Misadventures in Atlanta

By DreamsMaterialize

January 14, 2009 8:43 AM | Link to this

Morning Most people don’t want to know all the gritty details of your life when they first meet you, can put a damper on what’s supposed to be an enjoyable experience. I do, however, always let it be known that I’m open to any questions. You can ask whatever you want to know. I don’t have a problem exposing myself, flaws and all.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 9:11 AM | Link to this

Good morning. Dating in Atlanta is like riding 285. Nothing but a circle. Eventually, you’re bound to meet up w/an ex.

If I met the ex of someone I was dating I wouldn’t immediately ask questions. If we became friends, I may ask something.

How do you handle the “disclosure” of information in dating? Whatever questions you have to ask of me I will answer honestly.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 9:15 AM | Link to this

I’m nosy, so I could not resist asking something - probably in some joking manner.

This is me too. Sagittarians are seekers of knowledge. I always want to know as much as I can, without sounding completely wacko.

Good morning everyone.

By The Lollipop Guild

January 14, 2009 9:16 AM | Link to this

Discrection is key. There are things you probably need to know early on that may help you decide whether pursuing that person, at that time is the best thing for you. I once dated someone who was well known in a circuit of sorts and I kinda had an idea about them but I certainly found out what I wanted to know. There is no sense in being in the dark when you can be in the know.

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 9:17 AM | Link to this

I am and have always been an ask for what you want and what you want to know kind of woman. Always have been and always will be. When to ask and how soon to ask, those are the decisions that I weighed.

Mason asked me once, with a slight chuckle, while dating ‘why are you interrogating me?’ No interrogation, just a need to know. Are you married and/or have you ever been married was always day one questions after my disaster with Whitebread.

If I had ever had the pleasure or not of running into the ex of a former, I would have asked why it ended.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 9:17 AM | Link to this

Good morning. Dating in Atlanta is like riding 285. Nothing but a circle. Eventually, you’re bound to meet up w/an ex.

If I met the ex of someone I was dating I wouldn’t immediately ask questions. If we became friends, I may ask something.

How do you handle the “disclosure” of information in dating? Whatever questions you have to ask of me I will answer honestly.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 9:32 AM | Link to this

The Lollipop Guild what does that mean??

By Stormy

January 14, 2009 9:34 AM | Link to this

Morning All

I’ve always tried my best to be a open book when I was dating. I ask questions and when questions are posed to me, I try to anwser as honestly as possible without incriminating myself. LOL

By MELO

January 14, 2009 9:46 AM | Link to this

Female bloggers,have any of u ever double or triple dated a dude??There are many female playas in Atlanta and was just wondering if any of u have done it. Just asking,esp coz u all say,* u honest* in your dating experiences.Im not incriminating or intend to be judgemnental,just wanted to understand it from ur female vantage point.

By Stormy

January 14, 2009 9:53 AM | Link to this

Melo I’m not sure I know what you mean. Do you mean dated the same guy more than once or do you mean gone on a double/triple date as a couple with other couples? Please explain.

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 9:55 AM | Link to this

IMO the infant stages of dating is the getting to know you stage. Well actually you learn something new about people as time goes on, even after the nuptials. But anyhoo, amid the having fun activities you get to know and know about each other. Knowing why all of or most of their serious relationships failed is a need to know. Knowing if they have even ever been in a serious relationship is a need to know. And knowing if the other person felt the relationship was serious is a must know.

While no wants to spend time with someone who only talks about their ex, talking about past relationships let’s you know if they are over that person and also let’s you gauge the bitterness level that they may be carrying around.

If a person only have negative words for every past relationship, run. It’s them not the other persons.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 9:58 AM | Link to this

Dating scene and married men. I called an establishment twice in the past month to get some information. The person answering the phone recognized my voice from the first phone call. He had wit, jokes and a pleasant personality. I agreed to stop at the establishment on any given day and introduce myself in person since I had to pass this place on my way home. I pulled up and asked if this particular gentlemen was there. He was the owner. He was a very nice looking, baldheaded brother. We shook hands and no kidding he slid a piece of paper across the counter and asked me to write my phone number down. Said he wanted to get to know me better. I had one question for him. I asked if he was married. He said yes, but that has nothing to do with anything. If I had the nerve, I would have punched him in the throat. All I could do is walk out.

I say all that because my curiosity definitely killed this cat!

By MELO

January 14, 2009 10:00 AM | Link to this

Stormy, i mean dating more than one guy at a time.

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 10:01 AM | Link to this

I cannot get that dagbarnnet song out of my head. Love and Happiness. I found myself humming it rather loudly in car on the way home yesterday and then muttering the words softly while showering last night. And here I am again singing it in my head. Imma turn on my radio and try to drawn it out with some other tunes.

By The Truth

January 14, 2009 10:03 AM | Link to this

Morning folks.

I dated a chick and met her ex husband and a cat that knocked her off and both by chance. I didn’t need to ask any of them questions because I knew what she was about, plus if I wanted to know I would have asked her. Though she would have lied.

She was just a messy chick but had good booty so overlooking her faults wasn’t hard.

As for me I’m like *Leggs, just ask. I’ve never done anything I’m ashamed but dont get upset when you hear the answer.

Lurker I was reading your little threats yesterday and you are hilarious. What are you a blog bully? You should sit your narrow azz down and relax. Just because you divulged to the group that your father birthed some sorry azzed sons and apparently a weak azz dughter doesn’t give you “street cred”. LOL Today you’re on blog probation, you must ask for permission before posting or I’m going to put you over my knee. Dam internet toughies.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 10:04 AM | Link to this

Dating scene and married men. I called an establishment twice in the past month to get some information. The person answering the phone recognized my voice from the first phone call. He had wit, jokes and a pleasant personality. I agreed to stop at the establishment on any given day and introduce myself in person since I had to pass this place on my way home. I pulled up and asked if this particular gentlemen was there. He was the owner. He was a very nice looking, baldheaded brother. We shook hands and no kidding he slid a piece of paper across the counter and asked me to write my phone number down. Said he wanted to get to know me better. I had one question for him. I asked if he was married. He said yes, but that has nothing to do with anything. If I had the nerve, I would have punched him in the throat. All I could do is walk out.

I say all that because my curiosity definitely killed this cat!

By i'm swiss

January 14, 2009 10:08 AM | Link to this

I have no problem laying my past out there, or even having my current SO meet an ex (if she so chooses). But personally, I don’t want to have any interaction at all with any of my SO’s ex-dudes. As far as I can see, nothing good can come from it:

Case 1: Ex-dude speaks glowingly of my SO, says the breakup was all his fault, worst mistake he ever made, etc. Sounds to me like dude still wants some, and if he crosses the line, there might have to be a confrontation.

Case 2: Ex-dude trashes my SO, who I really like. Again, confrontation.

Either way, it’s bad news. I’d rather just get to know who my SO is now, on my own with no input from ex’es.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 10:11 AM | Link to this

Stormy, i mean dating more than one guy at a time.

melo, glad you answered because I had no clue what you meant as well.

If exclusivity is not established, then you are free to date as you please. Most guys just bank on the fact that women are loyal and usually only want to date just them.

I’ve dated more than one guy at a time. However, I can not have sex with more than one guy at a time. That’s how you catch a Maury case! LOL.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 10:13 AM | Link to this

Truth, *As for me I’m like *Leggs, just ask. I’ve never done anything I’m ashamed but dont get upset when you hear the answer. EXACTLY!

By Stormy

January 14, 2009 10:14 AM | Link to this

Melo

Yes I have. Please note you said dated. LOL

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 10:15 AM | Link to this

Never encountered that problem…but I am sure that I would rather not ask questions of the former other regarding the person of interest…not because I would feel ackward, but out of respect for the other parties…some ppl would rather not have a person gather information about themselves in that manner or the other person may not feel comfortable divulging such info either…but if it came up in a conversation, well that might be different…guess I would have to actually be there.

Now, as far as asking the person of interest questions…of course by all means…how else would you know anything???

Last night I went out with this guy who came up from Raleigh to take me to dinner…and we had a blast…and we both ask questions…and answered them rather honestly…both of us are in our late 40’s…neither of us has ever been married…we talked about that and why we never made that step…we talked about our lives and interest, etc…but we did not talk about previous relationships or the less than favorable outcomes of them,etc.

By Le Siren

January 14, 2009 10:15 AM | Link to this

MELO

I’ve been officially single for about 6 months now. Since then, I’ve been consistently dating two men at a time. Not necessarily the same two, but two at a time none the less. I find that it helps me not to become too focused and obsessed with one man. I’d like to try to enjoy my single life for a while before I begin another serious relationship. If I only dated one man, then I’d get attached too quickly. When I do decide to get serious with one dude, the others will be dismissed:)

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 10:18 AM | Link to this

Truth, *As for me I’m like *Leggs, just ask. I’ve never done anything I’m ashamed but dont get upset when you hear the answer. EXACTLY!

By LJ

January 14, 2009 10:25 AM | Link to this

testing new filter…:)

By Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

January 14, 2009 10:26 AM | Link to this

I wouldn’t ask a mate’s ex for information about her, and I would be insulted she asked one of my exes about me. To me, it says “I don’t completely believe what you’ve told me, so I’m going to the ex for the truth,” or “I think you’ll lie if I ask you, so I’m going to ask your ex.”

Plus, what’s to stop her ex from lying, distorting the truth, or presenting it in a way that he knows will make her look bad? That’s just an extra layer to sort through that I don’t want or need.

By Angie

January 14, 2009 10:26 AM | Link to this

morning kids!

dreams when i met the ex wife, i didn’t want to hear anything she had to say about him. we talked cordially about their son and that was it. i wanted my enjoyable experience with him and i got it! lol. if i had a chance to do it again and ask her … would i? no.

a man open to any questions … i like that. ;-)

By LJ

January 14, 2009 10:27 AM | Link to this

testing new filter…:)

By Michelle

January 14, 2009 10:28 AM | Link to this

I wish people would be up front about their STD status..

By LJ

January 14, 2009 10:29 AM | Link to this

testing new filter…:)

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 10:29 AM | Link to this

Your filter is dbl posting like mine (lol).

By MELO

January 14, 2009 10:30 AM | Link to this

find that it helps me not to become too focused and obsessed with one man thanx all,altho i have extra questions: in ur case Le Siren, if casual sexx were to occur,wld u take that as a first step in dismissing the other guy(s) or u will just continue,mindful that the act waz just casual? Now for evry body else that replied to my qstion, i assume you dont necessarily divulge to the other paries that u are multiple looking, so if u went out with date one and met date 2 at the same party,location etc,are u going to make sure u update them about the awkward situ,at the most opportune time or they dont necessarily have to know.Wld u feel awkward about it?? And is this multiple dating done in the open,meaning, all this time,do the others know that u are seeing other pple?? Yes I have.Please note you said dated. LOL why u laughing girl.Have u gone on to do smething naughty,even?..I suspect from ur giggles…

Interesting stuff so far…!!

By Miss QC

January 14, 2009 10:32 AM | Link to this

Morning all….have a warm day :)

By MELO

January 14, 2009 10:32 AM | Link to this

I wish people would be up front about their STD status did u once catch that bug, Michelle..and are u answering my qstion on 9.46.Hw u been??

