MOMania

By Kevin

October 28, 2005 08:01 AM | Link to this

Wow! Your husband has already watched this year’s Florida game? How did we do?

By Jimi Richards

October 28, 2005 08:02 AM | Link to this

This only takes up 10-11 weeks out of 52 weeks per year……….. He spends 79% of those weekends at home….get a babysitter for the other 21% and go to the games!

By Brian B.

October 28, 2005 08:40 AM | Link to this

UGA football, at most, takes up 11-13 Saturdays (Or weekends for a road trip) per year. That is at most 25% of the available Saturdays/weekends every year.

This is his hobby; it is something he enjoys. Instead of whining about it, why not find a hobby for yourself that you can do on the MAJORITY of Saturdays/weekends that remain in the year?

By Dave the Dawg

October 28, 2005 08:49 AM | Link to this

Could you be any more whiny and selfish? Let the man enjoy a few Saturdays each year! You’re lucky he hasn’t left you yet.

Now go change a diaper and fix your husband a sandwich and bring him a Jack and Coke.

By stop whining

October 28, 2005 08:53 AM | Link to this

And I am sure he whined until you had kids. Get real lady. You summed up your argument in the last paragraph…you want to sit around and “chit-chat.” Save it for the bridge club, this is football. If you don’t like it, as others have said, hire a babysitter. But, I am sure YOU are the buzz-kill.

By Captain James T. Kirk

October 28, 2005 08:59 AM | Link to this

Madamme, your husband is likely out chasing women who are not crazy.

By Sad but true

October 28, 2005 09:09 AM | Link to this

Poor, poor man. A grand total of 6 home games and you’ve got to bend him over a barrel for going to Athens. 6 Saturdays out of the entire year. Get a hobby, find a friend , or here’s a wild idea, go do something with the kids.

By Waaaah!, Waaah!, Waaaah!

October 28, 2005 09:13 AM | Link to this

Wow, your husband gets to go to the game without you?! He must be living right.

My wife insists on going with me, complains about how early we leave for Athens, complains about the lack of parking, complains about the heat, complains about the drunks, complains about my drinking, complains about what I eat, complains about our seat location, complains about the crowd, complains about the ticket prices, complains about the concession prices, complains about Larry Munson and then wants to leave early to beat the crowd.

Do us all a favor lady, and stay home. Better yet, divorce your husband, take your kids and move up north of the Mason Dixon line where they’ve never heard of college football. Maybe you’ll find some gonad impaired husband who spends his every waking moment making sure you are comfortable and entertained.

By Distinctive Houn

October 28, 2005 09:21 AM | Link to this

are you HOT?

By Typical male responses...

October 28, 2005 09:22 AM | Link to this

Guys,

We’re supposed to be your partners, not your babysitters. Like it or not, when you had kids, your priorities should have shifted to your family & not a drunk-fest each week.

Theresa, You had the right idea going to Athens to visit a friend while your husband went to the game… at least then you’re both getting your needs met. As for being a buzz kill, your husband needs to grow up a bit. If he goes for the love of the game, there’s no problem with you sharing the ride to Athens with him—it’s still the same football game. But if he’s going to have a chance to get drunk and act like he’s in college again, then he seriously needs to reevaluate game day. He’s a father now. He’s missing out on 25% of his children’s Saturdays, which is sad considering how little dads see their children as it is. Why doesn’t he take a kid & try to foster the love of the game in him?

Bottom line is he may work 40hours a week, but we work 24/7, and we need a break as well. For us, a break can be as simple as having another person around to share the load on the weekend. It’s not about t**-for-tat—you take your eight hours here, I’ll take my eight hours there…. despite the responses I’ve read so far, we actually ENJOY spending time together as a family—mom, dad, kids & all. Why would we want to toss away those precious hours just to be “even.”

I would start refusing to be a babysitter, though. If he wants to go, if that’s so important to him, then fine. Go. But, he shouldn’t just assume that you will be there to watch the kids 11-13 Saturdays for year—we get enough overtime when they have to work late or on weekends for their jobs. He should be in charge of finding his own sitter & finding a way to do it that doesn’t infringe upon your monthly budget… moms have babysitting co-ops, so I know there are “free” options. Plus, you should propose your idea about the student center to UGA.. it’s good.

By UGA Mom

October 28, 2005 09:23 AM | Link to this

It appears I’m the first mom to comment today. Hobbies are great — and yes, both dads and moms should have them. After reading these comments, however, I wondered how Jimi feels about paying the $800 (MINIMUM)for babysitting fees each fall so that mom and dad can tailgate and attend the game. Also, Jimi’s children are now destined to spend all day each football Saturday with a babysitter.

From reading Theresa’s column, it appears she also enjoys the hobby of attending Georgia games. She has just been shut out because the games aren’t kid-friendly and her husband doesn’t want the game-day experience to be anything less that what he enjoyed during his college years.

I’m fortunate that my husband, also a Dawgs fan, enjoys watching the games with our three young children. We both read Theresa’s blog this morning and laughed at it. Unlike Brian, I viewed her column less as a whiny diatribe and more of an observation of the differences between moms and dads.

This is obviously a generalization, and I’m sure exceptions to this rule exist, but the dads I know (including my own husband) tend to have more hobbies than the moms and tend to only worry about their own, individual schedules. That makes it much easier to work in football weekends, golf tournaments, X-Box marathons or whatever. Moms tend to be concerned not only with their personal schedules, but also those of their children and their husbands. So a mother, in general, is less likely to assume it’s okay to take 11% of the weekends in the year for her own personal pursuit of happiness. I’m not judging moms or dads either way — it just seems to be the way we are.

By Mark Richt

October 28, 2005 09:24 AM | Link to this

Theresa,

Shut-up and get your whinning butt back in the kitchen!!!

Mark

By mike

October 31, 2005 08:46 AM | Link to this

want some cheese with that wine? shame on the AJC for printng this crap…

By brent

October 31, 2005 08:51 AM | Link to this

What editor approved this idiotic story. Why don’t you run a story about the % of men lined up outside Lenox Mall the day after Thanksgiving.

By Lucy

October 31, 2005 08:55 AM | Link to this

Theresa, find a group of women friends and go do something you want to do while your husband is off in Dawg land. What’s the big deal?

By Betsy

October 31, 2005 09:09 AM | Link to this

Get a babysitter.. find some friends and tailgate and do the whole game day experience.. if she isn’t going to stick with you for the game then its just disrespectful ..why wouldn’t he want to be around you and spend time with you on football saturdays? do you complain about how hot and smelly it is? the way you write about the sorority girls and blah blah.. if just typical southern football.. how could you expect less or more out of that? Quit whinning and b*** and have a talk with your “husband” get a babysitter or drop them off at a friends house and take advantage of the excitement of UGA football..otherwise.. stay home! Those of us who are excited to be there would rather the sourpusses just stay home instead of rudely recking it!

By Gil Gibson

October 31, 2005 09:12 AM | Link to this

See what you get when you marry a UGA guy?

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 09:34 AM | Link to this

I knew I was going to be attacked by the men but I’m shocked by the ladies.

To Lucy — I’m glad you get to see your husband as much as you want and your kids get all the quality time they need as well. You’re very lucky, and I would suspect in the minority of families in Atlanta. 1. My husband usually leaves for work early in the morning and gets home generally when I’m putting the kids to bed. We all would like more time with him. (I think this is more the norm!) 2. My husband has to travel a lot for business. In September, he was gone 17 out of 30 days. Yet on two Saturdays that he was in town that month he went to see the Bulldogs. The only reason he missed the first game was because he was in Mississippi covering Katrina and couldn’t get home. As much as he loves his family, he is absolutely obsessed with Bulldogs.

To Betsy — You must have read the story too quickly —- I want to go to the games.I enjoy football and other sports. I enjoy Athens. I do not complain at the games. I don’t ask to leave early. I just wrestle with a 2 year old to keep him from disturbing the other folks around us so they can enjoy the game. And believe me Betsy — My husband is more than aware that I’m not happy when he heads off to the games without me. We don’t have a communication issue. What we do have is a heck of a lot of money spent for the right to buy season tickets, a heck of a lot of money spent on season tickets — And I’m not super thrilled to spend an extra $72 a game to have a baby sitter come so I can go. Nor do I want to impose on friends who have their own weekend schedules to worry about.

I’m sure when my children are older and can sit quietly through a game and don’t overheat we will be able to enjoy the games together. But for the last four years, we have not been able to.

