Are you sure they broke up?

Paulette has been seeing a man for a couple of months. When they first met, he was honest about his friendship with his ex-wife. Even though they have been divorced for a couple of years, they talk every week. Paulette thought it was mature and admirable – at first. Now it’s becoming a red flag.

The main concern she has is the access his ex has to him. She has a key to his place and is still close to his family. She doesn’t want to be petty and insecure but it has become something that bothers her a lot. How do you know when they are truly over their ex?

When you break up with someone and it ends positively, is it a good thing to stay friends? Would you ever ask someone you were dating to drop a friend that made you uncomfortable?