MOMania

By Kevin

October 28, 2005 08:01 AM | Link to this

Wow! Your husband has already watched this year’s Florida game? How did we do?

By Jimi Richards

October 28, 2005 08:02 AM | Link to this

This only takes up 10-11 weeks out of 52 weeks per year……….. He spends 79% of those weekends at home….get a babysitter for the other 21% and go to the games!

By Brian B.

October 28, 2005 08:40 AM | Link to this

UGA football, at most, takes up 11-13 Saturdays (Or weekends for a road trip) per year. That is at most 25% of the available Saturdays/weekends every year.

This is his hobby; it is something he enjoys. Instead of whining about it, why not find a hobby for yourself that you can do on the MAJORITY of Saturdays/weekends that remain in the year?

By Dave the Dawg

October 28, 2005 08:49 AM | Link to this

Could you be any more whiny and selfish? Let the man enjoy a few Saturdays each year! You’re lucky he hasn’t left you yet.

Now go change a diaper and fix your husband a sandwich and bring him a Jack and Coke.

By stop whining

October 28, 2005 08:53 AM | Link to this

And I am sure he whined until you had kids. Get real lady. You summed up your argument in the last paragraph…you want to sit around and “chit-chat.” Save it for the bridge club, this is football. If you don’t like it, as others have said, hire a babysitter. But, I am sure YOU are the buzz-kill.

By Captain James T. Kirk

October 28, 2005 08:59 AM | Link to this

Madamme, your husband is likely out chasing women who are not crazy.

By Sad but true

October 28, 2005 09:09 AM | Link to this

Poor, poor man. A grand total of 6 home games and you’ve got to bend him over a barrel for going to Athens. 6 Saturdays out of the entire year. Get a hobby, find a friend , or here’s a wild idea, go do something with the kids.

By Waaaah!, Waaah!, Waaaah!

October 28, 2005 09:13 AM | Link to this

Wow, your husband gets to go to the game without you?! He must be living right.

My wife insists on going with me, complains about how early we leave for Athens, complains about the lack of parking, complains about the heat, complains about the drunks, complains about my drinking, complains about what I eat, complains about our seat location, complains about the crowd, complains about the ticket prices, complains about the concession prices, complains about Larry Munson and then wants to leave early to beat the crowd.

Do us all a favor lady, and stay home. Better yet, divorce your husband, take your kids and move up north of the Mason Dixon line where they’ve never heard of college football. Maybe you’ll find some gonad impaired husband who spends his every waking moment making sure you are comfortable and entertained.

By Distinctive Houn

October 28, 2005 09:21 AM | Link to this

are you HOT?

By Typical male responses...

October 28, 2005 09:22 AM | Link to this

Guys,

We’re supposed to be your partners, not your babysitters. Like it or not, when you had kids, your priorities should have shifted to your family & not a drunk-fest each week.

Theresa, You had the right idea going to Athens to visit a friend while your husband went to the game… at least then you’re both getting your needs met. As for being a buzz kill, your husband needs to grow up a bit. If he goes for the love of the game, there’s no problem with you sharing the ride to Athens with him—it’s still the same football game. But if he’s going to have a chance to get drunk and act like he’s in college again, then he seriously needs to reevaluate game day. He’s a father now. He’s missing out on 25% of his children’s Saturdays, which is sad considering how little dads see their children as it is. Why doesn’t he take a kid & try to foster the love of the game in him?

Bottom line is he may work 40hours a week, but we work 24/7, and we need a break as well. For us, a break can be as simple as having another person around to share the load on the weekend. It’s not about t**-for-tat—you take your eight hours here, I’ll take my eight hours there…. despite the responses I’ve read so far, we actually ENJOY spending time together as a family—mom, dad, kids & all. Why would we want to toss away those precious hours just to be “even.”

I would start refusing to be a babysitter, though. If he wants to go, if that’s so important to him, then fine. Go. But, he shouldn’t just assume that you will be there to watch the kids 11-13 Saturdays for year—we get enough overtime when they have to work late or on weekends for their jobs. He should be in charge of finding his own sitter & finding a way to do it that doesn’t infringe upon your monthly budget… moms have babysitting co-ops, so I know there are “free” options. Plus, you should propose your idea about the student center to UGA.. it’s good.

By UGA Mom

October 28, 2005 09:23 AM | Link to this

It appears I’m the first mom to comment today. Hobbies are great — and yes, both dads and moms should have them. After reading these comments, however, I wondered how Jimi feels about paying the $800 (MINIMUM)for babysitting fees each fall so that mom and dad can tailgate and attend the game. Also, Jimi’s children are now destined to spend all day each football Saturday with a babysitter.

From reading Theresa’s column, it appears she also enjoys the hobby of attending Georgia games. She has just been shut out because the games aren’t kid-friendly and her husband doesn’t want the game-day experience to be anything less that what he enjoyed during his college years.

I’m fortunate that my husband, also a Dawgs fan, enjoys watching the games with our three young children. We both read Theresa’s blog this morning and laughed at it. Unlike Brian, I viewed her column less as a whiny diatribe and more of an observation of the differences between moms and dads.

