Children have a right to parents and teachers who will tell them the truth about themselves - who will tell them when they have behaved badly, underperformed, or just downright failed. Along those same lines, children have a right to fail, the right to learn from their mistakes
Children have a right to parents and teachers who will set the bar - whatever it might be measuring - high enough to require significant effort, but never so high as to guarantee failure.
Children have a right to be given the opportunity to understand that personal liberty and personal responsibility are in direct relationship. This simple but brilliant understanding sustains relationship, community, and culture. Along this same line, children have a right to not be hovered over, micromanaged, or protected from the consequences of their actions.
Children have a right to a good amount of discretionary time during which they are free to discover their own likes and dislikes, independent of what adults might want them to do with their free time.
They have a right to understand that legitimate authority figures are not required to justify the decisions they make and the instructions they dispense. In other words, children have a right on frequent occasion to hear their parents and other adults answer their challenges with “Because I said so” or its equally brief, matter-of-fact equivalent.
In the final analysis, it all boils down to a steady balance of love and leadership.