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July 2008
Crematory opponents all smoke
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I didn’t see the body. It had already been loaded into the cremation chamber.
By the end of the three-hour process, temperatures would top 1,600 degrees. Heat engulfed the entire building, so Chris Nuzum, owner and president of Cremation Society of the South, and I stepped into the chapel.
On Wednesday, the Badie Tour did what Nuzum has asked Snellville city officials and its residents to do: Have a look-see at his Marietta facility off Franklin Road.
Nuzum and his partners find themselves steeped in Snellville stew. They want to operate a crematory in a former house at the corner of Abington Drive and U.S. 78. It’s zoned “Office Professional,” a city classification that allows the operation of funeral homes, mortuaries and “crematoria” — the technical term for crematory.
Residents whose homes back up against the site are enraged — and quite imaginative. They envision dead bodies being unloaded from the back of hearses at all hours. Ashes will spew from the smokestack, coating cars and homes. Potent toxins will be emitted.
This is how crazy things have gotten: A woman recently called Snellville police to report that smoke was bellowing from the smokestack. Only one problem: The facility hasn’t opened yet and may not do so for a while.
This week, Mayor Pro Tem Warren Auld and Councilwoman Kelly Kautz expressed worries about the business’ environmental impact.
Then on Tuesday, City Manager Russell Treadway announced plans to do some research on crematories as they relate to health issues.
He may not be privy to some information that Nuzum has provided council members via e-mail and shared with me.
I won’t delve into mercury emissions, pounds and percentages, but suffice it to say the Environmental Protection Agency isn’t losing sleep over crematory toxins.
Nuzum appears willing to work with Snellville City Hall and its residents. He encased the smokestack in vinyl, among other adjustments. He plans to use a company van instead of a hearse to transport bodies.
He’s offered to attend a question-and-answer session. He even offered to rent travel buses to transport residents to his Marietta site.
Of course, he’s adhered to city zoning law.
“I feel like I have been given a ticket for speeding because I did the speed limit,” said Nuzum, who spent $250,000 on renovations. “This business is being persecuted by people who don’t want to learn more about it.”
Instead of posturing, city leaders should tell the riled residents there isn’t much government can do to stop a business located in the proper zoning classification. Tell them they’ll re-tool the existing ordinance as it relates to crematories so this kind of pickle never happens again.
I feel bad for the residents, but at least this isn’t a Love Shack. Besides, they should be ticked off at City Hall, not Nuzum.
“Everybody keeps saying we’re in a neighborhood in Snellville,” he told me. “If that’s the case, this neighborhood has a Dunkin’ Donuts in it and an attorney’s office.”
In Marietta, a condo unit is right next door to Nuzum’s business. Another one is across the street. Up the road is a Crowne Plaza Hotel, not to mention an office complex and a few restaurants.
When the crematory was operating Wednesday, I didn’t smell anything or see any smoke. Nuzum said one might see smoke — not ashes — from a crematory smokestack in the winter due to heat exchange.
After the cremation process is complete, the remains are scooped into a holding bin, then transferred to a spinner for further refining.
The ivory-colored by-product is placed in a container, or urn, along with a stainless-steel tag that identifies the body. It costs $795 to cremate a body. (Cremation Society of the South takes fingerprints and uses other measures to track and identify bodies.)
“Death is disconcerting to all people,” Nuzum said. “It’s a difficult subject to discuss, but it’s good to know that businesses exist to take care of families.”
Rick Badie’s column appears on Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. Contact him at 770-263-3875 or e-mail:rbadie@ajc.com.
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Teacher ‘hit me’ : impact remains
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
In the 1970s, Berlyn Smith was a special needs student in a regular first-grade class in a Cobb County public school.
One day he came home subdued, a lot less jovial than usual. “He wasn’t happy at all,” recalled his mother, Alpha Smith. She asked him a couple of times what ailed him. All Berlyn, who’d suffered brain damage from an illness, could muster was “[teacher’s name] took a piece of wood and hit me.”
“That’s all he knew how to say,” Smith said. “He’d never had a spanking before.”
The next day, Smith spoke with the teacher. She admitted to spanking Berlyn. The offense: The youngster, while sitting at his desk, had let his feet dangle in the aisle. Smith explained that her son had had no idea why he’d been spanked. She asked the instructor if there might have been a better, instructive way to handle the matter.
Tell Berlyn, perhaps, not to put his feet in the aisle and why - that someone might trip, fall and get hurt.
“To paddle him and send him home without [his] even knowing why he was paddled didn’t teach him anything.”
