Misadventures in Atlanta

By Prettiladyga

August 9, 2005 08:21 AM | Link to this

Good morning I can’t believe I am the first to post. This is making blog history.

The way to my heart is by being thoughtful, supportive, and respectful.

By Longtime Lurker

August 9, 2005 08:25 AM | Link to this

Mia, in reading you for a while, especially yesterday, I think you need to focus on improving you for a while, before you try to get into another relationship.

More than a few of us see some serious flaws in your character. I think “Agg” said it best yesterday, that anyone who would put them selves out there as you did yesterday, needs to step back a re-evaluate themselves a little better.

Just my two cents…

By Cee

August 9, 2005 08:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning!!!

wow Mia, I’m actually with you on this one. I dont want/need a whole lot of fuss..just act and show you want to be with me. I’ve never gotten someone by my cooking skills. I can cook! And I do cook cause I got to but I see it as a chore. If a guy is with me I know it’s not because of my cooking or money…lol.

By Nononsense

August 9, 2005 08:46 AM | Link to this

GOOD MORNING EVERYONE,

The way to my heart is through random acts of kindness and consideration. And to know that he is paying attention to my needs and wants makes my love him.

I can’t speak for my hubby, but I know that he appreciates good food and good sex just like the next guy, but I don’t feel that that is the WAY to his heart, just a part of the equation (maybe the guys can help me with this one). I have received very good feedback from him just being supportive of him, even when I don’t agree 100%, I have learned how to still be supportive. Also, as with myself just showing appreciation for the things that we do for each other and our kids, has strengthened the bond between us.

By Perception is Reality

August 9, 2005 08:46 AM | Link to this

Amazing how people think they know someone they read everyday. I’m so much more than what I put out on my blog. AggWitt is so much more than the wise arse that he plays on this blog WiseDiva is so much more than the jazzy mouth grad student chick she is on this blog. Even ATLBorn&Raised is more than the son of a crackhoe he portrays on this blog.

Say all that to say - yes, Mia has character flaws. But she is no more flawed than anyone else…which essentially makes her (and all of us) just about right.

On topic, best way to Kendy’s heart - TRUST, TOLERANCE and RESPECT.

By KIR

August 9, 2005 08:57 AM | Link to this

Good Morning, Everyone! I agree with Cee hey chica!. It’s a great feeling to be with someone that you know wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them. One way to my heart is paying attention to the little things, remembering things I say or little things I like. That let’s me know that a guy is really paying attention…the make you smile type stuff.

By aggressively witty

August 9, 2005 09:10 AM | Link to this

Best way to MY heart is through HER stomach, aka, gutpunches aka touch her on the inside part aka thebeastwithtwobacks.

Nah for real MWP got me with cooking and catering. she is a throwback broad, and the thing is they always say the thing that attracts you most will also repulse you most. And her throwback dictums are repulsive when they dont serve me any good purpose.

By Knowledge

August 9, 2005 09:12 AM | Link to this

PIR Thank you for saying that. Life is trial and error for all of us. We are a flawed species. We live and learn. You can’t judge a person by one aspect of their life that they allow you to see. You spoke well.

By New Kid

August 9, 2005 09:14 AM | Link to this

Good Morning,

I agree with you, Mia about consistency. Don’t just say it, show it. And it doesn’t have to be expensive gifts, etc. to show me.

As far as the comment about Mia having flaws, we all do. Even the ones who think that everything is alright with them will have situations or relationships to prove them wrong. In a previous relationship I was in, I would swear up and down that all the problems were due to the other person’s flaws. It took being in another relationship and being willing to grow and accept that I’m not perfect for me to realize that I needed to work on myself. Although its good to step back and evaluate yourself in order to work out your issues, it does you no good if you are perfectly okay but only when you are by yourself. Sometimes it takes being in a relationship to help you work on you so that you can better relate in a relationship. That’s my 2 cents.

By Tray

August 9, 2005 09:15 AM | Link to this

good morning bloggers!! Way to my heart, find it first. Like Mia I have a fence around it and “if” that starts to come down, its usually because of simple, genuine gestures. I do hope everyone has a dang fantastic Tuesday. Yeah, I’m faking a good mood, but maybe it will work = )

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 09:22 AM | Link to this

food definetly ain’t the way to my heart……HONESTY, TRUSTWORTHY, and being real…..not too much to ask for…..

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 09:26 AM | Link to this

Intelligence, sense of humor, tolerance. Liking football doesn’t hurt. Short roadmap to my heart.

Re: today’s personal. I always wondered what the incestuous offspring of Buffy and Jody from Family Affair would look like.

By Suga&Spice

August 9, 2005 09:31 AM | Link to this

Hey folks, It has been a minute.

As for the way to my heart. I honestly couldn’t tell you. Nobody’s ever really been there before(excluding teen years). But I will be sure to have the first dude that makes it mapquest the directions for me.

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 09:35 AM | Link to this

Suga, what up, Ma…..I updated…..”Crumbs to Bricks, part II” is out……

By KIR

August 9, 2005 09:45 AM | Link to this

SS I was just thinking about you! Good to read you. Love dude mapquesting the directions. :)

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 09:50 AM | Link to this

Good morning all!

The way to my heart - definitely honesty. And that includes being honest with yourself. Like 2 said being real. In addition to honesty, a man will have my heart if knows how to take care of a woman like me - which has nothing at all to do with money. Kind of like what Mia said - flowers and gifts are nice - but what would blow me away is ‘baby, let me handle that - don’t you worry about it’. And ‘that’ can be anything from massaging my shoulders to seeing that the trash needs to be taken out and doing it without me asking.

I haven’t run across an honest man like that, cause if I had - I would be wide open.

By East Point's Own

August 9, 2005 09:52 AM | Link to this

Showing appreciation is a good way to get to let a person know you care.

It seems to me that many women don’t appreciate their man. Most guys can tell you x number of good things his woman has done for him, or x many reasons his woman is a good woman. But I know a good number of women who have to think and then can’t say 2 good things about their man(not to say that their men are not great guys). I have read a few journalists talk about this problem and the general concensus seems to be that women don’t recognize many of the things that men do for them as being “special”. But men seem to be more aware when people go out of their way for them.

I think that women have certain ideal expectations and they don’t recognize that when a man does treat them that way that he is going out of his way to please you. At some point it would be nice to know that a woman you are with recognizes your extra efforts.

I dated a chick for about a year, I paid for our dates, paid for our meals, bought her clothes and shoes, did the whole bubble bath thing(several times), took her on trips for the weekend, etc. etc….. BUt one day the girl who works in the next office over was sent flowers by her boyfriend, and guess what??? When I saw her that evening she asked why I never sent her flowers. I asked her if I was supposed to for some reason, and she went on and on about how I never did anything special for her. I wanted to pull out every reciept from the last year and ask for a refund for all the things I never did for her. Needless to say that was the end or our dealings with each other.

By jRock

August 9, 2005 09:53 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks.. Hey Ms Cee ;)

Mia, you can be taught to cook, you should invest in that. A good man is going to get tired of eating out, shoot any man. And I think that cooking is probably on every man’s list of qualitites he seeks in his woman. You’ll eventually have to learn to cook, so why not start now.

PIR…. u have issues..

By regular lurker

August 9, 2005 10:00 AM | Link to this

jrock you got issues

By Refreshing

August 9, 2005 10:01 AM | Link to this

“There will be a delay of up to 5 minutes before your comment appears.”

More like 30 minutes.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 10:02 AM | Link to this

Good Morning, everyone.

Mia, I agree w/ Longtime Lurker’s first comment. It’s time to focus on you….getting you in order so that you will be prepared for that “Real” love that’s awaiting you. You are still holding on to so much from your past (baggage as we call it), you have no room for anything else. Let it go. Make yourself whole again. Get Mia right and then everything else will fall into place. Trust me on that one. It seems as if you are wanting ‘it’ (LOVE/a meaningful relationship with someone) too badly and you haven’t fully gotten over your past. In order to receive that type of love you want and need, you have to first give love to yourself. You have to throw out the old garbage/baggage/repudiative emotions/regrets to make room for the new and important things to come. Holding on to the mess from your past is holding you back from what’s in store for your future. When I read you, I see a woman who is lost…..emotionally lost and sinking. I’m sure when a man that’s up to no-good interacts with you, he sees the same things, this is how you’re able to be tricked/lied to or whatever else that goes on. Human emotion is so evident even when a person thinks they are so good at hiding it all, it’s still visible. Saying and doing, just as saying and believing aren’t always the same. So, no matter how much you say you have a barbed wire around your heart, you don’t. You want to, but it’s out there…..beating hard and heavy right upon your sleeve, open and exposed to the world. Men can see that, they know that, you exude that type of energy. If you want more, you have to demand more….you must expect more and you will get more (I know I’ve been saying that forever, but it’s true). Get ‘YOU’ right and there will be no room for constant heartache and deception and/or betrayal from some man.

By Carrington

August 9, 2005 10:04 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Bloggers & Bloggetts!

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 10:04 AM | Link to this

Honesty, trustworthy, good communicator essential, does it for me.

Quote of the Day: “After it(the Shuttle) does 4 S-turns, it will be down to 3000 miles per hour”.

What is wrong with the guy being able to cook? On that ‘stomach full’ thought, though, first ex was taught by her Mom that the way to a man’s heart was to keep his stomach full and his pe*ker empty, she did a good job of both..LOL …Did it work? Guess not….

Good Morning ALL

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 10:05 AM | Link to this

@EastPoint - Women are always looking at the greener grass on the other side. Buy her one rose, she only sees the two roses that the other woman received.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 10:06 AM | Link to this

Oh and to answer the question…..the way to my heart is just being consistent in everything that you say and do. It doesn’t take a whole lot, but be a man of your word….don’t say you are about it, be about it.

By Cee

August 9, 2005 10:06 AM | Link to this

Hey jRock ;)

@KIR- what’s goin on lady?? good to read ya!

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 10:07 AM | Link to this

oops, missed Respect, thank you PIR(had to go back and read how you had ‘issues’, missed it the second read as well…LOL)

unless it was the ATL comment, but he’ll be back(sounding like Ahnold)

By Longtime Lurker

August 9, 2005 10:17 AM | Link to this

Ivy,you did a great job in your last post.

