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By NaninGA

December 23, 2008 8:21 AM | Link to this

My daughter got one of these last year from a friend and the whole idea was nothing but trouble. Ours was a “naughty” elf, since that was what the neighbor’s was. I played along once, making a mess with toilet paper “snow” (and having to clean it up)and thought that would be the end of it. My daughter thought we’d play this game every day during the school break and was upset and in tears when I told her no. The whole elf thing was apparently designed by some parent with way too much free time, or the desire to keep the Santa myth going long past when kids have grown out of it, and it just sets kids up for disappointment when parents don’t want to play along.

By Tig

December 23, 2008 8:23 AM | Link to this

I’ve had friends who have done the elf thing, but I’m with you on the ‘seems like too much hassle’ to set things up like that, especially since my daughter is 4 and probably wouldn’t care less, lol.

I do, however, enjoy looking at pictures from things that others have done with theirs!

By DM

December 23, 2008 8:55 AM | Link to this

Wow… never even heard of this practice. But I wouldn’t do it if I had. Agree with Theresa … way too much trouble and hassle.

By Jesse's Girl

December 23, 2008 8:58 AM | Link to this

Honestly…I have never heard of this.

By LS

December 23, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this

I have no children, but a co-worker recently told me about the Elf on the Shelf. Another ridiculous way for parents to lie to to their children, and detract from the true Christmas Story.

By Becky

December 23, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this

Another stupid thing for someone to get rich off of..

By MILF Hunter

December 23, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

Morning ladies.

If you get the “real” Elf on the Shelf…..the one where you as the parent simply move the Elf to a different location in your house each night you will be very surprised at how responsive the little ones will be.

I think the Elf is a great behavior modification device.

It works for my little girl.

By EC

December 23, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

I’m sorry, but I just don’t like the idea of having another Christmas tale to tell my kids. I sometimes feel a little guilty about the Santa thing, but I finally told my oldest that Santa really is the “spirit of giving.” But this Elf on a Shelf thing is just another way for Moms to get stressed out and wound up during the holiday season. No thanks!

By MILF Hunter

December 23, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

Hey Becky how you doin?

By new mom

December 23, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this

My MIL got this for us, so we could ‘start the tradition’. She thought it was the best thing she’d ever seen. Yippee. I get to move the elf every night, so our baby girl can not notice it? No thanks. It’s still in the box, with the $29.95 price tag still on it. I think it’s crazy and a ripoff, and unless I didn’t know my MIL, I’d wonder who on earth would ever spend that much money on it.

Someday we might put him out as a decoration, but we’ll never go to the lengths they say to go to.

By MILF Hunter

December 23, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

Some of you ladies need to have a little more imagination I think. Is it really so hard to move a little stuffed Elf to different places around your house each night to give the illusion to your kid that he flies back to the North Pole to report back to Santa?

Seriously…..are you THAT lazy?

By billl

December 23, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this

Many of the kids in my daughter’s kindergarten class talk to each other about their elves and what they’ve been doing at home. The teacher was afraid that my daughter would feel excluded and sent a note home explaining the whole thing. But our daughter has never mentioned it to us, even with some prodding. She doesn’t seem to care. I also think she would be utterly terrified if she thought one of her toys came to life while she was asleep. Personally I think the idea is horrible. Who dreamt this up anyway? Have they ever watched any of the “Chucky” movies?? Hello???

By ebaby

December 23, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

I had never heard of this Elf story. It sounds king of cute… maybe next year when my girl is older and can understand a little more. This year we are trying to teach her that Santa Clause is this dude that brings her presents and might take her pacifier in exchange.

By I'm Not Lazy

December 23, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

It’s not that I’m lazy, but I have other things to do to teach, share and enjoy the true meaning of Christmas. I don’t want to teach my children that they should behave a certain way because an elf is watching, but because it’s the right thing to do.

Must go now. The kids and I are baking cookies to share with the neighbors. Christmas is about giving!

By new mom

December 23, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

It’s not laziness that doesn’t get me excited about the elf on the shelf, trust me. It’s disinterest. 1. the elf is not attractive, it looks cheap…I think of the 30 bucks they charge for the entire boxed set, about $1.50 went into the actual elf. 2. Kids have been believing for years that Santa knows if you’ve been bad or good…Why do we suddenly need an additional prop?

Unlike others I’ve read, I have nothing against Santa. I think you can teach about the true meaning of Christmas and also use Santa as an example of giving to others unselfishly. I just think the elf story is not necessary. What’s next, a reindeer that sits in the yard, making sure that darn elf flies off each night? Come on….

By ebaby

December 23, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

I just went back and re-read all of the earlier posts. I think the elf idea is fine, but buying a doll seems dumb. Isnt the whole point of these Christmas tales that you can never actually see anyone? And making someone else rich on something that YOU have to actually do the work for? I wouldnt buy the toy, but just do a few pranks around the house.

By Numbers Guy

December 23, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

This is a new one for me. I understand and agree with the Santa thing as a part of childhood, but this? This sounds like way too much effort for very little return.

I also agree with billl - if the boy thought his toys were meandering around and DOING THINGS while he was asleep, I’m pretty sure he’d freak directly out.

By Kathy

December 23, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

First of all…..MILF HUNTER - if you are going to turn today’s topic into a sex-filled flirt fest with Becky, go away now. Last week was just ridiculous. This is PARENTING blog!

Now back on topic….my friend is doing the Elf with her boys to get them to behave and it is just not working. If your kids normally have behavior issues an Elf watching them is not going to magically cure them of these issues! I am trying to get away from the whole “Santa only brings presents to good kids” issue. I want my daughter to know that she will get gifts at Christmas because she is loved, not because she is “good”. The Elf is a huge waste of $30 if you ask me.