She shared this story with me after Sunday’s column about corporal punishment, a dressed-up word for paddling, spanking or whipping. It was prompted by the Twiggs County school board’s decision to reinstate paddling in that Middle Georgia district for the upcoming school year.
I gave reasons why corporal punishment should be banned in Georgia’s public schools. They were backed by Alphonsa Foward Jr., director of the New Life Academy of Excellence Inc., a Norcross school that my first-grade daughter, Olivia, attends.
As imagined, the column generated tons of response, and save for one nut who posted an inappropriate comment in my blog, readers were serious. On topic. Many fell in the no-spanking category.
Robert Fathman, president of the Ohio-based National Coalition to Abolish Corporal Punishment in Schools, e-mailed a response: “Your [child’s] principal is a wise man,” he wrote. “African-American kids are hit at more than twice the rate of white kids, and Hispanic kids are hardly struck at all. There are cultural divides all over, and no one should be in the business of picking up a board and hitting someone else’s child.”
Smith, 72, a retired paraprofessional, explained that she had a personal story of why campuses are no place for paddling. Back to her tale.
When she talked to the teacher who’d spanked Berlyn, she uncovered the truth. The educator had been spending weekends in Tennessee attending to a sick parent. When she returned to Cobb, she’d head straight to school with no respite. Exhaustion was the reason she brought out the paddle. Nothing else.
“She said she just didn’t have the energy to handle it,” Smith said. “And she was a seasoned teacher.”
Just think, Smith asked, how many children might be unjustly paddled - possibly abused - on campuses where corporal punishment is permitted. She’s right. One is too many.
“I hurt thinking how many children are being spanked, beaten - whatever - by teachers and parents who are taking their own frustrations out on the kids,” Smith said. “And not accomplishing anything.”
Today, Berlyn is 44 years old. He lives with his parents in Loganville.
About 20 years ago, the teacher who’d paddled him died. His mother made note of her passing.
“The first thing he said is, ‘She is the one who paddled me, right?’ ” Smith said. “He has never forgotten that.”
Rick Badie’s column appears on Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. Contact him at 770-263-3875 or e-mail: rbadie@ajc.com.
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Stinging thoughts of school spankings
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I can still see the paddle and the principal who wielded it. Mr. Banks. As old-school as they come.
He had holes drilled in his wooden paddle to cut down wind resistance. To make that sting really bite when wood met behind.
That’s the way it was back in the day, when I was in school. Corporal punishment, at least in elementary school and middle school, was de rigueur.
Now, in Twiggs County, it’s back. The middle Georgia county’s school board recently voted to reinstate paddling. Parents, according to an Associated Press report, will have to sign a permission slip for their kids to be spanked; they also can opt out of the program. Witnesses must be present when the punishment is meted out.
The debate on whether to paddle or not, if it even deters improper behavior, continues to rage on. Generally, I’ve found that pro-spankers base their assessment of the matter on two factors:
It’s the way they were raised. It worked for them, and they weren’t severely scarred or demeaned by it. “A good whack on the behind never hurt anybody,” they say. “That’s what’s wrong with kids today,” they opine. “They don’t fear getting their butts spanked.”
They think paddling kids will help restore order in schools gone wild. Maybe, just maybe, it will fill a vacuum in which too many kids, on too many campuses, show scant respect for their peers, much less teachers. Fear of what’s to come, notably pain, might curb behavior, they reason.
To spank or not to spank. It continues to be the question. Twenty-eight states have banned corporal punishment in schools; Georgia allows school systems to decide whether to paddle.
Make no mistake: Paddling is a quick fix. A sure-fire way to get one’s attention, to briefly change behavior. A consequence, it is hoped, of a last resort that inflicts pain, perhaps embarrasses and sends a message: Your behavior stinks. Stop it. Now.
But old-fashioned values, coupled with old-school strategies like paddling, are archaic in modern society. Twiggs County school officials are paddling against a strong current of pedigreed opposition. Practically every leading association on the planet has screamed “no” to corporal punishment in schools. (Examples: The American Psychology Association, the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and the National Association of Elementary School Principals.)
Alphonsa Foward Jr. is director of my daughter’s school, New Life Academy of Excellence Inc. in Norcross. He’s against paddling in American schools, particularly given the country’s diverse populations.
“Discipline is different for different cultures, which suggests a variety of disciplining [strategies],” he told me. “In today’s society, with so many different ethnic groups, it would make corporal punishment difficult.”
Moreover, Foward doesn’t think paddling has ever been as efficient in curbing behavior as pro-spankers tend to believe. It wasn’t the paddling that dictated respectable behavior. The times did.
“Children were taught respect at home, and they knew they had to respect their teachers,” he said. “Values were taught at home.”