To the average guy,and from what I have read from her over time, most guys would not touch her with a ten foot pole. Now, if she identifies her weaknesses and works on those weaknesses, she could be a pretty good catch,but the average guy now is either going to use her for what he can get or pass on her. Even on the cooking thing, I don’t see her putting forth no effort to learn! That is important to alot of men and somebody said earlier, a man is gonna get tired of take out in a while.

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 10:23 AM | Link to this

Longtime lurker, you obviously have been lurking for quite sometime, ‘cause you see what a lot of us have been saying for quite sometime…folks got on me cause I stated she was seeming desperate in her search for love…….glad somebody else sees it…

what up “Poison Ivy”

By Blog Question

August 9, 2005 10:24 AM | Link to this

Question for the men Is it really that easy to recognize a woman scorned or a woman with a grudge? Or do you find out later on in the relationship? Have you ever played on a woman’s distrust issues?

By Tray

August 9, 2005 10:30 AM | Link to this

here’s a toast to Ivy for that wisdom

By Longtime Lurker

August 9, 2005 10:30 AM | Link to this

Blog Question…men are smarter than women think! We can see issues in the first 30 seconds.

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 10:32 AM | Link to this

BQ Played on a woman’s distrust issues? I had rather poke a badger with a spoon.

I think most everyone, women and men, have been scorned at one time or another, or repeatedly in their life. It isn’t the fact they have been scorned or rejected, it’s how they handle it and how they think of themselves afterwards. Genuine class and beauty tends to shine through regardless and is testament to how storms in the past have been weathered. Nobody likes bitter, nobody likes baggage. Except drama queens/kings.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 10:33 AM | Link to this

I honestly don’t see the lack of cooking skills as a flaw, Mia. When I first got married, I only knew how to cook cheese and eggs w/ grits and sausage, spaghetti w/ meatsauce, and any variety of hamburger helper. My husband ate that for 6 full months because that’s all I knew til one day he said, “Baby, can you call up your Nana and ask her to help you make a REAL meal?” Now, I could have been humiliated and hurt, but instead I picked up the phone and I did just that…..my first real home-cooked meal was a meatloaf, homemade mashed potatoes, steamed cabbage, and cornbread. My Nana stayed on the phone w/ me the entire time. That was the best meal we had eaten and it was prepared by my hands. I was so excited, that I went out and bought several cook books after that. I was constantly trying new dishes and having dinner parties. That was how I learned how to cook. Now, I can throw down in the kitchen, if need be. Cookbooks are very helpful. Also, there are lots of recipes that you can “Google”. Don’t be afraid to purchase some measuring spoons and cups and use them just as the recipe says. They’re helpful and in time you will no longer rely on them heavily. I recently just perfected making a good batch of steamed rice and Jamaican rice & peas (with the help of my current man’s mom). I just watched her and learned that the key to making it perfectly is letting the water boil first then adding the rice, immediately covering it and turning the fire down low. I used to place the water in the pot, then throw in the rice, allow it to boil up then pour the water off. My rice was always too mushy or too crunchy so I started buying Uncle Ben’s (you can’t mess that up). Now I can buy Mahatma and it’s all good. All that to say, cooking is really about trial and error. You can’t be afraid to get in the kitchen and learn to use your stove. Once you learn the different temps (gas stoves cook differently than electric ones), cooking will be a piece of cake. I’ll even send you some quick and easy recipes from time to time, if you’d like.

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 10:36 AM | Link to this

Blog Question, I’mma be real wit ya…yeah, you can spot it a mile away…and yep, once upon a time a cat like me used to prey on the likes of Mia…the ones that’ll do damn near any and everything to land a man….and the ability to recognize those distrust issues comes from an innate sense of discernment….not saying it was cool, but a lot of cats out here still prey on the weak and vulnerable…..specially when they make it so obvious.

By KIR

August 9, 2005 10:41 AM | Link to this

EPO I was thinking about something similar recently. This is not an excuse for a woman not to appreciate her man, but I was thinking that a man’s words are very important to me, because words is how I communicate I love someone. But sometimes men communicate that they care about you by doing things for you and I sleep on that because I’m like he didn’t tell me how he feels. Would you say that men communicate how they feel about a woman by doing things for her rather than being in her ear all the time?

By Kel

August 9, 2005 10:46 AM | Link to this

Longtime Lurker, clearly Mia would not walk around listing her weaknesses and flaws. IF someone is seeking perfection than they need to go get a mail order bride.

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 10:47 AM | Link to this

To all of you that say Mia is so lost and distraught based on her entries:

What do you think folks would say about you if they only could judge you based on your diary or your vent sessions?

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 10:50 AM | Link to this

@2….Hey, sweetheart. How are ya?

By Perception is Reality

August 9, 2005 10:52 AM | Link to this

Keep talking Longtime Lurker. I’m going to figure out which of the blog regulars you are. I just wish you’d have the testicular fortitude to post using your OG screenname.

In any case, Mia is no less or no more desperate than the next chick. She just talks about relationship wants and needs everyday for her jay-o.

Oh well to that… What up Ivy girl? How ya doin?

By Longtime Lurker

August 9, 2005 10:56 AM | Link to this

Tazzee, the men on this blog, from what I have read are a good group of big blog brothers to Mia.

All of them appear to be honest,strait forward and mature in their statements. All of them appear to have “experience in identifing a sitting duck.”

The problem I see is that Mia and alot of the women that log onto this blog and comment don’t fully listen to the statements the men have been stating to you guys.

Agg,EPO,2 and a few others have been spittin the real for quite a while and some folks choose not to listen or hear what they want to hear.

We are here to help, not hurt, so if you choose to listen, then you will receive the awards!

By East Point's Own

August 9, 2005 10:56 AM | Link to this

If you don’t notice right off the bat that a woman is scorned you will know usually sometime during the first date, if you get that far.

It comes across in conversation, attitude, and mannerisms. You cant really hide all that, unless that’s your full time job or you worked for the CIA or something.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 10:57 AM | Link to this

Tazzee, I think for me, they would say, she’s been through a lot and has learned from it and is still learning from it. Life is about growth. I truly believe in the old adage: “You live and you learn.” I can definitely say I have lived and I am still larning….through my own experiences and through the observations of others.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 10:58 AM | Link to this

Tazzee, I think for me, they would say, she’s been through a lot and has learned from it and is still learning from it. Life is about growth. I truly believe in the old adage: “You live and you learn.” I can definitely say I have lived, I’m continuing to live, and I am still learning….through my own experiences and through the observations of others.

By Wise Diva

August 9, 2005 10:59 AM | Link to this

2CPTG ..it was me who is constantly telling you that Mia is not desperate. You of course are entitled to your opinion, even if it is WAY off base. Just for kicks though, leaving Mia out of your definition, what constitutes a desperate woman in your opinion. I suppose it really could be all relative, but I am curious, what you think a desperate chick behaves like exactly?

Longtime Lurker, I can see you formed your opinions too. I wonder if you are in a relationship right now? What do you define as someone who is desperate?

By abc

August 9, 2005 11:02 AM | Link to this

There isn’t a way to my heart.

What Ghost said at 10:05 is most often true, in my experience. Many of the women posting here reiterate that by reference to supposedly trifling people (although I can get on board with many of their complaints). Change careers, move to another city, do this and that and most everything MY way is what she’ll tellya. Careless and thoughtless treatment with disregard for the permanent effects it has on people will certainly turn them against the notion that the benefits of romance and relationships is worth the penalties they incur.

Mia, buy a cookbook! Old fashioned Betty Crocker’s is a good place to start.

By Blue Angel

August 9, 2005 11:08 AM | Link to this

I see what you’re saying, East Point’s Own…

My boyfriend said that he used to be really giving in relationships but women didn’t appreciate him, they moreso took advantage of him. Because of that, he admits that he’s not as giving as he used to be.

Of course, he was blown away the first time I offered to pay for dinner and actually take him out on a date. That was our second date, mind you. I cook for him, I pay for dinners, I say sweet things, everytime I go away…I bring him something back, I’ve even sent flowers.

He’s a sweet guy, but I definitely see how the way other women have treated him hinders his ability to be as open as he used to be. There are times where I don’t feel appreciated. I want to know that he’s sincere when he says he misses me. I want to go somewhere special because it’s his idea and not mine.

Do you see where I’m going with this?

But I definitely see what you’re saying. A lot of brothers feel that way. The thing is, when they get a woman that’s like that…do they know what to do with themselves?

By Wise Diva

August 9, 2005 11:09 AM | Link to this

well I suppose my azz will stay single too because I am not in any hurry to burn in the kitchen JUST to land a mate. I happen to enjoy cooking but if the man is looking for a damn maid he will definitely not be interesting in me. Why can’t the men cook too? Hell I am going to start looking at the a culinary for my next date. Cook for me! dammit!

By East Point's Own

August 9, 2005 11:11 AM | Link to this

KIR I can’t speak for all men cause you know some brothas are poets and all that jazz… but me, I have always believed in actions speak louder than words. I don’t say too much to anyone without a reason to, but anybody who knows me can tell you what I have done, and what I can do. I know a mouth can say anything at any time, but your actions are the only half way reliable measure of a person’s character. Would you rather have a guy who says I will do this and I will do that, or a guy who asks you to come over to see what he has done??

At the same time someone in my ear telling me they love me does not mean too much. But if you invite me over to a nice home cooked meal then you are saying something…. LoL I had to throw in the cooking since that’s the topic of the day.

I am also a practical guy. My mom always told everybody she knows not to buy her flowers unless she can plant them in the yard and watch them grow… and that has stuck with me, I don’t really buy cut flowers for women cause it is not practical… what I have done is bought the miniature rose bushes and put them in a nice flower pot and given that to women, that at least will last a couple years.

By Lame Patrol

August 9, 2005 11:12 AM | Link to this

spitting the real?!

man go back to lurking.

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 11:12 AM | Link to this

LL - I don’t doubt that. Folks are giving Mia good advice and that’s a good thing. The thing is, we’ve only witnessed Mia being in two serious relationships. We all know that Mia is still affected by Hurricane, and I would agree that she needs to work that out before going to the next dude.

But to say she has so many character flaws, she’s emotionally lost and sinking, and that she’s the type of woman that will do anything to get a man based on her entries are premature judgements to me.

