MOMania

By fk

October 11, 2007 7:55 AM | Link to this

We’ll be married 21 years next month. My husband has always worn his wedding ring. I’ve not worn my rings on a few occasions and it really bothered him. I have a diamond engagement ring and a diamond wedding band, but I haven’t worn them in years…they’re in the safe deposit box. A prong had to be fixed on the “big” diamond, and ever since, they’ve not come out again. In their place, I have an “everyday” simple gold wedding band that matches my husband’s, and I wear it with a pearl ring he gave me for Christmas the year before we became engaged. That pearl ring would have sufficed…I didn’t need anything more.

It would not have bothered me if he chose not to sport a wedding ring, though. My dad never wore one, and of my five brothers, only one wears a wedding band, four did/do not. I don’t think a ring is going to “keep anyone away”, or keep one faithful once the mind is made up. The ring is a symbol, not the commitment.

By Jeff

October 11, 2007 8:04 AM | Link to this

My ring is solid titanium, for a couple of reasons, both relating to the metal’s primary property:

Because of its strength, titanium can only be destroyed by an EXTREME act of man or an act of God.

The two reasons this is good:

1) Philosophical: Just as my ring cannot be easily destroyed, so should I make my marraige just as strong.

2) If I put my hand in a situation where that ring can be destroyed, more than likely I’ve lost at LEAST that finger completely anyway! (I don’t GENERALLY do weird stuff with my hands, but it is good to know that I don’t have to worry about my ring getting damaged if I have to do something out of the ordinary!)

Also, my ring is JUST big enough to fit over my middle knuckle on that hand… not easily removed. See point 1.

T, I don’t have to worry about. She hasn’t taken the engagement ring off since April other than to have it cleaned!

By jess

October 11, 2007 8:07 AM | Link to this

Male here. I consider my wedding ring an honor to wear. I’ve worn mine for over 40 years and proud to display it. My wedding band signifies commitment to the world, as well as to the love of my life.

By ron

October 11, 2007 8:09 AM | Link to this

Anyone using their hands to perform tasks shouldn’t wear rings.It’s too easy for a ring to get caught and injure a person.Ladies,if your husband is an electrician and he’s wearing a ring,get it off his finger as soon as possible.It’s doubley dangerous to him.Finally,if you need to see a ring on your spouse’s finger to reassure yourself that he/she is married,you need to grow up.

By Katie

October 11, 2007 8:15 AM | Link to this

We wear our wedding rings but I don’t think you HAVE to wear one to be married. Besides, rings don’t make women steer clear of married men or vis a versa. Marriage is a state of mind. Your partner will cheat if their a cheater and the ring won’t do a darn thing to stop that. I think it’s something to discuss and agree apon. My parents don’t wear wedding bands, nor does my mom have a diamond engagement ring—they have been happily married for 37 years.

By Katie

October 11, 2007 8:15 AM | Link to this

We wear our wedding rings but I don’t think you HAVE to wear one to be married. Besides, rings don’t make women steer clear of married men or vis a versa. Marriage is a state of mind. Your partner will cheat if their a cheater and the ring won’t do a darn thing to stop that. I think it’s something to discuss and agree apon. My parents don’t wear wedding bands, nor does my mom have a diamond engagement ring—they have been happily married for 37 years. It’s all about trust.

By DBH 1

October 11, 2007 8:18 AM | Link to this

I only wear my ring every once in a while. My wife does not have a problem with it. Not having married until 43, I was not used to wearing a ring. The ring that I have belonged to my grandfather (he did not use it as his wedding ring) and I’m afraid I will take it off to do something and forget it and lose it. Another reason I don’t wear it all of the time is that I play the guitar and find that it is a distraction of sorts.

By FCM

October 11, 2007 8:26 AM | Link to this

Origins of the Wedding Ring:

“It is true that a wedding ring is a token of possession, but rather than symbolising a man possessing a woman, it is the woman’s possession of something valuable given by the man.” Further, the ‘ring ceremony’ like many other traditions has origins in the pagan and mystical cultures. Rabbi Kushner in his book “To Life” says the ring is a modern version of Abraham’s 30 silver piece of a tomb for Sarah. Since it is a promise of the Man to the Woman the ring would only be for her.

My opinion: My ex had/wore a wedding band (2 months after we were married until sometime after the divorce)while I had/wore a single stone ‘engagement type’ ring(10 months after we married until the seperation). Prior to that and at the ceremony we used my Grandmother’s engagement ring as my wedding band. I did get a wedding ring a month before he left. When I asked (later) why, he said he was tired of hearing my mother say he would never get me one….both the ring I wore as my wedding band (the stoned ring) and this ring are in a box in drawer waiting for my children.

The reason he had a ‘wedding’ ring first was because we could only afford one ring and my Grandmother’s ring fit my finger.

I think it is up to each individual couple. It is an outward symbol of your commitment to each other not a branding. If the commitment is not there, then the ring means nothing.

To quote Randy Travis:

But on the other hand, There’s a golden band To remind of someone who would not understand On one hand I could stay and be your loving man But the reason I must go is on the other hand

By Happy Wife

October 11, 2007 8:31 AM | Link to this

My husband of 13 years has always been proud to wear his wedding band. I actually wear four rings every day: my wedding band and engagement ring (one on top of each other)a ring my daughter chose for me when she was a small child, and a ring my mother gave me the day my father’s ashes were scattered. Each ring has meaning to me and is a reminder of a special person. I take them off at night, as part of an elaborate scheme to remind myself to take my medication, but they are on every day.

By landsaf

October 11, 2007 8:33 AM | Link to this

my husband typically doesn’t wear his but it really doesn’t bother me. SOmetimes I don’t wear mine either.

He won’t wear his if his arthritis is bad, I just typically forget to put my rings on sometimes.

We are in our mid thirties and have only been married 7 years, but not wearing the rings does not diminish our trust in each other. Its just jewelry.

By CHet

October 11, 2007 8:35 AM | Link to this

It wouldn’t bother me if my wife didn’t wear her rings, but we have been married for seven years now, and I trust her completely.