By DreamsMaterialize

January 14, 2009 10:34 AM | Link to this

Angie Yeah I don’t need anyone else’s negativity to distort my dating experience in the beginning. I can find out what I need to know when I’m ready to know it.

I’m always open to questions, and I’ll give the answer straight out. That way you can make a choice about whether or not you want to continue with me. If I hold back info or lie, then I take away that choice. No point in that.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 10:35 AM | Link to this

Your filter is dbl posting like mine (lol).

By WTF???

January 14, 2009 10:35 AM | Link to this

ROFL @ Michelle! Wouldn’t it be nice?

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 10:37 AM | Link to this

@Michelle

True dat…according to a CNN health report yesterday it is creating quite a hidden epidemic…and of course, African American women have the highest numbers in that unsavory demographic…and the rate with teenagers is also staggering.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 10:41 AM | Link to this

And is this multiple dating done in the open,meaning, all this time,do the others know that u are seeing other pple?

melo, it should be assumed that if you are not exclusive that the person is seeing other people. Even if they aren’t.

It’s information that I don’t necessarily volunteer, but if asked I have no problem confirming if I am indeed seeing someone else.

By Stormy

January 14, 2009 10:43 AM | Link to this

Melo

I said dated because you have a way of assuming/reading other things into statements.

I have dated more than one person at a time…but never been sexual with muliple partners.

By The Truth

January 14, 2009 10:48 AM | Link to this

Update: That chick that was selling her virginity has bids up to $3.7 million dollars. LMAO

Ared whats a Maury case?

By WTF???

January 14, 2009 10:51 AM | Link to this

Maury Case = Paternity test

By WTF???

January 14, 2009 10:53 AM | Link to this

Oh yeah, I wonder why some dude would wanna pay 3.7 million to bag a chick that ain’t got the slightest clue how to work that thing?

Don’t make good sense to me, I mean come on now….

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 10:54 AM | Link to this

if casual sexx were to occur,wld u take that as a first step in dismissing the other guy

melo I will answer that part of your question. Yes. During the time that I was kinda seeing one guy and kinda growing close with another, the one that I felt the desire to be intimate with first automatically ousted the other.

My outlook is if I am with one I don’t need another.

By Angie

January 14, 2009 10:54 AM | Link to this

dreams That way you can make a choice about whether or not you want to continue with me. wow! that was very unselfish of you to post.

the ex made sure he said what i wanted to hear to keep me and he made sure he told me first.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 10:55 AM | Link to this

a way of assuming/reading other things Really??,why u kinda hot when all i did was ask and even put qstion marks at the end so there wont be any confusion.Where did i make a statement in assumption Stormy?? Now,u cant stop me reading smething,silently ofcourse,from u smewhat ruffled typing?? that I don’t necessarily volunteer technically okay,and my other qstion about meeting the other dates,Ared?? For all of u not answering,im gonna assume,esp if u normally a loud mouth…LOL.Any way,sme of u have confessed in the past so i will take that into consideration.

By DasV

January 14, 2009 10:55 AM | Link to this

good morning good ppl

I dont care to know what you been through, i want to know what you took away from it. i want to know what is pertinent to me in the now… not what you were in the past. ask me anything, but be prepared to explain its revelance to now. my past defines me as much as the next person’s but in every situation ive walked away with only the lesson (not the baggage) and a new character attribute or at the least a honed one. i am discriminate with what i want to know and need to know. i generally like ppl who have and can fire things down to the good stuff, and only deal with that.

on yesterdays blog

whoa. you blog sistas had a hallmark kinda blog day, didnt ya??…. it was all warm and fuzzy. makes me wonder if it was yall or the absence of theTruth in the afternoon…… things that make you go, hmm? LOL

melo why you trynna set up the blog ladies to be called ‘h.oe’ this early in the day?? come’on mayne…. according to all previous blogs, dont MLB rules outline an after 11am rule on that?? :)

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 10:57 AM | Link to this

Trtuth a Maury case is “who the baby’s daddy”!

By Angie

January 14, 2009 10:57 AM | Link to this

wtf you’re a guy right? so you saying that you don’t have a fantasy to hit it first?

By MELO

January 14, 2009 10:58 AM | Link to this

WTF??? so u are a promoter of female sexxual experience?? Nice way to look at it…i aint mad at atcchaa…

By Angie

January 14, 2009 11:00 AM | Link to this

venus it was a good day! no trolls.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 11:00 AM | Link to this

melo, I’ve never been out on a date while running into someone else I’ve dated.

But if it happened, he’d probably be on a date too as I still like to grab dinner and listen to live music or something.

But I don’t see the big deal. I’d introduce the two men. I’m sure one of em would ask me how I know said guy and I’d say we’ve been out on some dates.

That’s just how dating goes. If he doesn’t like that, he’s free to move on or pursue an exclusive arrangement.

Truth - Maury Povich is a talk show that specializes in “you are not the father” type paternity issues. Typically the women has at least 5 men she is trying to determine who is the father of her child. Sometimes they test 20 dudes and still can’t get a match. LOL

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 11:01 AM | Link to this

Trtuth a Maury case is “who the baby’s daddy”!

By WTF???

January 14, 2009 11:02 AM | Link to this

Angie & Melo - If someone would’ve paid me for my first time I’d have felt bad & game their money back to them. I mean, I don’t want to be like Tito & go get me a Jenna Jamison. But all means, experience goes a long way when it comes to sex.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

January 14, 2009 11:03 AM | Link to this

I am an observer…so I would just pay close attention to whatever is being said. Information finds its way to the surface. But I a, also a jokey type person so that would be approach if I am fishing for certain info that is just not coming out. I’m nosey…but I will not let anyone else know that I am nosey.

ARED Sagittarians are seekers of knowledge From one Sag to another…you are so right! LOL Nosey by Nature!

Melo do you mean dating more than one dude? If so..heck yes. Unless we come to that agreement that we are only going to date each other..then it is open season on both sides. Just because I like a guy does not mean I should shut down all other prospects of fun. I’m pretty sure he is not turning down dates or a chance at booty for me…especially in ATL where puddy is easier to come by than finding a gay guy at Bulldogs! LOL

Leggs those type of men (married) should be punched in the throat! I have had that happen to me and I told them they had 5 seconds to get away from me before I cut them for being azzholes! If a dude still wants to do his thing….why get married? That is why there are so many married women turning up HIV positive. These nasty azz men still chasing skirts and coming home to their wives with STD’s. What happened to love & cherish? You can’t love nor cherish a woman and then put her life at risk!

ARED I’ve dated more than one guy at a time. However, I can not have sex with more than one guy at a time. Right on the money. I am that way too. If a baby or an itch shall arise I need to know who it came from! LOL

Michelle I wish people would be up front about their STD status.. Girl me too. That is one of the main reasons I am celibate. I am scared of catching somthing. Don’t even like to kiss because I have no clue if he has herpes. I knew a girl who had it and she was sexing a new dude all the time. I am sure she was not forthcoming with her status. That confirmed it for me man. People are trife!

By WTF???

January 14, 2009 11:04 AM | Link to this

Yuh.. Truth - you are NOT the father. Then you get up & raise a little hell & run off the stage. It’s actually some funny $hit, in a deranged kind of way….

By The Truth

January 14, 2009 11:05 AM | Link to this

On the Maury case, sorry I’m slow.

By SlimOne

January 14, 2009 11:08 AM | Link to this

To be honest I carry around a box full of 469 question questionaire for those times I run into an ex lover of a current SO. As an incentive for them to fill it out I offer them a free $5 coupon to krystals and a free nerf basketball w/goal included. That way I get all the info I need, want, and never wanted to know.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 11:09 AM | Link to this

On topic: I never asked about female previous associates nor cared to know.But if smebody else close to me were to tell me about ur ex(s) and gave me valuable info about them, i have alwayz made judgements about the female,based on who they dated.I never wanted to date and hoe around a small,tight circle..messy.And if ur past dude waz a known a*****,good for nothing fellow, i wld assume thats as far as ur brain functions as well for u to be tamed by such.I wld dismiss u. I have dated smart and discreet chics.Dont give me no drama,walk like a vigin even tho i know u not, be fresh and associate urself with folk who are smart and bright.Any slight hint to me that im an upgrade from ur usuall exes will make me re-evaluate u against u. I get to know u thru talking/stimulating intelligent convo with u and if u fail short then we gotta part ways.I dont need no references and dont seek any.

By WTF???

January 14, 2009 11:10 AM | Link to this

Staceye - Gotta watch whose lip balm/chapstick you use too girl.. You know you can get that stuff in your eyes & on your hands too right? Herpes is some bad $hit. I defa don’t want no part of it.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 11:11 AM | Link to this

I knew a girl who had it and she was sexing a new dude all the time. I am sure she was not forthcoming with her status.

Staceye, I wonder if dude asked. It’s one thing to not volunteer the information. But I would feel pretty dumb if I never asked the question in the first place.

I’m always the one asking about STD status. The guys NEVER do! Maybe some guys don’t want to know, as long as they’re wrapping it up.

By Angie

January 14, 2009 11:13 AM | Link to this

staceye it is very nice here right now. it’s too nice! lol. you know i love cold weather. i hate leaving my coat at home. yesterday i yelled at my son for being outside with no jacket on. i was like oh yea, nrr mind.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 14, 2009 11:17 AM | Link to this

i assume you dont necessarily divulge to the other paries that u are multiple looking

Anyone dating on this planet should know to ALWAYS assume that there are other in the picture when you first meet them. Women are getting approached 20 times a week, so I don’t even need to ask about other dudes.

By Le Siren

January 14, 2009 11:19 AM | Link to this

MELO

if casual sexx were to occur,wld u take that as a first step in dismissing the other guy(s) or u will just continue,mindful that the act waz just casual?

That’s a good question. I’ve actually recently been in this situation. Until I decide to become exclusive with one gentleman, then I will continue to casually date both. I am totally upfront and honest with both of them and they know that I’m “dating” other people. We’re all grown and as long as you’re upfront with all parties involved, then there should be no problem.

By Stormy

January 14, 2009 11:21 AM | Link to this

Melo We st8, OK!!!

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 11:22 AM | Link to this

Good Morning!

Yeah, i have been having emotional energy these days…and combustible energy to go along with it too.

What is so freakishly surreal about this week is I am counting down 5 odd days until being in Washington DC. To, my kid’s reading group being a part of the Obama’s Inaugural Celebration! My cup runneth…that day I will get to tell my grandkids…“In my lifetime….”

PoppaG I invite you to take a look at something about this club. give me a minute.

Okay off that…on to the topic:

Honesty is the best way to go with someone you’re dating. You’re grown, she/he’s grown. Like it was stated…”What if you do come face to face with one of said ex, and he/she has something negative or positive to say about your SO. When you already know the history you’d process the info much lighter, or not even care! If it’s not revelant to your relationship, don’t even bother, sans the drama.

In your opinion, exactly how much are you entitled to know about someone in the early stages of dating?

I’m not “entitled” to anything. I would just hope a person would be as “stand-up” as I would be with them.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 11:23 AM | Link to this

The blog must really like me cuz it’s eating my posts (phooey)!

By i'm swiss

January 14, 2009 11:25 AM | Link to this

Off topic:

Am I the only one who really misses the italic formatting filter? C’mon, AJC. You’re cramping my style… ;-)

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 11:25 AM | Link to this

The blog must really like me cuz it’s eating my posts (phooey)!