By Donna

October 31, 2005 09:41 AM | Link to this

This story makes you look like a total fool for putting up with this kind of nonsense! What century are you living in? Your husband most certainly needs to grow up, but you need to take a step back and observe what is happening here from an outsiders point of view and realize that you are being taken advantage of. Another reason for me to be thankful that “my mama didn’t raise no fool”! Go Jackets!

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 09:43 AM | Link to this

Lucy — I think I was just way too harsh on you — I think you just got a bunch of venom aimed at Betsy and some of the men above. I am sorry Lucy for being so ugly —- Lucy — I did join the Y last year just so I would have some place to look forward to going on Saturdays when my husband was at the game. They have child care so the kids can play, I can work out and then we go home much happier. So I tried to do something positive. A lot of my girlfriends’ husbands don’t leave them on Saturdays so I don’t want to interupt their family time.

By jim3480

October 31, 2005 09:50 AM | Link to this

I figured when I read the article in the AJC, there would be an outpouring of flames from the Bulldog faithful, and I was right. I am a husband and father and my wife and I feel for the anguish the author/wife is going through. Yes, here in Atlanta, I am far from my alma mater, so this is not an issue for my family. However, I am a strong fan of my college and went to games throughout my single 20’s/young professional years. But once I had kids, my priorities changed. Even if I lived back in vicinity, I would be satisfied with one game in person (homecoming) at most.
I guarantee this is only the first issue on the horizon for this family. The husband clearly does not want to be around his wife/kids and will find plenty of other distractions to get away during the off season…I’ll bet it is/will be golf. That’s good way to get away from the family for hours at a time, and get with your buddies. Your kids are young only once and the time goes by real fast. These conflicts will only grow worse…i.e. when the kids are older and involved in sports, extracurricular activities…etc.
My suggestion to this father is to grow up and get your priorities straight, or divorce is in your future. I am shocked at the number of families in our neighborhood and church that are going through or have gone through divorce. Many times, these are the types of problems that were first noticeable to the neglected spouse.
It is easy to watch the Bulldogs on TV. Or is getting sloppy drunk (and checking out hot co-eds) too hard to resist, even at the detriment to your family?

By Joe

October 31, 2005 09:58 AM | Link to this

You Bulldogs are some quality people, huh? How many of your cars are on cinderblocks? While your husband’s at the game, what are you cooking - possum or squirrel? Go Jackets!

By Typical male responses...

October 31, 2005 09:59 AM | Link to this

Theresa, I’ve thought about this more over the weekend, and I still feel such a sense of sadness for you and your family.

I understand the importance of a job, and I certainly understand why your husband needs to works the long hours for his position… however, it just amazes me still that he would choose to give up so much of the limited family time he has to go to the football games for 8 hours at a stretch. What kind of message is he sending the kids?

At least when he stays home to watch the game he can take a moment to share some of the fine points of the game with his kids & get them involved in the process. Your husband seems to have missed the sacrifice part of “Being a parent requires sacrifice.” It’s not about his needs, it’s about theirs. Season tickets will be there years from now, the kids will not. In fact, in just a few more years, everyone can go & have a good time. Things change when you have kids, at least they should. I’m not saying he should never go to a game, but I am saying that he should exercise some self control and choose a game or two each year that’s important to him until the kids are old enough to come along. He needs to strike a balance between yours, his, and the kids’ needs.

By Typical male responses...

October 31, 2005 10:03 AM | Link to this

Thank you, jim3840, for doing the right thing for your family.

By Lucy

October 31, 2005 10:19 AM | Link to this

Joe: thanks for the laugh!!

Jim3480: Could you be proof that the phrase “mature man” is not an oxymoron?? You go, man!!

Theresa, mea culpa, I’m with you here. These Dawg men need to grow up and understand that football is a game. A family is real life.

Got that guys? Football is a game. It’s not that important.

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 10:32 AM | Link to this

A coule of other thoughts — In my husband’s defense - He is a very loving father and plays great with them.When he’s home in time, he bathes them and helps put them to bed - he really doesn’t have that many other hobbies during the year (no golf — mostly just X-Box late at night). I think it just bothers me that all the games are so close together — and I understand that’s why it’s called a season. I get that they can’t spread the games out — but that would help us. THis year has been better than past years. For one, there have been fewer home games together (last year’s four in a row was just way too many!! — Damon Evans take note!!) — Because my husband was in Mississippi for the season opener, I did take my 2-year-old. He said he wanted to see the “dogs run.” So I took him — we didn’t stay very long — it was soo hot. And all the drunk sorority girls kept trying to touch him saying how cute he was. Later in the season, my husband’s best friend couldn’t come to one of the games so he took my daughter, which was really nice. She is 4 and she did great (a little hot and had a hard time going to the bathroom in the men’s room — yuck!) —

By Robin Richards

October 31, 2005 10:40 AM | Link to this

To UGA Mom- I can vouch for the fact that Jimi has never had to pay for babysitting while going to UGA games b/c he didnt start going to UGA games until I (his son) started going to school there in the mid-90s (of course, I worked for the Redcoats then and all I had to do to get away from the drunks was go into the “non-fan” areas of the Stadium). He did one time go to the 84 Tech game in Athens, but mom and I didnt mind- it was too cold for us!

If you want to institute some changes, why not write a letter to Damon Evans, the UGA Athletic Director (I’ll assume you knew who he was) and get the process going from there. Writing a blog in the paper won’t cut it. I think having a kid friendly area would be cool. Also, I do agree that those who attend UGA are, for the most part, rude drunk and obnoxious. The area I sat in for the Arkansas game was fairly tame (it was Redcoat Band Alumni and their families).

And for that “destined to watch football with a babysitter” comment- I grew up watching football with the best babysitters around- my folks. There comes a time in the life of parents where they have to give up the things they like for the betterment of thier kids. If you cant fully give up the tix, then go to a couple of games and sell the rest. Watching the game on TV is one thing- actually coming to Athens and SEEING the game is something totally different. Hopefully in the future, the dad who supposed started this whole ill-concieved gripe fest will take his son along to experience it for himself. For that I say Go Dawgs!

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 10:46 AM | Link to this

One other thing — To our Tech friends out there — My dad has season Tech tickets and it’s so much more family friendly down there. I am in fact taking my daughter with my parents to this Saturday’s Tech game (sorry Georgia!) It’s partially more family friendly because the games are less often sold-out and are not as crowded. Whether officially or not, Tech totally lets people bring in umbrella strollers. You often don’t have to have a ticket for a child (I think they say officially under 2 but I’ve got friends taking 4 year olds in with no ticket.) My dad has crappy seats so there’s always room to stretch out and the kids don’t bother as many fans. I haven’t tried to nurse in the Tech stadium but the bathrooms are a lot cleaner (again due to less people).
It’s a shorter drive so it feels like less of a time commitment. I called the Athletic Department at Georgia to ask them why Tech lets people bring in strollers and why they don’t charge an adult ticket price for a child and I had two funny answers —- The first from a lady who answered the phone on why even infants have to have a ticket at UGA— “If you have a butt then you have to have a ticket.” “Well my child could sit in my lap.” “Do you have a diaper bag? Because diapers bag are big.”

Another fellow on why there’s space for strollers and kids at Tech — “Tech’s giving away tickets with hot dogs down there.”

By fatcat

October 31, 2005 10:55 AM | Link to this

Hey guys, instead of dissing Teresa why don’t you learn something from this. This is obviously bothering her more and more and y’all just want to tell her to stop b***. How many of your relationships are “happy”? And I mean both parties here. Is your girlfriend/wife thinking of leaving/cheating on you because you dismiss her when she “b***”. When she packs all her stuff is that when you’ll start to listen to her? It’s give and take here and these little complaints can turn into big problems if not taken care of. It’s not rocket science. Boys are dumb.

By Glynis

October 31, 2005 10:55 AM | Link to this

Terri -

You really need to put your foot down and schedule some down time for yourself - why not do an eight hour shopping trip? Better yet, why not an entire weekend? Why not go to more than one game? I think its great that your husband can do this and he should, but there has to be some balance for you otherwise you are going to get more and more resentful about it.

By Lillian

October 31, 2005 11:17 AM | Link to this

First of all, if you make the decision to have kids, don’t expect to have the free life you had before kids. It’s not a right. You are a parent now and it’s your duty to put aside your selfish desires for your children.

That said, what kind of parent would take their child to a game at age 2 or God forbid 5 months old?!?! THAT is the most selfish thing I have ever heard. The children could not possibly enjoy it! Because it is a college game, the atmosphere is more laid-back and indulgent…this is not exactly family-time. It is not the college’s fault that you chose to drag along babies and force them to endure excrutiating heat and poor feeding conditions. Keep them at home where they need to be and tape the game, the outcome will not change.