Had she not wanted to wear her rings earlier on in our marriage, my reaction probably would have been very different, especially given how much I paid for them.

By FCM

October 11, 2007 8:36 AM | Link to this

Test…I did a lengthy response earlier.

By madisons mom

October 11, 2007 8:44 AM | Link to this

I can understand people that don’t wear a wedding band if their jobs may make it hazardous, but I do think that when they get home from that job, they should put it on. Just because someone’s parent/grandparent, etc didn’t wear one is, to me, not enough of a reason not to ever wear one. That’s like saying, well, my dad had an affair, so I’m going too also.
The wedding band is a symbol, but I feel it is an important symbol in the world of being married. There have been times when I also didn’t wear my engagement ring, but my wedding band is a plain gold band that I specifically chose so that I could wear it when working in the yard, cleaning, or taking care of children.
Health reasons are always a reason not to wear one, but I do think that deciding not to wear one is kind of strange (that’s just my opinion of course).

By JJ

October 11, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all, great advice everyone gave Jeff yesterday.

As a single gal, I wish married men wore wedding rings….it lets me know who’s available. It really bothers me when I am talking with a guy, flirting and having a good time, then suddenly he mentions the “w” word (wife)….immediately I am turned off and all flirting comes to a halt!!! NEXT!!!

By Kash

October 11, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this

Neither of us wear a ring. I think my husband stopped wearing his before I stopped wearing mine, but basically, neither of us are ‘ring people’ and so, there it is. It doesn’t bother us.

By SteveinCobb

October 11, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this

I always wear a wedding ring, unless I’m in the shower or in bed. As far as letting other women know I’m off the market, I found it to have a quite different effect. I had MORE women flirting with me and outright coming on to me once I got married. Beautiful women that wouldn’t give me the time of day when I was single, would actually come straight forward with their idea of a “friend with benefits”. I even had a single friend of mine BORROW my wedding ring one weekend after I told him what happened…and it worked the same for him.

Men get all the grief for straying when they are married, but I know for a fact that the only difference is that men are stupid about it because they brag. Women just keep it to themselves. So, yes I wear a wedding ring. No, I don’t stray, but the attention sure keeps the ego up.

By nurse&mother

October 11, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

When we first got married, my husband said that he was afraid his ring would get caught in machinery and didn’t want to wear it to work. (at that time he had a retail carpet store and had a piece of equipment that rolled carpet up) I told him that was the most absurd thing that I heard. Needless to say, he wore the ring (and still does). I have never heard another word about it.

I had to take my ring off with my first child around 32 weeks of pregnancy. After delivery I put it back on. During the second pregnancy, I had much more swelling and I had to remove it around 27 weeks. My fingers were still extremely swollen around 2 weeks post partum, but I thought I could grease it on and off. Well, I accidently slept in it one night and I couldn’t still couldn’t get it off three days later. I had to go to the jewelry store and have someone saw it off. The ring had a thick band. It took about 15 minutes to get it off.

I never really liked the band, but my husband picked it out. He gave it to me when he proposed. He said that I could change the band if I wanted to, as he bought ring for the diamond (small, but no flaws upon 10x magnification). I am a sentimental girl and I didn’t want to change something he bought for me, but I never liked the wide band. When I had to cut the ring off, the band couldn’t be salvaged. This was the perfect opportunity to get a new setting:)

I feel that a wedding band/ring show that a couple is committed to each other and is no longer on the “market”. I guess I always have an image of a man taking off his ring so that other women will think he is not married. ( I guess this is my own hang up)

By Catherine

October 11, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this

Steve, it’s because you are “safe” and don’t come with any strings. This is the oldest trick in the book and was first used by married men and it has now trickled down to the women. I have a friend that will come out and say she loves married men because she can act however she wants to and doesn’t necessarily have to see that person again. She embarrasses me with the way she is so open about it. I love sex as much as the next person, but to just hook up with someone to that is married just to have sex is a little scary to me. I wear my wedding ring all the time and I haven;t had much of anyone even hint at what she does. Wedding rings are just a green light for her saying “Good enough to marry.” Only she just wants the “good enough” without the “marry”.

By Rick

October 11, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this

duh! You have to wait till after the 2nd or 3rd date to tell her your married if you want to keep a girlfriend around. Cant do that with the universal sign for a ball and chain on your finger.

By lovelyliz

October 11, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

I cheating is a worry, trust me that the ring makes very little difference. I’ve been hit on by plenty of marrieds and almost all of them were wearing a ring at the time.

By Wife to1

October 11, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

I wear my wedding ring all the time and I would wonder out loud why someone who is married and values that marraige wouldn’t either.

By Theresa

October 11, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

test

By CB

October 11, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

Some traditions are bogus. Not wearing a wedding ring because “my father didn’t” is wrong. A man who doesn’t wear his ring in public is often cheating on his wife, or hoping to. I would never trust such a person.

By Becky

October 11, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

After 13 years of marriage, neither one of us wear a ring..My husband never did & I never had any problems with it..My ex wore a ring, but that never stopped him from cheating on me, nor did it have an efffect on other women going out with him. So I would say that it’s a personal choice. Jeff, if you’re around today, best wishes…

By DB

October 11, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

We had a double-ring ceremony, and he wore a ring for a while, but he was never really comfortable with it. He is a non-fussy, no-jewelry, unsentimental (except when it comes to his kids) kinda guy, anyway. He still has the ring tucked away in a box in his dresser, I think, but as far as wearing it, he probably hasn’t put it on in 20 years. It kept bothering him during triathlons, and he kept taking it off for the long open-water endurance swims he used to do because he was afraid of losing it. Eventually, it just stayed off. It doesn’t bother me. I don’t need to “mark my territory”, and frankly, these days, I never noticed that a wedding ring is a particular deterrent to a certain type of woman, anyway. It doesn’t matter if a guy wears a ring or not — a ring doesn’t make a guy more faithful, or less married.