By MILF Hunter

December 23, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

To each his own I suppose. I know i’m running out of places in my house to hide the Elf but it is so worth it each morning when my little girl wakes up all excited to go downstairs to find the Elf’s new hiding place.

Teaching to give is fine but it is also very important to find creative ways to foster your child’s imagination.

By love it

December 23, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

I have one … and it is not just a doll, it also has a book, activity book, etc. If you use it as intended (not as evil or good, etc.) it is a wonderful, creative thing - not time consuming at all - not sure who would want to use it as evil, that seems a bit “weird” to me … but to each her own I guess …. the book is very entertaining, the kids get to name the elf, search each morning for him, wisper to him messages to santa, etc. - as far as those who don’t want to “lie” to their kids - get a grip - it’s christmas, my kids certainly know the true meaning of christmas, but a little fantasy never hurt us when we were growing up did it? They have many years to deal with the harsh reality of life, why start so young??

I would gladly spend the $30 again - I think you should research this before commenting ….

By Melissa

December 23, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

I have a 7 year old daughter and a 4 year old son. Our Elf- Cutie Pie is not mischevious, he just travels a lot. Both of the kids get up in the mornings looking for Cutie Pie. Our son even asked Cutie Pie to come to his room the next morning and was so excited when the Elf complied. Our elf doesn’t do good things or bad things, but still manages to keep the Magic of Christmas alive.

By kaw

December 23, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

My girls love the Elf on the Shelf. All I have to do is move it to a new location before I go to bed. Not sure why people think the elf is good or naughty. Our elf just reports to Santa each night. My girls love it and it is a nice Christmas Tradition for us.

By wrkgma3

December 23, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

I had never heard of this Elf of a Shelf until yesterday when I was with my 6 and 5 year old daughters at Learning Express at West Cobb.

I really didn’t quite know what it was and figured it was another way for me and their dad to waste holiday money as I continued to slink past the shelf.

After reading this blog, I am SO glad we didn’t fall for this gimmick. I mean really, give me a break. An elf who goes back to the North Pole to report to Santa every night??

I have an older child who just “realized” the significance of the Santa story and the tooth fairy. Would this mean I’d have to continue to fudge the truth about an Elf too?? I think not.

It’s sad however, that in all these blogs, no one has mentioned the birth of Christ, your Saviour and Mine. THAT is the true meaning of Christmas. Please remember that Jesus is the reason for the season— cliche or not.

Merry Christmas to all!

By faye

December 23, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

Like many others, I have never heard of this, but my “babies” are 18 and 21, so I’m guessing it’s new.

This thread did remind of something similar, though - when my 18 year old was in kindergarten, he came home with a story of how the elves put candy in their shoes during naptime - I guess it’s some tradition from a European country. Well, you guessed it - a new tradition for our family was born! It was a bit of a pain to buy the candy and to remember to put it in the shoes each night (not to mention being careful to keep the chocolate from the dog) but it was fun. I would never go about making messes and then cleaning up after myself, though - that’s a little nuts!

By Clyde

December 23, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

No elf here.I’ve thought it over and I can’t imagine having an elf.

By Patty

December 23, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

My family loves the Elf on a Shelf, but then entertaining our daughter is rarely thought of as a hassle. If it is too much work for you then don’t do it. There is no need to whine about it. While you are at it you should probably not bother to wrap presents or decorate the house. Those things seem like a hassle too.

Thanks for a little bit of Christmas bitterness Theresa, may you have the lazy Christmas you are wishing for.

PS Birthdays are a lot of work too. Let your kids know that they have been cancelled.

By Lauren

December 23, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

Wow, some parents really don’t let their kids enjoy Christmas. Life is too short to be so serious all the time. My family has the Elf on Shelf. All we did was name it and my husband and I move it around each night. If you ask my kids the meaning of Christmas, they will quickly reply the birth of Jesus. We just like to have fun in our house at Christmas time.

By new mom

December 23, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

OK, my husband just told me that his mother asked him if we were doing the elf thing she bought us. Our daughter is 15 MONTHS OLD!! Come on, we’d have to put it so high and out of her reach that she’d never even see it or notice it! His mother also decided to get her a tricycle for Christmas…I think our MIL thinks our daughter is 4 years old. She sees her so infrequently, I suppose she forgot how big she is (or isn’t).

OK, I have some issues with my MIL. I fess up. But come on, she thinks we’re going to do the elf thing with a 15 month old? Well, I was just informed that I woke up on the wrong side of the bed… :) Merry Christmas!

By Jinxo

December 23, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

I find the Elf on the Shelf really kind of creepy. This thing is constantly “spying” on the poor child. Sounds like the Orwell Family Christmas Special. My wife bought one and I suggested naming it “Beria”.

By Erin

December 23, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

My daughter’s 1st grade and 2nd grade teachers have an elf in their classrooms. My daughter reported the elf’s new location every day. I bought one when one of her friends suggested my daughter leave out some crackers and an ice-cold glass of water for the elf. She did, and the elf showed up. We move the elf every night and my daughter loves it! My husband and I like thinking of new places to move it and position it, but we would never set up all those scenarios. That’s a little much.

I am fretting a little over how it can travel with us and still disappear on Christmas Eve.

By Jinxo

December 23, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

I find the Elf on the Shelf really kind of creepy. This thing is constantly “spying” on the poor child. Sounds like the Orwell Family Christmas Special. My wife bought one and I suggested naming it “Beria”. She wasn’t amused.

By MILF Hunter

December 23, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

@ Kathy

The topic we were discussing that day was sex and that is what I was discussing.

If you are unsatisfied with your sex lif let me suggest that you not take it out on me.

