Misadventures in Atlanta

By Dan

February 17, 2009 8:32 AM | Link to this

Did the dating at work thing once

But she couldn’t seperate “at work” from “after work” for too long so, it was ended before it began.

But it helps to compartmentalize in that situation and let work stay at work, home at home, ensuring never the two shall meet.

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 8:40 AM | Link to this

As much as I love and adore Mase I could not see us working together. There is a such thing as too much time together. It would drive me even battier than I already am. Besides it would take away from looking forward to seeing each other in the evening. It would take away talking about something that happened at work. It would eliminated that much desired interaction with the outside world that is needed to maintain a good relationship. I wouldn’t want to ever do it.

I already have to deal with the work that he brings home. He tends to bestow upon me the obligation of being his in home secretary. Ain’t no way I would to do that all day every day and then have a personal life with him.

By Michelle-www.Atlantasfinest.yuku.com

February 17, 2009 8:44 AM | Link to this

Morning All!!

Can’t wait for this week to be over!! Office love doesn’t work! Actually it is WACK

By Kym-no aka just Kym

February 17, 2009 8:45 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Sorry but absence makes the heart grow fonder..long absence..but I digress. I have worked at the workplace with a SO and it does create tension. I could never do that again. Like Dan said it was over before it really even got started.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 17, 2009 8:49 AM | Link to this

Morning I don’t date where I work. That’s just BEGGING for drama. Funny I feel that way since my parents met at work. They were actually going against company policy since my dad outranked my mom. They said they always made it a point to leave work at work, and leave home at home. Can you imagine arguing about finances in the morning, and then having to sit across from that person in a meeting?

By ImAPeach404

February 17, 2009 8:50 AM | Link to this

Mornin’

This is currently my life - I’m “seeing/talking to/hanging out with” someone I work with. According to him… he doesn’t date his coworkers but what we’re doing sure looks a lot like dating. Frankly, I’m confused!

But the dating a co-worker thing isn’t freaking me out like it is him. And, I don’t really believe we’re “co-workers” because we work on different floors, different departments, have different schedules, use different parking lots, and when we see each other, we really have to make an effort to do so. If you ask me… we just work in the same building.

Dating a coworker can be all sorts of wrong for a number of reasons. I believe all those reasons that Bella mentioned could be worked through. I think the biggest issue is when/if things go south…

And… this is my concern… what if you want to do something real freaky with your office-romance?! Now you have to see them at work and act all professional… now THAT makes for an uncomfortable situation!

That is all.

By fee

February 17, 2009 8:55 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Dating at work takes a level of maturity I think. It can be done, but you have to know how to seperate the two and handle yourself in that manner. You have to know how to keep somethings hidden, and that takes discipline.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 17, 2009 9:07 AM | Link to this

In my experience, office place romances get an ABSOLUTELY NOT!!

By mytwocents

February 17, 2009 9:12 AM | Link to this

I.CAN’T.BREATHE. This goes right up there with the Kling-Ons, to me. But I do think it’s different if they’re with the same company, but in a distant department or group.

And definitely not in your management chain… imagine waking up & giving a top notch performance then later that day, gettin your real performance review and it’s sub par, told you get no raise. Sassy mouth chick’a be like “Hmmph I had no problem gettin a raise this mornin!” Nosey Nancy overhears and a hot mess ensues…both of y’all job huntin. Lawdammercy!

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 9:16 AM | Link to this

Morning everyone!

I’ve never dated a someone I worked with, but similiar to Blanca’s profession, there are a lot of marriages that result in mine. A lot of long hours and common interest.

In my small office of 80, there are two couples that have married. And one who had an office affair. They ended up running away together. He got divorced and he’s marrying the mistress.

My parents worked together. My dad ended up hiring my mom and became her boss! They also worked together years down the line when they opened a business together. I guess it worked for them because their profession was the biggest thing they had in common before they had children.

By Dan

February 17, 2009 9:18 AM | Link to this

@My2

That’s not “a sassy mouf chick” that’s a girl, a grown young girl.

But working with her, dude should have scoped that out and if he’s still interested, he gets what he deserves.

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 9:20 AM | Link to this

According to him… he doesn’t date his coworkers but what we’re doing sure looks a lot like dating. Frankly, I’m confused!

Peach, it’s confusing to you because you have feelings involved.

For the rest of us, the red flag looks pretty glaring.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 17, 2009 9:21 AM | Link to this

ImAPeach404 And… this is my concern… what if you want to do something real freaky with your office-romance?! I don’t see a problem with that. Shoot that’s nothing. lol I think there’s two issues. 1) If your work coincides, then you have to always be careful about letting your personal relationship affect your work decisions. If you’re a director responsible for deciding who works on which projects, do you give your SO/fling/romance the most visible project? Would she be upset if you didn’t? 2) If you all had disagreements at home, could you REALLY mask that while at work?

By Dan

February 17, 2009 9:28 AM | Link to this

@40fo

It may just feel like dating (to you).

What he’s told you is what it is, he doesn’t want to date a co-worker…that includes you.

Take a look at what you do together now add a few months and that’s where you’ll still be, no more than what you are (coworkers) and really no less.

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 9:30 AM | Link to this

Ooh, I also remember this office romance where there was only 6 of us! So out of 6 people, two of them were dating.

They were so inappropriate with it. You’d walk by and she’d be sitting on his lap while he was on the computer.

She was my boss, so one day I just asked her “are you and Jim dating?” She had the nerve to be insulted that I asked. But I was tired of everyone walking on eggshells because of it. She was a little threatend tho cuz she was white and he was black and she thought I had a thing for him (yuck, I didn’t).

One day, they were on the phone and he hung up on her and she came flying out of the office and cuzzed him out.

It was crazy!

Needless to say, they didn’t make it to the altar. She ended up leaving.

By ImAPeach404

February 17, 2009 9:34 AM | Link to this

Dating at work takes a level of maturity…

I totally agree Fee. I’ve dated 2 guys previously at work and didn’t have any issues with either. Each situation was handled in a mature manner and kept very private.

AR I can agree with the red flag. He’s brought it up twice - once when we first first met, before we started seeing each other outside of work and talking outside of office hours, then again just last week. The mention last week has put me on guard. I still date other people and I don’t have “feelings” for him. I’m interested, but I’m not foolish.

By The Truth

February 17, 2009 9:36 AM | Link to this

Absolute no go. There’s to much azz in atlanta to to mix it up at work. You could lose a mate and income in one swoop.

With that said me and my ex wife worked a part time job for 1.5 months the first year we were married to pay for all the xmas stuff we wanted. It was cool but couldn’t do that long term. There was about three chicks I wanted to knock off but couldnt. Frustating.

Even doing favorite activities is off limits. I couldnt imagine having a mate with me at dog training and having to explain all the shyt we talk about. Actually I wouldnt explain it to her. If she’s in my space she does so at her risk.

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 9:41 AM | Link to this

I still date other people and I don’t have “feelings” for him. I’m interested, but I’m not foolish.

Peach, he seems pretty disposable in your life then. Forget on guard, try “on ice.” lol

Truth, when I was at dinner on Sunday, the guys in the group were into training and breeding dogs. I mentioned that I “knew” someone who did that (the training part at least) and they asked what kind of dogs and I had no clue. LOL.

By mytwocents

February 17, 2009 9:42 AM | Link to this

I know someone who switched jobs b/c of this and they went for a few more years. But uhm in the end, he did not change his mind about remarrying. They didn’t seem to be a great match anyway and it was pretty obvious. Which made made me think that it was more of a decision on her part to invest in his future potential.

People may think they don’t want it to overlap, but they probably only mean if it’s not good. They may resent any missed competitive advantages their honey bunny didn’t include them on. Which isn’t really right, but guess it’s human nature.

By fee

February 17, 2009 9:48 AM | Link to this

Truth There was about three chicks I wanted to knock off but couldnt. Frustating. You dead wrong, its not you working with your mate, its your level of commitment, you dirty…. LOL

We have to learn to listen with our eyes How do you question or wonder what a person is really thinking or feeling when they have straight out told you 1, in word, adn 2 in action? We only get confused within ourselves when we choose not to accept the truth/ the real answer / actions speak louder than words.

If a man says Im not ready to commit but still hangs around you, obvious he wants one thing, dont get confused choose to accept the fact, and decide to stay and deal with it or put your skates on and bust the move. A dude is action oriented, he will show you the intents of his heart in his actions, stop listening to only what is being said.

Im down for office flirting!

By M'Karyl

February 17, 2009 9:49 AM | Link to this

The rule seems to be that dating ppl from work is bound to be rife with problems and dramas…and the exception is when is does work…personally, I prefer to keep the work shpere separate from personal and social spheres…makes for a better balance in my life.

I onced worked at a restuarant where 2 of the owners/managers where in a relationship…and the tensions in the relationship were conveyed in the work environment…as behaviors and attitudes, as gossip, etc…and it really added a level of stress to the work environment that was unnecessary as it could not be avoided.

In another instance, I lived with a couple whose personal and business issues overlapped…they worked together out of their home and they lived together out of the same home…the environment was loaded 24/7 with one stressful issue after another…personal relationship tensions and differences became professional tensions and differences…it was one hot mess.

The one exception that I can think of is the life of John H. and Eunice Johnson…it is not to say that the combined relationships did not each and together have stresses and difficulties…but through the entire life they shared together as husband and wife as well as business partners, they managed to co-exist and build an empire as a team.

These types of relationships require an emotional maturity as well as an objective focus that can separate and not merge the leveled relationship…and many ppl just do not seem to be able to do it.

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 9:50 AM | Link to this

hello

Wherever I’ve worked my mantra is: “I do not shhhh, where I eat”. That means I don’t stick my pen in the company’s ink.

Good to see some regulars I hadn’t read in a min.

Slim/Truth – Nah wasn’t a sister, i’m the only aa on team. Co-worker was a guy, he married with 2 sons, one in college (GA), and one getting married in 2 weeks. sad It’s an eerie day coming in here, and it’s quiet as whisper today.

Good point someone made yesterday. Folks are not able to “deal” & cop with things, and it makes them lose sight. The guy was not about to lose his job it was other issues…just sad.

By lurker

February 17, 2009 9:52 AM | Link to this

Heck No! Never date a co-worker. Uh uh. Did it twice. Once with the stockbroker that was very private and intimate and ended amicably lasted about 8 months. We initially worked together but he moved to a different location. Even then, he was trying to get me to move to his building (i.e. hooking up interviews for me with folks he knew holding clout) but the other….a horse of a different color. Nothing every popped off at work but I’ll be daggone…….

By MELO

February 17, 2009 9:52 AM | Link to this

I’ve dated 2 guys previously at work and didn’t have any issues with eitheR

Looks like u are a pro at this..This is currently my life NO playa,this has been ur lyfe,me thinks.Are u getting promoted along the way coz that wld be the nice trade off.But the dating a co-worker thing isn’t freaking me out like it is him. Exactly,coz u know ur way around the manipulation and stuff.I bet ur neck job is off da meter!! hehehehe

good merning folks!!!!!

By FEE

February 17, 2009 9:52 AM | Link to this

** Like I said, and will keep saying, we can build ships, scenarios, of what will and will not work, but the key is MATURITY.

By Bit-O-Hunny

February 17, 2009 9:54 AM | Link to this

I was always told not to shyt where you eat. I think we should hold on to some of those good old sayings…LOL

By Page1908

February 17, 2009 9:54 AM | Link to this

Good Morning. Still exhausted from NBA All Star Weekend..sigh Anyway, I think office romances can work if the two involved have a strong foundation and provided it is not a boss-subordinate situation. Nowadays people are working longer hours, having to travel more, so naturally, in those type of settings, romances would develop.

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 9:56 AM | Link to this

imagine waking up…

TwoLincolns my sentiments exactly. Although one has nothing to do with the other I just can’t see being in that situation. To help him get his mornings started off right just to end up being harshly or lowly evaluated in the common work place by him.

Yeah I would like to believe that I can separate it and continue to maintain a harmonious home life but it would be hard or nearly impossible. For me that is.

By Fee

February 17, 2009 9:59 AM | Link to this

*FEE is naming *Melo as the Blog antagonizer… He always got something smart, nasty, foolish, silly, just not right to say… HA!