Now, I am the sentimental sort, and my wedding band has never left my hand. The engagement ring has in the shop a couple of times to tighten prongs, etc., but my hand always feels empty without it. But that’s just me. :-)

By aaa

October 11, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

If your husband cant wear his band, then he likes the single life and doesnt take the marriage seriously

By JJ

October 11, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

As a single gal, I really wish married men would wear rings. It lets me know who is available and who I can flirt with…….

By Pat

October 11, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Neither my husband or I wear a wedding ring. At first, he didn’t wear his because of his job and hobby - working on and with the kind of tools he did, we didn’t want to chance him losing a finger. Eventually, he outgrew the ring (it wouldn’t fit on his finger now without cutting off his circulation).

I wore my ring for a long time (exchanging my diamond wedding set for a plain band as I worked in an office and kept getting the diamond caught in the files) until I had my children and then I also outgrew my ring.

We don’t need a ring to tell people we’re married- after awhile, I swear you get that look. Besides- if someone’s going to stray - a little band of gold isn’t going to stop them.

By Jesse's Girl

October 11, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

Holy Hannah! This is a so us!!! Mr Jesse has lost 2 wedding rings. I had one made….in Israel no less…that I gave to him for our 10th anniversary. He didn’t like it. Well, I assume he didn’t because he bought another one. That makes 4 rings in 11 1/2 yeras! He wears it when he leaves on Mondays, but if he keeps it on during his trips….I have no idea. I have a feeling it stays in his gym bag after the first work out of the trip. He does however wear it out on dates and usually to church. I use to give him a huge guilt trip about losing them and not wearing the one I had specially made…..but whats the point? He provides for his family and love me. If wants to waste money replacing ring after ring…go for it. I on the other hand feel totally naked without mine on. I wear it everywhere. What can I say..its platinum and cushion cut…..I love it!

By Tara

October 11, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

Yes I would be upset! My husband and I are both in our late 20s, and I am starting to think that our generation is veering towards being a bit more traditional when it comes to marriage than the baby boomers. My mother refused to wear an engagement ring based on feminist principles. For me, I’m proud to wear my ring, and my husband feels the same.

By Non-ring wearer

October 11, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

I haven’t worn a ring since I’ve been married. It bugs my wife, but I just can’t do it. I tried to wear one for a little while and then gave up. I’m the 5th generation male that we know of that hasn’t worn a ring. Something about having it on my finger freaks me out.

By Jen

October 11, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Neither my husband or myself wear our wedding rings.

We have them, we just don’t wear them.

My husband doesn’t wear his because he’s an avid weight lifter and it gets scratched and makes his grip awkward.

I don’t wear mine because I don’t like to wear rings at all.

We both wear them for special occasions, like dinner dates on our anniversary or something. We sort of treat them as ceremonial garb…

I personally don’t think it makes a difference. If a guy’s faithful he doesn’t need a ring. As far as other women hitting on him - if he’s faithful it won’t matter. Vice versa with women. If you need a ring to keep the fidelity you’re in trouble.

By Skeeter

October 11, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

My ex-husband did not want to wear a ring when we married because he worked in construction. At that time (many years ago), I didn’t mind at all. I think if I got remarried now, however, I’d prefer that my husband have a ring - I’d be wearing one, I’d expect him to wear one, too.

By vee

October 11, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

I used to get angry when my husband wouldn’t wear his band to work. Then I say a workers comp case where the man’s right got caught on a piece of equipment and “skinned” his finger. Enough said.

My husband has been gone for ten years now. I don’t wear my band anymore unless I’m traveling. The cab drivers from certain countries creep me out if they think I’m not married. They act like a man should be taking care of me and some of them would be happy to do so. Since they end up knowing where I live I pretend that I still have a husband at home.

By Ring Wearer

October 11, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

My husband is quite serious about our rings. I was suprised and figured he wouldn’t wear his that much. He only takes it off if he is working on machinary where it could get caught. He even sleeps with it on. I wear mine on a neclace currently because I’m pregnant. He got me a fake ring to wear in the meantime. If I forget to put them on before I leave the house, he makes a comment and looks sad. He’s not prosssive about it, just proud of our relationship. I love the fact that he wears his all the time. But, it depends on the couple. Some just don’t like to wear jewelry and that’s understandable.

By Jennifer

October 11, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

My husband wears one most of the time. Sometimes he forgets but it’s no big deal. Doesn’t make him any less married!

I always wear mine but I like diamonds.

By Shannon, M.Div.

October 11, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

How interesting—my mother and I had a conversation on this topic last week. My father never wore his wedding ring—in fact, Mom says he lost it at some point. He’s an electrician, and in some cases, it would be dangerous for him to be wearing metal on his hands. They never bothered to get his ring replaced.

My husband is a computer programmer. He and I both wear our rings all the time—they’re simple platinum bands, and I didn’t have an engagement ring. In fact, we both wear them to the shower and to sleep. We take them off only to have them cleaned periodically from the store where we purchased them, and I always feel totally naked without it! I have to admit, there’s something comforting about knowing that we both wear them all the time.

By DB

October 11, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

Odd — I posted earlier, but it’s not showing up.

My husband doesn’t wear a ring — he’s the unsentimental sort (except with the kids), doesn’t like to wear any kind of jewelry, and is even fussy about the fit of his watch. We had a double-ring ceremony, but I think that the ring ended up in a box in his dresser after the first few years. He was doing so much long-distance open-water swimming, he was always taking the ring off and on because he was afraid of losing it during a swim.

It doesn’t bother me. I don’t need to “mark my territory” with a ring, and I really don’t think it’s much of a deterrent these days, anyways. Putting a ring on a finger doesn’t guarantee fidelity if your guy isn’t 100% trustworthy and honorable in the first place.

However, I am the sentimental sort, and my wedding band hasn’t left my finger in 25 years.

By Naco Leptic

October 11, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

The ring signifies nothing. Nothing meaningful, that is. Marriage itself being an archaic institution.

By DeDe

October 11, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

The attitude guiding the decision is probably more important than the actual wearing (or not) of a ring. To me wearing a ring is an exterior symbol of an invisible commitment that’s been made between two people. The ring isn’t tatamount to the union itself, but the willingness to indicate that “taken” status is important.

