MOMania

By Bruce Brown

June 9, 2006 07:44 AM | Link to this

I’m sure the husband has a body of stone. Wear what you would like & let him see how many looks you do get. Alot of men just appreciate the woman.

By past50mom

June 9, 2006 08:20 AM | Link to this

Go for it, just get a little higher topped bottom that will smooth out the belly pooch. And next time don’t ask him such a loaded question!

By Jesse's Girl

June 9, 2006 08:27 AM | Link to this

Um, no. Unfortunately my lovely children left little gifts…..stretch marks. On the other hand..I still have amazing breasts so I wear those deep cut halter one peices very well. A better point to make is this, and women you know who you are…….Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Nuff’ said.

By Jesse's Girl

June 9, 2006 08:28 AM | Link to this

OH and Theresa……you should have slapped him.

By Joe Camp

June 9, 2006 08:37 AM | Link to this

To hell with his comments, GO FOR IT!!

By deegee

June 9, 2006 08:48 AM | Link to this

If your husband wanted to go to the pool in a Speedo, do you think he would have asked your opinion first? If you want to wear a bikini, go buy yourself a bikini and wear it with pride. Once you put it on he will probably love it.

By Jesse's Girl

June 9, 2006 09:20 AM | Link to this

And another thing….if your husband wears anything that even remotely embarasses you or his “viewing community”, that immediately negates any and all comments he may have about your bikini wishes. If you can still work a bikini….then you are doing better than most of us following the joys of pregnancy.

By Missy

June 9, 2006 09:21 AM | Link to this

You gotta be KIDDIN me! Ever heard of a MILF??? I’m not Pamela Anderson, have had 3 kids, take care of myself, work out and I’m 44. When I’m by myself, I get complimented all the time. Even had a young college grad try to pick me up last year until I told him I was married w/ 3 x kids. I know I can’t compare with most, but a compliment is a compliment! I hear all the time that men LOVE a confident mature woman MUCH better than these empty brained, 25 yr olds. The quality men don’t give the young ons more than a second look. We have SO much more depth to us and have the curves that the stick boned Paris Hilton wannabes can’t compare to (and I’m not talking about fat curves). Wear it! Flaunt it! My hubby has nothing to worry about me ever taking these stud muffins up, but it sure does help the ego when one keeps staring and then saunters over for a “get to know me” conversation. If you ARE fat, though, forget about it. I’m sure we women have too much pride to put ourselves through that kind of embarrasment (MOST of us, anyway). No thongs and make it decent. But play it a little risque, if you can get away with it. It never hurt anyone to APPEAR confident, BE confident, LOOK confident….and then look HOT (in my own mind…ha ha). Take a walk on the wild side, I say!

By abc

June 9, 2006 09:47 AM | Link to this

Hubby’s way out of line, deserving of a night or 3 on the couch. Incredible that you’d take such criticism.

That said, hit the gym and tone it up. Blaming your physique on bearing children is a copout. Then go strut your stuff.

By meghan

June 9, 2006 10:02 AM | Link to this

Wear it and love it! Having only one I still wear a bikini and could not imagine going with a one piece. Hoping to get pregnant again and will continue with the bikini - even with a small belly!

Look at all the people who probably shouldn’t even be in a one piece. Wear what you want and feel comfortable in!

By Lola

June 9, 2006 10:03 AM | Link to this

ROFLMAO!!! Me wear a bikini? Out of consideration for the eyes of my fellow men and women, absolutely not.

By MILF

June 9, 2006 10:04 AM | Link to this

Hell yeah I wear a bikini! I look fantastic! I am the mother of a 6 year old and a 3 year old, and I have literally worked my butt off to look the way I do. As a matter of fact, I am about to start a fitness boot camp with another fine mama. Having kids does not equal letting yourself go!

