Misadventures in Atlanta

By Not Me!

December 10, 2008 8:24 AM | Link to this

Surprisingly I have dated sisters and almost by accident. I met the first sister and dated her for a few months after being intiment but broke up under normal circumstances. Years later, I was at a party and had a one nighter and found out that she was the sister of the girl dated before.

I kind of got a kinky and yuck feeling because she knew all along and was just in a competition with her older sis.

By Brian

December 10, 2008 8:34 AM | Link to this

Morning all,, I see everyone is still stuck in traffic…

She needs to find a new circle to hang in,, I think she loves the attention that she is getting.. Long, long, long time ago, we had a friend that was the jump off for the crew also.. She went from one guy to the other.. None of us took her serious.. And Im pretty sure the next guy in line already knows, that his boy hit it already.. Not being mean, but Im just saying. Act like a jump off get treated like one..

By Tammy

December 10, 2008 8:36 AM | Link to this

First of all speaking from experience,I do not agree with dating people in the same circle.I was in a relationship and the guy cheated and me being a woman wanted to hurt the other guy and ended up dealing with his roommate for a little over a year and I really regreted doing it because I liked the roommate better.SEX WAS OFF THE CHAIN.After over a year I had to ask myself “WOULD HE AND I EVER BE IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP”and my answer was NO,JUST SEX.I learned then we as women should never BELITTLE ourselves because to me I disrespected myself and there are too many people in the world to have to deal with someone in the same circle.To ans.the question should she tell the “NEW GUY”,YES SHE SHOULD.When you first meet someone secrets should never be, because to me you are starting it off in a lie.Put everything on the table and let the other person make the choice.

By Sassette aka Kym

December 10, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Well Brian has summed this one up early. It appears Jessica is being “passed through the crew”, only she is apparently to stupid to catch on. Also the dude she is not wanting to date is not eager to get with her because he is in love with her..(I think that is just her side of the story) no dude is just eager for his turn. Like Brian said you act like a jump off you get treated like a jump off. New topic.

By Foots

December 10, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this

I agree with Brian. John knows that Derek dated her. She’s the jump off of the group. Tell her to please not date anyone else of the same group. Stop shooting fish in the barrel and realize that there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Oh, and Good Morning…

By ATLGAL

December 10, 2008 8:45 AM | Link to this

She needs to find a new love.

By Lori

December 10, 2008 8:51 AM | Link to this

A friend’s ex is always off limits. A friend betrayed me in this way, however he was my husband. She is no longer my friend and they got married. I have a son with my ex and that is the main reason to be cordial with her. I did forgive her though. Since they have been married he has always cheated on her and he beats her. They have lost alot because of her allowing him to take care of these other women. I feel sorry for her.

By Tim

December 10, 2008 8:54 AM | Link to this

She can’t be so blind as not to see what is going on!! There is an old saying around the way, ” your girl belongs to you, but the hoes belong to everybody!” Someone needs to give the girl a clue….

By Dat Dude

December 10, 2008 8:56 AM | Link to this

1st, AJC needs to get a writer that can write or new editors. This column is so poorly written with a few mistakes. 2nd, your girl is a jump off. Brian is a smart man for calling a spade a spade. Your girl is fast and you just put her on blast.

By KP (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

December 10, 2008 8:56 AM | Link to this

She should definitely disclose the prior relationship. Trying to hide will only backfire in the end. Not to mention…she’ll look pretty shady if she tries to cover-up or avoid addressing her previous relationship with Derek.

By Dan

December 10, 2008 9:00 AM | Link to this

@Foots

If she was the jumpoff, it would only be sex.

Once, twice maybe (and with the homeboy’s consent unless they some dirty rats)

But if there has been one or more dates…..

It violates the G Code, but that dude might be trying to wife her.

By ATL Guy

December 10, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

What up ROOM!!