What it bother me if my husband didn’t wear a wedding ring? Yes, it would, unless there was a work safety issue or metal allergy. If he simply preferred not to wear a ring, and I really loved and trusted him, it would be something I’d have to live with. But I think marriage entails a lot of compromise, and simply wearing a ring to honor your spouse is a minor adjustment to make, in my opinion.

By Mrs. Warren

October 11, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

I have only been married 6 months but I would never not wear my rings. When I am pregnant might be a different story, but there is no other reason I see to not wear them.

They symbolize the love and commitment my husband and I have together. Call me old-fashioned but I am not one of the people who is afraid of tradition. I embrace tradition. I LOVE wearing my rings. They are beautiful and eternal.

My husband loves wearing his ring too. He had to get used to wearing a ring because he never had before but like me, he now feels naked without it.

By Jessalyn

October 11, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Neither my husband nor I wear our rings. He doesn’t wear his because he lost a lot of weight after we got married and the ring no longer fits. We could have it resized, but it isn’t something that really bothers either one of us.

I don’t wear mine because I was pregnant three times during our first four years of marriage, so my fingers were always swollen and I got used to not wearing them. I would try to wear it, but it was really uncomfortable on my finger.

It’s not really important to either one of us. I’m sure it raises the eyebrows of others, but that’s their problem, not mine. ;)

By Marietta

October 11, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

I wear my wedding ring and my husband wears his. BUT, if he chose not to what’s the big deal? It’s a piece of jewelry. If the ring is the only thing that keeps a spouse from straying into the ‘market’ then you have much bigger problems than whether or not you have it on. Yes the ring singnifies commitment but the commitment is only worth the person making it, if you don’t trust them don’t think the ring is going to help that.

By BIG O

October 11, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

Wearing a band or not, will not stop anything from happening. I’ve known guys to cheat with their bands still on their finger. It is all about trust and maturity in a marriage.

Odis Douglasville

By Julie

October 11, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

My husband went through a period of time where he would forget to put his ring on in the morning. He didn’t like to shower, shave or wash dishes with it on, so he would take it off at night and forget to put it on several mornings. I on the other hand, never took mine off even with two pregnancies.

One day, my husband went to a men’s retreat at our church and the pastor talked about the importance of keeping your ring on as a symbol of your marriage and to avoid any temptations by women who think you are single. For some reason, since that conference, he has always worn his ring and never forgot it either.

By Becky

October 11, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

After 13 years of marriage, neither one of us wears a ring..It has never bothered me that my husband doesn’t wear one. My ex wore a ring, yet that never stopped him from cheating on me..So I think it’s all up to each couple..I had a coworker once that would only date married men..

By Atlanta Pearl Girl

October 11, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

I’ve found…that especially the men who travel and want to have some extra-nonmarriage fun…..they don’t wear their bands.

Wedding rings are a symbol…(he’s taken!)

Atlanta Pearl Girl

By Andy

October 11, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

No

By Swatdad

October 11, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

I think it is important to wear your band. I’ve worn mine for 30 years.

By Keystone Cops

October 11, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

My husband and I were married late this summer. I wear my wedding set almost all the time. He wears his band when he is not at work, provided he remembers to put it on. If he wore his band to work there is a possibility of his finger getting caught on things he is building or the ring being used as a conductive for electricity, neither of which I would want to see happen.

As long as when we are around family he wears the band it doesn’t bother me too much.

I think the rings signify a commitment to one person and is an outward show of that commitment. A ring doesn’t change the heart but it is a visible sign to the world around us.

By Lisey P.

October 11, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

In the 16 years we’ve been married, my husband has never worn his wedding band — doesn’t bother me a bit. DH doesn’t wear ANY type of jewelry: no watch, no necklace, nothing. We know we’re married and we don’t need a ring to validate our union.

I wear my wedding set because it’s shiny and pretty and I love it! Bling!

By badgirl

October 11, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

I used to feel good about my ring but,I don’t care about a wearing it because one things for sure it don’t hold a marriage together,NOBODY HAS TO KNOW I’M MARRIED, AND I LIKE IT LIKE THAT.

By c

October 11, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

My husband only takes his off when he’s at the gym. He is afraid the weights will scratch his ring.

By Duped

October 11, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

My soon to be ex-husband told me 17 years ago when we first got married that he did not wear jewelry and was therefore not planning to wear his wedding ring. I totally trusted him and accepted his position without argument although my feelings were a little hurt at the time. This year, I discovered he was cheating on me. I’m certain wearing a ring wouldn’t have made a difference as far as his cheating, however, it sure made me question our entire marriage. If someone doesn’t want to wear a sign of commitment to you, maybe he is not as committed as you are.

By Together for 12

October 11, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

There are good reasons not to wear your ring, but “my dad never did” seems like a poor reason to me.

I don’t wear mine around the house. When I come home from work, etc. I take them off and put them in a dish on my dresser. I don’t want to get cleaning chemicals, etc. on them as I work around my home. I do kind of want a ring for “around the house” wear though. I feel a little naked without it, and every time I look at my ring, I think about my husband. Reminds me to pray for him that he’s having a good day at work, comes home safely, etc.

My husband almost never takes his wedding ring off. Unless he’s working on something dirty or where it wouldn’t be safe to wear it(working on the car or with computer electronics - zap!) he always has his ring on.

Plenty of women when they’re pregnant have to take it off else they’ll cut off the circulation to that finger due to swelling! Most of my friends who went through that wore their rings on a chain around their necks. They still “had their rings on”. I wouldn’t think that a band would scratch a baby. Maybe your engagement ring would since it has a diamond sticking outward, but a band shouldn’t scratch or poke anybody.

A wedding band is a symbol that you made a lifelong commitment to another person (that’s the point of marriage).

That’s not just a private commitment; you stood in front of witnesses and an officiant and perhaps even God, and you publically declared your unconditional love for one another “for as long as you both shall live”. The ring is a powerful symbol of that commitment.