By For Real

January 14, 2009 11:31 AM | Link to this

Truth What do you think about this: http://nwanews.com/nwat/News/72625/

What up Slim I heard you were in jail.

BE AN ADULT AND OPEN YO DAYUM MOUTH IF YOU WANT TO KNOW SOMETHING!!!!!

Is it that hard?????

By MELO

January 14, 2009 11:34 AM | Link to this

That’s a good question. I’ve actually recently been in this situation thanx.I’m wondering then,if u casually give it to one party and not the other,in the short term,whats uppermost in ur mind at the time of said deed,his sexxyiness vz the other,it was just opportune or the other guy never asked for u guyz to tango?? And wld it ever be possible to do a complete 360 degrees and ditch hiz azz(the one u slept with) while commiting exclusivity to the other one who never sampled?? be intimate with first automatically ousted the other the sexx was good on both sides,i see that Raqi,and u all got attached.Lucky man!

trynna set up the blog ladies to be called ‘h.oe’ u know Das,being as experienced as u are and know,a man gotta scracth the lady a lil more subtly and gently to bring her hoe out for daddy’s salivating apetite.Uall act prudish until the the man with the right touch scratches u…aint that right W.Diva???

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 11:37 AM | Link to this

Melo, go sit in the corner!

By abc

January 14, 2009 11:38 AM | Link to this

In a scenario of a current girl considering consulting with an ex of mine, I would presume that the information exchange would go both ways, and so would be conveyed not only from ex to current, but from current to ex.

I would consider that a violation of trust, and a definite deal breaker. Don’t go talking about me to an ex of mine.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 11:42 AM | Link to this

Leggs,seen,talked or heard about Alvin..been a minute now??

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 11:42 AM | Link to this

Melo, go sit in the corner!

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 11:42 AM | Link to this

PoppaG Here’s what we put together. more later

[http://www.boyswhodare.blogspot.com]

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 11:43 AM | Link to this

What’s the name of that song…Come to me, don’t ask my neighbor I hang around…come to me…????

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 11:45 AM | Link to this

http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/01/13/std.report.cdc/index.html

This is the link to the cnn news story about STD’s

By Jay

January 14, 2009 11:47 AM | Link to this

When getting to know someone. Why is that people ask questions that they dont want to answer themselves?

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 11:48 AM | Link to this

What’s the name of that song…Come to me, don’t ask my neighbor I hang around…come to me…????

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 11:48 AM | Link to this

Slim Lemme check that 469 questionaire. I need a new comeup.

melo Bruh. What cylinders are you firing off today?

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 11:49 AM | Link to this

Thanks for the reminder Melo. Spoke w/Alvin again last night to get his ok to post about his condition. He’s doing ol. He had outpatient surgery. I will try to keep this as manly as I possible can. He had noticed during shaving that some hair particles weren’t responding to the shaving. After awhile a few hair follicles became infected and very, very painful. He had to have surgery to have them removed. He’s home resting. He says hello to each of you!

By Jay

January 14, 2009 11:52 AM | Link to this

When getting to know someone. Why is that people ask questions that they dont want to answer themselves?

By lurker

January 14, 2009 11:53 AM | Link to this

Truth you’re still thinking about what I said the day before yesterday?! Gheesh man. Yeah I was effective. Take yours like you dish it. Real sweet…now you tryna put a negative spin on mine and two days later at that.

Wise Diva Now let me see you chastise Truth This negro comes on here day in and day out with the nasty mouth.

By SlimOne

January 14, 2009 11:53 AM | Link to this

For Real DAYUM homie! What a warm welcome back…”Heyyyy, long time no see!”….now speaking thru megaphone….”I HEARD YO AZZ WAS LOCKED UP!!”

Actually, i did spend 3 days in there but I don’t know if i wanted everyone to know that. Geesh!

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 11:55 AM | Link to this

Thanks for the reminder Melo. Spoke w/Alvin again last night to get his ok to post about his condition. He’s doing ol. He had outpatient surgery. I will try to keep this as manly as I possible can. He had noticed during shaving that some hair particles weren’t responding to the shaving. After awhile a few hair follicles became infected and very, very painful. He had to have surgery to have them removed. He’s home resting. He says hello to each of you!

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 11:55 AM | Link to this

@Dreams - Check that sight.

Leggs Thanks. Get well soon Demi.

By DasV

January 14, 2009 11:57 AM | Link to this

melo LOL. im lookin for the man who can squeezed my last bit of h.oe out…. hoping his p.imp has great negotiating skills. :)

…. and look at you frontin on WDiva

By Le Siren

January 14, 2009 12:01 PM | Link to this

MELO

I’m wondering then,if u casually give it to one party and not the other,in the short term,whats uppermost in ur mind at the time of said deed,his sexxyiness vz the other,it was just opportune or the other guy never asked for u guyz to tango?? And wld it ever be possible to do a complete 360 degrees and ditch hiz azz(the one u slept with) while commiting exclusivity to the other one who never sampled??

In my case, I genuinely like both men for different reasons. I just happen to have stronger sexual chemistry with one vs the other. That’s not to say that I won’t develop those feelings for the other man over time…if things don’t work out with one, then the other comes off the bench.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 12:03 PM | Link to this

Tell him i said hie,Sexxy Cee,plz answer the damn qstions too.. It waznt my intention but i know abc will chime in,hes listening to my to and fro with the ladies.

Oh,i got some iphones on the low low,if u feeling like getting i-hooked in the obama 09..if any interested,drop me a line takpat78@gmail.com.A brother got to eat in these maddaof times.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 12:03 PM | Link to this

No way am I actively seeking the ex of anyone I’m dating. WiseDiva was talking about chance meetings. If we meet by chance, I might still jokingly ask for some dirt.

When I moved here, I was dating someone and broke up with him after about 6 months. I also had met up with online friends I had chatted with for years but hadn’t met. After talking about boys and all that, it was clear to me that she was describing the dude I had recently broken up with! We most certainly compared notes.

The girl and I are still friends to this day.

By SlimOne

January 14, 2009 12:05 PM | Link to this

Cee did you check out that webinar last night? I tried to find your email address but couldn’t. Give it to me again.

There is too much baby stuff going on. My sister is preggo and is due by the end of the month but she’s already dialated to 2cm already. Then my first cousins water just broke this morn and shes now on the way to the hospital..so I guess thats where i’ll be for the rest of the night. I guess this is my warm-up for the big game when my sister finally drops my first born. yeah, MY first born cuz it just may not happen for me,so i’m treating this one like my own…sort of like my own surrogate mother LOL

By NCGirlfromATL

January 14, 2009 12:06 PM | Link to this

(hiding from Slim) Dang, so that’s who was blowing up my phone from the jail. Aaah oh well. I don’t do criminal law lolol!!

Hey Wise Just dipping in for a sec. I always believe, “Be careful what you ask for.” I think it’s a good idea to find out why a previous long-term relationship ended, but as far as any other sordid details, I’ll pass. I don’t want to know his fav. position, I’ll find that out for myself. But, if the reason you broke up was that his fav position was with another man, THAT I need to know!

ok back to work/lurk

By Angie

January 14, 2009 12:09 PM | Link to this

is it ok for a woman or a man who are actively dating and looking to marry to make $10/hr?

it is not ok for a man to make $10 an hour who wants to marry! he’s going to be the provider of the family. today the wife does need to pitch in because of the economy, but come on!

By MELO

January 14, 2009 12:10 PM | Link to this

and look at you frontin on WDiva i know right.I LUV this chic from afar, i got so much wild imagination about her.Now on prude, im gonna send her a topic suggestion and hopefully that day will be off the wall.Not too many ladies wanna talk about sly,sleek stuff about themslves,most of the time.Which is cool.But with this topic,there wont be no lurking…

Le Siren thanx.I think i got the gist of it and i can read the other females’ silence too…..U represent well.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 12:18 PM | Link to this

melo - Remember to factor in two things

By Angie

January 14, 2009 12:25 PM | Link to this

Silence doesn’t necessarily mean there is anything to hide. i strongly disagree!

alvin get well soon. imma call you this w/e.

By DasV

January 14, 2009 12:26 PM | Link to this

LOL@ ‘zulu shorthand’… aRed sometimes you are just fun-ny!

By MELO

January 14, 2009 12:28 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed, anything else and on any good day,melo is too graphic,a nut,too horny etc but on these direct qstions, the females just dont wanna answer but are cmfortable with me assuming OR them femles aint reading my zulu right??…..puleeeze!!.I take it to mean that im trying to get stuff from deep inside their handbags…thats a NO,NO and a worse offense than breaching their right to privacy.Its an abomination to ask unless info is volunteered.

By Michelle

January 14, 2009 12:29 PM | Link to this

Whatup Melo To answer your question, I have dated a bunch of dudes at one time but would only sex one dude @ a time.. Hopefully that quenches your thirst :)

Stacey You and I are alot alike cause I have ALSO jumped ship from the brothas and have me a juicy man now that treats me like the queen that I am with sex not being the main thing to accomplish.

I wouldn’t ask a dudes ex NOTHING!!! I want to form my own opinion about the person without taking their ill experience into consideration(if that was the case). I definitely would NOT be friends with his ex either cause I believe that would make me seem like a child than a woman.. What do I look like kicking it with a person that has sexed my man??? I know what I would look like…. A LAME NEEDY AZZ CHICK!!

By Angie

January 14, 2009 12:34 PM | Link to this

To answer your question, I have dated a bunch of dudes at one time

kp where are you?

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 12:34 PM | Link to this

i strongly disagree!

sigh Of course you do Angie. Do you know what the word “necessarily” means? It means there COULD be something to hide but it also means it could not be. There is no absolutes.

So should we assume that everytime YOU ignore a question posed to you on this message board that you are hiding something?

In addition, I was talking about this BLOG. There is no rule that someone has to answer every question asked on here. Do you know that WiseDiva asked SEVEN questions in her topic today. Do you realize that no one EVER answers every question she asks? I know one of the reasons for why that is is that every question doesn’t pertain to every blogger. So maybe a lack of answers is because the question is not applicable!

But yeah, I wouldn’t expect you to understand such things. smh

By Stormy

January 14, 2009 12:36 PM | Link to this

Melo

In regards to women dating more than one guy. The thing is we/women don’t advertise it like men. For men, IMO dating more than one chick is like a sport, “See how many I can get.” For women, it’s more like, keeping our options open, just in case “said guy” is not ackkin’ right. Or more like, “let one cancel the other out.” JMO

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 12:36 PM | Link to this

Update: Just got off the phone w/Alvin. He is still in the hospital, going home today. I misunderstood him and the drug induced conversation w/had last night.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 12:38 PM | Link to this

the females just dont wanna answer but are cmfortable with me assuming OR them femles aint reading my zulu right??…..

melo, who died and made you blog police? LOL. Folks on here are gonna assume what they want anyway. They don’t need to answer questions to do so.

Besides, I’m still confused as to how dating more than one person at a time is underhanded or sneaky. I still don’t think you understand what dating actually is. You don’t meet one person and then swear off other suitors. LOL

I assume that many people aren’t answering cuz folks on here really don’t date to begin with. So not applicable! LOL

By DasV

January 14, 2009 12:39 PM | Link to this

Leggs what?! wassup wit alvin?? hol’up… can i call him? im try…….