By Stacey

December 23, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

I first heard of Elf On A Shelf last year from a coworker. Like MILF Hunter’s, hers simply reported to Santa whether her toddlers (3 & 4 at the time) were good or naughty that day. For her boys, it explained the whole “he sees you when you’re sleeping” thing. She said it also served as a behavior modification tool for the older child since he truly believed the elf was a spy for Santa. For her, moving the elf became a part of her nightly “wind down” routine after the boys were in bed.

By PHR

December 23, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

I think the Elf on the shelf is a really cute idea. We don’t have one, but I’ve thought about getting one. My son’s teacher also had one at school and it moved around the room. The kids had a contest to see who could find it first.

I’m with you, Theresa, that it is not going to make a mess so that I have to clean it up. NO WAY! My 6 year old son can make plenty of messes without any help.

By What About Dads

December 23, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Elf on the Shelf….I find it to be a great concept. I do not see it as telling lies to children, it is an imagination building exercise and gets children more interested in Christmas.

I have no issues telling my child about Santa Claus, all the gifts do not have to come from mommy and daddy. I do not feel I have to take credit for everything in my child’s life. I know he will love my wife and I the same whether we give all the gifts or Santa gives some too.

We have the Elf on the Shelf and take two (yes, count them, one….two….) minutes to move the elf to a different location in the house every night. It really does not take a great deal of effort. The hardest part is moving him to a new and exciting location. Our son absolutely loves getting up every morning and searching for his little red friend (Quiggley, yes, we actually named him…gasp).

I enjoy starting new holiday traditions with my three year old son and this was perfect for our family. As much money as people spend on children, the price of Elf on the Shelf is a drop in the bucket to stir creativity and imagination. Whatever happened to family traditions and taking time with the family. Unfortunately, that is what is wrong with society as a whole, we do not spend enough time together as a family unit and build traditions to pass down from generation to generation.

I realize this is the MOMania blog, however, all the posts appear to me as if you are all single mothers? I personally take care of the Elf and move him around, it all does not have to fall on the mother’s shoulders.

Merry Christmas! Jesus is the reason for the season!

By On MILF's side this time

December 23, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

Kathy - MILF has been pretty topic appropriate. So back off him. I love this idea. But of course, and none of you with “wee ones” should need to be told that this is age appropriate. Otherwise, you are just entertaining yourself with it and that is just weird. So, if your kids are old enough and moving a little elf around the house makes them smile, then go for it. Sounds great. But spending $29.95 on one…that is just ridiculous. I think anything Christmas oriented could be used. Even a stuffed Santa. Watch out for commercialism…THAT is the worst enemy of Christmas, not lack of “true meaning” (get over yourselves), not all of us are religious oriented and on board with your “baggage” and just want our kids to enjoy the fun. So enjoy it, or get off the fun train.

By mel

December 23, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

This is our 1st year of the Elf on the Shelf tradition and my son LOVES it. He gets so excited to find his elf in a different spot each morning! The book is perfect & my son enjoys reading it, it’s educational & FUN!

By Mike In Woodstock

December 23, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

My kid keeps asking for the new CD from a group called “Faith + One”. Can’t seem to find it anywhere. Must be a big seller. Some kind of Christian rock band that’s making it real big.

By LoveDaElf

December 23, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Our Elf just sits and observes. Every day or two he moves to a new spot. But we make sure that we tell the kids that the Elf knows if you’re being bad, regardless of whether or not he’s in the same room. Defeats the purpose of physically moving him around, I know. However, he gets that air of livelihood that helps solidify the legitimacy.

By Angie

December 23, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

We have the elf dolls and it really stimulates my kids (4 and 7) imagination. All we do is move them around and they come up with what they are trying to do. We put them head first into the stockings one night and my kids decided they were checking to see how much room there was so they could let Santa know what to bring. When I finally got around to wrapping Christmas presents one afternoon when they did not know I was home, they assumed that the elves did it. Yes, it takes a little effort, but when the first words from my 4 year old each day are “let’s go see what the elves did last night”, the look on his face is worth all of it.

By BuzzFactor

December 23, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

What a joke. The problem with these things is that Momma-A sets up scenes with it, Momma-B just moves it around and Momma-C leaves gifts and goodies with it. Now it’s turned into a “my elf did this, but Billy’s elf did this. Why Mommy?” There’s enough commercialism to Christmas already, this isn’t needed.

By Pen

December 23, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

We bought our girls elves last year. They are not the Elf of a Shelf, but a $10 elf I got somewhere else. They have stayed with us all year. They have not made a single mess, but have been found in interesting and mischievious places, but have never caused trouble. We just adopted a 10 year old (and we have another 10 yr old). Each Christmas could be the last magically one they have. The adopted daughter had already had the magic stripped from her Christmases. We’ve been able add some of it back with the elves.

By On MILF's side this time

December 23, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

What about Dads. Nobody prevents Dads or anybody from posting on this blog. You seem to assume that there are alot of single moms on here. That is interesting. I am a Mom and I can’t tell the single Mom’s from the non-single Mom’s. So that comment was very interesting. If you want to tell you “Dad friends” and they want to join in, go for it. The more the merrier.

By JATL

December 23, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

What a rip! My mother always just told me Santa’s elves were watching -and sometimes she would say she just saw one behind a tree or something. This is nothing but a marketing scheme. I’ve been telling my son that Santa’s elves were watching for months now and he uses his imagination (imagine that!) and we didn’t have to buy a toy that I have to move around. I’m not lazy though -our house looks like some type of Christmas village. **LS -why are you such a killjoy? I think Jesus would be quite happy with delighted children receiving gifts from Santa.

By Brent

December 23, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Our kids love the elf who they’ve have named “Rocket.” He leaves everynight and comes back to a different spot and they hunt for him every morning before they do anything else. Huge hit at our house but the cleaning is a bit much.

