Relationships: Not a competition

One of our readers has asked for advice about her new relationship. She has noticed that her guy frequently tries to “one up” her. It started out light hearted and fun competition. After the friendly banter turned to him making snide remarks, she started to think he was serious.

She wondered if he is the type that always has to be on top. Winning is so important to him and when he doesn’t win, he loses his cool. Is that a red flag? Have you ever met someone who is super competitive about everything? Do you think this could become a problem in a relationship?

To make matters worse, his increased competitive behavior could stem from the fact that he just learned how much money she makes. Have you ever dated someone who saw you as competition?