By Lola

June 9, 2006 10:09 AM | Link to this

Maybe clarification is needed - I wasn’t bikini material before I got pregnant, and even though I’ve lost a lot of weight, in addition to the pregnancy weight, the terrible stretch marks prevail and if I can’t stand the sight of them, I surely don’t expect anyone else to either. If you have a rockin body and you’re a mom, more power to you! It should be a personal decision. Just keep in mind that if you wear a bikini, you’re not the one who will be looking at that sight all day. The others around you will. Use good judgement.

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 10:12 AM | Link to this

My father raised me to believe you should treat women like mushrooms. That is to say, “Keep them in the dark and feed them BS”, he says that’s what keeps them happy. How dare your husband give his honest opinion? See the reactions he is getting? Maybe my dad was right…then again… don’t think BSing really follows the Golden Rule. My personal (honest) opinion is that if you are in as good of shape as your husband and he is in as good of shape as you, then you both are pretty lucky to have each other in that respect. The fact that he didn’t BS you, to me, is a positive thing also, it’s real. That’s all good news from my viewpoint.

Aside: Personally, when I’m asked any question about “do I look fat in this” or similar, my stock answer is “I refuse to ever get pulled into these sorts of questions, there is no good answer. If I say you look great, you’ll say ‘you’re just saying that’. If I say, ‘you might want to tone up a little before going with that outfit’, then you’ll say ‘you SOB!!’. As past50 said, it’s a classic setup question. Don’t put your man in that position. Use your own eyes and decide for yourself; women tend to be a better judge of fashion anyway I think. Everyone have a great FRIDAY!

By Karen

June 9, 2006 10:13 AM | Link to this

Missy, no thongs? How boring! I don’t wear it around my kids or when other kids are around, but when the hubby and I (or by myself), I LOVE it! I’m a Mom, home maker, a slaes lady and a very dedicated (and according to my guy friends at the gym, desirable) woman. I do not let my being a mom or married take away from my nature. In fact, it’s what brought him to me and keeps him here. Some may think that I wear a little TOO itsy-bitsy bikinis, but I take it as just plain ol jealousy. I have a T-shirt that says “When I’m bored with my husband, I’ll help myself with yours!”. Not at all where my mind set is, but you should see the stirring it creates when I wear it. WEAR that bikini, be proud of it! Just make sure you can.

By Clark

June 9, 2006 10:15 AM | Link to this

“Does this make me look fat?” Wow….your next response could set the tone for your marriage for about a month. Tread lightly on that one. What on earth do they expect us to say?

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 10:15 AM | Link to this

I can’t pass this comment by, “Hubby’s way out of line, deserving of a night or 3 on the couch. Incredible that you’d take such criticism.”

I have to respectfully disagree that a husband being honest with his wife, is the opposite of being “way out of line”. Do some of you kick your husband out of his own bed for telling the truth? Do you think that is a good way to handle telling the truth? I’m not sure I see the reasoning. Do you live in a glass house? Do you think possibly this sends a message that you would be better off treated like a Mushroom?

By Julia

June 9, 2006 10:19 AM | Link to this

I wear a one peice, but the REALLY French cut kind. Helps slim out the hips. I don’t think I would be bikini material, but wait til the end of July. I’m gonna knock my hubby’s socks off! I bought one of those bikini’s from Fredricks of Hollywood and set that as my personal goal. When I can finally fit in it, I might model it for him BEFORE we hit the beach!

By Julia

June 9, 2006 10:21 AM | Link to this

gatech92, you just don’t get it or understand women at all. If we have to explain it to you, move to the back of the line, please.

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 10:23 AM | Link to this

Thanks Julia, I value your opinion too :)

By Theresa

June 9, 2006 10:27 AM | Link to this

Julia — I’m all about the legs being cut up high — it definitely thins you out — what I usually wear is a tank with a low back, high legs and scoop front —

I didn’t ask him If I looked fat or if i was too fat to wear a bikini — I made a declarative statement that I was going to try on bikinis and then he questioned whether that was a good idea - He did say it as nicely as anyone could who’s telling you they think you’re fat.

I am working out —weights and cardio usually twice a week and have lost 6 pounds since september.