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 12:41 PM | Link to this

Update: Just got off the phone w/Alvin. He is still in the hospital, going home today. I misunderstood him and the drug induced conversation w/had last night.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 12:44 PM | Link to this

DasV, read my 11:55.

By Stormy

January 14, 2009 12:47 PM | Link to this

LOL @ ARED “I still don’t think you understand what dating actually is.” <——-To Melo

By MELO

January 14, 2009 12:48 PM | Link to this

I still don’t think you understand what dating actually is im sure u do and thats good by me,so u can teach me

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 12:49 PM | Link to this

DasV, read my 11:55.

By Stormy

January 14, 2009 12:51 PM | Link to this

Melo aka “SELF APPOINTED BLOG POLICE”
LMAO

By MELO

January 14, 2009 12:51 PM | Link to this

They don’t need to answer questions to do so i dont get it….I assume that many people aren’t answering cuz folks on here really don’t date to begin with ur assumtpions are proly right or maybe u more entitled to,mine are wrong or i shldnt….i get it.

By Angie

January 14, 2009 12:51 PM | Link to this

men should follow in dream’s foot steps and just answer the question. why throw a red flag in the mix? conversation is going well then he refuses to answer my question, smh.

what kinda personal questions you askin’ the guys you date to where he doesn’t want to answer? maybe you should try another/smarter way to manipulate him if he is sitting there looking at you sideways in silence.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 12:52 PM | Link to this

The thing is we/women don’t advertise it like men aha..and thats a female talking.Its not advertised and its not sneeky..got it!!

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 12:53 PM | Link to this

@Leggs Give my love to the brother…I had not talked to him since before I moved…and I need to update him with contact info…I did not know he was not up to snuff.

@ARed

Well, if Melo wants to appoint himself the blog police…then I guess you are the Honor sitting on the bench…lol…read him the blog statutes…lol

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 12:53 PM | Link to this

im sure u do and thats good by me,so u can teach me

melo LOL…I’m good bruh!

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 12:53 PM | Link to this

Do any of you think hypnosis could help you remember a dream and then have it analyzed?

By Michelle

January 14, 2009 12:54 PM | Link to this

I agree Angie!! Most men are simpletons and need things broken down so that they really don’t know that they are answering questions.. LMAO!!

By DasV

January 14, 2009 12:55 PM | Link to this

thanks leggs i called him…. you gave the cleaned up version and a real friend to him. have to gv you props on that. glad he is doing better!

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 12:56 PM | Link to this

@Angie

If the questions asked do not elicit a favorable response…and they are deemed reasonable…then it is a flag to exit stage left.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 1:02 PM | Link to this

Leggs - Give Alvin/Demi my best wishes and a “get well soon” when you talk to him next.

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 1:04 PM | Link to this

@Raqi

I knew someone who had been hypnotized for a similiar reason…he recalled some event from his past…dealing with his mother’s death…but he was young and the details were vague…for some reason he continued to have recurring dreams with images and such that he just barely remembered as real, but not exactly…well, he did the hypnosis and was able to determine that he was recalling what events led up to his mother’s death, but his mind could not bring to the forefront of his memory…once he was able to associate his latent recall with his current conscious memory, the dreams stopped occurring…so there may be some validatity to it.

By Angie

January 14, 2009 1:05 PM | Link to this

michelle sorry, but you misunderstood my post. if she wants to know the answer she should (i wasn’t suggesting that she does) manipulate him a different way. but i do agree with you also … rephrase the question.

M’Karyl exactly! all i’m saying is ask intelligent questions, not nosey ones!

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 1:09 PM | Link to this

If the questions asked do not elicit a favorable response…and they are deemed reasonable…then it is a flag to exit stage left.

M’Karyl - Amen sister. I do understand that there are somethings folks would prefer to keep to themselves because it’s a complicated answer. But like I said, if you have too many complications in your life, you shouldn’t be dating in the first place!

If it’s simply a time and place issue (no one should know all your bizness on a first date) then you need to find a way to articulate that without running folks away!

By Wise Diva

January 14, 2009 1:09 PM | Link to this

Hello everyone!

@melo Uall act prudish until the the man with the right touch scratches u…aint that right?

what do you mean by act all prudish? As opposed to what? I mean, men don’t really think women should walk around like video vixens all willy nilly do you, I mean, that isn’t practical, have you ever worn hooker shoes!?

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

January 14, 2009 1:09 PM | Link to this

Welcome back SLIM!!! How was Vegas?

WTF Oh I know. She used my eyeliner one time and I gave it to her. I let no one use my stuff except eye shadow.

ARED There was one dude who asked to my knowledge and she said no. So crap like that scares me.

Leggs I misunderstood him and the drug induced conversation w/had last night. Tell Alvin to bring some home! LOL

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 1:10 PM | Link to this

did you check out that webinar last night? I tried to find your email address but couldn’t. Give it to me again.

NO! Totally forgot about it.

Auuwww Auntie Slim enjoy every minute of that. I was a mom before i was an auntie and someways i wanted Auntie first. What sex is cousins baby?

By Tazzee

January 14, 2009 1:10 PM | Link to this

Afternoon Folks!

Leggs I don’t think anyone answered your question, but the name of the song is *Don’t Ask My Neighbor” by The Emotions.

On Topic - I wouldn’t ask my date’s ex anything about him. I ask my dates a lot of questions myself. Like others have said - I don’t know the ex’s motives in answering the questions. As far as me, I’m an open book - ask anything you want.

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 1:14 PM | Link to this

@Angie

Yep…the type of questions a person asks makes all of the difference in the world…the questions asks last night led to truthful and honest responses that encouraged insight into the who of me…and it made for a far more interesting convo as well.

I remember one time this dude I encountered @ Underground…he kept asking me if I was married…I told him no…well, he did not believe me, so he grab my left hand and attempted to feel for a ringband groove…WTF…and then he wanted to know who I was sleeping with…WTF…well, he left knowing that it was nor was it going to be him…lol

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 1:18 PM | Link to this

Karyl I keep having the same dream but I only remember a small portion of it. I think. The part that I remember could very well be the entire dream but it seems like there should be something leading up to the small part that I remember. Twice now my husband has said that I talk in my sleep but he has only said that when I remember having this particular dream.

I am waiting for my brother to call me back. He is with a patient now.

By The Truth

January 14, 2009 1:18 PM | Link to this

For Real interesting story. The chick confesses and they lock him up. Such is the law in america nowadays. pitiful really. Obviusly that chick is crazy.

Melo you know the rule. It’s always the other chicks that do trifling ish. Never anyone in blogsville. Plus it happened after 11 so it doesn’t count. Now if a dude fugged another dude 5 years ago he’s still a punk. But if a chick got run up in 30 times in 06 it doesn’t count since she was looking for love. They use the same accounting firm as Enron. LOL

Btw, if you meet a chick and she doesn’t drop everything to be with you keep it moving. Most of these women will settle for the highest guy they can get that will STAY with them. He may be number 8 in the rotation but he’ll stay put so he’s the guy. She’ll dock his azz everyday for being less than she deserves but at least she’ll have someone to fuss at. LOL

The cause of alot of this frustration is people having higher standards than the product they bring to market.

Lurker the troll patrol has returned. Listen you can’t bum rush a cat for cracking a joke. The dude was playing with your tender azz. You act like you have some juice, like you’d do something if you were standing here. We both know you couldn’t squeeze a grape with those little buns you have. Grow some azz.

By SlimOne

January 14, 2009 1:19 PM | Link to this

2e’s It was cool, i definitely have to go again under better circumstances.

Cee cousin is having a boy…sister is having a girl. I wonder if they’ll let me take my PS2 into the hospital cuz all that waiting is gonna be a bish!

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 1:22 PM | Link to this

Dreams Did you check the site?

Melo What question am i suppose to be answering for you?

By MELO

January 14, 2009 1:22 PM | Link to this

men don’t really think women should walk around like video vixens all willy nilly do you some females do,others dont and the so-called good girls dont necessarily display their naughty sides untill they fall in the hands of good and experienced handlers.Most will proly act kinda plain and boring.Which one are u WD

have you ever worn hooker shoes whenever i used to go out just looking for a hooker to bang, i wld literally move with condoms in my pocket.That was handy.Those are hooker kicks,u cld say….

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 1:23 PM | Link to this

Reasonable question: “So why have you decided that relationships are not a priority for you?”

Ignorant question: “So i fyou are single, then what do you do for sex?”

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 1:25 PM | Link to this

Leggs I don’t think anyone answered your question, but the name of the song is *Don’t Ask My Neighbor” by The Emotions.

LOL Tazzee, you know none of us answered the question because we all have something to hide on here apparently. LOL

By MELO

January 14, 2009 1:25 PM | Link to this

They use the same accounting firm as Enron DAMN U RIGHT!!! My partner here had to ask me if im okay,that waz hilarious!!

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 1:25 PM | Link to this

Too funny. Thanks DasV! Yeah, I gave the cleaned up version. Yeah, that’s what friends do (LOL)!

Thank you Tazzee, that’s it!

ARed/M’Kary/and others, I’ve told **Alvin you all said hello!

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 1:26 PM | Link to this

Stormy

That blog is cool. Good work with BWD. My wife is a reading mentor. She goes once a week to a local elementary school at lunch. There she and the boy that she mentors reads over lunch. It fulfills her pro bono legal requirement and it helps our immediate community. My plate is full with work and law school, but I help when I can.

Good job. Enjoy the trip and dress warm. It should be memorable.

Melo

I’ve never ever assumed that a chick was dating just me unless we decided to be exclusive.

I always assumed that “all is fair in love & war”. So, until we addressed it, there wasn’t exclusivity. As a result, I was the kind that insisted on protection. Her being in the pill would not protect me from the “Heebie-jeebies”.

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 1:28 PM | Link to this

@Raqi

Sounds like your dream pattern was similiar to Eric’s…it may benefit you to do the hynosis and see if it can bring the images to the forefront…it helped him a lot because he seemed to think he was in some way responsible for her death.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 1:28 PM | Link to this

Slim I sent you an email @ _96. The Labor & Delivery dept. at some hospital they are a little more lenient. So you may get to ‘get your game on”. check, i said some hospitals. Where is she delivering?

Hi Tazzee.

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 1:30 PM | Link to this

@Leggs Thanks…I will email him my new info…which can change again any day now…Gypsies, tramps and thieves…lol

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 1:30 PM | Link to this

Too funny. Thanks DasV! Yeah, I gave the cleaned up version. Yeah, that’s what friends do (LOL)!

Thank you Tazzee, that’s it!

ARed/M’Kary/and others, I’ve told **Alvin you all said hello!

By MELO

January 14, 2009 1:36 PM | Link to this

The Truth, i guess for me the most telling answer waz Stormy in her 12.36.She opines that females game is just more honorable than mens’.Telling.I liked Les siren honesty tho.

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 1:36 PM | Link to this

Reasonable question: “You seem to be a very charming, easy going and attractive person, so I am sure you have lots of opportunities for dating, etc?”

Ignorant question: “what’s the matter with you, is you contaminated?”

By SlimOne

January 14, 2009 1:38 PM | Link to this

Cee I got it…she will be at Piedmont. I won’t worry about bringing it. I should be helping her push and all that jazz.

