Still Traveling

By Cheapskate

August 4, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Here’s a quarter - call someone who cares.

By Tia

August 4, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

We used honeymoonwishes.com and loved it! You can get the money whenever you request it or they give it all to you 5 days before the wedding. They prices were very close to what you need to spend for the activity. There is a small service charge but it was worth it to me so know she will be getting cash in the bank ( something every couple can use after the big expense of a wedding).

By Tia

August 4, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

We used honeymoonwishes.com and loved it! You can get the money whenever you request it or they give it all to you 5 days before the wedding. They prices were very close to what you need to spend for the activity. There is a small service charge but it was worth it to me so know she will be getting cash in the bank ( something every couple can use after the big expense of a wedding).

By sunshine

August 4, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

No I didn’t. I thought it was tacky.

By Brandon Warner

August 4, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

Thank you for mentioning the benefits of a honeymoon registry and describing the attributes behind this increasingly mainstream registry option for engaged couples.

It is great to see how popular the honeymoon registry is becoming. When Traveler’s Joy first started accepting Members over four years ago, we realized there was a large number of engaged couples that were not satisfied with the diversity of the traditional wedding registry market. Since then, the honeymoon registry has become a mainstream option for brides and grooms and the industry has experienced significant growth.

We are proud to have helped thousands of couples travel to destinations they may never have considered - a great feeling for everyone at Traveler’s Joy.

I encourage you to contact us with any questions about our service. Most importantly, enjoy your honeymoon!

Best Regards,

Brandon Warner President & Co-founder Traveler’s Joy Honeymoon Registry Traveler’s Joy, Inc.

By Brandon Warner

August 4, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

Thank you for mentioning the benefits of a honeymoon registry and describing the attributes behind this increasingly mainstream registry option for engaged couples.

It is great to see how popular the honeymoon registry is becoming. When Traveler’s Joy first started accepting Members over four years ago, we realized there was a large number of engaged couples that were not satisfied with the diversity of the traditional wedding registry market. Since then, the honeymoon registry has become a mainstream option for brides and grooms and the industry has experienced significant growth.

We are proud to have helped thousands of couples travel to destinations they may never have considered - a great feeling for everyone at Traveler’s Joy.

I encourage you to contact us with any questions about our service. Most importantly, enjoy your honeymoon!

Best Regards,

Brandon Warner President & Co-founder Traveler’s Joy Honeymoon Registry Traveler’s Joy, Inc.

By kristin

August 4, 2008 5:16 PM | Link to this

What next, passing around the offering plate during the ceremony? Cover charge for the reception? Pay for your own honeymoon!! These registries are getting out of hand, what happened the idea that it is considered poor manners to solicit gifts?

By Heaven Help Us

August 4, 2008 5:30 PM | Link to this

Apparently this is the new trend - asking the guests to cover all the costs of a wedding, from buying their own drinks to funding the honeymoon. We did recently attend a wedding where we not only had to purchase our own drinks at the cash bar, but there were 2 wedding wishing wells available for card/envelope insertion: one marked “wedding” and the other marked “honeymoon”. Apparently I was supposed to bring TWO gifts! Then the kicker - each table had a basket of thank-you notes on it with instructions from the couple to help them thank you more efficiently by pre-addressing your own thank you note and leaving it in the basket! Good grief! I have also been to a wedding shower that passed around a basket of “love notes” with different wedding tasks that the couple needed help with, and asked everyone to take one and offer assistance. What??? I’m seriously thinking of shredding the next wedding invitation that comes in the mail - lest I have to pay postage due on it.

By deidre_NC

August 4, 2008 6:37 PM | Link to this

i guess no one goes by any ettiquette rules anymore..no wonder this world is going to h*ll in a handbasket!! i think the first thing people should have to buy when they get engaged is a wedding ettiquette boook—-MISS MANNER—EMILY POST—-etiquettegrrls.com is a great site…people are just too tacky for words anymore

By online reader

August 4, 2008 10:10 PM | Link to this

One of the tackiest things I have seen to pay for a honeymoon is when the couple charges people to dance with the bride or groom. If you can’t afford the honeymoon then don’t go!

By Agrees

August 4, 2008 11:00 PM | Link to this

Seriously… This is so tacky. If someone asked for this instead of a gift, I would have to decline the invitation. I am not going to encourage this kind of guest robbery. And I am young and recently married!

By PlainHardTruth

August 4, 2008 11:23 PM | Link to this

Go pound salt.

By Soon to be a bride

August 4, 2008 11:40 PM | Link to this

I personally think they are a great idea for couple who already have the traditional registry items.

When you announce that you are getting married people want to give you a gift, so rather than get a bunch of things you already have or that arent in your style, why not let your friends and family buy you something you will cherish forever?