As far as the mind of a woman goes - after 14 years together I can’t believe he hasn’t figured out that he just threw down the gauntlet — don’t tell me not to do something — almost guaranteed I will do it (unless I do look fat in the bikini and then I won’t buy — i’m not stupid but I would like to see how they look)

By georgia

June 9, 2006 10:29 AM | Link to this

I am a woman and I’m not crazy that your husband said - “why do you think you can wear one again,” but why did you ask him about it? - it seems like you wanted his opinion about it. I don’t think it’s fair to ask a guy his opinion and then be irritated with his response. I would prefer an honest answer from a male even if it really hurts. But if you are setting him up expecting a positive response everytime, then probably best to not ask, just do whatever you want and enjoy yourself.

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 10:30 AM | Link to this

Theresa, I think you should post a picture of you in the suit and let us blog you some feedback :)

By lynn

June 9, 2006 10:32 AM | Link to this

Sure I can still wear a bikini. I’ve had 3 children but still wear a size one, & no stretch marks thank the Lord. I live on Lake front property so I get to see it all! Fat women in itsy bitsy suits are not pretty no matter how much they tan or how cute the suit itself is. The worst has to be the over 50 women who have sunbathed for 40 years and have all the wrinkles to show for it, but they don’t have a clue. Theresa, if you feel good about it, you should wear it. Stay young and fit while you can enjoy it. Were all gonna be too old for a bikini one day, but your not there yet.

By georgia

June 9, 2006 10:32 AM | Link to this

Theresa, it looks like you clarified some things with your posting to Julie- that you didn’t ask him about it, but still why did you tell him you were thinking about looking at bikini’s, it still is kind of asking him in a way.

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 10:33 AM | Link to this

georgia,

Are you over 30? I’m doing a study on women, ages and points of view. I’m 38, but go hiking and exercise a lot so I’m told I look more like I’m late 20’s. I take it as a huge complement. There, now I’ve said my age. Your point of view, to me, sounds not like someone in their 20’s.

By Ed

June 9, 2006 10:36 AM | Link to this

Hmm, my wife had the kids, but I put on the weight. I’ll be dang if she doesn’t draw more whippersnappers at a pool than a jar of honey does flies. Even had one trim 50 something tell her “Why don’t you drop that hamburger and try some Prime Rib.” It was good for a laugh, but the I started to think about it. Signed up at the gym the next day and I’ve lost 18 lbs in a month and a half. Inspiration does wonders for motivation!

By Jessica

June 9, 2006 10:42 AM | Link to this

All you women who show off your body are a bunch of sinning home wreckers! You just try and make the rest of us look bad because we are heavy, but feel comfortable with ourselves inside. I can’t believe what’s being posted! My kids love me and my husband loves me. I don’t need to look like Carmen Electra to do it, either. I hope you all get sun cancer!

By VLS

June 9, 2006 10:46 AM | Link to this

Ummmm, Jessica is not bitter…LOL

By deegee

June 9, 2006 10:48 AM | Link to this

Whoa, Jessica!! Wishing sun cancer on people is a sign of someone that is comfortable with herself?

By Karen

June 9, 2006 10:52 AM | Link to this

Jessica, just because the rest of us decided not to just rest on our laurels and accept that “the race is over”, don’t bad mouth the rest of us. We all take pride in ourselves, both inside and out. You just decided to let your outside go. Stop with the excuses and bad mouthing the rest of us. While we’re out enjoying life and doing what makes us happy, you have just decided to stay on the sidelines and watch life pas you by. If your husband decides to get in shape or if he already is, you had better pick up the pace or you’ll get left behind. It’s an awful fact, but a fact, nonetheless. Good luck with your marriage, it appears you may need some in the long run.

By lynn

June 9, 2006 10:52 AM | Link to this

Chill out Jessica! It’s not our fault you don’t take pride in your appearance!

