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DEL.ICIO.USYou don’t get it
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
It started out innocent enough. I’m at dinner, enjoying the company of a guy I’d been seeing. He started out being a gentleman, opening doors an such. Initially I thought he was being complimentary, telling me how nice I looked. Then he took it there: he commented on my chest size. It was an awkward, misplaced remark that took me by surprise. I have to be honest, it killed the mood for me.
When it comes to how women like to be engaged and courted, it’s not one size fit all. At the same time, I always wonder what men think about how women like to be pursued. How do they decide how they will seduce her? Do they have a different approach for different women? If so, how do they pick which one to use?
There was a fascinating article in NY Times Magazine about the paradox of woman’s desire. It delved into the complex ideas that surround women and what turns them on. I know, it’s more scientific proof that men and women are vastly different!
How different do you think men and women view lust and desire? How does this come in to play when we are dating?
Happy Wednesday!
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By Dan
January 28, 2009 8:24 AM | Link to this
@WD
I actually read that article, interesting stuff.
But could you elaborate on the “chest size” comment?
I mean, if they were (as so often is the case) prominently displayed, then what would you have him do?
By TexasBoy
January 28, 2009 8:51 AM | Link to this
Was it a good comment or a bad comment?
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 9:00 AM | Link to this
It’s interesting that however they were displayed would factor into the decision to verbalize about them. Even if they were covered in burlap, I think women expect that men will notice them… but the commentary is crass if you two aren’t on that level.
If a woman commented on the bulge in a dude’s pants (calm down - wallet) and started talking bout amount of money he has, that wouldn’t sit well, would it? No matter how cool she is he’d think her mind was in the wrong place.
Now lemme track down that article.
By Dan
January 28, 2009 9:09 AM | Link to this
The article:
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?em
But Mytwo,
The reason that I asked the question is a valid one, I think.
As men, be it home or office, we watch you ladies parade around really revealing clothing.
We’ve all been taught “look, but don’t touch” and that predominates our thinking on the matter. But some ladies make it purposely difficult.
It could be 50 degrees and you’ll see (at the grocery store) at least 5 women in some outfit that, to my mind, was worn for attention.
Even in the office, low cut tops, tight pant suits, jeans, whatever. And it ain’t always for fashion, neither.
So, if you’re in a social setting (out on a date) and the lady you’re with is wearing a low cut top you think “Yummy. For me?” and in all honesty, isn’t that the point? and I am legitimately asking you ladies
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 9:14 AM | Link to this
Morning.
It’s a lot men don’t get but that a tale for another day.
On topic, yes we differ much. For me, while dating I guess I could say, the seduction started the minute I opened the door upon his arrival. And it either elevated or diminished from there based upon his actions and/or conversation. Seduction is an art.
Being gawked at, groped and showered with tasteless “compliments” are not in the art of seduction for me. (there’s another side of that but…not now).
If you haven’t had the pleasure of seeing and/or touching said body parts in their rawest form, don’t be making tactless comments about them.
Tastefulness, class, flair…The Art.
By Brunson
January 28, 2009 9:25 AM | Link to this
WD would you be happier if he never commented on your figure? it’s like how do you win these days? unless he said something crass please explain what the problem is? i’m truly at a loss here.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 9:25 AM | Link to this
How different do you think men and women view lust and desire? There is no difference really.Ladies,sluts and whrres all entice guys,but they employ different approaches. The acres of cleavage thats in play and ur choice of wrds in communication will determine whats coming outa of ma mouth as a guy and how I categorize u.U dress like a whhorre and speak like a slut,i treat u as one.Dress like a lady,talk like one,i give u lady treatment.Thats easy. Good morning!!
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 9:31 AM | Link to this
lol…right up my alley
Now diva was it the comment that killed the mood or the way he said it….lol
But i do agree with you seduction is not one size fits all….some women you just have to study more…ask question..get them to talk
this is just a classic example of talking to dayum much
diva would you have mind if he touched him later that night to show you how much he liked them versus thinking about what the mushroom would look like poking thru them…lol
rell is a fan of breast sex…hmmmmmmm good
By Deeva4Life
January 28, 2009 9:32 AM | Link to this
Dan I truly believe it should go without saying that some comments are better left unspoken (isn’t that what we teach children…it’s called being tactful). Regardless what a woman chooses to wear that doesn’t justify vulgar or off-the-wall comments that can and do lead to killing the whole mood/vibe. Also, we all know men are visual creatures anyway…even if a woman was covered from head to toe there would still be some dude eyeing her down as if he can see her naked behind the clothing…LOL I guess it’s just the way men are wired. On the flip side, I do think women “enjoy” seeing a nice looking man but most (that I know anyway) would never say anything repugnant or out of the way to him. Just my .02
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 9:40 AM | Link to this
@raqi
Being gawked at, groped and showered with tasteless “compliments” are not in the art of seduction for me. (there’s another side of that but…not now).
UNTRUE…you may pride yourself on being prudish up front but pulllllllllllllllllease…every women i have ever courted i would say off color things too and they LOVED IT sometimes from day one…
straight from my favorite book
Everything de¬ pends on the target of your seduc¬ tion. Study your prey thoroughly, and choose only those who will prove susceptible to your charms. The right victims are those for whom you can fill a void, who see in you something exotic. They are often isolated or at least somewhat unhappy (perhaps because of re¬ cent adverse circumstances), or can easily be made so—for the completely contented person is almost impossible to seduce. The perfect victim has some natural quality that attracts you. The strong emotions this quality inspires will help make your seductive maneuvers seem more natural and dynamic. The perfect victim allows for the perfect chase.
and this stuff REALLY WORKS..it is very powerful stuff and i have been surprised at the results
By Dan
January 28, 2009 9:41 AM | Link to this
So the discussion has evolved into one about tact, interesting.
I agree that there are some things that need not be said in mixed company, in public, even in private conversation. The truly mischievous among us are capable of alluding to it.
If she has been seeing this guy for a while, maybe this was his “untactful” way of attempting to progress the relationship.
And yes, guys would be checking the ladies out in burlap sack, because likely some ladies would have found a way to convert the sack to “fit [her] form”.
But I’ve yet to have my question answered, Deeva, do you ladies wear provacative outfits with the intent of soliciting a response?
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 9:43 AM | Link to this
Top of the Morning :)
Women should have sh*t hanging out during a date no way! If she does, then she will be subjected to any type of comment that comes to her new found friends mind.. Dress appropriately ladies.. If you are TRULY a lady!
By ATL Guy
January 28, 2009 9:45 AM | Link to this
Maybe he just wanted to Test the Waters…
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 9:47 AM | Link to this
Okay Rell thanks for telling how my mind works. I knew I could depend on you to do that for me. LOL
(there’s another side of that but…not now) <—- This here means something but you don’t know what until I tell you. And I am talking about you and anyone else that reads it on this thingy. Let me tell the other side and stop speculating. (thump upside your head)
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 9:50 AM | Link to this
Brunson & Dan uh yea, I am NO prude, by any stretch of the imagination. However, this guy, I mean, he made a comment about what he estimated my areola size was ??? I mean the waiter had just walked away from the table, from taking our order, and before that, we had been talking about politics. it was so WEIRD, I suppose he thought that was the good time to say it. I disagreed. It was not.
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 9:52 AM | Link to this
H*ll to da NAW WD!!! He is a nast mfer!
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 9:53 AM | Link to this
@chelle
women can wear what they want..that man has anti-seductive behavior..he could have touch them in an “accidental” way…he could have touch her in a different area on her body to cause the nipples to swell…he could have hugged her…held her hand….stood close…stood behind her…he could have done alot of other things to get his interest across in that way..he could have talked about the top she was wearing…he could have said that top really looks good on your body..it gives you a nice slimming effect…what women does not want to hear that…he could have then followed…with i like the way it hangs just low enough as to not make me comment on your breast…anything other than lude comments…men have to upgrade there mouthpiece….dude had ZERO imagination..all he was thinking man i cant wait to stick my DNA on those pretty t** tays….lol
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 9:53 AM | Link to this
And Rell you did exactly what WiseDiva said most guys are guilty of. You have the “one size fits all” mentality. Just because you got your jollies with being crass with one woman on the first date does not mean if you met this (me) 12 years ago, you could it.
You guys don’t get it. Stop telling us what we like and what should accept coming out of you all mouth. You said yourself that the man should listen to the woman. You said it.
(It’s funny to me how I can have pleasant conversation with someone after they so rudely and harshly cussed me under a different name on a different day.)
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 9:53 AM | Link to this
Gracias, Dan. Yes, most of us like to look and feel attractive, especially in the presence of those we have an attraction for. And while I totally agree that many women wear risque outfits in all realms, sometimes inappropriately, I’m still Stuck. Thinking. Why can’t more of y’all process “D@mn she got some nice itties!/Now that’s what I call a phat azz! in your minds, but let “You really have a lovely figure/You have such an enticing shape” fall out of your mouths.
Okay, how much did these folks get paid to let a stranger put an apparatus on and in their genitalia? Focus, focus…reading on…
By Dan
January 28, 2009 9:58 AM | Link to this
@WD
That you felt the comment was inappropriate is, obviously, justified.
So, y’all go from politics and he blurts out a question about you areola size? Was there a follow - up? Was he going somewhere with it, or was it just a random comment?
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 10:00 AM | Link to this
mean the waiter had just walked away from the table
WiseDiva LOL. See, they don’t get it. It’s not even so much as to what they say sometimes, but the time and the place just makes it crass.
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 10:00 AM | Link to this
mytwocents I believe they got paid nathan :(
By MELO
January 28, 2009 10:02 AM | Link to this
Rell, im agreeing with ur 9.53 as long as u give WD the benefit of the doubt.The whole truth of how it went down prior to the comment and what she was wearing,which may have contributed to the comment is ???????.Dude proly thoght that there was gonna be a delivery that evening,based on what he was seeing and was trying to stimulate the passage-ways!!
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 10:04 AM | Link to this
Wise he may have said it because he was really enjoying your company. Let me explain. When we’re with someone that really excites us, even in a non sexual way, the way that excitement is sometimes revealed is through sexual means. Sure he could have said something about your eyes or dress but if you had really been enjoying each other I could see how that might have slipped out. It was a thought in his head and when he got amped it came out.
When I first got into real estate I met and dated a chick that was also into re. It was the worst reltationship I’ve ever been in but we could ALWAYS talk about business and making money and get so amped we’d be going at it like nymphos. If either of us had a big day or month it was on and popping. And it was like that from the first day I met her. The only difference was she could go there with me.
Maybe you should look at why that offended you. Apparently you have nice breasts. He simply stated the obvious. I’m sure your chest is a part of your sexual repertoire so why shouldn’t he notice. Have you ever told a guy he has a nice car? Or home? He got those things as a a part of his sexual repertoire. Without those he would be “less desirable” to a woman. Without your chest you’d be less desirable to a dude thats into that.
Either way, what has become of that situation? Was it the deal killer? If so it was the excuse but not the reason. Something esle was going on.
Btw, I had already read that article also.
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 10:04 AM | Link to this
@raqi…your right…i have been out of pocket with you in the past..and i am sure you would not forgot…i apologize!!
thanks for the thump!
from my POV raqi the one size fits all comes into play after she is attracted to me somewhat…and i only apply the size when it is needed…thats not what i lead with…but i get your point and diva’s
By Dan
January 28, 2009 10:07 AM | Link to this
@Mytwo
I had this very discussion when John Legend dropped the “Green Light” single.
A lady friend of mine commented that this was a novel approach to asking for…
My question to her was is it the novelty, the subtly, or guy?
I agree that euphemizing sexual talk is a wonderful weapon to have in the arsenal, but at a certain point it does get tiring. And sometimes a “damn you azz looks nice tonight” is appropriate
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 10:12 AM | Link to this
The right Person, Place and Time are all a part of the art. There are things that my husband can say to me now that would make Sue Johanson blush that would have gotten him dismissed 6-5 years ago. PPT makes a difference. And timing goes from what’s taking place at the time all the way to my mood at the time.
By Dan
January 28, 2009 10:12 AM | Link to this
@Raqi
One size ain’t supposed to fit all.
If that’s how I get down and you ain’t in to it “nice meeting you”.
Sometimes people are just incompatible, doesn’t mean that either are defective, just ain’t a match.
I simply refuse to change me for anyone.
That’s the beauty of the free market system - choice.
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 10:14 AM | Link to this
Raqi any dude that tries to tailor his program to you is lame. You want this guy morph to your liking and it doesn’t go down like that. It’s like that love language thing Darrell used to speak about. I’m not trying to learn some other language to get you. I speak me. If you dont like that thats on you.
Morphing is something chicks do, not dudes.
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 10:15 AM | Link to this
Was he going somewhere with it, or was it just a random comment?
Precious, please gimme an example of how your date’s aerolae could possibly relate to say, Blagojevich’s crazy behind ?&#%@! Pure Comedy.
