Q: I'm afraid that my new boss may have unrealistic expectations about my abilities.
I worked for three different managers in this company, who all put very favorable comments in my personnel file. Then I was assigned to a new supervisor, "Ms. Jones."
Eighteen months later, Ms. Jones eliminated my job with no explanation and said I was being laid off. I immediately applied for two vacant positions and was hired by "Mr. Smith." After Ms. Jones heard about this, she said, "Mr. Smith will soon find out that you don't walk on water."
When I told the human resources manager about this remark, she said that my previous managers' glowing appraisals create the impression that I can do anything and everything. I asked if these comments could be removed from my personnel file so as not to give people the wrong idea, but she said no.
Now I'm worried that Mr. Smith, my new boss, may be expecting too much of me. I don't want to disappoint him or lose another job. How can I lower expectations without seeming unprofessional?
A: You want to take the good stuff out of your personnel file because it's too positive. Now there's a problem I've never heard before.
Don't try to redefine your successful work history just because you couldn't please Ms. Jones. Your track record clearly indicates that her reaction was an anomaly, so forget about her and start preparing for the future.
To avoid disappointing your new manager, you need a clear understanding of his expectations. Ask Mr. Smith how he defines "success" in your job, then clarify the specific goals and objectives for your position.
If you feel ill-prepared for any aspect of this new role, figure out what you need in order to get through the learning curve. Agree with your boss on a development plan, and meet with him regularly to assess your progress.
If you're as good as your former bosses say, you should be fine. The unfortunate encounter with Ms. Jones has shaken your self-confidence, but a few successes will bring it back.
Q: I want to know if I should tell my boss that I'm looking for another job. My company's business is decreasing, our pay has been slashed and recently one of my co-workers was laid off. I've always been able to talk openly with my manager, but lately his personality has changed. What should I do?
A: Honesty is commendable, but complete disclosure is often foolish.
If the higher-ups learn that you may be leaving, they will start considering how to get along without you. You then might find yourself at the top of the next layoff list.
Also, some managers unfairly view employee departures as personal betrayal. If you change your mind and decide to stay, your boss might never forgive you.
So keep your job-search information to yourself. Politically intelligent people never tell anyone at work that they intend to leave until they have secured new positions.
- Marie G. McIntyre is an Atlanta-based workplace coach. Her weekly column is syndicated by Knight Ridder/Tribune News Service. Send questions at www.yourofficecoach.com.