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DEL.ICIO.USIntellectual imbalance in relationships
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Some people like eyes, some people like arms, but in my view, one of the most attractive qualities in a man is intelligence. I like them smart, I like them educated and I like them well-versed in everything from sports to theatre.
Yes, there’s a balance. I don’t look to find the world’s smartest guy, but I hope that where he lacks in some areas, he excels in others. As my college arts history professor said to us: “You’re not an idiot if you don’t know who wrote the first novel. You’re not an idiot if you don’t know where or what is ‘Big Ben.’ You’re not an idiot if you can’t sing the motive of Beethoven’s Fifth. But if you don’t know any of these things…”
You can fill in the rest.
His point? Know some things and be curious about others. That’s how I see myself and what I look for in my mate. Historically, I’ve been rather turned off when I discover my mate and I are ill-matched intellectually. I can’t explain why, but I’m more comfortable feeling as though we’re either on par, or perhaps that he’s a tad brighter.
Do you care how well you and your SO are mentally matched? Does that play a significant role in deciding to date someone, or are others things tremendously more important to you? Could you date someone you feel isn’t, well, particularly bright?
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By i'm swiss
February 19, 2009 10:32 AM | Link to this
Marco….
Polo….
By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S
February 19, 2009 10:38 AM | Link to this
COME ON BLANCA! I MOST CERTAINLY KNOW YOU ARE NOT TALKING ABOUT SOMEONE’S INTELLECT WHEN YOU- YOURSELF- CAN’T EVEN PRESS THE OPEN BUTTON SO WE CAN SUBMIT COMMMENTS.
GTFOH!!
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 10:38 AM | Link to this
On topic: What is more important to me in a relationship is a person with a good heart. Everything else falls secondary. Though’ being an intellectual really gets me, fo sho’. I think I hold a speckle of intellect, so I probably would be drawn to such.
Thought: I had more than normal dry ‘eye crust’ this morning. Does that mean I slept hard, or my eye creases are just nasty?
Today My gf called and shared a “kid hap” with me at 7:18am. Her 7 year old little girl tried to put one of those temporary tattoos on her lower back (ya’ll know that trend, were it’s right above the ‘butt line’). Okay, so she asked lil lady why she wanted the tattoo, and why it there? And lil mamma said “Because I couldn’t find another good place to put it- it looks good right there”. WTH? Okay, on the phone we both chuckled at first. then I was like “Where did she even get the “tattoo stamp” near the G-Line idea from anyway?” And my girlfriend does not have a tattoo at all. So my gf says “Cee, I’on know where or who she got that from, but I made her change her entire outfit for school and put on her uniform.” Lil lady was gonna wear here low-cut girl jeans, and knit top today. Lol…and she hates that school uniform….o well, that’s what my friend said for her tryin to pull a fast one. These kids are doing and thinking to do waaay more than we can fathom (7 years old)…Anyway, that phone called ended with us talking about Ikea and Wine. this is why men are not as vocal when women are on a roll talking.
Last night I was putting hair-beads on one of my live-ins braided hair, she’s 5 years old. She loves to rub my legs while I’m doing her hair. Why my son comes in the room talking about ‘Dee don’t rub on my moms leg like that it “looks” weird’. So lil mamma turns around says to my 9 year old, I’m listening all quiet she says, “You just mad don’t know one wants to rub your ashy legs like that…Let the moisturizer work for you boo-boo”. she is only 5 years old!
Oh- lawd these kids are funny to me! That’s some real “Funky Cold Madina”!
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 10:38 AM | Link to this
Polo
Where’s the coffee?
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 10:42 AM | Link to this
the suns out and i hope yall get it crunk in here today.
I am in a mood for foolishnes!
By Michelle-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com
February 19, 2009 10:46 AM | Link to this
I can’t stand a person who is mentally challenged without a diagnosis! I couldn’t even be friends with them.. Sh*t is annoying! Can I be intimate with a person who can’t speak properly? I have BUT in the process, I had no respect for the individual..
By Blanca
February 19, 2009 10:48 AM | Link to this
I HATE Really dude? I imagine you would think a blog on a major metropolitan daily’s website would work in such a simplistic way. Indeed, I just have to click one “magic button” and poof! Commenting is up!
Argh.
Luckily for all of us, we’re switching to a new system in the next couple of weeks, so hopefully these technical malfunctions will be eliminated. Fingers crossed!
By Raqi
February 19, 2009 10:49 AM | Link to this
Communication and Conversation are vital elements to maintaining a good relationship, therefore a meeting of the minds and wits is not only desired but also required.
By PUDA-IN DA HOOD
February 19, 2009 10:49 AM | Link to this
we play hood style,no bookish intellect.Oreos are trip!
By kimmie
February 19, 2009 10:52 AM | Link to this
Morning Blog!!
Sister Cee - Too funny, you sure Ginsengs kids weren’t over there last night? Funny, his little girl likes to rub my leg while I do her hair! Sounds like something she would say to her brother too. Now your friend’s girl, I’m glad she made her put on her uniform. Wonder who she picked up that “growness” from?
On Topic Love, love, love smart guys! I think I have a pretty decent level of intellect or “book sense”. Men I’m attracted to must at least match if not surpass. Call me shallow about that, I don’t care. I know some very smart kids and I’d rather hang out with them before I hang out with an intellectually-challenged dude. I just must be able to carry on a decent conversation with a man about a mutitude of topics. No I don’t want to sit around and talk about nuclear physics because that would be boring, but at least current events, politics, music other than rap, film, cooking, etc. A working brain is a definite turn-on. Nerds Rule!!
By abc
February 19, 2009 10:53 AM | Link to this
In referring to the opening phrases of Beethoven’s 5th Symphony, you mean ‘motif’, not ‘motive’.
It’s a case in point: people tend to overestimate their own intelligence. Additionally, bare intelligence isn’t the entire definition of being smart, although without it, you’re probably not so.
People who don’t know things are boring. People who don’t think clearly are irritating. Nobody wants to date boring, irritating people.
By Fee
February 19, 2009 10:53 AM | Link to this
Good Morning, Hello, How ya doing, Wie Gets es Ihnen?
For me, you dont have to be super smart, but at least be able to hold a broad view of conversations. With my mind, I may buss out of no where with a “what do you think about this” question.
In all actuality who am I, I didnt know the three answers to the opening blog comment…. hehehehehehe..
By Dan
February 19, 2009 10:54 AM | Link to this
I’d disagree with Blanca’s professor..
Remember names, dates, and places does not define one’s intellect and really, the search for specific information doesn’t either.
To my mind intellectual curiosity has nothing to do with specific facts dates and figures, but the curiosity to improve one’s own life.
I know plenty of people that don’t know where Big Ben is, couldn’t care a wit about “global warming” theories, or other mindless cocktail party knowledge; but they are bright. In fact somma the smartest people I know.
Before we hit the snobbery that is likely to accompany this post, remember there is a sacred difference between book smart and street smart/common sense.
By Fee
February 19, 2009 10:59 AM | Link to this
Dan the Man*.. you left out of here yesterday without giving me my cheesburg… ARGH!!!!
By lurker
February 19, 2009 11:02 AM | Link to this
……remember there is a sacred difference between book smart and street smart/common sense. Here here
Most times, IMO, those over the top with book smartism miss the mark on just about everything else. Frankly I’d rather the scales tips less in favor of an intellect but banging everywhere else as it relates to street smart/common sense. With that being said, street smart does not equate to being a hoodlum. A good mate/match is one that can blend to the right mix.
By M'Karyl
February 19, 2009 11:03 AM | Link to this
Truly indeed there must be a mutual level on intellectual compatibility…my experiences have taught me that when ppl are insecure about appearance, intelligence, finances or other attributes and such where there is not a mutually compatible exchange then there tends to be more feelings of inadequacy or intimidation on the others behalf…even in the absense of any intention to behave in that manner towrda another person…so I have learned to just eliminate the issues by not pursuing any interest where a certain number o of mutual traits are not equitably exchanged…to much drama.
By DasV
February 19, 2009 11:03 AM | Link to this
blanca i think that this moderating job is too much for you.
good morning good ppl
CeeCee if no luscious, bring-you-to-tears dreaming last night then it might be the start of pinkeye…. Be careful. Too funny on the kids stories…. They are a mess indeed. Mine too. I say all the time: my children taught me how to laugh.
on topic
i had a old boyfriend contact me earlier this week via email. i broke up wit him after being insulted. he technically broke up wit me when he said that i was ‘amusing’ and so beneath him intelluctually so as to create a welcome diversion from every day zone. (he will be the next barack obama…… he excitedly moved within view of the downtown capitol when we were together and from what i understand from his recent email his new place has a full view of it now)
i was so embarrassed. and my mouth gaped at disbelief that he was saying that to me….. that was something that i usually thought to myself about prospective bed-mates…. never said it aloud to anyone’s face. too fun-ny
fee you know you bad… you even know slang german. LOL
By fee
February 19, 2009 11:10 AM | Link to this
When one chooses to exploit themselves in one area or another, I tend to find that the are trying to overcompensate and hide the are in which they are lacking… OK.. woof, now for the real FEE…. Chile, I dont trust anybody that talks to much or too fast, cuz if you aint from up North, your fast talking mean Ya LYING!!!!! and when you talk too much, you want your lie to get caught up in all the other words… Just be yourself….
By BLOW ME a.k.a. TURN MY SWAGGGGGGGGGG ONNNNNNNNNN!
February 19, 2009 11:11 AM | Link to this
Got dammitt…GOOD MORNING!!
Lurker Girl you know I love to reads me some you! Right on point. Most smartpants are normally and usually lacking in the basic common sense and social level. It’s almost alot of them have boxed themselves in. Most of them dibble and dabble in drugs….just so they can RELAX.
By abc
February 19, 2009 11:14 AM | Link to this
I find ‘street smarts’ to be largely mythological, pertaining mostly to the necessity of being mistrustful of those around you, due to unfortunate surroundings.
Intuition is important. Being able to gauge people’s intentions is a worthwhile ability. Looking down on so-called ‘book smarts’ indicates only that you can’t read and understand, or that you don’t know much.
If you’re an adult and you don’t know where/what Big Ben is, don’t know the opening motif of Beethoven’s 5th (everyone knows it; they might not know what it is), then face up to it: everyone should know such simple and common things. We could certainly name a long list of things like that that people don’t know, indicating not that those things are unimportant, but that people simply don’t know much these days. Ask them a question about hip-hop, though, and they’ll be experts on the subject. Go figure.
The first book question is, in itself, a little stupid.
By M'Karyl
February 19, 2009 11:17 AM | Link to this
Ppl seem to be bent on defining intelligence by how much a person knows…intelligence is not a list of words in our vocabulary, a set of read books, a possession of facts, etc…intelligence is a thought process…period…it is a way of thinking and it is not bound to books or an education…rational intelligence is based upon a balanced subjective and objective common sense, more or less…and it is also about a acquired knowledge base that can be attained in a plethora a ways…experience, observation, reading, learning, existing…as long as the thought process actively retains some information from something, then intelligence has been endowed…unfortunately, this does not stop ppl from feeling inadequate when the do not seem to know as much about things as someone else…of course, Parliment or Funkedelic said…free your a$$, and your mind is bound to follow…lol
By Dan
February 19, 2009 11:18 AM | Link to this
@Das
It’s doubtful that he’ll be the next anything without humility.
Not only is telling someone that without pause is morally bankrupt, but to think it without reproach is narcissim personified.
And those kinds of people don’t do well.
Churchill had a saying that I often think of “better to be quiet and let people think you’re dumb, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt”.
While I like to talk to different people about different things, I am under no illusion that I am smarter than anyone else.
You’re ex is an example of an intelligent person lacking common sense. I know a couple babes that would’ve hit him with a two-piece and a biscuit and that azz would’ve been gumming his thought process.
By PUDA-IN DA HOOD
February 19, 2009 11:18 AM | Link to this
just bring your swag baby and i brings mine.thats all we need.
By Blanca
February 19, 2009 11:19 AM | Link to this
abc It can be motif or motive, though you’re right, “motif” is more commonly used. Good call!
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 11:22 AM | Link to this
kimmie I’m sure Ginsengs kids are not as brash. lol…
kimmie/DasV That little girl is a doll. She’s has that sandy gold hair, big hazel eyes, and she’s been told she beautiful from SO many, too many times…and she’s street smart…So ya’ll already know.
anyway…i’ll be back when it gets…well you know.