So I went out with this girl once, first date…hit it off. Like 6 hrs of non-stop talking. Things were Good! She mentioned she had dated a friend of mine before on the date. We just realized we knew mutual people. So my first thought was, did she break if off with him or other way around?? I don’t need to mess with Baggage!

Next couple days, pool party, my friend who dated her was there and I was there too. Awkward. She was acting all of a sudden standoffish and definitely had more history with the other guy (since I just met this girl). I called her after the party a bit confused by her keeping her distance all of a sudden. I guess I didn’t know how their relationship ended or what history they had. We decided being friends would be a good move because I’m not going to date my guy friend’s ex especially when it seemed somehow unresolved.

By Sassette aka Kym

December 10, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

The blog newsdesk(minus Muse because he quit) has started a new segment.

The morning idiot

Today’s idiot is the woman who was crossing the street downtown near Auburn Ave. This idiot was holding a cup of coffee in one hand, umbrella in the other hand, and talking on her cellphone by holding it on her shoulder. If that is not bad enough the idiot was crossing on the green light, and trying to run. For this behavior lady you are the morning idiot!

By mytwocents

December 10, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

Happy Rainy Hump Day y’all. My kinda weather.

I heart you for this, especially, Dat Dude: Your girl is fast and you just put her on blast.

I was discussing this idea recently, KP, of how trying to cover up looks shady. It wasn’t an ex, but a gift from a platonic pal - well pal may be too strong of a word - associate. Hiding the gift is what potentially makes it an issue, when it isn’t.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

Of course John knows that Derek dated her. She just needs to tell John. Also, if she’s not careful, her reputation will be tarnished.

I’m hungry!

By kevmoor2005

December 10, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

I think Jessica should just bang all of Ricks friends and get it over with.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 9:22 AM | Link to this

blank stare

Folks go around making their lives way more complicated then they need to be. You would think there were only 2 guys in America with this scenario.

Morning everyone. :-)

By Sassette aka Kym

December 10, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

Leggs Her rep is already there. She date guy one for a month or two(which in real life means 3 weeks) and then they broke off because in her account the sex was bad..heck his story might be I hit it a few times, found it less than average and pushed the hell on. Done. So now Ms. Popular is back on the train..and meets guy 2 who already knows she dated his boy and while she comes with an A(for average) rating..he feels like hell, if I get a BJ out of it cool. Oh girl is the jumpoff—accept it. These things happen.

By DASvenus

December 10, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

good morning good ppl

the real question: is jessica the pass around gurl? and is rick pimpin her??

in the scheme of things rick is going after his goal. he is setting jessica up for failure and when her esteem is shattered by the discovery that she is if not a ho…. ho-ish, he will be there to soothe her concerns and make her ‘wHOle’ again.

to be a woman of integrity, she needs to cut rick loose. find someone new to introduce her to men available to date. IMO

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

“If you see a dumb chick slap her with a brick!!!”

Brought to you by the makers of the “Dumb Chick Rubber Bricks”. Get them while supplies last.

By mytwocents

December 10, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Dan Today is one of your more optimistic days. Does he wanna wife her or does he really wanna find out firsthand bout the trick she does with her tongue and a shoe string?

By Snow Flakes

December 10, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

I don’t see anything wrong with dating an ex of a friend of yours just do YOU and what ever makes YOU happy

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

And although Jessica should tell John that’s she’s dated Derek, she won’t have to. She keeps meeting guys through Rick. Rick has already spilled the beans. Man code.

Heck, I’d let my girl know the deal if I allowed myself to deal in messy situations like that.

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

and is rick pimpin her??

Das it makes you wander doesn’t it. For this guy to be so in love with her how is it that he is bringing all of these guys around for her to be meeting and falling for. A little farfetched to imagine, but not really.

By ATL Guy

December 10, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

SnowFlakes agree with you except then there is baggage from that previous friend’s relationship. Not worth it to me

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Lori, I too feel sorry for her. Hell, I feel sorry for anyone who gets beat on and don’t know how to get out of the situation!