Sheesh!

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 11:27 AM | Link to this

Lillian — I didn’t take them to a game at that age — I took them to a friend’s house in Athens — We had lunch downtown, strolled around town and then went back and visited at her house while the babies napped.

By Lillian

October 31, 2005 11:41 AM | Link to this

“One year, a paramedic took pity on me and let me sit in the back of his ambulance to breastfeed and change Rose.”

???

By Jenn

October 31, 2005 11:51 AM | Link to this

Lillian,

Contrary to my own experience, many women continue to breastfeed their children after infancy. And unlike my own daughter, who was potty-trained at 20 months old, there are some kids who are 3+ prior to being fully trained.

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 11:55 AM | Link to this

Lillian - I took her to homecoming to show her off to our friends and then went in for half of the game — she was 6 months old and we spent most of the game chatting with people at the top of the stadium so I don’t think I was endangering her in any way. Boy Moms really would be depressed if they couldn’t take their kids out to do things.

By jim3480

October 31, 2005 12:01 PM | Link to this

That said, what kind of parent would take their child to a game at age 2 or God forbid 5 months old?!?! THAT is the most selfish thing I have ever heard. The children could not possibly enjoy it! - Lillian

Excellent Lillian - right on. I can never understand these parents that drag their kids to adult outings. I know that my kids would have been miserable being schlepped around to football games every week.

Theresa - You had a lot of courage to pen this article and this aftermath can’t be too much fun. PerhapsI was a little harsh on your husband before. I am sure he does love you and your kids with all of his heart. But…this type of problem will only loom larger if you do not address this with him now. Believe it or not, the demands on the parent’s time only gets greater as the kids grow. And the parent must be willing to sacrifice IF that parent places a high priority on communication and a healthy relationship as the child turns into an adult. We are now early into the dreaded “teen” years and the challenges are greater than ever. I never thought parenting would be so hard…and so rewarding. So far, we are doing OK..relationships are good, school grades are excellent..etc. But I can only imagine how my son and daughter would relate to me if I was spending multiple Saturdays in the fall away from them, getting drunk. Or taking them to the games they may not want to go to. (If they do, then more power to him). If they are going to be playing soccer, football, baseball, gymnastics, cheerleading..etc, than get used to this, because it will be you and only you trekking around to every event (unless you have parents or in-laws that help…we didn’t). That being said, best wishes to you and your family!

By ESA20

October 31, 2005 12:19 PM | Link to this

If it really bothers you, you have to let him know, but you don’t have to make it an all or nothing deal. Let him have a few Saturdays where he can have the whole experience, and have him stay home for some. It’s all about balance. You can suck it up for 2-3 saturdays every fall and keep the kids, and he can suck it up 2-3 saturdays and stay at home. That seems reasonable to me.

By GAHATA

October 31, 2005 12:26 PM | Link to this

WAAAAAAHHHHH!!! Grow up loser. Let the man have his Saturdays. Women should be at home raisin the young uns!

By David Greene

October 31, 2005 12:35 PM | Link to this

I’m embarassed to say that I even read this garbage. It sounds like you have marital problems Theresa. Why are you whining about it in an AJC blog? You need to worry about what’s going on in your household and not what others think about it.

My wife and I (no kids) tailgate with several other couples with kids at Tech games. They all have a good time and everyone (kids included) enjoys themselves.

What we all say in our replies in this blog will not correct the situation? You and your hubby need to figure it out on your own. It seems as though you’re also using the kids as an excuse. “I work 24/7 with the kids and have no breaks….I babysit them at home while he goes to the game” If the kids are causing so much stress in your life, why did you and your husband have them already??

By C

October 31, 2005 12:42 PM | Link to this

Ahhhh…man. Ya’lll give this woman a break. Geeeezzzz…

Ya’ll are killing me…

By James

October 31, 2005 12:44 PM | Link to this

It is a waste of time to watch UAG football….real men watch real football teams, like ALABAMA ROLL TIDE, best in the SEC, undefeated and they did what the Dawgs couldn’t do, stop Florida. Roll Tide Roll. You smilin’ big, aren’t you Bear?

By Tech86

October 31, 2005 12:53 PM | Link to this

Theresa,

I agree that watching a game has to be kept in perspective. Our family has been attending Tech games for 18 years, both pre-kids and now with three. Most of the families in our tailgate group don’t get to make every game because of kid’s activities or just life in general getting busy. Three years ago, after sitting in a post-game traffic jam for two hours, my wife said she’d had it and we skipped the next home game, taking a day trip to the mountains instead. (I checked the score as often as possible of course, and it turned that Tech upset UVA that day). Regardless, when Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.

Whenever we can’t get to a Tech game, we give our tickets to Tech friends. I want my children to grow up with positive memories of football games being a family activity. They love tailgating and going to the game, and the final score to them is just a footnote for the day. Sometimes I wish I could have their attitude, especially when Tech loses.

By leon

October 31, 2005 01:00 PM | Link to this

I sure am glad I’m not married to you!

By DawgyDaddy

October 31, 2005 01:02 PM | Link to this

This past weekend was a great example in the different decisions parents make in attending games or not. The group that I’ve been tailgating with at UGA games treats the UF game as a family weekend with a football game in the middle. That seems to work for them so I say have fun. Personally, there is too much bad behavior surrounding this game for me to bring my young children and my wife.

Other people in our group treat this as “man’s weekend” and you wouldn’t believe some of the comments we recieve. Forget the fact that I have missed every home game this year to stay home to be with my 8 year old and 8 month old, and I do so with no regrets. In reality, it’s been kindof nice to able to relax in a climate contolled environment with all the comforts nearby.

The funniest thing the “man’s weekend” group recieves is ridicule from the family vactioners who act like we must not love our wives and children because we don’t bring them to the cocktail party. Every year I have to explain that we do take family vacations, it’s just the UF game isn’t one of them.

Bottom line, it comes down to communication and trust within the family and each family’s dynamic is different. My wife and I don’t have a scorecard to tally who’s getting the short end of the situation.

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 01:02 PM | Link to this

My, My, My, My, My!! This is the most ridiculous responses I have heard. You men are sad and just sad. This woman is crying out and the only thing you men can do is dog her out. What if this was your wife, sister, mom or even daughter. How would you feel? Yes it is okay for a man to have down time but don’t take advantage of the woman, she is your EQUAL PARTNER, NOT YOUR MAID!!! When you marry and the children come along, it is BOTH OF YOU RESPONSIBILITY, not just the woman. Since she is whining as you all say then I guess it would be ok for her, to find someone else to spend those games with along with her kids, like another man. If she did that then you would be telling her how wrong she was for finding someone else to spend time with on those Saturdays or finding some else she could get a sandwich for that Saturday after she changed the diaper. You “SUPPOSE TO BE MEN” are sad. That is what is wrong with the world now and why so many marriages end up in divorce because of the pig-head men in this world.

Theresa-

Sweetie I understand because I was doing it by myself until I brought it to my husband’s attention and we had to come to some kind of understanding and we did. We watch football as a family, we go to the kids game as a family and when the falcons are home, he takes 1 child to a game and we go to one ourselves and then one he goes with the guys in which I end up fixing all the food for before or after the game. Now every other Friday is family bowling night and they have TV’s in there so if there is a game on, we watched it there and bowl at the same time. Do not let these people get you upset and just sit down and explain it to your husband that he is not in college anymore. Just because you have had kids does not mean you are not his best friend anymore, it is that you all have an addition to the friendship now that you both share. It will all work out in the end, keep your head up and being the loving wife you are. Always remember “If God brought it to you, he will bring you through it!” You and your husband will make it through this and come to an agreement. Only real men would take the time to listen to their wife and these SO CALLED MEN on here are not real men accept one which is JIM3480!!

By GEORGIA97

October 31, 2005 01:13 PM | Link to this

Look ladies, there are 6 home games a year so that’s a measley 6 Saturdays out of 52 that your husbands want to themselves. You wanted the kids, you don’t want to work for a living, so shut up and let the bread winners have a little fun just 6 times a year. Go play Bunko or have a tupperware party!

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 01:13 PM | Link to this

OK, THERE HAS BEEN SO MORE RESPONSE ADDED WHILE I WAS IN THE MIST OF WRITING MY RESPONSE. SEEMS THAT WE HAVE MORE REAL MEN COMING OUT AND SPEAKING INSTEAD OF STUPIDITY!!!

