MOMania

By Ebaby

July 10, 2008 8:10 AM | Link to this

I agree with you Theresa, I dont want my neighbors knowing what “tools” I use in the bedroom. What’s the point of internet shopping!?

By JJ

July 10, 2008 8:13 AM | Link to this

Good Morning everyone, and again, thanks for all your thoughts and prayers.

I have been to a Passion Party, but it was with my girlfriends that I go on Girlfriend Weekend with. We are all in our 40’s and 50’s, and have known each other for years, some since we were teenagers. We had a blast, laughing and passing the “toys” around. We are all adults and very comfortable with each other. So Suzie has a wild side, who’da thunk?

Regarding going to one with the neighbors, sure, why not? We are all adults and if you want to get freaky, go for it. It doesn’t bother me at all.

By Theresa

July 10, 2008 8:31 AM | Link to this

Hey JJ — I’m glad your mom is able to help after the surgery — I am not a prude at all but I’m shocked by how many people are going to do these things — I might would go with my playgroup buddies — we went through breastfeeding together and figuring out how to have sex again after giving birth — but I also don’t live any where near any of those ladies and wouldn’t be running in the same circles where they would talk about it with others —

By TaraKaye

July 10, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

To be honest, I probably wouldn’t go unless it was with my really close girlfriends - not casual friends from the neighborhood. That being said, I can definitely see how it could add some spice into a marriage! I would be really, really careful not to share overly personal info about my husband and our sex life and I’d probably wait until later to order online, not do it at the party. But hey, sex is a huge part of a marriage and a lifetime is a long time to be with your spouse and if trying crazy new things keeps the sex exciting, I say go for it! I’d take the embarrassment of going if it came with a more satisfying sex life! And I think my husband would say the same ;)

By Jesse's Girl

July 10, 2008 8:49 AM | Link to this

Believe it or not y’all….this is simply not something I would ever do. I am certainly no prude…I think I made it clear the other day that a particular penis is my BFF…but none of you would know me if you ran over me! You can’t even Google me! But if you did know me…you’d know 3 things. I am a Christian, fiercely loyal and very private. Advertising something like this outside of a bachelorette party is not me. If I want to spice up my love life with toys….well, the plain, brown paper bag would find its way to my door!

By JJ

July 10, 2008 8:54 AM | Link to this

I wonder if Puritanne will chime in today….I get such a laugh out of his/her posts.

I hope Jeff pops in too……he wasn’t around yesterday. I wonder how he would react to T attending one of these parties.

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 9:00 AM | Link to this

We had one at our house before the wedding. T’s friends put it together as a type of shower. We actually got some rather interesting stuff!

Of course, of the attendees that I know about, they are all within our fairly close-knit circle, plus some friends of friends that we see decently often (call it that I personally see them at least once a quarter or so).

There are now 4 couples within our circle - the closest - that there really are NOT that many secrets about ANYTHING within. Of course, our circle is us, T’s sister, T’s best friend, and T’s best friend’s sister (and the associated guys), so it really is a family affair!

Now, as far as ‘toys’ in general, I personally am more comfortable going into a brick and mortar store or ordering online, but then, guys don’t get invited to these things.

Best thing about having such a close-knit and decently adventurous circle? We’re all the time getting new ideas!

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 9:16 AM | Link to this

JJ:

Eh, yesterday’s topic really wasn’t my cup of tea. As long as MIL is alive, I don’t have to worry about daycare, and I wouldn’t spend those kind of prices to begin with.

By MADMOMMY

July 10, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

I would for sure attend one or even host one in my home. I don’t see it as being any different than hosting any other kind of party at my house. Of course, I would have to send the hubby out with the kids, but what a payoff he would have. :-) What couple doesn’t want to keep the heat alive and a few “toys” could start some converstaion and help remind us all that we might be parents, but we can still be frisky.

By Becky

July 10, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

I have been to a couple of these..Actually went to one several years ago with my boss at her daughters house..Jeff, I went to one (as a bridal shower) where the men were invited..Everyone had a blast..To each his own as to what they want to buy..

By A. Nony Mouse

July 10, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

I would not go to a party like this. I do not want to know what my friends are doing in thier private time and they will not be knowing what I do in mine.

I am with Theresa, HECK NO!

By new mom

July 10, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

I don’t want to sound prudish either…but I have politely declined invitations for these parties. I am fine with others attending—go for it!! I just have never felt very open discussing sex around anyone but my husband—no matter how close I am with my girlfriends. (I’m not the typical girl in that way, I guess!)

There was a passion party in our neighborhood a few years back, and as you know, word spread—not just around adults, but to the kids. The preteen daughter of the hostess ended up getting teased, embarassed, even humiliated over the things that other kids said about her mom and the kind of party her mom threw. (If you’ve read my previous posts, you might have noticed that I rarely have a problem with what adults choose to do, but when it affects their kids…well that’s where I get concerned!) And I will assure you that kids, even as young as 6-7, know way more than you think! Especially when you are trying to keep it hidden!

By CP

July 10, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

Currently don’t need any toys in the bedroom right now. There’s enough sexual tension with almost 3 weeks left to go before I get doctor’s okay to tear him apart. (Recovering from a hysterectomy.)

I wouldn’t mind going to a “toy” party but it would have to be with friends I’ve known forever. I’ve never been to one before & it sounds hilarious.

By A. Nony Mouse

July 10, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

New Mom you are not prudish at all.
I agree with you totally.

CP I wish you well in your recovery.