This is obviously a generalization, and I’m sure exceptions to this rule exist, but the dads I know (including my own husband) tend to have more hobbies than the moms and tend to only worry about their own, individual schedules. That makes it much easier to work in football weekends, golf tournaments, X-Box marathons or whatever. Moms tend to be concerned not only with their personal schedules, but also those of their children and their husbands. So a mother, in general, is less likely to assume it’s okay to take 11% of the weekends in the year for her own personal pursuit of happiness. I’m not judging moms or dads either way — it just seems to be the way we are.

By Mark Richt

October 28, 2005 09:24 AM | Link to this

Theresa,

Shut-up and get your whinning butt back in the kitchen!!!

Mark

By mike

October 31, 2005 08:46 AM | Link to this

want some cheese with that wine? shame on the AJC for printng this crap…

By brent

October 31, 2005 08:51 AM | Link to this

What editor approved this idiotic story. Why don’t you run a story about the % of men lined up outside Lenox Mall the day after Thanksgiving.

By Lucy

October 31, 2005 08:55 AM | Link to this

Theresa, find a group of women friends and go do something you want to do while your husband is off in Dawg land. What’s the big deal?

By Betsy

October 31, 2005 09:09 AM | Link to this

Get a babysitter.. find some friends and tailgate and do the whole game day experience.. if she isn’t going to stick with you for the game then its just disrespectful ..why wouldn’t he want to be around you and spend time with you on football saturdays? do you complain about how hot and smelly it is? the way you write about the sorority girls and blah blah.. if just typical southern football.. how could you expect less or more out of that? Quit whinning and b*** and have a talk with your “husband” get a babysitter or drop them off at a friends house and take advantage of the excitement of UGA football..otherwise.. stay home! Those of us who are excited to be there would rather the sourpusses just stay home instead of rudely recking it!

By Gil Gibson

October 31, 2005 09:12 AM | Link to this

See what you get when you marry a UGA guy?

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 09:34 AM | Link to this

I knew I was going to be attacked by the men but I’m shocked by the ladies.

To Lucy — I’m glad you get to see your husband as much as you want and your kids get all the quality time they need as well. You’re very lucky, and I would suspect in the minority of families in Atlanta. 1. My husband usually leaves for work early in the morning and gets home generally when I’m putting the kids to bed. We all would like more time with him. (I think this is more the norm!) 2. My husband has to travel a lot for business. In September, he was gone 17 out of 30 days. Yet on two Saturdays that he was in town that month he went to see the Bulldogs. The only reason he missed the first game was because he was in Mississippi covering Katrina and couldn’t get home. As much as he loves his family, he is absolutely obsessed with Bulldogs.

To Betsy — You must have read the story too quickly —- I want to go to the games.I enjoy football and other sports. I enjoy Athens. I do not complain at the games. I don’t ask to leave early. I just wrestle with a 2 year old to keep him from disturbing the other folks around us so they can enjoy the game. And believe me Betsy — My husband is more than aware that I’m not happy when he heads off to the games without me. We don’t have a communication issue. What we do have is a heck of a lot of money spent for the right to buy season tickets, a heck of a lot of money spent on season tickets — And I’m not super thrilled to spend an extra $72 a game to have a baby sitter come so I can go. Nor do I want to impose on friends who have their own weekend schedules to worry about.

I’m sure when my children are older and can sit quietly through a game and don’t overheat we will be able to enjoy the games together. But for the last four years, we have not been able to.

By Donna

October 31, 2005 09:41 AM | Link to this

This story makes you look like a total fool for putting up with this kind of nonsense! What century are you living in? Your husband most certainly needs to grow up, but you need to take a step back and observe what is happening here from an outsiders point of view and realize that you are being taken advantage of. Another reason for me to be thankful that “my mama didn’t raise no fool”! Go Jackets!

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 09:43 AM | Link to this

Lucy — I think I was just way too harsh on you — I think you just got a bunch of venom aimed at Betsy and some of the men above. I am sorry Lucy for being so ugly —- Lucy — I did join the Y last year just so I would have some place to look forward to going on Saturdays when my husband was at the game. They have child care so the kids can play, I can work out and then we go home much happier. So I tried to do something positive. A lot of my girlfriends’ husbands don’t leave them on Saturdays so I don’t want to interupt their family time.

By jim3480

October 31, 2005 09:50 AM | Link to this

I figured when I read the article in the AJC, there would be an outpouring of flames from the Bulldog faithful, and I was right. I am a husband and father and my wife and I feel for the anguish the author/wife is going through. Yes, here in Atlanta, I am far from my alma mater, so this is not an issue for my family. However, I am a strong fan of my college and went to games throughout my single 20’s/young professional years. But once I had kids, my priorities changed. Even if I lived back in vicinity, I would be satisfied with one game in person (homecoming) at most.
I guarantee this is only the first issue on the horizon for this family. The husband clearly does not want to be around his wife/kids and will find plenty of other distractions to get away during the off season…I’ll bet it is/will be golf. That’s good way to get away from the family for hours at a time, and get with your buddies. Your kids are young only once and the time goes by real fast. These conflicts will only grow worse…i.e. when the kids are older and involved in sports, extracurricular activities…etc.
My suggestion to this father is to grow up and get your priorities straight, or divorce is in your future. I am shocked at the number of families in our neighborhood and church that are going through or have gone through divorce. Many times, these are the types of problems that were first noticeable to the neglected spouse.
It is easy to watch the Bulldogs on TV. Or is getting sloppy drunk (and checking out hot co-eds) too hard to resist, even at the detriment to your family?