By smomma

June 9, 2006 10:55 AM | Link to this

Ok..I have to admit..I would never wear a bikini in a million years. After three kids the stretch marks have not been kind.

Teresea, if you want to go for a bikini I say good for you! I’m sure when your husband sees you in one he will quickly change his opinion.

By Swangirl

June 9, 2006 10:57 AM | Link to this

Theresa, I’m sure your husband meant well but he probably should have just said nothing at all. A little pooch is nothing to sweat about. Go try on those bikinis and decide for yourself if that’s the way to go.

By smomma

June 9, 2006 11:01 AM | Link to this

Jessica,

When I see posts like yours I always wonder if what you have said is because you really think that way…or if you are just trying to make waves.

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 11:03 AM | Link to this

Good point smomma, this blog is long enough now that we should expect some Trolls to come around. Hopefully that’s just what she was doing.

By Jesse's Girl

June 9, 2006 11:05 AM | Link to this

Who the heck burned your biscuits this morning Jessica? If you’re so all fired “OK” with your big booty, why the attack? If your husband is still turned on by you, then that is all that matters for you I suppose. But I must inject my humble opinion. You may be fine with being a bigger gal, but you are absolutely wrong if you think it is healthy in any way. Back in the day….like our grand parent’s day….people could be bigger and not suffer the harmful side effects. They were out working, usually manually, and stayed fit. But that is not the case these days. Too many women ( and men ) claim they love how they look being big and beautiful. But you are at a much higher risk for all sorts of complications. The least of which is the thinner set’s sinful nature as we parade around in our bathing suits. Apparently…judging by your unbiased post…you are mighty concerned about your husband’s neck injury. Sustained no doubt while looking at some unsuspecting “home-wrecker”. No one makes you look bad but you Jessica….

By Jo

June 9, 2006 11:07 AM | Link to this

No matter WHAT you look like, if you’re comfortable in a bikini, go for it! Don’t let anyone dictate your personal choices & please, lay off Jessica. There is SO much prejudice against heavy people. She needs support, not hate. What she posted is an obvious cry for help

By Jesse's Girl

June 9, 2006 11:09 AM | Link to this

No one is hating Jessica….although the same cannot be said for her.

By CRB

June 9, 2006 11:09 AM | Link to this

Your husband needs a lesson in how to keep his trap shut and show respect to the mother of his children. I’d never say things like that to my wife after watching what she went through delivering our daughter.

Now…that doesn’t mean that she has the same figure and that I don’t make suggestions when something looks good or bad, but I’d never ask her why she thought she could wear a bikini again.

If he’s worried about what suit you wear, he should go shopping with you and help you pick out one that looks good.

By CRB

June 9, 2006 11:17 AM | Link to this

gatech92,

I have to respectfully disagree that a husband being honest with his wife, is the opposite of being “way out of line”. Do some of you kick your husband out of his own bed for telling the truth? Do you think that is a good way to handle telling the truth? I’m not sure I see the reasoning. Do you live in a glass house? Do you think possibly this sends a message that you would be better off treated like a Mushroom?

You need to stop listening to advice from your father and listen to advice from a few of us who are married and have families. Or perhaps a few of us who were raised to treat women with respect.

There is a difference between being “honest” and being respectful while still telling the truth and looking out for loved ones.

And as one “Tech Man” to another…you have a lot to learn.

By me

June 9, 2006 11:23 AM | Link to this

It is my personal, humble opinion that women should not try to look like teenagers. Just my opinion.

By Jesse's Girl

June 9, 2006 11:24 AM | Link to this

And just let me add a little something to the mix. AFter the birth of our first child, I weighed in at 212 lbs. Yes, over 200 lbs people. And I am not a tall gal, it was not a subtle thing. I found that to be totally unacceptable and worked my a$$ off to lose it and keep it off. People are entirely too complacent and lazy regarding their health. Not everyone is going to look like Victoria’s Secret material, but you can at least try enough to look decent in a one peice. Obesity is a problem in this country….but I do not agree when people say it is a disease. Thats as ridiculous as the new study that suggests that road rage is a mental disorder. Its bulls—-.