Sassettee, no doubt her rep is there, but she can help by not making it any worse than it already is. No doubt, she needs to stop dating within that circle of friends.

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

Now on topic, I say tell him. Not that he already doesn’t know, but she should be the one to tell him. And if asked why the previous ended she should keep it at “It just didn’t work out.”

If they dated for any length of time chances are his friends already know about her.

By Brian

December 10, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

Blanca, If you know Rick I have some advice for him…

If he stops paying attention to her. Starts acting like she invisble when every she comes around and that he has better things going on in his life besides her, mixed with just a smidgen of arrogance,, phoof early Christmas gift…

By Dan

December 10, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

@MY2

No guy wants to walk around with the town slut.

So if it was just sex, he wouldn’t date her, taking her out beyond the booty - indicates a different agenda.

Now if he was trying to find out what she does with a garden knome and a AA battery, he can talk that up with the homeboys after

TO continue to take this chick around is something else entirely

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

Good Wet Morning All!

Techie Hustlers/Ebay Kings and Queens –

I received this phone call @ 6:49 am.

Cuzin Quent says: Hey, what’s up bay. I have an XBOX and a BlackJack I wanna sell to you.

Cee says: Okay, what? Why you call me so early?

Quent: Been up since 5:30 and I ain’t gotta go to work til later… yada yada …

Cee: What are you really $$$ pinnin’ for with this phone/XBOX deal, Quentin?

Cuz: Im’a sell you the Black Jack for 30, and the XBOX for 300.

Cee: Lemme process this before I decide. Bye.

7:32 am Cee gets up with the said turtle walk, and go on and prepare for the work day.

7:40 am Cuz Quent AGAIN, says; What chu’ think cuz?

At this point I’m laughing, for real….is Craigslist and Ebay and all them turning folks into addicts?

I mean really?!?! He’s acting like a techie junkie for real! Calling all early and folks are tryin to get ready for work that time of morning.

And look, this fool > Now he’s blowing up my phone with text.

Be right back….

By Tim

December 10, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

Hey Dan….

If she is doing the thing with the knome and the dbl A, then I am in too!!!

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

Ok, last mention about my b-day, but I had to share this. My daughter left cards for me throughout the house when I got home last night. This was the funniest…

Wow! 50 years is a long time! Do you realize that when you were a kid….

Remote meant a secluded spot off the beaten path Cable was something that supported a bridge A video game was trying to make out what the fuzzy imagaes were on a snowy black and white 10 inch tv screen A cell phone was what you used to make your one phone call from jail A calculator was the accountant who did your taxes An airbag was some guy who talked too much Digital computing was counting on your fingers High speed access was an on-ramp to the expressway surfing something was done on a board in the ocean And a birthday was something you ACTUALLY looked forward to.

I cracked up cuz it’s all true, except the last sentence.

Back to regularly scheduled topic

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

That was pretty good Leggs.

By Donna Gates

December 10, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

I need to back up. There’s something to be said about the fact that Jessica slept with a man so soon after meeting him. I am also surmising that she is one that feels a need to always have a man. What I would say about all of this is that Jessica doesn’t need to be dating ANYONE. She has some internal emotional issues that become obvious in her relationships with men. Maybe this is a good time to enjoy being single and reflect…

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Being messy doesn’t make you a slut.

So Jessica meets Derek over the summer and starts dating him. And after a few weeks, she’s sleeping with him. According to the big bad men on this blog, that’s what supposed to happen in the dating scene right? Girls give it up the after a few dates? Heck even on the first night? So how is Jessica a slut? Moving on…

So she meets John last week. Summer ended in August and it’s now December. They haven’t even gone on a date yet! How is she a slut exactly?

The situation is messy indeed, just because she’s dating in the same circles. But until she’s knocking off every guy in her presence, I fail to see how she’s a slut in this scenario.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

The question she has is this: Does she tell John that she used to see Derek? Or does she leave that up to the boys to figure out?