By Joe

October 31, 2005 09:58 AM | Link to this

You Bulldogs are some quality people, huh? How many of your cars are on cinderblocks? While your husband’s at the game, what are you cooking - possum or squirrel? Go Jackets!

By Typical male responses...

October 31, 2005 09:59 AM | Link to this

Theresa, I’ve thought about this more over the weekend, and I still feel such a sense of sadness for you and your family.

I understand the importance of a job, and I certainly understand why your husband needs to works the long hours for his position… however, it just amazes me still that he would choose to give up so much of the limited family time he has to go to the football games for 8 hours at a stretch. What kind of message is he sending the kids?

At least when he stays home to watch the game he can take a moment to share some of the fine points of the game with his kids & get them involved in the process. Your husband seems to have missed the sacrifice part of “Being a parent requires sacrifice.” It’s not about his needs, it’s about theirs. Season tickets will be there years from now, the kids will not. In fact, in just a few more years, everyone can go & have a good time. Things change when you have kids, at least they should. I’m not saying he should never go to a game, but I am saying that he should exercise some self control and choose a game or two each year that’s important to him until the kids are old enough to come along. He needs to strike a balance between yours, his, and the kids’ needs.

By Typical male responses...

October 31, 2005 10:03 AM | Link to this

Thank you, jim3840, for doing the right thing for your family.

By Lucy

October 31, 2005 10:19 AM | Link to this

Joe: thanks for the laugh!!

Jim3480: Could you be proof that the phrase “mature man” is not an oxymoron?? You go, man!!

Theresa, mea culpa, I’m with you here. These Dawg men need to grow up and understand that football is a game. A family is real life.

Got that guys? Football is a game. It’s not that important.

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 10:32 AM | Link to this

A coule of other thoughts — In my husband’s defense - He is a very loving father and plays great with them.When he’s home in time, he bathes them and helps put them to bed - he really doesn’t have that many other hobbies during the year (no golf — mostly just X-Box late at night). I think it just bothers me that all the games are so close together — and I understand that’s why it’s called a season. I get that they can’t spread the games out — but that would help us. THis year has been better than past years. For one, there have been fewer home games together (last year’s four in a row was just way too many!! — Damon Evans take note!!) — Because my husband was in Mississippi for the season opener, I did take my 2-year-old. He said he wanted to see the “dogs run.” So I took him — we didn’t stay very long — it was soo hot. And all the drunk sorority girls kept trying to touch him saying how cute he was. Later in the season, my husband’s best friend couldn’t come to one of the games so he took my daughter, which was really nice. She is 4 and she did great (a little hot and had a hard time going to the bathroom in the men’s room — yuck!) —

By Robin Richards

October 31, 2005 10:40 AM | Link to this

To UGA Mom- I can vouch for the fact that Jimi has never had to pay for babysitting while going to UGA games b/c he didnt start going to UGA games until I (his son) started going to school there in the mid-90s (of course, I worked for the Redcoats then and all I had to do to get away from the drunks was go into the “non-fan” areas of the Stadium). He did one time go to the 84 Tech game in Athens, but mom and I didnt mind- it was too cold for us!

If you want to institute some changes, why not write a letter to Damon Evans, the UGA Athletic Director (I’ll assume you knew who he was) and get the process going from there. Writing a blog in the paper won’t cut it. I think having a kid friendly area would be cool. Also, I do agree that those who attend UGA are, for the most part, rude drunk and obnoxious. The area I sat in for the Arkansas game was fairly tame (it was Redcoat Band Alumni and their families).

And for that “destined to watch football with a babysitter” comment- I grew up watching football with the best babysitters around- my folks. There comes a time in the life of parents where they have to give up the things they like for the betterment of thier kids. If you cant fully give up the tix, then go to a couple of games and sell the rest. Watching the game on TV is one thing- actually coming to Athens and SEEING the game is something totally different. Hopefully in the future, the dad who supposed started this whole ill-concieved gripe fest will take his son along to experience it for himself. For that I say Go Dawgs!

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 10:46 AM | Link to this

One other thing — To our Tech friends out there — My dad has season Tech tickets and it’s so much more family friendly down there. I am in fact taking my daughter with my parents to this Saturday’s Tech game (sorry Georgia!) It’s partially more family friendly because the games are less often sold-out and are not as crowded. Whether officially or not, Tech totally lets people bring in umbrella strollers. You often don’t have to have a ticket for a child (I think they say officially under 2 but I’ve got friends taking 4 year olds in with no ticket.) My dad has crappy seats so there’s always room to stretch out and the kids don’t bother as many fans. I haven’t tried to nurse in the Tech stadium but the bathrooms are a lot cleaner (again due to less people).
It’s a shorter drive so it feels like less of a time commitment. I called the Athletic Department at Georgia to ask them why Tech lets people bring in strollers and why they don’t charge an adult ticket price for a child and I had two funny answers —- The first from a lady who answered the phone on why even infants have to have a ticket at UGA— “If you have a butt then you have to have a ticket.” “Well my child could sit in my lap.” “Do you have a diaper bag? Because diapers bag are big.”

Another fellow on why there’s space for strollers and kids at Tech — “Tech’s giving away tickets with hot dogs down there.”