I have full faith in Mr. Foward and the way he runs New Life.
But I wouldn’t want him, or any school official, spanking my kids.
That’s my job.
Rick Badie’s column appears on Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. Contact him at 770-263-3875 or e-mail: rbadie@ajc.com.
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Formerly resilient spirit hits its limit
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
He amazed doctors three years ago with his return to the rink so quickly after double-hip replacement surgery.
Five months, to be exact.
John William “Jack” Stein II’s post-surgical recovery was so remarkable doctors at Resurgens Orthopedics at St. Joseph’s brought him on board to advise hip surgery patients. To tell how he’d learned to walk - and skate - again.
“I’ve been playing hockey for 44 years,” Stein told me in February 2005. “I wasn’t going to give it up… . I slowly worked up to walking two miles a day, but I’d have tears in my eyes. The pain was brutal.”
I wrote about Stein when he played forward in an ice hockey game to benefit Childrens Healthcare of Atlanta. He played on the metro Atlanta police team. The cops lost 7-6 to the firefighters. Stein - a bear of a man at 6-foot-2, 220 pounds - scored two goals.
In recent years, Stein’s health soured. It caused him to retire from his job as a bike patrol officer with the Gwinnett County Police Department. He had been a cop 21 years, three of them in Greenwich, Conn., his hometown.
Last year, he had his feet operated on, but the surgery wasn’t successful. Another surgery was required, something that didn’t sit well with this former narcotics detective. Then, in January, he had a back operation, followed in April by hemorrhoid surgery.
“That one did him in,” Becky Stein, his wife, told me. “It was an excruciatingly hard surgery, and he still wasn’t recovered from it.”
His cheerfulness, needless to say, nose-dived. He was sad because he had to quit police work. Sad because he had to quit skating. Becky Stein said the last time he skated was eight or nine months ago.
“We were just talking the other day, and I said, ‘Jack, you can play hockey again,’ ” she said. ” ‘Just go back to public skating and try to build the muscles back up.’ I knew he was depressed. Well, not depressed. Down is a better word.”
He suffered from insomnia and took to sleeping in the basement. It was darker there, and the morning light didn’t crack through so early. It’s where he retired Friday night.
Saturday morning, Becky Stein woke up first. She tip-toed around their Lawrenceville house so as not to wake Jack. Time passed. The former high school All-American and semi-pro, 51, still hadn’t come upstairs.
So Becky Stein went downstairs. Her husband of 16 years had committed suicide.
On Wednesday, a funeral Mass was held at the Catholic Church of Saint Monica in Duluth. Attendance was huge, what you’d expect for someone who loved police work, pets and playing sports. Local police officers, as well as those from nearby communities, paid their respects alongside family and friends. So did the Badie Tour.
Johan Moeller Jensen of Suwanee couldn’t attend his friend’s funeral because he’s on vacation in Denmark. He used to play forward alongside Jack for a Duluth hockey team.
“Jack was our oldest player, but what he didn’t have in his legs anymore, he had in his understanding of the game,” Jensen wrote in an e-mail. “We would often joke with the younger players that they should look for Jack out on the ice, then just sit back and watch and learn.
“He will be missed.”
Updates:
- Cathryn Bouchard has joined her twin sister. Cathryn died Tuesday around 3 p.m. - the same time that Corynne, 19 months, died on May 4. They are the daughters of Justin and Kristen Bouchard, formerly of Lilburn, but current residents of Frisco, Texas.
The twins suffered from a fatal neurodegenerative disorder - Niemann-Pick Type C disease. I recently wrote about the Bouchards’ campaign to raise $1 million to aid research for a cure. (www.angeltwins.org.).
- Turns out Parkview Team Georgia is not metro Atlanta’s first recreational league team to make it to the Dixie Majors World Series. That would be the 2007 Brookwood team, which plays in Bethesda Park. Sources quoted in Tuesday’s column said otherwise.
Rick Badie’s column appears on Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. Contact him at 770-263-3875 or e-mail: rbadie@ajc.com.
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Home run personal for player
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Before the game, he visited his sister’s grave.
At the grave site, Austin Chambers made a birthday promise to Abigail Grace Chambers, barely 7 weeks old when she died of a rare disease on Aug. 19, 2007. Big brother made a promise: to hit her a home run.
On July 14, Parkview Team Georgia played the Duluth Wildcats in Bunten Park for the Dixie League state championship. It was the bottom of the seventh inning, Team Georgia was down 7-4. Two outs and two men on base. Austin, 16, a right-hand hitter and second baseman, was at bat.
Whack! The ball climbed higher and higher.