By FEE
February 19, 2009 11:22 AM | Link to this
DasV.. girl you know thats my second language my Momma is german.. so I better now how to talk sumtin…(LOL)
On a for real note… you want someone that knows more than you.. life is about learning and growing. In order to get to higher level you must surround yourself with those people, and those things, that are on the level you are trying to get to.
I have known peeps that try to degrade others because of their book smarts, but didnt have no common sense, and when I heard them trying to belittle someone, I put their butts in check. I dont tolerate ignorant, smart folks at all.
By kimmie
February 19, 2009 11:23 AM | Link to this
Smart, or intelligent, or book sense, whatever you want to call it, does not automatically equal class - as evidenced by your friend DasV. It does not automatically equal snobby or pretentious or “crazy” and antisocial though these are stereotypes sometimes go with intelligence.
The intelligence I am attracted to has nothing to do with such antisocial behaviors. The guys I have liked had common sense, a sense of humor, kindness, the whole package, but also a high level of intellect that makes for interesting conversation and participation in interesting activities. Sometimes its okay to engage in mindless activity, but that will only keep my interest for a short while.
By M'Karyl
February 19, 2009 11:26 AM | Link to this
@Dan co-sign that 11:18
And I often use that same quote…lol…and it holds true…I like to sit and listen to ppl…and it is always amazing to listen to ppl who assume a superior intelligence to another person…and quite often they miss the mark by overestimating self and by underestimating someone else…we do not know what or how much another person knows unless they articulate their thoughts on any given subject matter…and then again just because they do not does not mean that they do no know…why engage in fodder with a fool.
By Fee
February 19, 2009 11:26 AM | Link to this
Dan Im liking your thought process today…Churchill love the comment…
By abc
February 19, 2009 11:28 AM | Link to this
Blanca, you’re mistaken about the word. While mis-use can sometimes constitute colloquial acceptability, ‘motif’ and ‘motive’ are distinct, with the latter having no reference as thematic material, musical or otherwise.
By Dan
February 19, 2009 11:29 AM | Link to this
I respectfully disagree, abc
What does someone that will never travel to England, have no desire to, need to know about Big Ben or the Thames River’s history.
I call it cocktail knowledge, because that’s what it is. Knowledge that not really pertinent to one’s everyday life. It’s only known for scrabble or clue or the home version of Jeopardy.
As far as looking down on “book smarts” no one does. Most people respect intellect. The cognitive dissonance is that people of intellect look down on everyone else that they feel is not as smart.
Everyone doesn’t know things that you would consider simple and common (noticing that use of word choice, too), and what you may consider unimportant may be someone else’s life facsination.
So while not accusing you of snobbery, you have provided a very telling example of it.
For someone to see and experience life differently from you does not diminish that person or exault you. It makes you both human.
By Raqi
February 19, 2009 11:32 AM | Link to this
lurker I agree with that. And I also say that being intelligent has nothing to do with what you learn in a book. To me “intelligent” is being sharp, quick witted possessing clever thinking.
I like thinkers. Problem solvers. To me that’s intelligent.
By Blanca
February 19, 2009 11:32 AM | Link to this
So back to the question at hand…how does this play out in relationships? Can “booksmarts” and “streetsmarts” make it work?
By DreamsMaterialize
February 19, 2009 11:32 AM | Link to this
Morning I agree with abc in that people tend to overestimate their own intelligence. I don’t know about you abc, but one thing that’s worse than not knowing something is thinking you know something when you really don’t. That’s why I have a hard time listening to these “cocktail” conversations at get-togethers. Being educated does not make you a scholar. Btw, most people don’t really know anything about hip-hop either.
By Staceye
February 19, 2009 11:34 AM | Link to this
Blanca Are you asking would I date a beautiful fool? Um…nope….but if he is great in bed he’d make a GREAT bedtime story! “That’s right baby….don’t say a word! Just lay there and look pretty for mami”! LOL No, but seriously, a guy could be GORGEOUS like that Chocolate azz Morris Chestnut or that jaw dropping hottie…Aubry (Halle’s baby daddy)…oh my I am having dirty thoughts!…back to what I was saying, I would be so turned off that his lack of brains would make him not so hot anymore!
Ceemili You got reincarnated kids in your life! LOL They have been here before! At 5 she knows the word moisturizer! Being Black…you learn about ashy at an early age! I swear I thought my little cousin’s name was “Ashy Azz”. If I heard my auntie say, “sit your ashy azz down so I can put lotion on you” one more time…I woudl have lost it! LOL Ahhhh…the good times!
By M'Karyl
February 19, 2009 11:37 AM | Link to this
@Dan
while I do agree that some ppl like to hold their superior intelligence in high esteem at the expense of other ppl that they may deem as less intelligent…it can also go the other way…I have encountered ppl who find it necessary to riducule ppl whom they deem as being booksmart but not street smart or too smart for their own good…the operative at hand is how secure or insecure ppl are within themselves with their own acquired knowledge base and by how much they are willing to learn that is unknown….because all we can learn is what we do not already know…lol…imagine that.
By FEE
February 19, 2009 11:39 AM | Link to this
Dan Im loving the new you… Fee batting her eyez at Dan… I think ABC is the prime example of this discussion….
By M'Karyl
February 19, 2009 11:42 AM | Link to this
@Fee
This is not a new Dan…it is just another POV from Dan…he is actually a very well-rounded person…and he has a far more objective and engaging thought process than he may initially lead you to believe exists…lol…just Brother Dan being Dan the Man…lol
By Raqi
February 19, 2009 11:44 AM | Link to this
Dan I agree about the cocktail knowledge. To house an array of book lingo that’s mean absolutely nothing when in comes to common everyday functioning is just useless IMO.
I was watching a recorded episode of the Big Bang Theory and one of the characters was challenging one of the other lesser smart character in naming elements on the periodic table in alphabetical order. It was funny but I turned to Mase and asked why would anyone just know that if it’s not in your field of work. He was challenging her with something that she had no use for in life. Cocktail knowledge.
By abc
February 19, 2009 11:44 AM | Link to this
Knowledge of the world expands one’s own horizons, no matter how provincial one may be, Dan.
If one doesn’t recognize Big Ben as a symbol of British government, nor how governments of other countries are structured and how they operate, how can they know how our country fits into the world of politics? If one has so little interest in politics that they simply don’t care about those things, does their vote equate to dialing a number for American Idol?
The opening motif of Beethoven’s 5th is arguably the most common piece of musical thematic material in the world. If one doesn’t recognize it for what it is, do they not miss a big part of the point of it’s use?
These are examples of things people learn as children. How about instead of Big Ben, it’s the Presidents depicted on Mt. Rushmore, or is that another object of disinterest? Who needs to be interested in it? It’s so common, it’s like the sky is blue, the ocean is deep, Big Ben is the clock tower at Westminster Palace, Mt. Rushmore is in South Dakota. I mean, come on.
By Dan
February 19, 2009 11:46 AM | Link to this
@M’K
Agreed. But more often than not I’ve found the ridiculing of intelligence as a defensive cultural measure, I don’t really honor it unless it’s used as some form of badge of honor.
@Dreams
Know what kills me? People that try to display their intellegence using platitudes that are ever present and ever repeated in the lexicon. You’ll often find that in discussion of politics (for those brave enough to do so).
@Blanca
This is all relevant to the topic. abc has revealed that he would dismiss the possibility of a relationship with a “lesser” intellect. Staceye confirmed the same thing.
Those of us discussing the counter argument have revealed at least our willingness (and indeed capacity) to engage someone on level that more comfortable to them.
All of which is telling…maybe some of the more jaded people have been on the other end of someone’s intellect judgement and found lacking….NBF jussaying
By Dan
February 19, 2009 11:55 AM | Link to this
@abc
Actually, Big Ben is not a symbol of British Government, is a symbol of the a-political monarchy. It’s commissioning, location, and use was for the monarchy *thus it’s facing Bunkingham Palace from it’s perch near the House of Commons.
Don’t have to be smart with the internet:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Ben
By DreamsMaterialize
February 19, 2009 11:56 AM | Link to this
abc In regard to you musical perspectives, you sometimes remind me of a classmate who would often chastise us for not knowing enough about “real” music. He was an opera singer who recently passed.
http://www.ajc.com/metro/content/metro/obits/stories//2008/11/15/smithobit_1115.html
Do you know him?
By Fee
February 19, 2009 12:03 PM | Link to this
tight poo see and new shoes…
YOur 11:56 comment was pure - D Ignorant…
I C U just want to be the antagonist on the blogg today.
Please reflect to Dan the mans 11:18 comment, to see your picture right next to it!
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 12:04 PM | Link to this
I like them smart, I like them educated and I like them well-versed in everything from sports to theatre
Good morning!
Where are u going to find such men.??.there arent enough to go around and to cover all the educated,single black females.There arent enough men as it is.Besides,most chics in Atlanta prefer the street smart,hood and hip guys to the so-called book smarts type.Just my observation. As my college arts history professor said to us ur college prefessor Blanca was just being trapped by his own liberal arts bias.I bet u,he knew nothing about quants,swaps,beta nor options.He was just being an azzhole! Education is what remains after the facts have been forgotten,thats a quote from my own undergrad university chancellor(may he RIP).Like some here have said,all u need is common sense,adaptability,courtesy,morals(at least in public),street smarts and lots of intuition.Some measure of intelligence,yeah. I would not care about Beethoven,theater,classical music etc.opening motif of Beethoven’s 5th suck my dyckk,whats that? Cldnt care less about such stuff coz its not relevant to my wrld.And im smarter than most of uall so-called artsy folks who stupidly mistake and keep chimpanzees/tigers as pets but end up on their wrong side!! lol.U’ ll better served if u had an informed and practical understanding of wild life than ur contrived bookish knowleadge!!
By abc
February 19, 2009 12:05 PM | Link to this
Dan, it’s a symbol of British government because Parliament meets within the building where it’s located. Westminster Palace hasn’t housed a royal family since the 1500’s.
Dreams, no, I didn’t know him. Most of my knowledge of opera was gained in music history classes. My condolences on the passing of your classmate.
By The Truth aka The Love Guru
February 19, 2009 12:15 PM | Link to this
You can mask alot of things in a relationship but stupid isnt one of them. A chicks gotta have a headpiece or you’re carrying around dead luggage.
When you’re stupid you’re whole body suffers.
By Fee
February 19, 2009 12:22 PM | Link to this
By tight poo see and new shoes Cant explain it, cuz I dont understand your point… which we all are entitled too… and its all good..
The word you should be using is discernment.. because you can be “smart” and have no discernment or shall I say do not know how to tap into using your discernment which allows you to see into one’s spirit,which then allows you to understand their character / motive.
have an awesome day…
By M'Karyl
February 19, 2009 12:31 PM | Link to this
@Fee
we will just assume that tight poo see and new shoes just means that there are strange and inexplicable mating practices…lol…like Whitney Houston and Booby Brown (no, that is not a typo in his name…lol)..
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 12:45 PM | Link to this
polo …
By FEE
February 19, 2009 12:49 PM | Link to this
Lets switch gears Why cant a man see when he has a good woman in front of him. Could it be that she is a good woman, just not for him?
I once tried to show a dude what a good woman I was, until God has to speak to my spirit and say.. Stop trying to show the wrong man that you are the right woman for him..
When “that” man comes along, he will see you.
By DasV
February 19, 2009 12:52 PM | Link to this
LOL @ you Dan and your two-piece biscuit visual.
he was totally caught offguard at me breaking it off with him. he had absolutely no idea what he’d done to offend me. he lacked tact. not humility in my opinion, because when i broke it down for him he understood and quickly apologized. but my good opinion once lost is lost forever………
it was nice to hear from him and i immediately teased him about his propensity for casual insults. its all good. i made him aware of something and he got me to look at something in a different…. the relationship worked, for what it was.
and Dan! kudos on that 1129. i really couldnt follow abc’s line of thought….. how you gone put down someone cause they know the lyrics to slick rick’s bedtime story and mos def’s version of it and can tell you what they really mean.
but mayne, own that you were calling that man a snob. you was and he is….. today at least.
and you right…. you dont have to be smart with the internet…. nor do you have to be a world traveller or excellent pianist… google earth will give you a street view of any major site in the world and you can download chopin from demonoid or anything else for that matter along with video tutorials on how to do/learn it yourself
because that is the now reality… its more important if a person can carry on a decent conversation, can comfortably make eye contact and has good bodily hygiene. what he knows is not as important as he wants to know more than what he knows now. < ——— that made sense to me :) kimmie i cosign that 1123 post. you are absolutely right…. we have a case-in-point right here on the blog. theTruth can make a valid point but put it in such a crass way that you miss it.