By fatcat

October 31, 2005 10:55 AM | Link to this

Hey guys, instead of dissing Teresa why don’t you learn something from this. This is obviously bothering her more and more and y’all just want to tell her to stop b***. How many of your relationships are “happy”? And I mean both parties here. Is your girlfriend/wife thinking of leaving/cheating on you because you dismiss her when she “b***”. When she packs all her stuff is that when you’ll start to listen to her? It’s give and take here and these little complaints can turn into big problems if not taken care of. It’s not rocket science. Boys are dumb.

By Glynis

October 31, 2005 10:55 AM | Link to this

Terri -

You really need to put your foot down and schedule some down time for yourself - why not do an eight hour shopping trip? Better yet, why not an entire weekend? Why not go to more than one game? I think its great that your husband can do this and he should, but there has to be some balance for you otherwise you are going to get more and more resentful about it.

By Lillian

October 31, 2005 11:17 AM | Link to this

First of all, if you make the decision to have kids, don’t expect to have the free life you had before kids. It’s not a right. You are a parent now and it’s your duty to put aside your selfish desires for your children.

That said, what kind of parent would take their child to a game at age 2 or God forbid 5 months old?!?! THAT is the most selfish thing I have ever heard. The children could not possibly enjoy it! Because it is a college game, the atmosphere is more laid-back and indulgent…this is not exactly family-time. It is not the college’s fault that you chose to drag along babies and force them to endure excrutiating heat and poor feeding conditions. Keep them at home where they need to be and tape the game, the outcome will not change.

Sheesh!

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 11:27 AM | Link to this

Lillian — I didn’t take them to a game at that age — I took them to a friend’s house in Athens — We had lunch downtown, strolled around town and then went back and visited at her house while the babies napped.

By Lillian

October 31, 2005 11:41 AM | Link to this

“One year, a paramedic took pity on me and let me sit in the back of his ambulance to breastfeed and change Rose.”

???

By Jenn

October 31, 2005 11:51 AM | Link to this

Lillian,

Contrary to my own experience, many women continue to breastfeed their children after infancy. And unlike my own daughter, who was potty-trained at 20 months old, there are some kids who are 3+ prior to being fully trained.

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 11:55 AM | Link to this

Lillian - I took her to homecoming to show her off to our friends and then went in for half of the game — she was 6 months old and we spent most of the game chatting with people at the top of the stadium so I don’t think I was endangering her in any way. Boy Moms really would be depressed if they couldn’t take their kids out to do things.

By jim3480

October 31, 2005 12:01 PM | Link to this

That said, what kind of parent would take their child to a game at age 2 or God forbid 5 months old?!?! THAT is the most selfish thing I have ever heard. The children could not possibly enjoy it! - Lillian

Excellent Lillian - right on. I can never understand these parents that drag their kids to adult outings. I know that my kids would have been miserable being schlepped around to football games every week.

Theresa - You had a lot of courage to pen this article and this aftermath can’t be too much fun. PerhapsI was a little harsh on your husband before. I am sure he does love you and your kids with all of his heart. But…this type of problem will only loom larger if you do not address this with him now. Believe it or not, the demands on the parent’s time only gets greater as the kids grow. And the parent must be willing to sacrifice IF that parent places a high priority on communication and a healthy relationship as the child turns into an adult. We are now early into the dreaded “teen” years and the challenges are greater than ever. I never thought parenting would be so hard…and so rewarding. So far, we are doing OK..relationships are good, school grades are excellent..etc. But I can only imagine how my son and daughter would relate to me if I was spending multiple Saturdays in the fall away from them, getting drunk. Or taking them to the games they may not want to go to. (If they do, then more power to him). If they are going to be playing soccer, football, baseball, gymnastics, cheerleading..etc, than get used to this, because it will be you and only you trekking around to every event (unless you have parents or in-laws that help…we didn’t). That being said, best wishes to you and your family!

By ESA20

October 31, 2005 12:19 PM | Link to this

If it really bothers you, you have to let him know, but you don’t have to make it an all or nothing deal. Let him have a few Saturdays where he can have the whole experience, and have him stay home for some. It’s all about balance. You can suck it up for 2-3 saturdays every fall and keep the kids, and he can suck it up 2-3 saturdays and stay at home. That seems reasonable to me.

By GAHATA

October 31, 2005 12:26 PM | Link to this

WAAAAAAHHHHH!!! Grow up loser. Let the man have his Saturdays. Women should be at home raisin the young uns!

By David Greene

October 31, 2005 12:35 PM | Link to this

I’m embarassed to say that I even read this garbage. It sounds like you have marital problems Theresa. Why are you whining about it in an AJC blog? You need to worry about what’s going on in your household and not what others think about it.

My wife and I (no kids) tailgate with several other couples with kids at Tech games. They all have a good time and everyone (kids included) enjoys themselves.

What we all say in our replies in this blog will not correct the situation? You and your hubby need to figure it out on your own. It seems as though you’re also using the kids as an excuse. “I work 24/7 with the kids and have no breaks….I babysit them at home while he goes to the game” If the kids are causing so much stress in your life, why did you and your husband have them already??