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 10:16 AM | Link to this
Melo, say what? What do you mean, depends on what I was wearing? seriously? Well I dayum sure wasn’t topless! LOL
The Truth, I kind of put him on ice a little. I’m looking for some more substance, and I think he is trying to look to see if I am a prude.
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 10:17 AM | Link to this
damn you azz looks nice tonight
Dan yes it is. Read my last comment. (I hope it shows up, LOL)
PPT, remember it.
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 10:19 AM | Link to this
LMAO @ 2 cents!! An aereola comment is not normal UNLESS he was talking about breastfeeding..
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 10:21 AM | Link to this
wise ok after I posted I read the areola comment and thats a little different. I thought he said something like “you have a nice chest”. Ol boy was over there drooling and fantasing, which is slightly different than a comment of admiration. My bad. LMAO
By kimmie
January 28, 2009 10:22 AM | Link to this
Morning Blog Fam
Wise Diva - That was absolutely disgusting! What was your response to him.
It seems nobody on the blog really gets it, especially the men! Or they get it and just want to play dumb on here. You take a lady out on a dinner date. I don’t care what she’s wearing, unless you all are LIKE THAT and in an intimate relationship where you’re talking sexy to each other(and obviously Wise & this dude are not, hence her being offended) OR she’s a prostitute - you DON’T let anything like that fall out of your mouth! The key here is you all are out on a DATE! How crass would it be if she looked at the bulge in his pants and remarked “looks like you might be a 2-incher there,yeah?” I mean come on! Now yeah, folks that walk around with all their stuff out on the street are asking for it. But if you’re out on a date that has not progressed to THAT LEVEL of comfort, keep you comments to yourself, I don’t care what they are wearing! Dang, how have some of you all been raised?!!! Zero class!
By SexyCool - v2009 UnCut
January 28, 2009 10:23 AM | Link to this
wise…he was overwhelmed by the WMDs…totally forgot his train of thought…classic…
By Dan
January 28, 2009 10:23 AM | Link to this
@My Two
And example:
We’re speaking of the global AIDS dynamic, that turns into female gential mutilation, which in turn leads to the discussion of the female form and various errogneous zones, including you volunteering information about your areola.
And these turns of conversations are deliberate, subtle, but deliberate
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 10:24 AM | Link to this
Truth I will entertain your comment…sigh
So you are saying again that women are supposed to just accept any old crap that you men put out there. My desires don’t matter? What turns me on shouldn’t because you said it shouldn’t? HA. Just take it like you want to give it and shut the f* up? Double HA.
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 10:27 AM | Link to this
You take a lady out on a dinner date. I don’t care what she’s wearing, unless you all are LIKE THAT and in an intimate relationship where you’re talking sexy to each other
FOR THE SINGLE PLAYERS…this is why you dont do dinner or movie dates until after you have sex with the female…and see she thinks the same way!!!!…stop tricking your money off on cheddar biscuits with these females!!!!! and PF CHANGS…i had to get that one in there…lol
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 10:28 AM | Link to this
Good morning everyone!
Foots, my cat was miserable and scared. He just laid around mean mugging us all night. It took a while for the medication to wear off (be prepared for the green, flourescent eyes…ewww). Thank goodness they lick themselves to clean. However, you will have to do a little cleaning w/gauze ane peroxide yourself.
ARed, I was surprised when Melo didn’t mention me when he addressed the senior ladies (LOL).
Staceye, thanks for correcting me. I was hoping against hope!
WD he estimated my areola size was You see dumb, tasteless, unwarrented comments like that….never mind! Sheesh.
Trut *but if you had really been enjoying each other I could see how that might have slipped out. How does something like that slip out. To talk about the size of the areola out of the blue is tacky at best!
By MELO
January 28, 2009 10:31 AM | Link to this
What do you mean he commented on them coz they were in full view i guess,thats what i mean.They were packaged in such a way that he thoght he was comfortable enough to comment.He cld have said it differently or he cld have made u feel differently by acting in diff ways,like Rell suggests in 9.53.If u came topless WD, there wld be no need for dinner tho be4 u knw what.Dinner and some wine wld only be served to serenade each other,a lil later! If u want substance WD never give a man a chance to talk seductively trash.
By kimmie
January 28, 2009 10:31 AM | Link to this
Rell - Yeah, keep talking that lame stupid ish!
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 10:32 AM | Link to this
Right, Michelle, he was tryna get himself breastfed :) And I’m gonna take a guess and say that uhm wasn’t the way to go about it.
Exactly, Dan. How you say it, when you say it and who says it are al factors. The primary question is how appropriate is it for this guy to have said that to me at this time?
By Stormy
January 28, 2009 10:33 AM | Link to this
Rell
You are tooo funny!!!! I can see u reading, taking notes, then going out and trying out what you learned, taking stats and going back to your lab to analyze the results. LOL
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 10:33 AM | Link to this
Good morning everyone!
Foots, my cat was miserable and scared. He just laid around mean mugging us all night. It took a while for the medication to wear off (be prepared for the green, flourescent eyes…ewww). Thank goodness they lick themselves to clean. However, you will have to do a little cleaning w/gauze ane peroxide yourself.
ARed, I was surprised when Melo didn’t mention me when he addressed the senior ladies (LOL).
Staceye, thanks for correcting me. I was hoping against hope!
WD he estimated my areola size was You see dumb, tasteless, unwarrented comments like that….never mind! Sheesh.
Trut *but if you had really been enjoying each other I could see how that might have slipped out. How does something like that slip out. To talk about the size of the areola out of the blue is tacky at best!
By SexyCool - v2009 UnCut
January 28, 2009 10:35 AM | Link to this
i alluded to what strokes my desires yesterday - mental stimulation…if you can get in my head…you got me making puddles…
what does it take to get me mentally stoked?
intelligence…be able to put together words to form sentences that form thoughts…
communicative…be able to articulate those thoughts…
confidence…these days commonly called swagger…
security…and your ability to make me feel so…
and yes…i LOVE a nice hard body…but those are a nickel a piece and a dime a dozen…i can get one anywhere…so, me lusting after your body has little to do with your physical form and everything to do with your sexiness quotient…
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 10:36 AM | Link to this
Every time someone tells me they’re going to PF Changs I have to think of you two!!
Ok Truth, I now see where you took back your comment.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 10:36 AM | Link to this
kimmie, do u know Diva personally? Most of u are responding as if u know exactly how Diva acts in general etc.I dont think from what she presented,we know the whole truth.
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 10:37 AM | Link to this
Raqi what we’re in is the dating version of the wild wild west. There are no ladies that get the gentlewoman title anymore. Maybe you want to sell that to a cat you like but you also want reserve the right to get real loose when you want to. If I slept with a dude 5 years ago I’m still a punk. If you cut up 5 years a go your still what you are. My point is you all want us to guess what mode YOUR in but its more important what mode I’m in, to me of course. You always have the option of bailing.
Now I read the areola comment and thats a little deep because he had to be sitting over there salivating and couldnt control himself. Still though, he threw out his ace of spade and she had the big joker. But please lets not get into this all women are pure shyt because tomorrow someone will be running over to some cats house to get slayed and you all will be applauding. You cant have it both ways. If you do something you are what you do. Period.
By Red
January 28, 2009 10:40 AM | Link to this
I don’t expect a man to pay my bills or rather I didn’t when I dated but I expected him to pay for me, i.e. all dates, put gas in my car (and pump my gas while they were at it) buy me gifts, etc.
Dh used to joke that I never took my wallet with me ( I still don’t) when we went places, I was like what for? You’re the “man”. BUT I was never in a situation where I needed some bills paid. I don’t know if I would ask a man I was dating to do that If a man is a man he knows what his role is when he’s dating a woman as far as paying for the courtship, which is why I don’t get down for dutch dates and paying for dates. I never paid for dates when I dated but yeah the bill thing IMO is just extra. I don’t think a man should just outright have to give me money—like lay it on the table
I do think if you’re dating a guy and he is not paying for you during the courtship he’s probably not going to when you get married, which is why I don’t advocate paying for dates, splitting dates, you’ll be splitting forever.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 10:41 AM | Link to this
Every time someone tells me they’re going to PF Changs I have to think of you two!!
Ok Truth, I now see where you took back your comment.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 10:43 AM | Link to this
How crass would it be if she looked at the bulge in his pants and remarked “looks like you might be a 2-incher there,yeah?
she will be within her rights and it will be okay for me to think that we may need to elevate that discussion that way.U are on a date,no discussion is a no holds barred as long as the 2 of u allow it.Somebody has to lead with the discussion tho.If u feel what i said is not proper, u kill it there and then,no need to brood about it. Going on a date is not an asumption that we are virgins!
By i'm swiss
January 28, 2009 10:45 AM | Link to this
Ummm yeah…. an areola reference is a bit out-of-bounds.
Of course, now that it’s out there, WD, I’m sure I speak for all the guys on the blog when I say I’m dying to know…
Description, please? ;-) LOL
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 10:45 AM | Link to this
Truth Okay. Yet again it’s all about you. F*** what the woman wants. You are right. Forgive me. Dude I bet your dizzle done hit a many of dry places. KY says to tell you Thank You for your business.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 10:49 AM | Link to this
I was surprised when Melo didn’t mention me when he addressed the senior ladies (LOL) i knew u were gone and didnt think u wld check in.
But we taling cleavage and such today so i think u can slip ur response in there smwehere.U see hw Red has gone outa of topic there on 10.40.I never took my wallet with me She dont take her wallet coz she gets paid at the job..LOL
By MELO
January 28, 2009 10:49 AM | Link to this
I was surprised when Melo didn’t mention me when he addressed the senior ladies (LOL) i knew u were gone and didnt think u wld check in.
But we taling cleavage and such today so i think u can slip ur response in there smwehere.U see hw Red has gone outa of topic there on 10.40.I never took my wallet with me She dont take her wallet coz she gets paid fresh $$$$ at the job..LOL
By Tazzee
January 28, 2009 10:50 AM | Link to this
Morning Folks!
Diva I would have loved to see the look on your face when he said that. Well, you might be better than me at hiding your facial expressions but that comment would have definitely received ‘the look’.
Now let me go read this article…
By Dan
January 28, 2009 10:50 AM | Link to this
@Sexy
That’s a complicated derivative.
Most guys just don’t expend that kind of energy to “check all the boxes”. As the article noted, our desires are not that complicated, so we really have no clue when it comes to ladies which “formula” will work.
In the end, it’s about a womans’ attraction to a man that predominates all. He could be arrogant, completely inappropriate in all contexts and she’ll still find every justification for his behavior - if that attraction is there.
Knowing this fact, most dudes (and I think this is where you ladies get a little frustrated) don’t put forth the effort to exhibit the whole of his personality, charm, etc.
There are not enough hours in the day.
So, the choices boil down to boorish individuals that act like jerk, regardless of environment; or a attempt to be a gentleman at all times. What’s confusing to us is that ladies want to see both sides before making a decision. And the dudes that attempt to display that dichotomy are really only out for one thing.
@WD
Did the conversations you had with this guy prove him to be at least conversant? Was his intellect on display? Is that why the comment seemed to come from left field?
I still wanna know if the girls were prominently displayed..
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 10:52 AM | Link to this
Melo has JOKES LMAO
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 10:53 AM | Link to this
Rell - Yeah, keep talking that lame stupid ish!
chick what are you talking about. You just said comments are reserved for when you are LIKE THAT….i get it i am not the type of dude you like…i dont sell rainbows and butterflys…you have someone blowing smoke up your arse..who cares what i post….right
@stormy…how did you know…thats all i do all day is test things out…even here with these stuffy susies…lol….
KIMMIE I LOVE YOU MY BLACK QUEEN….OO MY BLACK QUEEN!!!!
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 10:56 AM | Link to this
I was dressed casual chic and there was no plunging neckline, no tight fitting clothes, EVEN IF I WAS dressed like a video vixen, do men think they can say this kind of stuff to women and be taken seriously? Just asking, because I am not mad at him for saying that if he simply wants to lay his game out flat like that. However, prior to this, the man was walking/talking like he was interested in something beyond a romp in the hay, which is why he got the date in the first place. I’m really just mad He got past my radar, LOL..maybe I took the fact that he went to church regularly for granted
By AmazonRed
January 28, 2009 10:57 AM | Link to this
he made a comment about what he estimated my areola size was ???
WD, that guy is a tool. Really, what kind of response did he expect.
Really fellas, think about what response you’re gonna get when you ask such questions.
By Binford2K
January 28, 2009 10:57 AM | Link to this
As I said yesterday in my Blog return - it’s about respect. If you are dating someone with long-term potential, you DO NOT talk like that.
Dude could have been creative and vague and come off a lot better. Or better yet just told Diva she was sexy in that dress and let it go.
While I’ll never claim to know what the heck goes on in a woman’s mind, I do know the best course involves “classy” talk. It seems that once you reach a certain level, you can say things in a more bare bones/crass way and your woman would be somewhat tolerant of that. But that’s down the road - not at the beginning.