By DasV

January 14, 2009 1:38 PM | Link to this

theTruth come’on mayne… you know the rule is if you’d slept wit a dude you still ‘gay’ in my book 5 yrs later. and im only a h.oe if i slept wit 30 men in one year AND have more’n two kids to show for it. LOL

that aint just a blog rule thats straight out the WLB for the streets too.

By Angie

January 14, 2009 1:40 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl why go fishin’ for answers you prolly can’t handle anyway? doesn’t make sense to go there. you’re dating the guy not conducting an interview. now if a commitment is in my future with RW, when the time is right i’ll ask my 21 questions. i love that song from fifty:

If I fell off tomorrow would you still love me? If I didn’t smell so good would you still hug me? If I got locked up and sentenced to a quarter century, Could I count on you to be there to support me mentally? If I went back to a hoopty from a Benz, Would you poof and disappear like some of my friends? If I was hit and I was hurt would you be by my side? If it was time to put in work would you be down to ride? I’d get out, chill and drive I’m asking questions to find out how you feel inside If I ain’t rap ‘cause I flipped burgers at Burger King Would you be ashamed to tell your friends that you’re feelin’ me? And in the bed if I used to my tongue, would you like that? If I wrote you a love letter would you write back?

By Angie

January 14, 2009 1:43 PM | Link to this

“what’s the matter with you, is you contaminated?” lol.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 14, 2009 1:44 PM | Link to this

Angie I can only speak for myself, but if I think a chick is trying to manipulate info from me, then I’ll SURELY become an azzhole, especially since I’ve already made it clear that she can DIRECTLY ask whatever she wants.

Most men are simpletons and need things broken down so that they really don’t know that they are answering questions Most cats bank on women having this attitude about men and use it to their advantage ALL the time. Underestimating the opponent ensures that you will lose the battle.

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 1:47 PM | Link to this

@Angie

The questions should always be pertinent to the context of the relationship and where it is at…ya know…if I am just kicking with someone, and there are not plans for too much more, then what do I need to know???…and also again, it is how questions are asked…lol

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

January 14, 2009 1:49 PM | Link to this

Wise Hooker shoes? LMAO But you know they will call you prudish on one side of one their mouths..but call you a h0 from the other. You wanna talk about confused simpletons? Oy vey! LOL

Slim You should pay Guitar Hero at the hospital. LOL

By MELO

January 14, 2009 1:50 PM | Link to this

I’ve never ever assumed that a chick was dating just me unless we decided to be exclusive that version of dating is new to me.And i never wld have allowed to be played like that.I married a virgin and so im qualified to call most men who date that way suckers.That version reminds me of the cattle/car auction.U are put in a pool and the purchaser is free to evaluate u at the same time they are evaluating the others.In my day,if i approached a girl and she gave me play,was willing to go out with me etc be4 we really hit it off,it was me and her.I wld call it quits or she wld after we found we werent compatible.But to be willing to be put on a waiting list,just coz we dating is laughable!. But who am i to say,enjoy ur thing playas and playettes.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 1:50 PM | Link to this

PoppaG We put that page together yesterday. Each day in DC, the boys are to come back and log/report to their blog on what they experienced. We’ll see how that all work out. Thanks for checking it out!

Yeah, i was thinking later in the year…there is also a few members that still meet at Barnes & Nobles…i’ll let you know.

This year there’s a Girls Book club that 2 ladies from the group are going to start. The BWD boys built/stocked bookshelves for them.

By Angie

January 14, 2009 1:50 PM | Link to this

dreams couldn’t agree with you more. thanks!

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 1:52 PM | Link to this

@Angie

Yepper…chirl I actually had a knothead ask me that question when I did not wish to pursue his sexually curious agenda…lol.

By Michelle

January 14, 2009 1:56 PM | Link to this

Were you a virgin too Melo? Curious!! Dreams As I said MOST MEN!! Very rare a man that is a simpleton is WAAAYYY ahead of anything.. TRUST!!

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 1:57 PM | Link to this

Cee

My bad….I meant to address you.

I have tons of pics from the Million Man March, and even more memories. Hopefully, this experience will be the same for those youngsters.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 1:57 PM | Link to this

I can only speak for myself, but if I think a chick is trying to manipulate info from me, then I’ll SURELY become an azzhole, especially since I’ve already made it clear that she can DIRECTLY ask whatever she wants.

Thanks Dreams. I was waiting for a man to respond to that.

Manipulation just never seems like a good idea in a relationship you want based on trust and honesty! But I figured that was common sense. lol

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 1:57 PM | Link to this

Slim

I got it…she will be at Piedmont. I won’t worry about bringing it. I should be helping her push and all that jazz.

Gurl, lemme be the next to tell you, sis/cousin will be looking at you sideways if this takes along time. Just do what she asks…(icechips/pillow/fan…ect). Pleazzze!!

By DreamsMaterialize

January 14, 2009 1:57 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Wonderful site. That’s a great thing.

Truth Same firm as Enron…funny as sh_t. lol On the flip side, cats are guilty of not knowing the proper accounting of their own.

By Rell - i hate hoes, hoes hate me

January 14, 2009 2:00 PM | Link to this

Most men are simpletons and need things broken down so that they really don’t know that they are answering questions

TEE HEE….thats funny…

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 2:01 PM | Link to this

But to be willing to be put on a waiting list,just coz we dating is laughable!. But who am i to say,enjoy ur thing playas and playettes.

melo, why do you see it as a waiting list? Most women are looking for a relationship. That is the goal. So if I’m dating more than one person, it’s not because i’m a player but because exclusivity has not been presented as an option. And we all know how guys will attempt to avoid that discussion for as long as possible.

So what, are you just mad that these women aren’t waiting around for you to decide where you want us in your life?

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 2:01 PM | Link to this

I like that song too, M’Karyl!

That was cute ARed about not responding to the name of the song!

By lurker

January 14, 2009 2:01 PM | Link to this

Truth the troll patrol has returned. Listen you can’t bum rush a cat for cracking a joke. The dude was playing with your tender azz. You act like you have some juice, like you’d do something if you were standing here. We both know you couldn’t squeeze a grape with those little buns you have. Grow some azz.

Seriously dude, are you STILL talking about a conversation that transpired a different day?! Your slip is showing.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 2:03 PM | Link to this

PoppaG/Dreams Thanks. We are pushing each one of those AA boys to be LEADERS out there!

PoppaG Trust, my camera will be used like a BB gun. Lol - Wow you went to MM march? I heard it was VERY profound.

I know the cellular traffic Tuesday will be jammed. I told all my fam/friends don’t even think it! I’m not even going to try to send them picture texts. Just wait until i get back.

By Rell - i hate hoes, hoes hate me

January 14, 2009 2:04 PM | Link to this

Stacey You and I are alot alike cause I have ALSO jumped ship from the brothas and have me a juicy man now that treats me like the queen that I am with sex not being the main thing to accomplish.

I am late…but LMAO….treat me like a queen…its always ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME….lol….typical

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 2:06 PM | Link to this

Melo, a virgin…he probably came out w/….hell I don’t know (lol).

By MELO

January 14, 2009 2:09 PM | Link to this

why do you see it as a waiting list coz there is more than one in the picture who are waiting to explore a relationship.I think dating has kinda eveloved to despicable levels,in my view.But im sure uall find plausible reasons why the new age version is good too.Not mad,just curious coz frankly i didnt think these men wld be wiling to be put thru that.But at least Poppa chimed in.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 2:10 PM | Link to this

My wife is a reading mentor. She goes once a week to a local elementary school at lunch. There she and the boy that she mentors reads over lunch.

PG, my company participates in that program too. I have done it as well. If my company ever pulls out, that school would probably be dropped from the program. My company contributes about 85% of the readers there!

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 2:11 PM | Link to this

Cee

PoppaG/Dreams Thanks. We are pushing each one of those AA boys to be LEADERS out there!

As I tell my nephew, Readers are leaders. It may sound corny, but it is true.

I know the cellular traffic Tuesday will be jammed.

I’ve heard from a number of sources that the cell towers will probably be voluntarily turned off during the ceremony. There is concern that the grid could be overloaded if they left them on during the ceremony with people trying to call and send pictures.

No confirmation. So, I guess that we’ll see.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 2:11 PM | Link to this

Melo, a virgin…he probably came out w/….hell I don’t know (lol).

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 2:13 PM | Link to this

why do you see it as a waiting list coz there is more than one in the picture who are waiting to explore a relationship.

melo, so you’re willing to commit to one woman after one date? You’ve been out the game a looong time man.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 2:14 PM | Link to this

Were you a virgin too Melo? the qstion was answered by Leggs,2.06pm.

By Angie

January 14, 2009 2:19 PM | Link to this

i don’t assume that a man i meet is dating only me. h3ll, i’ll be a fool to think my guy now is seeing only me!

this is where communication is key folks. when a couple decides together to be exclusive, then there’s no question.

my ex asked me to be his girl like we were back in the 5th grade. it was so cute.

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 2:19 PM | Link to this

Leggs my brother tells a really bad joke about how no man is born a virgin because his johnson comes in contact with a ——— as early as birth.

A joke that is in very bad taste.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 2:19 PM | Link to this

PoppaG There’s a link on the blog to the site. the older kids read and meet to talk about the book and what each different person got out of the books.

Most books picked to read are bio’s of AA historian/people. The guys mostly pick sport stars and they also like black history too. It’s getting to be a more diverse.

The sad part is not all the boys got to attend the DC trip :(.

the cell towers will probably be voluntarily turned off during the ceremony.

O.K.

By kinderbabe

January 14, 2009 2:20 PM | Link to this

poppa grande does your wife work for georgia pacific?? hope that doesn’t sound like a weird question. it just captured my attention b/c i work at a school that is in partnership with that company. they come once a week and read with the kids during lunch. small world! lol

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 2:20 PM | Link to this

@Cee

Yes, reading is fundamental…and it is a very necessary foundation for future excellence…it has been and still is one of my favorite activities…but I guess that you could not tell that, uh???…lol

By Michelle

January 14, 2009 2:21 PM | Link to this

I knew the answer to that question, I was just poking fun at you :)

It is soo sad that women save themselves for a man that has been around the country (not block) a few times..

By MELO

January 14, 2009 2:24 PM | Link to this

Leggs my brother tells a really bad joke about how no man is born a virgin because his johnson ur bro Raqi is the kinda of guy i wld be friends with….tell him i said hie from blogsville!

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 2:24 PM | Link to this

@Michelle

What you mean sugah…got a passport full of stamps…lol…done been fishing around the world…lol.

By Angie

January 14, 2009 2:27 PM | Link to this

michelle for me it’s not that i’m saving myself for my husband, it’s more of a respect of self.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 2:28 PM | Link to this

it has been and still is one of my favorite activities…but I guess that you could not tell that, uh???

M’karyl I asked someone the other day. I think that is why i gravitate to English Masters. I am not. Me = number lover.

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 2:29 PM | Link to this

melo that joke is disgusting. It is talking about a man and his mother. Although he admits that it is bad every time I remind of the facts he continues to tell it.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 2:30 PM | Link to this

You feel me Raqi, I just couldn’t finish it. I saw all avenues blocked trying to finish that joke!