By C

October 31, 2005 12:42 PM | Link to this

Ahhhh…man. Ya’lll give this woman a break. Geeeezzzz…

Ya’ll are killing me…

By James

October 31, 2005 12:44 PM | Link to this

It is a waste of time to watch UAG football….real men watch real football teams, like ALABAMA ROLL TIDE, best in the SEC, undefeated and they did what the Dawgs couldn’t do, stop Florida. Roll Tide Roll. You smilin’ big, aren’t you Bear?

By Tech86

October 31, 2005 12:53 PM | Link to this

Theresa,

I agree that watching a game has to be kept in perspective. Our family has been attending Tech games for 18 years, both pre-kids and now with three. Most of the families in our tailgate group don’t get to make every game because of kid’s activities or just life in general getting busy. Three years ago, after sitting in a post-game traffic jam for two hours, my wife said she’d had it and we skipped the next home game, taking a day trip to the mountains instead. (I checked the score as often as possible of course, and it turned that Tech upset UVA that day). Regardless, when Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.

Whenever we can’t get to a Tech game, we give our tickets to Tech friends. I want my children to grow up with positive memories of football games being a family activity. They love tailgating and going to the game, and the final score to them is just a footnote for the day. Sometimes I wish I could have their attitude, especially when Tech loses.

By leon

October 31, 2005 01:00 PM | Link to this

I sure am glad I’m not married to you!

By DawgyDaddy

October 31, 2005 01:02 PM | Link to this

This past weekend was a great example in the different decisions parents make in attending games or not. The group that I’ve been tailgating with at UGA games treats the UF game as a family weekend with a football game in the middle. That seems to work for them so I say have fun. Personally, there is too much bad behavior surrounding this game for me to bring my young children and my wife.

Other people in our group treat this as “man’s weekend” and you wouldn’t believe some of the comments we recieve. Forget the fact that I have missed every home game this year to stay home to be with my 8 year old and 8 month old, and I do so with no regrets. In reality, it’s been kindof nice to able to relax in a climate contolled environment with all the comforts nearby.

The funniest thing the “man’s weekend” group recieves is ridicule from the family vactioners who act like we must not love our wives and children because we don’t bring them to the cocktail party. Every year I have to explain that we do take family vacations, it’s just the UF game isn’t one of them.

Bottom line, it comes down to communication and trust within the family and each family’s dynamic is different. My wife and I don’t have a scorecard to tally who’s getting the short end of the situation.

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 01:02 PM | Link to this

My, My, My, My, My!! This is the most ridiculous responses I have heard. You men are sad and just sad. This woman is crying out and the only thing you men can do is dog her out. What if this was your wife, sister, mom or even daughter. How would you feel? Yes it is okay for a man to have down time but don’t take advantage of the woman, she is your EQUAL PARTNER, NOT YOUR MAID!!! When you marry and the children come along, it is BOTH OF YOU RESPONSIBILITY, not just the woman. Since she is whining as you all say then I guess it would be ok for her, to find someone else to spend those games with along with her kids, like another man. If she did that then you would be telling her how wrong she was for finding someone else to spend time with on those Saturdays or finding some else she could get a sandwich for that Saturday after she changed the diaper. You “SUPPOSE TO BE MEN” are sad. That is what is wrong with the world now and why so many marriages end up in divorce because of the pig-head men in this world.

Theresa-

Sweetie I understand because I was doing it by myself until I brought it to my husband’s attention and we had to come to some kind of understanding and we did. We watch football as a family, we go to the kids game as a family and when the falcons are home, he takes 1 child to a game and we go to one ourselves and then one he goes with the guys in which I end up fixing all the food for before or after the game. Now every other Friday is family bowling night and they have TV’s in there so if there is a game on, we watched it there and bowl at the same time. Do not let these people get you upset and just sit down and explain it to your husband that he is not in college anymore. Just because you have had kids does not mean you are not his best friend anymore, it is that you all have an addition to the friendship now that you both share. It will all work out in the end, keep your head up and being the loving wife you are. Always remember “If God brought it to you, he will bring you through it!” You and your husband will make it through this and come to an agreement. Only real men would take the time to listen to their wife and these SO CALLED MEN on here are not real men accept one which is JIM3480!!

By GEORGIA97

October 31, 2005 01:13 PM | Link to this

Look ladies, there are 6 home games a year so that’s a measley 6 Saturdays out of 52 that your husbands want to themselves. You wanted the kids, you don’t want to work for a living, so shut up and let the bread winners have a little fun just 6 times a year. Go play Bunko or have a tupperware party!

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 01:13 PM | Link to this

OK, THERE HAS BEEN SO MORE RESPONSE ADDED WHILE I WAS IN THE MIST OF WRITING MY RESPONSE. SEEMS THAT WE HAVE MORE REAL MEN COMING OUT AND SPEAKING INSTEAD OF STUPIDITY!!!

By James

October 31, 2005 01:21 PM | Link to this

The whinning wife must be from North Fulton or Dunwoody. Get a grip lady, it’s just a few lousy Saturday’s and after the season is over you have all the other week-ends to ride around with your cell phone planted to your ear driving your SUV like the world owes you and your little darlings a living. Married to you, the poor guy needs not only a few football games but I’d throw in a couple of lapdances at the Cheetah Club. I’d be introducing you as my first wife.

By Ms. GA Dawg

October 31, 2005 01:22 PM | Link to this

As a woman, you embarrass me. You are what my tailgate group calls a ‘Band Waggoner’. You want to show up one football weekend and have the entire city of Athens revolve around you and your kids. You are so worried about people spilling liquor on you and your kids leave them at home where they should be. Sanford Stadium is not a place for children but a place to WATCH a football game. Leave the kids at home with the babysitter and quite complaining.