By mrs claus

December 23, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

Its a cute concept, one that I had never heard of until the past couple of years. My kids are teenagers now and too old to start the tradition, but I would love it if they were small. But why spend $29.95 on the thing? I think that is a waste of money. Couldnt you find an elf somewhere for about $5 or less? or use a troll doll wrapped in tinsel?

By I'm a Dad

December 23, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

it seems like the tone of this board is pretty negative. If you’re not on board (no pun intended) with the Elf why bother coming on and bashing it? We have a 9 and 3 year old and we simply move the elf each night. They like it and it fuels the imagination - nothing more. The idea of behavior modification is already associated with Santa so it’s not a new concept. love it and Melissa basically said what my thoughts were but I wanted to add my 2 cents. Merry Christmas

By Michelle

December 23, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

I remember last year thinking how crazy these things were too (when my son was 9). Well, this year, he is now 10, most of his class at school had one. So he really wanted one. My 13-year old daughter wanted to be the one to do all the stuff with the Elf. It was been great. Sometimes he makes a small mess and other times he does nice stuff. The best part was that my son decided to keep a journal and write notes to “Henry” and Henry would write back. He gets so excited to see what Henry has written.

Well, unfortunately, last weekend Henry was viciously attacked by one of my dogs. His leg was amputated, his intestines were scattered all over the floor, and he had numerous other injuries. I sewed him up as best I could, and my son felt that he was alive because he still had his heart. A few days ago my son decided to ask Santa for magic dust to “heal” Henry. Fortunately, the place where I purchased Henry had one left (in case something like this would happen). Long story short is Henry has been healed. I never, ever thought I would go to this much trouble for a stuffed animal. But then again, I’m sure this will be my son’s last year in “believing,” and I’m going to make it as special as possible. It’s also been a good lesson for my daughter~she has seen from “behind the scenes” how much we truly do for them and love them. Merry Christmas.

By Becky

December 23, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this

MILF Hunter, I’m doing good..Kathy, sorry if we offened you last week..It was all in fun..

After reading all of these though, I can see where the elf can be a good thing. We don’t have the elf for the grandkids, but we do have a box that Santa leaves candy in & they are thrilled to know that he can sneak in & put candy in this box..

You would also be suprised at the number of Mom’s & Dad’s that are to lazy to do this for their children..Of course, I think most of them are my nieces & nephews…LOL

Sorry for the long post, but today’s my last day at work, so I’ll be out of y’alls hair until Jan. 5..Hope that all have a great Christmas, or Holiday..Whichever one applies to you…

By Richard

December 23, 2008 12:38 PM | Link to this

I think many of you misunderstand The Elf on the Shelf tradition, and your misgivings are a result of being uninformed. Based on much of the blog, my guess is most of you have not even read the book—including Ms. Giarusso. The Elf on the Shelf is precious and the story is simple. The book never even suggests or hints at the elf participating in any sort of naughty or mischievous behavior. It’s a tradition and parents have come up with their own twist on the tale. My family has an elf and all that is required is the “elf’s flight” from one place to another in our home. How much time does that take? If you don’t have 15 seconds to invest in your kids at Christmastime you should not be a parent. My children have created lifelong memories for themselves, and I have never enjoyed anything at Christmas this much!

By Rodney

December 23, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

My nephew loves his. He’s named it “Freddie” and he has been caught “talking” to Freddie, asking him to tell Santa to bring his unborn baby sister (she’s due in March) a pink John Deere tractor so he and she can play together.

Now if that isn’t worth 30 bucks and a nightly elf-move, I don’t know what is.

By Theresa

December 23, 2008 1:06 PM | Link to this

hey Richard — I don’t have a problem with moving an elf from one shelf to another. Have at it. I have a problem with poor mothers making messes and cleaning messes, leaving early to buy donuts to be from the elf. I’m just saying i think it’s gotten out of hand in some families.

By Mosell

December 23, 2008 1:11 PM | Link to this

A lot of people here must have nothing else to do. The elf on the Shelf doesn’t have to be any trouble at all. If you don’t want to clean up a mess then your elf shouldn’t make a mess.

If you don’t like the concept then let the elf move on. But don’t come on here and bad mouth an idea.

By J

December 23, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

My grandmother had two of these from the 1950’s and did this tradition with my father and then me and my sister more than 30 years ago. Apparently it started in Europe a hundred years ago, but Aebersold takes current credit.

By Erin

December 23, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

One other thing that I like about the Elf on the shelf is that it was created by a local Mother and Daughter. It’s worth the $30, knowing the money is going back into the local economy.

By Regina

December 23, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

You guys are so ridiculous. I think it’s absolutely awful that a parent can’t make enough time in the day to move an elf from one spot in the house to another. You should be ashamed of yourselves. I nanny for children who love their elf Zoolander. He keeps their behavior in check and actually gets them excited to wake up in the morning and find where he’s hiding. It’s totally worth $30 because it’s not just a dumb toy that will only be used once, but a tradition that the whole family can enjoy for several years.

By katy

December 23, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

Our elf, Peppermint, has brought so much joy to my children. They cannot wait to wake up and find him each morning. Our elf does not make any messes, just simply moves to a new spot when he returns from his nightly North Pole visit. Just seeing the smiles on my kids faces is enough to make me an Elf on the Shelf fan. Far be it from me to deprive my children from something that makes them so happy and sparks such imagination.

By Mary

December 23, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

My teenagers love the concept of the Elf on the Shelf. They wish they could turn back the hands of time to be a part of this when they were growing up. When they first saw the web site they were amaze of how it looks. I think some people just have nothing else the do but complain. They just want everyone to be miserable.

By Linda

December 23, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

I love the Elf on the Shelf! We just started this tradition in my house!

I think its important to remember that each family can make the Elf on the Shelf what they want it to be.