M’K why engage in fodder with a fool…. excellent. sometimes fodder is all the person has…. they package it with the sweetest attitude, sincere concern or expensive gifts and the majority of society will ride to the end of the line. thats why i believe in being selfish…. because selfishness demands that i know what i have to offer and what i need to be happy.
and you know that was a typo in his name, but you just left it cause really he IS a booby. LOL
By Michelle-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com
February 19, 2009 12:52 PM | Link to this
LMAO @ Melo’s 12:04 comment!! Completely agree!
By kinderbabe
February 19, 2009 1:04 PM | Link to this
on topic: i can’t date a dummy. i’m sorry…i don’t care how nice his azz is. lol! intellect is so important to me. he doesn’t have to be einstein but a man being hip to culural and world events, philosophy, etc. are important to me. i actually had a great relationship in my 20s w/someone that i was only intellectually stimulated by. there was no physical attraction whatsoever which ultimately led to the end of the relationship. i found out then how sustaining an intellectual connection can be even when other types of attractions are absent. in the long run, balance is key. having a fine AND intelligent brotha is definitely what’s up.;)
By Wise Diva
February 19, 2009 1:04 PM | Link to this
Blanca, I always enjoy your topics, but this one is especially great!
I had this dilemma last summer, the guy was “educated” in terms of degree but we were not that intellectually matched. I admit, it got on my nerves - among other things about him. I think, it highlighted how incompatible we were. I was willing to adjust to it, if he weren’t such a raging neanderthal LOL
By lurker
February 19, 2009 1:07 PM | Link to this
Everyone knows that I have been a little shy and not that adventurous in bed. However my new dude is really experienced in a good way of course before we even went there we got tested so that we can have fun sex and not clinical sex. Well he has done alot of things that have never crossed my mind or I am way too afraid to do. He wants to have anal sex and I dont but he has not pressured me at all he told me whenever I am ready well i have never let anyone put anything in my dude(butt) besides a tongue….
My question to you guys is have you ever had anal sex and if so what does it feel like? I am really scared but I want to please him… I need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
By The Truth aka The Love Guru
February 19, 2009 1:12 PM | Link to this
Das you didnt miss it, thats why you commented on it. You not only got it but internalized it. Like correcting a dog. Do it to light and you have to do over and over. Do it right and you dont have to do it again. Plus you didnt think I was crass last night.
Fee I’m liking that spark in you. Btw, the war was over 60 years ago so technically you’re not a war baby but a jungle fever baby. LOL
By abc
February 19, 2009 1:13 PM | Link to this
Au contraire, no snob am I. As plainly as I type in here, if you can’t follow my train of thought, then the reason why is self-described. That’s not to diss you, either; it is to assert that if you feel like you’re not keeping up, it’s because you aren’t.
Just as people acknowledge they are or aren’t willing to date those of lesser intelligence, people need to acknowledge that there are others who wouldn’t date them for the same reason.
Disinterest in subjects that don’t have direct application in your daily lives is not due to a lack of intelligence, it’s due to laziness. Such laziness will not serve to open your eyes to that which is not right in front of you. Broaden your horizons. Be interested.
By FEE
February 19, 2009 1:13 PM | Link to this
Call me non-intelluctual Then because honestly, with me you dont have to know about cultural arts, just know your culture… you dont have to know about fine cuisine, just know where the kitchen is and know how to use seasonings, and dont get them mixed up with seasons(winter, spring, or fall), You dont have to necessarily know the Longitude and latitude of this world, just know where the door, car, and road/highway to get to your behind to work, you dont have to know how to speak different languages, just make sure you can make me speak in other languages at the right time, you dont have to be religious, just know that if you act crazy its gonna take God to save you for real, You dont have to understand the time zones, just know they exist, and know what time it is in our relationship, You dont have to know where water comes from just know how to wash you ashe everyday… see
By Dan
February 19, 2009 1:13 PM | Link to this
@Melo
About the 12:04pm,
I think there are women that would value a guy suggesting an opera date or taking them to the High Museum. It’s just that for the most part, ladies wouldn’t really know how to handle that initially.
It’d (is) met with a certain distrust, bred by experience and borne by disappointment.
In that, it’s a catch-22, because for the guy to prove he ain’t frontin’ he’d have to continue the behavior which for him would be redundant.
You can’t disprove a negative.
And I’m laughing at Das for answering questions from 9am - until. But I get being busy…
By FEE
February 19, 2009 1:15 PM | Link to this
* OH MY GOD* at lurker.. girl, fee is fainting over here literally… girl doo doo hurts coming out.. Lawd have mercy… If ya man is Golden and Holden…. DONT DO IT… hehehehehe
By M'Karyl
February 19, 2009 1:17 PM | Link to this
@DasV
LOL…no I intentially typed it that way because it is my honest opinion of that nut job…booby bobby boy.
By FEE
February 19, 2009 1:17 PM | Link to this
Ya’ll know I was joking at 1:13 right…
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 1:24 PM | Link to this
Hey Cam!
By Raqi
February 19, 2009 1:25 PM | Link to this
lurker while it is an act that I will never do, the decision is only one you can make for yourself. You are the one that will have to live with the aftermath. Just remember it can never be undone after you do it. As with anything in life know if you can live with having done it before acting.
By (regular) lurker
February 19, 2009 1:32 PM | Link to this
Raqi *To me “intelligent” is being sharp, quick witted possessing clever thinking. That’s about it in a nutshell
Blow What’s up girlie?
lurker Ummm, anal sex, just for me…that’s a no go. Sorry, call me archaic but not willing to lose my elasticity for someone’s pleasure. Additionally, I tend to look at dudes sidesways for wanting that kind of fun. I wanna know where you got or been getting that kind of play.
By Fee
February 19, 2009 1:33 PM | Link to this
tight poo see and new shoes.. You dont know me boo…. trust me!… hehehehehehe… Im in my late 30’s
By Staceye
February 19, 2009 1:34 PM | Link to this
Fee I once tried to show a dude what a good woman I was, until God has to speak to my spirit and say.. Stop trying to show the wrong man that you are the right woman for him. Girl I had to have that epiphany myself! I even had totell ti to my friend….you do not have to try to prove what and asset you are. If he doesn’t see the prize he could have in you…throw deuces and roll out. Because smarter and better man will. But if you are aloowing the dumb one to occupy the space in your heart…how can you have room for the right one? Just because you love him does not mean he loves you.
On topic You can have the IQ of a genius…but still be dumb as hell! I think there should be and equal balance of educational intelligence, pure common sense & street smarts. I have seen some of the most educated women go completely stuck on stupid over a guy. It baffles me how that could happen. Now when a person is just all around stupid…then it makes sense. Now the amount of street smarts I think depends on the person’s upbringing (surroundings). A sheltered kid whose parent’s tried to keep everything roses to the kids will be most likely the one who will get got most of thier lives until life itself happens. But they will take a hell of a beating until it sinks in that they were snowed by their parents. I had friend like that. Girl was completely clueless! I watched her do one dumb azz thing after another…even though I warned her. She was just in la-la land and always fell on her face. then expected my help! Come on man! I told you! She was older than me and dumb as hell and what was sad is that her poor kid had to suffer through her stupidity!
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 1:35 PM | Link to this
What’s up now?
Anyone get their Girl Scout cookies early?
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 1:35 PM | Link to this
kimmie honestly … i feel bad that i didn’t support our girl on top chef from the beginning. it’s great that they kept her around to see what she can do in the kitchen. i hope their not pullin’ a tyra! ya know it’s time for a black winner, etc.
we ended up watching last weeks episode too. the show had a slow start, but now it’s on. i wish her luck and i know she can do it. she just had to warm up.
By ATLborn
February 19, 2009 1:35 PM | Link to this
Good topic Blanca.
Not too many things are worse in dating than going out with a mental midget. I’ll never forget going out with this one chick that I made the mistake of asking who she thought was going to win that year’s gubernatorial race. That chick went slap off and cursed me out (loudly) in the middle of a restaurant for using big words and for “trying to make (her) feel stupid”. Then she calmly went back to eating her appetizer.
By Dan
February 19, 2009 1:37 PM | Link to this
@abc
It’s that petulant self-righteousness that causes problems in the world.
You like music, you’ve studied it, played it, and have found it useful to your life.
Similarly, someone for who music is background noise for the rebuilding of an engine block, has the same capacity for learning as you.
It doesn’t make you better that you know the difference between motif and motive, any more than I knowing the the square root of pie and how it is geometrically applicable. We both still pale in comparison to a man that sees the inner workings an air conditioning unit like you read music and I see a proof.
Because when it gets hot outside, of the three of us, who’s knowledge is more valuable. It’s the context, not the information.
And I wasn’t calling you a snob, maybe just ignorant of another perspective.
By Raqi
February 19, 2009 1:39 PM | Link to this
Girl Scout cookies early
Cee is that even possible?
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 1:39 PM | Link to this
Fee that was funny. 1:13 why are you jus’ kiddin? It’s the real, right?! I have a “realist” and a VERY sharp intellectual on my hands. Where I think I am intelligent and he’s the intellectual (there is a difference) our conversations lead to more than the surface stuff.
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 1:42 PM | Link to this
Staceye speaking of hair that is exactly why I got to your cousins at Yves Dominican Shop do my hair. Ya’ll are the bomb sisters when it comes too hair!
I think I ask you this before. You more that welcome to do a set to my head, AND a cut too!?
By (regular) lurker
February 19, 2009 1:45 PM | Link to this
lurker ummm, too, if he ain’t getting plugged in the butt, why should you? Seriously. Do you think it will stop at tongue action. Honey, he’s working that magic on you. First the tongue and then who knows what else. It’s your body and remember your body is a temple. When it’s done and over with, as Raqi mentioned earlier, you’re the one that will have to live with that. For me, that not even an option. On top of, I need to married to said dude before that’s a topic.
By tight poo see and new shoes
February 19, 2009 1:49 PM | Link to this
@FEE
Staceye said
* I have seen some of the most educated women go completely stuck on stupid over a guy. It baffles me how that could happen.*
now re-read what i posted earlier….not so stoopid now….maybe i should have dressed it up a lil better
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 1:50 PM | Link to this
Raqi I think if you a troop leader or some equivalent “pull”…
You ready too?
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 1:51 PM | Link to this
they know when a good woman is standing in front of them. if their not committing to you, it’s because of a couple of things. (1) they are not wanting a relationship/don’t want to give up whatever their trying to hold on to (2) they have more than one option/you (3) they just left a bad marriage (4) they only want the poosey. i can go on and on.
it’s not you. trust me on this.
By Leggs
February 19, 2009 1:53 PM | Link to this
Can “booksmarts” and “streetsmarts” make it work? Simple answer is most definitely. No doubt, the one w/the booksmarts has enuf “streetsmarts” to have attracted that in the first place.
By abc
February 19, 2009 1:53 PM | Link to this
Yeah, Dan, but I’m neither petulant, self-righteous, nor ignorant of other perspectives.
Among the best practical mathematicians I’ve known are carpenters who can calculate complex geometry of intricate roofing with the simplest of tools. When my HVAC needs attention, I know who to call rather than attempt it myself. I have, in fact, been in such roles myself. It’s been a long time ago, I admit.
I daresay that without basic math, one can’t even buy the correct amount of materials to maintain their lawn. Without math knowledge, it’s difficult or impossible to realize the importance of having it.
Perhaps the thing that makes it hard for people to accept is that they are so rarely confronted by those more intelligent than they are. The same is true of me: the main reason I’ve not dated women who have marked intellectual superiority over me is that they didn’t want to date someone of such inferior intellect.
As was mentioned yesterday, people should concentrate on their own market when choosing who to date. Oftentimes, that market is chosen for them.
By The Truth aka The Love Guru
February 19, 2009 1:54 PM | Link to this
lurker take one for the team. If you’re curious give it a try. If not let it go.
By Jazzyone
February 19, 2009 1:54 PM | Link to this
I prefer a man with a combination of smarts, streets, books, hustle and the like. A man that can blend in any environment and hold his own is attractive to me. From a Tux to jeans and a Tee shirt works for me. I can do the same.