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 2:30 PM | Link to this

I can tell that many folks on here don’t have white friends. White people date! They date several people at a time and if all goes well, will have a s/o within a few weeks of dating.

A lot of black men have “commitment issues” and that hinders the dating process. Dating is a long process because everyone is trying to make sure they aren’t missing out in case something better comes along. It’s all so silly.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 2:31 PM | Link to this

melo, so you’re willing to commit to one woman after one date? yes and no,maybe u didnt read my zulu short hand right.We date,its just us,u dont put me on dating rotation, i dont do that to u either,we commit or we part ways in reasonable time if we chemically imbalanced.Im a good picker,trust me.I can see good females and bad from a sniff.Why wld it be necessary to date 5 chics at once be4 i commit to one?? Why waste my time with u if im not even sure like that?And i only dated chics i had observed from a distance for a minute.So maybe,just maybe,it was my style.

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 2:32 PM | Link to this

Melo

.I think dating has kinda eveloved to despicable levels,in my view.

I just assume nothing. It is reciprocal. She should assume anything about me either until it is discussed. For me, it was never the “upgrade” mentality or stringing her along.

I know and readily admit that I’m selfish.

Once we agree to be exclusive then it is another story. I am a “my word is my bond” kind of person.

BTW, why is it despicable for a person (male or female) to keep their avenues open while expressly not exclusive in any dating relationship, but it is ok for a married people (male or female) to have sexual partners outside their legally exclusive relationship?

I say male or female because I know female that have had extramarital affairs, too. I’ve seen it happen in the legal field where there plenty of travel, many long hours worked, and lots of time spent away from home.

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 2:35 PM | Link to this

@Cee

Number crunching ain’t a sport for dummies…it takes a great analytical precision to work with numbers…intellect should be encouraged and developed on all levels…I love my creativity, but I also like programming databases and using SQL…which is logic.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 2:35 PM | Link to this

You feel me Raqi, I just couldn’t finish it. I saw all avenues blocked trying to finish that joke!

By MELO

January 14, 2009 2:36 PM | Link to this

done been fishing around the world…lol

It is soo sad that women save themselves for a man that has been around the country girl,im looking at u sideways.So what are u going to tell ur teenage girl..to get hoed coz being a virgin is no guarantee of landing a good man.LMAO!!!!!!!!!

By Rell - i hate hoes, hoes hate me

January 14, 2009 2:36 PM | Link to this

Ared you are funny……lol

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 2:38 PM | Link to this

yes and no,maybe u didnt read my zulu short hand

melo, yes, I miss quite a few things throughout the course of the day.

If a guy came to me and wanted me to date only him, I’d be open to it if I liked him. But yeah, he’d have to make the same promises as well.

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 2:38 PM | Link to this

@Ared

Yepper…I noticed that when I was grwoing up…I had several different sets of social circles…white, black and hispanic…and each set seemed to have different criteria for dating…there is nothing wrong with having several dating acquaintances at once…I went out with someone last night and I have another outing with a differnt person for Saturday…????…it is just going out and enjoying some activity…and???

By MELO

January 14, 2009 2:38 PM | Link to this

I know and readily admit that I’m selfish ME too, and wil admit to play to win.My interests..and if they mesh with urs,cool.If not cool too but plz step that way…..

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 2:40 PM | Link to this

I’ve seen it happen in the legal field where there plenty of travel, many long hours worked, and lots of time spent away from home.

Poppa that is what happened with my sister and her husband. They both are attorneys were married to their offices instead of each other. Now that both of them have erred she says they actually schedule dates to spend time together to avoid the former. It’s a start in the right direction.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 2:40 PM | Link to this

I can tell that many folks on here don’t have white friends. White people date!

Black people,act white…LMAO.

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 2:41 PM | Link to this

Kinderbabe

*poppa grande does your wife work for georgia pacific?? *

No, she is an attorney for a law firm in Midtown.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 2:41 PM | Link to this

melo that joke is disgusting I like ur bro,seriously.He has very good humor.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 2:41 PM | Link to this

What is up with the zulu translation melo? What’d i miss.

ARound the “country”? Lol

Kinderteach OK! If you aren’t a educator!!! Girl! comming out of the ‘back woods’, when hearing the word “mentor”. Good deal!

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 2:43 PM | Link to this

@Melo

You be off…lol…ain’t nothing no guarantee of getting a good man…LMAO.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 2:43 PM | Link to this

but it is ok for a married people (male or female) to have sexual partners outside their legally exclusive relationship? have they okayed this in Cali now?? i say cali coz thats the most liberal place i can think of where social innovation is thriving…

By i'm swiss

January 14, 2009 2:45 PM | Link to this

“my brother tells a really bad joke about how no man is born a virgin because his johnson comes in contact with a ——— as early as birth.”

Raqi — Interesting point. That would also explain why all women have a little lesbian in them. ;-) LOL

By MELO

January 14, 2009 2:45 PM | Link to this

But yeah, he’d have to make the same promises as well Now we cool,ared!!!!!

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 2:45 PM | Link to this

M’karyl I like people who are more creative than i.

Number crunching ain’t a sport for dummies

Gal, it can get boring, ergo the dummy in me come out.

By DasV

January 14, 2009 2:50 PM | Link to this

LOL@ ‘blk ppl, act white’ …. sounds like a great tshirt tag

By Rell - i hate hoes, hoes hate me

January 14, 2009 2:54 PM | Link to this

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By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 2:54 PM | Link to this

Now we cool,ared!!!!!

LOL always melo.

For me, once I go on a series of dates you can pretty much be assured that anyone else out there is secondary. Guys express interest and may even take you out, but aren’t always talking about much.

There is this one guy sniffing around now talking about “you wanna hang out?” I’m 31 years old, I don’t “hang.” LOL. Come correct dude. lol

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 2:55 PM | Link to this

LOL holey cheddar. I started to call you cracker barrel as in the cheese but them remembered you are Caucasian and didn’t want to come off as being derogatory. So holey cheddar it is.

Now what I was typing to say is “you are disgusting also”. LOL

By Michelle

January 14, 2009 2:56 PM | Link to this

* is soo sad that women save themselves for a man that has been around the country girl,im looking at u sideways.So what are u going to tell ur teenage girl..to get hoed coz being a virgin is no guarantee of landing a good man.* I am not Dan now! There is no guarantee that being a virgin gets a good man.. Look @ Melo.. Real Talk :)

Angie that was just my personal opinion and nthing directed towards you.. I had no idea you were a virgin..
Knowing me, I am not with saving myself for anyone who wasn’t pure as me..

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 2:57 PM | Link to this

That would also explain why all women have a little lesbian in them!

WHAT????

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 2:59 PM | Link to this

Melo

I asked the question because you had no issue with a certain morning show personality looking outside his marriage. Yet, it is despicable to have have other avenues in dating if there has been no exclusivity agreement.

Marriage is a legally binding exclusivity agreement. You even have a license filed in courthouse public record of with whom you are tied.

Even in Utah, it is seen as an exclusivity for one man and one woman. Most of the Mormon polygamists keep their stuff underground.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 3:00 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss…you better swiss your way back to…whereever with that one.

By kinderbabe

January 14, 2009 3:04 PM | Link to this

cemeeli lol…you know us educators when we hear buzz words like “mentor.” lol

poppag please forgive me…i wasn’t trying to get all up in your biz. glad to hear that your wife is doing great things for our youth. tutoring and mentoring are two things they can’t get enough of! it’s always refreshing to hear about folks who realize that ALL children are our responsibility in one way or another.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 14, 2009 3:04 PM | Link to this

I’m 31 years old, I don’t “hang.” LOL. Come correct dude. lol Dang ARed why you have to bust me out in front of everyone? Guess I’ll be saving these Fatburger and El Pollo Loco coupons for someone else. lol

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

January 14, 2009 3:05 PM | Link to this

ARED I cosign your 2:30. Especially men in ATL….with the plethora of puddy its like pulling teeth for them!

By i'm swiss

January 14, 2009 3:08 PM | Link to this

Raqi — Don’t worry, you can call me whatever you like; it won’t offend me. Swiss miss calls me all kinds of names, herself. (It’s actually kinda hot — depending on what’s going on at the time). LOL

Cemeeli — C’mon… a dude can dream, can’t he? ;-)

By kinderbabe

January 14, 2009 3:10 PM | Link to this

cemeeli lol…you know us educators when we hear buzz words like “mentor.” lol

poppag please forgive me…i wasn’t trying to get all up in your biz. glad to hear that your wife is doing great things for our youth. tutoring and mentoring are two things they can’t get enough of! it’s always refreshing to hear about folks who realize that ALL children are our responsibility in one way or another.

By Rell - i hate hoes, hoes hate me

January 14, 2009 3:11 PM | Link to this

certain morning show personality looking outside his marriage

dayum homie why talk down on another man..do you know is situation…i mean him and his wife could lead another lifestyle…people..smh

@ARED/Stac/ladies…what da hell is coming correct…..because it sures seems like you ladies are looking for entertainers and not dates..PLEASE explain to me what is coming in 2009 and what do you bring as well to the table?

By MELO

January 14, 2009 3:12 PM | Link to this

had no issue with a certain morning show personality im raising my fingure to u like Bill Clinton in:(i did not have hav….with that wman,ms hoe!!)

My issue was not that i have no issue,far from it.I wld not raise that issue as reason for not liking him,as a man.Its smethingi wld,if i were his friend say,call it to him in pvt.I wldnt ditch him as friend for that either….feel me on that or u need me zulu deeper on the subject.U talked about being selfish earlier and there we vibe,and my selfish me alwayz kinda dictated that i be the focus of a female’s attn and time when we were dating,not her mama,her dada or cous….jk,but u get my drift!!

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 3:13 PM | Link to this

Dang ARed why you have to bust me out in front of everyone? Guess I’ll be saving these Fatburger and El Pollo Loco coupons for someone else. lol

LMAO Dreams. We were supposed to have our lunch meeting a long time ago tho! You’re bullishing. lol

Let me correct that tho. I do “hang.” But with people where it’s established that we are just friends.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 3:14 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe yes you are. I think Foots is a tutor as well. I appreciate all that are integral parts in our youth! <—- planting good seed…

ALL children are our responsibility in one way or another.

Love it ^^^!

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 3:14 PM | Link to this

@PG

Here come de judge…here come de judge…good post…here come de judge.

@Staceye

I have actually gone out more here int the VA and actually have enjoyed myself…without the games and stress…men who just actually like spending some time getting to know you and such…as one old school brother said “I jes likes to court and have fun”…lol…and the more options of simple engagement, lead to more options of exploring further interest.

Off topic…ex-cop in Oakland shooting arrested and charged with criminal offense.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 3:14 PM | Link to this

dayum homie why talk down on another man tell him RELL,tell him.I thoght it waz the zulu in me,but u and Truth saw it my way..

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 3:14 PM | Link to this

Kinder

No problem.

I was a mentor when I was in college. Also, I have been in Big Bro/Big Sis program. I have seen a couple of my lil bros graduate from college. I just don’t have the time right now. I can’t half-step when dealing with kids. They will call you out on it.

She does it partly because law requires some community work. Pro bono is free work. Some attorney choose to just write a check to fulfill their requirement. She actually wanted to go out and help a child. The child that she mentors had a goal to read 50 books by the end of the school year. I think that he is right on target for a 3rd grader. The school to which she goes is the one across from the Georgia World Congress Center/Ga Dome. I think that it is called Bethune Elementary.