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

CP:

There are toys out there that you could use to relieve the tension (at least somewhat) that wouldn’t affect your recovery.

One store/site I can recommend is taking the names of the first couple (from the Bible) and putting a .com at the end.

Theresa: Guidance on providing links? (As far as what is allowed. I can provide links to the site I mentioned above as well as the brick and mortar store I use - neither have explicit names - but want to stay family friendly and didn’t know if doing so would be ok.)

By new mom

July 10, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Here’s a little more information about the incident I described where the daughter was ridiculed for her mom’s party:

I actually heard about it from another neighbor friend, who had also been invited but didn’t go. (our 9 mth old isn’t running with the neighbor kids yet!) Anyway, her daughter, the same age as the hostess’s daughter, came to her very upset because this was the talk of the neighborhood kids and all the boys were enjoying teasing her about it. My friend’s daughter told her, “mom, I’m so glad you didn’t go to that party! I don’t know if I could face the other kids in the neighborhood if you had”. This coming from a 10 year old.

By K&K's Mom

July 10, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

As much as I hate to bring race into the equation, I have to admit that some black women are very different on this topic. I have had 2 passion parties and attended 3.During my 1st party we were testing the products and watched one of the videos on pole dancing instruction and while watching some of the ladies came up with the idea that we should take a class. So a couple of months later we got a group together and took a private pole dancing class at a local place and we went for food and drinks afterward. We had a great time and no one talked about who did what or who bought what. At the passion party you can buy things as simple as a card game to “adult toys”.

I say that black women are different because we are more interested in coming together to talk and hang out together than worrying about what someone bought. No one ever asks and once you come out the room from making a purchase, we get back to eating, drinking and enjoying our girls night out.

I have bought many great “toys” for my husband and I and as gifts and I think that my husband and my girlfriends husbands really appreciate the thought that we are not all trying to maintain that “missionary” idea of sex in relationships.

By Theresa

July 10, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

Jeff - i think you wrote around it nicely — pretty clear from want you wrote — I’m not sure what we can say — I sent a note before I posted to check on the main reference and adult toy was recommended —

By Deb

July 10, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

I have attended a couple of Passion Parties before. I see nothing wrong with it. I have to say though in regards to the post where the daughter of the parent who gave it was teased by other children…Those same children that did the teasing are children of other people who purchased I am sure. Also, we all got here by sex and our children know that sex happens between their parents so I am not sure what the big deal is. When we teach our children that you should be embarrassed about sex an that it is something to be laughed at or teased about, it does cause problems for when they are older.

By JJ

July 10, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

CP I, too, wish you well in your recovery.

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

OK, here’s another Biblical write-around for the website to the brick and mortar (kinda interesting that both stores contain Biblical references, eh?)

There is a well-known (in Christian circles anyway) story of Nebuchadnezzar (ancient Persian king) throwing Daniel into a certain location. (Daniel ch. 6 for those not familiar with the story. Bible.com is an easy place to go for an online reference).

Anyways, take this location’s name, put an adult.com at the end.

I’ve personally been there a few times, and there is NOTHING seedy about that place at all. Basically like a small Walmart with a minimum age to get in.

Note that there are SEVERAL other stores in both the Albany and Atlanta areas, but I’ve never personally been in them and can’t vouch for their comfort level for beginners.

By new mom

July 10, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Perhaps I’m in the minority regarding the affect these ADULT parties (or just the knowledge of them) has on children…but personally, I would be heartbroken if our daughter got teased for something involving her parents and sex (going back to the old ‘say what you want about me, but don’t bring my momma into it’)

And remembering how I was when I was a child, I didn’t even want to think about my parents having sex! I remember my friends and I would always say ‘I’m sure they must have done it __ amount of times’ (depending on how many kids there are!) but the thought made us all cringe!

I think it’s one thing to teach about sex within the context of marriage, but quite another thing to expose them to the knowledge of passion parties, toys, etc. I guess I’m old fashioned—OH WELL! :)

By new mom

July 10, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

CP—you’ll be in our prayers, along with JJ, for a speedy recovery! :)

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

new mom:

I remember my middle bro and I talking one time about an ex-gf of his whose parents had various boxes in their bedroom (movie-related, not toy). If anything, we were JEALOUS!

Other than that though, I remember knowing that quite a few of our friends’ parents weren’t as lily-white as we thought they were, but we never knew details and never made a big deal of it.

I guess my point here is that kids will make fun of each other for ANY reason, and only the reasons that get visible reactions will stick. Teach a kid to brush off getting picked on for stuff like this, and it will stop. (That, or teach the kids that are doing the tormenting that there is nothing wrong with doing what they are tormenting kids over. But in this arena, I’d say that particular lesson is better left to the kid’s own parents.)

By K&K's Mom

July 10, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

I am disturb by all the comments about how this would affect your children, but I think that this presents a bigger problem and that is why are the children involved in what the adults are doing anyway? What happened to the days of children being seen and not heard and staying out of grown folks business. When I have my parties, my children are spending the night at a friends house or something, and they have no idea what I am doing while they are gone.

I think that these children are to involved in the lives of their parents and the parents need to be parents and make sure that the children are minding their own business.

By Becky

July 10, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Maybe if we as American’s weren’t so afraid of talking to our kids about sex, kids wouldn’t be teased..

By Pam

July 10, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

I could not agree with you more! This started a few years ago at our Christian school. I think it lacks discretion and taste. And you are sooo right about the gossip!