Most people believe that “no ring = no commitment” and therefore the person w/o a ring is available for dating. When one sees another that they’re attracted to, they often look at the left hand first to see if they should bother to show interest in a relationship or not. I think wearing your rings in public and your public loving behavior toward your spouse are strong witnesses to the joy and love that should be in all marriages. We affect people every day and never even know it. You never know when somebody who was ready to quit on their marriage may see you and your love for your spouse and decide to keep trying to make it work for themselves. If you don’t have your rings on, you just look like a pair of involved people, not a truly committed couple.

By gordon

October 11, 2007 1:08 PM | Link to this

I am married almost a year and my wedding band has never been off my finger not once since my wife slipped it on my finger. To me its a personal symbol. I am not saying that it will never come off for something, but I think wedding bands are important symbols of our vows and they remind us and the people we come in contact with of those vows.

By cdan

October 11, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

I don’t wear mine, and I have never had a problem. I always tell people I am married and my wife never questions me about it. Its called “TRUST”.

By Dave

October 11, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

I did for over 15 years until I almost ripped my finger off when my ring got caught on a piece of equipment. My wife has no problems with me removing it for good. I tried to only remove it when working but found out I kept forgetting.

By Vinnie T Bell

October 11, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

I think wearing my wedding ring is a good, constant, visual reminder of the fact that I am married. I see a lot of men who I know are married not wear a ring, and I always wondered, “why?” In our culture, it almost makes it appear that you are ashamed or something of the appearance of being married. Just my $0.02.

By Ephiany Nowell

October 11, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

I’ve been married for a little over a year now and my husband does not wear his band on a daily basis. Whenever we are going out or traveling, he wears it. It does not bother me but as the writer above stated, his father, nor my father has ever worn their bands on a consistent basis. I think as long as we know we are married and that our bond goes beyond jewelry then we are perfectly fine.

By haha

October 11, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

who shut ya down?

By Vinnie T Bell

October 11, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

I think wearing my wedding ring is a good, constant, visual reminder of the fact that I am married. I see a lot of men who I know are married not wear a ring, and I always wondered, “why?” In our culture, it almost makes it appear that you are ashamed or something of the appearance of being married. Just my $0.02.

By Cindy

October 11, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

Just because your husband/wife has on their ring when they are with you does not mean that they can’t take it off when they are not with you. The committment is in the person, not in the ring. The ring in my opinion is a symbol that someone loves you… that someone is thinking of you… not that you are someone’s property. In the past that is what the wedding ring was, the family of the bride was offered a dowry pretty much for the purchase of their daughter… that made her the “property” of the one offering the dowry. In today’s world there are no dowry’s and we are no longer each others property. The ring is a circle to indicate that there is no beginning and no end… the love that the ring symbolizes should never die and the marriage should never end. But, unfortunately that is not true either since 1 in five marriages today end in divorce. So, take it for what it is… a temporary symbol of a temporary situation… unless of course you one of the “four” that survive a marriage. The commitment to marriage is not what it once was, it’s easier to leave ‘em these days than to put up with any conflict or differences of opinion.

By Single perspective

October 11, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

As a single woman, I would like to ask married men to wear wedding rings — please?! Especially if you are an interesting, funny, cool guy, whom we might mistake for someone eligible. It seems like “false advertising” if you don’t wear the appropriate label to denote your off-the-marketness. (And, by the way, don’t you or your wife get all incensed if single women flirt with you if you are NOT wearing a ring. It’s not our fault!)

By Earl

October 11, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

I don’t need a ring to show I am married. I have a thin wallet, dull eyes and bad posture. I look married.

By DG

October 11, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

My husband and I both wear wedding rings. It was never a question. To us, our rings are a symbol of our love and commitment to each other. To others, they are clear indicators that we are “not available.”

It would have been a serious red flag for me had he not wanted to wear a wedding ring. Why not? Why don’t you want everyone to know you are married?

He does remove his ring from time to time if he is working in a situation where it could get caught on something. Perfectly acceptable.

Mine are only removed for cleaning and when I had surgery.

If you aren’t wearing a ring. I assume you are not married.

By Fed Up

October 11, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

I’m 39 and got married for the first time last year. Couldn’t be happier, thanks. I love wearing my wedding ring and do it proudly. My wife very graciously allowed me to pick my own ring, so I have a design and color that I like. I have to admit, it’s flattering when you catch someone checking your hand for a ring!

By Kristin

October 11, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

Neither my husband nor I wear wedding rings. We had a set when we first got married and we both lost weight so they no longer fit. One day we may get around to either resizing or purchasing new rings but ya know how life goes. It always seems that the money could be better spent on a trip or money towards the house.

My husband is in my heart so a “ring” isn’t nessasary to remind me that I’m married and I know that he feels the same way.

On a side note I miss the days when small ceromonies with a simple band lead to lifetime of happiness, now it seems the larger the ring and ceromony the sooner the couple gets divorced.

By bobolink

October 11, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

I wear one to keep gay men from hitting on me!! I’ve also been happily married for 30 + yrs. (to the same woman)

By Kristin

October 11, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Single perspective,

I don’t mean this in a rude way ‘cause I’m sure you’re a lovely girl but flirt all you want with my husband, he doesn’t want you, he wants me that’s why we are married. He comes home to me after work and we go out together. After 12 years we still enjoy spending time together, ring or no ring.

However if your man is going out to bars and clubs with his friends all the time a ring isn’t going to help your marriage.

By muffin

October 11, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this

I developed an allergy to my ring. literally. if anyone has any suggestions, please post them. after several years of wearing it, it itches like crazy and i break out in a red scaly rash after a few hours of wearing it.

By Jeff

October 11, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

Well, I had posted early this morning (around 8a), but for some reason it never showed.

Anyway, here is a recap:

I don’t have to worry about T not wearing her ring. She’s barely taken the ENGAGEMENT ring off in the 6 months or so that she’s had it.

My own ring is titanium. There are two reasons for that, both relating to the metal’s nearly indestructible strength:

1) My marraige should be as strong as my ring. This particular metal takes an EXTREME act of man or an act of God to destroy, and my marraige should be just as strong.