Um ‘regular lurker’ lurker a man can go to a number places to get any type of sex that he likes trust it and so can a woman.
By Michelle-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com
February 19, 2009 1:59 PM | Link to this
I agree with *Regular lurker.. If you aren’t married to the dude, why consider it?* I believe anal sex is a gay act and I don’t partake in it but that is me.. Why is he asking you for your a* anyway? Is your poosay not good enough? * How long have yall been dating?? I have a BUNCH of questions! LMAO*
By Jazzyone
February 19, 2009 2:00 PM | Link to this
I prefer a man with a combination of smarts, streets, books, hustle and the like. A man that can blend in any environment and hold his own is attractive to me. From a Tux to jeans and a Tee shirt works for me. I can do the same.
Um ‘regular lurker’ lurker a man can go to a number places to get any type of sex that he likes trust it and so can a woman.
By kimmie
February 19, 2009 2:00 PM | Link to this
Beautiful - Don’t feel bad, she didn’t BRING IT in the beginning! I was always down for her, thats why I got peeved with her. I’m glad she finally saw the light! Looks like she threw down last night. Most of that food looked good, as a matter of fact. Now I could have eaten a lot of it, unlike other episodes!
Carla is not a bad looking woman and she said she used to be a model. I just wish she would get a different pair of GLASSES or get some contacts! They are distracting and take away from her, I think.
I thought it was the finale, but I see that’s next week. Should be interesting!
By Poppa Grande
February 19, 2009 2:03 PM | Link to this
Cee
I ordered some early. I haven’t gotten them yet.
I really don’t care for them that much. It seems that the number of cookies that you get per package seems to get smaller.
However, I wanted to support the group.
By lurker
February 19, 2009 2:03 PM | Link to this
You don’t have to date a guy for six months to get the lowdown on who he really is. With the right clues, you can size him up in 10 minutes. “A man’s actions — especially the ones you see in unguarded moments when he’s not going out of his way to try to impress you (or doesn’t realize you’re watching) — can speak volumes about his character and personality traits,” says Rita Benasutti, PhD, a psychotherapist who specializes in couples’ issues. To help you decode a guy you’ve just started seeing, Cosmo called on a team of experts to tell you how to assess his actions and tap into his boyfriend potential, pronto. His Favorite Sport “Solo sportsmen, like runners and swimmers, 1 savor their independence and relish spending a lot of time alone,” says relationship-skills coach Steve Nakamoto, author of “Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs to Know About Catching a Man.” Men who are fans of mainstream team sports, like football, basketball, and baseball, 2 tend to be competitive — on the field and in all aspects of their life — and they like to hang with their entourage. As for the guy who’s just not into sports at all, 3 “he’s an independent thinker, usually on the sensitive side.” How Long He’s Been Hanging With His Friends A guy who has been friends with the same posse since he was 10 years old can certainly claim 4 loyalty as one of his strong suits. But “you better like what you see, because he’s probably not great with change,” says dating coach Liz H. Kelly, author of “Smart Man Hunting.” “And be patient, because it will take a while for you to win his trust.” If your date has buddies from all areas of his life — i.e., college, the gym, work — don’t be afraid to drag him to your cousin’s wedding. 5 “He has no problem schmoozing strangers and adapts to new situations easily.”
Credit vs. Cash A guy who likes to flash his plastic 6 craves status. “He may be ambitious and confident. He’ll reach his financial goals,” says Rob Ronin, PsyD, a licensed clinical psychologist and registered financial consultant. “If he always pays in cash, 7 he’s self-sufficient and independent,” which might make him a difficult dude to corner. And if his wallet is dry? 8 Here’s a guy who’s dependent on others to take care of him.
His Bad Habits Gambling men 9 are risk-takers, which can make them a lot of fun. “But their over-the-top optimism that they’ll come out ahead makes it difficult for them to face reality,” says Mitchell Parks, MD, assistant professor of psychiatry at Vanderbilt University, in Nashville. “Hard-core smokers 10 tend to be anxious,” says Dr. Parks, so it can be hard to pin them down for couple-time. And if he’s a boozer, 11 he could be hiding his insecurity behind his buzz.
His Communication Style When your date opts to email you — rather than call — 12 he could be a hard nut to crack. “The fact that he chooses a communication method that allows him to edit what he says signals that he might not want to show his true self,” says Jeff Bryson, PhD, professor of psychology at San Diego State University. An IM addict 13 craves your nonstop attention and needs that instant assurance that you’re there for him. And the phone fan? 14 He might be a little old-fashioned and likes to do things by the book. But, according to Bryson, “he’s not afraid of intimacy.”
The Clothes You Wear That He Prefers If your fave T-shirt and jeans or a cute little sundress do more for him than your slinky black number, 15 you’re dating an earthy, laid-back guy who likes equally laid-back, low-maintenance chicks. A man who’s wowed by a woman who likes to get dolled up in high-end designer duds 16 places a high priority on prestige. “He’ll probably make a lot of money, but it also might play too important a role in his life,” says Los Angeles clinical psychologist Nancy Irwin, PsyD. And a guy who wants a Carmen Electra-sensual girl on his arm 17 is looking for an ego boost. “He places a lot of value on being admired and envied.”
How He Deals With Traffic If he constantly weaves in and out of cars, tailgates slowpokes, and glares at other drivers, 18 “it’s pretty clear that he has a problem with aggression,” says Leon James, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Hawaii and author of “Road Rage and Aggressive Driving.” While a forceful personality might take him far in the workplace, it could be difficult to deal with this argumentative guy in a relationship. If he’s able to exude Zen-like calm when stuck in gridlock, 19 “he’s likely to have more self-control.” What He Orders in a Restaurant A meat-and-potatoes-type guy 20 is usually steady and dependable, says image coach Dianne Daniels, author of “Polish and Presence: 31 Days to a New Image.” “But he’s also a little unadventurous.” If your date goes for exotic dishes, 21 “you’re with someone who makes spontaneity a priority and could easily get bored with the status quo.” Neat Freak or Messy Man A guy who puts his dirty socks in the hamper is one thing; a guy who color-codes them in his drawer is something else. 22 “This man is way too fastidious to have fun,” explains Daniels, “and he’ll expect you to be just as neat.” A mildly messy man 23 is looser and more open-minded. But if the inside of his shower has never seen a scrub brush, 24 he may be immature or just plain lazy. Favorite TV Shows Take note if he parks himself in front of one sitcom after another. 25 “Here’s a guy who uses humor to defuse stress,” says TV producer Hedda Muskat, author of “Dating Confidential: A Single’s Guide to a Fun, Flirtatious and Possibly Meaningful Social Life.” This can be a good thing, because he won’t hold a grudge against you or lose his cool. But it also might be hard to get into a serious conversation with him, which can be frustrating. “The more you try to discuss something important, the more evasive he will become,” says Muskat. A couch sleuth who’s fascinated by CSI-type shows, on the other hand, 26 is analytical and thoughtful. “He prides himself on his problem-solving abilities and will be there for you when you need support,” says Muskat. His Birth Order “The oldest child 27 is usually a responsible, take-charge kind of guy,” says Nancy F*, author of “Desirable Men.” If your babe is the baby of his brood, 28 “he’s likely to be creative and a little rebellious.” As for a middle man: 29 “He’s a sensitive soul who needs loads of attention.” How He Approaches PDAs When you’re out in public and he’s all over you like a rash, 30 “he’s either trying to show you off or marking his territory, both of which are signs of insecurity,” says Nakamoto. A guy who’s allergic to body contact in public is 31 unsure about his feelings for you or your feelings for him. “PDAs are statements of togetherness,” says Nakamoto. “If he has doubts, he’ll keep his distance physically.” Whether He Always Drives or Wants You To “A guy who doesn’t automatically assume driving rights 32 is likely to let you steer the relationship at least some of the time,” says Kelly. A man who hogs the wheel — even in your car — 33 is sweetly old-fashioned at best and, at worst, could be a control freak. The Guy’s Grooming MO A guy who checks out his reflection in every store window you pass is obviously vain. But, interestingly, 34 it’s also a sign of a dude who’s intent on succeeding. “Presentation is everything to this kind of man,” says Sheenah Hankin, PhD, author of “Complete Confidence.” “He sees it as a measure of his self-respect and success.” 35 The low-key, less conceited guy might be less ambitious, “but he’s easier to connect with emotionally because he’s not as superficial,” says Hankin. “What counts on the inside matters more to him.” If He Looks You in the Eye “A man who doesn’t make eye contact during conversation 36 may not be trustworthy,” says speech coach Diane DiResta, author of “Knockout Presentations.” “Meanwhile, if his eyes bore into yours as he’s talking, 37 he might be trying to intimidate you.” But a smoldering gaze — you know what that looks like — 38 means he’s immensely fond of you. His Speaking Style If your man moves his mouth a mile a minute, 39 you’re with a spontaneous, high-energy guy who may be a little too self-absorbed. “Fast talkers get so wrapped up in making a good impression that they don’t pay attention to their audience,” says DiResta. Slow talkers 40 typically play it safe. “The way they deliberate every word before it comes out of their mouth is indicative of how they approach life: They look before they leap.” So although you shouldn’t expect a lot of surprises, at least you’ll know he means what he says. Things You’ll Only Learn With Time Your speedy profiling skills won’t reveal these tidbits from psychotherapist Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of “Calling in ‘The One’.” How loyal he’ll be: Wait and see if you’re shown the same allegiance as his buds are. If he’s a man of his word: Will he really keep those promises he made to you early on? His little quirks: Time reveals the small details that really make a person tick. If his parents’ split haunts him: His broken home may have issued him some big-time emotional baggage.
By Jazzyone
February 19, 2009 2:04 PM | Link to this
Beauty Then again if a man doesn’t want to commit it could be you* Sometimes is it just YOU. Hes not that into you.*
By For Real
February 19, 2009 2:04 PM | Link to this
What up Blog Fam!!
I see we on the intellegence kick again. Here it is:
Intellegence: Is your ability to learn.
Knowledge: Is what you believe to be important.
One has nothing to do with the other. Now, i’m sure abc is telling everyone by now that if you do not know anything about classical music, jazz or european art/history that you are lacking or you are less well rounded as he is. I hope MK isn’t doing the samething considering our last convo about this topic.
People remember what is important to them period. Intellegent people should know this.
Education is a progressive discovery of our own ignorance.” —Will Durant
By Dan
February 19, 2009 2:04 PM | Link to this
@abc
For the record I was not accusing you of being petulant or self-righteous.
I do believe that in some ways you’re ignorant (in the lacking knowledge, not spitefully) of how someone else experiences things.
To appreciate the perspective of another human is to truly attempt to understand where they’re coming from.
Phrases like “inferior intellect” shows a lack of appreciation for the intellect that a person possesses, and how they use there intellegence to their advantage in daily life.
My own arrogance would not preclude me from speaking with a woman of a different (notice that?) intellect than mine, in fact, I would relish the idea of getting her to see my perspective; hoping that our interaction would expand both of our minds. And lead to sex.
By DuShawn
February 19, 2009 2:06 PM | Link to this
“we were not that intellectually matched”…..I was willing to adjust to it…”, This topic could not be more timely for me. I’ve recently come to grips with this realization in my relationship. I love her to death. She has my back through richer or poorer, in sickness and in health. She’s proven this time and time again, but there are those moments when I truly want to converse on matters of substance and she has no idea what I’m talking about. Often I think to myself “How could you not know this shyt.” I was aware of the variance in our academic achievements when we met. It didn’t matter to me. She possessed the most important qualities that I looked for in a mate. I felt what little she lacked, I would help her acquire. Since we’ve been together her academic accomplishments as well as her earning potential have consistently risen. When it’s time to drink some Margaritas, have fun and ball out, she’s my road dog, my playa potnah. Then there are those intimate moments, when it’s just the two of us and I want to talk about philosophy, international affairs, or our favorite poems and she can’t relate. I guess in some ways I’m at fault for not taking the time to expose her to different cultural environments or encouraging her to read more relevant material, but sometimes I get tired of lifting her up and ”dumbing” myself down. I recently joined some co-workers at a happy hour downtown. There was this one chick that’s mad cool. She and I sat,drank and talked effortlessly for hours. I was literally starved for an intelligent conversation. I miss that. I apologize for the length of this post. I’m just typing and thinking.
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 2:07 PM | Link to this
i’m afraid to post it but i believe when a man loves anal he is gay.
ask him can you buy a strap on and get some of that azz too! if he responds *i know this store … * run for the mf hills.