Rick, John, and Derek already know.

…and their other 4 potnas too!

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

This is more wet wet than I can handle.

Dan this reminds me of a gangbang that happened at Ft Ord in Cali when I was stationed there. After the party a guy took the chick to his room and layed with her all night, then got caught with her in the room the next morning. Anyway, he wound up wifing the chick up. Apparently he never got the updated ammendment on “how to treat a ho”.

Kym I’m proud of you for reading between the lines on the 2-3 month thing really being a few week. Some chicks really think we believe those skewed numbers.

Tim I like that saying in your 854.

Newsflash: Due to the weather I’ve decided to cancel this morning and try again this afternoon. I’ll be here laying on my 2 sided pillow top with my trusted remote in my hand and my dogs on the floor. All I need is one of you ladies to come over and hook up an omelet with muffins and juice and I’ll consider today a success.

By Tim

December 10, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Truth:

Does anyone know if Jessica can cook? My man truth needs his breakfast;)

By Sassy Me

December 10, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

Mornin all….this is my very first blog so please be gentle. On the real, there are rules that my girls and I have about dating an ex…don’t do it. However if HE was just the jump off and a good jump off then the rest remains to be seen. I’ve released one or two to be passed around b/c the stick was the bomb but I’ve never had any of my friends seconds. My ego wouldn’t let me do it.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Had to laugh at you SassyMe. You went and flipped the script!

By Blow Me

December 10, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

Yes she is the d@mn jumpoff. I had friend like this who screwed 2 brothers and some how she thought she was the queen of the night. lol! Yeah fuggin right! In her sick little mind she thought it was okay and oh so funny…It’s the most whorish stupid thing one can do. Men or Women..At then end of the day they are comparing stories and laughing together…on how big of a dirty SLORE she was!

Blanca And you wonder why Truth gives you NO let up…He is gonna lay into you today…It confirms what he has been thinking…not that it matters but it is starting to fall in line. lol!! You are makin it to easy for Truth

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

I got a situation I want to hear you all’s opinion on a little later. It’s a bit early to be changing the tune.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

in the scheme of things rick is going after his goal. he is setting jessica up for failure and when her esteem is shattered by the discovery that she is if not a ho…. ho-ish, he will be there to soothe her concerns and make her ‘wHOle’ again.

Well damn DasV. I hadn’t even thought about that. Rick is setting up the finale in his own Cap’n Sav-A-Ho movie. O-kay.

Cee, Quent needs that bread. He ain’t calling you that early ‘cause he can’t sleep. Quit BS’in and let him know what’chu gon’ do. I think he should be commended for looking out for you, knowing that you might want to get it for Shorty Snot-Nose. LMAO :D

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

DasV When we gon’ get a game?

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

Although we don’t like it, no matter the scenario the woman (or women) in the situation will always be viewed as being foolish or played.

If one woman dates and beds a circle of friends, she is more than likely to be viewed as less than honorable. The guys used her.

If a circle of girl friends dates and beds one guy, they are more than likely to be viewed as less than honorable. He used them.

It’s always a lose lose situation for the female(s).

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

The moment Rick made his feelings known for me, any of the friends I meet through him would be off limits. It just makes life easier.

So Jessica’s kind of cold for that.

The new guy, Derek, is either grimy for dating someone he knew his boy dated, or there really wasn’t really much of a relationship there to begin with.

We’ve talked about this one before (I think)… what was the blog consensus on dating someone that your friend only dated casually? They dated a few months, had sex, but no commitment was established.

That’s why the whole scenario is too complicated. She should never dipped into Rick’s dating pool to begin with.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Although we don’t like it, no matter the scenario the woman (or women) in the situation will always be viewed as being foolish or played.

Amen Raqi, which is why I’d rather be called a prude, rigid, or even high and mighty then to engage myself in complicated scenarios that will cast one off as a skank at the end of the day.