*Good Morning Melo

By MELO

February 17, 2009 10:07 AM | Link to this

It can be done, but you have to know how to seperate the two and handle yourself in that manner yeah,i waz coming str8 at u with that too FEE Zulu saying that goes(loose literal transltion) the one who is familiar with the path atop the rocky mtn,has most likely, travelled along it at some prior occassion

Begs me ask,have u dated the …..b4?. Im not hating ur honesty! Im just elucidating on it..hehehehe

By SexyCool

February 17, 2009 10:08 AM | Link to this

been there…done that…no real issues at work…i just got sick of talking ABOUT work AFTER work…i felt like i was always working…

have no plans to do it again…

By ImAPeach404

February 17, 2009 10:09 AM | Link to this

And… this is my concern… what if you want to do something real freaky with your office-romance?! I don’t see a problem with that. Shoot that’s nothing.

Dreams… lol. Anyway! You do bring up 2 very good points though. I do see how those situations could cause major issues. Thats why I feel it’s not a good idea to get involved with a superior or someone who works under you or someone who works closely with you. Dating someone you work with is definitely one of those situations that has all kinds of rules and loop-holes. I guess when I put it like that… it’s really not that good of an idea!

What he’s told you is what it is, he doesn’t want to date a co-worker…that includes you.Take a look at what you do together now add a few months and that’s where you’ll still be, no more than what you are (coworkers) and really no less.

Dan I hear you. I’m taking it all in…

They were so inappropriate with it. You’d walk by and she’d be sitting on his lap while he was on the computer. WTH????????

Peach, he seems pretty disposable in your life then. Forget on guard, try “on ice.” lol

AR lol, yea girl. You are probably right. I like to call it “falling back”. Lol, you a mess…

There was about three chicks I wanted to knock off but couldn’t. Frustating.

Truth Weren’t you married? That should have been the reason you couldn’t “knock off” these chicks. Stupid.

By Dan

February 17, 2009 10:11 AM | Link to this

That’s what compartmentalizing means…

Seperating different aspects of your life (work/personal), some people are capable of it, some people ain’t.

Realization of who’s who saves a lot of time

By DreamsMaterialize

February 17, 2009 10:14 AM | Link to this

M’Karyl I don’t think it HAS to be bad. Like I said, my parents met at work. I just think that in most cases the consequences of the bad outweigh the consequences of the good. If you date and it works out well, then everything is gravy, but if it doesn’t work, then there’s potential stress/awkwardness/rumor in the work place that isn’t good for your career. Not risking my career/job when there are so many other places to find women to date.

FEE I agree maturity is key. Only thing is you can NEVER control the maturity of another. If I have count on the maturity of someone else, then I’ll place my bet somewhere else. lol

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 10:15 AM | Link to this

Seperating different aspects of your life (work/personal), some people are capable of it, some people ain’t.

Dan I’m one that cain’t separate the two. If dude works with me some thangs/moments here at work would be “off the CHAIN” seriously. I just don’t wanna mix all that up. Work is work, play is play. I work hard, I play HARDer!

By FEE

February 17, 2009 10:16 AM | Link to this

Melo…I have never had an office romance, only flirted. I just feel it can be done, with maturity, and the right discretion…

FEE is biting MELO You crack me up… I tell you… I Have never climbed a “rocky” mountain before!

Sexycool that was funny… “you felt you were always working… Dang!

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 10:17 AM | Link to this

lol, yea girl. You are probably right. I like to call it “falling back”.

Peach, hope it all works out for you. I know I’ve been there, even if you don’t have your heart in it, it would have been fun to just throw up the deuces when they started spitting that nonsense! LOL.

Live and learn.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 10:20 AM | Link to this

I could see why a woman may want to do it but why would a guy? Now he’s locking down his whole world in one chick that may or may not be a nutcase. It’s about 70% nutcase/30% sane out there now. Not good numbers. LOL Ok, thinking about this more this is just plain ugly.

Ared I have presa canarios. Think presa=bite and hold dogs of the canary islands. What kind of dogs do they breed?

Fee every relationship that ever went bust had participants that thought they were mature. Bet on this. The one wild card in relationships is human emotions,and ain’t nothing mature about those. Its a crapshoot.

The church folk are on my street trying to save souls today. I may open the door and then just slam it. LOL

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 10:22 AM | Link to this

Welcome Back Page. You’ve been mia. Sounds like Phoenix was fun. ‘m sure you enjoyed!

By Dan

February 17, 2009 10:23 AM | Link to this

@CeeMee

You talking about playing at work…

It can be done, but the moment playtime is over, it’s back to work.

Zip the pants, straighten the tie/belt, and act as if nothing happened. That’s half the fun of it anyway. Walking around with a secret that only you two know.

By FEE

February 17, 2009 10:24 AM | Link to this

AMAZON RED I have been learning how to throw up the deuces early on, the key is throwing them up before your heart falls down!

I dont like being single, but I dont want to date by any means necessary…. They say Good things come to those who wait…

Even though I am in the church… I have found that Playa’s still pay tithes

I had a friend tell me **FEE if you give it up, you get a dinner and a movie, if you hold out, you get boats, cars, yachts and houses. hehehe

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 10:24 AM | Link to this

Cee I don’t think I could separate the two either. If we have just had a disagreement at home that I am still harboring ill feeling about it would surely show in our interaction at work. It would just be impossible for me to do. Or if one of us did something at work it would be sure to have an effect on how we act when we get home. When you have issues being out of each other’s presence and space gives you time to get over it or think a little more logically about it.

When it’s just all up in your face at every waking moment, when you step out of bed, when you are brushing your teeth, when you are eating your breakfast, on the way to work, while at work, on the home and so on. It would be just too much to handle.

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 10:24 AM | Link to this

What kind of dogs do they breed?

Truth, I have completely forgotten. LMAO.

By Fee

February 17, 2009 10:29 AM | Link to this

@Truth I totally agree with the human emotion… Maturity at times will get thrown out the window… LOL

@Dan secrets do keep your adrenaline running at times doesn’t it. thats why folks do some of the darndest things even though they know it aint right!

By M'Karyl

February 17, 2009 10:30 AM | Link to this

@Dreams

No it does not have to be that bad…but it just seems that the rule favors less than ideal and optimal outcomes…and like I said, there are exceptions…ppl differ…some are better than others at handling different situations concerning workplace romance, relationships…but again, the seems to be the exception not the rule.

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 10:30 AM | Link to this

Dan so which would you think would be harder to you, trying to conceal a secret storage room rendezvous or trying not to react to some ill feelings that you brought into work or got into at work? Things can get too personal in both instances.

Just like there is the fun side there is also and equal not so fun side.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 10:35 AM | Link to this

Peach why let a little thing like a ring interrupt the party? BTW, a guy doesn’t get play til he gets married. Then every chick wants to test him to see how strong it is. I’m telling you going in I’m weak. LOL A chick may not even like you and give you some azz just because she wants to fugg up some other chicks thing. You gotta love the way some of these chicks think. LMAO

Ared you gotta remember these things.

By MELO

February 17, 2009 10:36 AM | Link to this

I have found that Playa’s still pay tithes thats gangsta FEE!!! if you hold out, you get boats, cars, yachts and houses Ur friend waz talking spiritual boats,cars,yachts and houses!!! U okay with that,right?

By Dan

February 17, 2009 10:38 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

Trying to conceal the rendezvous would involve tact and preparation,

trying not to react to a passing comment while at work (whether made there or at home) would only involve the setting of boundaries.

It’s really not that hard to do…

By FEE

February 17, 2009 10:38 AM | Link to this

Does it matter where you meet? No matter where you meet the person, the real question is; What purpose do I have in this persons life, Why do I want to be in this persons life. Relationships should be about purpose, and that is where we have fallen of, we see instant gratification, not long term satisfaction.

Thus, If you meet and fall in love with someone, and began a relationship, but you know the purpose, when and where, it began and continue shouldnt be of issue.

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 10:39 AM | Link to this

Raqi I agree…when we get to work imma beat you for ackin like you don’t remember I was upset. Lol…not really.

How’s that blessed couple…u mom and Mr. Dad? Hope ur embryo is growing bountifully!

By Fee

February 17, 2009 10:41 AM | Link to this

Melo Im talking naturally, many times more than none, a woman will get more if she holds onto that One thing a little longer. Men love the chase, its in you! Why you think Dogs like running after the ball you threw, than the ball you hold in your hand. HA!

By Elijah makes it Happen!

February 17, 2009 10:41 AM | Link to this

A good morning to you all!

A office romance totally depends on the maturity level of both individuals. Once you come to work you leave the personal stuff at the door!

A special hello to Ared, Cee,Fee-fee Raqi( the tell it like it is sister) and the rest of the women who hold it down and keep us men smiling everyday!

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 10:48 AM | Link to this

So Dan you can turn off ill feelings at the flip of a switch? You are good. Good for you. I can’t do it that easily. If Mase and I have a heated argument on the way to a friends house for example, those that are close to me can detect it. While we act cordially and not inflict our differences onto the atmosphere it can be detected.

And I would imagine it would be even worse in a work place.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 17, 2009 10:48 AM | Link to this

Peach I guess when I put it like that… it’s really not that good of an idea! Ahhhh, my work here is done. Now that your work romance is a thing of the past, you can get with me. lol

Hey everyone. What about BLOG relationships? Do those work? Have they worked here?

By MELO

February 17, 2009 10:49 AM | Link to this

Holding out? Hw old are u FEE and when did i find Jesus?

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 10:49 AM | Link to this

Fee I can tell your from the Harlequin romance set. It does matter. Everything matters. And on the holding out thing, you can if you want to but yourgirl friend isnt. I’m not saying one is right or wrong but its hard on a sista out there. Choose your poison. LOL

Btw, we need a note from your homeroom teacher stating its alright for you to blog with us.

By Dan

February 17, 2009 10:49 AM | Link to this

@Fee

It very much matters where you meet the person, because of the expectations of the environment.

Examples:

Church - nice guy/girl Strip Club - not so nice guy/girl On the street - stranger

So the context in which you meet someone matters regarding your expectations in that environment. If you are there (or open) to meeting someone anywhere, then having an idea about why the person is there and what they are doing there sets the context of your expectations for them and vice versa.

By Fee

February 17, 2009 10:51 AM | Link to this

@Elijah Hello, Hope you had a wonderful weekend…

Maturity Says: (If I was mature)

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 10:54 AM | Link to this

Cee we all are doing well. Taking it day by day, minute by minute.

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 10:56 AM | Link to this

Does it matter where you meet?

Fee, Mayor Franklin’s daughter met her husband at the strip club. I hope she wasn’t suprised when that relationship went south. lol I’m just glad she didn’t have to do hard time with him… blank stare

By Dan

February 17, 2009 10:57 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

No the emotion is there, I just don’t have to access it or address the problem given the circumstance.

If it originated at home, discuss it when we get home. If it originates at work (and it’s not work related), address it at home.

I mean even if I get Tee’d before a social outing, I’m completely capable of addressing the problem after not during the outing. And it’s usually better for me to address it that way so as to be able to state what made me mad.

By FEE

February 17, 2009 10:58 AM | Link to this

AW Lawd have mercy The key word was Purpose…

Melo I knew from day one you hadn’t found Jesus Yet, but Im gonna introduce you to him, cuz you have stereotyped “church” folks into one pod.

@ Dan Environment / Heart two different places… Find out the intents of the heart, and you will find the purpose of the individual.

Not everybody that Goes to church is nice, and not every body that strips is a bad person.

@Dream Blog relationships, its just another meeting place, and again, too me its not the place where you meet, but the meeting of the minds.

Truth Harlequin OMG! Dang! you hurt a girl feelings…. Im 38 and I skipped class this morning! so I cant get a note HA…

By DreamsMaterialize

February 17, 2009 10:58 AM | Link to this

Dan I agree with you on context setting expectations. Not sure that “church girl” has that association anymore though. I’m sure you were just using that as an example, but the image of a “Church girl” has fallen off drastically. Club girl and church girl are often one and the same, sometimes wearing the same clothes to both places. lol

By Dan

February 17, 2009 11:02 AM | Link to this

@Fee

Those are Confuscious sayings.

The reality is the moment you’re mad, the moment(s) you address it, and the time (during which) it is resolved.

By Fee

February 17, 2009 11:02 AM | Link to this

Amazon* Wow… to that degree you got a point, you won that argument….

My thinking is dont always assume the position that where you meet someone is 100% reflective of how the person is going to act, react, respond, be or exist.

