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Breaking up with a psycho
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
It seems to be an all too familiar tragedy we see in the news. Woman leaves man, man attacks, kills, or disfigures the woman. The saying, hell has no fury like a woman scorned, certainly rings true when an ex-girlfriend or betrayed woman goes on a rampage to exact revenge. What causes people to detach from reality like this?
What do you think is the best way to break up with someone who has shown to be “unstable” or aggressive? Have you ever dated someone who didn’t handle your break up too well?
Breakups should be handled with extreme care when you aren’t sure how they are going to react. What would you put in a breakup guide to minimize the trauma?
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The Future Freaks Me Out
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Thanks to the wonders of modern technology, I was watching the band Motion City Soundtrack perform a show live on the internet recently.
One of my favorite songs is The Future Freaks Me Out:
From an era we hate to admit we embrace
We fail to represent
We fail to be content
We fail at everything we ever even try to attempt
And so the story goes
As only Betty knows
It’s time to take control
Every time another birthday rolls around, I get all contemplative and introspective about my life. This year, I was in the midst of clashing with a certain gentleman who turned out to NOT be a good match for me. As we were mid-argument, I thought to myself, “Why do I bother with this?” I mean at that moment, I had no idea why I was expending energy on dating!
Earlier that day, I was wondering what my next move should be in life. Husband and children are still in the optional category. Happiness and personal fulfillment? Still considered mandatory! I won’t trade it in to have a marriage and children because I don’t think I should have to!
Do you guys ever get freaked out about your future? Does it ever affect how you handle relationships? Do you think that responsibility, expectations, and obligations prevent a lot of us from attempting to grow up? Do you think we fail at being content, as the song says?
I think it is time to draft a single girl manifesto to remind me about my personal goals, intentions and principles. What do you think you would put in your own manifesto?
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The Little Black(Berry) Book
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Recently, I was talking to friends about former playboys who finally marry after years of playing the field and breaking hearts. I started to think about the men that I know who used to enjoy their bachelorhood so much. When they decided to settle down and turn in their little black book, I wonder how they handled the “sacrifice” of other women.
I think women probably have similar adjustments to make when they decide to forsake all others too. I know it seems that all women are ready to dash down the aisle, but even if that were true, we still have to come to terms with letting go of the single life.
So how do you know that the time is right to retire your little black book? Maybe it would be easier to outline when it is NOT the right time:
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Bad Boys: Just Misunderstood?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I am starting to think that bad boys get a bad rap. Just because a man has a little bit of edge and slickness to his “image” doesn’t necessarily mean he is a heart breaker. I think women can stereotype guys rather harshly, especially in Atlanta.
There are admittedly some very flashy dudes on the dating scene. A lot of the single men are polished, cultured, wealthy, and they have a perception of their social stock on the dating market. Some guys let this go to their heads and take it a bit far. However, I think others are just very mindful about not being the “needy guy” so they are sending a message that they are no pushover. How many times have I heard my “edgy” guy friends proclaim that they refuse to “trip over some broad”.. a lot!
So what do you guys think, what is a bad boy? Do you think some men are unfairly labeled as a bad boy?
Ladies, do you prefer the bad boy type with a little edge? How much of a bad boy are you willing to tango with? How do you engage them when it comes to getting their attention and keeping it?
Guys, do you scoff at the stereotype of bad boys? Have you ever had a reputation as a bad boy?
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Back to basics
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Good morning!
Today will be my last entry on the MIA blog! I’ve enjoyed navigating the dating scene with all of you for the past year!
I find myself wondering what, if anything, I’ve learned about my dating life in the past year. And it’s this: always go back to the fundamentals. The basic things I knew to be true four years ago are still true, and it’s only when I stray away from those that I find myself unhappy with my dating situation.
FUNDAMENTAL #1: Be choosy about who you date. I found myself questioning some precautions I’d been taking in dating this year, wondering if I was being too picky about who I let into my heart. But as soon as I let my guard down, BAM! I got my heart jerked around. I need to be picky by acknowledging any red flags from the get-go, because it always ends up saving me a lot of emotional trauma later.
FUNDAMENTAL #2: Dating is easy. You call, you go out, you have a good time. Rinse and repeat. Any confusion, pain, or otherwise negative feelings associated with this process simply means they’re not into you. (Actual relationships, including marriage, are a little more complicated. But nothing should be difficult during the dating process!)
FUNDAMENTAL #3: Trust your gut. It’s a cliché, but we don’t really trust our own instincts sometimes. If you think he’s cheating, he probably is. If you think she slept with your friend, she probably did. If you think that hottie giving you the sizzle eyes is trouble, he or she probably is. This concept applies to almost every situation, yet sometimes I’m so goo-goo-eyed “in like” or in love that I forget how effective it is!
What sort of dating fundamentals would you add to this list — things you’ve known for a long time but sometimes have to remind yourself of? Possibly things your family or friends taught you a long time ago or things you learned the hard way? What basics do you always go back to after years of dating?
Happy Friday and happy dating everyone!
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