At our house my children search each morning for “Buttons” and sometimes I catch them talking to him about things they want Santa to know. We just recently went to visit Santa and my children talked to him more about their Elf then mentioning things they wanted from him.

I think the Elf on the Shelf encourages family time, something that is hard to come by in lots of households. I hope those of you with the negative attitudes will be respectful of something that has brought so much joy to my family and to so many families all over.

P.S.- Buttons has NEVER made a mess in our house :)

By geniveve

December 23, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

I’ve been to several stores that have said the Elf on the Shelf is what kept them in business in today’s economy. If you don’t already have the book, you might want to do some research on the product before you hate on it. Besides the two books, there’s also a fully interactive website with tons of games and crafts for kids. I agree with Mary, that some people just like to complain.

By Mackenzie

December 23, 2008 1:33 PM | Link to this

I have a 2yr old daughter and we absolutely LOVE The Elf on the Shelf. I think parents need to understand their children a little bit better and take part in more of the fun things that appeal to their children and embrace their imagination & the things they can dream up. It isn’t a “lie”.. we all believed in Santa at one time or another, and it was fun and exciting, but then oneday we stop believing. So have fun with it while you can and enjoy it with your kids. Stop being so LAZY. I mean, are you kidding me? You seriously think it is too much trouble to move a little elf one time a night? Talk about lazy parenting… Also, who said the elf has to make a mess? I have never made mine do anything like that… all he does is move everynight. That’s all it takes. There is no rule that he must make a mess. I noticed that the elf on the shelf has a facebook page— looks like there are tons of people who love it. I do know one thing, the people who enjoy it definately out number the ones who don’t..

By Annie

December 23, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

Nice concept. Our Elf magically moves from room to room as he’s checking up on us for Santa. Kids love it and at this level it’s EZ.

By new mom

December 23, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

OK, so now we’re terrible lazy parents who don’t want our children to have an imagination because we don’t choose to do a cerrtain “tradition” that your family happens to enjoy. If your family happens to enjoy it, fine!! If I am correct, the question posed was “is he worth the trouble?”. For me, not. That isn’t bashing, but answering.

We are starting some of our own traditions, like wrapping a pair of new pajamas for our little one to open Christmas eve and wear that night…and making pancakes for the day after Christmas…Are you terrible parents for not doing what we do? We also are stocking up on board games to play with our daughter as she’s old enough to. Not video games, but board games. Do I think you are terrible or lazy if you aren’t doing this? See how ridiculous some of this critism sounds? Geesssssh.

Can you believe how crazy we are all getting over a toy?? Me included?? :) We all need to lighten up, huh?

By Jeff

December 23, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

Honestly, I had not heard of this until I saw this blog.

That said, looks like it would be something T would like, and since it really doesn’t seem to be any more of a bedtime ritual hassle than feeding the cat, I’d probably let her do it. Heck, I might even suggest it when the time comes.

Now if I can just get her to not go so all out on the overall Christmas decorations… THAT is the major pain in the tail! Granted, she is nowhere NEAR as bad as her grandmother. (If any of y’all want an idea of how bad her grandmother is, email me at southwestgalibertarian@gmail.com and I’ll send you a pic.)

But I think T is going to be fairly shocked tomorrow night/Thurs morning at just how low-key my family is. (Her family has TONS of traditions/EXTREMELY ritualized. My family is nearly the exact opposite. Much more quiet/intimate. But hey, that distinction goes year round!)

By angel

December 23, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

We have an elf and our 9 yr old daughter and 6 year old son have truly enjoyed it. We raise our children to understand what is to be good people and the true meaning of Christmas but we also like to have fun! Our elf has rolled the inside of the house with toilet paper and hung their underwear on the tree and made them honorary elves! So, to answer some of your posts, it is not a hassle it is something that both my husband and I both do for our kids because we love them!

By Filster

December 23, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

we bought just an elf from Annalee.com. have used it to play pranks, and this a.m. he was found typing an email to Santa reporting on how my daughters had been behaving. People, you control what and how the elf does whatever he or she does. If having a little fun at Christmas is too much work for you, I feel sorry for you. Putting away CD’s stacked up to make a little house, or rearragning a seasonal display of figures takes but a few moments, but the smiles on my little ones’ faces as they race downstairs to see what the elf has done are more than worth it. Looks like Scrooge and the Grinch are alive and well, and living in Atlanta.

By Jeff

December 23, 2008 1:46 PM | Link to this

newmom:

Read Fahrenheit 451 and 1984. It is EXTREMELY scary how prophetic they are becoming.

By jimbobcooter

December 23, 2008 1:47 PM | Link to this

My 3 year old was introduced to Elf on the Shelf this year. She loves Buddy the Elf! It amazes me that there are so many “parents” on this blog to seem to not want to do something simple for their child’s happiness. It is inexpensive, lasts for several years, and brings a smile to most kid’s faces. The concept must not be that bad; Elf is becoming more and more popular every year. My daughter has asked Buddy the Elf to bring her baby brother diapers for Christmas. Is that harmful? I guess as harmful as teaching her about the Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, and Santa Claus. The complainers on here need to find something productive to do with their time. No wonder we have so many social problems in this country. I look forward to seeing where Buddy the Elf ends up tomorrow morning. I think it will be in the Christmas tree!

By regina

December 23, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

there’s nothing in the book about the elf making a mess; the parent can choose the personality of their elf. everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but get the facts straight before you diss another family’s tradition. if you’re too lazy to move an elf once a day in your own house, don’t buy the product and stop badmouthing something that has brought so much joy into people’s lives.