2) I like to be prepared for things, even if I never expect to encounter them. Therefore, I want to have a ring that I don’t have to worry about scratching or destroying, no matter what I’m putting my hands in. In the case of this particular metal, to even scratch it would mean that I’m probably going to have to go to the hospital and have them look at my hand, at a minimum.

Also, my ring is just large enough to fit over my middle knuckle, and is not easily removed. See point #1.

By DG

October 11, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

Cindy, you sound bitter.

So, take it for what it is… a temporary symbol of a temporary situation… unless of course you one of the “four” that survive a marriage.

By DG

October 11, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

Cindy, you sound bitter.

So, take it for what it is… a temporary symbol of a temporary situation… unless of course you one of the “four” that survive a marriage.

bad experience somewhere along the way?

By Becky

October 11, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

After 13 years of marriage, neither one of us wear a ring..He never has & mine was always getting hooked on things, so I just quit wearing it..This has never been a problem for eitehr one of us. My ex wore a ring, but that never stopped him from cheating on me. A ring also doesn’t stop other women. I had a co worker once that would only date married men..So as Cindy & Kristin said, a ring isn’t needed for him or I to know that we are married..

By Steve

October 11, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

I wear my ring all the time, but notice something all together different. Women that hadn’t or wouldn’t give me the time of day began flirting with me and some even came right out and said that we could “keep each other company” from time to time. I couldn’t believe it! I mentioned it to a single buddy of mine, so he borrowed it for a weekend….AND THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO HIM! I guess some women look at a married man as “safe, with no strings attached”, but it shocked the heck out of me.

By single and tired of BS

October 11, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

As a single woman, nothing ticks me off more than a married man who does not wear their ring, especially when they are “out” and about with their friends. That shows total disregard for their wife, and frankly shows that they are looking for more than what they vowed for life. It is something more men do than you would care to know! I see it ALL THE TIME. Either that ,or a married man who still has the nerve to hit on you when their ring is blantantly showing on their finger. Total disrespect, I feel so sorry for their wives, who are probably at home thinking how much they LOVE their man.

It’s almost a game to men to see if they still got it or not, but their little game always ends up coming back on them in the WORST way after they end up getting tempted by another from their thoughtless flirting……and what’s even worse are all the women in this city that get turned ON by the ring, almost a way of saying “OH, look, a committed man! How ever can I ruin that for them?”

Either way, you’re screwed and most married people get cheated on anyway, which is why I will never get married. And PLEASE don’t blog back about how “faithful” you are, don’t care to hear about it. Probably full of it anyway, like most people in this city are.

By Jeff

October 11, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

Becky:

Though it is on my ankle (in the same place as her matching one), I was initially considering getting my infitiny tat on my right wrist, right where the wrist meets the hand.

There was a reason to that: I knew that once the ring was on the left hand, I would not be able to conveniently “forget” because I’m right-handed.

Also, the weight of the titanium helps. It aint exactly something that is easy to forget it is there, like many gold bands I looked at.

By Angelique

October 11, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

I love married men. I just send them home after a few hours.

By muffin

October 11, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

i’m not crazy about the phrase “survive a marriage”. It’s not a war you’re both waging against each other. How about “stand strong in a marriage” instead. If you’re committed, you’re committed. No ifs, ands or buts.

By boxer

October 11, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

I love my wife but am not comfortable wearing jewelry, therefore no ring for me. It doesn’t change how I feel about my wife nor does it promote single women coming on to me. In fact I heard from several friends that they were more likely to get hit on in a bar if they were wearing their wedding ring than if not. Go figure.

By Single and Tired of BS

October 11, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Steve, that’s exactly what I was saying - Women LOVE the ring, it shows you are committed, something in which they cannot find themselves, so they thrive on trying to ruin others lives. Vicious I tell you, they are MUCH worse than the men I complained about.

Sounds like some of you guys are the good ones! Please be good to your spouse, and women, be good to your man.

And to all the other singletons - PLEASE FIND YOUR OWN D@MN MAN AND LEAVE THE ONES THAT ARE ALREADY TAKEN ALONE!

Thank you. My bitter self will move on now……..Have a great day!

By Swing4us

October 11, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

All you people with your wedding ring hang ups. Do you really think it keeps men OR women from their natural desires? I cannot imagine having just one person for the rest of my life. My husband and I respect each other, love each other and support each other. We also know that momogamy is NOT natural and that’s why that aspect of marraige always winds up fizzling out. There’s no adventure, little excitement and no fun. We love each other and know that we will always come back to each other. Sex and adventure is too important to me and I know it is for him, as well. 80% of the time, we only sleep with other. But the fire keeps burning with friend adding to the spice of life, instead of bogging it down. Maybe all you want out of marriage is peace and quiet, but not me. NO THANK YOU!

By getaclue, swinger

October 11, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

Hey, swinger - It’s people like you that tear other marriages apart with your “free loving” ways. The 60’s were over 40 years ago. And I’m sure you’re not even close to 40 yourself. Why get married if you’re not going to commit? Get a clue.

By Jeff

October 11, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Swing:

You are correct. Monogamy is not natural.

Then again, neither is life. After all, we are dieing from the moment we are born.

When man was first created, however, monogamy was what he was created for. Only when he allowed death to become the “natural” force did monogamy cease to be “natural”.

The question becomes: Are you dead or alive?

Me, I saw a saying once on a shirt promoting rafting on the Nantahala that has stuck with me: Are you afraid to die? Or just afraid to live?

By FCM

October 11, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

Like Jeff I posted earlier too. Here is what I recall writing:

History of the Tradition: “It is true that a wedding ring is a token of possession, but rather than symbolising a man possessing a woman, it is the woman’s possession of something valuable given by the man.” (seiyaku.com)

Rabbi Kushner in his book “To Life” said that the wedding ring is to unite us with Abraham and Sarah. Abraham loved Sarah and paid 30 silver pieces for her tomb. The ring is the symbol of the man’s relationship and commitment to the woman.