By abc

June 9, 2006 11:25 AM | Link to this

@gatech92, I’m male… as others have intimated, there is only 1 proper response to ‘do I look fat in this’, and never a proper occasion to volunteer criticism of her anatomy. It doesn’t have to make sense, it’s similar to leaving the toilet seat down. And no, it doesn’t go both ways, men are fair game for their women to criticize for baldness, being out of shape, having poor taste in clothing, etc.

By K

June 9, 2006 11:30 AM | Link to this

While I think your husband is entitled to his opinion, I also think it sounds like his opinion is based on unrealistic expectations. It sounds like you’re in great shape. I was in for a routine visit with my dermatologist, and the other side of his building does a lot of plastic surgery. It’s my understanding that even for women who haven’t had children and who are “gym bunnies,” many of them just have a little pooch at the base of the tummy that, due to genetics or whatever, just won’t go away no matter how much they exercise. It’s just their natural shape. Some of them have surgery to get rid of it, but while I respect their right to choose that option, I don’t believe that it’s at all necessary. Maybe your husband needs a little education in what constitutes normal and healthy for the female body. We come in a variety of shapes and sizes, after all! :)

From what you’ve said, try for the bikini. If you can’t find one that you like, then don’t stress over it, but nothing ventured, nothing gained!

By TechFella

June 9, 2006 11:38 AM | Link to this

CRB,

As another Tech man I would have to respectfully disagree. It’s not right to sugarcoat everything you say to your wife or girlfriend; it’ll only make things worse in the long run. If the woman is obviously not in good enough shape to wear a bikini, the guy should be honest with her about it and invite her to go jogging with him.

Women are not too delicate to take a little constructive criticism. Wouldn’t you rather have someone be honest with you about a problem so that you could set about fixing it? Granted there is a certain level of delicacy that needs to be used, but in no way should a man be treated as some of this blog have suggested just for offering a little constructive criticism to his wife. She’s not made of glass, people.

By Jesse's Girl

June 9, 2006 11:41 AM | Link to this

Need to actually do some work now. Theresa….I fully expect to hear that you not only bought that new bikini, but wore it like you stole it! Curl his toes baby! Show him exactly why you think wearing one is a superb idea!

By georgia

June 9, 2006 11:43 AM | Link to this

ga-tech-92,

yes, I am over 30 - I’m 37 and married with 2 children

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 11:51 AM | Link to this

CRB,

I think you missed the big point I was making. I was saying that my father preached the Mushroom Theory. I never agreed with it. I do not treat people like mushrooms. I simply pointed out some thing that were said and suggested they might lead people to treat THEM like mushrooms. IE…you cannot expect someone to give you their honest opinion if you only ever expect to hear “positive wonderful” things. I have a lot to learn, as do you and everyone else for their entire lives.

Abc,

You must be kidding. “And no, it doesn’t go both ways, men are fair game for their women to criticize for baldness, being out of shape, having poor taste in clothing, etc.” That has to be a joke…either there is equality or there isn’t. I have never been in a relationship which expected me to be the brunt of jokes and never return them. Don’t be a pushover.

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 11:55 AM | Link to this

TechFella,

I couldn’t agree more. My experience is women are refreshed by a man honest and confident enough to tell her what he thinks…instead of BSing her to keep “off the couch”. It doesn’t mean to be a jerk. It doesn’t mean to be ugly. It doesn’t mean to not do special things for her and love her forever……..it just means you shouldn’t have to walk on egg-shells editing every little thing you say for fear of “the couch”. Well said Tech Fella!

By Slimmer

June 9, 2006 11:58 AM | Link to this

I think everything depends on your relationship. If my husband had said that I’d be pretty steamed. We’re polite and courteous of one another’s feelings. BUT, if you are completely, brutally honest with one another all the time, he gave the right response. I can’t wear bikinis at all…too old, too modest, and still some extra baggage back there.