By new mom

July 10, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

I agree with you, K&K’s mom, kids know waaaay too much about what grown folks do! It goes back to parents wanting to be their kids’ friends, not parents, and thinking that the more information they have, the better prepared they will be. I happen to think that teaching them things at an age where they can handle the information is key (not sheltering, just being age-appropriate)

Jeff, my issue isn’t with kids teasing other kids—that’s been around forever and always will be! Yes, teach your kids to brush it off, be confident in themselves, not worry about what the other kids say—of course! But…to know that they are being teased about what their parents did, hearing jokes about what kinds of toys they have access to in their house, have they used them too, etc., I think is a bit much. Whatever happened to just getting picked on for having a dorky name? ;)

(btw, this is the former elementary teacher and youth church worker coming out in me. It just makes me sad to know the adult issues kids are being exposed to these days. So please forgive my zeal….)

By Numbers Guy

July 10, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

To each his (her) own. If you wanna go, I’m good with it, and it takes far more than this to shock me.

As for myself and the spouse, she’s been invited to one, by the live-in GF of a very good friend of mine. She politely turned it down, so there you have it.

By Kara

July 10, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

“…she mentioned that the moms at her preschool (parochial none the less) were trying to get her to attend an “adult toy” party last spring.”

Theresa

Why making a point about the moms at a parochial preschool?

Catholic parents cannot or should not indulge in bedroom fun and games?

You do a disservice to Catholic parents with the comment.

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Pam:

Care to explain how ‘this lacks discretion and taste’?

We’re not advocating anything other than monogamous sex in committed relationships here. All we’re doing is making said monomgamous sex in committed relationships more interesting and playful.

Now, if the topic was something like swing parties rather than toy parties, you MAY have a leg to stand on. (On that topic, I will FOREVER remember the CSI episode where there was a murder at one. But even then, it wasn’t the party itself that was the problem so much as one of the dads was also having ‘relations’ with one of the underage daughters of one of the other couples. The scene at the very end of the episode where either Sara and Grissom or Catherine and Grissom were reciting the rules they had been told was particularly haunting…)

By Publicenemynumberone

July 10, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Theresa,

Afternoon delight and dildo’s? Does your husband know how horny his wife sounds?

Go to the neighborhood pool and have the highschool lifeguard put some oil on your back. I think you might burst.

By Kara

July 10, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

“…she mentioned that the moms at her preschool (parochial none the less) were trying to get her to attend an “adult toy” party last spring.”

Theresa

Why making a point about the moms at a parochial preschool?

Catholic parents cannot or should not indulge in bedroom fun and games?

You do a disservice to Catholic parents with the comment.

By TaraKaye

July 10, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

Not being a mom yet myself, I hadn’t thought about it in relation to how it would affect kids. But as I said before, I probably wouldn’t attend a neighborhood party - only one with close friends. That’s another good reason to avoid the neighborhood party!

Jesses Girl: I’m glad to hear another Christian woman say she is intensely private! For some reason, I have found my Christian girlfriends LOVE to talk about their sex lives and seem offended that I am overly cautious in sharing about mine. Good to know I’m not the only one who feels like this is supposed to be between a husband and wife!

By TaraKaye

July 10, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

I also have to add I’ve never been to one of these parties and I don’t really know what they’re like. I assumed they were like others - eat and look at the catalog, play a dumb game or two to win a prize. But if we were trying the toys and watching videos…? Uh, no. Sorry, wouldn’t happen. I’d like to hear what different products do, not how certain people plan to use them and I definitely don’t want to give them a whirl right there!!

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Publicenemy:

Give Theresa a break. I don’t know about Michael, but if T’s job involved writing a blog for moms and she was constantly writing about afternoon delights and toy parties, I’d be THRILLED that she still desires me so much!

Some guys look at toys as a bad thing, that their woman is somehow trying to replace them. I look at them as a GREAT thing, that my wife is trying to be playful and ENJOYING our time together!

There is absoltutely NOTHING sexier than seeing a look of wanton desire in your wife’s eyes. I think every man on the face of this planet will agree with me there, and it is something that many women need to be reminded of from time to time. Clearly, Theresa does not have this problem!

By CP

July 10, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Thanks guys for the thoughts & prayers. I actually feel great after the surgery. My doctor was great & she did it laprascopically (sp?) so it wasn’t even as hard as childbirth recovery. And now I don’t have to worry about the issues I was having for the past 5-6 yrs.

@Jeff: Thanks for the info. I’ve been to the site before & saw what they have (and I thought you were very considerate to Theresa & this blog to have phrased it that way.) I don’t have any problems with the products at all - & they’d help in the tension department too - but this “forced” celebacy has its pros too.

I get a few more minutes of precious sleep (much needed with 4 kids & one of them 4 months,) and it’s kinda like waiting until the wedding night again.

By Theresa

July 10, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

hey Kara - calm down over there — cAtholic parents shoudl have at it too — this was a bad choice of words on my part only because it wasn’t accurate — I meant to indicate a Christian-based preschool — they’re not even Catholic — so just a based choice of description not a slam at Catholics

By BBB

July 10, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

I have nothing but positive things to say about passion parties. I got my first toy there and have never looked back!Some people are more open sexually, some are not. To each his/her own. As far as being a parent and having one, have it out of the neighborhood or get the kids out so they don’t know. Gossip from the parents stems fron jealousy and not having their own life to talk about- and kids will get over their mom and dad using handcuffs. They may be embarrassed and grossed out, but they will survive!And trying new things never hurts (unless you want it to ;)I really don’t see how this conflicts with your faith. I am pleasing my husband, am I not supposed to do whatever I can in my power to accomplish that? Good luck lovers and may everyone fulfill a fantasy this evening.

