or shouldn’t eat, but with when, how and why.

“If you understand the why, the what doesn’t matter,” she said, comparing restrictive eating to painting by numbers. “That’s someone else’s work that you are just filling in.”

The key to figuring out what to eat is balancing what you want (mental) with what you need (physical) and what you have (environmental).

Re-learning how to listen to your body so you can determine whether it’s telling you to eat more protein, greens, grains, dairy, vegetables, fiber, vitamins and even specific minerals can take years, but you have to be paying attention to how you feel before, during and after eating to start that process.

And beware, May says: Your learned “needs” might not really be needs at all. The chemicals in, say, diet soda, have trained your body to “want” them, but those false needs are triggers you have to break, just like the emotional ones.

So what about all the specific diets that are out there now, like vegan, Paleo, gluten-free and macrobiotic? May doesn’t outright eschew them, but the key is making food choices based on what your body tells you it needs, not what someone else does. “Some foods don’t work for some people, but they need to pay enough attention to how they feel to take it out,” she says.

Once you’ve figured out how to know when it’s actually time to eat and what kind of fuel your body is telling you it needs, then comes what can be the hardest part: Knowing when to stop.

“Satiety is your body’s signal that you’ve had enough,” she says. “Discomfort is not the goal.”

We’ve been hearing for years that it takes more time than we realize for our stomachs to send the message to our brains that we’re full. But it’s not just about eating slowly to allow that memo to be delivered; we have to be focusing on the food and not something else, like the television or computer or a book or magazine.

Not paying attention to the act of eating is one of the biggest culprits in overeating, which then throws off your internal gauge.

The goal isn’t to eat “perfectly” or never “mess up,” May says. “If you fall off, don’t judge,” she says. “Just think, ‘Oh, isn’t that interesting,’ and pay attention to what went ‘wrong’ and why.”

The whole point of all of this, May says, is to free yourself from feelings of deprivation and guilt so you can better be in charge of so many aspects of your life, not just what’s for dinner.

Eating food should be enjoyable, but it shouldn’t be your only source of pleasure.

Instead of thinking of your “on” and “off” days as a yo-yo, which is either hurtling toward the ground or moving upward only to wind itself up tightly, May likes to think of the goal as a pendulum swinging back and forth.

That pendulum can swing from one very high extreme to the other, but it also can find a gentle, less drastic arc with far less distance between “high” and “low” points.

Then comes the fun part: Using the fuel you’ve put in your body.

Americans’ relationship with exercise is almost as unhealthy as it is with food. Physical activity has become either the punishment for overeating or the way to “earn” the right to eat whatever you want. It’s the “penance” part of that eat-repent-repeat cycle.

“We forget that the purpose of eating is to fuel a vibrant life,” May says. “People who are instinctive eaters use that fuel to live active lives.”

You’re unlikely to find them peddling away for hours at a time on a stationary bike or counting sit-ups. They find activities that are just that: active.

Walking, running and swimming, yes, but “exercise” disguised as hobbies and acts of discovery: gardening, dancing, roughhousing with kids, grandkids or dogs, hiking on a greenbelt or sightseeing by foot or bicycle in a new part of town, playing tennis or disc golf, doing yoga.

Using your body in a way that doesn’t feel like punishment allows you to rediscover one of the most joyful parts about being human.

You know what else can bring joy?

Getting to eat a baked potato with everyone else at the table.