Fee is ducking for cover cuz she is getting hit hard this morning…

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 11:02 AM | Link to this

Fee we’ll put up with alot in here but not that dam church ish. Thats crossing the line. If you want to save souls there’s a blog over there that needs you. ——>

We’re quite happy being depraved maniacs.

By Fee

February 17, 2009 11:05 AM | Link to this

8@dream@ Its sad but true, you can hardly tell the difference anymore…**

* I have seen my share* I dont judge, I just inspect the fruit of the person and make my findings from there…

By MELO

February 17, 2009 11:06 AM | Link to this

depending, or leaning on, and if it aint Jesus…. RRRRUUUUNNNNN so that means ur nut aint cracked yet.Thats nice!

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 11:07 AM | Link to this

and if it aint Jesus…. RRRRUUUUNNNNN…

LOL…then get ready, a stampede is soon approaching. LMAO

Oh my dayum… Dreams I’m dyin’ over here. LOL

By Dan

February 17, 2009 11:07 AM | Link to this

@Dreams

Yeah, but isn’t it nice seeing the “church girl” at the club then church?

@Fee

The “heart” is an idea, more appropriate would be the person’s emotional maturity as a focal point.

Gotta get out of the etheral and bring it back to reality. Ideas are not solutions

By Fee

February 17, 2009 11:09 AM | Link to this

TRUTH I’m mature, I dont mix the two, or do overkill, since blogging, I have not pushed my beliefs on anyone up in here… But I am not afraid to share… I dont save souls, thats left up to God, and your right you are a Maniac (smile)..

only person I am trying to save is MELO but you can join him!!!!hehehe

By SexyCool

February 17, 2009 11:12 AM | Link to this

i like you, fee…stick around…it’s nice to have a fresh perspective…

truth forgot to add that in addition to being maniacal…most are quite jaded as well…

By FEE

February 17, 2009 11:14 AM | Link to this

wassup Jamoca help a sista out.. truth trying to kick me out… *

Dan mmmmmm??????…

The heart is not an idea, emotions is of the mind…. half of the time you react from the thoughts that have entered your mind.. you respond to things when they hit the “heart”

By MELO

February 17, 2009 11:16 AM | Link to this

only person I am trying to save is MELO I dont mind FEE but u gotta let me present a counter argument to yours.That wld be fair.So I will phluck you,u lick me up and i do too,and then u read the bible and preach on the verse u choose. Then lets debate the merits of our 2 counter proposals and see who is converted first.Are u on..Im game!!

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 11:17 AM | Link to this

Fee don’t pay them no mind. I enjoy your spunk.

And Truth use to be a Pastor girl. :) Bishop too.

By FEE

February 17, 2009 11:17 AM | Link to this

@sexycool Thank you for the support.. I thought the only support I had this morning was my underwire bra…. (HA)

By Staceye

February 17, 2009 11:17 AM | Link to this

Greetings Blogsville….I enjoyed my day off yesterday will some did not have the luxury! LOL

Dreams I have a few dance school listings for Princess Diva. One is [www.art-in-motion-dance.com]

But I think if you want her to have the whole dance/acting experience, then try this one: [www.offbroadwaydance.com]

On topic I did the office romance thing before…wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. The dude was lacking in the luggage department and killed the fantasy that all the other girls in the office and I had about him because he was sooooo cute! And since he thought he was the ladies man I had to blow up his spot by sharing the bit of info that if you had some kind of booty..chances are Doggy would be a a constant questions of, “Is it in yet”! LOL I know…I’m mean!

By Dan

February 17, 2009 11:20 AM | Link to this

@Fee

The “heart” you’re speaking of is the mind, the place where the processing of emotions begins…(left brain)

Then too, the mind does respond (right brain).

And both hemispheres make up the “emotional maturity” that I mentioned. The culmination over time of digesting what I feel, and how I respond

By DreamsMaterialize

February 17, 2009 11:21 AM | Link to this

FEE some of the craziest, freakiest, (insert other non-church superlative) have been from church. I’d rather take my chances at the gas station these days. Think I’ll be hanging out at pump 6 at the QT today. lol

Dan yeah it’s always a trip to see them in the club then church. can’t help but to think…

Mocha wassup girl. don’t die on me. Here, let me resuscitate you. ;-)

By Fee

February 17, 2009 11:21 AM | Link to this

Melo I dont debate my scriptual P.O.V. and you dont have to argue yours.. I am a very open person… and I am not closed minded…. You have valid points, as I may have, no one is wrong, perspective is only the glass from which you are looking through, which is then only defined by the experiences, encounters, circumstances, and life that you have had up to this point…. the great thing in life is that once you choose, you can then choose again….

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 11:23 AM | Link to this

Melo I bet Fee has that fire booty. Those churchy chicks with a twist always do. Come out the closet Fee Fee, jesus can see you in there too. LOL

By Cemeli

February 17, 2009 11:24 AM | Link to this

Fee Are you a local?

And…

Dreams “crickets” on your earlier question, hunh?

Lol..made me laugh too.

By Dan

February 17, 2009 11:25 AM | Link to this

@Fee

I’m liking the discussion too

@Dreams

It gives them the same pause it gives us. “Is he a party guy that comes to church?” or “Is she a church girl that loves to party.”

My uncle once told me, you could always spot the freaks on Sunday, because they were praying extra hard because of what they did Satday nite

By FEE

February 17, 2009 11:26 AM | Link to this

Dream Dream I cant blame you for your thought, as I stated before there is not that much definition between the two anymore… But be careful hanging out at the pump, you might get more than GAS! HA>…LOL….

DAN* blah blah blah… right left, left right…. turn your signal on cuz I dont know which way your heading… get it *heading… HA

Ok.. that was my silly moment…

By For Real

February 17, 2009 11:27 AM | Link to this

Fee I had a friend tell me FEE if you give it up, you get a dinner and a movie, if you hold out, you get boats, cars, yachts and houses. - How old are you and do you understand Supply and Demand?

Dude: Excuse me you dropped this.

Fee: Ahhh thank you.

Dude: You’re welcome.

Fee: What purpose do I have in your life?

Dude: HUH!!!

Fee: Why do I want to be in your life?

Dude: WTF!!! Hold on now, all I did was return your butt plug you dropped. Don’t be gettin all phillsop, physi, crazy on me!

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 11:31 AM | Link to this

They let Phelps off. hmmm

By kimmie

February 17, 2009 11:31 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog Gang!

Funny, this topic was discussed on Michael Baisden yesterday.

It generally is not the best idea, because most folks aren’t mature enough to handle a outside relationship, must less be discreet enough to handle a workplace one, LOL. But I digress - I have seen it work out nicely and lead to marriage. In fact, the lady on my team that just had the baby Friday is married to a guy that works down the other end of the hall. They met here 3 years ago and this is their 2nd baby together. They married after dating about 6 months.

When I worked for a local bank, there was this dude that was kinda fine and was a former college football player. Fast forward 10 years and he was still a “player”. He was hitting every chick in the office that would give him the time of day. I used to chuckle at the soap opera that took place before me. I also told him don’t even look my way,LOL! Anyway, he had a few kids out of state he did not take care of regularly. There was this sweet lady that had just gotten a divorce that loved the ground he walked on. They got married, even though everyone in the office knew he was still hoing all over the office! To make a long story short, he got in some major trouble that got him fired and she went down with him. Last I heard they had finally got divorced.

I would not want to work with my SO because we are in different fields and I like that separation and the coming together at the end of the day. If we came into some serious money, I would not mind opening up a business together. We would not have to be up in each other’s face all day to do that. I would like to open a bakery/catering company/coffee shop. Even though I am a financial professional, he is good with money and he’s an attorney so he could take care of all that and I could handle the creative end. I think we would make a good team.

By FEE

February 17, 2009 11:33 AM | Link to this

TRUTH Fire booty?? Im not churchy…the is a negative conotation(spelling) that does not define me…

CEMEELI said: And Truth use to be a Pastor girl. :) Bishop too. **are you the pimp in the pulpit everyone has been talking bout????

Cemeeli yes I am local, if the ATL is what you mean…

Dan you bout right… hehehehe… for the men the Usher women in the bed on saturday, and then USHER them to their seats on sunday.. Its wrong…

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 11:34 AM | Link to this

Dreams try the Qt on Panola road. That is a puddy breeding ground. Nothing like a bunch of ghetto broads with low self esteem and high libido’s. LOL

By For Real

February 17, 2009 11:36 AM | Link to this

Raqi So Dan you can turn off ill feelings at the flip of a switch? I can’t do it that easily. - Yes you can you just don’t want to but funny how you can turn dem feelings on and off at work especially with this recession.

By FEE

February 17, 2009 11:37 AM | Link to this

Real You wrong, and you need to apologize… Melo you gon’ let Real talk to me like that!!!

**once again Im 38…what does my age have anything to do with blog?

Truth I was about to come out the closet until I took a peek outside of the closet, and said MMMM Im safer in here….LOL

By Dan

February 17, 2009 11:37 AM | Link to this

@Truth

…and a bunch of strollers….

By DreamsMaterialize

February 17, 2009 11:39 AM | Link to this

Staceye Que pasa mami. Thanks for the info. The Off Broadway Dance joint seems pretty good. She would love that. Do you have personal experience with that one, or know people who do?

Cemeeli It’s all good. Maybe there’s some blog secrets. I’ll leave it alone. lol

By FEE

February 17, 2009 11:39 AM | Link to this

TRUTH try the Qt on Panola road. That is a puddy breeding ground. Nothing like a bunch of ghetto broads with low self esteem and high libido’s. LOL You wrong for that statement… I just told dreams to be careful at the pump, and what he is pumping,, you gon’ get him a bad case of something that his debit card cant pay for….

By MELO

February 17, 2009 11:42 AM | Link to this

I am a very open person… and I am not closed minded…. You have valid points Today is my birhtday FEE and iam only telling u.That makes me very vulnerable.I will allow u to molest me spiritualy ofcourse,however way u liike.Hit me up so we can proly discuss ur sunday church program over dinner tonite! U sure are a phine lady….

Staceye,.. booty..chances are Doggy would be a a constant questions of, “Is it in yet”! i hate the lame dudes who never made an impression on u.They deserve ur hate too and i do understand ur frustarttion with guys in general.There is a lot of fronting out there.To try and smooth over that,I will gladly take ur calls any time of day or nite,just pick up the 4ne when u ready.I need to bring some level of credibitly back to the A guys.Mandingo style. Truth u can tell,in so many ways,FEE is like Staceye.I think we need to allocate ourselves these ladies on the blog.Just watching and hoping that the guys and girls will pair up is such a frustrating thing coz it aint happening.Im tired of coming here and lkistening to daily complaints,monday after monday.Nobody is hitting nobody! Whats the point? I am taking FEE and Staceye,for now.Its ur turn Truth,take ur pick, chosse 2 gerlz,then its on Swiss.For Real will be last since he is on that grave yard!lol

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 11:45 AM | Link to this

wassup Jamoca help a sista out.. truth trying to kick me out…

Fee lmao…huh? On one end you have “The Atheist” and on the other, you’re trying to save “The Melo” ? (but you’ll have to get through “The Queen” first, good luck). Both are self proclaimed and damn proud of it! Just dowse them both with that annointing oil and keep on rollin’ sistah. Now me? I’s a “sinna” too chile…but a work in progress. And I’ve already blown my new year’s resolution. ;-) …wish I could have been of more assistance. lol

By Fee

February 17, 2009 11:45 AM | Link to this

Oh For Real P.S. I understand the law of supply and demand… if you hold your supply your demand goes up… look at the gas station… the lied and said there was little gas, and the lines were 3 blocks long…. you give your supply away, you will eventually run out, you hold on to it, the lines get longer….

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 11:51 AM | Link to this

For Real Yes you can you just don’t want to but funny how you can turn dem feelings on and off at work especially with this recession. Good point. These chicks want to blame everything on their emotions but when the boss says shut up thats exactly what they do. just goes to show if you have the right incentives you can get anything done. LOL

Fee if I went to church it would be 100% to look at women. I could give a fugg what the pimp in the pulpit is talking about. He’s looking at the same chicks I am.