By K&K's Mom

July 10, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Great job BBB..

By GW

July 10, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Been there done that! I lived and worked in Tifton, Ga for a couple of years, typical small town right? Wrong!, I had a girlfriend drive down from Detroit with this trunk full of toys, and those southern belles went crazy! What was supposed to be 2 hours lasted almost six. We had great fun and laughed a lot. And we all worked together.

By Toy Lady

July 10, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

HEYYYYYY This is mu subject here!! I’m a Passion Party consultant and I can tell u now. U don’t have 2 worry about others knowing what u r interested in or what u bought. I do all the talking and explaining. I don’t only go over toys and the use but how 2 bring couples closer and excitement in the bedroom. “Toys” are only 1/4 of the presentation. We also have lubes, edibles, lingerie, etc. It’s all done in good taste and your friends would love it!! Try booking one or attending one of my “open houses”. Email me for more info passionpartiesbymiko@yahoo.com

By Jesse's Girl

July 10, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

I don’t think this conflicts with faith at all. But it does go against my personality. I am a huge people person…but only to a certain extent. I really don’t care to know who uses dildos….or edible what-have-yous. TMI. I don’t discuss salaries either. My sex life is superb….yummy. But I would never discuss it or shop for it in the midst of others. Its a privacy issue with me. To quote my husband……freak in the bed but a lady on the street.

By Misty

July 10, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

I am a Christian that sells Pure Romance. Pure Romance differs from the other “adult” parties in that we like to focus on educating women about their own sexuality. You would be surprised how many women get into the ordering room and thank me for doing the party. Yes, they are super fun but they are also very tasteful and classy. My guests leave feeling empowered and educated.

Misty www.prbymisty.com

By TDub

July 10, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

Long time reader, first time commenter here. My wife and I have been to a passion party before(it was a couple’s party) and we enjoyed ourselves. I figure we are all adults and I really don’t care if people know what kind of toys we are buying. But we are more of an open minded type of couple too.

My advice is, if you haven’t been to one, go. They are really cool and there is no pressure.

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

I forgot about the lingerie! Thanks for bringing that up Toy Lady! T got several pieces from that party what were AMAZING.

But it leads to an embarassing story:

My MOTHER didn’t find out about this party until after it had happened. What does she do? She went and bought my wife some lingerie, and NOT exactly the kind you will find anywhere other than MAYBE Frederick’s or def an adult store!

OK, it is one thing to buy that stuff on our own or even have friends buy it for us at a party such as that one.

COMPLETELY diff issue for your parents to be buying you that stuff! Even I draw the line there!

Siblings/friends knowing about each others’ sex lives, not a big deal in my book. Parents/children (I’m referring to adult children here y’all) knowing about each others’ sex lives, EEEWWWW!!!!!.

Of course, the sad thing is that my mom really does know me a little TOO well, as some of the stuff T and I picked out wasn’t very different than what she got us!

By new mom

July 10, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this

Jeff, I am cringing on your behalf. That would give me the dry heaves.

By Jesse's Girl

July 10, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

Jeff…..you are dancing on the TMI fence. Do we really need to know ANYTHING about your mother and lingerie? I mean…come on man!

By Numbers Guy

July 10, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

Oh, dear Lord, Jeff. When I said it would take more than this to shock me, I didn’t mean for you to take the challenge.

Thank God I’ve already had my lunch - that would’ve spoiled it.

By CP

July 10, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

It isn’t like Jeff said anything like his mother modeling the lingerie or whatever. Just that she bought it for them. Not a big deal IMO. My mother has gotten me sexy underwear before & I think that’s about the same thing.

By JJ

July 10, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

NumbersGuy That was hilarious…..I almost spit water on my monitor….I’m crying ova hea…..

By JJ

July 10, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Another thing, this blog is great for stress relief….

I’m still laughing at NumbersGuy….

By Numbers Guy

July 10, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

Sorry, CP, but my parental units have no place in sexual matters - the two aspects of MY life, at least, are so far separated that they don’t even share a zip code. If it’s different in your life and it works for you, cool, but not for me.

JJ - my work here is done.

By Shannon, M.Div.

July 10, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

I lurk and rarely post, but I must offer two things:

1) There’s no Biblical workaround for my favorite store, which starts with an X and ends in andria.

2) @Jeff: I hate to be a nerd about this, but Nebuchadnezzar didn’t toss Danny into the lion’s den; Darius did. Remember that Daniel lived through at least three kings, and the lion’s den incident was in the third one.

By Theresa

July 10, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Only in Georgia would Biblical corrections be necessary in a post about passion parties — you guys are so funny!

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Shannon:

Sorry. That book isn’t exactly my forte, and it has quite a few instances of some kind getting mad at some Jew and throwing them somewhere.

Theresa:

The Bible is EXTREMELY passionate about married couples’ sex lives. Heck, Song of Solomon is basically one big ‘adult’ story, written in poetry form! (Ever wonder why you hear so few sermons that even MENTION that book?)

By Jason

July 10, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

Kinda hypocritical that the same moms who complain about sex shops popping up in their neighborhoods are hosting “Passion Parties.”

By CP

July 10, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

I love the posts today. Definitely having a good laugh (obviously with others too) today.

I grew up in the church and the Song of Solomon was rarely mentioned. But the service was packed whenever sex was discussed.