Jessica - unless you’re a flamer, you need to calm down and lay off the sugar for a while - it’s making you sound a tad crazy. Also, don’t blame the bikini wearers for your problems, or your husbands inability to keep the willy caged everytime he sees one. You’ve got so many other issues to resolve before you start worrying about the morality of others.

By E. Lewis

June 9, 2006 12:00 PM | Link to this

I depends on what looks good on you. I’ve seen some one piece suits that cover less than some bikinis.

By me

June 9, 2006 12:02 PM | Link to this

It is said that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If your beholding eye is attached to a sarcastic mouth, you might be a husband.

By penguinmom

June 9, 2006 12:07 PM | Link to this

I’d be worried that I’d married an idiot for two reasons. 1. Most husbands would want to see their wife in a bikini. 2. How dumb is it to make a comment about your wife being fat?

Actually, I’d be less angry that my husband was truthful and more angry that he has some sort of unrealistic ideal view of a woman’s body. Of course you have a small pooch after having kids but that doesn’t mean you are fat. It means you’re a mommy. It sounds like your husband believes only perfect bodies deserve to be shown. And for some reason he doesn’t think yours meets his standard of perfection. That fact alone deserves a night on the couch.

By One person's opinion

June 9, 2006 12:11 PM | Link to this

Now some of you want to wear bikinis and it’s a free country, do what you want… Since you asked if I ever would, the short answer is no. And not because I don’t like my body, but because I respect myself too much to want to “let it all hang out” I prefer a more subtle approach to dressing and leaving something to the observer’s imagination.

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 12:13 PM | Link to this

I keep reading people suggesting certain things deserve a punishment such as “a night on the couch”. I’m sure you ladies are advocates of equal rights, because well it’s fair. For the sake of equality, let’s turn this thing around: “what would be a example of something you might do, which you would agree deserves you’re receiving a punishment like a night on the couch”?

By No Fat Sows

June 9, 2006 12:21 PM | Link to this

Very few women can attractively wear bikinis. If you have to ask, then, no, you are not among them.

By me

June 9, 2006 12:26 PM | Link to this

@no fat sows: Comments like yours used to bother me. No more. I am a beautiful person, lacking nothing and glad to be alive. This is my “opinion” from the inside looking out.

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 12:30 PM | Link to this

If there aren’t any examples of something women would deserve to be punished for, in a way equal to “a night on the couch” for men, then I have to ask another question. Do you think we should try to eliminate women’s suffrage as much as possible? /grin

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 12:31 PM | Link to this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-uPcthZL2RE

By me

June 9, 2006 12:39 PM | Link to this

Didn’t have to see the video to know how uninformed people can be. Cute.

By dr feelgood

June 9, 2006 12:40 PM | Link to this

Sun cancer?

By deegee

June 9, 2006 12:42 PM | Link to this

I may be a strange bird but I did accept criticism from my husband and in my case it worked out well. I was gradually putting on some pounds and was in denial i.e., the dryer was shrinking my pants, etc. One day my husband told me “look at you, you are getting enormous!” I was PO’d at first but he was right. I stopped the denial and lost 10 pounds. I feel so much better now that my clothes fit me again. Just a thought, your acquaintences will tell you what you want to hear. Your true friends will tell you what you don’t want to hear.

By penguinmom

June 9, 2006 12:43 PM | Link to this

LOL Gatech-92. Are you married? Wives don’t get kicked out to the couch because that would just be the husband punishing himself by losing a night with his wife. A lot of wives on the other hand (especially moms who are on touch overload from the kids) enjoy a night in the bed alone.

As far as equality, marriage is more about compromise than equality. Two different people living together have different wants, needs, desires, abilites, etc so equality is a bit of a bogus idea in marriage.