I refuse to go to church on the grounds that I no longer have to worship a god that was forced on my forefathers when they couldn’t even read the book for themselves. What we call religion is actually just habit passed from one generation to another. And a bad one at that. My .02

Kimmie i’m going to need you to cut your initial posts in half. We love you but dont have time to read books, just short phrases. This is your 1st and only warning.

Cee they should have let him go. Btw, they should leave Bonds, clemens, and Arod alone too.

By Fee

February 17, 2009 11:51 AM | Link to this

*FEE SINGING TO MELO to the tune of have yourself a merry litte christmas * and I can sing… Have yourself a very special birthday, and througout your day, may all your dreams come true to you in every way, so have yourself a very special birthday…. Feel special cuz I only sing that version to loved ones.

Truth u can tell,in so many ways,FEE is like Staceye Melo what you mean by that…

Jamoca Im a strong girl, I can take alot, I love God, but I aint a punk by no means! thanks for your help though… You didnt blow your NY res…. 2009 is a new year and you have many days ahead of you to get back on track.

By Foots

February 17, 2009 11:51 AM | Link to this

Hey all! I dated a co-worker once, different departments, different floors. It wasn’t much different than dating somebody I didn’t work with. We chatted on IM a lot, called each other when the IM convo got interrupted, saw each other at least a day, even if we didn’t plan it. We didn’t do lunch together very often and didn’t take up too much time on each other’s floors. It was pretty good while it lasted.

After the breakup, it was a little unnerving to think about running into him, since we saw each other nearly every work day whether we wanted to or not, but I was very blessed to not run into him for four straight months. The day we moved out of that building into a new location was the first day I laid eyes on him after the breakup. He walked right in front of my car actually. I wasn’t even tempted. LOL! We still work for the same company (four years later) and we’re cool when we do talk.

I couldn’t work closely with my present SO. He’s a different person when he’s at work. But if we worked in the same building, it would be the same as the other situation, no real difference than dating someone who worked elsewhere.

By Dan

February 17, 2009 11:52 AM | Link to this

@Fee

There is always another gas station…that has a supply with no line.

And don’t get to charging too much, that’ll decrease demand too.

This message brought to by the economic stimulus package - designed by the Puddy Consortium

By DreamsMaterialize

February 17, 2009 11:52 AM | Link to this

Truth Nothing like a bunch of ghetto broads with low self esteem and high libido’s. Funny as hell man. But damn, Panola Road? That’s too far. Have to resort to the one by me in Sandy Springs. Maybe I can catch some siddity “broads” with high libido. lol

FEE Stop trying to jynx me…damn. You were the main one saying the place you meet doesn’t make a difference. Now, you’re saying the GSB’s (Gas Station Broads) are more likely to give me unredeemable “goods”?

By Ariel

February 17, 2009 11:54 AM | Link to this

I thought this would be a good place to pose this issue. I’m going to meet a guy. We’ve been talking for a couple months and met last month for the first time. We didn’t spend very much time together but we have been talking for about 3 months now. We live apart. I really enjoy the conversation and feel that there’s chemistry. Although I know I don’t have to have sex with him, I feel that it may happen. Thing is, I’m still a virgin, so I’m nervous about it. At the very least, I want to know that he is disease free. That’s really important to me. I am going to tell him that before we get intimate, he’ll have to show me a clean bill of health.

Have any of you met a guy and spent a few days with him without sex? Even though I’ve enjoyed our phone conversations, and think he’s cool, I don’t feel like we’ve spent enough time together to go there. How can I possibly prepare myself mentally for sex?

By i'm swiss

February 17, 2009 11:54 AM | Link to this

“I am taking FEE and Staceye,for now.Its ur turn Truth,take ur pick, chosse 2 gerlz,then its on Swiss.For Real”

Melo — What? I only get 2? I should get passed around more than that — I’m a novelty item on this blog. ;-) I know there’s got to be more than 2 lovely ladies on here that have a little case of “gated-community fever.” LOL

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 11:57 AM | Link to this

Truth I agree…reading it now. And they just trying to RIP Bonds into shreads with that mess!

By kimmie

February 17, 2009 12:00 PM | Link to this

Truth - Okay, who died and made you Blog King?LOL!!!

Ok,ok so I like to talk, my bad LOL!!

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 12:02 PM | Link to this

Novelty shat up. “Gated community fever”. Silly mayne. I luv it.

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 12:04 PM | Link to this

Hello everyone! Too much to read. Never play in your own backyard. Heck, don’t play in the neighbors either.

By FEE

February 17, 2009 12:07 PM | Link to this

Truth I appreciate your .02 cent. and in some ways, sad but true I dont blame you, but let me ask you to seek him outside of the book and church, and you will see him in a whole different light… you cant have a cake with just the flour, you need all the ingredients, and so it is with God, you cant have him with just the book, you need, the book, church, prayer, belief, and faith…

The funny thing about it, even though it was “forced” it got many of them through the rough times…it kept families together, etc.

Its also funny how, we can have bad eating habits, alcholic behaviors, sexual behaviors, lifestyle behaviors that are not good, passed down to us through generations, and we hold onto those, but want to dismiss the “religious behaviors, and call them wrong…MMMMMM?????

Dream Aw im not trying to jynx you, Im trying to protect you from filling yourself up with more than gas… (smile) that GSB was a good one….

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 12:09 PM | Link to this

Have any of you met a guy and spent a few days with him without sex? - Ariel

Um…of course. What kind of question is that?

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 12:09 PM | Link to this

Hello everyone! Too much to read. Never play in your own backyard. Heck, don’t play in the neighbors either.

By FEE

February 17, 2009 12:11 PM | Link to this

*@Swiss Gated community fever???? Never that, your bill-fold just cant afford to purchase my house, and I dont rent out!!!!

Dan you know you have creative wording… puddy consortium is hilarious….

By MELO

February 17, 2009 12:13 PM | Link to this

What up Foots?I was getting a lil worried by ur silence.Glad to hear from u..

Swiss,my bad!Abc will be last.He got no trust in them gerlz anyway so it wont matter what number he comes in on.They are bound to be dumbed after a day anyway.

Auntie Kimmie,Raqi,Kym Iam going to tell him that before we get intimate, he’ll have to show me a clean bill of health..HOW?..I don’t feel like we’ve spent enough time together to go there,SO?. How can I possibly prepare myself mentally for sex? WHAT IS IT U WANT ARIEL?? the girl is preparing for sexx BUT not preparing for sexx..ha?.Hws that possible? Another baby mother Work In Progress Plz advise her poperly on the path to follow…

By Foots

February 17, 2009 12:14 PM | Link to this

Ariel I assume that you mean that this dude is a long-distance guy. If you are having second thoughts about going, it’s fine to go with your gut. If you don’t want anything to happen, you’d be putting yourself in a bad position by sleeping in bed together for several nights. Both of you are only human and though it’s not guaranteed, it’s highly likely that you’ll go there when put in that situation.

You already have your answer…

Even though I’ve enjoyed our phone conversations, and think he’s cool, I don’t feel like we’ve spent enough time together to go there.

That’s it right there. How old are you?

By FEE

February 17, 2009 12:15 PM | Link to this

Ariel is that a trick question… You would want to spend more that a few days, with a dude before, showing him your pocket book! Even banks now a days dont let you cash a check with out a thumb print…

By Foots

February 17, 2009 12:17 PM | Link to this

melo Just been working and studying. We’ve had 11 classes worth of material in only six weeks and TOO MANY changes at work. :-( I’m exhausted, but I see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Have you been behaving yourself?

By Blanca

February 17, 2009 12:17 PM | Link to this

Ariel If I may ask, how old are you? I ask because if you’ve waited this long, what makes you feel its the right time to have that experience with this person?

By FEE

February 17, 2009 12:19 PM | Link to this

Ariel what is it that you want? its only been 3 months. Do you know what kind of relationship you want to have, Friend, friend with benefits, commitment, what… Intimacy is nothing to take lightly unless you are planning on being with *MELO cuz you know thats all your getting anyway, FBS… You dont prepare for sex by a thought process, you evelaute the relationship and see where it is heading, and make your decision to have or not to have sexxx with this person.

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 12:20 PM | Link to this

Blanca, how was your Valentine’s Day with Roland?

Foots, welcome back! I was hoping to see you at the pole party. How was your Valentine’s Day?

By MELO

February 17, 2009 12:23 PM | Link to this

Been trying Foots.Temptations galore tho,but still holding out strong!!! Its my birth today so im thinking of taking a 1/2 day off and getting a massage. Anybody knows of a good lady with a soft touch and pleasnt personality? Not on buford hwy ofcourse…hehehe

By Dan

February 17, 2009 12:27 PM | Link to this

@Melo

Happy C-day there old school…

By Staceye

February 17, 2009 12:29 PM | Link to this

Dreams It was recommended by my Acting Studio for young children by the agents who speacialize in kid representation.

Melo LMAO..you are so stupid!

I understand the law of supply and demand… if you hold your supply your demand goes up… look at the gas station… the lied and said there was little gas, and the lines were 3 blocks long…. you give your supply away, you will eventually run out, you hold on to it, the lines get longer…. Fee Can I get an AMEN and a Hallelujah on that one? That is so true! LOL

Ariel You need to take it VERY slow. Your virginity is a one time deal and you can’t get it back. So do not waste your time on some puddy hungry bed hopper! Does he know you are a virgin? Are you in a committed relationship with this guy? I’m not talking the “we are dating”stage. I mean have you and he discussed what your status is? These duded here are quick to try to hold off on a relationship because there is a plethora of puddy here being thrown at them like baseballs to a Braves player! So if he is saying stuff like he deosn’t rush into relationships but is putting moves on your try to get the goods….DISMISS him! he is only after one thing! Save it for someone who actually cares to know more than your first name and that you were born female! Being that he lives far away is the biggest red flag…he is NOT going to keep the dipper in the zipper! Sorry…he is not. I would hate to know you regretted your first time. Be sure mami!

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 12:29 PM | Link to this

Happy Birthday melo. I know what’s on your birthday list today. LOL

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 12:31 PM | Link to this

Fee, liking your style.

Ariel, what are you feeling from him that makes you want to go further?

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 12:31 PM | Link to this

Hi, Foots nice reading you again. :-)

LOL @ I’m Swiss

Dreams Don’t worry, I ain’t dead yet….just call me “Snapper” ….lol Especially after reading this ———> Maybe I can catch some siddity “broads” with high libido. Lol I’m literally hollering, with my hands covering my mouth! LMAO. Ya’ll are silly today!

“Is it in yet”! LOL I know…I’m mean! LOL

And Staceye please stop bringing back old memories. As they say…. and the truth shall set you free LOL …now having flashblacks of poor Karim asking me: “Jamoca, what’s so funny?”* then my reply, while giggling: ”Maannn, that ish tickles” LMAO

girl, I can take a lot

Fee Well then that makes two of us…some hard, rough times, will make you strong, if it does not kill you first. And a little sense of humor added into the mix, doesn’t hurt either. :-D

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 12:36 PM | Link to this

Fee, liking your style.

Ariel, what are you feeling from him that makes you want to go further?

By Page1908

February 17, 2009 12:37 PM | Link to this

Thanks Cee. Yeah it was definitely a blast…hated to come back to cold weather again. Next..CIAA. *Mo let me know where you will be staying and partying.

Off topic: Does anyone know what happened to the Steve Harvey Morning Show? I’m gone 4 days to Phoenix and next thing I know, it’s gone! googly eyes

By kimmie

February 17, 2009 12:37 PM | Link to this

Melo - Remember the friend I wrote about a few weeks ago that came to visit Super Bowl weekend and hooked up with the guy she had just met online? Well, she’s at it again. Met a new dude she’s been talking 2 for 2 weeks. He lives about 150 miles away from her and came to meet for the 1st time, got a hotel room and all. She called me from her cell last nite about 9. I was not feeling well so I did not pick up the phone. Called her back about 10. Dude answers her phone! At 1st I thought I had the wrong number and was about to hang up. I looked and saw I did indeed have the right number. I asked him was my friend there. He said yes. I asked him to put her on the phone PLEASE!!! She must have been right next to him because she got right on. She sounded a little spaced out and I asked her was everything okay. She assured me yes. How do you let a person you don’t even know answer your phone? But you know what, she’s grown. I’m through trying to give advice to grown folks. Ariel, go talk to ya mama or some other older trusted female. I’m fresh out!