I think the sexuality of our bodies should be celebrated. If it wasn’t meant to be enjoyed, why would God have made it so, well… enjoyable?

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

Jason:

I think most of the people who protest those stores are one of three types:

1) Have no idea what an adult toy really is. (For whatever reason, but always boils down to their own personal hangups.)

2) Somehow think that adult toys will lead to mass fornication/unwed pregnancies/rampant STDs/etc. (Don’t we have all that already?)

3) Think that the store in question will be the gaudy/seedy kind (many non-chain stores, even a few of the chains. One in particular I can think of is on a hilltop near White Water.)

The reality is that with a place such as the brick and mortar I go to, you really have no idea what is in there until you walk up to the door, and if you go in and look like you may be underage, you are instantly carded by the staff. (Even I have been carded there.) Of course, the brick and mortar I go to has a location in my hometown, and even many of the people I grew up with have protested it over the years - even though you REALLY have to know exactly where you are going to get to that particular location, unlike its sister store in South GA that is in plain view not 200’ off the interstate!

By Numbers Guy

July 10, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

Yeah, I think it’s the seediness of it that gets people. It’s one thing to have a quiet party centering around this stuff in someone’s home, and quite another to have it advertised in screaming 7-foot-high neon on a street corner you have to pass by every bloody day.

I used to live in Warner Robins as a kid, and now I feel like I have to cover my son’s eyes for that 5 mile stretch of I-75.

By JJ

July 10, 2008 3:50 PM | Link to this

Oh C’mon Jeff, you know it’s the Love Shack…… ;) And it’s not just sex toys either….

Major bruhaahaa up in Johns Creek about the Love Shack. I don’t see the problem.

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

JJ:

One I’m thinking of doesn’t have quite as innocent a name as Love Shack, and from what I know from my pre-T life, it has a REASON for being known as one of the seedier places.

I’ve never been in a Love Shack store, so I’ll reserve judgement until I actually visit the store.

Biggest thing to remember - in my experience - is to never judge these places before hand. Check them out for yourself, you may be surprised!

By Jesse's Girl

July 10, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

I still have a problem with Spencers. I don’t think such a tacky…albeit novelty…store should be so accessible to teens and other children. I do understand the controversy surrounding these stores. It lacks class and can absolutely bring down property values. I mean who wants to give directions with ” Take a left at the Starship”?

By Sxzscorpia

July 10, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Yes I have been to about 3 of them, I have hosted one, yes I enjoyed them thoroughly, yes I ordered items. The parties I had were with friends who allllll have talked about and used toys and items before, so it was no worry about gossip. It was all about fun.

By Jesse's Girl

July 10, 2008 5:15 PM | Link to this

Well Jeff…I have now learned way more about you than I ever wanted to. Your mom buys lingerie for your wife…and you visit sex stores. I am officially grossed out…

By deidre_NC

July 10, 2008 5:17 PM | Link to this

ok this has to be the most entertaining bunch of posts ive seen in a while lol…i have not been to one of these parties..but have known of them…most people i know just order online….i did receive a gift once that was bought at a party like that lol…it was ummm actually put into my easter basket that one of my best freinds made for me…(eye roll here)

ok news here-i FINALLY found a job…admin assistant for a developer who is developing acres and acres of land here…anyway…except for the general office knowledge it is a total learning experience for me and i am very excited…my office is probably 2 miles up at the top of a nmountain with windows all around… absolutely awe inspiring….hope i can get some work done..i am also working as a cashier at the local grocery store on weekends to try some catch up…so thanks for the prayers from all who cared…it was a true god thing..kinda just fell in my lap all of a sudden…

peace—

By BrownBabe

July 10, 2008 5:23 PM | Link to this

I am first time poster and love this site. I have been to several “passion paties” and they are alot of fun.I think it is more about women coming together for a fun girls nite out than just the toys.

By Jesse's Girl

July 10, 2008 5:49 PM | Link to this

Deidre….girl, thats awesome!! I am so glad you are enjoying your work! God answers prayers!!! And I’m jealous by the way…I’d love to work on a mountain top!

By Theresa

July 10, 2008 6:23 PM | Link to this

congrats deidre — that is so great!!

By Jeff

July 10, 2008 6:44 PM | Link to this

diedre:

EXCELLENT news!! Congrats!!!

JG:

Hey, don’t get the wrong impressions.. I’ve RARELY visited such stores before moving to Albany, just know about quite a few from people I have talked to. Also, FORTUNATELY, it was only the one piece that my mom bought for my wife.

By Suz

July 10, 2008 8:14 PM | Link to this

All I can say is “thanks for the much needed laughs today”!!!!

By JJ

July 11, 2008 7:56 AM | Link to this

Diedre Congratulations!!!! And Kudos for getting that second job too.

And, welcome back, we haven’t heard from you in a while. Glad to hear you are doing well.

By Kathy

July 11, 2008 8:26 AM | Link to this

Okay….motherjanegoose where are you? I can’t believe you haven’t weighed in yet! I have been invited to a party, but I would probably go if invited. I just finished the whole Sex and the City series on DVD and I got way more education than I expected about “toys”! Yes, I just now watched it….never had HBO. I am FINALLY going to see the movie this weekend!