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 10:59 AM | Link to this
@DAN…dude it not about them its about YOU player….i dont listen to women…if i am interested i will pursue and i usually get what i want…all women want to be seduced…period…even when they are attached….yea i am sure i will hear something on that…but again all women want to be seduced…lusted after and desired…its in there nature..so arm with that..just have fun dude…there is more i could say but i would be talking that silly ish again…lol
KIMMIE MY BLACK QUEEN I LOVE YOU…LOL….women i love em
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 11:01 AM | Link to this
I wonder what ya’ll were talking about BEFROE he said that BS.. Did he just go left field with the convo OR was it somewhere in the vacinity?? Curious..
By MELO
January 28, 2009 11:03 AM | Link to this
EVEN IF I WAS dressed like a video vixen, do men think they can say this kind of stuff to women and be taken seriously?
which video vixxen wants to be taken seriously??????
By Dan
January 28, 2009 11:03 AM | Link to this
@WD
Absolutely.
If the context of his attraction and assumption of yours, led him to believe that the comment was appropriate, absolutely his attempt was sincere and meant to be taken seriously.
As with anything, it likely was a case of miscommunication. The test of the man is whether, once realizing his offense, he apologized. If he did, and you think he’s worth it, chalk it up to that - lack of communications and an attraction context issue.
It happens quite frequently.
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 11:04 AM | Link to this
oh and I had no real response, I gave him the “no you didn’t” look then got really quiet and had a funky attitude, LOL..I know, that was real mature, right?
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 11:05 AM | Link to this
WiseDiva my brother asked my friend Lacy once, before they started their regular in-town romps, if she had nickels in her bra. Althoug it was wrong it was funny. She laughed, he laughed, we all laughed.
Inappropiate, yet funny can sometimes get a pass.
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 11:05 AM | Link to this
Raqi all the puddy I’ve hit has been dripping wet. Then again you don’t want to make this personal. There are chicks I could shyt on and they’d love me. Then there are chicks I could spend major loot on and they’d shyt on me. When a chick is really into you whatever you say is the right thing. If not the look of you is offensive. So, if at any point I say something that warps you its because you were really looking for that loophole anyway. For me to try to figure you out is a waste of my time. You haven’t figured yourself out.
Wise you got in ol boys mind and he busted. LOL What you doing over there to make cats lose their mind?
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 11:06 AM | Link to this
However, prior to this, the man was walking/talking like he was interested in something beyond a romp in the hay, which is why he got the date in the first place. I’m really just mad He got past my radar, LOL..maybe I took the fact that he went to church regularly for granted
explain please
-how does the fact he goes to church make him datable?
-how is the fact he was not coming out of his mouth day one like he was going to lay you down…make him datable
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 11:06 AM | Link to this
Good morning…dude was out of bounds,but must have just lost it and had one of those did I just say that out loud moments…we all have them, for example I told my grandma to shut up once…I was thinking it, and it slipped out.
I will say this just as society norm: it can be confusing as heck trying to cater to all the different types of women. While most women want tactful things said them, many say alot of tactless stuff. I saw the Kings of Comedy(Bernie, Hugley, Ced, Steve Harvey) and I saw the Queens of Comedy (Somore, Monique, Adele, and someone else). The women were way nastier. When I listen to the radio, many of the female rappers have taken the lead of Lil’ Kim and Foxy…and gone nasty.
I guess that may be why Truth has the stance that he does. I kinda agree with him. For me being a listener is something that I learned through psychology. Be yourself….it will come out evevntually anyway. Find the one that you are compatible with.
By Binford2K
January 28, 2009 11:07 AM | Link to this
As I said yesterday in my Blog return - it’s about respect. If you are dating someone with long-term potential, you DO NOT talk like that.
Dude could have been creative and vague and come off a lot better. Or better yet just told Diva she was sexy in that dress and let it go.
While I’ll never claim to know what the heck goes on in a woman’s mind, I do know the best course involves “classy” talk. It seems that once you reach a certain level, you can say things in a more bare bones/crass way and your woman would be somewhat tolerant of that. But that’s down the road - not at the beginning.
By Tazzee
January 28, 2009 11:08 AM | Link to this
umm, that article is too long but I did read the first page…
I think that guys do think our attire gives them license to comment in whatever way they see fit. In your example Diva - if you were dressed like a video vixen, I think the guy would expect to be taken seriously - because the attire (in his mind) would signify that some serious sexing was going to take place.
But yeah - that comment was so out of order.
I recently caught up with a friend from college that lives here and she was sharing the horror stories of some things guys have said to her on dates. I was shocked and amazed. I proclaimed that I, nor anyone I know, has experienced that. Now I can say I know someone that has experienced that type of idiocy on a date, LOL.
By AmazonRed
January 28, 2009 11:09 AM | Link to this
and PF CHANGS…i had to get that one in there…lol
sigh The guys have to still do dinner dates. They ain’t getting the cookie w/out actual dating.
By Binford2K
January 28, 2009 11:09 AM | Link to this
As I said yesterday in my Blog return - it’s about respect. If you are dating someone with long-term potential, you DO NOT talk like that.
Dude could have been creative and vague and come off a lot better. Or better yet just told Diva she was sexy in that dress and let it go.
While I’ll never claim to know what the heck goes on in a woman’s mind, I do know the best course involves “classy” talk. It seems that once you reach a certain level, you can say things in a more bare bones/crass way and your woman would be somewhat tolerant of that. But that’s down the road - not at the beginning.
By AmazonRed
January 28, 2009 11:11 AM | Link to this
Every time someone tells me they’re going to PF Changs I have to think of you two!
LOL It was good too, Leggs.
By SexyCool - v2009 UnCut
January 28, 2009 11:13 AM | Link to this
dan…i’m not looking for someone who can check all the boxes…MY chemistry doesn’t happen that way…
all i’m saying is that you have GOT to be in my head and you MUST appeal to certain of MY requirements before i start picturing your lips on my LIPPS…lol…
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 11:15 AM | Link to this
did I just say that out loud
Poppa speaking from where I stand, if it had been me and an inappropiate comment immediately followed by “did I just say that out loud” could have made me laugh. Doesn’t mean he would have gotten a second date but would have made me laugh therefore keeping the tone of the remainder of the date somewhat light.
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 11:18 AM | Link to this
WD, I still need to know WHAT THE H*LL was the convo before his crazy azz comment!!!
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 11:18 AM | Link to this
Dan PLEASE. STOP.
Deliberate? Yes. But subtle? Doubt it. If you can get her from AIDS to genital mutilation and it causes a state of arousal, she’s a twit. But if that’s the owner of the warm place you choose to rest your head…
Knowing this fact, most dudes (and I think this is where you ladies get a little frustrated) don’t put forth the effort to exhibit the whole of his personality, charm, etc. <-Absolutely. And I recall your (fallible) theory that the more handsome you are, the less charming you have to be, which brings us full circle.
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 11:19 AM | Link to this
Dan why apologize? Personally I would have never made that remark but he said it so claim it. Apologizing implies he didn’t mean what he said. When you make a remark that deep you mean it. Wise put those things out there and he broke. The inner animal came out. He should not call her until she calls him and if she never does its a wrap. for him to call her would be foolish. Then he’d be in a position of having to prove himself to her. Always let that chicks desire for you carry her your way. The only other way to get her to you is pay for the priveledge.
By DreamsMaterialize
January 28, 2009 11:23 AM | Link to this
Morning Dude was just testing the limits. Not everyone is good at guaging where the limits are…obviously ol’ boy wasn’t good at judging WD’s limits. Funny though. Women will react completely differently to the same approach by different guys. I’ve seen some women put up with stuff from a guy they liked, but completely dismiss another guy for doing the same stuff. Sad, but the more she likes you, the more bullsh_t she tends to accept.
By KWAME
January 28, 2009 11:24 AM | Link to this
WD…at least you got a free meal. Count your blessings.
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 11:24 AM | Link to this
For me to try to figure you out is a waste of my time. You haven’t figured yourself out.
MESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSAGE
@MYBLACKQUEEN ARED…of course you have to date..but there are other things to do then go grab a bite to eat…most men dont even like to go out to eat like that…so wings or the t-bone special at strokers is cool..we do it because we know that WOMEN like it….i tell my peoples when you first met a women and you want to take her out…go someone where you would go..show her your world…all that other stuff is for building a different world with her…like hey there this new spot i think you might like it you want to try it…i have never been i want to go with you..etc….thats what i mean ared….please look beyond trying to “make me look stoopid”…cause you know what it is “baldwin hills”
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 11:24 AM | Link to this
kimmie, you made a great point, too. If I make a crass comment about a guy, he will automatically think it’s about to go down that night. Now if I wanted this same guy to know that I think we have relationship potential, why would I go that route? If I just wanted to tap that and keep it moving, I’d ask him to just show up on my doorstep and make it happen. NO need to take him out, no need for the formalities. You already know what it is. I just felt bamboozled, LOL.
So, guys, there are no varying levels of seduction? You pursue/seduce women in the same way?
By WTF
January 28, 2009 11:28 AM | Link to this
The good thing about having a big butt versus big boobs is that you don’t have to see men stare…
By AmazonRed
January 28, 2009 11:28 AM | Link to this
we do it because we know that WOMEN like it….
Rell, good. So what is the problem?
And um, you do a good job making yourself look stupid all on your own. I’m not out to get you Mr. Paranoid.
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 11:30 AM | Link to this
Raqi
But some people get embarrassed. The response makes a big difference in those cases. We are all humans and perfectly imperfect.
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 11:33 AM | Link to this
Rell you crack me up. Do you all want us to romance yall or not? (From the other week) Or do we not have to start doing that until we are a couple? LOL
By Beautiful
January 28, 2009 11:33 AM | Link to this
it’s better when the compliments about my booty or chest are coming from my man. then you can throw a compliment back playfully. you’re more in a comfort zone. anything goes.
i meet a guy online while i was back in GA and he wanted me to send a pic of my backside. i ended it there. no class!
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 11:34 AM | Link to this
LMAO @ WTF
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 11:34 AM | Link to this
Wise any cat trying to seduce a woman is a fool. A woman seducers herself much better than I ever could. If she cares for me her own mind will process thngs in such a way that what I want is what she’s giving. For me to try to manipulate that in any way is foolish.
When I take you out its because I want to spend time with you. If you enjoy my company you’ll knock down any barriers to us getting together again. Thats the seduction. The product I’m selling is the product you’ve been looking for. Anything else is me paying for you to spend time with me. And we all know what thats about.
so no, no varying levels of seduction.
By Dan
January 28, 2009 11:37 AM | Link to this
@My2
That’s right. If you’re considered attractive by a female, there is even less impetus (as a male) to let the whole of you show. It’s done piece by piece, bit by bit, as my desire for more than the physical is formed.
And I didn’t say the deliberate change of topic would be designed to “get [anyone] wet”. If you reread the post it was the answer to your question about how the topic would come up. And thus, the steering of the conversation was my response.
@Truth
Realistically if dude was out more for more than a session, then his comment would be inappropriate.
I’m speaking only of the unknown context that served his outburst.
If he really was interested in just the puddy, then you’re right there would be no need to apologize.
By Stormy
January 28, 2009 11:38 AM | Link to this
WOW!!!!
I went to a short meeting and tooo much to read.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 11:39 AM | Link to this
1.The only other way to get her to you is pay for the priveledge true,Truth
2.Dude was just testing the limits yep Dreamz
3.Sad, but the more she likes you, the more bullsh_t she tends to accept. on target again Dreamz
4 i wld add that a woman cld be thinking about the exact same sexxy stuff as the guy,but she prefers to lead him.If dude hadnt been patient a lil,the night cld have moved in his imagined and desired direction.Who knows?? I still think he saw smething to peek his animal urge. Still waiting for nswer to michelle’s qstion tho.
Tazzee hw do ur friends(those 2) carry themeslves in general and as compared to ur modus oprandi?
By abc
January 28, 2009 11:40 AM | Link to this
That’s kind of funny! Dude’s idea of being smoove is “what’s happenin wif yo breasts, baybay!” Then he flashes a big ol smile, showin off that gold toof. Mm-hm.
By Maya
January 28, 2009 11:41 AM | Link to this
they just assume i’m gonna have something back there b/c i’m a black girl.
it doesn’t bother me anymore…but in all honesty, i’ve missed out on some good looking guys b/c they changed their minds about saying sumthing to me (b/c of my non-existant booty). It kinda sux..so that’s why i wear those long fitted shirts that cover my butt, so they can’t tell if i have sumthing or not. and mainly b/c i don’t want my butt to be the reason why they don’t come up and say something to me at parties. sad but true.
a booty can be the determining factor as far as whether they’ll approach someone.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 11:42 AM | Link to this
Sorry, WD this is a crazy statement—->EVEN IF I WAS dressed like a video vixen, do men think they can say this kind of stuff to women and be taken seriously? Are vixens taken seriously. Superhead is still trying to be taken seriously (LOL).
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 11:44 AM | Link to this
And um, you do a good job making yourself look stupid all on your own. I’m not out to get you Mr. Paranoid.