There will always be a double standard in these matters, I chose to accept that rather than fight it. LOL

By M'Karyl

December 10, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

On Topic:

What I find that interesting is that she is, according to her, not attracted to Rick but she seems to immediately click with his friend’s…uh-huh…sumthin’ ain’t quite right with that MO…believe it…that just does not seem coincidental to me…not at all…I could see if she encountered someone of interest through her friendship with Rick, but not everytime she meets his friends should this be happening…I hope this child is still young (i.e 20’s) and still growing because that kind of behavior could get her labled as Brian stated as a jump off, buddy pddy*, etc…maybe not as the original intention but rather as the ultimate consequence…and in the end all she will have to say about it is that she slept around with several friend’s of her friend…she should be more concerned with what her behaviors convey about her…she needs to check her movtivation for that behavior…why this type of attention with the particalur men??…what type of attention do I seem to need? and why?…and then try to find men to date in other places.

By mytwocents

December 10, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Dan Walk around? No, he doesn’t wanna walk around with her at all. YOU suggested he wanted to wife her and I reject that! hahhahaaa But in the case that I’m wrong and he does… then just cus he doesn’t view/treat her as a slutbucket doesn’t mean she ain’t one to the rest of the circle. And he’s a clown. Sorry Jess n Rick or Derek or Tom or Harry.

By Boss

December 10, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

She should go ahead and let Rick slap that Apple Bottom. At least she can say that he DID IT FOR LOVE!!

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Ared We’ve talked about this one before (I think)… what was the blog consensus on dating someone that your friend only dated casually? They dated a few months, had sex, but no commitment was established.

Once your boy has talked to a broad for two weeks, she is off limits; because by that time you have to assume that, he has made an insertion.

Disclaimer ===> Not to say that every chick is givin’ up the skins and performing f****** in as little as two weeks, but many are.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Blue hush…i know what Quent is doing….He goes on to tell me he got a new TV and that the XBOX free with the purchase of his new 50’ inch HD from said going out of business store. He said the deal was advertised on cyber-Monday to get a free XBOX Elite with purchase of a 50in for 1198.00 so he grabs deal. When the TV came the XBOX was not accompanied in the shipment, but XBOX was listed on his receipt (but not on the packing form). So he calls 800, goes back and forth with representative and they eventually shipped the console. Says he really not a XB gamer like that so he wont use the unit to the full potential…blah..blah..blah…wants to sell it on EBay for more…blah, blah….But wanna sell it to me for $300.

I think he should be selling it for less.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

Once your boy has talked to a broad for two weeks, she is off limits; because by that time you have to assume that, he has made an insertion.

BK, that’s what I think too.

By Sassette aka Kym

December 10, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Truth What do you think about the mess going on with the Governor of Illinois. I am thinking dude went off the grid and is going to have a “accident” soon or possible “kill himself” because of the stress of this whole episode.

Corruption thy name is politics

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 10, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Lori sounds like you should thank her for taking that loser off your hands. And as you can see Karma is a b*tch so she got what she deserved for being a skank! Men come and go but your friend….your true friend would never do that. Have I ever been attracted to a my friend’s ex..sure. But did I or will I ever act upon it…..HELL NO! There are lines that should never be crossed. If I can’t a “friend” to be around my man then that person should NOT be considered my friend. I learned that upon moving here because it seems like the man desperation level in ATL is so high that it causes women to become stupid and screw a friend over just to have a man. But they never think that if that man cheated on you with them that he WILL do it again…but this time on you!

*Ared Of course when its a woman sleeping with guys that are friends…she is s slut. But if it were teh other way around it it was guy going through a circle of women…well he is the man! You know that BS! I think she got her freak on with whomever she wanted to….so the hell what! Go Jess..now go find yourself a new pool of booty girl because that one is very contaminated! NEXT! However, I wouldn’t make that a practice of d*ck hopping amongst friends.