By kinderbabe
February 19, 2009 2:07 PM | Link to this
lurker you got me w/your last post. i actually thought that my mouse was stuck and flipping over the same text over and over again…lol. that HAS to be a blog record for longest post.
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 2:08 PM | Link to this
What’s kinda funny is when you play rhythmic games, board games, or any kind of game with a smart azz and they get fiery hot when you killin’ em at simpleton.
By (regular) lurker
February 19, 2009 2:08 PM | Link to this
Jazzyone Um ‘regular lurker’ lurker a man can go to a number places to get any type of sex that he likes trust it and so can a woman
Umm, that’s a given. That wasn’t the question. I answered according to what she asked. Everybody knows, as a rule of them, a man can and will do what he wants. I don’t think that’s her concern. Her concern is should she?
By The white james evans jr
February 19, 2009 2:09 PM | Link to this
jazzy i miss you lady
By Jazzyone
February 19, 2009 2:09 PM | Link to this
Luker next time just post the link gee wiz. At 2:09 in the afternoon not many people want to read such a long azz post when you can just post the reference and the link. LOL
By (regular) lurker
February 19, 2009 2:10 PM | Link to this
Jazzyone Um ‘regular lurker’ lurker a man can go to a number places to get any type of sex that he likes trust it and so can a woman
Umm, that’s a given. That wasn’t the question. I answered according to what she asked. Everybody knows, as a rule of thumb, a man can and will do what he wants. I don’t think that’s her concern. Her concern is should she?
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 2:12 PM | Link to this
PoppaG I make a famous dessert with my Samoas and Thin Mint once i freeze them. So we have to have them every Spring, or my son will go into convulsions. :)
By For Real
February 19, 2009 2:16 PM | Link to this
For Real is now slapping the ish out of Lurker with regular lurker’s hair for that long azz post.
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 2:16 PM | Link to this
kimmie yep, the finale is gonna be a good one! i want hosea or carla to take it home. carla looked good with her hair flowin’. contacts would be great with some light eyeshadow and mascara. i didn’t know she was married.
jazzy good to see you pop in lady. you prolly right, but i digress.
By Jazzyone
February 19, 2009 2:17 PM | Link to this
Lurker Any woman that asks another woman if she should let HER man hit HER Monkey on a BLOG..well thats another story for another day. Priceless…but if he doesn’t get it from you trust he will get it where he can if thats what he’s into.
Whitey I miss you also Booski. :-)
By Leggs
February 19, 2009 2:18 PM | Link to this
Dushawn, no need to apologize for the length. Lurker needs to apologize.
Prime example of accepting upfront a person’s characteristics and believing this is all good only to realize you have been fooling yourself——>I was aware of the variance in our academic achievements when we met. It didn’t matter to me. She possessed the most important qualities that I looked for in a mate. Apparently she didn’t because you soon found yourself—->…literally starved for an intelligent conversation. That right there is the markings of an affair/cheating in the making. Eventually you will turn from her to another to fulfill that basic need, intellectual conversation with the one you love!
By Dan
February 19, 2009 2:18 PM | Link to this
@Du
I would venture to say that in the end what matters to you most?
Intelligent and mutlifaceted conversation can be found just about anywhere from anyone. But a person that is compatible for your heart is rare.
Look at it as an opportunity. What does she like to do? What “tickles her fancy”? Get into some of that with her and bring her along to some of the stuff you into.
In the end it’s about building a life together, but that life can’t be based on trivialities. If she’s upped her “academics and earning potential” then she can obviously grow. Walk your walk (discuss what you feel like) and give her a chance to walk with you. Likely you’ll be surprised.
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 2:22 PM | Link to this
DuShawn go back and read my 2:08. And lemme be the next to tell you. There may be deep/pensive/thought provoking things tha she has in her that even you couldn’t touch with a stick.
She probably is not tryin to prove nuthin to what you’ve already put the Golden Seal stamp on.
Like i my Sharp Stick says and knows about me. “Don’t let the smooth taste fool ya’”.
let me let that alone.
By (regular) lurker
February 19, 2009 2:23 PM | Link to this
Jazzyone but if he doesn’t get it from you trust he will get it where he can if thats what he’s into Ummm, again we all grown folks, that ain’t rocket science, that’s given….with you man…yours, mine, ours. Just because it’s not a question you would ask, nor I as I would know the answer before it’s asked, it’s a public forum. Let it serve as it should…gheesh.
lurker citation for that dissertation…LOL
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 2:23 PM | Link to this
I am really scared but I want to please him Scared of pleasing ur man? You dont luv him…..LMAOF
By Poppa Grande
February 19, 2009 2:25 PM | Link to this
Cee
Well, I understand then. You gotta do what you can to prevent convulsions. They aren’t good on a young person’s back (or an old person’s back, either..lol
They caught PG on a good day & like Trick Daddy, PG loves the kids.
We tend to freeze them. I can’t stand coconut, so Somoas are a no go.
I got Do-si-dos and Thin mints.
By (regular) lurker
February 19, 2009 2:26 PM | Link to this
Jazzyone Your 2:17 is nothing new. That applies to your, mine and ours (men). Again…that wasn’t the question.
By DreamsMaterialize
February 19, 2009 2:26 PM | Link to this
DuShawn Been there bruh. You have to ask yourself just how important that is to you. You can have intellectual conversation with anyone, but only a select few will stick by through your best and worst moments. Of course, you can’t help to ask why you can’t have both. It’s a question for the ages man.
By Michelle-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com
February 19, 2009 2:29 PM | Link to this
If her man is willing to get the *tail from someone else, So Be It cause that a* don’t give two phlucks about her azz no way. I would be OK with my man busting somebody elses tail WIDE open!!* * I leave the azz action for B.Scott & em*
By Jamoca
February 19, 2009 2:29 PM | Link to this
Pretty good read…especially today, Dan and M’karyl. Although I’d like to have a well blended combination of both, IMO a man who is booksmart and/or intellectually blessed are both fine and dandy, however, certain things such as common sense, cannot be taught, specifically speaking on how/when to administer one’s own intuition. And if I had to choose between the two, I’d most definitely say give me the commoner, as for what’s left, it can be taught; that is, if one finds it useful enough to learn.
(Regular) Lurker I agree with your 11:02… and lurker ya’ think may be it would be a better idea for you and your man to discuss such information over a few cups of General Foods International Coffees? …that was a bit much, but I’m sure The Ville has seen/read worse…and good luck with that.
Fee-Fee Missy, you at it again, I see. Lol Alright, alright…. Chuch gal gots plenty spunk, but you gotta reserve some of that for Friday now…you can’t sprint all the way, before running outta of steam…please, allow me… Jamoca now tosses Fee (another) matching blogvest to go with her church suit, that reads: “I ain’t no church gal punk!” :-D j/k
By Fee
February 19, 2009 2:30 PM | Link to this
Lurker didnt you get in trouble and slapped yesterday for a long post..
Dan stop going back and forth with ABC do him like I did you yesterday… Tell ABC to SHUT THE Heck UP… The only reason Y he wont date smarter is because it would be called child molestation in todays society…
Ya’ll made me go their, I was trying to be nice… dag nabit…
By Raqi
February 19, 2009 2:33 PM | Link to this
Jazzy you make a good and true point there. That’s where a woman has to stand her ground. No one should ever allow themselves to manipulated or threatened into doing something that they do not want to do. Some things are not worth it and that is the conscious decision a woman (and a man) must make. If one has a good relationship thus far and one party is willing forfeit everything good they already share based on something like an act of a sexual nature, then for that relationship was no from the start. To lose 99% just to gain 1% is not worth it. I personally would bid them farewell.
By Leggs
February 19, 2009 2:34 PM | Link to this
I am really scared but I want to please him. First and foremost, is this act something you’re interested in doing? Have you entertained the thought before? Are you doing this just for him? If the only “yes” answer is to the last question, you don’t need to do it. Sexual adverture is pleasing when one is doing it because they want to experience whatever that act produces if for no other reason than that! You have to WANT to do it, before you can LET him do it.
By Jazzyone
February 19, 2009 2:34 PM | Link to this
Lurker Sweetie that doesn’t apply to me or my man because aren’t speaking about my sexual proclivities those are questions as a WOMAN I don’t have to quiz another woman/blog about.
A secure woman that is comfotable with her sexuality would never pose such a question. It sounds like blog high jacking for no reason. So stop while you are ahead. You post it expect the responses you get free forum right? S it is what it is. LOL
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 2:35 PM | Link to this
They aren’t good on a young person’s back (or an old person’s back, either…
PoppaG Back? What I missed?
I have 6 boxes ordered already. Not including the ones that will hit me up at the Market when spring hits.
By BLOW ME a.k.a. TURN MY SWAGGGGGGGGGG ONNNNNNNNNN!
February 19, 2009 2:35 PM | Link to this
Jamoca but I’m sure The Ville has seen/read worse…and good luck with that No now that has definitely taken the cake. Sorry…I don’t think we have gotten that gutter!
By Dan
February 19, 2009 2:35 PM | Link to this
@Fee
I acutely enjoy a hearty debate. It allows me, in most cases, to get to know someone better.
Not that necessarily my goal, but a healthy debate without attacks, hyperbole and histrionics is good.
By Fee
February 19, 2009 2:37 PM | Link to this
I dont think I am stupid… I will admit I have stuck in their with a guy that well if I had to say, he wasnt in the same place as I was in regards to a relationship….
I stuck in a little while longer because I didnt want to throw the baby out with the bath water so quickly… I think we walk away sometimes to fast… and sometimes too slow… that was my short bus moment, I will admit… and Beautiful those were great reasons as to why he didnt commit, you sure you didnt talk to him first…smile**
Yes FEE do have mental blocks at times…. Im just not one to bed hop, relationship hop, door hop, well you get the picture… I handle men like cars, sometimes, I drive them until they become hoopties, and let them fall apart themselves. (Please note) I have only been in 2 serious relationships…
By Staceye
February 19, 2009 2:37 PM | Link to this
cemeeli My cousins…LOL tell them I said hello! I need to go to them myself. I get tired of blowing my own hair out!
*Michelle I question any guy’s sexuality if he ever asks me for anal. I think he has done dude or has curiosity to do one. God gave females a specific hole for sex and babies….why do you need to try putting stuff where it does not belong? That is Homo-Behavior right there! If he asks me…I will ask him can I put something in his azz. If okays it…I am out because he is tasting the rainbow. If he says no…I will tell him do not ask me to do anythign you would not do. Anally speaking…females and males are the same. I have nothing in my anus that you do not. So if you think it is nasty to put something up yours…then guess what….it’s just the same with me!
Lurker Thanks for the Man 101 Breakdown!
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 2:37 PM | Link to this
du is it possible to find one person who is that well rounded? i don’t think so. those who do find it, should consider themselves lucky.
instead of talkin’ to some random chick, join a group of people who share your interest. with what you described above, i can’t see you leaving her over this. being the mother of your children should count for something. nobodies perfect!
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 2:39 PM | Link to this
FEE, smtimes u talk way too much.But im okay wit dat.If we were home, u know we wld be in the living rm,me,sitting by the couch and u down on the floor,on all 4s & 1/2 nekkid,looking my way,mouth ajar and wrking me,as i doze of whilst listening to closing bell
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 2:43 PM | Link to this
Any Travis Henry baby mamas in this joint???
By Jamoca
February 19, 2009 2:44 PM | Link to this
Sorry…I don’t think we have gotten that gutter Two words —-> See Archives. But ya’ll must have forgotten about our dear Melo. But I guess that’s just become the norm here. ;-)
By kimmie
February 19, 2009 2:44 PM | Link to this
Dushawn - I agree with Leggs take on this, but also Dan. I tend to think if she was successful at academic and career pursuits, then this might be just a case of lack of exposure. If she’s open to trying different things, thus giving you guys more to talk about and share together, you might just have you a winner there! One of my good friends was like that. She was smart in school - started out studying engineering. She went to a fine arts high school. But she grew up in a small town and even when she moved to the ATL, really didn’t get out much until she started hanging with me. Just bringing her around my family & friends and exposing her to different food and entertainment options has made a difference, even in the way she & I talk. We can relate so much better now and it was all due to exposure!