WOW….
By MELO
January 28, 2009 11:45 AM | Link to this
abc LOL!!
By AmazonRed
January 28, 2009 11:46 AM | Link to this
a booty can be the determining factor as far as whether they’ll approach someone.
LOL. What? Maybe if you’re a “Tip Drill” lol
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 11:47 AM | Link to this
Sorry, WD this is a crazy statement—->EVEN IF I WAS dressed like a video vixen, do men think they can say this kind of stuff to women and be taken seriously? Are vixens taken seriously. Superhead is still trying to be taken seriously (LOL).
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 11:48 AM | Link to this
@MAYA..i like lil booty chicks…lol
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 11:49 AM | Link to this
We continually tell some men folk, “this is what we want, this is what we need” while they continue to not be interested in what we have to say, but then can’t figure out why we aren’t feeling them.
By Tazzee
January 28, 2009 11:51 AM | Link to this
I think WiseDiva already said they were talking about politics, waiter came to get their drink order, then when waiter walks away he busts out with the idiocy. at least that’s what I read
melo The friend that shared the multiple experiences is someone I had not seen in almost 10 years. From what I know, she’s always been classy but I’ve never been on a date with her so I don’t know.
By Maya
January 28, 2009 11:53 AM | Link to this
Ared: is that not the truth? I feel if mine were bigger more black men would approach me. But to be completely honest the more money a man has the less likely he is to have a wife whose body is akin to Buffie or Lola Luv. At least that’s what I observe from my Oak Bluffs circle shrugs
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 11:54 AM | Link to this
Maya those lil bootys are called MIA (missing in action). I use to be like that (LOL). Which one would I rather have, big booty or big boobs…BOOBS! Clevage is sexier than big ole round butt (IMO).
Everyone knows the act of seduction. Some are better than others. Depending on the person, some crass remarks are quickly forgiven while others will get a quick slap. Whoever said they were looking for that loophole (probably Sir Truth?) was right.
By Dan
January 28, 2009 11:55 AM | Link to this
@Maya
If there are other attractive features, it’s not a serious issue. Some guys like different body areas.
Has anyone ever actually said: “I didn’t approach because of your lackofazz-itis”?
It’s doubtful that ever happened. So instead of worrying about your percieved faults, concentrate and accentuate your positive aspects (eyes, brestisis, etc.).
Some men can sense your uncomfort with that issue, and some will use that.
By Dan
January 28, 2009 11:57 AM | Link to this
@Raqi(11:49)
Telling us don’t make a difference if that isn’t what we want from the woman. Likewise, the converse is true.
It’s about context, expectation and desire on both parties part.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 11:58 AM | Link to this
Maya, girl keep your chin up. So what you don’t have a big booty. Where you think that’s a flaw, have another part of your personality (anatomy) shine through with class. Not all men are booty men. Some are leg men, thigh men, lower back men, feet men, boob men, lip men, the list goes on on and on. Don’t sign over not having a big ole butt. Bet you’re a great person. Don’t fret!
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 11:59 AM | Link to this
Maya those lil bootys are called MIA (missing in action). I use to be like that (LOL). Which one would I rather have, big booty or big boobs…BOOBS! Clevage is sexier than big ole round butt (IMO).
Everyone knows the act of seduction. Some are better than others. Depending on the person, some crass remarks are quickly forgiven while others will get a quick slap. Whoever said they were looking for that loophole (probably Sir Truth?) was right.
By AmazonRed
January 28, 2009 12:01 PM | Link to this
Ared: is that not the truth? I feel if mine were bigger more black men would approach me.
Maya, I understand what you are saying (I got azz, my sister however does not). But do you REALLY want the attention of a man who looks at you and ALL your fabulousness, and decides not to pursue you JUST because you don’t have junk in your trunk?
I want better for you!
And by the way…welcome.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:02 PM | Link to this
Meant don’t sigh over not having a big ole butt!
By Maya
January 28, 2009 12:02 PM | Link to this
@ Dan
yes, I have been told that my lack of a big booty is why I wasn’t approached. I went to HU and this was not rare. I tried to gain 10lbs but started to look fat imo, so I’ve learned to start accentuating my positives.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:03 PM | Link to this
Maya, girl keep your chin up. So what you don’t have a big booty. Where you think that’s a flaw, have another part of your personality (anatomy) shine through with class. Not all men are booty men. Some are leg men, thigh men, lower back men, feet men, boob men, lip men, the list goes on on and on. Don’t sign over not having a big ole butt. Bet you’re a great person. Don’t fret!
By MELO
January 28, 2009 12:04 PM | Link to this
Tazzee thanx.Im thinking that this story Diva shared is not really a true story about herself,but proly a story just to stimulate debate.Coz she amplified the story by saying guy is a church guy and had been a gentlemen all along.Im tempted to think he saw or heard smething and had to test.Its a risk guys take all the time when they smell it! Thats why i feel that females must never put a man in doubt coz they may read a female wrong.And im not saying tho,thats what Diva did.
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 12:04 PM | Link to this
But to be completely honest the more money a man has the less likely he is to have a wife whose body is akin to Buffie or Lola Luv. At least that’s what I observe from my Oak Bluffs circle shrugs
TRUE…TKN…says the same thing!!
maya what do you look like?
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 12:05 PM | Link to this
abc, no gold teeth on this guy. He was clean cut, just like I like em, borderline nerd even. He certainly looked and behaved like he had class when we first met, which is why I am so perplexed, still, perhaps, it is one of those “meeting his rep” kind of situations. That’s a part of dating, I suppose, weeding out the ones that are not compatible to you and what you desire
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 12:07 PM | Link to this
I got azz
huh…i thought you were a slim chick..meaning you only have but so much…lol….you booty lite as well
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:07 PM | Link to this
Meant don’t sigh over not having a big ole butt!
By Staceye AKA Black Mamba
January 28, 2009 12:08 PM | Link to this
Rell every women i have ever courted i would say off color things too and they LOVED IT sounds like you dated some skanks! LOL Raqi I agree..there is nothing that is more of a turn OFF than a man gawking at me or saying things that are sexually motivated to me. I see you as a nasty perv. I feel like a child and you are the dirty old man getting arouses…it’s a disgusting feeling. There is absolutely nothing sexy about getting told about my body (any parts) by a man that I have no romantic dealing with. If we are dating/sexing..so be it. But I random dude…a dude I just met, etc…HEEEEEELL NO! I don’t need you to tell me about my azz..I know it’s there! That is why I will walk away if I am dancing in a club and a guy walks up behind and starts grinding his dirty dizznick on my butt! EWWW..I am not there for you to get your free rocks off buddy! If you want to dance..then dance. Otherwise for the strip club and pay for your lap dance. She gets paid to pretend she likes your nasty azz! We as women know men sneak a peek when they meet a woman. But the difference in a man of substance and one that is douchebag is the one who think’s it and does not say it…sees it’s and keeps it discreet other than blurting out nasty words. Now I have been told I have a nice shape. Ok, that does not bother me….but getting vulgar about it is a No-No! Class..not crass jackazz!
Truth Raqi any dude that tries to tailor his program to you is lame. That’s BS..that is a guy who actually has a brain and knows taht every woman is not the same. A guy who doesn’t is a lazy phuck and is too lame to change is lameocity by actually putting in work to meet a female. Why not just wear a shirt that says: “I just want to phuck for free..I do not want to court or date! No meals, drama ro checking in will occur”! Then the skanks that like that will flock to you.
this is why you dont do dinner or movie dates until after you have sex with the female Well sure a dumb cheap trick will do that. But no woman of class will screw a man if he can court her a real man! So again…just say you want a skank and they will come. ATL is filled with desperate a* women who for a flat half of coke and smile will blow your mind and other things!
Wise He may be a breast milk freak! In taht case call up Slim…her sis is a new mom and is lactating. you should have said…that you could refer him to someone who could help him…and could burp him afterwards!
which video vixxen wants to be taken seriously?????? Some of them are trying to break into show biz to be taken seriously. It’s all about who you know and getting your face out there can help. That is not the ultimate goal for all of them.
The good thing about having a big butt versus big boobs is that you don’t have to see men stare… but you feel them staring and some of them are bodl enough to say “Dayyyyyummm” as you walk by. It’s no better.
By Maya
January 28, 2009 12:08 PM | Link to this
@Leggs and Red: thanks ladies! I didn’t want to sound like a loser/whiner, I guess I was just venting… :)
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 12:10 PM | Link to this
Men and women are definitely wired differently. A guy could disregard a woman he is with even if it’s not his intention and find himself up against an iceberg. Literally. And he will have no clue as to why she is feeling the way she is feeling and cannot feel him.
However women can disrespect some men and do it on purpose in front of others and then offer up the goods which translate into making nice and/or amends in his mind.
We are different. Disrespecting us stands a huge chance of leaving us not wanting to be with you. But coming wrong at a guy is soon made good by serving the goods. Sorta like despite the former she still loves me.
What’s the saying about sex for love and love for sex? I can’t think of how it goes now, but yeah it’s true.
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 12:10 PM | Link to this
Maya don’t think that the ones living in bliss are carrying dd’s or million dollar bank accounts. Chicks just like you can get what you want too, and usually do. Looking at the couples that make it long term (10 yrs plus) the participants aren’t normally drop dead gorgeous, they’re just gorgeous to their mates.
What you’re guilty of is bad advertising. There’s alof of cats out there that don’t care about big ol juicy, baby oil covered, slappable (sorry, I wandered) booties. Your job is to appeal to them. Don’t market to the guys that dont want your product, market to the ones that do.
By AmazonRed
January 28, 2009 12:10 PM | Link to this
huh…i thought you were a slim chick..meaning you only have but so much…lol….you booty lite as well
I am a slim chick, but I happen to also have a big azz. eyeroll
By Stormy
January 28, 2009 12:11 PM | Link to this
This is my take on this topic:
Guys ALWAYS check us out. Some are very obvious and some are more subtle. It really does’nt matter what you wear…..they still gon look.
Most are able to contain/withhold offensive comments. Those who can’t….are looked at as a pervert/crazy. And they will be on “the list.”
Women check out men too…but we are more subtle about it. Most guys can’t catch us doing it.
He was out of control by making that comment and should have been able to tell by your reaction consequences of his actions. LOL
By Dan
January 28, 2009 12:11 PM | Link to this
@Maya
So a guy has actually stated his initial interest and his eventual lack of pursuit due only to his disapproval of your posterior?
Really?
Or did someone else tell you that what he said?
Either way, you’re an adult now and like BHO reiterated “time to put away childish things”.
Don’t worry about it.
By kimmie
January 28, 2009 12:11 PM | Link to this
Amred - Thanks for your 11:28.
you have someone blowing smoke up your arse..
Sorry you can’t get anyone to blow smoke up yours, Rell They probably could not get to it cause they can’t get past the stick and the stench!LOL!!!
Usually I try to keep it classy on here, but yall caught me on the wrong day.
I still can’t get past that some of you all are making excuses for this tired dude WD went out with!
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 12:15 PM | Link to this
@Staceye
IT sounds like you dated some skanks!
I see you ladies understand what you want…you are way off base with your assumptions of me and my dating/chick choosing skills…waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay off
but hey i hear you love..you and the rest of the “straigthen” em out crew…lol
By NY2GA, Inc.
January 28, 2009 12:16 PM | Link to this
WD your date could’ve had a Freudian slip, but it just shows where his true interest was…in your blouse. With me, he would fall from dating potential to the uncouth/crass/leave his behind alone category. But again, this is Atlanta-the city of quantity over quality. He probably made a comment like that or worse times before and had never been checked by some of the women that are probably in his dating rotation.
Rell. Too much Iceberg Slim brotha. SMH.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:19 PM | Link to this
Right on point Sir Truth—->Your job is to appeal to them. Don’t market to the guys that dont want your product, market to the ones that do. That’s the bottom line!!!!
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 12:21 PM | Link to this
Staceye what else can I do to seduce you? Rent a porsche. All of a sudden become smarter than i really am? Buy a huge house on my 30k salary. Take a round the world trip to become more worldly? I am me. I’m not morphing into something you think you want me to be. If what i am seduces you then so be it. If not thats what I need to know.
And there aren’t levels of seduction. it’s not like one chick gets top shelf and another gets boones farm. I drink what I drink. You come over you drink what I drink or have a coke and a smile. Your pubic hairs must be growing back in because you’re highly agitated this morning. Go shave.