By Victoria

December 23, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

I am the mother of 3 and my family loves it. It is the sweetest tradition ever and my children wake up in the morning with smiles from ear to ear all because of the elf. If you don’t like it, don’t do it. Simple as that. Why sit here and post comment after comment about something you don’t think is worth the trouble? Don’t you think taking the time to post all of these comments takes more effort than the 5 seconds it takes to move him?

By Victoria

December 23, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

I am the mother of 3 and my family loves it. It is the sweetest tradition ever and my children wake up in the morning with smiles from ear to ear all because of the elf. If you don’t like it, don’t do it. Simple as that. Why sit here and post comment after comment about something you don’t think is worth the trouble? Don’t you think taking the time to post all of these comments takes more effort than the 5 seconds it takes to move him?

By Richard

December 23, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

Theresa— thanks for your response. Yep, the key is your use of the term “some families.” I have trouble with moms (parents) doing that too, but doing such things as mess making and doughnut buying ARE NOT PART OF THE ELF ON THE SHELF and are activities perpetrated by the families them self. You would have been better served to title your article something more appropriate like “Are elf visits too much trouble?” and not specifically naming The Elf on the Shelf. (Which does not condone or suggest either of the two scenarios you have played out in your article.) There are lots of elves “out there” and lots of elf traditions. You have inappropriately named a specific product as the cause of your “elf angst”— bad form for a writer.

By new mom

December 23, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

Jeff, yes, apparently I am going straight to h^$# because I don’t do elf on the shelf for our baby.

What a terrible lazy “parent”, a grinch who not only doesn’t want our child to have an imagination, but is a cause of the social problems in this world. Who’s the one badmouthing again?

I am continuing to post, because I am amazed at how judgemental other parents can be just because someone doesn’t share their interest in their traditions. This is really a microcosm of how we can freak out if someone doesn’t like what we like. If you like this thing, fine! I don’t care! We’ll do our own cool stuff at our house, you do your elf, and we accept it.

Am I the only one who thinks we should all do what we want to do?

By Jeff

December 23, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

newmom:

Well, there are these Georgians and this group nationally that thinks like you do, at least insofar as freedom goes!

Full disclosure: I happen to be - literally - a card carrying member of both groups.

By jimbobcooter

December 23, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Yes, new mom. You are the only one who thinks that.

By jimbobcooter

December 23, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

Don’t forget: Jesus is the reason for EVERY season!

By Shelley

December 23, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

I know my 7 year old daughter would love it but I work full-time and I know I would forget in my rush in the morning. She would be so disappointed if the elf stayed in one place all the time. We can barely remember to move the thing to count down the days until Christmas.

By ali

December 23, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

This is our 4th Christmas with our Elf on the Shelf. We love our Elf! It has been a tradition in our family which I hope carries over to our grandkids. Our elf just moves to a new location each day. My boys love getting up each day to find his new location. Our elf makes no messes nor does he clean etc…people worry about how familiesare statrting diffrent traditions with the elf but Santa is done differently in each home as well. You need to read the book to understand the tradition. It really is a sweet story.

By ali

December 23, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

This is our 4th Christmas with our Elf on the Shelf. We love our Elf! It has been a tradition in our family which I hope carries over to our grandkids. Our elf just moves to a new location each day. My boys love getting up each day to find his new location. Our elf makes no messes nor does he clean etc…people worry about how familiesare statrting diffrent traditions with the elf but Santa is done differently in each home as well. You need to read the book to understand the tradition or visit the website. It really is a sweet story.

By On MILF's side this time

December 23, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Gosh thanks for your insight Jimbobcooter…what a rocket scientist YOU are.

By ali

December 23, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

This is our 4th Christmas with our Elf on the Shelf. We love our Elf! It has been a tradition in our family which I hope carries over to our grandkids. Our elf just moves to a new location each day. My boys love getting up each day to find his new location. Our elf makes no messes nor does he clean etc…people worry about how familiesare statrting diffrent traditions with the elf but Santa is done differently in each home as well. You need to read the book to understand the tradition or visit the website. It really is a sweet story.

By Screech

December 23, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

I think the Elf on the Shelf is a wonderful and sweet idea. I am going to definitely get one for next Christmas.

By lola

December 23, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Too much stress at the holidays makes me a cranky mon, which is not what I want. The elf is yet another thing I’m expected to do. and I find it pretty forced whimsy anyway. So no elf!

By jimbobcooter

December 23, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

You’re welcome, On MILF’s side! Thank you for thinking so highly of me but I’m not a rocket scientist, I barely made it through college! Merry X-mas!

By ELF-LESS

December 23, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

Dear New Mom - if you really don’t want your Elf I would be happy to take it off of your hands for the sticker price! I started looking early in the season for one to give my new daughter-in-law as a keepsake with no luck.

For those of you who are needing a little Christmas intervention, enjoy your children being children. The time doesn’t last that long and before you know it they are grown and out of the house.

I think that anything that adds to the magic surrounding Christmas is all what you make of it.

By jazz

December 23, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

where can i find the Frank ski was talking about.

By ELF-LESS

December 23, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Dear New Mom - if you really don’t want your Elf I would be happy to take it off of your hands for the sticker price! I started looking early in the season for one to give my new daughter-in-law as a keepsake with no luck.

For those of you who are needing a little Christmas intervention, enjoy your children being children. The time doesn’t last that long and before you know it they are grown and out of the house.

I think that anything that adds to the magic surrounding Christmas is all what you make of it.

By ELF-LESS

December 23, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Dear New Mom - if you really don’t want your Elf I would be happy to take it off of your hands for the sticker price! I started looking early in the season for one to give my new daughter-in-law as a keepsake with no luck.

For those of you who are needing a little Christmas intervention, enjoy your children being children. The time doesn’t last that long and before you know it they are grown and out of the house.

I think that anything that adds to the magic surrounding Christmas is all what you make of it.