By James

October 31, 2005 01:21 PM | Link to this

The whinning wife must be from North Fulton or Dunwoody. Get a grip lady, it’s just a few lousy Saturday’s and after the season is over you have all the other week-ends to ride around with your cell phone planted to your ear driving your SUV like the world owes you and your little darlings a living. Married to you, the poor guy needs not only a few football games but I’d throw in a couple of lapdances at the Cheetah Club. I’d be introducing you as my first wife.

By Ms. GA Dawg

October 31, 2005 01:22 PM | Link to this

As a woman, you embarrass me. You are what my tailgate group calls a ‘Band Waggoner’. You want to show up one football weekend and have the entire city of Athens revolve around you and your kids. You are so worried about people spilling liquor on you and your kids leave them at home where they should be. Sanford Stadium is not a place for children but a place to WATCH a football game. Leave the kids at home with the babysitter and quite complaining.

By Jason

October 31, 2005 01:27 PM | Link to this

Wow. God help me if I ever marry someone like this.

By Brian

October 31, 2005 01:27 PM | Link to this

I have only been married 10 months and while my wife and I live too far to travel back for games even though I would like to go to one. We always discuss it to see if it is an option.

If this is bothering you so much you need to have this conversation with your husband and not post your opinions on this where everyone can read it. If you think calling him out in an article is going to keep him from his Jack and barking you are wrong. This kind of response can only cause more problems than it can solve.

Like I said, I hope you discussed this with him first, not because he is a man, but because he is your husband and while you may not like him going to games it is a family decision. You decide to let him go, whether he asks or not. Hopefully this article was a family decision as well.

By BAMA RULES

October 31, 2005 01:43 PM | Link to this

ROLL TIDE!!!!!! The ONLY undefeated TOP 5 team in the SEC!!!!!!!!!

Choke on that DAWGS.

Dont worry crylady, your husband will be at home with you for the SEC Championship Game as the CRIMSON TIDE plays the FLORIDA GATORS AGAIN!!!!!!

Go GATORS! Bye pretenders!

By MissGeorgia

October 31, 2005 01:51 PM | Link to this

There is no way in hell that I would let my husband to go to a Georgia game without me! We all know that attending a season of games is a financial investment. If you really want to go, you just need to include the cost of babysitting in your budget for the year. When your kids are old enough they can partake in the festivities, too. For now, you can all enjoy Sundays together.

By Mrs. Mays

October 31, 2005 01:59 PM | Link to this

Theresa I am happy that you are able to see the good qualities in your husband. I understand how you feel but I also feel that our husbands need their “own” time as well. You said it yourself, it is more of a hassle for you to attend the game with him now that you have kids so let him enjoy himself with the fellows during the season. I am sure if you asked him or let him know that you would like to attend a game or two he would oblige. Hey if you do don’t complain about how ling he stays there.

Yes I am married and I love when my husband goes to games or somewhere to look at the games because then I don’t have to hear him bugging me about what’s to eat - it’s my quiet time from him.

Your kids will be old enough to stay by themselves before you know it so enjoy them now.

Dang Lillian I hope that you don’t have kids if you think there is a problem with taking a two or five year old to a game. Theresa - do you and forget all the negative comments. Find something that works for you with the kids. Just because we decided to have kids doesn’t mean we decided to become prisoners - we need breaks from the kids to and THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT AND IT DOESN’T MEAN WE ARE BAD MOMS.

AS FOR THE MEN - SHUT IT UP AND GO GET YOUR OWN SANDWICH!!!!!!!!!! DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF.

By Lee

October 31, 2005 02:03 PM | Link to this

Man, this guy has a problem. As a male UGA fan, I feel like I need to apologize on behalf of my brethren. Your hubby really needs to grow up and realize, that while these games are important, so is his family. He should be able to go to each game and not get trashed. He should also be able to realize when the game is not as important as your needs (like when you are sick as a dawg).

I think you are way too understanding of his needs and he takes advantage of that. If it does come to divorce, make sure you get his season tix in the settlement. That’ll learn him real quick!

By GatorsOwnedGA

October 31, 2005 02:04 PM | Link to this

although I think you should quit whining, I think you will have a solid point if you use LOGIC and STATISTICS to explain that the Dawgs NEVER win against Florida and that you can have that weekend as a family day! (maybe teach your kids Gator cheers if it isn’t too late for them) In the long run he will thank you.

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 02:09 PM | Link to this

558DAWG Get a life!! We can honestly tell you are not married and never will be, because it says it in your name,YOU ARE A SAD A@@ DAWG

By Lee

October 31, 2005 02:10 PM | Link to this

The above comment truly shows the class one can expect from a Gator fan. Thank you for the excellent example, but the drive through is backing up and I still haven’t gotten my fries.

By Josh

October 31, 2005 02:18 PM | Link to this

To: Typical Male Responses

So are the responses typical bc there is some validity to them as evidenced by the general consensus, including the females, or are you simply what you are trying to make every man out to be…typical?

To Theresa: You sound like a whiny wife who wants your husband to put his jewels in your purse. He sounds like an absent father who is a borderline alchoholic…spend the rest of your Saturdays in therapy…That is, if you can find one who isn’t a memeber of the female man-hater club.

By Fan

October 31, 2005 02:21 PM | Link to this

I am hoping that your husband is not as bad as some of these guys who are responding to your article. These guys want to be there to make the babies but don’t want to care for them. Of course you husband could be like my boyfriend. He leaves his wife at home and takes me.

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 02:27 PM | Link to this

Well damn fan that was a nice way of putting it. But I have just one question how do you look at yourself in the mirror? Put yourself in his wife shoes and how would you feel if he was treating you the same way, having another woman behind your back. That is what is wrong today no one believes in COMMITMENT anymore. That is nothing to be proud of sweetie!!

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 02:30 PM | Link to this

Football is just a game ,yeah and the Grand Canyon is just a hole in the ground. 92,000 people at every game in Sanford Stadium and over half of them are Women.Football is a good hobby,join in with your husband and enjoy the games.Be thankful he don’t have the kind of hobby some guys got get drunk,chase after every skirt in town then go home beat the wife.A smart woman would use the games as some special time with hubby.Drop the kids with mama or sister Susie,break out that red and black teddy and wear it under your cloths to the game and let him have a little peak maybe just after halftime.Tell him you can do something for him that none of the Bulldogs can do.He might have to see how the game turned out the next day on The Mark Richt Show.

By Fan

October 31, 2005 02:33 PM | Link to this

Didn’t say anything was going on. She doesn’t want to go to the games and I do. It is her choice not to go. I am the one who doesn’t want the commitment, not him. And I am very, very proud of myself.

By **Stephanie**

October 31, 2005 02:33 PM | Link to this

No 558Dawg, my husband did the dishes and washed the clothes, while I relaxed. It is called taking turns. I am sure your mother would be ashamed if she knew how or what you think!! I am quite sure your parents did not raise any of you to be dishonest or not have respect for yourselves or women!! Remember MEN you all came from a WOMAN

By Susie

October 31, 2005 02:33 PM | Link to this

Wow, sounds like you married a real a*-clown. What does he want to be when he grows up? (hint: hopefully not a husband and father!)

By Solution

October 31, 2005 02:34 PM | Link to this

It sounds like the “real” issue might be that you can’t afford the tickets and baby sitter. So either sell the tix each year or give them up thereby allowing the thousands whose ticket requests are refunded each year to enjoy the game! You and Hubby can then save the cash, spend time with the kids, and watch the games on t.v.

By MissGeorgia

October 31, 2005 02:34 PM | Link to this

I am married, 558Dawg, and our wedding was scheduled around Georgia football. My husband and I thoroughly enjoy the games together every weekend, and when we have children who are old enough, they, too, will get to enjoy the thrill of the games.

By Susie

October 31, 2005 02:36 PM | Link to this

I wanted to add, that this can only happen for as long as you are willing to tolerate it.

And that there seem to be an awful lot of your husband’s a*-clown friends reading your blog.

By Eloren

October 31, 2005 02:41 PM | Link to this

It’s nothing to do with Football or even mothering, but I read some of those responses and got a glimmering of why Georgia is a Red state.

By reddawg

October 31, 2005 02:46 PM | Link to this

Nothing wrong with Georgia being a red state, but wouldn’t you say it’s actually more of a red and black state?

By Typical male responses...

October 31, 2005 02:48 PM | Link to this

Josh,

They were typical male responses because when I first read & responded this post last week, the responses I read were exactly what I expected to read from the men, or should I say, entitled little boys? I was surprised to read so much hostility from the women as well.