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 12:22 PM | Link to this
@kimmie
Sorry you can’t get anyone to blow smoke up yours, Rell
How do you know…bwoi some of you perfect azz sh.it…there are some lucky men out here to have found these perfect women
@NY2GA…too much iceberg slim…slim was a true to the game PIMP…i am not….is there some falsehood to which i speak…talk to me playa
@ared…ummm lady for the record…i was jut flucking with you…i dont know what you look like..so i am just talking sh.it….dayum you mofos are wond TIGHT…breath chick…whew!11
By MELO
January 28, 2009 12:24 PM | Link to this
Women check out men too…but we are more subtle about it. Most guys can’t catch us doing it
hey stormy,sxcool I almost fell to the floor last friday when sme female gwaked at me like that.I went to a local eatery next to my jon locale,lunch time and as i was proceeding to the door,2 ladies and a gent were seated by the window seats,looking outside.One of the females literally stared at me and i cld feel it.As i entered the door,she noded at me.Worse,she was married! But she was really intense,bold and aggressive. I took my seat behind her and their table.And as they were about to leave,she again!,looked back at me. What a man to do???
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:24 PM | Link to this
Right on point Sir Truth—->Your job is to appeal to them. Don’t market to the guys that dont want your product, market to the ones that do. That’s the bottom line!!!!
By AmazonRed
January 28, 2009 12:27 PM | Link to this
i was jut flucking with you…i dont know what you look like..so i am just talking sh.it….
Rell - Duh. Ain’t nobody trippin over here. Get over yourself.
By Maya
January 28, 2009 12:27 PM | Link to this
@Dan: yes, guys have stated that to me and ITA, with the potus about putting away childish things.
@Truth: marketing to ones that want the product…thats my plan!
By Dan
January 28, 2009 12:29 PM | Link to this
@Ladies
Isn’t there a bit of hyper-piety being displayed just a little bit?
As Truth alluded to earlier, most ladies have at some point gotten down and little crazy back in the day.
Back in the day may be further back for some, but the truth is the impulses never left and are still there.
What is not being said, to my mind, is that the right dude (the guy you deem worthy) can actually say whatever and get away with it. He could be dead serious and you’d play it off as a joke.
For us guys, we’ve seen that movie a thousand times. And maybe there has been some acculturation by some less than stellar females, but the wholesale dismissal and resentment for this individual (WD’s date) is taking it too far; that and the conflation of the one act of one man to an entire city full of men.
All that said, she doesn’t even know where it came from, so how could any of us?
@WD
Do me a huge favor, ask the dude where he got the impetus to say that truthfully and without contempt. Likely (if he is capable of coherent thought) he’ll express what his intentions were. But, at this point, colour me curious
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:32 PM | Link to this
Melo, are your sure your fly wasn’t open..J/K! Couldn’t resist. You know me.
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 12:32 PM | Link to this
Kimmie chill out baby. It’s not like chicks don’t say shyt like you’d be great father or husband after a date ot two. That is just as inappropriate as his comment. You’re letting aguy know whats on your mind just like he did. In your mind sexual comments are more offensive than other comments but some cats would rather not talk with you about things they have no interest in, like children or marriage. Relax, he did what he did and she did what she did. Btw, can I see your areola tonight?
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 12:34 PM | Link to this
Rent a porsche. All of a sudden become smarter than i really am? Buy a huge house on my 30k salary. Take a round the world trip to become more worldly?
Truth (commenting against my better judgement) That statement right there clearly shows that you don’t get it. Your thinking is too broad.
One simple way to seduce a woman, and many fall into this category, is to hold her hand sitting at the stop light. Yes, it can be that simple. Reach over, take her hand. Rub the inside of your hand against hers. Lock fingers with hers.
You need another, while helping with her coat from behind, tell her how good she smells. Let your lips slightly touch her ear.
See? The start of the seduction dance. She may not say anything at the time, but if she is feeling you she is feeling it. In all the right places.
Stop thinking so broad and thinking a woman needs you to change the world. We don’t.
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 12:35 PM | Link to this
Stormy
Women check out men too…but we are more subtle about it. Most guys can’t catch us doing it.
That is an over-generalization. Women gawk, too.
I remember my younger days that I liked to wear silk shirts. When you get sweaty, as you do here by just waking us in the summer time, the silk would stick to me. Females would stare at my chest and abs. Some even came up to me and asked could they touch it. (my chest).
It is an individual thing, not so much a gender thing.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:37 PM | Link to this
Melo, are your sure your fly wasn’t open..J/K! Couldn’t resist. You know me.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 12:37 PM | Link to this
are your sure your fly wasn’t open naw,but thats a good one!I know i was looking a lil on the fly side.Queen told me so later whan i got home.But the intense look was uncomfortable and i understand the female perspective on that issue.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:43 PM | Link to this
Raqi, no where was Truth serious in that post. He was cutting his eyes while posting that!
By laceitup
January 28, 2009 12:43 PM | Link to this
WD a comment like that was totally inappropriate, did you continue the date? btw it doesn’t matter whether he goes to church or not there are men with good character and men with bad character and your date displayed the latter. I’ve had some of the craziest things said to me about my anatomy on a first/second date and when he does that I rudely excuse myself from his presence.
Maya don’t let the fact that you don’t have any booty discourage you just like Truth’s12.10 post said market to the guys who will appreciate you for you.
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 12:44 PM | Link to this
Stormy
Women check out men too…but we are more subtle about it. Most guys can’t catch us doing it.
That is an over-generalization. Women gawk, too.
I remember my younger days that I liked to wear silk shirts. When you get sweaty, as you do here by just waking us in the summer time, the silk would stick to me. Females would stare at my chest and abs. Some even came up to me and asked could they touch it. (my chest).
It is an individual thing, not so much a gender thing.
By Stormy
January 28, 2009 12:45 PM | Link to this
What would be funny….if women talked to men like men talk to women
So women prolly actually do this. LOL
Lady: Daynum Shawty….yo dizzle is look’n hella fyre in them jeans. How big is it? Owhhhh..can I just look at it? Said while rubbing her breast.
Lady: Babey…I just likes what I see…and you is making me all juicy. I got to gets some of dat. Said while lickin’ her lips and grindin.’
What would be the reaction from the man’s POV? Would you be uncomfortable? Would you go with it?
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 12:48 PM | Link to this
Dan, yeah, R.I.F. Your train of thought was that somehow the question could be tied into the convo. Using your scenario he’d have to have been sympathizing about her losing X inches of skin if she’d grown up in a village which practices this, rather than the U.S. And what a pity that would be. As for the other, maybe it comes down gender p.o.v. Most of the women I know think the opposite. We’d say he’s a cutie who already finds me attractive. I’ll be myself and as he sees my other sparkling qualities, that’ll be the cherry on top. Anything less is like watching a game where the team you’re rooting for ain’t playin every minute of every quarter. See?
Rell What confuses me is for those of you who claim textbook knowledge of our thinking, wouldn’t it be someone who fell outside of those parameters who most intrigued you? Like did you get your wife by speaking/acting in the same manner that you’d gotten the ones who came before? If so then that supports timing as the most crucial factor. Yet lots of y’all accuse women of puttin in ordinary work and desiring an extraordinary result? (which marriage seems to be elevated to these days)
WTF Except the times when you’re standing in front of them and they lean around to admire it. Glass half full: At least he’s making eye contact. Glass half empty: It’s not with your eyes.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:48 PM | Link to this
WOW, Melo has had a moment where a woman was undressing him with her eyes and he was uncomfortable. Ok, remember that feeling Melo moving forward!!!
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:48 PM | Link to this
Raqi, no where was Truth serious in that post. He was cutting his eyes while posting that!
By MELO
January 28, 2009 12:49 PM | Link to this
Reach over, take her hand is she taking it the right way if she looks at ur hand like that as u touch hers.Is it preferable that she simply feels my hand without having to stare/look at what im doing for me to feel she appreciates it?? Or there is no right or wrong answer Raqi….
By Staceye AKA Black Mamba
January 28, 2009 12:51 PM | Link to this
maya I am on the flip side of that. I will wear a long shirt to hide my booty. But it really doesn’t help. I also try to sit or stand against a wall to keep a guy from seeing it. So girl the grass ain’t greener on this side!
Truth I shaved last night for your info! LOL No you do not have to rent a Porshe, etc..just be intelligent. be able to converse about many issues. I know lots of about other countries…haveI been to all of them. No,but I read and watch the Travel channel so I can plan trips to these places. But a guy with common sense and class will get my attention long before a rich man who thinks he doesn’t have to try simply because I am supposed to flock to him due to his status even though he is a pompus, egotistical wanker who wouldn’t know his azz from his head even if he were smacked on it!
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 12:51 PM | Link to this
Raqi if holding your hand will get me some puddy put out your hand. Go ahead. Listen, the dude may not of been feeling her. He may have been testing to see if he could sway the thing into sexual terms before it ended. Who knows? FYI, even though dudes look at every chick walking they rarely give much thought to them past “I’d love to bust a nut in that one”. Holding hands with a chick your just fugging is repulsive to alot of guys, because he doesn’t feel her like that. Sex and love are 2 totally different things with dudes and none want to be lovey dovey with a chick their just screwing.
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 12:52 PM | Link to this
Dan, yeah, R.I.F. Your train of thought was that somehow the question could be tied into the convo. Using your scenario he’d have to have been sympathizing about her losing X inches of skin if she’d grown up in a village which practices this, rather than the U.S. And what a pity that would be. As for the other, maybe it comes down gender p.o.v. Most of the women I know think the opposite. We’d say he’s a cutie who already finds me attractive. I’ll be myself and as he sees my other sparkling qualities, that’ll be the cherry on top. Anything less is like watching a game where the team you’re rooting for ain’t playin every minute of every quarter. See?
Rell What confuses me is for those of you who claim textbook knowledge of our thinking, wouldn’t it be someone who fell outside of those parameters who most intrigued you? Like did you get your wife by speaking/acting in the same manner that you’d gotten the ones who came before? If so then that supports timing as the most crucial factor. Yet lots of y’all accuse women of puttin in ordinary work and desiring an extraordinary result? (which marriage seems to be elevated to these days)
WTF Except the times when you’re standing in front of them and they lean around to admire it. Glass half full: At least he’s making eye contact. Glass half empty: It’s not with your eyes.
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 12:53 PM | Link to this
Leggs and you that how? Although I know he says a lot of stuff in an attempt to get others riled up, this is not the first, second or third time that he has alluded to the fact that he thinks women want him (or men) to walk on the moon to get with them. And we don’t. Well not the ones of us we are actually looking for a meaningful relationship.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 12:53 PM | Link to this
WOW, Melo has had a moment where a woman was undressing him with her eyes and he was uncomfortable. Ok, remember that feeling Melo moving forward!!!
By AmazonRed
January 28, 2009 12:54 PM | Link to this
if holding your hand will get me some puddy put out your hand.
I hate Truth. LMAO
PG, if a girl ever came up to you in that silk shirt and asked to lick your chest, that was probably me and I offer my apologies for any inconvenience I may have caused you. LMAO.
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January 28, 2009 12:58 PM | Link to this
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By Raqi
January 28, 2009 1:02 PM | Link to this
Proof I was just wasting my time…you still don’t get it. I’m done.
By lurker
January 28, 2009 1:04 PM | Link to this
Dude was just testing the limits. Not everyone is good at guaging where the limits are…obviously ol’ boy wasn’t good at judging Yep, that’s about right.
By the time we reach breaking bread together, I would expect a dude to know what he’s up against in dealing and/or getting to know me. Assessing whether or not he’s got a you’re a standup chick or the drop ‘em at the first look type. I say show him the door, he wants a pass to go slumming.
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 1:08 PM | Link to this
Stormy
I heard comments like….”man, you got big feet, too. hmpf” and smile.
Some women just tried to be creative. Now, in the club, I heard females say some really vulgar stuff. After they got that liquid courage in them.
AR
LOL…I happen to like silk shirts. I don’t wear them as much these days, but I still like them.
I wasn’t even talking about this stuff happening in a club. Once it happened in a Food Lion (I was in SC, that time). Many were what you’d deem Cougars too.
On the issue of attire: There was this female on MARTA this morning. She had on white pants, but you could see that she had on red panties underneath. She got an attitude when people were looking…even females were shaking their heads.
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 1:08 PM | Link to this
melo for me, when I am feeling him the reaction could really vary. I can right now recall to responding the following ways. I have been known to just give a slight but firm grasp of his hand all the while looking in the opposite direction of him. I have brought his hand up to my face and touched my cheek or kissed his hand. Heck if I was wearing the right skirt I have been known to help him get a nice grip of my inner thigh. LOL But yeah if I am feeling him he will know it.
Please note the response will be based on where we are in the relationship. Fairly new in the dating dance would have gotten a possible smile stating yeah I like you too or a subtle pull away of my hand. LOL
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 1:14 PM | Link to this
Raqi, I was talking about the part when he was posting about buying the Porsche, going around the world…not what ladies would feel honored to have him crap on them. I sensed he was being facetious posting the first part of his post.
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 1:15 PM | Link to this
white pants, but you could see that she had on red panties underneath. She got an attitude when people were looking…even females were shaking their heads
she does not have a boyfriend…one he would told her you dont wear white in the winter…two he would have told her to wear black instead of red….three he prolly would have bought her some black panties….lol
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 1:17 PM | Link to this
Raqi its not that i dont get it. I dont give a fugg. There’s a big difference. I do what i do. Sometimes thats fugged up and sometimes its cool. If you find it cool then we are in heaven. If not then at least I’m still in heaven. I don’t care that you may want to hold hands. I may have a whole different agenda. Thats what your not gettin. Sometimes doing the things you want me to do aren’t worth it for me to get what I want. It’s called not working out. Maybe in your mind all the guys desire you so much they’ll do whatever to make you happy, but in real life we really just don’t give a fugg.