I have noticed that a lot of men do make the mistake though, of only looking at the bare bones basics when chosing a mate, even wearing it like a badge of honor when they go and get someone that is not their intellectual equal(that’s not important - right) - only to realize years down the road, after the kids are grown and gone, the looks & sex have faded and you’re about to retire that you have nothing to talk about and nothing in common. Then you start looking outside the house. SMH
By fee
February 19, 2009 2:45 PM | Link to this
HI JAMOCA* Wassup?
STACEYE I like your 2:37 response… I agree with you, gravity doesnt apply to sex…… somethings should remain a *one way street is it gay if it slipped and hit the rump by mistake… hehehehehe
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 2:47 PM | Link to this
idea du, take her with you to said group settings.
By For Real
February 19, 2009 2:49 PM | Link to this
Du Here is another perspective. Your lady isn’t lacking. You are! This is something you want and desire. But remember intellectual discourse doesn’t have your back. As a matter of fact intellect will tell you it’s illogical to put yourself at risk for another. Ain’t that right MK!
By (regular) lurker
February 19, 2009 2:49 PM | Link to this
Jazzyone sorry sweetie but that wasn’t me posting. You’re a smart girl, anybody can post under “lurker.” If it was me, I’d say so. It’s a blog though, so who cares. Being comfortable in your sexual skin shouldn’t be a given that others should/would be too. For me, such a request/demand would forego further relations. Maybe lurker ain’t there yet. If she’s asking, obviously not. It’s certainly not a crime nor deems an “oh brother” comment. My point is, quit telling us what we already know…stick to the question if you’re going to comment/give advice.
By Fee
February 19, 2009 2:50 PM | Link to this
Awe Melo why you have to try and hurt my feelings by saying that I talk too much… there are others that blog more times than I do in here…. Geese… You need to apologize…
Then on the other hand Kiss my Grits and stop dreaming, because in order for a dream to become reality you must first wake up, and you are still in slob mode when it comes to me being on all fours…
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 2:51 PM | Link to this
Raqi,Jazzy,Leggs,FEE etc i thoght uall ladies were about pushing the envelope as far as pleasing ur man is concerned and vice versa.Why are u asking lurker to provide 1/2 baked,less than stella stuff? Its in the privacy of their own home.Have u all done stuff be4 that u regretted,why? Why is dyck sucking and mouth puking so mainstream?
By Staceye
February 19, 2009 2:53 PM | Link to this
Fee if it can slip into the dookie chute it’s either one of the 2…she has has lots of action in that tunnel and now it’s been dug out! Or he has a pinky penis and it can pick locks if need be. Either way…..neither are good! LOL
By Poppa Grande
February 19, 2009 2:54 PM | Link to this
Cee
PoppaG Back? What I missed?
You mentioned convulsions. Convulsions involves uncontrolled shakes of the body. I guess that could be hard on someone’s back muscles.
That was all.
By For Real
February 19, 2009 2:54 PM | Link to this
For Real now inserting Black Cake inside of 2E’s rectum for medicinal purpose. Live 2E’s, Live!!!
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 2:56 PM | Link to this
idea du, take her with you to said group settings.
Beautiful – Why? Isn’t that indicative of tryna change who she is? Only if she wants to venture out and be exposed to more, will that work.
By DuShawn
February 19, 2009 2:57 PM | Link to this
Beautiful Ain’t nobody leaving nobody. You will never find one person with everything you’re looking for. You accept the one you love flaws and all.
By Jazzyone
February 19, 2009 2:59 PM | Link to this
melo I’m not asking Lurker to do anything I just commented on this not being a forum where getting a namesless faceless answer to such and important question in regards to her private sexual interest is what she should base her actions on. Honestly he can bust her azz wide open with a RHINO dyk to the white meat and I would care less.
Maybe if you have to ask that question you aren’t mature enough to be indulging in sexual activity.
Lurker It is Oh Boy for me becasue that isn’t the topic and I think the topic for today is quite interesting..I thought and think its a blog highjack at its best. Honestly who the fugg cares…
By kimmie
February 19, 2009 3:02 PM | Link to this
Raqi - One of my friends’ marriage was almost destroyed over this. From the outside looking in they had a great and loving marriage. He requested of her what lurker’s guy requested. At first she was totally not interested, but later gave in. It was very uncomfortable, but she tried to please him. He ended up dipping out anyway. The other chick caught feelings and threatened to tell, so my friends hubby confessed. She was devestated and they almost divorced, but decided to work it out. Not a day goes by he does not say he’s sorry. But look at the heartache that resulted? He said it was not worth almost losing her - but I’m SMH.
By abc
February 19, 2009 3:03 PM | Link to this
Actually, Dan, I think that some might consider ‘inferior intellect’ a hot-button term due to their own feelings of inadequacy in that regard. ‘Inferior’ simply means ‘less than’ in this context. My intellect is inferior to some, superior to others. It is what it is.
Fee, like I said earlier, the most likely reason I haven’t dated women who are markedly smarter than I am is most likely because they didn’t want to date someone with that much less intelligence than they had. Or, maybe they were artistic, and desired someone with more talent, or something else along those lines.
DuShawn, it sounds to me like you’re feeling a lack of real intimacy. You can’t be truly intimate with someone who doesn’t share your interests enough to be able (or willing) to discuss them. If they aren’t interested in how you think, how can they be interested in how you feel? That’s a 2-way street, of course.
That speaks to the heart of the topic. How can you be intimate with someone who doesn’t understand you?
By Fee
February 19, 2009 3:03 PM | Link to this
Staceye* you bout made me choke over here with that 2:53 comment, my Gosh, I got a new term,, lock picker, and that aint good.
Melo PLEASING AND DOOKIE GREASING is two different ends of the spectrum hun bun… I sing real good, but I be darn if after I hit High “C” that I gonna need an “ICE” hot packet…. I say “No” to the rump dickie dunk….
By Carl
February 19, 2009 3:04 PM | Link to this
you should credit the website/article when you cut and paste ALL of it in a forum.
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 3:06 PM | Link to this
Convulsions involves uncontrolled shakes of the body so u dont like the poke in the dude chute coz u get convulsions CEE? LMAOF!!!!!!!!
FEE only 2 relationships? Ur mouth sounds way more experienced than just 2.I bet ur tongue has been to places where angels fear to trade,same as many chics in here,if i go by what i see in porn..LOL
Dushawn,make it a point on fridays or saturdays to go out and hang with ur crew.That way u got pple that u can relate to on other issues outside the house.Ur getting 90% of what u desire in ur marriage,kids,good food if she cooks,good and non confrontational company and explosive sexx,going by ur previous posts! Most men in the A wld kill for what u got.They are sexx starved and fat,surviving on Mickydee/Burger King cow feed.
By DasV
February 19, 2009 3:06 PM | Link to this
theTruth see? why you puttin our business in the street like that?? you aint right yea. last night was different cause that soft side of yours was ‘plaining things real good.
did someone cite lurker for the long mess?? lurker you shouldve broke it up and posted several times…. blanca wouldve thanked ya for getting her count up.
*Honestly he can bust her azz wide open with a RHINO dyk to the white meat and I would care less. * that was worth taking a break in class and reading……. ROTFLOL
By Leggs
February 19, 2009 3:11 PM | Link to this
Raqi,Jazzy,Leggs,FEE etc i thoght uall ladies were about pushing the envelope. Let me speak for myself. I’m willing to push the envelope on a lot of sexual adventures because I WANT TO FOR ME FIRST. She doesn’t seem to want to do it. She seems to be afraid that he’ll get all bent out of shape if she doesn’t (well, that’s what I read between the lines). There’s the difference I was speaking about.
By Dan
February 19, 2009 3:15 PM | Link to this
@abc
I was speaking of the connotation associated with the speaker. Word choice indicates motive.
And understanding is at the heart of it all.
Do my lady have to understand credit defualt swaps and their impact to a balance sheet? No.
Her interest in my exhubrance is enough if she cares for and treats me right.
I’m not talking about the extreme “can’t walk and chew gum”, I’m trying to address the middle ground. Functional intelligence vs. Intellectual pursuit. (as Kimmie stated, there is a difference).
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 3:16 PM | Link to this
so u dont like the poke in the dude chute coz u get convulsions CEE? LMAOF!!!!!!!!
Melo you so silly. Lord bless
We were talking about my kid having convulsions. Watch n learn
By The Truth aka The Love Guru
February 19, 2009 3:16 PM | Link to this
Melo he asked before he had her heart. After that she’s finding new and creative ways to crack her azz open. Poor timing on dudes part. LOL
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 3:17 PM | Link to this
melo pleasing my husband is no problem for beautiful. :o)
cee ummm, ok. just tryin’ to help my boi.
du thanks for confirming. you had me worried for a sec.
disclaimer: i tend to take my post to the next level. i assume everything. it’s your job to confirm or tell me different. i’ve learned from the best. eyeroll
By Poppa Grande
February 19, 2009 3:17 PM | Link to this
Melo
You must not have read her post. It was about her son getting convulsions when he doesn’t get her dessert made with Girl Scout cookies.
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 3:18 PM | Link to this
Not a day goes by he does not say he’s sorry
that man needs to move on Kimmie.Same as his woman.Shyt happens,uall say that.How can he get a grip of his marriage if hes perpetually apologizing? Now that ur friend knows he likes the dude hole,she needs to figure out how to make it smooth and make their house happy.What wife/man discusses her/his bedroom romp anyway?It diminishes them both to the outside wrld.She dont know that? Grown ups married folks need to behave like grown ups married.Unless hif she wants Kimmie to partake of a thresome,that wld be diffrent.Some things are better left in generalities!
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 3:18 PM | Link to this
Not a day goes by he does not say he’s sorry
that man needs to move on Kimmie.Same as his woman.Shyt happens,uall say that.How can he get a grip of his marriage if hes perpetually apologizing? Now that ur friend knows he likes the dude hole,she needs to figure out how to make it smooth and make their house happy.What wife/man discusses her/his bedroom romp anyway?It diminishes them both to the outside wrld.She dont know that? Grown ups married folks need to behave like grown ups married.Unless if she wants Kimmie to partake of a thresome,that wld be diffrent.Some things are better left in generalities!
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 3:19 PM | Link to this
venus and they say i’m messy! smh.
By Fee
February 19, 2009 3:21 PM | Link to this
Dan/ABC Im going to stay out of you two’s intellectual cross firings, cuz I keep gettin’ shot at…
Melo I said 2 relationships, but if you must know several rendevous before I fully dove into my spirituality….
By The white james evans jr
February 19, 2009 3:22 PM | Link to this
are we seriously discussing anal sex….lol
its not for the average black women..but brothers still ask….lol
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this
Beautiful It’s/we’re cool. I’m just responding to the thread about intellectual vs not so.
Sorry, blame it on the tropical flavored Orbit gum.
By Dan
February 19, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this
@Fee
Not picking a fight…
But what part of being “spiritual” precludes you from addressing your inherent sexuality?
I don’t see where the two ideas are opposed…
By kimmie
February 19, 2009 3:29 PM | Link to this
Melo - Somehow I knew you would take it there. LOL! And I thought I was speaking in generalities. Just for the record, if you recall yesterday I said I had ZERO interest in any of my friends’ men, and I’m ALL woman who likes NOTHING but men, so the other “partake” you mentioned is not an option.
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 3:29 PM | Link to this
he asked before he had her heart u got a valid point there homie.And this place is the wrong place to ask for that kind of advice from ladies.All of these ladies,when in luv,do what would be scandangalous to most sane minded men in here.They dont admit,hint at it nor verbalize it.I know this.Most black american females,by my observation,are more loyal than african females.But i can tell u that queen wld agree to anything that i ask for in there,if i only ask.She may give a slight whimper when her sweet convulsions are kicking in,but do she will and wld!And these chocolates in blogsville,are way more annointed in sodoism and hedonism than Queen!
By (regular) lurker
February 19, 2009 3:30 PM | Link to this
Jazzyone Lurker It is Oh Boy for me becasue that isn’t the topic and I think the topic for today is quite interesting..I thought and think its a blog highjack at its best. Honestly who the fugg cares
And what day do we ever stay on topic? Come again. It’s anything goes, everyday on this mug. Wonder if you’re I HATE ATTENTION…. using terms like highjacking. Plus, it was midday. No? Just about the daily turn of the tide. Right love, not that serious.
By Leggs
February 19, 2009 3:30 PM | Link to this
…he asked before he had her heart.* That right there is the bottom line!
By The Truth aka The Love Guru
February 19, 2009 3:31 PM | Link to this
Kimmie he’s a fool for apologizing everyday. Apparently it was important because he did it.