By Jason

October 31, 2005 01:27 PM | Link to this

Wow. God help me if I ever marry someone like this.

By Brian

October 31, 2005 01:27 PM | Link to this

I have only been married 10 months and while my wife and I live too far to travel back for games even though I would like to go to one. We always discuss it to see if it is an option.

If this is bothering you so much you need to have this conversation with your husband and not post your opinions on this where everyone can read it. If you think calling him out in an article is going to keep him from his Jack and barking you are wrong. This kind of response can only cause more problems than it can solve.

Like I said, I hope you discussed this with him first, not because he is a man, but because he is your husband and while you may not like him going to games it is a family decision. You decide to let him go, whether he asks or not. Hopefully this article was a family decision as well.

By BAMA RULES

October 31, 2005 01:43 PM | Link to this

ROLL TIDE!!!!!! The ONLY undefeated TOP 5 team in the SEC!!!!!!!!!

Choke on that DAWGS.

Dont worry crylady, your husband will be at home with you for the SEC Championship Game as the CRIMSON TIDE plays the FLORIDA GATORS AGAIN!!!!!!

Go GATORS! Bye pretenders!

By MissGeorgia

October 31, 2005 01:51 PM | Link to this

There is no way in hell that I would let my husband to go to a Georgia game without me! We all know that attending a season of games is a financial investment. If you really want to go, you just need to include the cost of babysitting in your budget for the year. When your kids are old enough they can partake in the festivities, too. For now, you can all enjoy Sundays together.

By Mrs. Mays

October 31, 2005 01:59 PM | Link to this

Theresa I am happy that you are able to see the good qualities in your husband. I understand how you feel but I also feel that our husbands need their “own” time as well. You said it yourself, it is more of a hassle for you to attend the game with him now that you have kids so let him enjoy himself with the fellows during the season. I am sure if you asked him or let him know that you would like to attend a game or two he would oblige. Hey if you do don’t complain about how ling he stays there.

Yes I am married and I love when my husband goes to games or somewhere to look at the games because then I don’t have to hear him bugging me about what’s to eat - it’s my quiet time from him.

Your kids will be old enough to stay by themselves before you know it so enjoy them now.

Dang Lillian I hope that you don’t have kids if you think there is a problem with taking a two or five year old to a game. Theresa - do you and forget all the negative comments. Find something that works for you with the kids. Just because we decided to have kids doesn’t mean we decided to become prisoners - we need breaks from the kids to and THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT AND IT DOESN’T MEAN WE ARE BAD MOMS.

AS FOR THE MEN - SHUT IT UP AND GO GET YOUR OWN SANDWICH!!!!!!!!!! DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF.

By Lee

October 31, 2005 02:03 PM | Link to this

Man, this guy has a problem. As a male UGA fan, I feel like I need to apologize on behalf of my brethren. Your hubby really needs to grow up and realize, that while these games are important, so is his family. He should be able to go to each game and not get trashed. He should also be able to realize when the game is not as important as your needs (like when you are sick as a dawg).

I think you are way too understanding of his needs and he takes advantage of that. If it does come to divorce, make sure you get his season tix in the settlement. That’ll learn him real quick!

By GatorsOwnedGA

October 31, 2005 02:04 PM | Link to this

although I think you should quit whining, I think you will have a solid point if you use LOGIC and STATISTICS to explain that the Dawgs NEVER win against Florida and that you can have that weekend as a family day! (maybe teach your kids Gator cheers if it isn’t too late for them) In the long run he will thank you.

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 02:09 PM | Link to this

558DAWG Get a life!! We can honestly tell you are not married and never will be, because it says it in your name,YOU ARE A SAD A@@ DAWG

By Lee

October 31, 2005 02:10 PM | Link to this

The above comment truly shows the class one can expect from a Gator fan. Thank you for the excellent example, but the drive through is backing up and I still haven’t gotten my fries.

By Josh

October 31, 2005 02:18 PM | Link to this

To: Typical Male Responses

So are the responses typical bc there is some validity to them as evidenced by the general consensus, including the females, or are you simply what you are trying to make every man out to be…typical?

To Theresa: You sound like a whiny wife who wants your husband to put his jewels in your purse. He sounds like an absent father who is a borderline alchoholic…spend the rest of your Saturdays in therapy…That is, if you can find one who isn’t a memeber of the female man-hater club.

By Fan

October 31, 2005 02:21 PM | Link to this

I am hoping that your husband is not as bad as some of these guys who are responding to your article. These guys want to be there to make the babies but don’t want to care for them. Of course you husband could be like my boyfriend. He leaves his wife at home and takes me.

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 02:27 PM | Link to this

Well damn fan that was a nice way of putting it. But I have just one question how do you look at yourself in the mirror? Put yourself in his wife shoes and how would you feel if he was treating you the same way, having another woman behind your back. That is what is wrong today no one believes in COMMITMENT anymore. That is nothing to be proud of sweetie!!