She said that the kids readily admits that he wants to be a Georgia Bulldog and attend UGA. He thinks that he wants to be a doctor. So, she tries to encourage him. She especially liked that he did not mention wanting to be an entertainer/athlete.

By i'm swiss

January 14, 2009 3:15 PM | Link to this

Raqi — BTW… Speaking of Cracker Barrel… Has there ever been a more appropriately named establishment? Well, other than Strokers. ;-)

By MELO

January 14, 2009 3:16 PM | Link to this

There is no guarantee that being a virgin gets a good man just as there is no guarantee that being of good and sound behavior lands u in heaven!!!

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 3:17 PM | Link to this

PLEASE explain to me what is coming in 2009 and what do you bring as well to the table?

Rell, not this again. No thanks, dude.

If you think we’re looking for entertainers and not dates eyeroll so be it. Won’t make it true.

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 3:18 PM | Link to this

@i’m swiss

Iffin youse havin an open bar at yo’ reception…then Ise jes gonna calls yo sugah…lol

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 3:23 PM | Link to this

Melo

I got you drift…it just seems terribly inconsistent. For me, the sex wasn’t the issue. It was breaking his word.

But like I said, I am a “my word is my bond” kind of guy. If I say that I am gonna kick that azz, best believe I will. Sometimes, I may wait until you forget that I said it, but trust, it will be done.

Same is true in a relationship for me. If I say that I am yours and yours alone, I will do everything in my power to keep that word. Even, if it means that I have to remove myself from some tempting situations.

Believe me, it is not easy. This darn wedding band seems to attract more females than it repels.

MK

We talked about Oakland today in Criminal Procedure class.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 3:24 PM | Link to this

Rell, you must have been absent when he was talking about this particular personality with first hand knowledge…meaning he has seen some thangs pop off (LOL)!

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 3:25 PM | Link to this

C’mon… a dude can dream, can’t he?

i’m swiss You ever seen a mad black chic in your dream?! Don’t make me bring it!

Lol…we cool…

By kinderbabe

January 14, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

cemeeli thanks! i might have to make that my slogan for next school year…lol.

poppag that is so cool that you too have been involved with children. you are right…when we half step, kids will call us out…lol. my kids at school are like that. they know the difference between genuine concern and bs. that’s one thing that i love about kids, they are so real. i know exactly where bethune is…right up the street and around the corner from my school. the children of this community need as many positive influences as possible. there is so much going on around here that no child should ever see. keep being the power couple that you are by helping the young people!

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 3:27 PM | Link to this

@PG

I am watching Rick Sanchez on CNN now…and I saw the video…not right mayne…some ppl still seem to think that this was accidental…uh…he could not tell the difference between his taser and his gun…and the man was not resisting and contributing to any conflict with the officer?????…what did they say in your class…very curious.

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January 14, 2009 3:28 PM | Link to this

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By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 3:29 PM | Link to this

If I say that I am gonna kick that azz, best believe I will. Same is true in a relationship for me. If I say that I am yours and yours alone, I will do everything in my power to keep that word. - PG

That’s HOT! lol

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 3:29 PM | Link to this

Rell, you must have been absent when he was talking about this particular personality with first hand knowledge…meaning he has seen some thangs pop off (LOL)!

By Michelle

January 14, 2009 3:33 PM | Link to this

You ARE a man PG.. More men need to be like you!!

By Tazzee

January 14, 2009 3:34 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe I used to tutor through GP back when I worked for them. Not sure if they’re still at the same school, but I hated when I had to leave my tutee. I did it for 5 years.

I need to get back to mentoring and soon.

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 3:37 PM | Link to this

Leggs

Well I haven’t seen things pop off per se….lol. (I wasn’t in the room. That would have been a three piece meal with two drumsticks and a breast..lol). However, I did state that there was more than just smoke in this case. I know that the wife did not approve.

dayum homie why talk down on another man..do you know is situation…i mean him and his wife could lead another lifestyle…people..smh

You can say the same about people dating. You don’t know their situation, but you call it despicable. smh back at you. Be consistent.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 3:38 PM | Link to this

It was breaking his word if he did,he sinned,right?,accrding to the wrd.Wld u be okay with God forgiving him or u want to be on the high bench when God makes that decison or be informed?? From my cultural stand point,there are things a man wld understand if another man did and in pvt quarters,they will let them know.Its like disciplining my son or daughter.I wldnt go all ballyhoo in public but at home,they will get it.Thats kinda similar to how men treat other transgressing men,in my culture.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 3:40 PM | Link to this

PoppaG, not surprise, but you defninitely know what you need to do! Love the statement that if necessary remove yourself from the temptation. A lot of men walk right up to it like the big bad wolf only to wind up sitting in the corner wondering why they’re now ALONE!

By Rell - i hate hoes, hoes hate me

January 14, 2009 3:42 PM | Link to this

@LEGGS

Rell, you must have been absent when he was talking about this particular personality with first hand knowledge…meaning he has seen some thangs pop off (LOL)

Absent or present..how can another man govern another mans home…he does not know the interworkings of someone elses relationship..he may not agree with it..but its not his problem…and to speak on it is just not cool…period dot.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 3:43 PM | Link to this

You can say the same about people dating. You don’t know their situation, but you call it despicable. smh back at you. Be consistent.

You tell em PG!!! LOL

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 3:43 PM | Link to this

Jill Scott and John R. are expecting a baby in April. awww…babies everywhere.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 3:44 PM | Link to this

Ok, ok, you didn’t see it per se, nonetheless you’re speaking from actions seen and statements made in your presence. Good enuf for me!

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 3:45 PM | Link to this

PoppaG, not surprise, but you defninitely know what you need to do! Love the statement that if necessary remove yourself from the temptation. A lot of men walk right up to it like the big bad wolf only to wind up sitting in the corner wondering why they’re now ALONE!

By i'm swiss

January 14, 2009 3:46 PM | Link to this

“You ever seen a mad black chic in your dream?!”

I will now. ;-) LOL

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 3:46 PM | Link to this

MK

I saw it last week. I just shook my head.

Rell

I just see it as if you wanna be the head, you gotta be held to a higher standard. Doesn’t mean that you have to be perfect, but you gotta do more than the bare minimum.

Respect is lost if you ask someone to do something that you are not willing to do. That comes off as condescending.

Animal instinct is the absolute bare minimum. As humans we were given a power that many other species didn’t get. The ability to reason.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 3:46 PM | Link to this

PoppaG You firing off like a true AT-Lien! Daaannnng!

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 3:46 PM | Link to this

PoppaG You firing off like a true AT-Lien! Daaannnng!

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 3:49 PM | Link to this

Ok, ok, you didn’t see it per se, nonetheless you’re speaking from actions seen and statements made in your presence. Good enuf for me!

By Rell - i hate hoes, hoes hate me

January 14, 2009 3:55 PM | Link to this

but you call it despicable

MAYBE just MAYBE you have me wrong…i dont care about dating or what these chicks do or dont…alot of it is just noise….date have fun live….trust big homie i dont really think like this but i love to debate a point…moving on to the resident white shadow

@swiss..what up dude…..my dude i know all this…what i hate is a chick that EXPECTS it but does not follow the lead..alot of women give lip service to it because it sounds good..but few have the follow through…i just see ish for what it is and alot of em fall short…you do all the work…they do nothing but talk ish and disrespect…period…its funny how some assume that i am just this and that but really have no idea….i just put it out there to see what the masses think…my ideas on love and relationship are far from some of yours…and i am on the good side of the bar…some of you talk a good game but would not hold it if it came down to the get down

By Wise Diva

January 14, 2009 3:55 PM | Link to this

I just see it as if you wanna be the head, you gotta be held to a higher standard - wow, that’s a powerful statement, I am marinating on it

By M'Karyl

January 14, 2009 3:55 PM | Link to this

@PG

Same here…there is no justification for the officer’s actions…none absolutely whatsoever…the brother did not offer one ounce of resistance…and how can you not know the difference between the trigger on a gun and the use of the taser…bull

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 3:59 PM | Link to this

Rell

You missed the conversation. I never governed his home. What are you talking about governing his home?

I stated my opinion. I was asked my opinion and gave my grounds for supporting my opinion. It affected me because the crap ended up on my desk way back when I was working at a different law firm. That is how I know that she did not approve of I wouldn’t have had to work on the case.

I know that there are other relationships like Will and Jada’s where they are BOTH consenting adults. That wasn’t the case here.

Melo

I am human not God. So, my word mean should mean nothing to him. I have neither a heaven nor hell in which to put him. My opinion was given and I am entitled to it. Just like you are entitled to yours.

We can only see the world through OUR own two eyes. I see things my way and you see things your way.

You can take either of our opinions and you STILL need $1.75 to get ticket to ride MARTA.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

January 14, 2009 4:00 PM | Link to this

Rell I am an entertainer…so why shouldn’t I look for one too! LOL

Swiss I am cracking up at you Cracker Barrell statement! LMAO I remember taking road trips to Myrtle Beach from NY and would see these places and as a Yankee I thought, “How racist”! LOL

By i'm swiss

January 14, 2009 4:03 PM | Link to this

@RELL — I’m confused. What are we talking about?

By The Truth

January 14, 2009 4:03 PM | Link to this

Back, what did I miss?

On vows. The most important vow is the one you make to yourself. We see people all the time talking about their wedding vows yet never live up to them, even before the union. There’s no consistency in their life yet they’d have you believe that after that magical day they will be faithful and honest and so on. what they’re doing is selling you a bag of goods. Buy it if you want to but if I had to bet I’d put my money on their past performance before future promises.

Ared caucasions date for suitable mates, thats whats different between them and us. They know love will come much faster and last much longer if they have someone that can provide for their needs. We date for a feeling that we know scientifically will last a short period of time then we feel empty and alone, and start looking for a good lawyer.

Das where you at woman? Come get this big azz bear hug.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 4:04 PM | Link to this

Lemme say this a lil stronger & harder so that Mrs. G will feel a shake whereever she is..

awww…babies everywhere!

hahahaha

Now…mean muggin’:<*( Token. I’m not mean, really i’m swiss.

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 4:08 PM | Link to this

Leggs

Love the statement that if necessary remove yourself from the temptation.

It is definitely something that I had to learn. I worked as a paralegal. it is a female dominated profession. Most males go directly on to law school. So, I had to work with females on a regular. Sometimes real long hours.

WD

It was just what I was taught. We expect more of the President because he represents the country as a whole.

We are head of household represent the house as a whole. What I do reflects upon her as well.

I will be the first to say that marriage ain’t for everyone. My motivation is to keep my word.

Like Tony Montana….”I don’t break my word or my ballz.”

I take it really seriously to the point that my wife’s first words after the wedding ceremony was “I’m sorry that I was late.” She knows that I feel that same way about time. If I say that I am gonna be somewhere, I do everything in my power to be on time.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 4:10 PM | Link to this

I love Cracker Barrel. I was so sad when I moved to the Camp Creek area and found out they closed the Cracker Barrel there!

I like their hash brown casserole, so I learned to make it at home. Big hit.

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 4:12 PM | Link to this

We date for a feeling that we know scientifically will last a short period of time then we feel empty and alone, and start looking for a good lawyer.