By JJ

July 11, 2008 8:33 AM | Link to this

Kathy I saw the movie and loved it. Be prepared, though, its a very long movie. We went to a 7:30 showing, and didn’t leave the theater until after 10:00.. but it’s worth it. I want to go see it again, and will definately buy the DVD when it comes out. I’d like to have the entire series too. I loved that show. Especially when John Corbett was on. Oh I just love him……

By nurse&mother

July 11, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Attend one? I hosted one years ago. Loads of laughs! And yes, I did buy something.

By Katie

July 11, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

OMG are some of you ladies uptight. A dildo is a dildo—they look like a penis—duh!!!

By Jessica

July 11, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

I am a Independent Passion Parties Consultant and wanted to give a little bit of advice. If you plan on having a party its best to invite those who you feel comfortable around and would not gossip. Where else can you feel, smell, and taste poducts before you buy them? These parties were created to be educational and tasteful and are so much more product then sex toys. (They are only about a third of the full product line.) Everytime I have a party and someone doesn’t want to come into the order room, I will pass out my business card at the beginning of the party and take over the phone orders. There is always a way to make it more comfortable for others. Any one interested in hosting a party, contact me at JLoughran@kc.rr.com or check out my website www.PricelessPassions.com to make an online order. I am in the Kansas city area of KS and MO. If you live in a different area still contact me, I have ladies available in several states.

By Jessica

July 11, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

I am a Passion Parties Independent Consultant. These parties were created to be educational and tasteful. This is a great opportunity to feel, smell, and even taste products before you buy them in the comfort of your home. Where else can you do this? If for any reason a guest is not comfortable going into the order room, I will pass out my business card to everyone in beginning of the party incase someone would rather make an order over the phone or online at my website. If anyone is interested in hosting a party or in the business opportunity e-mail me at JLoughran@kc.rr.com. My website is www.PricelessPassions.com I am in the kansas city area of KS and MO. If you live in another area, don’t hesistate to contact me, there are many ladies available all around the USA and Canada.

By Silly!

July 11, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Ladies. C’mon now. No need to be prudes. You all know you’re curious and you all know you enjoy a little help from time to time. I actually think these parties are great fun. If you’re too embarrassed… maybe you just aren’t comfortable with your sexuality just yet. Get over it. It’s just a passion party.

By Stacey

July 11, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

Sorry for chiming in late but I was MIA yesterday and haven’t had time to read all of the responses.

I have been to a couple of these parties. The first was about 12 years ago and it was at the home of a coworker. My best girl friend and I were the only ones from our job who were invited and she told up front that it was for women only. When we arrived, the products were covered by a table cloth and we had no idea what to expect. The other people in attendance were close friends of the hostess and the facilitators (about 12 ladies total). In the beginning a few people were uncomfortable but 15 minutes into we were all laughing and carrying on like we were lifelong friends. This particular party featured lingerie, toys of all types & sizes, massage oils and board games. We went in a separate room to place our orders but as soon as we came out we told each other what we bought. Although I lean towards being a prude, I have to admit that I had a blast.

The other party I attended was hosted by my best friend (the one who also attended the 1st party). I was already friends with 95% of the women there so this one turned out to be even more fun than the first. My friend even invited her ex-husband’s current wife! Only one person there was embarrassed (she was also a close friend of ours) but she loosened up after a glass of wine and enjoyed herself also. I have to admit that we teased her unmercifully because she spent twice as long placing her order as everyone else. I just happened to go in after her and when I came out I said “Thanks a lot, Susie! I wasn’t able to order anything because you got all of the good stuff!” Of course everyone knew I was lying but that didn’t stop Susie from turning beet red!

By Stacey

July 11, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

OK…Finally caught up! I see we have several new posters today…Welcome all!

Deidre…Congratulations! I’ve been there more times than I care to remember and I know how stressful it is. Cyberhug to you!

Jeff…You have me in tears today! If my MIL gave me lingerie my husband probably wouldn’t let me wear it because he would probably get images of his mom stuck in his head. Although my MIL is a beautiful lady, I guarantee you her sons don’t want to imagine her in lingerie!

By Pum Pum Driller

July 14, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

I’m looking for some lovely ladies to get horizontal with. May I come out to the “passion party”? It sounds like a place that I could pick up a few hot and horny females. I really enjoy the close company of sweet babes.

By Sheena Lane

July 14, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

I am also a Passion Parties consultant and these parties are FUN and Tasteful! You don’t have any strange men looking at you when you’re shopping, you get to ask questions privately. You get to taste the edible products, feel the lotions, and feel the texture of the toys! You can’t do that online or in a store! Best of all, you dont have to talk during the show, you just listen and learn! You learn so much about a Passion Party. I have a Passion Parties sign on my car! We all have sex, but we don’t all have great sex. Spice up your love life a little or a lot! A Passion Party is today’s tupperware party, but a lot more exciting and men love when you go to them! Did you know that one of the most common reasons couples get divorced are: Adultery, Addicition, Finances and Sex

By amanda

July 16, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

I am a consultant for passion parties, and I will be honest with you at first I was very iffy and unsure of the passion parties thing, but once i went to one and the bedroom heat turned up between my husband and i! i immediately was satisfied! everything is classy and confidential so why not? its better then walking into an adult store and having a creepy old man watching you and stripping you down with his eyes or imaging you with what you are purchasing! instead you have a “Tupperware style” party in the privacy of your own home with your own friends, family members, etc! If you are interested in experiencing a party in the southern cali area contact me 760-669-7176! you will definitely enjoy your experience! “I DO THOSE PARTIES” Amanda Gomez Passionremedy101.yourpassionconsultant.com

By ~Passion Parties by Janet~

July 17, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

Hi~

I am also an independent consultant for Passion Parties. Our parties are Great!! Passion Parties are all about Fun, Rekindling Romance, & Empowering Women about their Sexuality & Business Ability! I have done plenty of parties without the “toys”.At the hostess request No toys will be shown at the party.If someone is interested in seeing something in the private ordering room then I will show them. I am not there to make any one feel uncomfortable!! If you are interested in booking a party in the NYC,L.I.,Queens,&Brooklyn area please contact me via my website. www.discoverpassionparties.com Also, this business is very profitable. A $1,000 passion party pays $400 for 3 hours of Fun!! Interested??

