Holiday Blog

By Love You Short Time

December 14, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

Drop her now, spend the money on yourself, buy the girl sitting next to you at the bar a couple shots and have a one-night stand. Joy to the world!

By mine not yours

December 14, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

I have a lot of guy friends that will end a relationship because they don’t want to buy gifts…I think it’s stupid..If you don’t want to spend the money..don’t exchange gifts

By DreamsMaterialize

December 14, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

If you know the break-up is inevitable, then don’t prolong it. Save yourselves some gift money, as well as the extended heartache. There are exceptions though. I waited until after the holiday to break up with someone before because she didn’t have any family, and the holidays can be a difficult time to spend alone.

By lovelyliz

December 14, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

When I was on a business trip in mid December a couple of years ago, a much younger male colleague asked me to go shopping with him. He wants some advice on what to get his girlfriend. In my opinion, he went overboard based on his budget, but her loved her so that was his right.

We got back into town on a Thursday. Instead of waiting until Christmas, he gave her those gifts on Friday. They celebrated on Saturday, but when he showed up to the office on Monday looking bummed out.

She had broken up with him on Sunday AND kept all the gifts. The worst part is that by the end of the week he fond out, from her friends mind you, that she had intended to break it off, but deliberately waited until she got her stash.

Lesson learned I hope.

By G

December 14, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Classic dating occurance…..Men try to get one last “tango”, break-up, and save that money (especially when things are rocky)…..Women try to keep it together to squeeze out a free gift and not to be alone during the holidays.

By lindz

December 14, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

I am in this very situation right now! I decided I wanted to break up with my boyfriend of two years and couldn’t decide if I should wait til after the holidays or do it before. I ended up doing it on the Saturday after Thanksgiving to save both of us from having to buy gifts AND to save myself from feeling guilty and miserable, trying to fake my way through the holiday. It really is better to rip off the band-aid quickly. Plus that gives me a little time for it to sink in and hopefully I won’t be totally miserable and alone on Christmas. Anyone out there looking for a cute, single, 29 year old redhead with a good job?? Hee hee!!

By Nannie Pie

December 14, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

I’m “older” and have an older male friend for almost a year; we live several miles apart but managed to spend a couple of weekends a month together. Haven’t seen him since Thanksgiving, he is so “busy”. I know exactly what he is doing; avoiding me until after Christmas so he won’t have to buy me a gift. The guy is retired and has plenty, but so tight when we go out to eat it is always with a coupon; OR, we have to share a sandwich. I’m done with him. He isn’t worth my time nor money !

By cc

December 14, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

whatever happen to Love? do people really love one another anymore to where the gifts dont really matter, just the time off from work to finally spend the morning making whoopee, eating breakfast, making whoopee again and then going to see a few kin folks, going back home to make whoopee again……..gosh, i miss the good ole days….

By mine not yours

December 14, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

* It must be nice to have whoopee* but w/ that comes kids that won’t allow you to make whooppee

By Brooklyn

December 14, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

I broke up with my bf last week. I didnt want to go thru the logistics of buying gifts and faking it just cuz its the holiday’s. It gives me the opportunity to start the New Year’s fresh. That’s the way I look at it :)

By K-duece

December 14, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

This is for Lindz…the question is are you looking for a cute 29 year old with a good job?? If so, we should talk

By Sincerely yours

December 14, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

Nannie Pie, good for you! I’ve been there and done it with cheap men, who want you to go dutch then expect to clean your plate if you can’t finish your meal. I can afford my own way, but it’s nice for a guy to make you feel special now and then. I’d rather have dinner with girl friends! Let the cheapster spend Christmas alone.

By Starting Over

December 14, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

Nannie Pie Sure we are/were not dating the same person…

By Anne

December 14, 2007 5:27 PM | Link to this

Here’s one for you all….I was friends with a couple…very much in love (or so we all thought)…did lots of really neat things together. They finally got married and lived happily? for 11 years. He decided to take her to Austria for Christmas. Did the whole chalet, sleigh ride, etc thing the week after Thanksgiving. They were gone for 10 days to what she described as a wonderful time. Once back home and on Christmas Eve….she drops the bomb on him….honey, I want a divorce. You see, I’m in love with a woman I work with and we want to try to see if we can make a relationship work. Sorry! Needless to say, this great guy was single for a long time after that!!!!

By E

December 14, 2007 5:38 PM | Link to this

Once I dumped a guy right before the holidays because I didn’t want to date him anymore and didn’t feel like buying him anything. Another time I knew things were ending with a guy, so I suggested we both take the money we were going to use for each other and buy gifts for Toys For Tots. He dumped me the day before New Year’s Eve. But at least some kids got gifts and not him! :)

By E

December 14, 2007 5:39 PM | Link to this

Once I dumped a guy right before the holidays because I didn’t want to date him anymore and didn’t feel like buying him anything. Another time I knew things were ending with a guy, so I suggested we both take the money we were going to use for each other and buy gifts for Toys For Tots. He dumped me the day before New Year’s Eve. But at least some kids got gifts and not him! :)

By fullofsecrets

December 14, 2007 6:16 PM | Link to this

It is in very poor taste to break up during the holidays. One should give a gift that at least acknowledges the feeling that you once had for the person and what you saw in them, and then, if things are ending, at least wait until a month after the holiday or so to tactfully conclude the relationship. Be as classy as you can be through the entire process.

By COforCollege

December 14, 2007 8:46 PM | Link to this

Wow got to love the timing, I am dealing with that right now. I thought I liked this girl I am currently dating here but I have come to realize I really don’t. She has already given me a gift so I do plan on giving her something of about equal value. I am probably going to break up with her once I am back in Atlanta.

By No Name

December 17, 2007 7:26 AM | Link to this

I end a relationship when the relationship is no longer happly for me. It makes no difference the day or date. Its over, then its over. I just end it right then and there.

By Lindz

December 17, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this

To K-deuce: I AM a cute 29 year old with a good job!! ;D I am definitely looking for another cute 29 year old (guy) with a good job… is that you?? Does it really exist?? ;)

By jill

December 17, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this

I broke up with a guy I had dated for 2 years on Valentine’s Day. Sounds cold, but we never did anything special on that day because we agreed it’s just commercial BS. Still, looking back on it, that was probably a bad idea. It’s bad enough he got dumped, and then he’s got the rest of the day to wallow and think about it. Get this, though: We actually said, “Let’s just be friends,” and we took it seriously! We still keep in touch.

By Nannie Pie

December 17, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

Starting Over: We probably are dating the same one ! I’ve known him for years and we’ve been thru this before.

By FCM

December 17, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

hmm….on the 2 occasions that I did break up near the holidays, I gave the gift that I had purchased for the person even after we broke up. Both of these gentlemen had something for me as well….nothing big, crazy, or expensive…just someting in both cases that remind me of the person. I did not stay or break up due to the gift buying thing.

On the flip, several occasions have occurred where the guy I was currently seeing drops off the face of the earth or breaks up right before a holiday/birthday. Then starts sniffing around after that present exchange is avoided—-here’s a free idea…if you haven’t known them long tell them that you think its too soon to do a gift exchange…If you’ve been loving up to now and think its time to cool of a little something may be appropriate or not depending…but to break it off just to not have to put effort into a gift???? Honey you deserve to be history! If you are hanging on just to get a gift then you are just a greedy person.

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By Starting Over

December 17, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Nannie Pie I think there must be someone else just like us. I have not seen him since Thanksgiving either. HAHAHA