In brief, here are the initial comments that caused me to form that opinion:

Uhm, since when are fathers ENTITLED to go to the game simply because they’re men? If she hated the game prekids, I could see the reasoning, but she enjoyed tailgating/the game before & he now simply presumes that she should have to stay home with the kids so that he can go get drunk & bark like a dog—why? Because she’s a woman? And why is it selfish to not want to be stuck home with the kids yet again? It’s not our job to be your babysitter. Find your own way to get someone to watch the kids without further impacting our family budget… don’t expect me to do it.

If you read her bio., you’ll see that her hubby works long hours as it is. His “hobby” is taking up at least 1/8 of his available time with his kids, assuming he’s not called out of town to cover a major news event. Grow up. Be a man by being a dad. Oh, and his “hobby” seems to be more about the love of the jack & buzz than the game. And like I said in my post, we don’t want to leave each & every week… unlike some of the posts on here, women typically value having quality family time.

I think this pretty much speaks for itself, but just in case… it’s sad that there are men out there who feel that college football is more important than family, as is evidenced by this and other posts. And it’s equally sad that there’s a perception that spending time together as a family = relying on men to keep us “comfortable & entertained.” It’s called priorities…maybe he should reevaluate his.

By Susie

October 31, 2005 02:49 PM | Link to this

Amen, Jim3480…you said it. If you don’t want to grow up and reorganize your priorities, you shouldn’t get married and have kids. I know people who have been divorced over less selfishness than this. And you are right, when it’s not football, it’s going to be something else. At least she’s already getting used to being a single parent.

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 02:51 PM | Link to this

We see 558dawg is not the scholar!! Just one question, “Who carries you for 9 months honey?” Once again you come from us; we nourish you for 9 months. Not the men!! We feed you for 9 months and keep you warm; all the men do is hit you in the head for as many months as he can, until we can not have it anymore. You must forget who is in labor all of those hours not you!! I will get you a beer only if I can add a little flavor to it. :-)

By Susie

October 31, 2005 02:56 PM | Link to this

To Fatcat: How many of these guys have happy relationships?? Their wives left them years ago!

By Susie

October 31, 2005 02:58 PM | Link to this

Um, Lillian honey? I think it took BOTH of them to have those children. She didn’t do it all by herself. So SHE should sacrifice the rest of her life for them, while her husband changes NOTHING in his? Are you the mother of some of these jerks who have commented here? Someone sure raised them to be the way they are.

By Susie

October 31, 2005 03:04 PM | Link to this

So, Georgia97, are you saying you didn’t want your kids? Just your wife? What’s that? Ah, I see, nobody would dare breed with you.

By Bully Dawg

October 31, 2005 03:05 PM | Link to this

You are without a doubt the most selfish, self-absorbed Mom-anista I have ever heard. I am sure that you have “Mommy Time” with your fellow Moms. No husband would be welcomed or invited to these W(h)ine Fests. But let your husband (who apparently is a supportive husband for the other 46 or so Saturdays per year) want to enjoy the Dawgs, and you blow a mammary gasket. Lady, listen up: your husband is not cheating on you; he is not unreasonably blowing the family’s money (which he earned); he gives you guys attention 95% of the year. Back off and let the man BREATHE!

By Weekend Friend

October 31, 2005 03:08 PM | Link to this

Call me next home game, Theresa. I’m sure we can find something to do while your hubby is gone.

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 03:11 PM | Link to this

Boy I tell you,its getting where women all they want is some henpecked, milk toast,never stand up for theirselves errand boys.What ever happened to the kind of men that made this nation great the ones with guts that fought and won WW2.The ones that whipped the Japs and the Nazi’s.Masculine,raw hides.Sure men are gonna like hunting and fishing and football and baseball,some of these WOMEN think this stuff is new in a mans world.I tell you right now if your husband’s biggest vice is enjoying GA FOOTBALL You ain’t got to bad of problem.

By Heather Beyer

October 31, 2005 03:15 PM | Link to this

I hear you! My husband was back at the game 2 weeks after we brought our daughter home from the hospital. She is now 13 months old and we are still left to play alone every Saturday there is a home game. For the away games we are still alone as my husband watches the game at a fellow DAWGS home. I too feel selfish for even thinking about complaining but when was the last time he lept out of bed at 5:45am with such enthusiasm to spend 15 hours with the family? Funny I can’t remember when that has ever happened. I know I am fighting a battle that will never be won but I would love the entire family to enjoy in the fun. Dads certainly deserve a day of fun with friends to party and have a good time but who said Mom (and baby) didn’t NEED the same release?

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 03:18 PM | Link to this

Did Adam carry the baby? All he did was provide the sperm to make it, after that you all don’t have anything else to do, until it comes out? How many stretch marks did Adam get, how many times did Adam vomit in the morning, how many times a day did Adam pee within an hour? Come on now the truth shall set you free or are you afraid of the truth. We women would love for you men to carry a baby for 9 months and I, promise you will have a changed mind.

By Susie

October 31, 2005 03:19 PM | Link to this

haha, 558dawg…women were “derived from men? God created man, took one look at him, and said, “I’m gonna try ONE MORE TIME to get this right…”

By Lillian

October 31, 2005 03:21 PM | Link to this

I never said the father should not be responsible. I said that when people become parents that they give up their right to a free life. By using “you” I was talking in general terms. I guess I should put “you and your partner/spouse/baby’s mama/baby’s daddy, etc.”.

Obviously Theresa and her husband have some negotiating to do and I’m not leaning one way or the other as to what the ideal compromise is for them. Only they can decide that.

My issue is that there are parents selfish enough to put their WANTS over their children’s NEEDS. Show me an infant who enjoys being shown off and “schlepped” around (good choice of words Jim!) to a loud, long outdoor sporting event. Show me a toddler who will not get tired, cranky or miserable during such an event, whether hauled there by mom -or- dad. That’s what burns me alive. We are not talking about school-aged children who may enjoy the game.

And for the record my spouse and I do not have children because we are responsible enough not to bring children into this world that we are not 100% committed to caring for above our own needs and wishes.

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 03:23 PM | Link to this

Heather, What does he do with you and baby girl the other Saturdays of the year? The ones from FEB to August when there is no GA football. If he isn’t spending time with you then football isn’t the problem.And yes women to deserve their leisure too>

By Soon To be Father

October 31, 2005 03:23 PM | Link to this

Well after reading all this I’m getting a little nervous about next Football Season. My son is due Jan 1. I guess I better enjoy these last few games huh! Nah…it will work itself out. GO DAWGS

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 03:29 PM | Link to this

Stephanie, Are we mad because God made me a woman?

By Hobbes

October 31, 2005 03:31 PM | Link to this

Gee wonder why a guy wouldn’t leap out of bed at 5:45 a.m. to listen to all that whining? If I were him I’d follow the dogs too to get away from Theresa’s incessant carping.

Theresa and the rest of youfootball “widows” why don’t you ask yourself “Why I am such a drag that my husband can’t wait to leave for hours at time?”

I thank God my wife is not like you.

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 03:32 PM | Link to this

This is exactly why he needs to stay home:

Fla. student fatally beaten after Dogs-Gator game

Associated Press Published on: 10/31/05 JACKSONVILLE, Fla. � Five men were charged with murder in the fatal beating of a University of Florida student, authorities said.

Numerous onlookers saw the beating Saturday night of Thomas Oliver Brown, 23, who was held down by three men and beaten by two others, the Jacksonville sheriff’s office said.

Brown was not breathing and had no pulse when rescue personnel arrived. They tried to revive him, but he was pronounced dead at Shands Jacksonville, police said.

Jeremy Lane, 21, Alex Canzano, 21, Casey Schuurman, 19, and Mark Foss, 18, all of Jacksonville, and Jeffery Groncziak, 19, of Ponte Vedra Beach, were arrested and jailed on murder charges Sunday, police said.

The suspects fled after the beating but were stopped in a taxi van. A surveillance camera placed the suspects at the scene of the slaying, but the reason for the beating wasn’t clear, police said.

Brown’s father, Thomas J. Brown, said he was told by a detective that words were exchanged between his son and the attackers.

“He might have said something he shouldn’t have, but it doesn’t add up to murder,” he told The Florida Times Union. “This isn’t a fight, this is a massacre.”

The younger Brown had attended Saturday’s game between rivals Georgia and Florida in Jacksonville. The annual game known as the World’s Largest Outdoor Cocktail Party.

“We’re not certain if it had anything to do with the game,” sheriff’s office spokesman Ken Jefferson said.