By Will

December 23, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Some people are way too uptight. Just move the thing around in the morning before your kid gets up. The first one up at my house moves ours. It takes about 30 seconds.

By Love the Elf

December 23, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

There are an awfully lot of sad parents out there. Most of them probably became parents by “accident.”

If you celebrate Christmas and do the whole Santa thing, then the Elf on a Shelf is a cute idea. Ours doesn’t do good things or bad. He just flies to the North Pole every night and is back in a different place the next morning. Thank God I’m not to lazy to spend 2 minutes a night bringing joy to my child as many of these “parents” apparently are.

It’s a fun tradition and brings joy and excitement to my son.

Far to many Scrooges out there.

By Michelle

December 23, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

Wow! Some people are pretty passionate about the Elf on the Shelf! It’s just like any other tradition that you choose to bring into your house/family! That’s one of the benefits of being the parent…YOU get to decide what to do to help enrich you and your child’s lives. Some parents are more committed to “going the extra mile” and some are committed to “providing a wonderful experience” and no…you don’t have to do one to get the other! It’s a good thing we aren’t the judge and jury on this topic…some people’s lives would never be the same! LOL…I think the hassle is in the eye of the person performing the tasks…not those watching/listening/judging!

By phil

December 23, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Have the little guy mess up the kids’ rooms and break and make them clean it up. They will want him to leave.

By Santa

December 23, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

lola - if you really are that stressed at the holidays and are becoming a cranky mom, then you should do a little something extra for your child(ren). Spend an extra minute a night doing an Elf on the Shelf thing to brighten your kid’s morning. When you’re cranky, it rubs off on them and deminishes their Christmas.

Shelley - you say you don’t have the time and would forget it in the morning? When your 7 year old goes to bed at night - do you say “goodnight” to her, or tuck her in or anything like that? Hopefully so. When she lays down, just go move the Elf then - it’ll take you less than a minute and you’re already up and about (from saying goodnight). It’ll brighten up her morning. When you’re tired and worn, it rubs off on her. Help ease her load.

By Sue

December 23, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

Anybody who would pick on a little elf at Christmas time is just mean and hateful!

By TechMan91

December 23, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

Great fun for the family. I highly endorse Elf on a Shelf.

By TechMan91

December 23, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Great fun for the family. I highly endorse Elf on a Shelf.

By Da Elf

December 23, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Good grief just reading about all of these gals so worked up over a doll… I feel somehow stupider, yet way more appreciative of my own wife, having read some of this. I’m just glad our family enjoys elves, santa, friends, family, giving, receiving, charity, goodwill, the good lord, and all those wonderful parts of Christmas without all of the suburban mom crap comparing what thier little brats get (or what their elves do) just complaining non stop. And you probably wonder why your husbands stay at work late or play golf on the weekends… sheesh.

By new mom

December 23, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

ELF-less, I would actually be happy to sell it, but my mother in law bought it for us as a “keepsake” too, and like I posted earlier, is now asking us if we’re doing it and where. (We have a 15 month old!) So I must keep it…

And I never said I would NEVER do it, I just said it seemed ridiculous to do it for a baby. Who knows, we might set it out and try it, but whether I do or not should not be someone else’s concern. If you and your family enjoy it, FINE! I will make monkey bread on Christmas morning, because my family, especially my child, enjoys it and I love her. Yes it takes a few minutes, but she’s worth it, and if you don’t make monkey bread, then you must be a sad, lazy Scrooge who doesn’t love your child. Since I do it, everyone must too. Sounds rude, right?

Kinda reminds me of the Seinfeld where Kramer is berated at the aids walk for not wearing the ribbon. ‘but you must vearrr the vibbonnn’

By KIM

December 23, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

YOU NEED TO GO TO ELF-MAGIC.COM. THESE ARE MUCH BETTER ELVES AND MUCH MORE MISCHIEFIOUS.

By Tracy

December 23, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

I’d never heard of the elf on the shelf until a couple of weeks ago, don’t have one & don’t really want one…But I do have an idea for ‘ebaby’. When my son was almost 2, we tried EVERYTHING to get him to give up his pacifiers but nothing worked. Finally a friend suggested this. It took about a month but it worked - with no crying or fit-pitching. Anyway snip off about 1/4 inch off the tip of the pacifier nipple. When the child notices, explain that they are a Big Boy (or Girl) and Big Boys don’t have pacy’s so it’s going away. About 1-2 a week, snip off another 1/4 inch. If the child ‘finds’ a misplaced one that hadn’t been snipped, just start clipping it. After about half of the nipple is gone, it’s just not the same so the child gives up… Anyway, good luck!!

By Sharon

December 23, 2008 5:48 PM | Link to this

Kim— a shameless plug. Elfontheshelf.com is the cutest website I’ve ever seen!

By fer

December 23, 2008 6:54 PM | Link to this

You don’t have to do every little fad that comes down the pike. If you like it, fine, do it. If not, don’t — your children will not be harmed!

By Jen

December 24, 2008 6:34 AM | Link to this

Ha Ha. This is the first I’ve heard of the elf. It doesn’t sound like I’ve missed anything, but at least I know what it is, now. Definitely sounds like more trouble than it’s worth, though.

By DB

December 24, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

I have to admit, I HATE that damned elf! I know the woman here in Atlanta who came up with the idea about 10 or so years ago and started promoting it. (Basically, it started out as an oversupply of elves at the Atlanta Gift Mart, and she was creative to think up a way to sell ‘em. She’s charming, and a very smart and savvy businesswoman :-)

I’ll embrace Santa Claus, I’ll swear to the reality of the Easter Bunny, and I’ll leave glitter all over the pillow in honor of the Tooth Fairy, but I draw the line at these stupid elves!!! Unfortunately, the “elves” of some of my daughter’s friends left gifts — one for every day in December! Wow! How cool is that! Now they can one-up their Jewish friends and instead of a gift for every day of Hanukkah, they get one for 24 days, and then a big haul on Christmas! (dripping sarcasm, here) My daughter was confused as to why WE didn’t have elves — I told her that the elves knew better than to mess with OUR house!