By Buzzworthy

August 9, 2005 11:12 AM | Link to this

In response to Ivy’s comment, I think your opinion is idealistic. From what I see, it seems as if the somewhat unstable chicks with emotional issues are more likely to get the man. Excluding Ms. AP of course. She seems more the exception to the rule- which makes the rule even more valid. But I know plenty of sisters who have healed emotional issues from the past, gotten their mind right, spiritual lives in order, and lost those last 20 lbs. I know women that are confident, positive, outgoing and always improving themselves or “doing you,� as the blog likes to say. That still does not guarantee the soul mate will appear. In my experiences it seems that women that are slightly needy have an advantage. Men like to feel like their helping and solving problems. If you got everything together, they feel as if they have little to contribute. I feel like Mia’s on the right track, and maybe if she admitted some of her vulnerability (outside of the blog), she would seem more desirable. I don’t think I have all of the answers, this is just a theory.

By jRock

August 9, 2005 11:13 AM | Link to this

Hey Wise ONe.. LTNR.. Yours and PIR’s defense of Mia is honorable, but can you not see any of her flaws when it comes to her relationships and/or lack of relationships? You want to look out for Mia, that’s fine, but try helping her out in the area that she may need help. Apparently she’s putting her business out her for that reason, to solicit advice and/or opinions.

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 11:19 AM | Link to this

EPO you were just with the wrong woman.

A real woman will appreciate what you do for her. However, I also think its key for you to find out what she desires. A lot of times men will ‘show’ a woman how much he cares by doing things that she may not even like.

By Wise Diva

August 9, 2005 11:21 AM | Link to this

I am not doing it to be honorable. It really is a simple matter of realizing that people are assuming things that may or not be true. I asked the question to get clarification on what the people who are forming opinions are basing it on.

I personally don’t see what the shock and awe is about for Mia’s blog. Her story represents a lot of women and if you don’t think it is relevant, then you may not be privy to people like her. I don’t mind the statements per se, I am just trying to gauge what it is you guys are seeing or reading, and qualifying your statement, or disqualifying it, whichever I would decide to do.

By butterpecan

August 9, 2005 11:22 AM | Link to this

PIR, why do always feel the need to defend Mia?

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 11:24 AM | Link to this

Now, Wise………you know you can throw down in the kitchen. Stop playin’……you are the bomb in that arena!!! I love your cooking so I know any man will too.

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 11:29 AM | Link to this

Diva, you’ve been on the scene just as long as I have; and you know all the pitfalls she’s been thru and the way she’s put it out here….so where do you want me to start with the “desperativity”…..Military Man, Mr. Potential, The Preacher’s Body Guard, The Cat with the 1 club outfit, The online married guy, Fireman, you tell me???????

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 11:31 AM | Link to this

I guess this is where I’m coming from - if folks were to judge solely based on what I may write in my journal or what I vent to my friends about, I would be considered a pretty harsh person.

Perhaps Mia’s flaw is putting this out to a bunch of people that don’t really know her. But my friends see how I operate daily, so when I vent about some fool at work or what some guy has done or how I feel about a certain issue, they know its just a method of release for me.

Allows me to brush my shoulders off, go back out and continue ‘conquering the world’.

But as I’ve always said - I admire Mia for putting it out here for you guys to judge (because that’s alot of what happens, judgement and criticism rather than advice) because I couldn’t do it. I only vent to the folks that know me - so I know I’m not judged by those periodic rantings.

By Blue Angel

August 9, 2005 11:32 AM | Link to this

I agree with WD on this. I think that MIA represents a lot of women in her cohort. Consider a young, single black woman with a good career. Most of us, single or not are going through the same things.

There’s nothing wrong with putting it out there and sharing the experience of dating whether it be successful or not. No one’s perfect and there’s a lot of trial and error before you even get to The One.

As someone said earlier…I don’t remember who, of course it’s easy to see imperfections, when it’s right in your face, but we all have them whether or not we have insight.

By abc

August 9, 2005 11:34 AM | Link to this

With the cooking thing: don’t you ladies think that if a man is so wrapped up in having someone cook for him that it’s the way to his heart, that he’s a bit developmentally challenged? I mean, anyone can learn to cook. Nobody really likes to cook that much, I mean, when you get to the washing of the pots and pans part, it’s a chore. Not cooking is just plain lazy. Or, if you wish, nice to be able to afford eating every meal out.

How about the way to his head?

By Wise Diva

August 9, 2005 11:36 AM | Link to this

First of all 2CPTG, as usual you didn’t read my comment thoroughly. I asked you to give me YOUR definition, leaving MIA out of the equation, just for a milli-sec.

Second of all, you are right I have been reading as long as you, however, I am not one of those bloggers who claims perfection then looks down upon others from my high diva perch. I am one who admits full well to the mistakes of my past and present and I try not to judge others for the mistakes that they make.

What about you?

By East Point's Own

August 9, 2005 11:37 AM | Link to this

Blue Angel Well that is up to the guy, I can only speak for myself but if we are dating especially I think it is a display of good faith and genuine interest if a woman pays ocassionally. When I go out with a woman who I am just trying to have some “fun” with I don’t mind paying cause that might be what it takes to get the job done. But if I am with a woman who claims to want to build a relationship then she needs to meet me somewhere in the middle. I guess a good reference would be, who ever asks to go on the date should pay… but I don’t want to be the one asking all the time.

I had a friend who always used to say leave a girl where you meet her. If you meet a chick at the bus stop then when you break up leave her at the bus stop. Basically that means no chick gets a free ride on my back. You are not going to be wined, dined and have a good ole time on my dime. Not for long at least. I learned my lesson real quick, I bought a chick a matching gold bracelet and necklace for valentines day and she bought me, hold on to your hats there folks….. a Whitman’s Sampler box of chocolates. I knew then that we were not on the same level. Not that the chocolates were not a good thought but that was basically how the whole couple of months we dated went, she must have thought we were still in middle school or something.

It really makes me feel good on the 3rd date or so, when the chick picks up the ticket before I do, that lets me know we are headed in the right direction. And it lets me know that is is along for the ride and not just trying to take me for all she can. I get tired myself of always having to come up with new date ideas. I want to see how you think you can surprise me sometimes.

Wise Diva Its not like that… I can cook very well, but like most women I don’t want to do it every day. I can’t see coming home from work and cooking 3 or 4 nights a week, and then when its my wife/girlfriend’s time to cook we have KFC or some crap… that ain’t gonna work. Especially when in most cases I will have had fast food for lunch… naww playa you needs to go to the Art Institute of ATL and holla at the culinary Arts Program.

By Perception is Reality

August 9, 2005 11:37 AM | Link to this

Ahem jRock…I’m not defending Mia. There’s nothing to defend.

I’m just fed up with what I know is bullshyt being perpetuated on this blog. I know from personal experience that a few people on this blog giving advice and/or criticizing Mia’s MO are full of more shyt than Raffy Palmeiro.

jrock … I see alot of what Mia talks about in my former self, and a little of it in my current self.. I hope to see some of it in my future self too.

She’s putting her ‘bizness’ out here as part of her gig. What sane people would honestly take advice from a group of people who she doesn’t know?

By Mia

August 9, 2005 11:38 AM | Link to this

I guess my definition of desperate is completely different from everyone else. The Video Vixen is desperate…to me…always seeking love in all the wrong places and equating sex to love.

I don’t throw myself at men. I don’t think that every guy that pays me half atttention is the one. I’m not going around sleeping with every guy that gives me a compliment.

Just because I want to be loved and give my love to someone special does not make me desperate. I know what I want and I know that every guy that crosses my path is not deserving of the best of me.

People always say I need to sit back and reevaluate myself. I evaluate myself every single day…always making sure I’m happy with the person that is staring back at me in the mirror.

Y’all act like I bounce from relationship to relationship…I haven’t been in a relationship in months…I haven’t seriously dated in months. I am chilling…enjoying being me and doing what I want to do and right now I’m doing that solo.

As far as guys being able to detect my issues as soon as they see me…that is ridiculous. And honestly I haven’t held a conversation with anyone besides my friends…so not a chance for a guy to “detect” anything from conversation or otherwise. I’m not perfect and perfection is not something I strive for and I don’t seek perfection in a mate.

This summer I have focused on my job and on just having a good time with my friends. And as someone said this blog is apart of my job…so whether or not I’m dating or in a relationship it is something I am required to talk about every single day.

So keep that in perspective when you go around labeling people as desperate or otherwise. Seems to me I’m not the only one on this blog that needs some self reevaluation.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 11:39 AM | Link to this

You do make a great point, Buzz…..”doing you” doesn’t guarantee getting the man. However,can you give me an example of some of the women that you’ve known that has it all together and is without a man? I thought having it all together meant having everything, including but not limited to, the successful relationship. I personally don’t know anyone that has it all-together. Also, what constitutes having it all-together or does being all together vary depending on perception? Is it all together on paper? Just a question.

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 11:40 AM | Link to this

so if you have a potential romantic interest, that indicates desperation?

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 11:41 AM | Link to this

2can Hurricane, Military Man and Mr. Potential are the only one’s that count.

The other guys were just guys she met and she sought our advice on if she should give them a chance. Now of course I’m only basing this on her posts - but I don’t think she ever had more than 1 or 2 dates with any of those guys.

So just because she goes out with a guy makes her desperate? She wasn’t going all out to please these guys. If she was desperate - she would have hung on to the guy with kids just to say she had a man.

By East Point's Own

August 9, 2005 11:47 AM | Link to this

FYI: * EPO don’t won’t no needy broad* I don’t want nobody who “needs” me to do jack for her but breathe. No drama, no excessive baggage, just plain old common sense and a fully functional mind.

By DKATL

August 9, 2005 11:51 AM | Link to this

Mia will be ok when she wants to be.. When she realize she strokes his Ego everytime she gets out here and talk about him.. He probably does it just to make her write about him the following Monday. He is taking pride in tormenting you.. It’s ok though Mia its apart of the process. The sad part of it all is he probably tells his friends to watch the blog and see what she says. However I do detect a bit of anger in this post and that means you are almost done with it because sometimes you have to get angry to realize you have been acting ummmm “Bad”

And Ladies Longtime has a point you are being let into the mens room and privy to info that could get dudes disbarred.