Samuel Canzano, father of Alex Canzano, broke into tears when asked about his son. He had tried, unsuccessfully, to contact him at the Duval County jail.

“He was not a kid who would do this kind of stuff,” Samuel Canzano said. “With Alex, it was being in the wrong place at the wrong time.”

It was not immediately known if any of the five men had a lawyer.

By Chris

October 31, 2005 03:33 PM | Link to this

With all due respect and honesty…you need to cheer for a different team.

I’m a GT grad and my wife is an FSU grad. We have taken our 19 month old daughter to games at both stadiums, including tailgates.

For GT games we meet up with friends in a nice grassy area. There are so many kids and parents there that we are calling it “Family Parking” these days. We have two parking passes each season, so I go down early and help set up and then my wife comes down later to join us. She can then leave at half time or earlier if the baby gets tired or if she wants to catch some of the FSU game.

From a ticketing / price perspective…kids under 2 years old are admitted free to GT games as long as you can hold them in your lap. And at FSU, you can buy a youth ticket at a discounted rate of $8.

I gave up my GT hoops ticket when we had our daughter because the weeknight games were too much of a time commitment. But football at GT and FSU has been kid friendly.

Oh yeah…I almost forgot to mention that I was able to fold up the umbrella stroller and store it under my seat during the Homecoming game this past weekend.

To recap…kid friendly tailgating within walking distance to the stadium, free admission for kids under 2, and no restrictions on strollers…

You’re pulling for the wrong team! =]

By Dr. Phil

October 31, 2005 03:35 PM | Link to this

Theresa,

Your husband insists on going to the games because he is having a blast. A football Saturday in Athens is the perfect oppotunity to wax nostalgic about a previous stage of one’s life. Denying him this pleasure will cause resentment.

Based on your comments, your husband usually makes family-friendly decisions. In the future, unless he changes his ways and becomes chronically self-indulgent, he will want to go to his kids’ weekend sports activities. He will be a coach. He will take his “old enough” kids to his alma mater and give them glimpses of something dear to him. Finances may prevent this recurring indulgence. He will get older.

Kids, family, job, finances, sports, church, age, etc. will dictate your husband’s choices. Trust me, there comes a time when three or four weekends in a row of travel, sun, and drink are more tiring than invigorating. I am the dad and I have walked/staggered in his shoes.

You are not wrong to complain, but you may be wrong to make this an issue. Take the kids to see family, see a movie, go swimming, etc. on game days. You’ll have fun, he’ll have fun.

Finally, for all of you “family-friendly” stadium types out there, I’d like to throw out my rule: If you are too young to walk from the tailgate to the game on your own two feet, you should not go to the game. This rule does not apply to those who are injured and people with medical conditions.

By Susie

October 31, 2005 03:35 PM | Link to this

558dawg, my husband spends EVERY weekend with his kids and me. We might watch the game, or we might do something else. OR he might take the kids and THEY might go do something together. He has his priorities in order, and he knows his kids are growing up, and that they won’t be kids forever. I don’t NEED to nag or whine. He knows he’s got the rest of his life to go to games.

By GatorsOwnedGA

October 31, 2005 03:36 PM | Link to this

Lee: think of the fries you are waiting on in the drive through as a victory against the Gators….like usual flabby, you WILL be waiting a LONG time (if you ever get em’)! Better Luck next year! GO GATORS

By Stephanie

October 31, 2005 03:36 PM | Link to this

No I am not mad god made me a woman!! This pigheaded mess you all are talking is what I am mad about! We are not your slaves! 558Dawg you don’t know what my husband gets in bed, I can tell you he is happy at home and enjoy his family time!!

By Lillian

October 31, 2005 03:37 PM | Link to this

“If you are too young to walk from the tailgate to the game on your own two feet, you should not go to the game. This rule does not apply to those who are injured and people with medical conditions.”

A-M-E-N!

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 03:46 PM | Link to this

Fla. student fatally beaten after Dogs-Gator game

Jeremy Lane, 21, Alex Canzano, 21, Casey Schuurman, 19, and Mark Foss, 18, all of Jacksonville, and Jeffery Groncziak, 19, of Ponte Vedra Beach, were arrested and jailed on murder charges“

We’re not certain if it had anything to do with the game,� sheriff’s office spokesman Ken Jefferson said.

Here we go blame it on football the guys they arrested are from florida I doubt seriously they were Dawg fans. Police aren’t even sure it was game related.Do you really think thugs take the night off just because its GA/FL WEEKEND.

By Fan

October 31, 2005 03:48 PM | Link to this

My thoughts exactly, Mike T.

By Chris

October 31, 2005 03:48 PM | Link to this

The people saying that kids can’t possibly enjoy an adult event like a football game don’t know what they are talking about.

You certainly have to change your plans and your expectations but you can make the event family friendly and fun, especially if you tailgate and sit with other families that have children.

We have a block of 16 tickets for our crew and kids. We tailgate with an even larger group of people that have kids at a variety of ages from 10 down to 19 months.

We go out of our way to make sure that the kids get to enjoy playing and running around at the tailgate. I took my daughter to listen to the band warm up and practice this past weekend and she loved it. During the game she danced when the GT or Clemson band played and she stomped and clapped when we were cheering. She was having a ball.

Maybe we’re fortunate in that our daughter isn’t a fussy baby and doesn’t require alot of coddling. She’s part of the tailgating crew now at 19 months and a mascot of sorts.

You just need to dress them for the weather and use alot of sunscreen.

I will admit though, that our trip to Athens every other year is a “guy only” trip because of the behavior and atmosphere there. I’ve almost gotten in at least one fight defended a female GT fan who was being accosted and I didn’t even know her. There is no way I’m taking my girls to a game there…

By Nancy

October 31, 2005 03:50 PM | Link to this

My husband and I both graduated from Auburn and we watch football when it is convenient for both of us. We loved the college experience while we were there and we were in the stands every weekend back then but we grew up. We have yard work to do and family obligations now that are more important and that take priority. I think those who can’t move on and set their priorities on their spouses and families and futures are pathetic losers.

You don’t own season tickets—they own you.

By just me

October 31, 2005 03:52 PM | Link to this

I had not been to a GA game since my college days and decided to go with friends to watch them play Arkansas. The only rude fan I ran into was a man in his early 70’s who told me that I needed to go home. He actually got in my face with his 60 something year old son just laughing. I knew there was a reason, I stopped going to games.

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 03:56 PM | Link to this

GatorsOwnedGA Wrong Blog bud,Most of the ones posting here could probably cares less who won last Saturday.By the way the series record is still 46-36-2 so we still own the GAYTORS.Spurrier and the chickens are just ahead.

By Mike T

October 31, 2005 04:00 PM | Link to this

just me Hey you can run into rude people anywhere, Mall, circus,Disney World their everywhere.Ignore them.

By Chris

October 31, 2005 04:01 PM | Link to this

Thanks for being so predictable Nate.

“Hey Chris, There is a reason that there is open parking at the GT games and all you see is little kids running around before the games. Because GT SUCKS and no one else would pay to see them play. Retarded responses should be expected from a looser GT fan.”

Auburn may disagree with your impression of GT. =]

At least you called me “looser” instead of a “loser”. Did you buy your UGA hat at the local flea market or did you actually graduate from UGA with a degree?

By just me

October 31, 2005 04:02 PM | Link to this

On, honey, I didn’t say I let him run me off. I stayed for the entire game and then went out to the car and drank many beers until traffice was clear. (I didn’t drive) I just said I had forgotten how rude some of the Ga fan could be. I go to many, many out of state games and enjoy them very much.

By Chris

October 31, 2005 04:08 PM | Link to this

Hey Kevin to answer your question about the UF game…well not very good.

By James

October 31, 2005 04:14 PM | Link to this

It could be worse, she could be an Alabama fan and the season would be longer for a Tide fan, since they actually win at football and will be in the SEC playoff this year and can very easily shut down Florida, yes could be worse.

By Becks

October 31, 2005 04:29 PM | Link to this

The conversation going on right now between “Nate”,”Sara” and “558Dawg” represents the absurd and childish natures that are represented at football game stadiums.

And as for “Lillian”, I can agree and disagree with you. Agree: Thank you for not reproducing and being responsible. Disagree: Those of us who choose to reproduce would like to set family traditions in our children, I would just say, maybe with all of this childish behavior, some of us might rethink what those “family traditions” consist of.

By Lucy

October 31, 2005 04:34 PM | Link to this

Mercy, mercy, y’all some ig’nant folks. Don’t ask, you know who you are.