I am not wild about people who register for the basics of the honeymoon like airfare or hotel, because I think couples should be going on a honeymoon they can afford. However, why not ask for a nice dinner one night, or a spa session, or a hot air balloon ride or anything like that?

By Lisa R.

August 5, 2008 8:02 AM | Link to this

This sounds absolutely ridiculous! Weddings are something to be shared with your loved ones and any gifts given should be from the goodness of their heart — not the result of formal solicitations from the couple. You want to start a new life together? Why not start with paying your own way? FOR EVERYTHING!!!

By pj

August 5, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

I recently heard of this from a bride who asked me to be in her wedding. I could not think of a tackier thing in the world. I do not consider myself old, or even old-fashioned, but this seemed like over-the-top self promotion and greed. Upon further reflection, I could see that there may be practical reasons to use this type of thing, such as an older couple marrying already having traditional registry gifts. That said, I still find the thought repugnant, rude, greedy, in poor taste and a display of poor manners. It seemed as if I was being solicited to pay for the couple’s honeymoon. Even if this was not the case, I personally would avoid that appearance the the negative feelings it generated!

By Joanne

August 5, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

Older couples don’t want a bunch of stuff! More and more people are about sharing experiences and creating memories with their new life together - not playing the consumption game that most young couples had to because they married before they established a household.

Remember, the average age of marriage is now 29! A decade ago it was 22.

This recent Wall Street Journal article spoke with an etiquette professional and the reply was…

“A honeymoon is a perfectly appropriate gift to request,” says Peter Post, president of the Emily Post Institute, a Burlington, Vt., etiquette think tank. “There’s no objection to it from an etiquette point of view.”

See the full Wall Street Journal Article here.

By Lissa

August 5, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

I was married earlier this year (at age 29) and we did not opt for a honeymoon registry. I had heard of them and did some research on it, but many of the websites that offer them just are not good. I can’t recall which ones, but many take their cut out of what is “bought” for the couple.

While I think honeymoon registries are fine for some people - you have to consider your guests. If most of your guests are young and computer savvy, an online honeymoon registry is perfect. If most of your guests are older and don’t know how to use a computer, these types of registries should be avoided.

In our case, we simply opted to register at a few stores for items to upgrade (dishes, cutlery, etc.). In the end, the majority of our guests gave cash.

I do have to agree that the asking for gifts has gone too far. My husband and mother-in-law actually wanted to request cash gifts on the invitation! Thank goodness I knew what horrible etiquette it would have been! I had to bite my tongue when I received an invitation to a friend’s daughter’s wedding in which she had included registry information (a big no-no). By the way, later at the wedding, they too did the “dollar dance” - so unbelievably tacky!

By Bree

September 23, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

I think you people are all over thinking this. Is the dollar dance really “tacky” or is it tradition? In my family it’s tradition, so call us tacky if you like. I am planning a wedding and I have taken a somewhat verbal poll of what people think of a honeymoon registry and they think its a wonderful idea. The bottom line is this; maybe you dont know the couples situation and the appreciation that a specific gift can bring. My Fiance and I have had our lives ripped to shreds over the past year, and our friends/family would love to send us away somewhere special so we can relax and enjoy each other. Can we afford to do it on our own? No, but does that mean that we dont deserve it? There are more important things in life than peoples judgements on etiquette and tackyness and any one of our guests cant see why we would register for a honeymoon, then maybe they shouldnt be sharing in our special day anyway.

By Barbara McMahon

November 23, 2008 9:29 PM | Link to this

This is ridiculous.
I am 32 years old and live hundreds of miles from my family. Each family member attending my wedding is special and I am grateful that not only do they want to come, but they want to give me a gift in addition to coming.
That being said, no one in my family will “know” what I need or want for my new life ahead. Unless I am hoping to receive 3 sets if china, I have to register for a gift. And unless I register for a gift that I need, how will anyone know that I need it? And if I already have my china, my linens, and my kitchenware why am I not registering for the honeymoon that I have always dreamed of?
What’s the difference between a hotel and a blender? I’ll remember the hotel for the rest of my life. That’s what.

By Barbara McMahon

November 23, 2008 9:30 PM | Link to this

This is ridiculous.
I am 32 years old and live hundreds of miles from my family. Each family member attending my wedding is special and I am grateful that not only do they want to come, but they want to give me a gift in addition to coming.
That being said, no one in my family will “know” what I need or want for my new life ahead. Unless I am hoping to receive 3 sets if china, I have to register for a gift. And unless I register for a gift that I need, how will anyone know that I need it? And if I already have my china, my linens, and my kitchenware why am I not registering for the honeymoon that I have always dreamed of?
What’s the difference between a hotel and a blender? I’ll remember the hotel for the rest of my life. That’s what.