I’m afraid that there’s enough distraction from the true meaning of Christmas without the introduction of yet another element of “what’s in it for me”. From what I’m reading here, now, it’s acceptable for the elf to now just sit there, without causing even more chaos — which would be fine by me. It’s the creation of another layer of fantasy on top of the already overwhelming fantasy of Santa Claus, etc. that leaves me bemused. Wasn’t Santa Claus enough?

By Shelley

December 24, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Santa, well my daughter still sleeps with me every night which will now start a debate on that. Half the time I plan to get up but I fall asleep when she goes to bed at 9. Which will start a debate on what time kids should go to bed. I get home at 6 pm and I have dogs and cats to feed which will start a debate on how much time you spend with your kids and how many pets families should have. I have dinner to make, homework and projects to help with, activities to bring her to, housework, on and on. Please don’t tell me it’s only a minute. Every thing is only a minute but they all add up.

By T-Rex

December 24, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

Jimbobcooter…your name is cracking me up.As far as the Elf goes, lighten up people. It’s just a game. Don’t buy it you don’t wanna play it.

By DB

December 24, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

@Richard: If you don’t have 15 seconds to invest in your kids at Christmastime you should not be a parent. Gee, with that logic, if you aren’t Christian, you’re already a loser as a parent, eh?

If your family likes the elf, then hey, have at it! But don’t go making value judgements on those that don’t embrace it. There are probably some things our family does each year that you would consider a total waste of time, but they are part of OUR traditions, and make us happy. If you like the elf, then hey, have at it, have fun, go for it. But don’t turn around and sneer if we don’t like it.

By va. lady

December 24, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

My niece bought the elf this year. Her elf serves as an “observer” of good/bad behavior and “reports” accordingly to Santa. She moves him every night so that the kids have to look for him each morning. The children, ages 5 and almost 2, enjoy the game of looking for the elf.

By Roger

December 25, 2008 7:46 AM | Link to this

If you have a problem with the elf because…”It’s another fantasy…or lie”, then you should not buy your child dolls or toy cars because they too are fantasies. Don’t give little girls toy kitchens because they are pretend and not real. Don’t let them watch movies or cartoons because they are fantasies. Don’t tell them bed-time stories either. Folks, these are children…let them use their imaginations and enjoy thier fantasies while they are young. They can experience rharsh reality later…when they become adults.

By deidre_NC

December 25, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

i have never heard of this..when did this start happening?

By unidog

December 25, 2008 1:06 PM | Link to this

Some of you people are absolutely pathetic. Is everyone really so busy they can’t do a few things magical for their children. They’re only this age once. It can be fun. My wife and I enjoy our time coming up w/ ideas and the kids enjoy their “discoveries”. Do us all a favor: get organized, quit sweating the small things, and enjoy your children. A time will come when you regret it if you don’t.

By Twinsmom

December 25, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

We have a Magic Elf (Brooke) that Santa forgot to take back. OOPS. My twins said that is okay because sometimes the Elf stays through New Years. We don’t think we can take another week of mischief. It takes a lot of time and effort. Fortunately the girls clean up after the elf. : ) I’m thinking Santa might have to make a quick return visit this evening. They are 10 and totally still love the idea of Brooke and hopes she comes back next year.

By Ayn Rand was Right

December 26, 2008 7:14 PM | Link to this

We have an elf…she shows up every year on the day after Thanksgiving and leaves Christmas night. She ONLY reports back to Santa…no mischief, no credit for mom’s hard work. Occasionally on really long days, she returns to the exact same spot as the night before. Mostly she moves around the house to ensure a good viewpoint for behavior reports. We love Rosie, and I for one will miss getting up in the middle of the night to move our little elf on the shelf.

Some parents forget, the children are so swept up in the magic of Christmas, that all of the extra drama is unnecessary for them to believe and build sweet memories for a lifetime.

By sissy

December 29, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

I have news for all of you elf lovers or not . The woman who says she started the tradition didn’t start it at all. She was told the original story by a woman who had started the tradition for her 11 children over forty years ago.If the elf is suppose to know who’s naughty or nice he must get a big kick out of this woman who took someone else’s story and is now maybe big money off of someone else’s creativity.

By Jennifer

December 30, 2008 6:20 PM | Link to this

Sissy- Wow… very interesting post. Unfortunately, I doubt your friend “thought up” this story. Elves have been talking to Santa for generations and my great grandmother used to do this for my grandfather. The idea has been around forever! They called their elf “brownie.”

By sissy

December 31, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Jennifer, You are right, the idea has been around for years and originally came from Europe. My point was, the woman who wrote this particular version of the of the elf story was written by the lady with 11 children and she lived two houses down from Carol Aebersold and even read her story to Carol when Carol’s twin were babies and gave them their first elf.I have known the original author for years and knew her before she meet Carol. She shared the story with everyone who enjoyed it and would give each new family a elf to enhance the tradition. It just makes hundreds of families who know the truth about this book very sad.

By JessiGT

January 8, 2009 10:33 AM | Link to this

To new mom… My father bought our son a tricycle when he was 20 months old and he is now almost 3 and can ride it better than all other 3 yr olds. We actually think he’s ready for a bike with training wheels. So just give it a few months and your 15-mo old will love the tricycle. As for the Elf on the shelf thing…my sons preschool did it and he thought it was fun, but we didn’t and won’t do it at home. He forgot about “eddie the elf” by the time he came home anyways.