By Mia

August 9, 2005 11:52 AM | Link to this

I’m on a special assignment and unfortunately my only access is dial-up…so of course I wrote a long entry that didn’t post.

So I’ll summarize by saying that my definition of desperate and someone else’s will obviously not be the same. I’m not throwing myself at every man that crosses my path or equating sex with love. I’m not even sure how today’s entry has anything to do with desperation. All I’m talking about it what I know it takes to win my heart. Simple enough.

As far as 2CPTG wanting to do a rundown of guys I have mentioned on this blog…note the word MENTIONED. Some didn’t even last more than an entry or two. Dating is about trial and error. I’m not perfect…I’m not trying to be perfect…I don’t see perfection in a mate. The only significant men in my life in the last year were Military Man and Mr. Potential…everyone else was a blip on the radar and I thought worth a good blog laugh but of course I see even one of my misadventures gets blown out of proportion.

I reevaluate myself everyday always making sure that I am happy with the person that is staring back at me in the mirror.

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 11:52 AM | Link to this

let me just clear the air real quick, casue I’m gettin a lot of grief from folks talkin bout all I do is criticize Mia….first of all, perceive it as you may, but as I’ve stated before, perception ain’t always reality! maybe my posts come across as being harsh, and that is not my intent, so Mia, if you feel I’m criticizing you, I apologize……we been through a lot together, but sometimes…………well, you get what I’m sayin….

By East Point's Own

August 9, 2005 11:55 AM | Link to this

Well I had a nice response for Blue Angel and Wise Diva but there was an error and the post was lost.. but here is a summary.

When a woman ocassionally pays for a date that shows me that she has a mutual interest and is not out just using me to get out of the house and have a good time. Also I get tired of always being the one who has to come up with date ideas.

Wise Diva, I cook as well, but as most women say i don’t want to do it every day. So if my girlfriend/wife can’t cook, I don’t want to have to get fast food when its her turn, especially since fast food is probably what I had for lunch and or breakfast.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 11:56 AM | Link to this

But, Taz…..all anyone knows about each and every blogger is what they type. Sure, that may be a totally fabricated personality (i.e. Ispy/MsIspy/Woo/Eric or the numerous alias that many regular bloggers post under), but we can only comment on what we read. Just as many may see AW as a smart-@ss, egotistical so and so……(I’ll admit, initially I did too) until I got to know him further and met him in person. He is quite a character, but someone that I would definitely want in my corner or on my team. How can we comment everyday and interact w/ one another and not form an opinion based on what we read??? It’s human nature. Now, Mia might be a different person in her everyday life than what we read, if we were to get to know her outside of the blog, but being that she’s anonymous, that’s not likely. Even if it were, we still would all have varying opinions of her. All that to say, it’s not being judgemental in a negative way……it’s forming and opinion based on what we read. For me, all of my opinions about Mia are valid and accurate based on what I read or have read. Now if in her real life, none of this is true, so be it….but based on the daily entries from the blog, we only see this side of Mia because that’s all that she’s allowed for us to see. It doesn’t take a genius to interpret that she’s emotionally lost (and that’s not meant w/ a negative connotation or as if I’m pointing the finger or laying blame) and hurting and still not over her past hurts and disappointments. That will take time for her to get there. The point is that she eventually gets there. I’m not saying it will be today or tomorrow or even a year from now, but eventually she will need to release all that baggage in order to proceed to something greater.

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 11:56 AM | Link to this

Sup People.

The way to my heart includes honesty, consistency, appreciation, sense of humor, intelligence, love to play and watch sports, adores children and dogs, and a family oriented man.

I guess I’m a “throwback broad” as Adub noted because I LOVE to cook. My mom is kinda like Big Mama from Soul Food because she has always made home cooked meals for us since I was small. Going out to eat is cool sometimes, but there is nothing like a homecooked meal made with lots of love!

Fellas - Just as most of yall want a woman who likes sports, a woman wants a man who knows how to cook. So, yall can call up Big Mama, Betty Crocker or search the internet for some cooking hints/recipies just the same!

By DKATL

August 9, 2005 11:58 AM | Link to this

Bloggers I have a serious question a little off the subject..

When is it O.K. to cut off you family? Or is it O.K.?

By Perception is Reality

August 9, 2005 11:59 AM | Link to this

um… had a nice response and for whatever reason - it didn’t post.

anywhoo, I was saying I’m not defending Mia. There’s nothing to defend.

I’m just irritated by a couple of things:

People posting under different names hoping to rebuild their credibility ..LL, Blog Questions, Ghost

People assuming alot about a person (Mia) they don’t know… jRock, LL, PIR

People constantly, constantly talking down to someone with whom they claim to care about…never taking the time to commend her on things that she hasn’t done in a long while..the advice she has taken…the growth she is showing… 2Can

Overall, I’m just irritated with the bloggers moreso than anything. I could give a rat’s a s s about defending Mia. If and when she chooses to show out again - I’ll speak my mind.

By convincedsince77

August 9, 2005 12:04 PM | Link to this

There is a thin line between being desperate and wanting a companion. 1 to many phone calls can turn a women who is looking for a man into a women who is looking, searching, wishing, hoping and praying for one.

By aggressively witty

August 9, 2005 12:05 PM | Link to this

I just have one thing to say. i have never called mia desperate and when I see a situation early on i try to pull her ear to it. how many times on this thing have I been able to say “I told you so?”

Its not about a judgement for me, its about recognizing the games people play and trying to pull her ear to it. Oh and getting a quip off at all possible stops.

Now to be fair to the people that have called her desperate, it can easily be seen why this is the case.

In EVERY situation that Mia has shared here with us about dudes she is ‘dating’ she has never actually been dating the dude. Desperate people tend to make more out of a relationship then what is there.

Further, like most women, Mia wants a consistent man. But that isnt hot when you keep choosing to ‘date’ dudes who are consistently bad. Consistency just means they are going to be who they are. i dont think you want just a consistent dude sis, you want a consistently honest, romantic, and humorous dude. In other words, you wanna lesbian. :) Thing is it is easy to say you want a man to be consistent but that is only true until his nature no longer fits the times.

Often I have spoken of chics i have dated in the past saying I have changed over the course of our relationship. And the only retort is from that wise poet Common “Im not changing, times are” When the man you have grown to love doesnt turn the corner to become the man you WISH he was, despite all the potential you see in him for the change, there is an issue. This issue is because the man is exactly what you claimed you wanted, consistent.

By Knowledge

August 9, 2005 12:08 PM | Link to this

How many 25 year old women or men do we know that have their shyt together all the way around? Mia has to learn from her experiences. She can take or leave the advice or criticism that she get on here, but in the end she is the only one who knows the full picture of her life and why she continues to make the mistakes that she’s making.

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 12:20 PM | Link to this

Does anyone on here know Mia personally and deals with her daily, to know the actually percentage of truth that is in statements that she make? Everyone is going back and forth on what Mia is doing, she is desperate and all that. It’s easy to put a scenario and statement out there, but does it actually mirror her life? Who knows?

By East P{oint's Own

August 9, 2005 12:22 PM | Link to this

testing, testing, 1.. 2… 3….

By anonymousella

August 9, 2005 12:32 PM | Link to this

ok.. can we take a break from the mia-bashing please? she’s 25. who didn’t do dumb sht at 25? hell… some of y’all are 30+, single and too busy blamin everybody else for not “appreciating a good (wo)man” to realize that you’re still doing dumb sht. so can ya puh-leeze back up off my girl?

on-topic: the way to my heart is through my stomach. if sweetie couldn’t cook, i would NOT be with him right now. and the absolute sexiest thing a man can do IMO is housework.

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 12:33 PM | Link to this

At the risk of being crucified or of opening old wounds (and I apologize beforehand) from reading Mia’s story yesterday and based on past experience, I wonder how much of the bitterness and lack of closure on her part and on the part of Hurricane stems from the loss of the babies she carried? Having gone through the pain of this in the past, losing a baby through a miscarriage is one of the lonliest losses a couple or a person can ever experience. People try to minimize it or comfort you and say the most thoughtless things. “It’s for the best.” “You can always have another one.” “It was God’s will.” The list is endless. No one, no one said “I am sorry for your loss.” To us, it was like a death. It was the loss of a child and it hurt like hell. It still hurts and I imagine it will hurt until my dying day. To be going through a breakup, to be carrying children, and then to lose them in the midst of all the turmoil, maybe even having the loss precipitated by the turmoil, it’s nothing you get over or justify overnight. Maybe that’s why Mia doesn’t have the closure or why she still has some awareness of Hurricane. She was forced to grieve alone. Maybe that’s why Hurricane acts like he does. You don’t ever really know what crosses people are carrying. To all the world, they can hide it. Sometimes you choose to bear your own pain, sometimes you share it. With men, I think inherantly we have been taught to be emotional is to be weak. And by that very token, I think we as men in general suffer in silence and become a bit calloused moreso than women. Women, we are taught, are by nature more emotional or by sociological standards encouraged to be emotional. They are allowed to more openly be joyous, grieve, to allow their emotions to flow. If you think of a man being emotional, you normally think of the law being called to the scene. I may be totally off base, but that’s just my sneakin’ suspicion. Back to your regularly scheduled Blog. Hugs and kisses to all the ladies, hellos to all my buds.

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 12:35 PM | Link to this

who broke the blog???

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 12:51 PM | Link to this

wise poet Common “Im not changing, times are”

that is hilarious…

well, when the blog-updating bugs get ironed-out, it certainly UPDATES, huh?

By anonymousella

August 9, 2005 12:58 PM | Link to this

ig: thank you for bringing some common sense and compassion to the situation.

@ghost: mia ain’t as crazy as she seems. there are some things she vents online that might be better said off-line, but she ain’t crazy.

and from what i’ve seen as a friend and ex-coworker, dude has done a good job at being the thorn in mia’s side, despite mia’s efforts to move on.

By aggressively witty

August 9, 2005 01:01 PM | Link to this

Everybody is crazy

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 01:08 PM | Link to this

Ivy - I guess that’s why I try not to make those kinds of judgements based on what folks post on here. I will say that my perception of a lot of folks that posted on here changed once I met and spent time with them.

