Every relationship has its ups and downs. Part of making it work is being honest. That comes with a price, though. One of my friends said her man gave her some honest feedback and it hurt her feelings.

He basically said he would rate their sex life as vanilla in need of some passion fruit (couldn’t resist the bad pun, sorry). Then he went on to say that she was the vanilla one and did not seem open to much. I think the silver lining is that he admitted this so they can make it better.

What would you do if your partner and you had different levels of kink? If they were too vanilla or boring, could you bring it up for discussion? Is it something you think can be improved?

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