“I thought I’d hit it too high, and that it was just going to pop up,” said Austin, a rising senior at Parkview High. “But it kept going and going.”
He rounded third base crying. His father, Sam Chambers, is Team Georgia’s third-base coach. He cried, too. July 14 - game day - would have been Abigail’s first birthday.
“I didn’t find out [about the birthday promise] till we were on the way home from the game,” said Chambers, manager of the Mountain Park Athletic Association Senior League all-star squad. “It was a storybook finish. Just a storybook.”
As the game wore on, the story got sweeter.
In the bottom of the eighth inning, Andrew Johnson, 19, hit a three-run, walk-off home run. Game over, 10-7. With the victory, Team Georgia became the 2008 Dixie Majors state champs. They’ll compete in the Dixie Majors World Series, which begins Saturday in Dyersburg, Tenn. The squad would like to rent minivans for the historic trip.
“It’s a lot easier with three or four vans as opposed to 13 vehicles,” Chambers told me. “I could talk about every one of these kids forever. They are amazing.”
To defray costs, the team has collected money from people and businesses. More is needed, though. Waffle House No. 1054, at the corner of Indian Trail Lilburn Road and Lawrenceville Highway, has stepped in. The team will receive 10 percent of all sales ‘twixt the hours of 2 and 9 p.m. through Thursday, said Diane Canfield, a veteran employee who lives in Lilburn.
“How about letting Gwinnett County know that this is the only team from Georgia,?” she wrote.
Parkview Team Georgia faces Team North Carolina at 5 p.m. Saturday in its first game of the World Series. I wish them well.
Tammy Chambers, Austin’s mom, wrote in an e-mail that the state championship game was extra special because of Austin’s birthday homer. But she stressed something else.
“This was a TEAM effort,” she wrote, capitalizing the word to stress its importance. “It was special to all who participated.”
Rick Badie’s column appears on Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. Contact him at 770-263-3875 or e-mail: rbadie@ajc.com.
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A word that shouldn’t be in anyone’s vocabulary
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I posed the subject the other night, while my son and a friend were watching Batman.
First, some background.
Last Sunday, on Fox News, vetted civil rights leader Jesse Jackson was caught on tape whispering to another guest crude comments about Barack Obama, the presumptive Democratic presidential nominee. Obama, he lamented, was “talking down to black people.” Jackson said he wanted to “cut his (genitalia) off.”
Those comments alone are worthy of a 600-word column, but I wanted to talk to Miles and Jonathan about something else Jackson said during his microphone gaffe. In comments publicized days after the story first broke, he apparently used the “n-word.” It was in reference to the blacks that he was chiding Obama for talking down to.
And that’s what I wanted to talk to the boys about. That word. The n-word. The potency of it. The double standard that engulfs it. The ease in which some people - including some blacks - include it in their vocabulary.
No doubt, the most level-headed black person likely would pitch a fit, be outraged, up in arms, ready to apply fisticuffs, if a white person addressed them that way. Oddly, some of those same people have no problem saying it, being called that in good spirit by other blacks or tapping their toes to music that spews it lyrically.
The argument is that, when blacks use it, they claim ownership of it, deflower a “degenerative nickname” that - according to The African American Registry, a history website (www.aaregistry.com.) - dates to the early 1800s.
It’s a logic and explanation that rings hollow. You can dress it up in kindredship and use it as a defiant show of camaraderie all you want. You can call it a cultural signifier, distort its spelling, and attempt to give it street swagger and coolness.
Do all these things. Know what? It doesn’t trump its true meaning, its historical context, its symbolism and degradatory origins.
And because it’s so intertwined in the American psyche, we have Jackson, a prominent pundit, caught on a hot mic. Foot stuck in mouth. Using it. It’s an unfortunate yet teachable incident.
Two years ago, I wrote a column about a student calling my son the n-word when he was in fifth grade. At the time, Miles had never heard it, didn’t know really, its significance or what it meant. He surmised it was no compliment. He and I had a talk then.
On Thursday night, I used the Jackson situation to reiterate something he’s heard many times before, a topic I’ve written about in this space. I wanted to be certain that he, and his friend Jonathan, understand. Certain words, like some comments, are best left unsaid. This, to me, is one of them.
After the Jackson incident, a reader posted a comment in my blog saying that “all” blacks use the n-word, just that some do it in private. Nah. Not only does my family not use that particular word, we don’t ascribe similar terms to any group of people.
The Badies, as are many families regardless of skin color, better than that.
How about you?
Rick Badie’s column appears on Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. Contact him at 770-263-3875 or e-mail: rbadie@ajc.com.