James Evans black women do it too. They just all deny it when their in a group. SMH
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 3:31 PM | Link to this
You must not have read her post why uall sounding innocent and squeeky clean all the time bro?
It was a skit….neva mind,she got it..
By lace
February 19, 2009 3:32 PM | Link to this
Do you care how well you and your SO are mentally matched? Unless you’re referring to severe mental challenges, it’s not much of a big concern for me.
Could you date someone you feel isn’t, well, particularly bright? ummm unless you have a learning disablity everybody has the ability to learn more. Charles Schwabb for instance has a learning disablility(dyslexia).
“That’s the real problem with kids who struggle with learning … Some kids feel like they’re stupid. I want them to know that they’re not. They just learn differently. Once they understand that and have the tools to learn in their individual way, then they can feel good about themselves.”
— Charles Schwab
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 3:32 PM | Link to this
cee
singing
blame it on the a a a a a alcohol
lol.
By Jamoca
February 19, 2009 3:35 PM | Link to this
i thoght uall ladies were about pushing the envelope as far as pleasing ur man is concerned and vice versa.Why are u asking lurker to provide 1/2 baked,less than stella stuff? Its in the privacy of their own home.Have u all done stuff be4 that u regretted,why? Why is dyck sucking and mouth puking so mainstream?
Melo my telling lurker that the information she provided here was a bit much, was basically saying: Bring your issues to the wood AKA your man. It’s one thing to share, hmphf, we all do it and we’ve solicited advice/suggestions on this very same forum. But her concerns seem to be a tad bit more serious than just askin’. One can also tell, she’s not comfortable with the idea nor the act…a decision she will have to live with and answer for.
Now as for the extent of sexual gratification being exchanged…I will admit, it takes a certain bond and comfortableness to bring that any and everything out of a person even at the thought of being open minded enough to explore “the unknown” of whether you’ll enjoy the act or not. And it’s obvious, she hasn’t reached that point yet. IMO
However, I do agree with this Leggs —-> You have to WANT to do it, before you can LET him do it. …and again I say, obviously shee’ohn wanna do it. So don’t. Half a*******in’ it, is worst than not doing it at all (if she’s feeling that guilty).
My thing is all or nuthin’…Whole A$$ or No A$$. And I’m fine with either, just be adult enough to identify and therefore make a decision on where you stand…without budging, until *YOU ARE comfortable.* That’s alls I’m sayin…
By Fee
February 19, 2009 3:36 PM | Link to this
@ Dan the Man I dont see you as picking a fight… though to answer your question… being that I am not married anymore… My sprituality and inherit sexuality goes hand in hand, I dont participate in sex outside of marriage. I will not proclaim me to be 100% goody two shoes, but I do and have been practing the no sex rule since diving into my spirituality 100%.
By hmmmph
February 19, 2009 3:36 PM | Link to this
Ceem you started off this morning all sweet and giggles. I see you can and will get for real bout it. You read like a real cool sister. Gal, u bout it-bout it! Damn braiding hair and shyt….
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 3:37 PM | Link to this
cee
singing
blame it on the a a a a a alcohol
lol.
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 3:38 PM | Link to this
Beautiful…may i have sumthin cool and nice to drink for Cali? **
By Staceye
February 19, 2009 3:39 PM | Link to this
Not a day goes by he does not say he’s sorry
He wouldn’t get that chance…once you cheat on me…the trust is broken forever….and can never be earned again. Divorce would be the only option! Otherwise I may kill you in your sleep. Everytime I look at you I’d get a visual of you and another woman and that would drive me crazy!
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 3:41 PM | Link to this
cee
singing
blame it on the a a a a a alcohol
lol.
By Poppa Grande
February 19, 2009 3:41 PM | Link to this
DuShawn
The only advice that I can give is write down all the things that are positive about your relationship and then write down all the things that are negative. See which list is longer. You don’t have to share it with her. it is just something so you can see the forest instead of one tree aka put things into perspective in the grand scheme of things. Make your move from there. I won’t go into more specifics than that because only the two of you know what you mean to each other.
The list can help you avoid being another casualty of the 80-20 rule.
The other chick may have other things that you can’t deal with…like boiled bunnies or something that can be a real hassle to your life. Hence my saying….I know that crazy with which I live.
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 3:41 PM | Link to this
cee
singing
blame it on the a a a a a alcohol
lol.
By The white james evans jr
February 19, 2009 3:43 PM | Link to this
@truth…yea player i know…i have used the snake on many a pipe…and those that said they did not…were well versed and tootin that arse up for a proper stickin….lol
same goes for dranking the dna..lol
By kimmie
February 19, 2009 3:43 PM | Link to this
he’s a fool for apologizing everyday.
Truth/Melo - When you’re not hard core and you have a conscious, this is how you are when you mess up. Don’t do the crime if you can’t do the time. Remember, she did try. If it was that important to him, he should have found someone who would do it freely & married her. And for the record, she isn’t asking him to apologize everyday.
By The Truth aka The Love Guru
February 19, 2009 3:43 PM | Link to this
Staceye Everytime I look at you I’d get a visual of you and another woman and that would drive me crazy! Thats a short drive. ROFLMAO
By Dan
February 19, 2009 3:45 PM | Link to this
@Fee
So sex before marriage was a Commandment?
noting that I don’t read the Bible like I used to Did Jesus say “no ring, no thing”? I may have missed that part
By The Truth aka The Love Guru
February 19, 2009 3:47 PM | Link to this
Fee but I do and have been practing the no sex rule since diving into my spirituality 100%.
Transaltion: I havent met Mr McDreamy since I started this spiritual shyt but when I do I’m going to light his azz up.
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 3:48 PM | Link to this
ooops! i hit post and walked away for a moment.
kel drinks a gallon of milk every three days. dayum
By Jamoca
February 19, 2009 3:48 PM | Link to this
he asked before he had her heart
This right here ^^^ tells the story and makes a big difference, therefore supporting my stance when stating —-> a certain bond and comfortableness to bring that any and everything out of a person.
A lot of us would like to believe regarding certain situations, that we’ll know what we will do, and what we won’t, what we’re open to exploring and what we’re not…until the right comes along. All of sudden these “demonstrations” come with little thought and so effortlessly. JMO
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 3:50 PM | Link to this
Transaltion: I havent met Mr McDreamy since I started this spiritual shyt but when I do I’m going to light his azz up.
lmbao. ditto!
By kimmie
February 19, 2009 3:50 PM | Link to this
Staceye - You bout like me on that.
By Poppa Grande
February 19, 2009 3:54 PM | Link to this
Melo
why uall sounding innocent and squeeky clean all the time bro?
If you take that way, that is on you. I’ve talked about some of my exploits on here. If you missed them, oh well.
However, I didn’t see it as appropriate of putting sex talk on the male child. That was all. I saw that she was talking about her kid. Then, you talk about her getting convulsions. In text, it came off as you asking her about incest. That is why I even chimed in.
By fee
February 19, 2009 3:56 PM | Link to this
Dan Truth dont like me talking deep spiritual stuff in here so, what I will say is that it speaks of fornication… which is interpreted sex before marraige and that we should abstain…
Truth It aint spiritual shyt as you put it… but You right, in a foul language way… He best to have a years worth of vacation stacked, an on hand masssage therapist, and some No Doze to stay awake….
By Leggs
February 19, 2009 3:57 PM | Link to this
beautiful, that was funny!
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 3:58 PM | Link to this
hmmp unmask that
Bout it? Yea, “bout” to live, Love & thank God for his throne, get bills paid, then try to leave a Legacy! That’s what Cee is “bout”.
By Dan
February 19, 2009 3:58 PM | Link to this
@Jamo
The opposite is true, though few admit it.
Coming with that comfort level is doing things one has professed to never doing.
My problem these days is that comfort has been replaced by this need for (even fake) committment.
Committment comes on its own time, in its own way. Like the “poop shoot boogy” some things are better left unsaid
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 3:59 PM | Link to this
she isn’t asking him to apologize everyday i get it Kimmie.All we saying is the man needs to maan up.The fact that the woman is still there,she loves him altho she is pained.He needs to str8ten his back and do his damn thing.Better yet,even ask for that stuff some more when in bed.But by the looks of things,seems he is apologzing daily when he comes home and sneaking into bed well after her bed time.Hes a punk! Hw long will he be apologizing? Hes now a slave to the woman! Just shows u tho,its not all men who got it.
By DuShawn
February 19, 2009 4:00 PM | Link to this
For Real I don’t think I’m lacking, but admittedly I share the blame. I believe the situation could be remedied with some of the suggestions made here along with a sincere effort on both of our parts to find intellectually stimulating and fun activities that we both enjoy. It’s really not that serious. It’s just something I occasionally miss. Poppa I don’t need to write the pro/con list. Regardless of which is longer, no one’s leaving.
By Dan
February 19, 2009 4:05 PM | Link to this
@Du
Waaiitt a minute.
That last statement had an Ike Turner kinda feel….
You trying to battle C. Brown for the title?
By Jamoca
February 19, 2009 4:05 PM | Link to this
Committment comes on its own time, in its own way. Like the “poop shoot boogy” some things are better left unsaid Dan
These ^^^ are my sentiments exactly.
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 4:05 PM | Link to this
where is that boy from ‘round that way?
Melo I hope we cool. Imma need a hookup with braids from one of OUR cousins soon. You know any?
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 4:07 PM | Link to this
fee are u okay with spending the rest of ur lyfe alone,no hubby? Im told u got a phine booty and a beautiful face to match.Say it aint so? Fornication is the in-thing.We are all forgiven anyway.Havent u heard,Jesus died for u and me and Truth and evebody.Ur so-called clean ways wont change none.Wating ur time with that. Jamoca u right about that, a luving female will oblige.I was hoping Raqi wld chime in.But leggs did, so i take her wrd.We all in agreement.If lurker is reading between the lines and shes madly in luv,its a wrap tonite!
By Dan
February 19, 2009 4:07 PM | Link to this
@Fee
So is it supplication or penance that provides motivation for your abstinence?
Truth don’t read past 3 syllables, just use big words…j/k
By Poppa Grande
February 19, 2009 4:07 PM | Link to this
Du
I didn’t say anything about leaving. All I said that it can put things into perspective of how that thing compares to the totality, and make your move from there. That doesn’t mean leaving. In sexual psych, it sometimes allows that mind to focus on the one that does the most for you. That other chick seems to have stuck in your mind.
Oh well, it was just a suggestion.
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 4:09 PM | Link to this
Cee,yeah,any time.
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 4:10 PM | Link to this
…‘round the way fellow.
DuShawn btw- I wasn’t tryna take as sneaky stab at you like some do. - The point of it all, is to harmonize with your mate in a way that even an intellectual couldn’t measure the depth.
It = It’s the melodic rhythm and vibe you two stock. (I blame that one on Admiral.)
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 4:11 PM | Link to this
leggs this is why i loves me some truth. that comment he made had me written all over it. lol.
By Dan
February 19, 2009 4:13 PM | Link to this
@Jamo
Then why are sincere attempts met with cyncism? Why is that we’ve gotten to this notion of “proving” yourself to someone?
Why can’t it just be “she makes me feel this, I’mma run with it”? The games people play kill me slowly sometimes.
@Fee
You sin everyday. But somehow one sin is worse than any other? Says who? the right Rev….
By (regular) lurker
February 19, 2009 4:18 PM | Link to this
Fee Don’t do it girlie…don’t get into religious discussion with these folks. The good book pins us all but folks will extract what fits. It’s a waste of time and typing. LOL
By Fee
February 19, 2009 4:19 PM | Link to this
Melo Who may I ask told you how I look?????and No I dont want to spend the rest of my life alone. but I dont want to spend the rest of my life tossing my cookies, and getting crumbs back in return…
DAN obedience to the word of God is my motivator.. As you can see “Im not a religious nut” that bable christian ideologies up in here…I have some spunk contrary to what peopel think or believe christians are to be.. or behave…
getting back to your question… obedience…
By kimmie
February 19, 2009 4:22 PM | Link to this
Melo - I get the man up part, too. That’s really what I’m talking about. If I decided to stay, I probably would not want to hear the I’m sorry everyday. At a point, you either decide to forgive and work through it or move on. They go kinda back & forth with this - some days it’s all good, other days it all comes rushing back and she’s mad all over again. They are working through it though. But that’s the consequences of your actions and you gotta be able to stomach those consequences. If you are not one of those hard-core, “Truth” kinda dudes, don’t try to stomp with the big dogs. Stay in your lane! LOL!!