AggWitt - I know for me when I say consistent it means continue doing what you did to get me to keep me. If you set the standard, maintain the standard.

By Longtime Lurker

August 9, 2005 01:09 PM | Link to this

To the blog legal defense for Mia, we all done dumb ish, we all have made bad decisions, we all have chose wrong partners, but when you continue to make bad decisions and bad choices in mates, when all the signs are there, I have no pitty fo your a**

Many men and some of the women, who are regulars see the drama coming in the blog entries Mia posts. I have noticed that Agg always sees it first and warns Mia * Look out, that brick is about to hit you in the head* What does she do, she ignors the advice the men and women give her and hangs herself!

As I said before, most of the folks who post on the regular, look out for each other,so if she chooses to ignore and seek out men that make her feel better about herself, then ole well..

Personally, I think all the problems she has in dating comes from her relationship with her father, as she has stated a few times.

A lot of women have this problem. I am sorry for her and the others,for this, but she has to re-evalute what went wrong and correct this problem within herself or she will continue to have issues…

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 01:10 PM | Link to this

Hold up PIR, first of all if I’m not mistaken, you too have called Mia out before on some of her antics, but I’m not gon go there; yeah, it’s easier to point fingers and say “you ain’t got nothing positive to say, or you always find fault in what someone does” Shyt, if you throw it out there like that, then I’mma comment, if you don’t folks to comment on your personal shyt, then don’t put your personal shyt out there! …and Diva, never have I proclaimed to be perfect, hell, you read my personal shyt, so how can you even say I’ve proclaimed perfection, you’ve been privvy to alot of my issues so how can you even say that??? Am I ticked off, damn right!!! Y’all ain’t gon paint me as the bad guy, when all I do is make comments based on what I gather…is it always correct, maybe not; But not once have I said I was perfect…so before you castigate me, PIR, sweep that shyt from around your own fvckin steps!

By Buzzworthy

August 9, 2005 01:10 PM | Link to this

@ Ivy’s 11:39 post. I think having it all together means having your personal life in order. In terms of mind, spirit and body. This can manifest itself in achieving a high level of education, professional accomplishments, spiritual growth and understanding, financial stability, a fit healthy body, a wonderful network of family and friends etc. Living in ATL (I just moved away 2 months ago and miss home like h3ll) we all know sisters like this that are chronically single. I hope that the definition of “having it together� does not include a successful romantic relationship, because that is something someone else has to contribute to. I think “having it together� has a lot to do with knowing yourself and a plan for your future.

On topic… I think the way to my heart is through shared experiences. The more life we go through together, the more I care about and bond with a person.

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 01:13 PM | Link to this

Anonymousella I kind of figured that. It’s a gig to a certain degree. But I agree with what somebody said earlier I think. It took me about 4 years to get over a guy, it was to the point that I totally despised the sound of his name. I even sweetened his gas tank. Childish but I did it. Once I became so angry, it was all over. Now when I see him, I don’t see him.

By aggressively witty

August 9, 2005 01:16 PM | Link to this

im perfect. there i said it. I aint make no mistakes when I was 25! Well there was that threeway at jaguars with the puerto rican broad that ended up being infected with mad cow disease, but other than that, NOTHING!

By Wrenn

August 9, 2005 01:16 PM | Link to this

Since you guys are dicussing cooking here’s info on an upcoming class:

Please join us on August 25 for Chef Eric’s August cooking class: “Summer Marinades and Grilling Techniques”. Eric will share his expertise on creating marinades and the proper pairing to meats, seafood’s and vegetables. In addition, we will learn proper grilling techniques for these foods, the times and methods utilized to create perfectly barbeque cuisine.

Please join us on the patio, by the fountains on Peachtree Center Avenue, at 5:15PM for this fun, informative class. The cost is $30.00, inclusive of cold beverages, marinated meats and vegetables (Chef’s Choice!). Call 404-880-1556 for your reservation. A credit card will be needed to secure your space. Class size is limited to 30 guests.

By aggressively witty

August 9, 2005 01:18 PM | Link to this

Oh fellas, dont know if anyone else has ever worn them, and I may be later than a pregnant girls period but I just got some ECCO shoes. Man this joints are the most comfortable things I have EVER worn in my life. Well next to them old gucci sneakers from back in like 89.

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 01:18 PM | Link to this

Oh yeah, I almost forgot about that comment - Ivy I consider myself to be one of those women that has it together but doesn’t have a man in my life. I have many successful male and female relationships - but I don’t think a romantic relationship with a man defines my success in life.

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 01:19 PM | Link to this

Since MrAP got back from overseas, he’s been looking for a better job because he’s not too keen on going back to his old one. So he’s been a “house husband” for the past few weeks.

While I’ve been doing most of the cooking (which I don’t mind doing, even right after work), he will always ask if I need help and I never have to worry about the dishes or cleaning the kitchen. We are going to start cooking together more often.

Like Anon said, I had to have a man who can cook. I just called him to see what he was up to. He said he was cleaning up and asked me what I wanted for dinner cuz he wants to have something ready for me later!

Ahh, how I love that man…

By Wise Diva

August 9, 2005 01:20 PM | Link to this

2CPTG, actually I wasn’t directing that part of my comment to you personally, it was a blanket statement, that really broadstroked some comments I have read. Now your constant stance on the desperation thing is something that we always disagree on, and I am fine with that. I am not attacking you, just wanted an honest discussion about what it is you read and then asking you what you think a desperate woman is by definition. It is my effort to possibly see what the point you are/were trying to make besides “I know the game I’ve seen it played” mantra that you talk about.

so boi relax, you know I love yo crazy tale, and I always debate with you..didn’t intend to make it personal.

By Psycho Belle

August 9, 2005 01:26 PM | Link to this

^5 to Tazzee in her 11:31 post - that’s exactly how I feel about it, too. Plus, this blog is not just a vent, confessional, whatever for Mia, it’s also a feature of the newspaper that is designed to attract readers.

I don’t have a problem with Mia revealing things about herself. Maybe a tendency to tell almost anything is one of my flaws, but I think it takes courage. Any time you write about yourself for others to see, you’re taking the risk that you will be misunderstood or even attacked, that people who know you will think less of you, etc. A practically fearless man or woman - now, that’s what I like.

As far as whether Mia is desperate, I guess I look at the experiences she has related and see them differently. Is a woman desperate because she “tries on” different men and then at least partially because it’s her job, writes about it on her blog? Maybe she ought to write about all the men who tried to get with her but didn’t, uh, meet enough of the criteria on her list ;-).

Now, on topic, the way to my heart is to go to the trouble to find out what I like (not just talking about tangible things), and then behave accordingly. The qualities that Ignatius lists are very important to me, too - including football!

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 01:29 PM | Link to this

Diva, I feel what you are saying, but certain folks always like to point fingers….and I’ll be damned if they gon keep being pointed at me…hell, I didn’t know this was supposed to be a head nodding forum….if so, I can’t participate, cause I’mma call it like I see it…

By Wise Diva

August 9, 2005 01:34 PM | Link to this

that’s the exact reason why I debate with you, 2CPTG, to find out why you are calling things like you see it..I am engaging you in dialogue to get beyond your jabs (you know you have those) and your comments. So by definition, what are the actions of a desperate chick? You sound like you are the authority on them. So clue me in.

By Perception is Reality

August 9, 2005 01:35 PM | Link to this

Um..yeah 2Can…I called and will call Mia out when she deserves it. Tomorrow if she mentions MM moved into her new house (haha) and Mr P is her new lawn boy (hee hee) or if she begins to repeat the problems of the past expecting different results… I’ll be the 1st one in line. Since she hasn’t done that in a long while - you haven’t heard me. But you are still harping on what you used to know about what she used to do…

AND, kind sir, You have yet to define desperation..still waiting on that. Let me make it plan and clear …maybe you missed the question before:

2CPTG what is your definition of desperation and how does present day Mia fit that definition?

Also, if you are always one of those people that jump up to put someone down on a regular basis. Then you are painting a self portrait of 2can being the bad guy…

By naive

August 9, 2005 01:36 PM | Link to this

Now I may be naive but some of the comments MIA posts do sound immature, for a 25 year old. I will be the first to admit that I am far from perfect but if I keep having failed relationships or keep attracting the wrong people then I know I have to look within to see what the problem is. I can’t keep laying blame on others for bad things that happen to ME. If I keep allowing it to happen isnt it my fault? Another thought, maybe MIA could be making everything up just to sit back and laugh at everyone. Isn’t it her job to make people blog? just my random thoughts.

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 01:37 PM | Link to this

I better one Wrenn

For yall who really want to learn how to cook and save money…

Start with the basics like chopping veggies, peeling potatos, snaping beans, and washing collards, etc.

Then move on to learning about different seasonings like basil, rosemary, ginger, thyme, etc. Later start with simple meals like breakfast meals and spaghetti, then move on to preparing meats.

Cooking, like relationships, are trial and error and you learn as you go. Once you have the basics down, you are better able to experiment and be more creative.

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 01:42 PM | Link to this

What kills me about this back and forth is - Mia posted a general topic, telling us the way to her heart (not that she’s saying she’s trying to get someone there soon) and asking the way to ours.

AggWitt - have you been to a restaurant called Rathbun’s? I went there this weekend and it was great. Thought it might be a place you and your WP might like.

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 01:44 PM | Link to this

Naive Yes, how much of it is 100% true? It reads like people are really getting offended and upset at each other, but who knows the whole truth. (Other than anonymousella).

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 01:50 PM | Link to this

I won’t go so far as to say that Mia is desperate, BUT I’m kinda with 2 and ADub in that it does appear that she keeps falling for the okie doke.

Like naive, I posted yesterday that a person is just as responsible for their unhappiness and grief if they keep allowing whatever it is to continue.

As Ig also posted, it must have been an awful experience to lose 2 children in the midst of dealing with Hurricane.

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 01:52 PM | Link to this

Ok, PIR, she ain’t desperate today, how bout that?

By Perception is Reality

August 9, 2005 01:59 PM | Link to this

For the record, I’m having fun with this back and forth - nothing personal. Just making the time go by.

OH…Longtime Lurker. Don’t you live in the S.W.A.T.S.? You sure read like you do…from the candence of your sentences, to the missspeling of ya words.