Ared I love you too. LOL
Staceye you may need new razors cause you came in here like you spent the morning scratching that new growth. My bad if not. Look, my point is im only as smart as i am. If i cant shine to you naturally then what other options do ihave?
By MELO
January 28, 2009 1:17 PM | Link to this
you could see that she had on red panties underneath she was coming from wrk and came across workers going to the wrong shift lol
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 1:20 PM | Link to this
Leggs so was I.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 1:20 PM | Link to this
Raqi, I was talking about the part when he was posting about buying the Porsche, going around the world…not what ladies would feel honored to have him crap on them. I sensed he was being facetious posting the first part of his post.
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 1:24 PM | Link to this
@PG
I heard comments like….”man, you got big feet, too. hmpf” and smile.
STOP…these good two shoes having chicks not believing that…they have never done something so vile or disgusting…lol
@truth
Maybe in your mind all the guys desire you so much they’ll do whatever to make you happy, but in real life we really just don’t give a fugg.
I FEEL LIKE THIS ER MORNING WHEN I WAKE UP AND ROLL OVA…FLUCK YA’ LL SPLIT TAILS….
By kimmie
January 28, 2009 1:24 PM | Link to this
Truth - See you can ask me that question, cause we LIKE THAT with each other.
When you go out in public dressed like a skank, you get a skank response. You don’t expect it from a date with a so-called gentleman that you don’t know like that, however you’re dressed. Not cool, not classy, and everyone over 15 knows that.
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 1:27 PM | Link to this
Melo
I heard someone on the train make a similar remark.
I must be getting soft in my old age, because I just wrote it off as her needing to do laundry and being down to her last pair of drawls. I really just observed the reaction of the other riders on the train.
By Le Siren
January 28, 2009 1:31 PM | Link to this
RELL
she does not have a boyfriend…one he would told her you dont wear white in the winter…two he would have told her to wear black instead of red….three he prolly would have bought her some black panties….lol
Actually, the whole “no white after Labor Day” is an old-fashioned rule. It’s perfectly acceptable to wear white year-round now, just NOT with red panties!
By MELO
January 28, 2009 1:32 PM | Link to this
When you go out in public dressed like a skank, you get a skank response
u onbiously dont see the contradiction???? smh at yu Kimmie
*You don’t expect it from a date with a so-called gentleman that you don’t know like that, however you’re dressed
However u dressed?? simply becoz its a date that changes things,however she’s dressed I think u slipped there.Im as good a gentlemen to the extend that u let me.So i go out dressed as a gent, with a stripper dressed girl and we all talk politic and such??? RELL,Truth, get them! lol
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 1:37 PM | Link to this
laceitup, I did, continue the date. Not sure why in retrospect. I kept hoping he would recover from it, maybe. I wasn’t good company, I’m sure. oh well to that
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 1:40 PM | Link to this
PoppaG, that was funny you writing if off to her needing to do laundry. White pants and red underwear…she knew what she looked like. I have always been amazed at women who colored underwear show through their pants. Absolutely ridiculous. Don’t understand why there aren’t more dark brown panties in stores.
By Dan
January 28, 2009 1:41 PM | Link to this
@MyTwo
That’s not the Socratic method (personal to public).
Socrates would often debate with people and get them to agree with various general statements (the mutilation in Africa) and then via process of induction, he would allow them to state their preference for this generalities.
He’d then bring the conversation to the practical application of their ideologies (the function of the female form). Finally, the conversation would turn to the personal as he would have his debate partner attempting to reorient themselves to the logic he presented (the females discussion of her own areola’s).
So conducive to that line of thinking, the conversation flows subtly along a course, but with deliberate turns to specific topics.
By Staceye AKA Black Mamba
January 28, 2009 1:43 PM | Link to this
Stormy men who go nuts, bust nuts and act nuts for a woman liek that! LOL
Truth I got clippers for it! LOL I listen to you men on here when I asked about ingrowns and how do you guys avoid them and I took your advice to by clippers instead. Best advice I ever got on here! how to have a hairless chocha with no ingrowns…smh! LOL
I love red pany/bra sets…but mine only get worn under dark thick clothing just as my leopard & zebra prints.
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 1:43 PM | Link to this
@melo…i cant talk to karate kid pt 3…she is cartoon land with the rest of the “set em straight” crew…i just let them bump there gums on these matters…while i am doing me….period dot….ya know i read something on sandra rose that i just smh…women will go out there way to out a “no good” brother….thats attached…but you dont see men with websites like dontdateherdawg.com….i just find it odd…like do you know the type of witch he may lay down with at night…sista
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 1:45 PM | Link to this
PoppaG, that was funny you writing if off to her needing to do laundry. White pants and red underwear…she knew what she looked like. I have always been amazed at women who colored underwear show through their pants. Absolutely ridiculous. Don’t understand why there aren’t more dark brown panties in stores.
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 1:46 PM | Link to this
Rell
Some women do.
I’ve dated women that would say things that would make Lil Kim blush. They are dressed in nice business suits and all that, but talk like Adele Givens with that “Ain’t I a f-ing lady” type. Some were straight up about it from the beginning and some tried to be sly about it.
Raqi
Seduction is a case by case thing. Neither my wife nor me are big handholders. We know what works for each other, though. A game of Scrabble has led to romp with us. Handholding doesn’t do much for either of us. Battle of wits does…she is an attorney and I am studying to become one. So we have many a debate and some lead down that road.
But I definitely get what Truth is saying, too.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 1:47 PM | Link to this
I have always been amazed at women who colored underwear show through their pants why u amazed?? the strategy wrks to pay the bills.I wld respect that,not my style but hey,we all have our different ways of hustle.
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 2:01 PM | Link to this
WD
I kept hoping he would recover from it, maybe. I wasn’t good company, I’m sure.
Well, if you were pouting like someone took your ten-speed, it didn’t help the situation.
We are human. We are not perfect. Females are human and not perfect., either. AR—I know, it is the “duh” statement of the day Which means mistakes will happen. Responses to mistakes are just a critical as the mistakes themselves.
However, your response does play a role in how the evening continued. Dude definitely made a bonehead remark, but pouting about things not going the way that you wanted doesn’t help things either.
The way the evening plays out says alot about both parties.
Dan
No discussion of the Socratic method, please. I am not in class…j/p
fyi, law school classes are conducted in Socratic method style not lecture style.
By Kym aka Southern Girl (Gal)
January 28, 2009 2:04 PM | Link to this
Okay maybe we all need a reality check or something..NOT saying this was Wisey’s story at all
If you are a woman and you buy a bra-ill fitting and two sizes too small..put it on with a top that is low cut and three sizes to small so that your breast look like they are fighting for air. And then go off on a date with a guy and hope to discuss the more advance properties of nuclear physics and think this man is not going to look at your breast or take anything you say serious..then you are fooling yourself. I mean damn people how many times have your parents, grandparents, teachers etc. Said it is all about perception. You would not go to a church function or a funeral looking like you are on your way to work at Strokers (well hell maybe some of you would) but I digress. This is a no-brainer..dude said something out of pocket ok got it. But lets not go into this..respect my mind not the azz cheek I have hanging out.
By Dan
January 28, 2009 2:06 PM | Link to this
@PG
I know they are.
Before I got this job, I was looking to get into law school.
I love debating, it’s a passion/hobby of mine. I met this one girl on a first date and when she walked in I was “debating” with the bartenders about females playing football.
I’ve found that a good debate will as you said lead down that road.
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By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 2:09 PM | Link to this
Kym
a funeral looking like you are on your way to work at Strokers
I went to my wife’s aunt’s funeral a couple of weeks ago. My wife’s female cousin wore an outfit that put that song “I am in love with a stripper” in my head everytime that I saw her.
By AmazonRed
January 28, 2009 2:10 PM | Link to this
AR—I know, it is the “duh” statement of the day
PG, I’ll allow it, Counselor. LOL
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 2:16 PM | Link to this
Yeah Wise I hate to think if we went out and my hand “accidently” slid to your hiney and rested there for a minute or two the night would be lost. It’s just my way of saying I like you.
Staceye did you get Andis and if so how much were they if you dont mind. I have a set I’ve owned for 15 years and have been thinking about getting a new set with guards. They’re 49.00 on ebay but my old sets still humming along. Hard to let then go for a pair of guards.
Btw, did I tell you about my new business? Truth’s Personal Trims. I specialize in trimming those “private” places you ladies spend so much time on. Let me know if you need to set up an appointment.
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 2:18 PM | Link to this
Dan
OK…I just wanted to make it known why I responded to the Socratic method remark.
AR
You are much too kind..lol
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 2:23 PM | Link to this
LIGHTBULB COMES ON
It took some time, but get it now…The D starts in on one topic, meanders into another, brings it back with the Socratic method, the Hypocratic oath or whatever… She is then motivate to pop the areolas out and into ya mouth just so you can hush up. Yummy!
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 2:25 PM | Link to this
Melo, you may have a slight point there. However, a lot of young ladies do not know that they need to wear darker colored underwear when wearing white. My niece came to visit me a few years ago. I was on my way to take her downtown when she comes downstairs with white pants on and lavender underwear. I told her about black or dark brown and she never knew this. She was 19. Her lazy a$$ mother didn’t teach that child a thing! Yes, I have issues w/my sister (lol).
By Dan
January 28, 2009 2:28 PM | Link to this
@My2
Curiosity
Confusion
^^Two character traits of the female of the specie known to be the easiest route to sex.
But if a lady wanted to pop a brestisis in my mouth to keep me from talking…I would not object.
By Staceye AKA Black Mamba
January 28, 2009 2:29 PM | Link to this
Truth you dirty ole freak! LOL They are Andis and I paid about $40 for them.
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 2:29 PM | Link to this
* I COMPLETELY agree with Melo’s observation @ 1:32pm*
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 2:30 PM | Link to this
Melo, you may have a slight point there. However, a lot of young ladies do not know that they need to wear darker colored underwear when wearing white. My niece came to visit me a few years ago. I was on my way to take her downtown when she comes downstairs with white pants on and lavender underwear. I told her about black or dark brown and she never knew this. She was 19. Her lazy a$$ mother didn’t teach that child a thing! Yes, I have issues w/my sister (lol).
By MELO
January 28, 2009 2:32 PM | Link to this
Truth,the book arrived yesterday.I skimmed it a lil but will start on it this week-end.I smell conspiracy from the lil i scoped.Being a finance person myself,i hope it is scholarly too,despite the history part to it.Coz if u talk consipracies, i have had a lot of those from some of my island and afr/american black bros.And i dnt alwayz agree.Maybe white conspiracy stories will be more credible….lol
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 2:34 PM | Link to this
cracking up at mytwocents 2:23 comment.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 2:37 PM | Link to this
I was on my way to take him downtown then what happened,dnt tell me u change ur mind????!! Sexxy
i got u,o got u……….LOL
By M.
January 28, 2009 2:42 PM | Link to this
Wise
So since the guy is still on ice, are you going to keep him on a 2 week suspension or is he like stephan marbury and just done? Also, Im assuming after he made that mad comment that this date was definately on him?
By abc
January 28, 2009 2:44 PM | Link to this
Now, if I was out with a woman that was dressed like a skank, such that comments on semi-exposed body parts would seem to be in order, I’d figure I was definitely out with the wrong woman.
Truth, I haven’t wasted sexual energy on a woman I wasn’t feeling in other more meaningful ways since I was 23 years old. WTF with that. It makes you as big a hoe as the skanky dresser.
Women gawk at men all the time. They aren’t that much more subtle than men. The one who catches them at it more often is my girl, I tend to ignore things like that. If I catch them at it, I’ll give them a smile, but that’s about it. Likewise, she tends to not notice getting stared at by men, but I notice it. I expect other men to appreciate the same physical things about her that I appreciate.
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 2:45 PM | Link to this
Staceye I’m offended. I offer this service for you, not me. Where did you get them from and did they come with guards?
Melo its not conspiracy, its fact. It deals alot with the way money is created and why thats never to our benefit, as we see. It also goes heavily into how and why certain folks set up this current system and who it benefits. Read 4 pages and you’ll be hooked. Read carefully the section on fractional reserve banking. Interesting, I wish I could do that.
If anyone would like to check to see the status of their bank, mortgage company, or builder check out this site.
http://bankimplode.com/
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 2:49 PM | Link to this
@M I covered the tip and valet $$ and I guess I am on the fence. I have been told that I cut dudes off too quickly, and I think I am trying to be certain that I am not just looking for a frivolous reason to check out on him. He has called twice, but I have not followed up. He probably gave up
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 2:50 PM | Link to this
MyTwo even easier ones:
Respect
Admiration
Honestly, I believe some guys settle for exasperation as the gateway b/c they think it’s the quickest path if she’s horny anyway. And an easy out afterward, cuz she’ll probably not want to revisit relations with a jack@zz.