My opinion:

When we got married we had little money. I wore my granmother’s engagement ring as my wedding band for 10 months. Then he gave me a solitary stone ring (engagement style) for Christmas. I did receive a more traditional ring one month before he left me. He later told me it was because he heard my mother say he would never give a real ring.

I bought him a ring upon our marriage. He wore it until he left me.

I think it completely depends on the couple. If the commitment to the relationship is meaningful part. Ring or no ring if the commitment is not there then the ring is merely a metal circle. The ring itself does make someone off the market…their heart does.

To quote Randy Travis: But on the other hand, There’s a golden band To remind of someone who would not understand On one hand I could stay and be your loving man But the reason I must go is on the other hand

By DB

October 11, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

I 100% disagree with your statement *We also know that momogamy is NOT natural and that’s why that aspect of marraige always winds up fizzling out. There’s no adventure, little excitement and no fun. *

but hey, whatever, works for you Swing4us.

By Marriednstaynthatway

October 11, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

I had a incident recently when I had been married for just 6 x months and we had moved into a new neiborhood. The couple 3 x housess down had become pretty good friends with my wife and I. Her hubby always traveled and my wife was away for the weekend with the girls. The wife of the other couple came over one evening and asked me if I could help her move a couch upstairs and I thought nothing of it. “Sure” I said. Once I managed to get the couch to the second floor, I sat down on the bed to rest for a second and she told me thanks. She went into the bathroom and I started to walk out. Suddenly, she comes out in a T-shirt….and nothing else. She asked me if I was lonely with my wife gone and I couldn’t believe it. I said “Not that lonely, but thanks.” I got out of there QUICK! She’s a beautiful woman and all, but that was a shocker. I told my wife, who told her husband. She, of course, tried to blame it on me, but I was adamant. That couple wound up seperated and remain that way to this day. Don’t tell me that women are the only ones that stray!

By lovelyliz

October 11, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

If cheating is an issue, a wedding ring won’t make much of a difference. I’ve been hit on by married men most of whom were wearing rings.

By DB

October 11, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this

My husband doesn’t wear a ring, and that’s ok with me. I don’t feel a need to “mark my territory”, so to speak. We had a double-ring ceremony and he wore it for a couple of years, but it tended to get loose on his finger when he would do open-water swim marathons. He was afraid of losing it, and would tuck it away before a swim. It ended up getting misplaced more and more, so now it sits safely in a box in his dresser. He probably hasn’t worn it in 20 years. He’s not terribly sentimental about stuff like that. shrug. However, he IS the most honorable and trustworthy person on the planet, so what’s to worry about? Hit on him all you want, girls — it won’t do any good :-) A ring doesn’t make a man faithful, and if a man needs to be reminded he’s married … well, there’s bigger problems there than a ring!

I, on the other hand, AM sentimental about stuff like that, so my wedding band hasn’t left my finger in 25 years, five months and 10 days. :-)

By BiteMe

October 11, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

Hey, Marriednstaynthatway - That’s pretty f*cked up, and just what I was saying - The women are the worst! Even your best friend will stab you in the back to get in the sack with your man. I have seen this more that I care to admit, and I’m only 34!!!!!

It just sickens me, and has unfortunately made me against marriage, as why in the WORLD would I want to devote my entire being and all my love to someone, only to have them in return have sex with other people (or my own FRIENDS!), and then turn around and tell me that it’s “only sex”, but that they “love” me, and that’s there’s a difference? I see it everyday.

Sad.

By nurse&mother

October 11, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

I too posted earlier, but am too tired to repeat it.

It sounds like a few of your guys (not necessarily masculine) have had some bad experiences in the dating world.

By FCM

October 11, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

Theresa, I am curious, did you know that Carpools ran an episode with this theme this week?

By DB

October 11, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

BiteMe and Single and Tired of B.S.: I hope that someday you DO find a guy who is worthy of your trust. They aren’t all promiscuous b*******, you know. If you keep running into the same kind of guys that don’t understand what it means to make a commitment, it might be time to start looking in different places.

And, to the other “DB” who commented at 3:22 — could you add a “2” or something to your name, please? I’ve been posting as DB for quite a while, and it might confuse folks (although I must say, I tend to agree with your sentiments!)

By Jeff

October 11, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

OK y’all, this is my sign-off for the next 10 days or so. By the time y’all hear from me again, I’ll have a ring on my left hand and (hopefully) a pretty decent tan!

Y’all have fun, be safe, and try to keep it civil!

And again, thanks for all the advice yesterday!

By Single and Tired of BS

October 11, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

DB - Thank you! But, WHERE, OH, WHERE DO THESE TRUE COMMITTED MEN EXIST? I can’t locate them ANYWHERE! I’VE BEEN CURSED, I TELLS YA! It seems to me, most of the good men are tired of looking for the good ones (that’s ME!) as much as me, and they probably stay at home as much as I do now as well; therefore, I never see them!

I hate ATL. Too many women, not enough men to go around………..

By FCM

October 11, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

Single and Tired of BS….Have you tried a place of worship?

I mean I could hook me a man hanging out in San Diego when a ship comes to port, but then again I know what I would be getting.

I to quote Jesus out of context “I will make you fishers of men”….It’s a matter of making sure you have healthy pond to fish in.

By BiteMe

October 11, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

nurse & mother - I KNOW you were talking about me! HA HA HA HA! Yes, very bad experiences. Heart broken too much, have nothing left of it to give away. All that is left is a bloody smear on a sidewalk somewhere, scrapped under my last boyfriend’s shoe (can you tell I just broke up with someone???) I am too bitter to ever, EVER try again for love and frankly don’t believe it will exist for ME. But I am happy it does for you! Many blessings on you and your family :)

By lovelyliz

October 11, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Have you tried a place of worship?

That’s where my cousin met each of his 4 wives.

By Rick

October 11, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

DB, in case you noticed, there are just as many women who “spread it around” as men. Like the previous poster said, we men are dumb, cause we brag about it. Women are smarter because they keep it a secret. I know a friend of my wife that has had an ELEVEN year affair with her next door neighbor! The other wife doesn’t know, but her hubby suspects. Wouldja believe that the amorous wife has an 8 yr. old child BY THE NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOR and nothing is done about it. Go ahead, ladies, tell me all men are pigs and women are just the victims. We know that women cheat at the same rate as men. They’re just smarter about it.