By MELO

February 17, 2009 12:40 PM | Link to this

thank u,thank u.My boss has just approved my 1/2 day.My mind is so fertile right now!Im in a conundrum!! Ared,i think u on the money with that!

By Foots

February 17, 2009 12:41 PM | Link to this

Amazon I was hoping to see you at the pole party. How was your Valentine’s Day?

The one at the hotel? I wanted to go to that party, I got caught up with trying to sell my elliptical. I went home to meet someone who never showed up. Boo! I heard that it was fun, though it started late.

My Valentine’s weekend was nice. We went simple. He paid cash for a nice TV for my early birthday present last week, so I didn’t expect us to do anything but be together, but he still bought me the most perfect roses for V-day. We chilled out and ordered pizza Friday because I had to be at class at 9 AM on Saturday. Saturday evening, I bought us some king crab legs and huge shrimp, he cooked that, poured a few glasses of wine, and we sat on the floor eating seafood and watching movies on the Blu-Ray player I gave him last week. We did a bunch of nothing, but it was just about the best Valentine’s Day I ever had.

How was yours?

melo Go Melo, it’s ya birfday!!

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 12:42 PM | Link to this

Page - The whole station moved to a stronger signal to reach more listeners. They are doing well. You can find them on 107.5 or 97 something.

I just cancelled my CIAA trip. With all the traveling I’m doing in February, I need to do some work! lol

By Blanca

February 17, 2009 12:42 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed Blanca, how was your Valentine’s Day with Roland? It was great - thanks! We had dinner at our favorite restaurant - champagne, filet and the works. A nice treat to splurge on every few months! How was yours?

By FEE

February 17, 2009 12:42 PM | Link to this

Staceye Im witcha on that one… the problem is… these men have so much puddy thrown at them outside of the field, that they dont have to buy the ticket to get in the game… Sure sexxx is good, fun, and can be mind blowing, but we as woman have to know and understand who the real “gatekeeper” is…

Men dont have to commit no more, they only have to agree to call you now and then. I will be the first to drink the tea Im serving cuz I was guilty of that once before…

But thank God my light bulb moment happened sooner than later.

Strength comes from knowing who you are. It takes men all but 5 seconds to move on, woman 5 years…. Women … Act like a woman, think like a man… Be like a C.O.D package, only allow yourself to be open up, when you been paid for first.

By MELO

February 17, 2009 12:43 PM | Link to this

Kimmie,ur friend is sme else.She may lose her lyfe real soon with that mess.

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 12:48 PM | Link to this

melo why are addressing that comment to me?

By Dan

February 17, 2009 12:50 PM | Link to this

@Kimmie

could she have a substance abuse problem?

I mean, I know of few chicks that knocked out after an hour…the slurred voice gives it away too

By MELO

February 17, 2009 12:51 PM | Link to this

Raqi to give auntie advice…

By MELO

February 17, 2009 12:51 PM | Link to this

Raqi to give auntie advice…

By Foots

February 17, 2009 12:51 PM | Link to this

Fee/Ariel You dont prepare for sex by a thought process, you evelaute the relationship and see where it is heading, and make your decision

I agree that the relationship should be evaluated, but you absolutely have to prepare for the mental ramifications of sex regardless of what the relationship is. Sex is something that requires MUCH thought and consideration, over and above the emotional consequences. She needs to cover all of her bases before making a decision like this for the first time, and that includes mental, emotional and spiritual. Read everything you can, know what to expect physically, know what your risks are, evaluate birth control methods, weigh pros and cons…all of that requires a clear thought process. And it’s best to do that well ahead of being put in an emotional situation.

Ariel Above all, make sure it’s something that YOU want. If it’s not, back away from it. You want to be able to own your decision and stand behind it, whether the guy turns out to be great or less than honorable.

Hey Jamoca!

By Dan

February 17, 2009 12:52 PM | Link to this

@Fee

Please tell me that at 38, you were joking with that 12:42 post….

By Page1908

February 17, 2009 12:54 PM | Link to this

ARed LOL, ok they moved stations?! Ok, now I’ll have to re-program my presets again lol. I just figured out how to change the time to reflect east coast time a couple of months ago. I was still going off of west coast time for the first 10 months of me living here lol. Oh yeah, make sure you catch the new tp movie opening this weekend. oh yeah and a new episode of BH tonight. I remember them taping that episode, so it’s gonna be interesting to see what get’s edited out lol.

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 12:55 PM | Link to this

Page the weather was beautiful. Im sure it was nice with th activities and all…party girl.

Kimmie am I too read your Valentine rendevous another day?

Hi Foots…

I wonder if Dushawn gon pop in here with some’n downright Luda.

Happy Another Year Melo!!!

By Fee

February 17, 2009 12:59 PM | Link to this

FOOTS I should have been more clear when stating that its not a thought process… meaning, you shouldnt just think about if your ready for sex, but look at all whole picture as you stated, your words were perfect…..

@Dan what part seemed funny to you? Its not funny, when you give your goods away, only to have the man walk away once gotten… So at 38 Im wiser….

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 1:00 PM | Link to this

Fee now I know why you’re still single. I think your church has failed you based on your 1242. Quit going, stop tithing and save your sunday school clothing fund. You ain’t right.

Melo HAPPY BIRTHDAY my friend. May this be your best year yet.

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 1:02 PM | Link to this

Foots, yes. The one at the hotel. Ro came out and tore it down. She was also named part owner of the company. It was nice!

My weekend was nice. I got fed all three days, so I was happy. LOL

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 1:03 PM | Link to this

melo the only advise I can give there is “go ask your mother”, because those questions make her sound extremely young and immature. Not negatively immature just young. No one can really give advice on when it’s the right time and the right mind set. Only the person themselves know. 110% of the human population was probably not mentally prepared when they thought about it and probably 98% not prepared when they actually went thru with it.

Going there is a huge step and cannot be undone. As we all know.

But my personal opinion and advice since you asked is if/since she is on here asking she is obviously not old enough to be making that decision. Or just making conversation.

By lurker

February 17, 2009 1:04 PM | Link to this

Fee Fee Babygirl, please don’t take to heart the comments of Truth and Melo You’ll be blogging all day tryna bring them brothers to the light. Also, don’t waste your salvation on this mug. As someone mentioned, some are jaded. Throwing around light back and forth conversation should be duly noted as the limited on here. Nothing deep as it pertains to right, salvation or God. Some black souls posting.

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 1:05 PM | Link to this

yourself to be open up, when you been paid for first.

Dun, dun, dunnnn…Uh-oh… See, I was just about to offer you a vest with that right there ^^^… now chile hurry up and put this thing on.

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 1:05 PM | Link to this

yourself to be open up, when you been paid for first.

Dun, dun, dunnnn…Uh-oh… See, I was just about to offer you a vest with that right there ^^^… now chile hurry up and put this thing on.

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 1:06 PM | Link to this

Page, I will make sure to check out BH tonight. I’ll have to catch TP as soon as I’m back in town.

V103 had one of TP’s head honchos on today. Roger something? Anyway, he said that people are always asking when the studio will open up for tours. I’m still waiting on my private one! lol

By Foots

February 17, 2009 1:10 PM | Link to this

Gotcha Fee. I remember when I was in her position a long time ago, I was with my boyfriend for a year. I really had a Pro/Con list and I was all up in some medical books, LOL! I knew I loved him, I had to make sure to cover the things I didn’t know. Young ladies (and men) have a lot to consider before making that decision.

Hey Cee!! I need to catch up on what I’ve missed these past few weeks, I bet it’s been silly in here…

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 1:10 PM | Link to this

Ariel All that I can say to you is to trust your instincts, we’re blessed with them for a reason…but if you’re doubting those, you’re in trouble baby.

By MELO

February 17, 2009 1:11 PM | Link to this

Thanks Truth,Cee,Dan,evrybody.Im out!!

By FEE

February 17, 2009 1:11 PM | Link to this

Truth Im single by choice. and you dont know why I am single, because you dont fully know me. To base your conclusion off of 12:42 is wrong and You ain’t right.

I am strong in my beliefs, and choose not to settle for antyhing less, just as you wouldnt either… and if that mean I stay single until the man of understanding comes along… Glasses up to my single life, cuz Im not hurting in no way, shape or form…. and you havent heard me in here telling whoah is me stories, and giving advice on how to move on and let go either have you?

My church hasnt failed me because I dont seek church, I seek God. I will continue to go to church, pay my tithes, because its not harming me. and if I did, I may end of thinking like you.. LOL

By kimmie

February 17, 2009 1:12 PM | Link to this

Dan - That’s a thought, but this is kinda indicative of her behavior the 13 years I’ve known her. At 35, you would just think she would know better!

Melo - I am afraid for her, all I can do is pray at this point.

Sister Cee - We had kind of a low-key V-day, but wonderful. He sent flowers earlier in the week. We went to Backlot Buckhead on Friday nite to eat, drink and see the movie Taken, which was very good. I got some miniture roses on V-day morning, along with card from the kids. Chilled and went to Crickets on Sunday for wings. I gave him 2 bottles of a new wine he likes, some of his favorite chocolate and a card. All very nice and sweet!

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 1:18 PM | Link to this

Desperate Lurker you should be the last one calling folks jaded. As if your soul is intact. Your shyt is all beat up on the inside. As if you see some fuggin light. Aint that a laugh.

Ariel bump dude. Sell that thing on ebay and retire. Love is a hoax but that money can last a lifetime. Let me know if you need an agent. My fees are reasonable.

By lurker

February 17, 2009 1:18 PM | Link to this

Dreams Materialized Blog romance? Go back a bit in the blog archives.

Fee Your 1:11 That right there is what I was referring to in my 1:04…don’t waste it girlie.

By Fee

February 17, 2009 1:18 PM | Link to this

@Lurker Advice noted, and point taken!! appreciate the heads up…

Chile, I aint thinking bout Truth…His mouth abundance just shows me his contents… Melo and I have an understanding, He remains rude at times, and I dowse him with annointing oil to calm him down…LOL

I dont take blogging to serious, Its all in F & G… You may learn a little, but what happens on the blog stays on the blog and I never take it home….

By i'm swiss

February 17, 2009 1:28 PM | Link to this

Happy B-day, melo. I’m assuming you’re headed out to Strokers now. Enjoy!

By Foots

February 17, 2009 1:29 PM | Link to this

Amazon Yeah, that’s really good for her. I know she wanted to own her own studio one day. I wonder why T wasn’t selected though?

I can’t wait until I can get back into classes. They seem to just refuse to have a level 6 class on Tuesdays or Thursdays. Every day they choose, I have something going on. (sigh…) I’d hate to lose Skill Set #3 in the midst this rough economy. LOL!

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 1:31 PM | Link to this

Foots I’m luvin that seafood on the chill-chill of the night. Gurl we roll alike. I love a crablegg and a good movie chica! Yes maam…

Catch up on what? Melo is still the same. You doing the best thang going…continuing your edumacate!!!

Kimmie So u saw Taken? Its good. K. Auww…miniature roses. cute. I know Ginseng was gone bring it, even if he do it “low key”. The kiddies got u covered too. Sweet …

I was asked to help cater a V-day brunch with a friend. but I decline…

Kym I enjoyed reading ur day with fam & friends too!

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 1:37 PM | Link to this

kimmie, your girl loves risky business…goodness.

For the record. I haven’t worked this hard in a good year!

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 1:39 PM | Link to this

Foots, I wondered why about T too. But maybe she doesn’t want to be in that deep. Or maybe she didn’t want to put up any capital. I’m sure there was some kind of buy-in clause.

A friend and I might start doing level 4 and go up again. LOL. I haven’t been practicing at all.

By Dan

February 17, 2009 1:42 PM | Link to this

So Fee (said, dripping with irony)

If you exchange your “service” for a price what, in this world, does that make you?

And for Melo’s birthday: how much is it?

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 1:42 PM | Link to this

kimmie, your girl loves risky business…goodness.

For the record. I haven’t worked this hard in a good year!

By Fee

February 17, 2009 1:42 PM | Link to this

Well *FOOTS, AMAZON, LURKER, CEMEELI, TRUTH, JAMOCA Im out, thanks for the Fiery Dialogue, Im exhausted from this battle… Have a Super day.

By Dan

February 17, 2009 1:44 PM | Link to this

@Fee

Plus, at 38, I’d think you’d be wise enough to know that he conditionally didn’t take anything from you.

You gave “it” to him.

