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Wednesday, December 13, 2006
How much say does the stepparent get?
Is your second husband allowed to discipline your child from the first marriage? How much say do they get in rearing the child?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
By popular demand, I give you Melanie’s question from yesterday about stepparenting: In your second marriage, does your spouse discipline your kids (not biologically his) or is it mainly your deal?
Lynn further added with this scenario: How is the new daddy supposed to raise the stepchildren without saying a word? My ex told me yesterday my new hubby should never even say a word (which most the time he doesn’t) when we are arguing just because he told my daughter she shouldn’t talk to her mother that way. I think he was right in line at the time but the ex doesn’t see it that way. How can we raise the children when it’s one-sided? I feel like he pays to raise her and she lives in a home provided by him so what’s wrong with a little advise just because he’s not her bio father?
So how does it work in your house? How much say do stepparents get? Do the children or teens respect what the stepparent says? Does their financial contribution to the new home earn them more say as a stepparent? Why would the ex object to them parenting if they are married to the mother? (I can kind of see where an ex wouldn’t want just a boyfriend interfering.)
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