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 02:30 PM | Link to this

Football is just a game ,yeah and the Grand Canyon is just a hole in the ground. 92,000 people at every game in Sanford Stadium and over half of them are Women.Football is a good hobby,join in with your husband and enjoy the games.Be thankful he don’t have the kind of hobby some guys got get drunk,chase after every skirt in town then go home beat the wife.A smart woman would use the games as some special time with hubby.Drop the kids with mama or sister Susie,break out that red and black teddy and wear it under your cloths to the game and let him have a little peak maybe just after halftime.Tell him you can do something for him that none of the Bulldogs can do.He might have to see how the game turned out the next day on The Mark Richt Show.

By Fan

October 31, 2005 02:33 PM | Link to this

Didn’t say anything was going on. She doesn’t want to go to the games and I do. It is her choice not to go. I am the one who doesn’t want the commitment, not him. And I am very, very proud of myself.

By **Stephanie**

October 31, 2005 02:33 PM | Link to this

No 558Dawg, my husband did the dishes and washed the clothes, while I relaxed. It is called taking turns. I am sure your mother would be ashamed if she knew how or what you think!! I am quite sure your parents did not raise any of you to be dishonest or not have respect for yourselves or women!! Remember MEN you all came from a WOMAN

By Susie

October 31, 2005 02:33 PM | Link to this

Wow, sounds like you married a real a*-clown. What does he want to be when he grows up? (hint: hopefully not a husband and father!)

By Solution

October 31, 2005 02:34 PM | Link to this

It sounds like the “real” issue might be that you can’t afford the tickets and baby sitter. So either sell the tix each year or give them up thereby allowing the thousands whose ticket requests are refunded each year to enjoy the game! You and Hubby can then save the cash, spend time with the kids, and watch the games on t.v.

By MissGeorgia

October 31, 2005 02:34 PM | Link to this

I am married, 558Dawg, and our wedding was scheduled around Georgia football. My husband and I thoroughly enjoy the games together every weekend, and when we have children who are old enough, they, too, will get to enjoy the thrill of the games.

By Susie

October 31, 2005 02:36 PM | Link to this

I wanted to add, that this can only happen for as long as you are willing to tolerate it.

And that there seem to be an awful lot of your husband’s a*-clown friends reading your blog.

By Eloren

October 31, 2005 02:41 PM | Link to this

It’s nothing to do with Football or even mothering, but I read some of those responses and got a glimmering of why Georgia is a Red state.

By reddawg

October 31, 2005 02:46 PM | Link to this

Nothing wrong with Georgia being a red state, but wouldn’t you say it’s actually more of a red and black state?

By Typical male responses...

October 31, 2005 02:48 PM | Link to this

Josh,

They were typical male responses because when I first read & responded this post last week, the responses I read were exactly what I expected to read from the men, or should I say, entitled little boys? I was surprised to read so much hostility from the women as well.

In brief, here are the initial comments that caused me to form that opinion:

Uhm, since when are fathers ENTITLED to go to the game simply because they’re men? If she hated the game prekids, I could see the reasoning, but she enjoyed tailgating/the game before & he now simply presumes that she should have to stay home with the kids so that he can go get drunk & bark like a dog—why? Because she’s a woman? And why is it selfish to not want to be stuck home with the kids yet again? It’s not our job to be your babysitter. Find your own way to get someone to watch the kids without further impacting our family budget… don’t expect me to do it.

If you read her bio., you’ll see that her hubby works long hours as it is. His “hobby” is taking up at least 1/8 of his available time with his kids, assuming he’s not called out of town to cover a major news event. Grow up. Be a man by being a dad. Oh, and his “hobby” seems to be more about the love of the jack & buzz than the game. And like I said in my post, we don’t want to leave each & every week… unlike some of the posts on here, women typically value having quality family time.

I think this pretty much speaks for itself, but just in case… it’s sad that there are men out there who feel that college football is more important than family, as is evidenced by this and other posts. And it’s equally sad that there’s a perception that spending time together as a family = relying on men to keep us “comfortable & entertained.” It’s called priorities…maybe he should reevaluate his.

By Susie

October 31, 2005 02:49 PM | Link to this

Amen, Jim3480…you said it. If you don’t want to grow up and reorganize your priorities, you shouldn’t get married and have kids. I know people who have been divorced over less selfishness than this. And you are right, when it’s not football, it’s going to be something else. At least she’s already getting used to being a single parent.

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 02:51 PM | Link to this

We see 558dawg is not the scholar!! Just one question, “Who carries you for 9 months honey?” Once again you come from us; we nourish you for 9 months. Not the men!! We feed you for 9 months and keep you warm; all the men do is hit you in the head for as many months as he can, until we can not have it anymore. You must forget who is in labor all of those hours not you!! I will get you a beer only if I can add a little flavor to it. :-)

By Susie

October 31, 2005 02:56 PM | Link to this

To Fatcat: How many of these guys have happy relationships?? Their wives left them years ago!

By Susie

October 31, 2005 02:58 PM | Link to this

Um, Lillian honey? I think it took BOTH of them to have those children. She didn’t do it all by herself. So SHE should sacrifice the rest of her life for them, while her husband changes NOTHING in his? Are you the mother of some of these jerks who have commented here? Someone sure raised them to be the way they are.

By Susie

October 31, 2005 03:04 PM | Link to this

So, Georgia97, are you saying you didn’t want your kids? Just your wife? What’s that? Ah, I see, nobody would dare breed with you.