It was just as much your choice as it was his goal

By Foots

February 17, 2009 1:46 PM | Link to this

Amazon I was kinda thinking about starting over again in Level 4 too. I don’t know what I’m going to do, I joined a gym and I’m getting a treadmill so I can get my fitness level back. I’m getting winded doing everyday things now. I’m hitting the gym tonight then it’s studying…two things I’d rather not do.

By Poppa Grande

February 17, 2009 1:53 PM | Link to this

Truth

I agree that they should let Phelps go. There is no way to prove that he had anything illegal.

He only apologized for “an error in judgement”, he didn’t admit what said “error” was. There was nothing illegal seen in that picture.

As for Bonds & Clemens, they are going after them for LYING under oath, which is the same thing that President Clinton’s impeachment attempt. It is common knowledge that lying under oath is perjury and perjury is a punishable offense.

they are not after them totally for the drugs themselves Clemens and Bonds testified before a Federal Grand Jury. When you lie to them, it is a crime.

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 1:58 PM | Link to this

PoppaG I don’t think they are fair in the Bonds indictment. Why aren’t all the other users being scrutinized as he?

Yea what they did, it was wrong, i agree.

Nah, i couldn’t be into Judge

By Dan

February 17, 2009 2:01 PM | Link to this

@PG

I thought Clemens is being tried for lying to Congress. They only put him on the Bonds track after that.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 2:06 PM | Link to this

Poppa bush lied to the country yet he isnt being tried. It’s all a hoax. Let those guys go. The same guys that are prosecuting them lie on a regular. This is sad.

By i'm swiss

February 17, 2009 2:14 PM | Link to this

@Dan — Clemens is being tried for lying to Congress. He was under oath during that testimony, which makes it perjury, just as if it were in a court case. Also, if I’m not mistaken, that was the first time Clemens had ever stated under oath that he never took steroids, so this would be the first opportunity to charge him with anything.

While I think the whole thing is quite hypocritical (especially the MLB big-whigs claiming ignorance of the rampant drug use), I find it hard to feel much sympathy for Clemens or Bonds, as they both come across as being two of the bigger a$$-holes ever to grace the earth.

As for Phelps, the only reason that sheriff even tried to make it a case is because of Phelps’ celebrity — Johnny Law wanted his name on the evening news. Of course, I think drug use should be decriminalized in the first place, so making a case of a dude sucking a bong in a photo would never sit well with me.

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 2:18 PM | Link to this

While playin’ Diablo’s advocate…

Dan Would it be fair to say that everything has a price…to include marriage? Especially being that folks getting divorced these days, just as much as one changes his ”drawhz”.

While the latter is seen more upstanding as well as legal in the eyes of society…But it somehow it seems like it’s not only some women who place high value on it, it’s some men as well… now taking it back, to include some fathers.

You know, both movies Taken and Slumdog had that in common…a woman’s virginity can be bought (this may even include holding out for x,y,z length of time)…whether via marriage or the ”highest bidder”. This is something that I find interesting. But who’s the original “gatekeeper” the buyer or the seller? Hmmm…

…now laughing at one of my Uncle Gene’s potnahs, Mr. Anderson who has been known for his *’ol sayings ———> ….”everything has it’s price, young gal…you can phuck fo’ it, lie fo’ it, die fo’ it, or cry fo’ it…but there’s always gon’ be a price to be paid, whetha you pay it up front or on the back end…you gon’ pay.”

By kimmie

February 17, 2009 2:18 PM | Link to this

I find it hard to feel much sympathy for Clemens or Bonds, as they both come across as being two of the bigger a$$-holes ever to grace the earth.

Swiss - Agreed, I have never been able to stand Bonds especially!

By Dan

February 17, 2009 2:21 PM | Link to this

That Phelps case was crap to being with.

That’s the point of a bong…to leave no evidence (save residue).

By Poppa Grande

February 17, 2009 2:23 PM | Link to this

Truth

There are discussions to charge both he and Cheney. Not only for lying, but the fact that the surveillance of American citizens (ie patriot act) without a warrant violates the 4th amendment of the U.S. Constitution.

I doubt that they get charged, but it hasn’t been ruled out yet.

I am totally for prosecuting Clemens AND Bonds. There has to be a consequence for their actions.

Pete Rose lied and is banned for the MLB Hall of Fame. Clemens & Bonds should get that, and punishment for lying under Oath.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 2:25 PM | Link to this

I’m Swiss the MLB honchos new about and supported that type of thing. We all loved when those 2 steroid loaded cats had that home run stretch. Now we call them crooks for entertaining us. Its no different than our “celebrities” geting implants and surgery to look the way we want them to look.

This is just another case of distractionary politics. The countries falling apart and we want to hang the guy that shot drugs into his own azz. SMH

By Dan

February 17, 2009 2:28 PM | Link to this

@Jamo

Everything does have a price, and that’s my point.

When you start setting value in a depressed market you can’t set a price point for something “sight unseen”.

Back in the day it was a seller’s market (because virginity was valued). These days most men would be shocked to find a virgin over the age of 18. And…wouldn’t want her no way.

So as sex is now a buyer’s market (when exchanging money) you kinda have to go with a median price, further driving the value down.

Whereas last dude mighta paid the rent, the next dude is starting with the value menu and only going as high as a gas bill. And the cat after that…

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 2:30 PM | Link to this

Well Token since you explainin’.

Explain-it to me whycome Chris Brown didn’t just date Jordin Sparks? :)

If he was, he would still be somewhere making fly dance moves, RIGHT NOW!

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 2:32 PM | Link to this

Smoking weed is not the same as a performance enhancing drug. Weed will not give Phelps any competitive advantage. In fact, I’m sure all his opponents would vote to allow him to hit the bong before a race.

Weed is a bogus illegal drug anyway. Nail him when he moves on to something stronger. lol

By Dine

February 17, 2009 2:36 PM | Link to this

It would seem logical to date a co-workers since you spend so much time together and likley have similar personalities since you work in the same field, but you have to be very mature and as far as I’m concerned like James Bond keeping it very quiet and no one at work should know unless you decide to “put a ring on it” and make it life long.

By i'm swiss

February 17, 2009 2:36 PM | Link to this

Truth — I totally agree. Of course MLB knew exactly what was going on. You could take 1 look at Mark McGuire’s backne & know he was ‘roided up.

And I’ll be the first to admit, it was pretty d@mn entertaining to watch all those monster HRs. Plus, the ‘roids race spawned what has to be one of the top 5 sports commercials of all time: the Greg Maddux & Tom Glavine “Chicks dig the long ball” ads. Loved those!

By HELP

February 17, 2009 2:38 PM | Link to this

I have a scenario and I need some serious advise. I have a friend that was in an affair. The affair was long lived and more of an emotional thing. There was physical but very little. Well there’s a couple of us girls that have been made privy and giving advice but from different angles. I can’t say per se exactly what transpired that caused a major blowout but somebody contacted the wife, didn’t tell but wanted to plant a seed of doubt. Now she’s nervous and a little apprehensive that she’s overstepped her boundaries. She states that he’s VERY non-confrontational but to any man, would that send you over the edge to the point of physical harm or wanting to physically harm? If he’s not confrontational and the wife didn’t pick up on it or he smooth it over, I say no, no need to be nervous. However, a couple of other friends are saying she should be nervous since we don’t really know any person’s breaking point.

She should take out a restraining order.

Just looking for advice directly related, not crass comments.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 2:44 PM | Link to this

Help let me get this right. You’re girl is screwing around and based on that she should take out a restraining order on her husband. Wow. I’m speechless.

Swiss remember the forearms on Mark? That was friggin unreal. Now we know why. LOL

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 2:47 PM | Link to this

…It would seem logical to date a co-workers since you spend so much time together and likley have similar personalities since you work in the same field Not necessarily true. Take the legal field. I work w/lawyers all the time and there are some really nice ones, but the a-holes outnumber the good ones!

By DB

February 17, 2009 2:48 PM | Link to this

There’s a difference between dating a co-worker and working with your S.O. Two completely different things - at least, they should be. Dating someone is just getting to know them. Having someone become the S.O.— either as partner, long-term boy/girlfriend, fiance’ or spouse — is much different. But dating these days seems to be more of a commitment than it used to be. Believe me, it used to be a lot easier!

I tended not to date co-workers, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, as long as it’s not someone who has control over your corporate destiny (i.e., don’t bang the boss). And, my husband and I have owned our own company for 20 years, now, and have worked together quite closely — it’s certainly not a question of getting tired of each other, because we both bring different skill sets to the business, and we DON’T try to tell the other person how to do THEIR job. I know a lot of people say that they could never work with their spouse, which I find very strange — I mean, I married the guy because I love and respect him — why wouldn’t I want to work with him, too? Of course, we had to learn to compartmentalize our lives a bit, to make sure that work didn’t spill over into family life too much, and vice versa, and we’re careful about carrying our own weight within our responsibilities, but other than that, frankly, there’s no one I’d rather work with.

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 2:50 PM | Link to this

Truth, the girl is the mistress, not the wife. She’s afraid the husband is gonna think she called his wife and will catch a Chris Brown beat down as a result.

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 2:51 PM | Link to this

Help maybe it’s my hormones or my medication but you totally lost me in that post. First it sounds like the woman is having the affair, then it sounds like the man is having the affair. Which is it? And who told what to whom?

By sharon

February 17, 2009 2:51 PM | Link to this

You don’t get your honey where you make your money

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 2:53 PM | Link to this

…It would seem logical to date a co-workers since you spend so much time together and likley have similar personalities since you work in the same field Not necessarily true. Take the legal field. I work w/lawyers all the time and there are some really nice ones, but the a-holes outnumber the good ones!

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 2:53 PM | Link to this

Oh yeah, why they’re at it lets round up every professional bodybuilder and prosecute them too. Ask Arnold if he’s ever shot up. Then we could have the governor of Calif on trial too. Mary J blige and LL too. We like looking at folks that help us forget about who we are.

Ared Weed is a bogus illegal drug anyway. Nail him when he moves on to something stronger. lol Is that pot I smell on your breath?

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 2:53 PM | Link to this

WOW, What are you saying Help. I’m a little confused..need to re-read.

By NEW"B"

February 17, 2009 2:53 PM | Link to this

MY boyfriend and I work at the same school and have been working together for almost a year….and honestly, it has been GREAT!! It’s nice to have that support to run to the the middle of the day when you’re frustrated or to be walking down the hall and see him smile and knows the true meaning behind that smile! We hang out on the weekends and after work (sometimes) and we still enjoy one another’s company. Now, I must admitt I was a little leary at first…because the school is full of HATING, LONELY people…and I really didn’t want to have to lose my job, for having to CUT someone…LOL…but…like yall said, it really takes maturity from all ends to make it work. HOWEVER let me make it clear…we are only dating!! We aren’t married nor do we live together, which I think would make a HUGE difference. When we do get married we will NOT work together (not only because the school systems say we cant) but also because I think it will NOT work once we are married!!

By HELP

February 17, 2009 2:54 PM | Link to this

NOOOO, my girlfriend hooked up with some dude for years. For whatever reasons, they split. This weekend we were made privy to some blowout. She called the wife in planting a seed of doubt. She says she didn’t divulge anything but was at the height of her anger and snapped. Now she’s a bit apprensive that she may have overstepped her boundaries and wants to know if she should get a restraining order against him.

By jakesdad

February 17, 2009 2:54 PM | Link to this

we met/started dating @ work in ‘94 - been married since ‘96 though I don’t doubt the UNhappy endings far outnumber us. oddly enough (or maybe not) we had a hard time WORKING together once we WERE together (we performed similar functions) because neither of us were exactly known for sparing people’s feelings in getting things done and we certainly didn’t make exceptions for each other. fortunately she left the company shortly before our wedding (not because of “us”, just got a good opportunity w/50% raise - win/win!).

By nikki

February 17, 2009 2:57 PM | Link to this

Been tempted but never have dated a co worker. I’ve seen too many other people screw up due to the co worker thing. I’ve seen people quit their jobs after the relationship went belly up or even getting fired because there’s a no dating rule.

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 2:57 PM | Link to this

Goodness gracious. She stooped so low as to call the wife and plant a seed. How immature and tacky. She’s been having an affair with this woman’s husband and now she wants to play dirty. OMG, I’m speechless. Sorry, now I’m going the immature route because she deserves a serious beat down if the wife comes looking for her.