Ha ha!

Since we are talking food anyone have a good recipe for cornbread? Other than from the box?

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 02:00 PM | Link to this

Buzz, my definition of having it ALL together does include it all, which would include the successful romantic relationship. It’s all a balancing act. Some are successful at it and some are not…..I know plenty of women and men that have it going on paper (meaning if I was to write down a description of this person they seemingly have it going on financially, spirtually, mentally) but that’s not always the case. They might even beleive, wholeheartedly, that they are the epitome of what is a good man/woman but are so far removed from it or so stuck in their ways that they cannot ever have anything worthwhile with anyone but themselves. Just my opinion though. Again, I don’t know anyone that has it ALL together, myself included. We are all flawed in some way, shape, or form.

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 02:02 PM | Link to this

Another good place to eat…Whole Foods

Mom, my bro and MrAP went to the one on Ponce to pick up a few things, mainly for my bro cuz he’s a vegetarian. How about we didn’t know that they have a “restaurant”??

They have a huge salad bar, a brick oven with many different kinds of pizza, also a large selection of hot foods for every kind of taste (veg and non-veg alike). It was soooo good and resonably priced.

By Longtime Lurker

August 9, 2005 02:03 PM | Link to this

PIR… I am definitely not SWATS!

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 02:04 PM | Link to this

PIR Equal amounts of cornmeal mix and flour, (2) eggs and milk, this is for a regular skillet size. (Add 2 tablespoons of mayo, no miracle whip, for some extra fluffiness) A friend of mine adds a can of cream style corn to hers, it’s taste very good, but I always mess up when I try that.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 02:06 PM | Link to this

Oh, Tazzee, it was you telling me about Rathbun’s??? My cousin was talking about it yesterday and I swore him up and down that he had already told me the story. Ooops, my bad, that was you. I’m sending him an email.

By jRock

August 9, 2005 02:08 PM | Link to this

I believe everything Mia writes.. Is she desperate?? Far from it? Does she need some growing up, hell yeah. But then again like the previous poster said, which one of us didn’t.

Saying all that, dayum ya’ll women got the men back pedalling their a*******es off in here. Give em a break and let em keep this real. The same stuff 2 is saying is on this blog is the same stuff he’d be saying offline. Dayum even got AggWit explaining sheeee It.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 02:10 PM | Link to this

PI, I’m sending it now to your work email. Hope you like it. Wait, were you serious? Did you really want a cornbread recipe?

By Wrenn

August 9, 2005 02:11 PM | Link to this

MsAP- thanks but participating in a cooking class is also a great way to get out and mix & mingle for those of us that aren’t hitched…everyone’s not on a budget and i don’t say that in a smart way either…just speaking matter of factly…had to add that since people seem to be at each other today…must be the heat!

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 02:13 PM | Link to this

PIR - I make cornbread from scratch, so the following measurements are approximate:

3 cups Self-rising corn meal (this already has the baking powder and salt added)
1 cup Milk (I used skim or soy) 2 tbsp oil (vegetable or canola) 1 egg 1 tsp sugar (or add/delete to your taste)

Mix milk, oil, and egg together then add cornmeal. Last add the sugar to taste. You can also add jalepenos, corn, peppers, and onions to spice it up!

By 4 big brothas

August 9, 2005 02:13 PM | Link to this

I’m sorry but I’ve been reading for about as long as this blog has existed and I ain’t gon lie, I’ve thought on a number of occasions from Mia’s experiences, how short does the yellow bus get?! I ain’t trying to be funny but I grew up with four big brothers and all I can say is when a man tells you like it is, take the advice and run. Just because I tried a lot of what I was warned not to do didn’t make the advice less true nor was it judgemental. I just don’t get people call it judging when the the truth is spoken….even if everyone continues to pity her experiences, it’s still, more often than not, bad decisions….look at the outcomes. The truth is the truth is the truth….not judgemental….just the truth. If spending the night on the first date didn’t work the first 10 times, don’t do it the eleventh, if making the first move never works in your favor, why keep doing it?! Of all the things she’s experienced, the outcome being the same….do the opposite the next time! Do something new, try a different approach….that’s all I think he was saying.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 02:14 PM | Link to this

Ghost, you don’t use vanilla extract in your cornbread? Where’s the suga? No salt?

By Perception is Reality

August 9, 2005 02:15 PM | Link to this

Oh Boi!

Um, Ghost about that cornbread recipe… Well, yeah, right. Mayo?

LL - even your denial reads like S.W.A.T.S. But okay whoever you wanna be I hope that works out for ya…

By Wrenn

August 9, 2005 02:20 PM | Link to this

Attention PIR & Longtime Lurker, the swats is actually compiled of upscale neigbhorhoods so for one to imply that the SWATS is ghetto, one would be wrong…swats simply means Southwest Atlanta but the meaning of it has gotten bent way out of shape, there is fulton county and there is unincorporated fulton county, Atlanta and the city of atlanta are two different areas in georgia so to speak…i know because i grew up in unincorporated fulton county which is the suburbs

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 02:24 PM | Link to this

PIR Anything to make the mood a little friendlier. I’ll give you some more recipes if you want or tell you a story, I’ll even bake you a cake. As long as I am typing and reading the time is flying by. Do you want to know how I cook my collards?

By convincedsince77

August 9, 2005 02:24 PM | Link to this

Things worked in George’s favor when he decided to do the opposite of his every intuition…not a bad idea, LOL!

By convincedsince77

August 9, 2005 02:27 PM | Link to this

Damn what’s wrong w/ living in the SWATS?

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 02:28 PM | Link to this

Wrenn - there’s a guy that periodically posts on here and his moniker is SWATS. Don’t get your pressure up…

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 02:29 PM | Link to this

@Wrenn - S.W.A.T.S. is also a former poster here, goes by the name of Vince as well, has a few other names probably most likely who PIR was talking about.

although… well, I’ll let others comment on THAT aspect…LOL

By Longtime Lurker

August 9, 2005 02:30 PM | Link to this

Wrenn.. I think PIR was thinking I was this guy who posts on the blog named SWATS.

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 02:30 PM | Link to this

@Ivy I don’t cook, so I don’t know.

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 02:32 PM | Link to this

now don’t quote me on this, just what I heard on the street, but also known as Goober.

By abc

August 9, 2005 02:35 PM | Link to this

What’s the ‘TS” in SWATS stand for? I hadn’t realized that was an acronym for something.

By JustAThought

August 9, 2005 02:35 PM | Link to this

since Ghost thought only Nella had sensible stuff to say, does that make Ghost Nella?

just a thought…

By Perception is Reality

August 9, 2005 02:36 PM | Link to this

Ain’t nothing wrong with living in the SWATS. There is definitely something wrong with Lurking in the S.W.A.T.S. though.

Yes… please tell me all about the collard recipe. You put sour cream in them, doncha? Huh, huh?

Thanks for the recipes y’all!

Dang now would be a good time to talk about ATL’s mama. But I promised him I wouldn’t talk about her behind his back anymore … bummer!

By Wrenn

August 9, 2005 02:36 PM | Link to this

My bad, i forgot i did read PIR was trying to figure out the mysterious longtime lurker… thanks for the clarification…duh!and yes i remember reading swats a time or two

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 02:37 PM | Link to this

Ghost, I was wondering. I’m like, what???? You got to add the sugar to the cornbread, the vanilla just gives it a nice flavor and makes the kitchen smell good while it’s cooking. No more mayo in the pretend cornbread, k?

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 02:37 PM | Link to this

Just, thanks for asking, but NO. I also agreed with 2Can and Naive.

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 02:39 PM | Link to this

Not 2Can, but East Point.

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 02:40 PM | Link to this

Wrenn - Yeah the cooking class is a great idea maybe on occasion, but I personally wouldn’t want to spend $30 to mingle with folks, single or not.

For you ladies who like to work out (or want to start), the bball court or gym is a great way to mingle. MrAP and I went to Metro Fitness (Run and Shoot) on Sunday. My jump shot is still on point!

I am so ready for some football!! We watched the Hall of Fame game last night and my Honey wasa little sad cuz his team lost (Mia).

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 02:40 PM | Link to this

Ivy - did your cousin like Rathbuns?

The best thing is, they serve these small desserts - just enough to satisfy your sweet tooth without being gluttonous.

By Carrington

August 9, 2005 02:43 PM | Link to this

Oh Boy….I have been doing this lurking thing for the last couple of days and it is really interesting…especially today.

2can, Agg, Diva Dahling & Twins, Perception -you guys are really helping my day get on by. Where the hell is the popcorn? I need the kind that comes with the pour over butter….

On said topic -most everyone has said the correct things. Me, I am not telling. Either you have it or you don’t. Can’t have folk reading and then dropping what I am looking for -then changing up on me later -lol.

Mia as I said yesterday, let dude -hurricane- go completely. It takes time, but when he is gone, you will feel different and see others differently. I would also suggest a little prayer, and re -finding yourself spiritually. I saw you say that you were using the summer to focus on self. Start there if you have not already.

Ivy -what up mami? How is the new home coming along….plus -Happy Belated Birthday….

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 02:43 PM | Link to this

ABC, it’s just a saying “from the SWATS”, since Vince was/is from Southwest Atlanta, thus, the term/moniker.

By aggressively witty

August 9, 2005 02:55 PM | Link to this

she said ‘how small does the short bus get’ hahahhah. Yall be getting on us and this gal got mia wearing a helmet, slobbering and tryna flirt with lil darrell and yall aint said shyt.

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 02:56 PM | Link to this

Ivy - Hey girl. Did you and your man buy the house together? How long have yall been living together?

MrAP moved most of his stuff to my place (I’m loving the big screen for movies and games). It’s been a month and things are going better than I expected. He’s looking to Section 8 his house soon so we can start putting away money for our Big Day.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 02:57 PM | Link to this

Yep, Tazzee, he loved it. He wanted me to go with him but somehow I missed his call. As he was telling me about the wonderful ambiance and cuisine, I insisted that he had already told me and he swore me up and down that he hadn’t because he had just gone. Now that I recall, you told me on yesterday. Hahhahahaah, my bad.