By Kelly

July 17, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

I can’t say I agree. It’s sad that the media and hollywood has painted this disgusting image of sex. The reality of it is that God gave sex to married couples, and it’s a beautiful thing inside those confines. We shouldn’t act dignified like we don’t have sex. If your married, you have sex, that’s kind of a given. I would much rather go to someones house than to a sex store that has tons of images that are difficult to avoid for both me and my husband. I think there are so many women that aren’t educated and when they get married, they are so lost that their sex life is in trouble before it starts. I have been to a party. It’s completely confidential. I’m sure many of you have bought KY jelly at the store. How private is that when you throw the bottle up on the conveyor belt? All I’m saying is that this can be a very helpful tool for many women and you can’t knock it till you try it.

By WENDY

July 18, 2008 7:46 PM | Link to this

I am also a Passion Party consultant and I love my business. I come accross a lot of ladies that have never had a big “O”. I am happy to know that I am helping couples all over the world work on their relationships.

WWW.FUNPARTYOHIO.COM

By Shawna

July 28, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

First of all, there is nothing wrong with a little fun These parties are for those outgoing up to beat people and for those that don’t feel comfortable, then don’t go to them! You shop in private plus who knows what you are actually buying.. I went to one and had a blast! I went and ordered but all I got was the heart massager. No one is interested in you… It’s for fun not to find something to gossip about! Anyways, I don’t feel anyone shuld have a problem with these fun extravagazas… Don’t like em, don’t go!

By plovelee

August 4, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

This is ridiculous, I am just sitting here laughing my butt off at the first 10 ladies who are like”oh my gosh, I would NEVER” you sound like a group of prudish, uptight, judgemental and gossipy dried up prunes. Oh yeah, sure, your husbands are satisfied, what a bore you must be. Sex is fun, sex is healthy, children have NO business worrying about whos mom does what and that little girl who got teased needed nothing more than a good comeback like “yeah my mom was there and so was yours but you don’t hear me talking about it you weirdo!”. Besides, if the parents did a better job of educating their own kids the kids wouldn’t have to speculate and would have nothing to talk about. It is none of their business! Oh wait, I have a better one, “yeah my mom was there, now f%@k off.”

By Radiance

August 4, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

I have actually been to two “sex toy parties” as you call them. On both occasions, the parties were for bachelorettes. I absolutely loved them! There were so much fun. I have actually become an Independent Consultant for a major sensual products company. I have the opportunity to work independently, part-time, earn great money, and meet wonderful women! The most amazing aspect of this company is it strives to encourage and enhance romance in relationships through in-home parties. The in-home parties are designed to be classy, discreet, and educational! We strive to teach women, too! The company also has two brochures, one for sensual, romantic lotions, bath products, etc. and one for wild, spicy toys, etc. This allows me to customize the party accordingly. I think there is a stereotype that these parties are just “sex toy parties.” That’s simply not true. I have a shelf full of lotions, bath products, lubricants, massage oils, books, etc. I only have a handful of actual toys. Sex is very important. Women should not be ashamed to gather with their girlfriends to learn about sensual products to enhance their relationships. Even my shy friends had a blast at my open house party!!

By GS

August 13, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Oh my goodness. passion parties are so fun. i am booking my third one as we speak!!! seriously ladies. give em a chance, open a bottle of wine and relax!!!

By kelly

August 25, 2008 1:03 PM | Link to this

I have been to a few of these parties and for those who say I don’ want anyone to know my business you don’t understand what goes on there. It is a classy way of women getting together and a person that knows what they are talking about to share with you information that might add spice to the bedroom. Now if you have no need for added spice and can figure out all products by yourself and you don’t want to have a fun time then these parties are not for you. As far as ordering things in a discreet way…yes it is discreet and yes people know you ordered something but it could be lotion or candles for all they know. I don’t know if all parties are as classy as the ones I ‘ve been to but I would say it is a positive experience and would recommend to all!

By Mary Kelly

September 2, 2008 6:47 AM | Link to this

I would just like to say that I am a Passion Parties consultant and women LOVE these parties! The reason Passion Parties was started is to let women be able to touch, smell, taste stuff before they bought it. I don’t know about you, but wouldnt you like to see stuff run before you purchased it without the oogy men looking at you while you are standing at the sex toy counter!?! lol I know I wouldnt!

By Blue

September 11, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

I am a baseball coach of 11 and 12 yr. old boys. One of my players Mothers boldly advertises her passion parties on the back of her car. I can’t wait ‘till my wife sees this! She will be at all of the games this year. Maybe, just maybe she will go to a party too…….

By Marie

September 15, 2008 6:22 PM | Link to this

Passion Parties is very different from other Sex Toy Parties. The level of professionalism these ladies have is commendable. I was skeptical at first but ended up checking it out and I’m glad I went. It’s a long story but I can honestly say that Passion Parties saved my marriage. My husband and I love the products.