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 2:53 PM | Link to this
Man it’s raining out there.
By M.
January 28, 2009 2:56 PM | Link to this
@Wise
Well Im not sure. I think people in general are cutting their losses faster and not really giving situations a chance. We are definately losing that curiosity factor that makes people stick around, but sometimes as in this case, you know early. Will you follow up with him? If not, maybe the writing is on the wall. Check your gmail.
By Dan
January 28, 2009 2:57 PM | Link to this
@MyTwo
1) respect and admiration are values earned by one party from another over the course of dating, not in one date;
2) to keep it all the way real, if all I was out for was the booty, I don’t really care that she gave it to me to “shut me up”, let alone if she’s coming back for seconds.
Disclaimer: Dan is not, for the record, stating this as his current dating philosophy. I will admit to having that line of think at one time in life.
By Dan
January 28, 2009 2:57 PM | Link to this
@MyTwo
1) respect and admiration are values earned by one party from another over the course of dating, not in one date;
2) to keep it all the way real, if all I was out for was the booty, I don’t really care that she gave it to me to “shut me up”, let alone if she’s coming back for seconds.
Disclaimer: Dan is not, for the record, stating this as his current dating philosophy. I will admit to having that line of think at one time in life.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 2:57 PM | Link to this
The Truth when it comes to money,the best place to wrk is wall street.Its kinda a lil late for me i guess.Queen thinks its not.I wish i had gone there sooner say in 2000 when i graduated.It doesnt matter hoever u get money(its mostly stolen on wall street) if u are hardwrking ull get away with it there and retire in 5 or so yrs.Sme are already doing it.I wld urge u to re-consider ur Dubai/Kuwait decision and head over there with ur real estate experience.All it takes is a swagger and a pretension that u know what u talking about,hang with the right pple and play hard to get.Benny Maddoff shld have retired a long time,he got lulled too much by the mrkets and the rugg was pulled under him.In 5 yrs time,ull read about me!!
By ATL Guy
January 28, 2009 3:01 PM | Link to this
* Where is M’Kary!?!?!?!? Is she around!?!? *
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 3:02 PM | Link to this
He has called twice, but I have not followed up. He probably gave up
thats rude…only non-dimes act this way…and i just knew you were a dime
By MELO
January 28, 2009 3:02 PM | Link to this
He has called twice, but I have not followed up cut the guy some slack and give him a chance.When we are not looking,u are proly doing worse than passing out what u considered,then,a crass comment.He migt revive that mood u had that evening.Or, maybe its the mutli-tasking in u…!!??
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 3:05 PM | Link to this
* I say give him a chance since you paid the tip AND the valet* You are WAY BETTER than me!!
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 3:08 PM | Link to this
Melo seems like alot of these ponzi schemes are popping up all over the country now. Saw a company called agape just got plugged.
Are you referring to the real estate market over in Kuwait/Dubai? I’ve read a little on it but will have to get over there to figure it out. My market hear is dead. All I need is a 21 gun salute and a fly over and it’ll be a wrap.
With the world being a big community now why would you need to GO to Wall Street to learn more? You can get plugged in right here. Plus who’d want to live in NY anyway? LOL
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 3:10 PM | Link to this
Respect??? We were a IHOP last night with my friends and their two kids. While waiting for our table we were making small chit chat with the waitress or whatever she was. She asked how long each couple has been together. Mason stated he and I have been together 10 years (smh) and Doc stated she and her husband for 20 years. The waitress wow how did you all manage 10 and 20 years. Mase said “respect”. And Dr. Doc nodded his head in approval and “yeah. respect.”
In other news…
I was watching Friends the other day and Joey was trying to help Rachel ask out a love interest. She had never asked a guy out and she feared being turned down. Joey said the perfect way to assure a does not turn down a date invite is to invite him some where he could not refuse. In this particular case it was a basketball game. No brainer??? Not. Mase said that would be a bad move from his pov as a man because if he wasn’t feeling her in the beginning, he would not be accepting the date invite but he would be accepting a free ticket to the game. And not to mention she would not have his attention because it will be on the court and not her.
More news to follow…
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 3:15 PM | Link to this
nah, it’s not, rude really, I actually have been tied up with a project in the evenings the last few days. I am not a big phone person anyway. He knows he is in my penalty box though, based on his voice mail message
By Dan
January 28, 2009 3:15 PM | Link to this
@Raqi
There’s a movie coming out titled: “He’s just not that into you” that looks mighty promising
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 3:17 PM | Link to this
I’m letting it go after this.
Respect and admiration must be earned over the course of time. Agreed. An invitation into her sexual realm should automatically be granted. Disagreed.
It’s gone.
WD If you call him back, it may give him an opportunity to be apologetic and say now he knows better than to come at you that way. Then you’ll just have to get over the fact that for some reason he didn’t realize that in the first place.
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 3:22 PM | Link to this
actually yeah Melo, I think that is fair, you are calling out me out right there. Touche’
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 3:22 PM | Link to this
Raqi, laughing at you syh (shaking your head) at Mason’s 10 year answer. Weren’t you guys together for 5 and married for 3??
Melo, you changed my “her” to a “him” so you still didn’t get me (too funny)!
By MELO
January 28, 2009 3:24 PM | Link to this
I am not a big phone person anyway. He knows he is in my penalty box though, based on his voice mail message
If that man knew better, he is better off dropping it.Coz ur attitude stinks! Proceeding henceforth wld be strictly on ur terms(im sure thats hw u like it) What man wld do that surely.Well,actually, he might coz * he knows he is in your penalty box though, based on his voice mail message* He is a weak dude and deserves whatever u give him.A church dude??!,im not suprised. I capitulate!!!!
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this
Raqi, laughing at you syh (shaking your head) at Mason’s 10 year answer. Weren’t you guys together for 5 and married for 3??
Melo, you changed my “her” to a “him” so you still didn’t get me (too funny)!
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 3:28 PM | Link to this
* Damn Melo*
Give WD some credit since SHE DID pay for the tip AND valet LMMFAO!!!
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 3:29 PM | Link to this
wise let him go. If it was that offensive the first time it’ll worse when he does it again. And he will. We can’t expect him to change his mind, only his spots. Or lets do a group call and we’ll all listen and see how he swallows his pride.
Btw, the fact that fluffing your pillow this evening would prevent you from calling him shows your really not that into him.
By Dan
January 28, 2009 3:30 PM | Link to this
@My2
I appreciate the civility of your tone during this discourse although that one comment was a little….
I’m letting it go too, but I want to state that an invitation to a woman’s “sexual realm” need not be automatic, in fact it should be conditional.
I was only speaking on the method to get there the adult method, and the childish one.
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 3:31 PM | Link to this
Raqi
Believe or not, I’ve actually seen a few episodes of “Friends”. It didn’t hold my attention very long. It seemed like a white version of Living Single. Shows seem to have similar premises. Some friends living near each other (some getting married and some related).
& I agree with the “Respect” answer.
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 3:32 PM | Link to this
ehh, well..it’s not so much of a funky attitude as much as it is a serious contemplation on my part. Wondering if we actually should invest further time in each other. I can admit that I have been less than eager to find out, LOL
Off topic: Did you guys see this Coweta County, Ga says no more sex toy parties
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 3:39 PM | Link to this
georgia is a very funny prudish state..with some backward ways…so sex parties…but one of the main industries down here is the strip clubs and escort business….too funny
By For Real
January 28, 2009 3:40 PM | Link to this
What up Blog Fam! Lets see what’s poppin….
Wise got nice breastestes
Wise got nice breastestes
Wise got nice breastestes
Wise got nice breastestes
For the record For Real nickname is Andis and yes I have guards
Leggs has on a pair of lazy azz black panties. I wonder if that means her panties sag to the left?
Apparently 2pennies calls her breatestes lightbulbs which caused Dan to be confused and curious.
Dayumm abc dates skanks
Wise new name Lollipop w/.25
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 3:42 PM | Link to this
WD
The sale of sex toys are illegal in Georgia. That is why most have the “for novelty use only” disclaimer on them.
Here is an article where the law was upheld by the 11th Cir. Court of Appeals back in 2004.
http://www.law.com/jsp/article.jsp?id=1090180191546
I didn’t read the article that you posted, but I guess that is why Newnan (Coweta County) has taken that stance.
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 3:42 PM | Link to this
LOL @ Michelle! That’s right! I’m sayin though, that should count for something. That is my usual MO on dates though, I like to contribute at least that much, when I can/when they allow it
By MELO
January 28, 2009 3:43 PM | Link to this
Coweta,i bet u,has laws more tolerant to crystal meth,ecstacy etc than sexx.Its a redneckk thang and their way of discouraging u pple from habitating there.They deem u more sexx hyped.Georgia,yeah?!! U can say that again!
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 3:46 PM | Link to this
I knew I would have more news…thanks WiseDiva.
We were in Walgreens waiting at the checkout. There was some boxes of KY Yours+Mine at the counter. Mase picked a box and was reading it. John Boy walked up to join us and picked up a box also. Mason snatched it out of his hand and told him to go wait in the car. He had a look like “what? what did I?” as he walked out the door.
By i'm swiss
January 28, 2009 3:49 PM | Link to this
@WiseDIva — Can’t say I’m surprised. Sexually repressed, self-righteous kill-joys are a dime-a-dozen around here. Anybody want to give the over/under on the number of the supporters of the Coweta ordinance who have themselves been pounded in the arse by a giant d_ldo? LOL
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 3:50 PM | Link to this
The guy that killed his family and himself was aa. WTF is going on here? Nice looking family too.
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 3:52 PM | Link to this
Yes Leggs. 8 years come April.
Poppa Respect goes a long way.
Dan I saw that. I bet a lot of guys will get a kick out of that one. The first chick that will have men in groves lined up to see it, just to get a laugh.
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 3:52 PM | Link to this
Truth And homey said that it was ALL his wifes idea.. WTH??
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 3:53 PM | Link to this
Rell
You are correct. Georgia (& the so-called Bible-belt) is very prudish.
Until 2003, it was illegal for unmarried people to have sex. It was considered sodomy.
http://www.glapn.org/sodomylaws/usa/georgia/ganews034.htm
By Dan
January 28, 2009 3:54 PM | Link to this
@Truth
Apparently his wife lost her job first.
And during subsequent conversations she was reported to have suggested offing the kids if he lost his job.
When he did….pop goes the weasel.
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 3:56 PM | Link to this
hahahah! i’m swiss, I nearly choked on my water, LOL!!!! Oh geez.
Melo, I would love to have been in that meeting when they were discussing this, LOL
By Kym aka Southern Girl (Gal)
January 28, 2009 4:03 PM | Link to this
Poppa Adultery is also illegal in GA. But I would love to see the state put together a court of adultery to enforce that one. The line would be around the perimeter.
By Velonese
January 28, 2009 4:04 PM | Link to this
MELO WROTE:
“How different do you think men and women view lust and desire? There is no difference really.Ladies,sluts and whrres all entice guys,but they employ different approaches. The acres of cleavage thats in play and ur choice of wrds in communication will determine whats coming outa of ma mouth as a guy and how I categorize u.U dress like a whhorre and speak like a slut,i treat u as one.Dress like a lady,talk like one,i give u lady treatment.Thats easy. Good morning!!”
Bravo, Bravo my man Bravo! That’s why I’m glad I don’t date American W*******…opps I mean women. If it wasn’t the fact my job allows me to fly for free I think I’d be gay, super gay, like OMG that dude is floating. “Dress like a lady, talk like one” I have yet to see this over here. Women here fall into 3 categories, dominant super B, A w******* who acts like you owe them something, or the typical Queen Syndrome or a combination of the three.
For the past 4 years I have the best dating experiences I have ever had since graduating High school (13 years ago). I’m all about treating women how they dress and act, especially here, they are such epic failures they need to be treated as such. I just don’t understand why some guys go through above and beyond for just a “maybe” and no I’m not talking about sex, for those who like to assume. It’s so nice to travel somewhere and be treated like I am a human being too.
By Jamoca
January 28, 2009 4:04 PM | Link to this
Hey everybody….
However, a lot of young ladies do not know that they need to wear darker colored underwear when wearing white.
It’s funny you mention this, Leggs.
This morning, while driving my daughter to school, we passed through two other school zones and noticed a lot of the mothers (young and old) were wearing these VERY MINI skirts. They were so short, you thought she was wearing nothing but her T-shirt and her panties on. Then looking beside her, you saw this little girl ( could not have been no older than 5 or 6) sporting a pleated mini jean skirt. You practically saw every little bit she had. smh
Some of them may not be as aware, but by the time s/he is an adolescent, I’m almost certain SOMEONE has mentioned to some of these young ladies, “Young lady, I can see your underwear through that skirt. Either change into a darker color (like black) or put on a slip (next time).” Or let some of the young boys tell em: “Hey girl, I bet I can tell you what color drawhs you got on…”
Somebody said somethin’. And if nothing else, she looked in the mirror before she left home and new exactly what SHE WANTED folks to see. Some of them, I just do not underestimate. They’re smart (in a sense).
