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Thursday, March 23, 2006
Are you a Queen Bee Mom?
Where do you fall in the social hierarchy of motherhood?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Do you lead the pack? Are you a follower? Do you get steamrolled by your “friends?â€? Authors Rosalind Wiseman and Elizabeth Rapoport suggest that just like high school, moms have a social hierarchy. Many of you are already aware of this — you guys were talking about it Tuesday on the blog.
Parenting magazine ran in its April issue a breakdown of the social groups from Wiseman’s new book “Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads.� Here is a quickie look at the cliques you might fall into:
1. Queen Bee – Appears to have the perfect life, very charming and loves to be in charge! You don’t want to challenge her in any way.
2. The Sidekick – Second in command under Queen Bee. Organizes her calendar so she and kids can be with the Queen Bee. (I have done this and finally realized this is crazy!)
3. Starbucks and Sympathy – Wields power behind the scenes. May comfort you but then turn on you when convenient for her.
4. Torn wannabes and desperate wannabes – Both want to raise their stock. May privately support you but abandon you when a confrontation erupts. Torn wannabes know better, desperate ones are just desperate.
5. Steamrolled moms – Sacrifices her needs to avoid conflicts. She often says “Whatever is fine.�
6. Floater moms – Genuinely liked for who they are, they embody nice popularity. Have decided they’re not going to waste their time on parents who still act like they are in high school.
7. Reformed moms – Used to be involved in the cliques but has analyzed her behavior and changed her ways.
8. Invisible moms – Well-meaning moms who attend school functions but never speak up!
9. Outcast moms – Are just out of it. She doesn’t live in the right neighborhood or go to the right church. She is vulnerable to dismissal or attack, but also has the freedom to not worry about her social pecking order.
So where do you fall into the social scheme of things and is that where you want to be? How do you get out of the silly high school role games?
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