By Miss Believer

February 17, 2009 2:58 PM | Link to this

I now realize that you don’t get your MEAT where you make your BREAD!!! Very bad idea, just think if you break up with this person. You would still have to be cordial because of the work environment. I did it years ago and regret it right to this very day.

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 2:58 PM | Link to this

WOW, What are you saying Help. I’m a little confused..need to re-read.

By nikki

February 17, 2009 2:59 PM | Link to this

Been tempted but never have dated a co worker. I’ve seen too many other people screw up due to the co worker thing. I’ve seen people quit their jobs after the relationship went belly up or even getting fired because there’s a no dating rule.

By The Truth aka The Love Guru

February 17, 2009 3:00 PM | Link to this

Ared I’m like Raqi I got lost on that post. Either way he should slap the shyt out of the gf for her forgetting that she’s a knockoff. It’s a fuggin shame when we get into these things and forget our roles. Dam emotions.

Help he may wup your azz, especially if he just lost his, which is somewhat realistic noadays. I’d say you need to find a single guy to date or take what you got coming. It’s totally stupid though to take out a restraining order. Dam amateurs. SMH

By jakesdad

February 17, 2009 3:00 PM | Link to this

we met/started dating @ work in ‘94 - been married since ‘96 though I don’t doubt the UNhappy endings far outnumber us. oddly enough (or maybe not) we had a hard time WORKING together once we WERE together (we performed similar functions) because neither of us were exactly known for sparing people’s feelings in getting things done and we certainly didn’t make exceptions for each other. fortunately she left the company shortly before our wedding (not because of “us”, just got a good opportunity w/50% raise - win/win!).

By i'm swiss

February 17, 2009 3:01 PM | Link to this

“Explain-it to me whycome Chris Brown didn’t just date Jordin Sparks? :)”

Cee — I dunno… maybe Chris Brown doesn’t like that extra cushion for the pushin’? LOL

Truth — ‘roids + excessive masterbation = Big Mac’s forearms. LOL

By Go on with your badself

February 17, 2009 3:01 PM | Link to this

I’ve done this a few times at two different companies and found it easy to keep things separate. We didn’t work in the same departments so it wasn’t that hard to keep it separate.

Please note there is a difference between keeping your relationship with a coworker on the down low and keeping it a secret. The former is fine, the latter - not so much.

By AmazonRed

February 17, 2009 3:01 PM | Link to this

Is that pot I smell on your breath?

LOL Truth, no. But I wouldn’t have very many friends left if they started locking folks up for that!

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 3:02 PM | Link to this

Goodness gracious. She stooped so low as to call the wife and plant a seed. How immature and tacky. She’s been having an affair with this woman’s husband and now she wants to play dirty. OMG, I’m speechless. Sorry, now I’m going the immature route because she deserves a serious beat down if the wife comes looking for her.

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 3:03 PM | Link to this

So Help when the well ran dry then she wanted to cry. You know what my dad always told me “sorry should have been when you were doing the deed”. Whatever it may be she did it to herself.

And she “over stepped her boundaries” when she laid down with another woman’s husband.

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 17, 2009 3:07 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon

This blog is like double dutch when you are late…

Lets see what we have.

Weed should be legalized per ARED…Someone is joining a GYM… Restraining orders are being placed out and TRUTH is being his normal self..

Happy bday MELO YELLOW HEAD!!

By Elijah makes it Happen!

February 17, 2009 3:08 PM | Link to this

Happy B-day Melo, I guess you can schedule your quarterly love session with the Queen! LOL

Weed is very GOOD!

Is the truth the DEVIL in disguise?

Staceye brings the funk!

By For Real

February 17, 2009 3:09 PM | Link to this

yourself to be open up, when you been paid for first. - For Real now undressing and ever so slightly exposing his $2 gas card to Fee.

Ariel If you want to do it then do it just make sure he is strapped but I suggest that you don’t do it. Hey, I got some black cake, how about I come over and give it to you and we can talk more about sex. If you don’t like black cake, I can get my hands on an African American Dolphin for you.

Phelp should be charged the law is the law. Hell if I can get a ticket bc they got a picture of me running a traffic light, then they should lock his azz up.

Funny how the owners and the managers are escaping being questioned as to their knowledge of steroids. If Truth, Dan, Melo and 3Stacks are in my basement fummagating and the cops show up, you can best believe they will have a few questions for me as well. Fugg baseball they all are on something. The old school players to upper.

2E’s Are we still on for nekked blindfold rubics cube tonight? Signed, Your Platonic Friend

Jamo But who’s the original “gatekeeper” the buyer or the seller? - The buyer sets the market value so he is the gatekeeper. For Real now slowing exposing his $2 gas card to Jamo.

Cee Jordin Sparks is still growing by the time she’s 25yo she will be 6’11 298lbs posting up Shaq in the All-Star game.

By Poppa Grande

February 17, 2009 3:09 PM | Link to this

Truth

I am all for getting Arnie.

McGwire didn’t lie. He was smart enough to invoke the “fif” (as Dave Chappelle calls it) when asked. So, he did not lie. The Fifth Amendment protects us from self-incrimination.

Maybe the country is in a craphole because we let people get away with so much.

I guess I know now why all my teachers suggest that I go into prosecution following lawschool. The funny thing is that my grades tell me to be a defense attorney.

By kimmie

February 17, 2009 3:11 PM | Link to this

Melo - Almost forgot, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, my friend!

By Poppa Grande

February 17, 2009 3:15 PM | Link to this

AR

Weed is a bogus illegal drug anyway.

I’ve always made that argument.

Furthermore, the US Constitution is written on hemp paper.

By sasha

February 17, 2009 3:17 PM | Link to this

I dated at work, and went through a lot of changes. He was so handsome, and I was an attention gettor also. I was 12 years older, and we dated off and on for 20 years. He was 20, and I was 32. I was higher ranked than he was, so we kept it quiet, and still today, no one knows it ever happened. We dated through him getting married, and me getting divorced and re-married. The only thing that was not appealing was that when we were together, we talked about work, and the people at work. I liked to talk about a lot of things that he knew nothing about, and was not intrested in. I never called him for a date, he always called me. When we were at work, I totally ignored him except for the functions of the job. We worked different shifts and different departments, but they were interactive, and I saw him comming and going about 4 days a week. We finally just drifted apart, but we still have those wonderful memories.

By Poppa Grande

February 17, 2009 3:18 PM | Link to this

On Topic

Work place love is a No-No.

By For Real

February 17, 2009 3:20 PM | Link to this

Dude: Hey baby how are you?

Wife: Don’t how are you me mitty fitty!!!

Dude: WTF!!! What’s wrong…

Wife: YO TRICK CALLED!!!!!!!

Dude: HUH?

Wife: DON’T FUGGIN HUH ME!!! YOU HEARD ME!!!!

Dude: Come down you know I lost me hearing in Vietnam.

Wife: YOU 28 YEARS OLD MITTY FITTY!!!!

Dude: HUH???

Wife: GET THE FUGG OUT!!!

Dude: I’m sorry baby I can’t hear you. Imma go to Doc-n-Box and get my ear checked out.

Wife passes the fugg out due to her not believing somebody can be that dayum stupid.

By The Truth

February 17, 2009 3:24 PM | Link to this

Elijah Is the truth the DEVIL in disguise? I’m not wearing a disguise.

Help if you and your girls were real sista’s you’d slap that trick for violating pre established rules on cheating. Btw. your gf was getting run up in, thats just things women say when they dont want you to know they’ve been used.

Thats why one of my boys ALWAYS throws some money on the table. SMH

By For Real

February 17, 2009 3:25 PM | Link to this

Dude shows up at Help’s friend house with long stem roses….

Help’s Friend: Baby I’m sorry, please for give I was just hurt and wanted to get even.

Dude: Baby open the door I forgive. See I bought you some roses.

HF: Ahhh you did!!

Dude: Yes baby, roses, dark liquor, and my favorite blues record.

HF: Awwwww baby come on in!!!

Dudes walks thru the door like OJ with some small gloves on.

By Lonely man

February 17, 2009 3:25 PM | Link to this

I’ve done office dating several times, and it works to a certain degree. if you have someone or are someone thats insecure in yourself or relationship, it WILL NOT work, as with any other one..working together all day can be annoying at times, but also rewarding…those secret meetings in your office for lunch, the romps in the parking lot when no one is around, and things of that nature..does make it very difficult to cheat on your SO tho…so all in all, its not that bad, just depends on the couple..

By i'm swiss

February 17, 2009 3:25 PM | Link to this

sasha — Um, that’s not dating at work. That’s f@#king at work. And on behalf of all the blog dudes, we wholeheartedly approve. :-)

By HELP

February 17, 2009 3:26 PM | Link to this

We had the same feelings that no matter what, the wife should not be victimized. I don’t believe she told anything because she’s still standing. But I believe she should be nervous for that move. This all begin here at work, aside from her, there are two of us that know and witnessed it all happening. Again, we have scattered details of what brought things to a boiling point as all of this was supposedly severed. She’s been severly chastised by us for involving the wife but I don’t know. According to her, over the last couple of years since he’s been gone, he’s constantly reached out to her. Don’t know how true that is but when he worked here he was on her like fly to s@*t. Maybe they rekindled, maybe she wasn’t as honest with us and was holding back some.

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

okay,I’m back…

@Jamo *Everything does have a price, and that’s my point.

Alright then Dan, although I read the entire post, this ^^^ here shows we’re pretty much on the same page…just need clarity. The extra is still interesting tho’… good lookin’ out on the breakdown…you too For Real …with ya’silly self! (now in my best Korean accent) Two dolla??? Well, hurry up n’ buy!!! LOL

By PinkSherbert

February 17, 2009 3:29 PM | Link to this

Like my mom always told me after she found out I was seeing my boss….”Don’t sh*t where you eat.”Didn’t listen to her…..boss and I ended badly….now, I take her advice.

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 3:29 PM | Link to this

ForReal Run it.

Lol @ your invite to Ariel’s …

and why would Jordin still be growing? Isn’t she 18-19?

Now PoppaG Joe J was a slight embarrassment. Even shortboy was disgusted.

Btw- I got a lil star on my hands…At least a jr.star. His total scores have been in the doubles the last 4 games, and BLOCKING is off the chain!!! He made six Sat. morning. For real dude issa beast out there! I was so proud! 3 coaches came over to the stands to congratulate moms…the team’s coach we played against too! Great league.

By Dan

February 17, 2009 3:31 PM | Link to this

Playing the role of absent Melo..

Sahsa were you wrk? Maybe I could come by for aftnoon delite? U in?

By Elijah makes it Happen!

February 17, 2009 3:31 PM | Link to this

Wow! Sasha and Dude were addicted to each other for some reason!That is crazy!

Dan can you work on getting WEED legalized?

We all knew the baseball players were on the juice let it be and put in your rules to prevent it now!

We magnify everything in this country!

Is it me or is RELL always trying to get some blog booty! LOL

By Dan

February 17, 2009 3:35 PM | Link to this

@Elijah

Ask PG, he could file an Amicus brief on behalf of the 420 Group, petitioning for the decriminilization of weed.

By For Real

February 17, 2009 3:37 PM | Link to this

50 Strokes later….

Jamo: Wow For Real that was great!!! I especially like the way AAD went eek, eek ack, ack the faster you went.

For Real: Well I do what I can do when I can do what I do. Here’s your $2 gas Jamo you earned.

Later on at the QT on Panola Rd….

Jamo: Imma use that $2 gas card I got from For Real.

Store Clerk: Okay maam that will be $2 in gas.

Jamo: Here you go.

SC: I’m sorry maam but this card has expired.

By The Truth

February 17, 2009 3:37 PM | Link to this

Sasha hip hip, hooray. hip hip hooray. We love women that can take dyck and come up smiling. lol

Swiss lmao. I’d shake your hand if you didnt use it to wash your azz.

By I'm swiss

February 17, 2009 3:41 PM | Link to this

Truth — LOL Well played, sir.

By Blanca

February 17, 2009 3:41 PM | Link to this

Help Why would she get a restraining order against him if he’s done nothing thus far? Has he made any move that seems threatening? Not that I in any way want to defend people who engage in infidelity, but why put that permanent record/mark on someone who has done nothing to warrant the perceived fear?

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 3:43 PM | Link to this

“the last couple of years”?!?!?!