By Theresa

October 31, 2005 04:45 PM | Link to this

To 558Dawg, Sara and Nate — Take your argument some place else. Your comments are not appropriate here and will be deleted.

By Lillian

October 31, 2005 04:46 PM | Link to this

Please explain to me how you can justify dragging an infant or toddler to a game day at the stadium. How does this instill family traditions? What if the child despises football? Do you make the child suffer through the game because you want to be there? Do you make the child feel guilty if he/she does not take joy in such a “family tradition”?

AGAIN, for those of you with limited comprehension, I am not referring to older children who are cognizant of what is taking place. I am talking about infants and toddlers because that’s what the OP was referring to.

By Jason

October 31, 2005 04:51 PM | Link to this

You have GOT to be (edited racial slur) with all the whining, nagging, and complaining!! My dad, may he rest in piece, was also a very hard core UGA alumni and fan. My mom always complained that he spent all that time watcthing the games or going to Athens…Of course, he wasn’t stupid like your husband and got drunk every time. He enjoyed the games without being a drunk I-still-want-to-be-a-college-sudent-mentality. Now that my father is gone, we go to Athens for football games as a family in his honor. I wouldn’t complain one bit, not at all. God forbid your husband bites the dust before you do, you may just find yourself going in his honor, remember all the good times you knew he had. A realtionship is not about me, me, me; rather it’s about having an open mind. If you already know about the negative aspects you listed, then why do you even care to go? If you wanted to go see tennis touraments or played tennis for a recreational hobby, I’m quite sure your husband would support you in each and every way and not complain ONE bit, beacause in his heart he knows JUST how much it means to you. It’s no different for him. I’m laughing at all of your comments. They are unfounded and you don’t see to respect the fact that your husband IS a UGA fan…it’s a religion, it’s a culture; it’s a way of life…don’t knock it, don’t put it down, don’t degrade it. It means the world to a world of people, and you do NOTHING but make the UGA Nation look bad. Good job, lady!

By Becks

October 31, 2005 04:54 PM | Link to this

“Lillian”, My children have been going to drag races since they were infants. The first time my child went he was 6 months, he fell in love with drag racing. He sees the commercials now and begs my husband to take him. We took our children to 1, yes I said 1, football game and I didn’t like the way the people were acting. They were acting much like the people on this blog. So, now every superbowl season we throw a superbowl party. That is the way to go girls. You avoid the stupidity of stadium audiences.

By Jason

October 31, 2005 04:55 PM | Link to this

Will someone PLEASE tell me why this CRAP is even on AJC.COM? I’m assuming it’s here merly as a firestarter. I’m a student of journalism; this is journalism at it’s very worst. A local paper should be in full support of it’s local teams. Had UGA won over Florida, I’m sure this stupid article wouldn’t even be here. When the Braves win, they are all positive, when we lose, it’s all negative. No matter if it’s win or lose, a local paper should back their local teams, not degrade them. I am sad to see the AJC publish such trash.

By Scott

October 31, 2005 04:57 PM | Link to this

Thank god, I got divorced and never had any kids!!! Doing what I want when I want and having a revolving door of women and no one gripping in my ear is heaven on earth!! All you spineless suckers who let your women run all over you should come join us truly content men on the other side!!

By dogbone

October 31, 2005 05:08 PM | Link to this

theresa needs to grow up deal with her insecurites. Her husabnd works hard and deserves a couple of weekends off. And go get me a beer Theresa

By Kate

October 31, 2005 05:09 PM | Link to this

Well let me start off by saying that I just recently graduated from the University of Georgia and LOVE that you had to put in “drunk sorority girls in stilettos”… well I’m sure at one time or another I was that girl that offended you so badly for enjoying the few home games a college student has….but let me also say— you have affirmed every reason I have ever had to not get married or have children. Because your husband seems to be an a* and you seem to be boring. The day I stay home with the kids and let my husband go root for my team will be the day hell freezes over! If you are helping to pay for those season tickets, then take yours and tell his college friend to get his own!

By Crystal

October 31, 2005 05:11 PM | Link to this

First, I think it’s funny to see the guys reading the mommy blog. 2…I have never seen so many redneck male responses on one page. I think it’s funny. 3rd of all, I am a football fan and I understand the game atmosphere. She’s not complaining that he goes to the games. She just wants her turn everyone once in a while during football season. I am just as a hardcore fan as my boyfriend, and if left me alone to go see the game without me everytime I would be a little upset. And James….hilareous. Dawgs aren’t that good of a football team.

By dogbone

October 31, 2005 05:13 PM | Link to this

BECK WEARS JEAN SHORTS

By GO DAWGS!!

October 31, 2005 05:39 PM | Link to this

Fall Saturdays are a great time for the kids to spend time with their grandparents.

By James

October 31, 2005 05:53 PM | Link to this

I’m starting to think is not so much about football as it is Theresa’s need for constant attention and her fear that her husband just might actually be able to enjoy himself, even if just for a few hours a year, without her and the kids. This is waaaaay past a few football games, this is about a womans need to have her husbands world predicated on her and only her.

By Gator Girl

October 31, 2005 05:54 PM | Link to this

Ok, I have been reading this all day and this is too funny. Probably because it would be my husband writing this blog about me.

If you want to go to the game and not take children you need to suck it up and get a babysitter. Taking small children to the game is not fun for anyone especially the children. Having to sit in seats, especially if you are in the middle of a row, is torture. They don’t know what is going in the game and their attention span is short. They are ready to do something else by the time the 1st quarter is over. You and your husband need to decide that if we are buying tickets for the game then the cost of a babysitter needs to be figured into that cost.

My son is soon to be 10 and I just started taking him to the games a year ago. It just wasn’t worth the agrivation for him or for me. And he is not permanetly scarred because I was without him for about 5hrs. That is why the weekend has 2 days.

Put your foot down with your husband and tell him there will be some changes or nobody will be going to any games and have a tailgate at the house.

By Lisa

October 31, 2005 06:25 PM | Link to this

My husband is a Bama fan. When I met his family for the first time, I asked if I should remove my shoes before the Bear shrine. In the early years, he went to every home game, and some away. I went once…drunks threw peanuts in my coke. As the kiddie years began, he went some, but not as much, but he watched every game on tv. As the years went by, he’d catch an occassional game, and some on TV. Now, on year 21, (and living in GA where BAMA games aren’t always broadcast), he’ll say,”I wonder how BAMA did today?” He’s not the crazed obsessed fan he once was, but neither are his parents. Give him another 10-15 years, he ought to mellow. Or, move out of state.

By SingleWoman

October 31, 2005 06:30 PM | Link to this

As a single woman in her late thirties, I have to say that this story is all about choices.

You chose to marry your husband. You chose to have children. I assume that you do not work outside your home.

Raising your children is your job. Your husband works outside the home. That is his job. If you want to go to the games, then you both can pay a babysitter and you can go. That is what many of my friends who are couples do.

If, as you say, you don’t want to make an all day event out of it, then let your husband go, you both pay a babysitter, and you do something you enjoy, too.

I also do not understand mothers who want to turn something that is clearly not intended for children into a family event. The world is not going to change just because you had children. There is alcohol, profanity, tobacco smoke and juice, and drunken rowdiness at ballgames. It is an inappropriate environment for children.

You married a Bulldog fan. You knew that when you married him. It is a fact of life. Don’t try to change him now. Adapt or move on.

By WirelessBuzz

October 31, 2005 07:39 PM | Link to this

First off, why am I shocked that the Atlanta Bureau of the Red and Black picked a UGA mom to write this column?

Second, your kids are better off not be exposed to that much Bulldog. It’s UGA football - do you really expect fans to be behave with class and dignity for the most part??

And third, while I have no problem with your husband wanting to follow football, I do find it disturbing that he seems to want to completely ignore his family for it. While I am not married nor do I have kids, I would love the opportunity to take a young son or daughter to Tech games and enjoy the experience with them. But if your husband does not want to include his kids so he can behave like some college frat boy, he needs to grow up and look at his priorities. When he chose to become a husband and a parent, his priorities should change to put his family ahead of partying. That does not mean he has to give up something he loves, but he should not dump on his kids for it.

That all being said, I read that whining and complaining about a husband going to ball games, and it makes me appreciate that I am not married and do not have to deal with the grief of going to follow my beloved Jackets. If I do get married, I would be certain that going to games would not be an issue. I would not mind including her, but do not try to keep me from supporting the Jackets.