By Bully Dawg

October 31, 2005 03:05 PM | Link to this

You are without a doubt the most selfish, self-absorbed Mom-anista I have ever heard. I am sure that you have “Mommy Time” with your fellow Moms. No husband would be welcomed or invited to these W(h)ine Fests. But let your husband (who apparently is a supportive husband for the other 46 or so Saturdays per year) want to enjoy the Dawgs, and you blow a mammary gasket. Lady, listen up: your husband is not cheating on you; he is not unreasonably blowing the family’s money (which he earned); he gives you guys attention 95% of the year. Back off and let the man BREATHE!

By Weekend Friend

October 31, 2005 03:08 PM | Link to this

Call me next home game, Theresa. I’m sure we can find something to do while your hubby is gone.

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 03:11 PM | Link to this

Boy I tell you,its getting where women all they want is some henpecked, milk toast,never stand up for theirselves errand boys.What ever happened to the kind of men that made this nation great the ones with guts that fought and won WW2.The ones that whipped the Japs and the Nazi’s.Masculine,raw hides.Sure men are gonna like hunting and fishing and football and baseball,some of these WOMEN think this stuff is new in a mans world.I tell you right now if your husband’s biggest vice is enjoying GA FOOTBALL You ain’t got to bad of problem.

By Heather Beyer

October 31, 2005 03:15 PM | Link to this

I hear you! My husband was back at the game 2 weeks after we brought our daughter home from the hospital. She is now 13 months old and we are still left to play alone every Saturday there is a home game. For the away games we are still alone as my husband watches the game at a fellow DAWGS home. I too feel selfish for even thinking about complaining but when was the last time he lept out of bed at 5:45am with such enthusiasm to spend 15 hours with the family? Funny I can’t remember when that has ever happened. I know I am fighting a battle that will never be won but I would love the entire family to enjoy in the fun. Dads certainly deserve a day of fun with friends to party and have a good time but who said Mom (and baby) didn’t NEED the same release?

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 03:18 PM | Link to this

Did Adam carry the baby? All he did was provide the sperm to make it, after that you all don’t have anything else to do, until it comes out? How many stretch marks did Adam get, how many times did Adam vomit in the morning, how many times a day did Adam pee within an hour? Come on now the truth shall set you free or are you afraid of the truth. We women would love for you men to carry a baby for 9 months and I, promise you will have a changed mind.

By Susie

October 31, 2005 03:19 PM | Link to this

haha, 558dawg…women were “derived from men? God created man, took one look at him, and said, “I’m gonna try ONE MORE TIME to get this right…”

By Lillian

October 31, 2005 03:21 PM | Link to this

I never said the father should not be responsible. I said that when people become parents that they give up their right to a free life. By using “you” I was talking in general terms. I guess I should put “you and your partner/spouse/baby’s mama/baby’s daddy, etc.”.

Obviously Theresa and her husband have some negotiating to do and I’m not leaning one way or the other as to what the ideal compromise is for them. Only they can decide that.

My issue is that there are parents selfish enough to put their WANTS over their children’s NEEDS. Show me an infant who enjoys being shown off and “schlepped” around (good choice of words Jim!) to a loud, long outdoor sporting event. Show me a toddler who will not get tired, cranky or miserable during such an event, whether hauled there by mom -or- dad. That’s what burns me alive. We are not talking about school-aged children who may enjoy the game.

And for the record my spouse and I do not have children because we are responsible enough not to bring children into this world that we are not 100% committed to caring for above our own needs and wishes.

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 03:23 PM | Link to this

Heather, What does he do with you and baby girl the other Saturdays of the year? The ones from FEB to August when there is no GA football. If he isn’t spending time with you then football isn’t the problem.And yes women to deserve their leisure too>

By Soon To be Father

October 31, 2005 03:23 PM | Link to this

Well after reading all this I’m getting a little nervous about next Football Season. My son is due Jan 1. I guess I better enjoy these last few games huh! Nah…it will work itself out. GO DAWGS

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 03:29 PM | Link to this

Stephanie, Are we mad because God made me a woman?

By Hobbes

October 31, 2005 03:31 PM | Link to this

Gee wonder why a guy wouldn’t leap out of bed at 5:45 a.m. to listen to all that whining? If I were him I’d follow the dogs too to get away from Theresa’s incessant carping.

Theresa and the rest of youfootball “widows” why don’t you ask yourself “Why I am such a drag that my husband can’t wait to leave for hours at time?”

I thank God my wife is not like you.

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 03:32 PM | Link to this

This is exactly why he needs to stay home:

Fla. student fatally beaten after Dogs-Gator game

Associated Press Published on: 10/31/05 JACKSONVILLE, Fla. � Five men were charged with murder in the fatal beating of a University of Florida student, authorities said.

Numerous onlookers saw the beating Saturday night of Thomas Oliver Brown, 23, who was held down by three men and beaten by two others, the Jacksonville sheriff’s office said.

Brown was not breathing and had no pulse when rescue personnel arrived. They tried to revive him, but he was pronounced dead at Shands Jacksonville, police said.

Jeremy Lane, 21, Alex Canzano, 21, Casey Schuurman, 19, and Mark Foss, 18, all of Jacksonville, and Jeffery Groncziak, 19, of Ponte Vedra Beach, were arrested and jailed on murder charges Sunday, police said.</