Hey, Carrington!!! The inside of the house is coming along nicely. Now, if only I can get my man to not feel bad about me wanting to hire someone to do the landscaping. He swears he can do it so I just say, ok. It’s been more than a month and he only cut the yard 1x. He says he has to let it all grow together but it looks like it’s together to me. He insists it’s because of the rain…….hmmmmmmmmmpf! We were looking outside the other day and he noticed that the neighbor’s yard is thicker and greener…..go figure! We both started cracking up about the grass being greener on the other side……in this case, it actually is. Bless his heart.

By Wrenn

August 9, 2005 02:58 PM | Link to this

MsAP -totally in agreement witcha! i like football also…go to a lot of ga tech games since my dad was alumni…I’ve also gone to the ESPN Zone and if you are looking strictly for atmosphere it is an okay place but the food totally sucks…have tried the food more than once and it is horrible

and on topic today since i haven’t commented once on that except for the cooking excerpt…I’ve followed along mostly silent at times but MIA said on occassion we don’t really know the real her, we only know what she puts out at us…the Misadventures is strictly for entertainment although alot of singledom knowledge is dropped down for us daily -at this point one could speculate that MIA really is searching for the one…but it is also her job to keep us entertained as well…

By Longtime Lurker

August 9, 2005 03:00 PM | Link to this

Agg.. you got me rollin over here! I’ve got tears rolling out of my eyes, on your last comment…hilarious man!

By Carrington

August 9, 2005 03:01 PM | Link to this

this gal got mia wearing a helmet, slobbering and tryna flirt with lil darrell

Agg -you a wile boi

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 03:04 PM | Link to this

Adub - Have you seen Latham Entertainment Presents with DL, Ricky Smiley, et al? Jay Anthony Brown was on there talking about handicapped people as greeters at Walmart. I saw it for the first time last weekend and he had me rollin!

I also hung out with the churchies last Friday and went to see Steve Harvey’s “Just Churchin”. He was really funny and that was supposed to be his last show. How bout I heard that his hair is really fake in the top and he’s a coke head. I wonder if that’s true.

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 03:06 PM | Link to this

AggWitt - I usually try to ignore folks when their first comment is so negative. I think some folks live by the mantra ‘if you can’t say nothing mean, don’t say anything at all’ evidenced by how ‘lurkers’ will only come out to blast someone.

Wrenn - as sports bars go, I think ESPNZone has some of the better tasting food. Again, that’s as sports bars go. I wouldn’t go there just to eat.

OK, let me quit blogging and go put some clothes in the washer like I said I was going to do!

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 03:06 PM | Link to this

MsAP, yes and one month. Oh girl, don’t talk even about big screens………hahahahahahah! My man cracks me up. If only you could see his office upstairs. Too funny.

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 03:07 PM | Link to this

Does anyone know what happened to Babykitty? Every since I’ve been lurking she was always commenting on all the other comments in one long post. I noticed that I haven’t read her in a while. Does anyone know?

By Goblin

August 9, 2005 03:11 PM | Link to this

why don’t you email Babykitty and ask her?

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 03:14 PM | Link to this

Ghost we are dedicating Thursday’s entire post to her. LOL I was going to hop on and ask the same thing but you beat me to it. The last thing I saw her write was a posting in the RF. Maybe hubby bought her a scratching post. .

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 03:14 PM | Link to this

guess I’m not the only “bad guy,” huh, PIR?

By anonymousella

August 9, 2005 03:15 PM | Link to this

nah justathought … things ain’t deep enough for me to bother posting under two names to have a conversation with myself.

question/topic change for the blogfam (inspired by 4bb’s comments):

have any of you started a relationship “the wrong way” and had it work out?

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 03:15 PM | Link to this

maybe BabyKitty found two husky guys and is in Nirvana now…LOL

(oops, meant to say Gay guys)

By BlackIce

August 9, 2005 03:15 PM | Link to this

Afternoon blogomatics

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 03:16 PM | Link to this

Wrenn - I love the ZONE as well, you just have to get there super early to get a decent seat for games.

Madden 06 just came out and MrAP can’t wait to get his. He has the 06 NCAA football and has our future son playing for his beloved Murrland (Maryland).

Even though I know football basics, I want to learn more. I asked him to teach me to play Madden so whn we watch the Sunday games, I’ll know what’s going on even better. I’ll still be looking at the fabulous a*’s in those tight pants!! LOL

By BlackIce

August 9, 2005 03:18 PM | Link to this

The teen turned 17 on Sunday and she is now officially a TX licensed driver…good Lawd help me!

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 03:22 PM | Link to this

Anon, nope.

Hey, Icey! How’s it going, lady??? Miss you!

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 03:23 PM | Link to this

Tazz and Wrenn - Let me know when you ladies want to hit up the Zone for a game this season. I like to chill with women who actually know what a first down is. It’s amazing how many women can’t grasp that simple concept.

I’m so jealous of yall who actually have tickets for a Falcons game…

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 03:24 PM | Link to this

A while back I read a post that a lurker posted after hours in reference to the stank attitude that some of the bloggers had on here toward new bloggers or occasional lurkers that may post. And the next day Mia mentioned it and most of the bloggers tried to down play it. But it seems that she was right on the money. What are the QUALIFICATIONS to be an acceptable blogger on here? This is not to everyone, because there are some people on here that welcome comments from the outside world, no offense to those. But please help me out here? And yes I am looking forward to the smarta-s-s answers that some of you are going to give.

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 03:25 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Das. Two healthy folks, a five pound tub of lard, a family reunion, some ivestock…you can’t ask for much more than that in TN. LOL Did y’all hear about the inmate’s wife shooting the officer in Tennessee? Just about 5 miles from where I grew up. Anybody want to take bets on whether or not he (and her) get captured alive?

By convincedsince77

August 9, 2005 03:26 PM | Link to this

Tix are still on sale!!!

By Wrenn

August 9, 2005 03:26 PM | Link to this

MsAP -that’s too funny…the georgia tech football players have some nice fannies might i add…i was a cheerleader in highschool so i’m able to follow the games and i agree playing those games will definitely help you follow along during the real deal…but it’s still fun to go to the superbowl parties cause the food is always awesome even if you don’t know what’s going on with the games.

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 03:27 PM | Link to this

oh, and Jrock, I ain’t backpedaling at all, I’m just not trying to offend anyone; I’m apologizing if my direct, to the point, observations are taken the wrong way, but in no means am I backpedalin’; nah, bruh!

By Carrington

August 9, 2005 03:28 PM | Link to this

Tazz -how are ya girlie? I am with you on the Zone’s food. It is pretty god for a sports bar. I do think that they are tryna take it a little too far and make it more like full course meals. That is where they mess up at…

TOS are we getting together for dinner during restaurant week this year?

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 03:34 PM | Link to this

Wrenn - I’ll keep my cheerleader comments to myself…LOL

I saw David Boston’s fine azz on the big screen last night…DAYUM!

Lemme check the website for tix…

By BlackIce

August 9, 2005 03:36 PM | Link to this

Hey Ivy!! Miss you back!!!

By Tray

August 9, 2005 03:37 PM | Link to this

Iggy just read a blurb on the tennessean. Should we call that “true” love or what???

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 03:37 PM | Link to this

MsAP - I don’t make it to ESPNZone during football season that often. I’m a season ticket holder and one of my friends has a projection TV in her basement for the away games (that we don’t go to).

But I will call you if I do go. Otherwise I’ll keep you on the invite for when I finally get my viewing room together.

I’m at home now waiting for the cable guy to hook up my flat screen. Now all I need is some furniture for folks to sit.

By Carrington

August 9, 2005 03:38 PM | Link to this

Ivy -let him have his light. He is tryna be that man for you -lol. He’ll come to his senses soon and hire someone….

By KIR

August 9, 2005 03:39 PM | Link to this

Ghost To your comment, I think that new people commenting on the blog is cool and adds to the discussion. BUT when people come out of lurking and immediately start blasting people or trying to call people out that is never going to get a good response from anyone. I have seen some new bloggers come out ready to point the finger because they have been reading the blog for awhile and that method doesn’t turn out well. The best way for a new blogger to comment is to just come on the blog and share their .02, not try to see how they can incite a response from others. that’s my .02.

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 03:43 PM | Link to this

@Ghost - just re-read all your posts and interactions with others here today. come again? who exactly has been mean to you? Not enough people say “Welcome Ghost”? what gives?

By Wrenn

August 9, 2005 03:43 PM | Link to this

Tazz & Carrington what did you guys eat at the Zone, maybe i’m missing something…but the drinks though were very good, i have to give em’ an a plus on that…

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 03:49 PM | Link to this

Hey Carrington - all is well, can’t complain.

Wrenn - I like their salads, the mixed field greens salad is very good. Then they have this tomato and mozzarella salad that’s pretty tasty. Their burgers are pretty good too. I haven’t tried their entrees because that type of food isn’t sports viewing food for me.

By MsAP

August 9, 2005 03:50 PM | Link to this

Tazz - Cool. Do you have to be on a long waiting list to get season tix?

con77 - All single game tix are sold out

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 03:50 PM | Link to this

No, DasKait that is not what I was saying. From what I read it seems like most of the regular bloggers interact or socialize with each other. I asked a simple question about someone that I noticed blogged every day at one time so I thought she was one of you all. Some one felt the need to post a smartass answer about sending her a email. And they posted under a fake name that made reference to my moniker of Ghost. So that let’s me know that it was a regular. I have noticed that happens a good bit on here to other lurkers or new bloggers. Just wondering.

By Ivy

August 9, 2005 03:55 PM | Link to this

Carrington, I’m down. When is restaurant week?

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 03:58 PM | Link to this

Ghost, despite what others say, man(or lady), speak your mind!!!…last I checked, noone had a monopoly on who could/could not post, and voice their opinions..hell, we were all newbies at one point in time; if your opinion just so happens to differ from the masses, so be it; you’re entitled to it! It kills me when folks talk about “how newbies gon come in here and do this, that, or the other” this is a public blog!!! Once it becomes exclusive, then those can can complain…

By convincedsince77

August 9, 2005 03:58 PM | Link to this

They have tix avail in a package deal up until the 11th. If you want the details I’ll email it to you.

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 04:01 PM | Link to this

MsAP - now the waiting list is very long. But they have these five game packs that they are selling right now. If you go to Ticketmaster they are listed as the Georgia Force Kickoff pkg and the Georgia Force touchdown pkg. You get 5 Falcons tickets and season tickets to the force with the package.