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 12:48 PM | Link to this

penguinmom,

Fair enough. If a night on the couch isn’t the correct punishment for a woman then, what is? Also what is an action deserving of punishment? Obviously I’m trying to see if women are desiring a double standard or if they are realistic about the fact that they are imperfect like their husbands. Just give me a couple good examples of things women do which deserve punishment, as we have seen some examples of what those HORRIBLE husbands do? This is a philosophical question, but pleases answer  I’m not going to make fun of anyone. I’m just trying to think outside the box, so to speak (play on words anyone?).

By xbillmh

June 9, 2006 12:51 PM | Link to this

American’s views of what is a healthy, normal body have become so distorted that obesity is considered normal and slender people are considered to be anorexic or having some other pathology. I have also heard comments that men that prefer slender women are pedophiles and other such nonsense, implying that becoming overweght is a normal and inevitable consequence of maturity for women. The human body was never designed for slouching on the couch watching TV and eating so many calories. I can guarantee you that Paris Hilton is pretty much what a human female in her 20s is genetically programmed to be weght-wise, but people act as if her weight is freakish.

By Slimmer

June 9, 2006 01:20 PM | Link to this

gatech92 - I’m really not going to help you and your research much here but I must chime in on the issue.

Punishment? What punishment? Do two adult people who are in an equal partnership require punishment? This is such a ludicrous argument to me. Who is the child here? If the husband does something wrong to you, you punish him with a night on the sofa? If you burn dinner or spend a few more dollars at the shoe store, should he punish you with a timeout or how about taking away your television privileges? I thought everyone in the relationship was an ADULT. The only punishment I see necessary for an adult is if s/he breaks the law or does a no-no at work.

Punishment? If this is how some of you handle your relationships, it’s no big wonder why the divorce rate is over 50%.

A little piece of marriage advice Scooters and Scooterettes…don’t punish your spouse like s/he’s a child.

By lynn

June 9, 2006 01:22 PM | Link to this

@ga tech 92: If you really wanna know, the silent treatment pi$$es us off big time. Every woman wants someone to listen :)

By georgia

June 9, 2006 01:24 PM | Link to this

I have never understood the concept of sending a man to the couch. Are there really men who do this? I guess if I really didn’t want to be with my husband and I was upset, I would get up and leave myself - I mean neither has the right to tell the other to leave the bed.

And ga-tech-92 - I don’t understand the concept of punishment I guess…

By lynn

June 9, 2006 01:25 PM | Link to this

Slimmer, I think he has a legit point. Why is it OK to punish our man & not expect the same? If I sent the hubby to the couch you could bet he wouldn’t make my coffee the next morning.

By anne

June 9, 2006 01:32 PM | Link to this

Not the bad husband again!

Yawn.

By penguinmom

June 9, 2006 01:32 PM | Link to this

GaTech92- I don’t think anyone really wants to be treated equally. We all would like to be treated better than we deserve.

How could you punish a wife? Let’s see, make me clean the toilet (oh, already do that), change all the dirty diapers (that too), take away my keys to the car (fine, you drive the kids everywhere), etc.

Here’s the hard truth. Men want sex. Women can live for a time without. A marriage can survive a few nights without sex. Women want love and affection. A marriage can’t survive long without this. On top of that, punish your wife by taking away affection and you lose sex (lose-lose).

It’s not fair but as you’ve heard before Life isn’t Fair.

All of that said, I think the main reason people suggest men spend a night on the couch is because men can sometimes not be aware that they did anything wrong. Yes, it would be better to say ‘Honey, your comments hurt my feelings’ But, a night on the couch say that plus you get the bed all to yourself.

By Pauline

June 9, 2006 01:38 PM | Link to this

I need a man telling me what to wear like I need another… bikini! Hmmm, which adorable, drop-dead one shall I wear to the pool today, just to make the jaw drop on the adorable husband of that particularly awful PTA Uber Mom? Find out on TrueGritz! http://www.truegritz.com/

By Cletus Snow

June 9, 2006 01:45 PM | Link to this

There are people on this planet that if they were to wear a bikini it would cause the sun to go dark. I would recommend bikinis only for women on the high side of 7. NO THONGS

By Poochy

June 9, 2006 02:10 PM | Link to this

I have the opposite problem of Theresa’s: My husband would love for me to prace around in a bikini but I think I still have too much flab in all the wrong places to attempt it.