Truth, please go away. LOL

By MELO

January 14, 2009 4:12 PM | Link to this

Just like you are entitled to yours i aint taking urs away,nor do i have the means.But im just looking and analyzing urs,just as u looking and analyzing mine.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 4:13 PM | Link to this

@RELL

Absent or present..how can another man govern another mans home… Don’t know how, but we do it every day. In reality as well as in blogsville!

By i'm swiss

January 14, 2009 4:15 PM | Link to this

@Cemeeli — Can’t fool me with the mean mug, Cee — I see that chuckle you’re fighting back.

By kinderbabe

January 14, 2009 4:15 PM | Link to this

tazzee were you at jones elementary when you tutored?

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 4:18 PM | Link to this

@RELL

Absent or present..how can another man govern another mans home… Don’t know how, but we do it every day. In reality as well as in blogsville!

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 4:20 PM | Link to this

Wasn’t going to comment on the “Cracker Barrell” statement made by I’m swiss, but Staceye I feel exactly the same way. I’ve only eaten there one time in all the years I’ve been here.

ARed, you can shoo him away all day long, you know he’s not going to budge.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 4:21 PM | Link to this

ARed The Camp Creek Cracker Barrell was having problems with employees…and some other shady stuff.

i’m swiss You know i stay chuckling.

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 4:21 PM | Link to this

Cee

awww…babies everywhere!

Pass that along to Suisse and his soon to be Mrs. Suisse.

Mrs. PG & I have made the conscious decision to pursue our careers. We just talked about it on New Years Eve. We reserve the right to revisit, but if it comes down to it, one day we can adopt. There are tons of kids that need a good home. We ain’t taking them all..lol

By The Truth

January 14, 2009 4:23 PM | Link to this

Ared please go away. LOL Nope, I’m staying. Otherwise there’ll be nobody to question you all when you make grand gestures of purity, chastity and honesty. Knowing all along you was lying. Btw, we still hanging tonight?

Slim with the large azz camel toe the Us Census Bureau is hiring for temp work. Pay is up to $18.00/hr. Check it out and good luck

www.census.gov/2010censusjobs/index.php or

www.WUSA9.com

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 4:23 PM | Link to this

Poppa do your ring finger start itching when you are spending to much time with the wrong person? LOL

You all have a good one.

By Stormy

January 14, 2009 4:24 PM | Link to this

Swiss

Have you ever dated/considered marrying a sistah? Any of your friends date sistahs? Just curious.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 4:25 PM | Link to this

Wasn’t going to comment on the “Cracker Barrell” statement made by I’m swiss, but Staceye I feel exactly the same way. I’ve only eaten there one time in all the years I’ve been here.

ARed, you can shoo him away all day long, you know he’s not going to budge.

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 4:26 PM | Link to this

Leggs/Staceye

Cracker Barrel is good if you like that southern breakfast thing, like biscuits and gravy or country ham.

The pancakes (especially the ones with strawberries) are very good.

The country store part of the restaurant has the Bob’s Sugar sticks that I love. (soft peppermint sticks)

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 4:28 PM | Link to this

Nope, I’m staying. Otherwise there’ll be nobody to question you all when you make grand gestures of purity, chastity and honesty. Knowing all along you was lying.

Truth, oh yeah…forgot that part. gas face lol

Btw, we still hanging tonight?

Yes, but I’m not gonna give you any because we were not on one accord today. LOL

By are you

January 14, 2009 4:29 PM | Link to this

By Raqi

January 14, 2009 9:55 AM | Link to this

IMO the infant stages of dating is the getting to know you stage. Well actually you learn something new about people as time goes on, even after the nuptials. But anyhoo, amid the having fun activities you get to know and know about each other. Knowing why all of or most of their serious relationships failed is a need to know. Knowing if they have even ever been in a serious relationship is a need to know. And knowing if the other person felt the relationship was serious is a must know.

While no wants to spend time with someone who only talks about their ex, talking about past relationships let’s you know if they are over that person and also let’s you gauge the bitterness level that they may be carrying around.

If a person only have negative words for every past relationship, run. It’s them not the other persons.

Great Point! Are you over Whitebread????????

By Rell - i hate hoes, hoes hate me

January 14, 2009 4:29 PM | Link to this

@STORMY…lol…white dudes love black meat and they usually get the “lean” cuts….but the brothers on the other hand get there table scraps lest you can afford to eat from there table….lol

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 4:30 PM | Link to this

PoppaG Okay…i have 2 friends that have adopted. One friend of mine moved here just last year from Maryland and her and her husband adopted beautiful baby boy. They are so elated with the “family” concept. If only she could get her husband to stop buyin big boy toys for the 6month old. For Christmas dude got babyboy a basketball goal for the driveway. You know he playin’ on it, as he say for the “time being”.

Cee now jinxin’ a baby for the soon to be Mrs. Swiss Miss. Lol..Swiss you best enjoy some time with the soon to be Mrs.…i’m really joking.

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 4:35 PM | Link to this

Raqi

Poppa do your ring finger start itching when you are spending to much time with the wrong person? LOL

No…lol. However, she does seem either call or show up when I’m hanging with a female for a certain period of time.

It is like she has some some jedi training and the force beckons her to call me.

By i'm swiss

January 14, 2009 4:35 PM | Link to this

*”Swiss

Have you ever dated/considered marrying a sistah? Any of your friends date sistahs? Just curious. “*

Stormy — My fiance is Haitian, and I’ve dated other “sistahs” in the past, as well as Japanese, Filipina, Cuban, Brazilian (ah, the Brazilian), German, and yes, plain ol’ white American girls.

As for my friends, well, my black friends do, yes. I can’t think of any of my white friends who have dated black girls.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 4:35 PM | Link to this

Oh, ok, southern breakfast. I don’t eat gravy and biscuits. Can only eat one pancake and never fruit on my food. Thanks. Never understood gravy and biscuits, but I hear they’re good. Can’t do wet bread of any kind! However, I do like those soft peppermint sticks.

By The Truth

January 14, 2009 4:36 PM | Link to this

Ared Yes, but I’m not gonna give you any because we were not on one accord today. LOL You know I’m just saying this stuff to keep it interesting. Ok, you don’t have to give me any. Just let me touch it. I promise I’ll stop there.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 4:37 PM | Link to this

PoppaG you country! The peppermint sticks are a old favorite of many.

Check that the blueberry pancakes are better. and if they bring out 1 to many plates of biscuits/cornmuffins before you even get to ordering your entree, imma explode.

It’s good though!

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 4:40 PM | Link to this

Oh, ok, southern breakfast. I don’t eat gravy and biscuits. Can only eat one pancake and never fruit on my food. Thanks. Never understood gravy and biscuits, but I hear they’re good. Can’t do wet bread of any kind! However, I do like those soft peppermint sticks.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 4:40 PM | Link to this

white dudes love black meat and they usually get the “lean” cuts….but the brothers on the other hand get there table scraps lest you can afford to eat from there table thats another topic for Diva,esp the big and shapeless white chics pulling black dudes.

By Tazzee

January 14, 2009 4:41 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe yes. I was there when you guys were at the old location, through the temporary location and then I saw the new spot right before I left.

small world…

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 4:42 PM | Link to this

Ok, you don’t have to give me any. Just let me touch it. I promise I’ll stop there.

Truth, you sound like my date last week. LMAO.

By The Truth

January 14, 2009 4:42 PM | Link to this

Question: Man or Woman?

http://www.mediatakeout.com/2009/29689-ouchgirrrrrrllllwithyouwearingleggingsthattightwehopeyoudontplanonhavingchildren.html

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 4:47 PM | Link to this

Sorry Truth but I had to laugh out loud at that “just let me touch it and I’ll stop right there” because I was having a conversation w/my daughter along those same lines.

By The Truth

January 14, 2009 4:47 PM | Link to this

Melo I saw a cat the other day walking with a, well I dont even know what it was. Thing is that dude wouldn’t take that same package from a black chick He was pushing a stroller down Hwy 138 with it in tow. Wtf was that about?

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 4:48 PM | Link to this

Leggs You weigh like 50lbs right? I weigh 100 more than you so that’s how i can eat 2 pancake, 2 turkey sausage and eggs down in one setting. hehehe

i don’t do gravy biscuits either.

By Michelle

January 14, 2009 4:49 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Truth!!! That pic is GROSSS!! I don’t know what type of wman that is with lips that large in her pants!!

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 4:49 PM | Link to this

Leggs

I don’t eat gravy…so biscuits and gravy are out. However, I know people who just inhale that stuff.

& Yeah, I am southerner that doesn’t like gravy.

By Stormy

January 14, 2009 4:52 PM | Link to this

Melo the big and shapeless white chics pulling black dudes.

You are right….That seems to be a pattern. I really don’t understand that one. smh

By The Truth

January 14, 2009 4:53 PM | Link to this

Try this one.

http://www.mediatakeout.com/2009/29689-ouchgirrrrrrllllwithyouwearingleggingsthattightwehopeyoudontplanonhavingchildren.html

By Michelle

January 14, 2009 4:53 PM | Link to this

Melo Black men be with out of shape black women too! Cochie is Cochie.. NO?

By Poppa Grande

January 14, 2009 4:54 PM | Link to this

Cee

I don’t like blueberries. So, blueberry pancakes are out.

I’ve tried them many times because they are some of the best antioxidants in the world…fight cancer.

I just don’t like’em. Just like my wife hates butterbeans, I hate blueberries.

By MELO

January 14, 2009 4:56 PM | Link to this

well,there is no white america nor black america,just the united states of america.Blame it on the mutt..jk

By AmazonRed

January 14, 2009 4:56 PM | Link to this

the big and shapeless white chics pulling black dudes.

This is one of my co-workers. She’s a big white girl with a black boyfriend. Beau saw her and said for a white girl she had azz, and that’s probably why black guys step to her. I’ve never seen her with a white guy. She may have a big azz, but has a big stomach to match. Pretty face though and long blond hair.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 4:58 PM | Link to this

Cee you’re funny. I’m 118. Thank you. Pancake and a tall glass of cold milk and I’m good for that particular breakfast.

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 4:59 PM | Link to this

PoppaG Cee now drinking her favorite juice to kill off that flubug ya’ll got going around.

Acai pomergrante/blueberry juice. then, i mix with a energy drink sometimes.

If i have to say so myself… I make a fiya bleeberry/peach/honey smoothie. luv me some blueberries

By DreamsMaterialize

January 14, 2009 5:00 PM | Link to this

ARed Yeah we were supposed to do lunch. Then I went on blog sabbatical…sorry. lol What’s your schedule looking like? And don’t call it a lunch “meeting”. Sounds like we’ll be discussing 4th quarter sales and potential mergers & acquisitions. lol

By Cemeeli

January 14, 2009 5:01 PM | Link to this

Leggs whad?…ha?…118 <—-chile, what’s that like a size 2? Gurl, i bet you can holla-hoop a Cheerios! :)

~ Enjoy your evening…

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 5:02 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

Sleep tight tonight…it’s gonna be a cold one!

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 5:03 PM | Link to this

Cee you’re funny. I’m 118. Thank you. Pancake and a tall glass of cold milk and I’m good for that particular breakfast.

By Leggs

January 14, 2009 5:07 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

Sleep tight tonight…it’s gonna be a cold one!