By Jen

October 11, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

If you’re not particularly religious I would try a couple of things:

Also, make sure you’re not one of those girls who, for some really strange reason, is completely unattracted to regular nice guys who don’t have personality or committment issues.

As to the topic at hand - neither of us wears our wedding rings other than for special occasions, like our anniversary (10th coming up!). My husband does a lot of weight lifting and finds it bothers his grip and it gets scratched. I don’t wear mine because I don’t like to wear rings. I wish there was such a thing as wedding earrings….I love earrings…

To my knowledge my spouse has not cheated on me. I have no idea if he has been hit on…probably because he’s a good looking guy. But…he’s not a guy who goes out to bars very often…maybe once every 3 months. So, if he were going to cheat it would be someone from his work or the gym…but I really don’t think he would. He’s just not the type. Neither am I. But then, we do have a good relationship - we talk to each other a lot on the phone during the day, we share our thoughts, hang out together after the kid is asleep, etc - in other words we’re really connected to each other. I think it’s easy to stay faithful when you stay connected.

By Single and Tired of BS

October 11, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

FCM - Good advice, and I agree - BUT, what if you are VERY spiritual, pray everyday and love God, but don’t believe in organized religion? Where does one go who doesn’t believe in man made organizations for her worshipping? That is my problem - Can’t go to church, would be hypocritical…..can’t go to bars or clubs, as you KNOW what you’re going to get there! Don’t want to do internet dating, too scary - WHAT’S A SINGLE WOMAN TO DO????

By Pearl

October 11, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

Men tend not to wear their rings because they are comfortable in their own knowledge that they hitched. Women on the other hand tend to want the men to wear their rings cause they are insecure and think a ring will stop a man from cheating. NOT! Infact a man with a ring is sadly more attractive because gals know he is going to be all the fun & dining and someone else will cooking his dinner and washing his sorry a* dirty clothes.

By Pearl

October 11, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

Men tend not to wear their rings because they are comfortable in their own knowledge that they hitched. Women on the other hand tend to want the men to wear their rings cause they are insecure and think a ring will stop a man from cheating. NOT! Infact a man with a ring is sadly more attractive because gals know he is going to be all the fun & dining and someone else will cooking his dinner and washing his sorry a* dirty clothes.

By Jennifer

October 11, 2007 5:14 PM | Link to this

My husband wears his wedding ring some of the time. It’s not an issue with me, the ring doesn’t make him any less married.

I always wear mine. Not because I need it there to remind me that I’m married or to fend off admirers (I drive a minivan, that does the trick) but mainly because it’s really pretty and I like diamonds. Some people may feel that connection through the rings, but that isn’t a big deal to us.

By FCM

October 11, 2007 5:48 PM | Link to this

STBS— does your belief not attend ‘man made’ allow you to attend ‘events’ that are non-worship centered that occur in conjunction with an organized church….In other words if a church had a “Coffee Hour’ where you socialize on say a Friday with Music or other entertainment provided would it fall in the same catagory?

Would attending theatre on the sqaure events sponsored by a church be ok in you belief?

How about a single subject (provided it interests you) siminar?

Non denominational events?

Some churches have these. I have invited friends to various events at my church…they may do a prayer, but other than that it is just fellowship….

Mostly what I do is get myself involved in things. I go out and meet people. Now I have several friends who are calling to tell me they have someone I “just have to meet”.

There is always prayer:

Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray for a man who’s not a creep. One who’s handsome, smart and strong. He’s not afraid to admit when he’s wrong, One who thinks before he speaks, When he promises to call, he doesn’t wait 6 weeks. I pray that he is gainfully employed, Won’t lose his cool when he’s annoyed. Pulls out my chair and opens my door. Massages my back and begs to do more. Oh! Send me a man who will make love to my mind. Knows what to say when I ask, “How big is my behind?” One who’ll make love ‘til my body’s a’ itchin.’ He brings me a sandwich, when he goes to the kitchen. I pray that this man will love me to no end, And would never compare me with my best friend. Thank You in advance For I know You will send him before it’s too late.
But please hurry I want to be with him before I am ready to meet you at the Gate.

Amen”

(Yes the prayer is meant as humor)

By fk

October 11, 2007 6:07 PM | Link to this

We’ll be married 21 years next month. My husband usually wears his wedding band, but it would not concern me if he chose not to. My dad and four out of five of my brothers don’t or never did. They all wore college or service rings.

My engagement ring and diamond band have been in the safe deposit box, waiting to have a prong fixed for several years now. I do wear a plain gold (everyday) band that matches my husband’s, and a pearl ring he gave me the Christmas before we became engaged.

The ring is a symbol. It is not going to keep anyone from temptation. The real commitment is in the heart and mind.

By Happy Wife

October 12, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

My husband of 13 years is proud to wear his wedding band. In fact, he is upset that it has gotten misshapen from years of being on his finger and wants to see if he can get it fixed. I wear four rings every day: my wedding band and engagement ring (on the same finger), a ring my daughter chose for me when she was a small child, and a ring that my mother gave me the day we scattered my father’s ashes. I love them all. I do take them off at night, however, as part of an elaborate scheme to remember to take my medication!

By nurse&mother

October 12, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

I am not a very flashy person, so I don’t like a lot of jewelry. My husband and I both wear our rings. I do not wear mine at work because I am afraid that I will lose the diamond in a glove. I don’t have a wedding band, but I might get one so that I will have something to wear at work. I hated it when I couldn’t wear my ring during both pregnancies. I wear ring because I am proud to be married to a great guy.

Bite me I wish you lots of luck. I had had a few minor misfortunes in love and was actually not looking when I found my husband. Thanks for the blessings. I wish the same for you.

By deidreNC

October 12, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

HEY JEFF— i live near the nantahala and work at a resort there….nice to meet ya lol