Oh, PoppaG, what do you think of the Bucs pick for new head coach. Asked one of my uncles, and he was like….”we’ll have to just see”. And I thought to myself, “but that’s not what I asked”. lol
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 4:06 PM | Link to this
WTF is going on here?
FEAR dude pure and simple…we need to teach our kids how to own rather than just WORK all there life…that rich dad/poor dad mentality is needed more than ever
whats funny while reading think and grow rich it was released right after the great depression and the parallels are scary
By DreamsMaterialize
January 28, 2009 4:08 PM | Link to this
With all the examples in history, I don’t know why people still think that suppression is a viable means for prevention. Didn’t work with Prohibition, won’t work with sex. People will always find a way to pursue their vices, illegal or not. So, is Coweta saying that the SALE of sex toys is illegal, or the mere posession? If they’re banning the sale, then what stops them from going to the next county to get their “fix”?
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 4:10 PM | Link to this
The man probably couldn’t stand the financial hardship he thought him and his family would go through. However, to take out the entire family and not just himself is a cowardly, selfish act. I thought the note said they BOTH agreed to the demise of th family.
Wow, I actually got that right Raqi
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 4:14 PM | Link to this
Kym
Yes, it is. Adultery is a crime in GA. We don’t have enough jails for that to be enforced, and we don’t need more.
Jamoca
Dude hasn’t been a head coach (or coordinator) on any level. However, the success of Mike Tomlin is making teams take another look.
Tampa doesn’t have a Big Ben, Troy P., or even a Hines Ward. So, we will have to see what he can do with an old azz defense and no stability at QB.
So, I guess that I agree with your uncle in we’ll see.
By Velonese
January 28, 2009 4:14 PM | Link to this
MELO WROTE:
“How different do you think men and women view lust and desire? There is no difference really.Ladies,sluts and whrres all entice guys,but they employ different approaches. The acres of cleavage thats in play and ur choice of wrds in communication will determine whats coming outa of ma mouth as a guy and how I categorize u.U dress like a whhorre and speak like a slut,i treat u as one.Dress like a lady,talk like one,i give u lady treatment.Thats easy. Good morning!!”
Bravo, Bravo my man Bravo! That’s why I’m glad I don’t date American W*******…opps I mean women. If it wasn’t the fact my job allows me to fly for free I think I’d be gay, super gay, like OMG that dude is floating. “Dress like a lady, talk like one” I have yet to see this over here. Women here fall into 3 categories, dominant super B, A w******* who acts like you owe them something, or the typical Queen Syndrome or a combination of the three.
For the past 4 years I have the best dating experiences I have ever had since graduating High school (13 years ago). I’m all about treating women how they dress and act, especially here, they are such epic failures they need to be treated as such. I just don’t understand why some guys go through above and beyond for just a “maybe” and no I’m not talking about sex, for those who like to assume. It’s so nice to travel somewhere and be treated like I am a human being too.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 4:15 PM | Link to this
The man probably couldn’t stand the financial hardship he thought him and his family would go through. However, to take out the entire family and not just himself is a cowardly, selfish act. I thought the note said they BOTH agreed to the demise of th family.
Wow, I actually got that right Raqi
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 4:15 PM | Link to this
For Real, have I told you lately that I can’t stand you? No? Well, I can’t! LOL
Thanks for the link PG, unbelievable
By Raqi
January 28, 2009 4:16 PM | Link to this
Yaaay Me!!! I get to go home and see the new $1200 office chair. (rolling my damn eyes)
That chair better be pretty darn sturdy…you know since we talking about intimate paraphernalia and whatnots. snickering
You all have a good, good evening.
By kimmie
January 28, 2009 4:18 PM | Link to this
Truth - CNN.com has a lead story about that family. Looks like there was some type of investigation and whatever it turned up, it cause the father to be fired. In his suicide letter he said they were looking into something he did at work on Dec 18. He was off for a few days & when he came back to work suppossedly his boss said “You should not have wasted your time cause you no longer work here. You should have just shot yourself”. Of course, Kieser Perm, where he worked, denied telling him he should kill himself. Does sound a little crazy for a boss to say that. Very tragic story though. I hate to think that this bad economy would cause an increase in incidents like this.
By Kym aka Southern Girl (Gal)
January 28, 2009 4:18 PM | Link to this
Truth I read that this morning. Sad, Sad story. I think they said he called the police before killing himself. His thought was that strangers would raise the kids so why not kill them.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 4:19 PM | Link to this
Temps are dropping tonite.I absolutely have no sympathy for anybody climbing into bed alone, u Diva included!! I hope it gets really biting,bone jarring,cold inducing cold. Take that cold medicine tonite, unattached singles,u deserve it.
Where is Cee??
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 4:19 PM | Link to this
Suicide PERIOD is a selfish act
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 4:21 PM | Link to this
It’s so nice to travel somewhere and be treated like I am a human being too.
where are you going
By Staceye AKA Black Mamba
January 28, 2009 4:24 PM | Link to this
Truth I got them from this beauty supply store on Roswell rd. and they came with a guard but I don’t use it.
Wise notice the guys who said they would just disappear whether break it off with a girl are the ones telling you to give the guy a chance…or talk to him, etc…hmmmm! It seems you have already decided that you are turned off…so why try to force it? First impressions are lasting ones!
Did you guys see this Coweta County, Ga says no more sex toy parties * Those communist bstards! How can they tell you what kind of party you can have at your own house? Those tight wads not to worry about what is really important!
rell It’s because the govenemrnt doesn’t get any money from toy parties…they can tax the crap out of strip clubs! If h0es paid taxes on their azz the government would legalized it. Well it is in Vegas! LOL
Truth From what I read about the family was that it was mutual decision by him and his wife to kill themselves and the 5 babies (ages 18 months-8 years)! Kill yourself..go ahead but not the babies. I’d leave them orphaned before I take their lives. I could never kill any kid…especially not my own!
velonese I am a dominant and proud! So what!
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 4:24 PM | Link to this
Rell Guantanamo bay maybe??
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 4:29 PM | Link to this
oh please Melo, nobody wants your sympathy, LOL Besides, even the people who have someone to keep them warm, doesn’t mean they are happy they are there.
I have a wonderful mink blanket to keep me warm, though.
By Jamoca
January 28, 2009 4:29 PM | Link to this
So, I guess that I agree with your uncle in we’ll see.
By me asking my uncle what his thoughts were…were just that. His thoughts.
I read enough to come to the conclusion that Raheem had no previous experience. Everything just went so fast, when it came to “cleaning house”. Obviously I’m still learning. So I was looking for more than just a “we’ll see” kind of response. That was all. But thank you.
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 4:30 PM | Link to this
Melo, we single folk are not asking for your sympathy. Glad we have our morals and won’t just call up some dizzle cuz it’s freaking cold outside!!!!
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 4:30 PM | Link to this
Melo Why are you rubbing your hands together, with eyes gleaming at the thought?
Rell Did you miss my question or are you just opting not to respond?
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 4:34 PM | Link to this
what was the question??
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 4:35 PM | Link to this
Melo, we single folk are not asking for your sympathy. Glad we have our morals and won’t just call up some dizzle cuz it’s freaking cold outside!!!!
By Poppa Grande
January 28, 2009 4:36 PM | Link to this
Jamoca
Mike Tomlin changed some of the rules. Some people got it.
Raheem was gonna be the defensive coordinator anyway if Gruden had stayed. Monte Kiffin is going to Tennessee to coach with his son, Lane.
The issue to me will be how the new GM will work since he will have to rebuild that defense at some point. They are long in the tooth. Derrick Brooks, Ronde Barber, etc are old in football time, and at some point will have to be replaced.
On offense, they still need a QB. Gruden played musical QB’s this season. The GM will decide on a young QB or another veteran.
It is not like the Bucs are giving Raheem the reins to everything.
By MELO
January 28, 2009 4:38 PM | Link to this
Besides, even the people who have someone to keep them warm, doesn’t mean they are happy they are there ok,u take that as consolation…
Is it morals Leggs or its failure to close a deal,permanent or short term??
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 4:41 PM | Link to this
I’m sure they had family that could have kept the kids. Its a shame.
Velon if chicks got you so messed up you’d consider laying with dudes then your suspect at best. Chicks anywhere in the world treat you like you allow them to treat you.
Staceye dominant female is an oxymoron.
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 4:43 PM | Link to this
you know it’s a fact, dude, and what do I need consoling about, though? You are starting to sound like the smug married again. Please stop, step back over to the normal side!
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 4:44 PM | Link to this
I am almost convinced this was the FUNNIEST blog day EVER LMAO!!
By Staceye AKA Black Mamba
January 28, 2009 4:44 PM | Link to this
Melo I got fleece sheets and a king sized bed all to myself and I am LOVING it! LOL I feel sorry for the ones who have to share!
By Velonese
January 28, 2009 4:45 PM | Link to this
Rell,
Near Strassburg Barracks, Idar-Oberstein Germany.
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 4:48 PM | Link to this
Rell What confuses me is for those of you who claim textbook knowledge of our thinking, wouldn’t it be someone who fell outside of those parameters who most intrigued you? Like did you get your wife by speaking/acting in the same manner that you’d gotten the ones who came before? If so then that supports timing as the most crucial factor. Yet lots of y’all accuse women of puttin in ordinary work and desiring an extraordinary result? (which marriage seems to be elevated to these days)
Confucius say an invitation to warm your bed tonight will not mean you aren’t still single in the morning.
By For Real
January 28, 2009 4:49 PM | Link to this
A night at 2E’s house…
2E’s: I think I’ll shave El Diablo tonight. Let me get my Andis. Click
For Real a.k.a Andis: Buzzzzzz Buzzzzz
Telephone rings
2E’s: Click Hello
Chick: Hey 2E’s its Lamantha
2E’s: Oh hey girl. What you up to?
Lamantha: Nothing girl just calling to see what you in to
2E’s: Chile I ain’t doin nothing bout to shave El Diablo
Lamantha: Oh okay. What kind shaver do you use?
2E’s: Andis but it don’t cut worth ish.
Lamantha: Den why do you still use it if they don’t cut worth ish?
2E’s: Own-know, everytime I use it I use it I pass out and wake up nekked, sore and sticky with the scent of lemon heads in the air.
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 4:51 PM | Link to this
LMAO twocents
By Rell - T** tay Man!!!!
January 28, 2009 4:53 PM | Link to this
Like did you get your wife by speaking/acting in the same manner that you’d gotten the ones who came before? If so then that supports timing as the most crucial factor.
YEA I DID NOT CHANGE…MY WIFE CRAZIER THAN ME….
By Michelle
January 28, 2009 4:54 PM | Link to this
For real, you are a DAMN fool!! LMMFAO
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 4:57 PM | Link to this
LOL @mytwocents, hat tip to you for your comments today. instant CLASSIC!
Everyone, thanks for a great discussion!
Have a wonderful, snuggly warm evening, whether you are alone or with your honey :)
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 4:57 PM | Link to this
Velonese the impaler foreigners treat you nice because they want to come back to the states with you. When you tell them they’re not coming they’ll dump you too.
By The Truth
January 28, 2009 4:58 PM | Link to this
Velonese the impaler foreigners treat you nice because they want to come back to the states with you. When you tell them they’re not coming they’ll dump you too.
For Real El Diablo lmao
By MELO
January 28, 2009 4:58 PM | Link to this
why u getting angry a lil,WD,church man on ur mind,2nd thoghts??
By mytwocents
January 28, 2009 4:59 PM | Link to this
What up, Jamoca. You see how IV Real think some freak shii goin on when girlfriends just chit chattin’ on the phone hahahaaaa
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 4:59 PM | Link to this
Melo, it’s morals, self-respect and not letting my horniness guide me into trouble!!!
By Staceye AKA Black Mamba
January 28, 2009 4:59 PM | Link to this
For Real is a d*mn fool! LMAO!!!!
By Wise Diva
January 28, 2009 5:04 PM | Link to this
No Melo, I am not mad, at all, just calling you out like you do everybody else. Is that alright?
By Leggs
January 28, 2009 5:04 PM | Link to this
Melo, it’s morals, self-respect and not letting my horniness guide me into trouble!!!
By Jamoca
January 28, 2009 5:20 PM | Link to this
Yeah girl, “me peeped that” . LOL
just smh @ Confucius say an invitation to warm your bed tonight will not mean you aren’t still single in the morning. Luckily by morning she gets multiple choice on whether to parade herself around as an honest ho-ho or gracefully carry herself as a sneaky slut…. let ‘em tell it. those are her only two options. Pick one they say.
Nevertheless, the disposition will change and they’ll at least offer her category 3 of simply being a human being….and the cycle goes on.