By ginger

November 1, 2005 08:25 AM | Link to this

Lisa, honey, they were simply trying to show you how you drink a Coke in the South at a football game. Peanuts in your Co-Cola is a fact of life.

Theresa, the only real problem I see is that your huby had the gall to say that sharing a ride to Athens with you and the kids was a “BUZZ KILL”. 1. He shouldn’t be buzzed going down the road, 2. Sharing a ride makes sense and it was selfish of him to not want to do even that part.

That said, let the man go to the football games. Its not a big deal. LOook at that day as YOUR time to do YOUR thing. Maybe you have not been married long enough to appreciate this train of thought, but trust me, life is easier and more enjoyable when you just deal with it.

My hubby is a horse show widower. For years, every Friday night and a lot of Saturdays and Tuesdays, my 4 daughters and I loaded horses up and went to the horseshow. He went sometimes, but only when HE chose to.

We have a deal- he has open season on going hunting fishing etc every weekend. Does he go every weekend? No. He chooses when to go and when he chooses not to go, it is all the better because that is time that he CHOOSES to spend time with me and the kids. (Granted, 4 daughters can be a little much) The point I am ramblin’ around is that if he is COAXEd into making arrangements for you to go, YOU WILL NOT HAVE A GOOD TIME, AND NEITHER WILL HE.If you want to have a good time, get a friend to swap babysitting with you, and “talk” him into letting you go, if you know what I mean.

By fan

November 1, 2005 08:35 AM | Link to this

Question Theresa, are you a stay at home mom? Is this the life you have chosen? I have great respect for stay at home moms because I think that it is great for the kids. However, (you knew that was coming didn’t you) since your husband is the breadwinner in the family, doesn’t he deserve a little fun time? I think you deserve fun time too, so do like others have suggested. If you want to go to the games, get a sitter.

By Jimi Richards

November 1, 2005 08:50 AM | Link to this

Thank You Robin, your Mom and I love you…..GO DAWGS!

By Robin Richards

October 31, 2005 10:40 AM | Link to this

To UGA Mom- I can vouch for the fact that Jimi has never had to pay for babysitting while going to UGA games b/c he didnt start going to UGA games until I (his son) started going to school there in the mid-90s (of course, I worked for the Redcoats then and all I had to do to get away from the drunks was go into the “non-fan� areas of the Stadium). He did one time go to the 84 Tech game in Athens, but mom and I didnt mind- it was too cold for us!

If you want to institute some changes, why not write a letter to Damon Evans, the UGA Athletic Director (I’ll assume you knew who he was) and get the process going from there. Writing a blog in the paper won’t cut it. I think having a kid friendly area would be cool. Also, I do agree that those who attend UGA are, for the most part, rude drunk and obnoxious. The area I sat in for the Arkansas game was fairly tame (it was Redcoat Band Alumni and their families).

And for that “destined to watch football with a babysitter� comment- I grew up watching football with the best babysitters around- my folks. There comes a time in the life of parents where they have to give up the things they like for the betterment of thier kids. If you cant fully give up the tix, then go to a couple of games and sell the rest. Watching the game on TV is one thing- actually coming to Athens and SEEING the game is something totally different. Hopefully in the future, the dad who supposed started this whole ill-concieved gripe fest will take his son along to experience it for himself. For that I say Go Dawgs!

By fan

November 1, 2005 08:58 AM | Link to this

The UGA folks don’t really care if the fans are happy just as long as they come to the games and pay the money. After all, isn’t that what it is all about. The Alumni Association has basically been told to stuff it by the powers that be at UGA. If we just stop giving our money, maybe somethings would improve. BTW - I am not an Alumni but I have friends who are and belong to the UGA AA.

By Nancy

November 1, 2005 09:52 AM | Link to this

Theresa, is there anyway you can add an IQ filter to your blog?

I do believe that your husband’s remarks about the “BUZZ KILLâ€? wasn’t a very responsible thing to say. I thought that was a great compromise. Maybe you should have him take some responsibility with finding a babysitter for the day so you both can go or when you are sick.

By Michael

November 1, 2005 11:42 AM | Link to this

Theresa:

I agree— your hubby is a pig. Regularly calling home drunk from games is not acceptable behavior for a father and husband. I feel badly for you and your family for they have to live with it. If UGA Bulldud Football and getting sauced is more important to him than this family— well that to me speaks volumes. Our prayers are with you, Theresa..

By Phil

November 1, 2005 12:01 PM | Link to this

55 weeks in a year. Read that again. Fifty-five weeks in a year.

Just tell your husband that you feel insecure and left out. Tell him that you feel seperated and vulnerable. But for Gods sakes, stop venting your dirty laundry in a newspaper. That’s pathetic. If I were your husband, reading this tripe, I would ask you when you stopped acting like a lady; when you stopped acting like a real wife.

I expect the next time you go and buy clothes and max out his credit card, that he’ll get equal time with the AJC. He might even be rich enough to include a couple paragraphs about how you haven’t had sex with him since you got preggers. Your relationship problems isn’t about football.

The more you bitterly think it’s all about football, the more likely he’ll be to pass the redlight district on the way home and get a woman who’ll atleast pretend to like him for 20 minutes.

By Missing Sense of Humor

November 1, 2005 12:10 PM | Link to this

Am I the only one who read this column/blog and recognized it was meant to be funny?

I’m sure it is rooted in fact. Theresa is annoyed at being excluded from games and at having to face yet another long day at home by herself with the kids. But I have read and re-read the article, and it is obviously full of hyperbole.

Calling Theresa and her husband names, and predicting their divorce shows not only a lack of class but a lack of understanding of the column as it was written. You can sympathize with whomever that you wish (Theresa or her husband), but I can’t believe so many people took this column so literally.

By Jenn

November 1, 2005 12:10 PM | Link to this

Um, Phil… 52 weeks in a year. Read that again. 52 weeks in a year.

By PC Gator

November 1, 2005 12:15 PM | Link to this

“Buzz kill”? Damn, woman didn’t that say it all?

You need to find you another hairy dawg to hunker down with.

By Schlev

November 1, 2005 12:54 PM | Link to this

or at the very least—Theresa should find her a GATOR man and she’ll be CELEBRATING in October instead :))))))

By Phil

November 1, 2005 01:35 PM | Link to this

Jenn,

So you admitt there are more than 6 weeks in a year? Good.

By DonkeyPunch

November 2, 2005 01:49 PM | Link to this

Ok, so I’m gonna play Devil’s advocate here and ask the simple question, did any of you think of the consequences of having children before you had them? It’s sad to see that the main concerns in this matter are over what the man gets to do, versus the woman. It’s a matter of “what can we do with the damn kids, so we can go see a game? -and/or- chit chat?”.

If you weren’t ready to give up your hobbies and the things you like doing most, then you shouldn’t have had children in the first place. It’s like “ok, I’ve had kids, time to get back to my life and f!ck the children…” Sorry, it doesn’t work that way. When you decided to have kids, you put pretty much a majority of your free time on hold.

There is also a lack of compromise between husband and wife. I’m a Tech graduate and HUGE Hokie fan, and I too have season tickets. However, if my wife needed help with the kids, I dropped my plans to go watch the game, or whatever I was doing and vice versa.

This is a freakin’ game people, it’s not paying your bills (unless you gamble), it’s not caring for your children, and you certainly can’t have sex with it. It’s a form of entertainment. Of course it gives you the experience of reliving your college days of getting blasted, doing keg stands, tailgating, and all that BS, but you have to grow up and realize where your priorites lie.

By Grow Up

November 3, 2005 09:29 AM | Link to this

Wow. These male responses are coming from guys who are either very stupid, very single, or have a very forgiving wife (who is probably on Quaaludes to get through their marriage). Most of these comments make me sick. Grow up, fellas. Pitch in and help out. She isn’t mad that he is going to the game - she isn’t even mad that she is having to miss going to the game as well. She is mad, because once again, you, the ‘husband,partner, possible provider, and FATHER’ is running out on your responsibilities. If you were a sensible man, you would agree to help- maybe split up the kids, you take one of them with you to the game so she has less to worry about at home. Now, I know this is a stretch of a suggestion… but what about even curbing your drinking a little bit on game day to be a good dad, a sensible adult, and a good role model to the child you are trying to raise. My hats is off to you, Mom. Hopefully, your kids will pay attention to the responsible adult (YOU!) in the family when looking for a role model.

By gators

November 8, 2005 11:56 AM | Link to this

GO GATORS

By LaLa

November 8, 2005 04:09 PM | Link to this

Thank God I am married to a man who does not like football! How boring!