By Slimmer

June 9, 2006 02:14 PM | Link to this

Pauline - please don’t do that to us again. Your website is kinda sad and perpetuates the stereotype that Southern women are dumb as rocks…which your website is.

I’ll bet you’d sign the petition to stop women’s suffrage.

By Smiley

June 9, 2006 02:34 PM | Link to this

Okay, bikini’s are okay if you have everything in the right place. My brother is always saying of women and/or men who wear clothing that they should not be seen in public in, “just because you can, don’t mean you should.” If you have a figure that is flattered by a bikini, then by all means wear one. I am still waiting to get down to the “little black dress” size.

By Steve

June 9, 2006 02:39 PM | Link to this

Uh, two GROWN ADULTS in a marriage should not be even thinking about how to “punish” their partner, let alone actually doing it.

Good grief. Are you kidding me? Any spouse who seriously contemplates how, or whether to “punish” their partner deserves to be dropped like a sack of potatoes - bikini or no bikini, Speedo, “banana hammock,” or board shorts.

Honestly, if this is how your relationship functions, don’t be surprised if your husband decides he’d rather have a “younger model.”

By Rob

June 9, 2006 03:18 PM | Link to this

If you have ever been to Whitewater there are a whole lot of people who have no business wearing any type of swim suit.

By ga_tech_92

June 9, 2006 03:24 PM | Link to this

I’m glad some of you have come to the realization that it’s no more appropriate to punish your husband, than it is for him to punish you. That was my point entirely. Thanks for reading 

By JMS

June 9, 2006 03:25 PM | Link to this

If you feel comfortable in a bikini then wear one! If you would like to wear one but are not sure then you probably should not wear one. If you have the confidence to carry it off with a less than perfect figure you can still look GREAT! Just make sure you have a little bit of color….brown fat is always better looking than white or pale fat!!

By Wish I Could!

June 9, 2006 05:18 PM | Link to this

For those who can carry off a bikini, why wouldn’t you wear one? I wish I still could! I’m limited to high waist two pieces and even that is pushing it! The only reason I can figure another woman would bash a bikini wearing woman is pure jealousy and insecurity. How does it hurt anyone if a woman can still strut? Work it and be proud as long as possible is my belief.

By Bel

June 9, 2006 06:30 PM | Link to this

Wearing a bikini or any other outfit is about YOU, not about your husband or anyone else. Some bikinis are quite modest and some are incredibly racy. It’s all up to you.

Methinks he’s worried some other man will find you appealing!

By Sas

June 12, 2006 08:49 AM | Link to this

Dear Slimmer -

You’re obviously starved to death and can’t appreciate a little tongue in cheek humor. http://www.truegritz.com is celebrates all of southern culture smart and dumb alike! Go grab yourself a meal and try watching again ;)

Muuah! Sas Gordon-Walker

By Sas

June 12, 2006 08:52 AM | Link to this

Dear Slimmer -

You’re obviously starved to death and can’t appreciate a little tongue in cheek humor. http://www.truegritz.com celebrates all of southern culture smart and dumb alike! Go grab yourself a meal and try watching again ;)

Muuah! Sas Gordon-Walker

By Tinsdale

June 13, 2006 03:49 PM | Link to this

People need to live in the real world. Let’s face it, most of us (men and women)are, ummm, not particularly attractive in skimpy swimwear and are an eyesore if we try to wear it. Deluding ourselves doesn’t change anything. Most people don’t want to see a woman with a double-wide butt and a big ole pooch struttin’ around in a minimal bikini any more than than they want to see a Chris Farley type in a speedo. Whether Ms. Double Wide has calved or not is beside the point. So, if you’ve got it, flaunt it!—otherwise, do everyone a favor and cover up! Some of us just had lunch!!