By The Truth aka The Love Guru
February 19, 2009 4:22 PM | Link to this
Desperate Lurker here’s the skinny. Every woman wants to please. Thats their wiring. What you’re going through is just your wiring and your heart in conflict. Tell ol boy to wait 3 weeks and ask again. You’ll be face down screaming ooh la la. Remind him that Chapter 5 of the Man Law Book clearly states that you dont push the envelope until you’ve cleared the first hurdle, her heart.
James Evans I’m trying to remember when a chick didn’t guzzle. One chick should have gotten a guzzler tax for her work. Wew. Had to drink water by the gallons to stay right. Anyway, we’re wrong for busting the facade these chicks are trying to lay down.
Dan Truth don’t read past 3 syllables, just use big words…j/k Its not that i dont but I cant. Keep the words short for my sake. LOL
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 4:23 PM | Link to this
Melo Who may I ask told you how I look????? Ur big,phine and juicy azz was recommended to me.And u confirmed it… Its a long story……..
By fee
February 19, 2009 4:24 PM | Link to this
@Lurker… thanks for the heads up once again… You must luv Me, cuz you always looking out!!!
Dan no sin is greater than the other, and I am not called to judge anyone…. and you dont know me to guesstimate that I sin everyday….Peace from the middle east…
By fee
February 19, 2009 4:29 PM | Link to this
Melo aint nobody told you jack… cuz no one ever seen me in person up in here…. LOL
TRUTH Never guzzled, never will…. I am lactose intolerant…..
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 4:30 PM | Link to this
I’m trying to remember when a chick didn’t guzzle. One chick should have gotten a guzzler tax for her work. Wew
I cant figure that one.NO wonder herpes is on the up and up.Which reminds me,Where is Ared?
LMAOF. The things females do in the name of luv-R Porno, mean R Kelly. How do sperms taste,soapy,salty,vanilla like or gasoline like? Any takers on that quizz?
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 4:33 PM | Link to this
PoppaG I got a question for you?
boiled bunnies?
By Fee
February 19, 2009 4:34 PM | Link to this
MELO How do sperms taste,soapy,salty,vanilla like or gasoline like? Any takers on that quizz?* Melo you can take your own quiz, cuz you lick your fingers evertime… LOL you walked right into that one…. HHAHHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 4:34 PM | Link to this
Transaltion: I havent met Mr **McDreamy since I started this spiritual shyt but when I do I’m going to light his azz up TRUTH
Beautiful this is why i loves me some truth. that comment he made had me written all over it. lol*
the chics are having flashbacks and truth moments in here Truth Its Cofessions time!!! Who 1st in line?????
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 4:35 PM | Link to this
fee click yes by remember me. and you are surprising me on how comfortable you are on this blog.
By Michelle-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com
February 19, 2009 4:36 PM | Link to this
YALL HAVE JOKES IN THIS BIYATCH TODAY!!!
By The Truth aka The Love Guru
February 19, 2009 4:38 PM | Link to this
Fee if you dont believe anything I’ve said believe this. I’ve had more women tell me what they wouldn’t do and then did it than you can shake a stick at. As a matter of fact I love it when you tell me what your not going to do because now I can measure how much you loves you some Truff. LOL
Btw, I’m pumping pure protein, no milk by products.
By Fee
February 19, 2009 4:40 PM | Link to this
Beautiful why would I click yes to remember me… and whY am I surprising you, should I not be this way…
By Michelle-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com
February 19, 2009 4:40 PM | Link to this
Sperm taste like whatever the dudes diet was for the week prior to splashing in the mouth.. At least that is what I heard.. I also heard pineapples & bananas make sperm taste yummy.. LMAO
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 4:41 PM | Link to this
FEE i can tell u arent 40 yet.Sperms got proteins that are good for u azz.They make it more round.See! U learn sme eve day!
Ask the 40 crew in here,they know that
By Staceye
February 19, 2009 4:41 PM | Link to this
*Shut up Truth!!! LOL
Melo you can take your own quiz, cuz you lick your fingers evertime
Fee LMAO…now that was just too funny!
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 4:44 PM | Link to this
melo you know its’ been a minute. but i’m staying true to myself. all of this goodness is for my mcdreamy. true dat.
By fee
February 19, 2009 4:44 PM | Link to this
Yeah I luv me some truth… but you can keep your protein, I like being unhealthy….
By The Truth aka The Love Guru
February 19, 2009 4:46 PM | Link to this
Michelle thats called a pineapple shake. You can use other items also. We’re gonna have Fee in here dreaming about fruit. LOL
By Fee
February 19, 2009 4:47 PM | Link to this
No MElo Im 38 like I told you 2 days ago…. and I will take your word on this, I dont have to experience that, mine is round from genetics only dont need no sperm help to grow it any bigger!
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 4:48 PM | Link to this
fee you just come in here with tims on bustin’ down doors, that’s all.
you wanna tell us sumtin?
By Fee
February 19, 2009 4:49 PM | Link to this
Beautiful WHY DO I NEED TO HIT REMEMBER ME? and why do I surprise you?
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 4:51 PM | Link to this
Michelle- that means the week u schedule me,im on prime beef cuts only,sushi,cod fish,eggs,cheese,publix fresh bread and the finest butter. I be oozing the richest muffcka sperm with the highest velocity,viscosity and density.Mooshy and buttery.Make it soon!
Good nite yall!
By Jamoca
February 19, 2009 4:51 PM | Link to this
Dan Then why are sincere attempts met with cyncism? Why is that we’ve gotten to this notion of “proving” yourself to someone?
Why can’t it just be “she makes me feel this, I’mma run with it”? <—-You see this? Now check how you asked and therefore answered your own question in one post with this here —-> The games people play kill me slowly sometimes.
Which I believe leads us somewhat back to today’s (sub) topic: Is it intellectual imbalance or just not using some dayum commonsense or discernment, perhaps?
Because of these games (which are so played out, btw), we should all be mindful, seeing that there’s a greater possibility that you’re gonna have to pick n’ sift thru a whole lotta gravel, before you strike gold…like how many licks does it really take to get to the center of a tootsie pop? No one really knows. How many scratch offs does it take one to invest in, before hittin the jackpot (if that ever happens)…but then aren’t we all “playin’ to win”? Some folks fall a$$ backwards into something real good (relationships) and then some take the plunge going in head first, hence the phrase “runnin’ with it” and wonder why they come up bruised and outta pocket… and that there was me once upon a time.
However, I will agree said games have made the screening process a helluva lot tougher to pass. And no one wants to waste unnecessary time therefore, makes “runnin’ with it” a not so wise decision. Besides, haven’t we heard the “no one’s buying what you’re selling” mantra so much that we have it memorized?…so it’s no wonder a lot of us find ourselves on a program of “lease OPTION to buy” . hmmmm….
By DreamsMaterialize
February 19, 2009 4:52 PM | Link to this
The Bible mentions fornication as one of the commandments, but fornication is NOT “premarital sex”, contrary to popular belief. Fornication is derived from the greek word “porneia”, the same word from which pornography is derived. It’s actual translation is “male prostitution”.
By Poppa Grande
February 19, 2009 4:54 PM | Link to this
Melo
Here’s a nugget to put into your arsenal…
Seamen (mispelled on purpose)has only 6 calories…Being a psychology major, we read that in sexual psych. Don’t really know why that information was presented.
Cee
What about boiling bunnies? I don’t recommend it. You see that PETA is crazy, and they would want you to get a brain scan, which is what PETA is asking the Court to do the Michael Vick.
Seriously, it was a reference to Fatal Attraction. Dude had an affair with a crazy chick and there was a boiled bunny in it.
By Staceye
February 19, 2009 4:56 PM | Link to this
Dreams breaking it down! LOL Is that right…or are you just trying to get into my knickers?
By THE MELO
February 19, 2009 4:57 PM | Link to this
It’s actual translation is “male prostitution” good call Dreamz!
So this was all, much ado about nothing..Lets get it on then….MARVIN GAYE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
By i'm swiss
February 19, 2009 4:58 PM | Link to this
Okay, too much to catch up on, so let me gloss over the highlights:
On topic: Nothing really to say, as it’s beneath my intellect. ;-)
Back-door luvin’: Hey, whatever floats your boat.
Jizz flavor & diet: I just ate a banana split w/ extra pineapple. Ladies, come get you swiss mocha shake direct from the tap. :-)
By fee
February 19, 2009 4:59 PM | Link to this
Dreams…. I know biblical and greek terminology because I have a degree in it… Male Prostitution…. are most male prostitutes married…. So they too have sex outside of marriage… I had to say this to you my friend but DDDUUUUUHHHHHHH……
By Beautiful
February 19, 2009 5:04 PM | Link to this
dinner tonite … homemade pizza with spinach, chicken, and mushrooms. yum
read y’all tomorrow!
By Cemeeli
February 19, 2009 5:05 PM | Link to this
PoppaG I was laughing so darn hard!!! Hahaha…you got me with the “boiled bunnies”.
Cee is finally outty!
By DreamsMaterialize
February 19, 2009 5:05 PM | Link to this
Staceye That actually is true. I don’t gotta lie to kick it. lol I think the truth works better with you anyway. Now, let’s go back to the corner so I can get in them knickers.
By Jamoca
February 19, 2009 5:08 PM | Link to this
The Bible mentions fornication as one of the commandments, but fornication is NOT “premarital sex”, contrary to popular belief. Fornication is derived from the greek word “porneia”, the same word from which pornography is derived. It’s actual translation is “male prostitution”
Dreams Oh okay…So I’m no longer carrying the weight on my shoulders for partaking and indulging in those guilty pleasures :-) And I’ve translated your post to : ”Fee, girl…gon’ head a getchu some…there ain’t nothing to be ashamed of” And I see others have caught on to that too. Thanks for the breakdown tho. lmao.
By For Real
February 19, 2009 5:12 PM | Link to this
Office visit….
Dr. For Real: Hello Ms. Fee what seems to be your problem?
Fee: Well Dr. Real my energy level is low, I’m losing weight, and my skin is ashy as hell.
Dr. Real: Tell me about it.
Fee: Excuse Me!
Dr. Real: I mean is there anything else?”
Fee: No Good Dr.
Dr. Real: Okay take off your blouse and bra. I’m going to check you out.
Fee: Where is your listen to the heart thingy?
Dr. Real: I’m a professional! Now, ummmm I’m not feeling any lumps in your breast and there appears not to be any in your aerolas. Hey are you related to Wise D?
Fee: Ummm I don’t think so. Why do you ask?
Dr. Real: Oh nevermind… Take your pants and panties off and hop up onto the table.
Fee: Ummm I don’t wear panties.
Dr. Real: Hot Dayummm!!! Umm did I just say that out loud?
Fee: Yes you did. *(while clutching her 38 Ds.
Dr. Real: Oh no you can calm down. I just remember I could be saving more at Geico.
Fee: Ohhhhh okay (removes pants)
Dr. Real: Now I’m about to perform a procedure with the acronym T.O.O. L.A.T.E Y.O.U M.A.Y A.S W.E.L.L L.E.T M.E F.I.N.I.S.H
Fee: Wowwww that’s a really long acronym.
Dr. Real: I can’t tell you how many times I have heard that before. Anyway, this jelly will assist in easying the initial thrust.
Fee: What instruments will you be using?
Dr. Real: Sorry no toys..ummm I instruments this time I have to feel around with my hand to ensure nothing there.
Fee: How long will this take?
Dr. Real: 50 pumps… ummmm I mean I will have to prod around about 50 times?
Fee: Ohhhh okay.
Dr. Real: I will be entering you vagina and anus.
Fee: Ummm well I don’t know…
Dr. Real: Trust me I’m a Doctor.
Fee: Okay Doc, I’m ready
Dr. Real: On the count of three. One
Fee: One… TWOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! WOW!!! OHHHHH MY DAYUM!!! Dr. Real if your right hand is up inside my puddy and your left is firmly grasping my right thigh, what’s in my azz?
Dr. Real: That why the procedure is callled T.O.O. L.A.T.E Y.O.U M.A.Y A.S W.E.L.L L.E.T M.E F.I.N.I.S.H
By Michelle-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com
February 20, 2009 8:07 AM | Link to this
LMMFAO FOR REALLLLLLLLL********