Why…never mind.

By The Truth

February 17, 2009 3:43 PM | Link to this

I’m Swiss Thank you. Thank you. LOL

By Blow Me a.k.a M.I.A ADDICT

February 17, 2009 3:45 PM | Link to this

Truth You are the guy that most hate to love…I have got to give it to you!

Swiss lmao. I’d shake your hand if you didnt use it to wash your azz.

lmao!! NOW that $hit was funny

By Poppa Grande

February 17, 2009 3:49 PM | Link to this

Cee

Now PoppaG Joe J was a slight embarrassment. Even shortboy was disgusted.

It was kinda sad.

Congrats to Lil Cee. My nephew is like that with football. His middle school coach has been waiting for the opportunity to get him. Now, my nephew is old enough to compete.

I keep pushing him to hit the books more, though.

As for the baseball players and Bud Selig

I have no sympathy for them. One of the major sticking points in 1994 was that they (players union) refused to subject themselves to random testing. It took Congress to force them to have a drug policy.

I was in the NFL and checked us for cloudy pee randomly.

In the real world, everyday folks have to submit to drug testing for jobs. I have a close friend who works for UPS and he had to submit a drug test to get his office position. He wasn’t even on a truck.

What made the MLB players so special? Selig and the rest of MLB knew. They were profiting from it and looked the other way. They are getting exactly what they deserve.

By Raqi

February 17, 2009 3:50 PM | Link to this

LOL Blanca I too am trying to figure out why it’s an issue now since she says it happened many moons ago. She made it seem like this is something that just happened like last week.

And if she just recently called the wife to reveal something that took place years ago and has ended, how dumb. To call someone dunmb is out of my character but in this case, “If you see a dumb chick slap her with a brick”. Brought to you by the makers of the Dumb Chick Rubber Bricks.

By Jessica

February 17, 2009 3:55 PM | Link to this

I dated someone from work and in my same department. Ugh…very awkward. Would NEVER do it again.

By Poppa Grande

February 17, 2009 3:57 PM | Link to this

Dan

Ask PG, he could file an Amicus brief on behalf of the 420 Group, petitioning for the decriminilization of weed.

It would be a waste of time and money.

Maryjane is one of the few things that I see as blatant racism. What is the difference between weed and tobacco? Who profits from it? Where is grows the best would benefit those of a different color scheme than those who benefit from tobacco.

Tobacco is not any safer. Last week, the AMA added dementia to the list of effects caused by second hand smokers. Nicotine is addictive for the smoker.

By Foots

February 17, 2009 3:58 PM | Link to this

Dan You wrong for that 3:31. LMAO!

Still LMAO @ For Real! Boy you stoopid!

By marthanne

February 17, 2009 3:59 PM | Link to this

no — but my husband did and now he’s married to her

By Married and In Love for Many Years!

February 17, 2009 4:02 PM | Link to this

I met my husband at work. While dating, we kept our relationship discrete until we knew we were headed for the next step. I must admit that I should’ve left the company shortly after we were married because I began to experience adversity within the workplace. Coworkers (women, of course!) began treating me differently. Very stressful.

By Dan

February 17, 2009 4:03 PM | Link to this

Work with me PG,

get enough potheads together, ask them to contribute to start the club and the petition, you file it knowing it will fail.

Billable hours my boy, billable hours, even for an Amicus brief.

Although weed smokers are notorious for not paying bills..

@Sasha again playing the role of Melo

You lke younger mn?…Hw young? and how you look?

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 4:04 PM | Link to this

Jamo: Imma use that $2 gas card I got from For Real.

Store Clerk: Okay maam that will be $2 in gas.

Jamo: Here you go.

SC: I’m sorry maam but this card has expired

….let us continue…Jamoca goes into the nearby pawn shop

Jam: Excuse me, sir. How much can I get for these two ballz?

Store Clerk: What a rare find! Tell me now, where and how in sam hell did you get a hold of those??!! Anything! Name your price!…these little babies are priceless!

Jam: now thinkining…Its amazing what a little novacaine and kitchen shears can do In that case, I think tomorrow I’ll bring you ”his head”. snickering…

Rent paid…check! Light bill paid…check! Car note/insurance paid…check!

LOL…

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 4:06 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Dan and For Real…a couple of nuts, literally!!! …just silly!

By Cemeeli

February 17, 2009 4:22 PM | Link to this

PoppaG Thanks. When we got home to what the Dunk Contest, dude changed itno his Howard jersey he got for Christmas and gave me a BIG red bag full of goodies he and my “live ins” got me for Loves Day. It was a great w/e.

and oh -

I think you need to “pour out a lil”. Lol…TAKE THE TEST ANNA MAE!

By For Real

February 17, 2009 4:22 PM | Link to this

Police knock at Jamo’s door

Jamo: WHO IN DA HELL KNOCKIN ON MY DOE LIKE THAT!!!

PETA: Open the door!!! We have evidence that you been fighting a dolphin.

Jamo throws her Mike Vick jersey in the trash.

By HELP

February 17, 2009 4:23 PM | Link to this

No, it started years back. He’s been gone from the company a couple of years and she claims nothing has been going on since but the blowout happened this weekend. We asked the same, that we thought they’d stopped comminicating. Well, its all coming out now. The call was placed through the wife’s phone to him, this week while he was out of town. He’s on his way back. Now, she’s nervous. It’s classic and obvious that something was still abrewing unbeknowst to us or why else the blow out. My advise was no to the restraining ordee because if nothing was revealed as she said and he played it off with the wife, then hopefully all is well. If not, then I’m nervous for her. Funny thing too, when I spoke with the other coworker that knows she was nervous just as well but said she didn’t say so because she didn’t want to scare her, the girlfriend.

By Marie

February 17, 2009 4:24 PM | Link to this

Did the coworker dating thing and it was a nightmare!!! When things didn’t work out it was hard seeing him at work daily and I found out that he told all the guys about our most intimate momemnts which made it even more uncomfortable for me!!! So DON’T Do IT!!!!! VERY Bad Idea!!!

By Trippin Out

February 17, 2009 4:26 PM | Link to this

Date, NO, Screw, Yes!

By Poppa Grande

February 17, 2009 4:30 PM | Link to this

Dan

Billable are good, but partners & firms are getting smarter than that.

Now, in some firms, advancement is tied to the percentage of your billable hours that get paid.

So, it isn’t enough to bill the mickey fickies. Now, you must hope the client actually pays the darn thing.

By phillip

February 17, 2009 4:32 PM | Link to this

It didn’t work for me. Especially when my wife found out about it.

By Lost

February 17, 2009 4:33 PM | Link to this

What if you knew the person and had feelings before they became a co-worker? Do you put those aside and just be co-workers? That’s the situation I am in, where somebody I knew and liked is now someone I work with. And it’s nice to work with people I know I can trust, but we both like each other a lot. But like most everybody else, we both need our jobs right now so unfortunately we have no choice but to let our friendship basically die because of the damn paycheck.

By rcbljc

February 17, 2009 4:35 PM | Link to this

Not only would I, but I did. Only once. It’s over 14 years later and we are still together.

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 4:35 PM | Link to this

I dated a coworker years ago and he proposed to me. Then had the nerve to call my mother up and ask her permission…..to this day I never listen to Denise Williams’ “Silly of Me.” The first bar and I’m flipping the station.

By Vivian

February 17, 2009 4:37 PM | Link to this

It was one of the biggest mistakes I ever made in my life. Trust me….don’t mix business with pleasure.

By Lost

February 17, 2009 4:38 PM | Link to this

What if you knew the person and had feelings before they became a co-worker? Do you put those aside and just be co-workers? That’s the situation I am in, where somebody I knew and liked is now someone I work with. And it’s nice to work with people I know I can trust, but we both like each other a lot. But like most everybody else, we both need our jobs right now so unfortunately we have no choice but to let our friendship basically die because of the damn paycheck.

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 4:40 PM | Link to this

You don’t have to let your friendship die, just the lusting after each other. Then again, perhaps that doesn’t need to die either. Dating at work is hard, but two mature, communicative adults can handle it if they really want to.

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 4:40 PM | Link to this

I dated a coworker years ago and he proposed to me. Then had the nerve to call my mother up and ask her permission…..to this day I never listen to Denise Williams’ “Silly of Me.” The first bar and I’m flipping the station.

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 4:44 PM | Link to this

Sorry, forgot to put he was already married when he proposed (lol). I was young and dumb and couldn’t see the dang signals. Not that I didn’t want to see them, I was too inexperienced w/milk behind my ears to recognize much back then.

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 4:45 PM | Link to this

I like it when I have dbl post company!

By vanessa

February 17, 2009 4:46 PM | Link to this

I dated a co-worker around 12 years ago. He was my nursing supervisior on some of the days that he worked. Needless to say that we both went our seperate ways in the job market. We kept dating and got married in 1999 as well as had a son. Was it difficult, at a time it was and it was easier once he left for a job in another state. Do I recommend it. It just depends on the amount of contact you have with each other during the course of the day.

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 4:49 PM | Link to this

Alright, alright For Real …you won, man… LOL Although the sale and distribution is big over in Japan…a bit contaminated, but it still sells. Being that yours is a AA, I wonder if that would depreciated its value? hahahaaa…

Leggs lol…I love that song, it reminds me of my mom and her sisters. They really thought they could blow! But I’m not following…you said dude proposed and asked your mother, but the first bar talks about how the man had her thinking that he was as into her, as much as she was into him. Was this the case?

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 4:50 PM | Link to this

Sorry, forgot to put he was already married when he proposed (lol). I was young and dumb and couldn’t see the dang signals. Not that I didn’t want to see them, I was too inexperienced w/milk behind my ears to recognize much back then.

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 4:52 PM | Link to this

Hey Jamoca…he called and asked my mother for my hand in marriage (no father around to ask). To this day, I don’t like the name “Michael” (LOL).

By mytwocents

February 17, 2009 4:56 PM | Link to this

Okay if y’all don’t get off the cracks… Sasha Y’all have absolutely nothing to discuss outside of work and you had a hubby plus hubby in waiting. How is it that you even conjured up the desire and spare time to exchange of bodily secretions? Are you bored or just a multitasker?

Swizzie Didn’t get to answer the other day. The guidance counselors/dept admins know the talent. I’ve gotten tutoring gigs that way.

By The Truth

February 17, 2009 4:57 PM | Link to this

Observation: Alot of chicks get knocked off at work. Hmmmmm

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 4:57 PM | Link to this

Hey Jamoca…he called and asked my mother for my hand in marriage (no father around to ask). To this day, I don’t like the name “Michael” (LOL).

By mytwocents

February 17, 2009 4:57 PM | Link to this

Okay if y’all don’t get off the cracks… Sasha Y’all have absolutely nothing to discuss outside of work and you had a hubby plus hubby in waiting. How is it that you even conjured up the desire and spare time to exchange of bodily secretions? Are you bored or just a multitasker?

Swizzie Didn’t get to answer the other day. The guidance counselors/dept admins know the talent. I’ve gotten tutoring gigs that way.

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 4:59 PM | Link to this

Truth, yep on their lunch hour!

By Jamie

February 17, 2009 5:01 PM | Link to this

I met my husband at work. While we worked in different departments at the same office, we did interact with each other quite a bit and we were able to make it work. When you enter into a workplace romance you both have to be adult about it and realize that if personal problems come up, they need to be left out of the office.

We weren’t sure how our coworkers would feel about our dating and kept our relationship secret for several months. Once we did decide to tell, everyone was fine with it, because they had seen that we hadn’t let it affect our work.

We have now been happily married for eight years, one child and another on the way.

By Jasmine

February 17, 2009 5:01 PM | Link to this

If you handle it in a professional manner, it can work even if you break up. Leave the romance at home and keep business at work. When you go to lunch, be discreet.

I found my soulmate at work and now we are a happy family with children.

By Jamoca

February 17, 2009 5:02 PM | Link to this

Ooops! I took for granted that some of your posts were dbl’d…skipped right over it! LOL!! I got it now, Leggs! …well, I guess that would put a damper in the relationship. Now when I hear that song, you know what I’ll be thinkin’ and why. Too funny! …the memory is still that fresh…flashbacks and all. Dude get cussed out if his name is Michael. heheheh…

By Leggs

February 17, 2009 5:04 PM | Link to this

Truth, yep on their lunch hour!