By FriendNotCustomer

October 28, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

I wouldn’t go because I hate when friends use friends as business opportunities. If you want me to come over and hang out, that’s great! But don’t invite me over to your house because you or someone else is trying to sell me something.

By jmientka

November 18, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

I think Passion Parties is amazing- I am a consultant and I will tell you the purpose of the presentation is to learn and have fun with your friends. All the ordering is discreet and no one will know you ordered a thing! Anyone who wants to host one contact me XO

By Randi Walker

December 17, 2008 7:25 PM | Link to this

Passion Parties for Western Washington girls here! If you want to host a party or become a Passion Consultant, give me a call at 360-801-3663.

www.SeattleSeduction.com

By Sarah Bourren

January 7, 2009 4:51 PM | Link to this

I do Passion Parties in New York (Long Island, Queens, Staten Island, ETC) & New Jersey. You can also order ONLINE at www.SweetToSexy.com or call me at 631-901-8853. If you are interested in becomming a consultant ANYONE in ANY state can call me, I have girls Nationwide!! Its a great way to earn extra income!!

By Tracy

January 9, 2009 1:30 PM | Link to this

I read ALL of these posts and I must say, WOW! I have been a Passion Parties Consultant for 4 years now. Before I heard of the company I can honestly say I had the most horrible sex life. I did not like sex and it felt as if it was a chore.
The worst part of my life at that time was we were flat broke and about to lose everything! My husband lost his job, I made minimum wage, and we had kids to feed! A friend gave me some catalogs and told me that the party she was at was alot of fun but she didn’t invite me because she knew I had no money! I was furious! I could have still went, it didn’t mean I had to buy anything! So I saved every penny I could for 5 months, and I called the consultant. I signed up immediately! I still had never been to a party, and had NO idea how I was going to do this. I had major anxiety attacks around large groups of people and I thought, great, I am going to pass out in front of strangers! My kit came, I had an open house and made my money back that day. After 6 months I paid off 3 credit cards, and my rent was paid in advance! After 1 year I quit my full time job, and became a stay at home mom. 4 years later, I have a great sex life, my marriage is fantastic, my income is amazing, my family is happy and well taken care of. What more could I ask for?
We do all sorts of parties, bachlorette, birthday, halloween, valentine’s etc. People invite the people they like to these parties and then some because it is fun. Not because they are forcing you to buy anything, not because they want to know what you buy, they don’t really care. What they care about is seeing their friends and families laugh. Laughter is the best medicine, and I can say that I am VERY healthy from the amount of laughing I have done in 4 years! Hosting a party, going to a party, yes that is a personal choice. We also have a website that you can shop on if you don’t feel comfortable going to a party. It is an educational experience. I had to do a lot of research before I did my first party because there was a lot I did not know. Each consultant is trained to teach all of you what we have learned. The top ten items that sell are all non-toy products, so yes the majority of our products are items other than toys. Some people believe that you have to have a lot of people to have a party. I have had great parties with only 5 guests! The only way to truly know if attending a party is a good thing, or bad thing for you, is to try it first. If you are unsure of how to find info, just go to www.passionparties.com and click on Host a Party.

May you all have a passionate day!

Tracy Hall

By laura wells

January 15, 2009 7:05 AM | Link to this

i have hosted a fantasia party and i must say it was so much fun we laughed ate and had a great time and i must say it is very discret iam considering being a consultant with passion party!!!!!!

By Akua Hinds

February 26, 2009 1:38 PM | Link to this

Hey everyone. Passion Parties really are fabulous. I’m actually a Passion Parties consultant here in Canada and it’s great to see ordinary women react so positively to the products. If you want to host one in the Toronto and surrounding area, email me at ahinds100@yahoo.com or call me 416-737-8841

By Akua Hinds

February 26, 2009 1:38 PM | Link to this

Hey everyone. Passion Parties really are fabulous. I’m actually a Passion Parties consultant here in Canada and it’s great to see ordinary women react so positively to the products. If you want to host one in the Toronto and surrounding area, email me at ahinds100@yahoo.com or call me 416-737-8841

By Akua Hinds

February 26, 2009 1:39 PM | Link to this

Hey everyone. Passion Parties really are fabulous. I’m actually a Passion Parties consultant here in Canada and it’s great to see ordinary women react so positively to the products. If you want to host one in the Toronto and surrounding area, email me at ahinds100@yahoo.com or call me 416-737-8841

By Akua Hinds

February 26, 2009 1:40 PM | Link to this

Hey everyone. Passion Parties really are fabulous. I’m actually a Passion Parties consultant here in Canada and it’s great to see ordinary women react so positively to the products. If you want to host one in the Toronto and surrounding area, email me at ahinds100@yahoo.com or call me 416-737-8841

By Maria Gomez

March 6, 2009 8:37 PM | Link to this

Hi, I’m also a Passion Consultant and I won’t repeat what all the other consultants have stated above, as you have already read about what a Passion Party is all about.

I too was having a hard time making ends meet and becoming a Passion Consultant was the best decision I could have made in these hard economic times. If anyone would like to earn extra money to pay off bills or would like to do it full time, please contact me and I’ll be more than happy to add you to my team! I will always there to support you and give you any training you may need. I am located in the Miami/Ft. Lauderdale, Florida area but you can be from another state and even Canada to join my team!

If you wish to host a passion party in the Miami/Ft. Lauderdale area, call me or email me to schedule your party!

www.yourpassion8moments.com 305-300-4939 Passion Parties by Maria