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 04:02 PM | Link to this

Das that reminds me of exactly what my definition of a desperate woman would be. I don’t know if any of you recall about 15 - 20 years ago (now my agei s showing) there was this guy in Brushy who got a public defender. He was a murderer and obviously very charismatic. One of the guys who i worked with at the bomb factory, his cousin was appointed to defend this guy. She starts keeping late nights, spending a lot of time on the case. Big day in court comes up. She brings a piece and springs him. They’re on the run for a couple of weeks before they get caught. To me, that is a desperate woman! The same thing happened not too long ago in Nashville with a jailer who sprung an inmate, but her pictures looked like she may have been in a dry spell. The lawyer who sprung the first guy was drop dead gorgeous.

Ghost welcome!

Everybody have a great evening if I don’t get back on here. Good night Babay Kitty, wherever you are!

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 04:03 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Ghost - I actually thought emailing babykitty was an excellent idea, in fact I did, telling her her presence was requested(and also told her what I posted about it)..have not heard back.

and no, it was not me who came up with ‘why don’t you email her?”. excellent idea though….never read by me as ‘smartass’….

but yes, if you have blogged with someone for 1.5 years and met, there will be a rapport that yes, quite frankly, you(GHOST) will NOT have. human nature.

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 04:06 PM | Link to this

I don’t know if my post got lost - but MsAP check out the Georgia Force Kickoff Pkg or Georgia Force TouchDown Pkg on ticketmaster. You get 5 Falcons tix and season tix to the Force. Those are still available.

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 04:10 PM | Link to this

Das, did you sign it “fat boy” so it would grab her attention? LOL Tray- mom still doing well?

By Ghost

August 9, 2005 04:13 PM | Link to this

DasKrait - Thanks for the explanation, but I didn’t think people used real email addresses on here. And no, I did not assume you made the comment, but I have an idea who did. Someone posted a couple of weeks ago and today also that every one has a voice and it shows when you read their tone of comment enough.

But oh well. Night folks.

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 04:17 PM | Link to this

LOL @ IG - wouldn’t matter if I was fat(which I am not), since she would be so so disappointed….but did mention in the email about her probably being in Nirvana….(if…)..>LOL

maybe she is out of town on vacation.

By Tray

August 9, 2005 04:18 PM | Link to this

went back to the Dr today, still has the infection however, the white blood count is getting better!They gave her another antibiotic and pain medicine and was told to rest, knowing how stubborn I am,(I had to get it from someone & it couldn’t be all Dad)she is not doing that part well. In a nutshell she is doing much better and we (my family) appreciate your thoughts!

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 04:19 PM | Link to this

anybody see FatBoy and LittleMan the other night on TV?

By abc

August 9, 2005 04:23 PM | Link to this

What do yall think of the NCAA banning teams that use names and mascots that may be offensive to Native Americans (i.e., Seminoles, etc.)?

I think it rocks… but I wonder what they might rename Florida State… the Palmetto Bugs? snort, guffaw!

The original name of the Nebraska Football team was Bugeaters. Too embarassing I guess, so they changed it to —- Cornhuskers?!? Hmmmm

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 04:28 PM | Link to this

ABC Seminoles …..offensive? that’s an actual Tribe!

By Carrington

August 9, 2005 04:31 PM | Link to this

MsAP The 5 game packages are actually not that bad. I am thinking about getting me some. That is actually the only way you can get any tickets. The Force games are pretty cool also.

Ivy -restaurant week is the 15th thru the 21st. I’ll e-mail you the link.

Wrenn I like the salads and the chicken sandwiches. Tried the dinner food -as I said, they may be getting a bit ahead of themselves with that.

C77 -how are you….

By 2 can play that game

August 9, 2005 04:32 PM | Link to this

Redskins, maybe, but not them Noles!!!!

By 4 big brothas

August 9, 2005 04:33 PM | Link to this

It seems to me too (as someone mentioned earlier) that this is a public forum but people get touchy when new comers blog. Don’t want anybody else to play in the sandbox? And to KIR and TAZZEE, it ain’t coming on her blasting. Just because you’ve been active in commenting does that make Mia’s misadventures less stupid? Just because I’m not a regular blogger doesn’t make me less intelligent and unable to figure out Mia sometimes attract negativity. If you think that only a regular blogger should be privy to “seeing” some of the misadventures then I guess there’s a helmet and seat reserved for you as well. Or could it be that my comments hit close to home? Not trying to dog or make enemies, but yep it’s true, if you ain’t a regular you are as good as ghost and not welcomed!

By abc

August 9, 2005 04:34 PM | Link to this

Yeah, right, it is… but the actual tribe apparently doesn’t dig being a mascot for a university. They don’t think it properly represents them. The Braves and Indians baseball teams have gotten the same flack before.

By convincedsince77

August 9, 2005 04:35 PM | Link to this

Hi Carrington, I’m good and you?

By abc

August 9, 2005 04:36 PM | Link to this

… I guess the Seminoles were specifically cited by the NCAA, 17 teams were in all

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 04:42 PM | Link to this

As a Native American, I would be much happier if they gave land back to the tribes and offered an apology for past travesties rather than worrying about what a sports team is named. Now if it were a losing sports team…LOL

Das fat man and little boy, the plant I worked at in the past is where they were put together. (I can’t say anything else much about that process without the risk of spooks and goons showing up at the house). As powerful and destructive as those weapons were, they do not hold a light to what is out there today. If you want a definition of sheer insanity, look at the world’s nuclear stockpile. Enough to destroy the earth many times over and then what does the most devestation to us as a nation since WWII (not counting Dumbya)? 18 men and two hijacked airplanes. I used to hear arguments about dterrent this, offensive that, and now they worry about a independant mad man getting hold of one. OK, OK, off my soapbox. They guys who used to work in assembly, their biggest joke was when the new folks were being taken on a tour, they had a dummy caseing they would put on a forklift. The folks would be listening to the awesome power of these weapons, and then the caseing would start to roll off the forklift. The jokers would scatter and then laugh their azzes off. That place always had a peculiar smell…LOL

Tray glad your Mom is doing better. Stubborn or not.

By Buzzworthy

August 9, 2005 04:43 PM | Link to this

I mostly lurk and only post once or twice a month. I’ve never had any issues. And sometimes the regulars like Wise diva even give high fives to newbies like me. However i do think that regular participation in the discourse gives an opinion more validity. There is a lot of background info that is discussed which newbies may now always know.

By Tazzee

August 9, 2005 04:45 PM | Link to this

4 big brothers - get your panties out of a bunch, I just said I ignored your negative comments. You can comment all you want - that doesn’t mean I need to respond to them. When I think you’ve said something comment worthy I’ll say something.

But I’ve never said folks aren’t welcome on the blog - if your ‘welcomeness’ is dependent on me commenting to you, you are giving me entirely too much power.

By Tray

August 9, 2005 04:46 PM | Link to this

well its close to the blog being closed, another day of conversation down. what will tomorrow bring, who will jump on who, will we have a mediator? In the big realm of life, does it really matter? We come, we blog, we learn….right???

By Wise Diva

August 9, 2005 04:51 PM | Link to this

I am a slacker! I used to make it a point to welcome new people, even if they irked the hell out of me, LOL.

I will do better, please forgive me?

Hiya Carrington! How is lil Carrington doing? Is he back to school yet?

Tray, I finally caught up last night and read about your mom, and I prayed for her. It is SO great to see her recovering!

By DasKrait2

August 9, 2005 04:52 PM | Link to this

@IG - seeing them meant something to me, I have been on Tinian where they were loaded onto the two B-29s, there is a plaque for each over a hole in the runway they were put into before hoisting up.

By Wise Diva

August 9, 2005 04:57 PM | Link to this

oh and I must say that Psycho Belle and Ignatius simply rawk in my book! I LOOOOVE reading your comments, here and on RF! I am happy to see you post every.single.time. Keep it coming, even when you are swamped, blogging comes first! LOL…ok kidding.

Have a wonderful evening EVERYONE!

By MissUnderstood

August 9, 2005 04:58 PM | Link to this

Wow fam I sure have missed a lot today. Y is it that GA… nevermind, lets just say hmmm….. At anyrate, I hope u guys enjoy the rest of your week and I hope to read ya when I wake up, or get home. Hopefully there’s a PC near my room, if not then I’ll read ya when I get home.

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 05:01 PM | Link to this

Das they had peace protests marking the anniversary in Oak Ridge this past weekend. One of the guys was a Nagasaki survivor who was 3 or 4 when the bomb was dropped. I feel like at the time it was probably the best option, but then the cold war, the arms race, it just spiraled out of control. They also had a Buddhist monk there who had walked the 300+ miles from the Savannah River Site. If ever you want to see two opposing sides with no middle ground, that’s the rally to attend. Having been there, I can see both sides. Living somewhere with options, I take the side of the protesters. I can go on all night about the dirty tricks, the lies and deciet that surrounded those operations, but I can also comment on the fathers of the event, Oppenheimer, Einstein, countless people who sacrificed and like everything else in life, it all kind of evens out in the end. You all have a great night! See you tomorrow! D1 where have you been hiding dear?

By aggressively witty

August 9, 2005 05:02 PM | Link to this

I know its wrong and I am sorry to my native american brothers in the struggle but damnit I loves me some redskins. HAILLL TO THE REDSKINNNNSSSSS HAIL VICTORYYYYYYY

If its any solace, I got just as much love for Captain morgan and as far as i can tell any captain who dealt in rum pretty much was a slave trader. Cursed good rum, I can see why some of them kings sold they people.

“lemme get this straight, you gonna give me 4,000 barrels (sp?) of liquid fire for 40 people that was from another tribe that I was using for nothing anyway? In the words of DL hughley, normally I wouldnt do this….but go head, keep the party going”

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 05:03 PM | Link to this

MissU best wishes! Lots of prayers for you! Get well soon!

By Ignatius

August 9, 2005 05:06 PM | Link to this

I meant three hijacked planes. My mistake and my apolgies to those who lost families in PA. Your loved ones were true heros amongst common infidels.

Wise YOU all are the ones who rock! I love you folks.