**

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Amazon my take on Double Standards is, get in where you fit in. They are what they are. Don’t go around trying to beat them or change them because you just lose face in doing so. There are and will always be things that one gender can get a pass on that the other can’t.

By Tazzee

December 10, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

amen to Raqi’s 10:42

By Dan

December 10, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

That’s not always the case. like Sassy said, some men live by the “word of mouth” to get more women, and in the case that I was sent through to a couple friends - all the better.

There is no double standard - only to the extent that person views themselves.

If you think you’re a slut (or man-slut) then you are. No one else can define that for you.

Likewise, if you’re “having fun” then that’s a choice you make.

For me, other people labels mean as much as toilet tissue, usable for a set of specific purposes and then disposable.

@My2

That’s just my point. She might be a slut (to the crew) and he’s lame to them.

But if he likes her and is willing to have that reputation, that’s on him.

It’s about choices

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

Cee I think he should be selling it for less.

I fee you there. E’rybody knows that street value is 50%.

But look here, …said as I pull my friend Cee to the side. :) When our boy Quent comes through with the fat deal, you make sure you get on the grapevine and and holla at your boy Blue ;).

By Tim

December 10, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed,

I disagree with you point that the woman will always be view poorly… If she is allowing herself to be passed around, then that is what she gets, but if she is making the choice to express her sexuality in those terms, and she is confidant and open about it then there is a certain amount of respect that from doing your thing on your terms. In this case, It sounds like she is getting passed around while looking for a man.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

Amazon my take on Double Standards is, get in where you fit in. They are what they are. Don’t go around trying to beat them or change them because you just lose face in doing so. There are and will always be things that one gender can get a pass on that the other can’t.

Raqi - I agree 1000%!!!

And I embrace the double standards that work in my favor. LOL

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

ouw…sorry…did i comment on topic?

yea, i agree with whatever yall said.

Lol..

By Blow Me

December 10, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

Raqi *If a circle of girl friends dates and beds one guy, they are more than likely to be viewed as less than honorable. He used them.

It’s always a lose lose situation for the female(s).*

I have to disagree…slightly. To me a man is just as a disgusting SLORE that a jumpoff is viewed. Its wack as fugg. I guess women like myself want something PURE and UNTOUCHED…..I don’t want a PIG who has stuck my homie or has plans on doing so.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

she is making the choice to express her sexuality in those terms, and she is confidant and open about it then there is a certain amount of respect that from doing your thing on your terms.

Tim - That’s just one mans opinion though. There are plenty of others that will judge her for being a slut or a jump off. I’d rather not even play that game, and that’s just me.

But uh…how is she just expressing her sexuality with a guy she hasn’t even dated yet? There is only one guy in the story that she’s had sex with.

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Kym I’ve just kind of read through it but haven’t done alot of research. Sounds like a normal day in the life of a politician if you ask me. Somebody didn’t like him and snitched him out. LOL

CC Sabathia’s about to sign a 7 yr/$160 million contract with the yankees. DAYUUUM

OJ’s 4 co-defendants get probation and no jail time. Our legal system is a friggin joke. Everyoone commits a crime but if you snitch first you get off free. WOW

Ladies, dont fret over the double standards. Most go in your favor.

By DASvenus

December 10, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Ared surprised at you. exactly what is your definition of ‘slut’…. vs ‘livin messy’? your sleepover circle cannot be that narrow. on any level. its unacceptable in high school, in college, in life. you have to have a wider circumference than your friend’s friend… rationalizing by defining degrees of ‘messy’ is at best naive. update: ok now i see you are saying that you agree that if a broad talks to a boy for two weeks she is off limits.

i guess all that makes sense to you. messy is if she goes and starts talking to another potna, and slut is ……. if she has sex.

biggest misconception is that slutty behavior is defined by sex alone. IMO

bluK yea. checked out that pogo thing last night. we can play whenever! I signed up but i am not a club member… not prepared to walk into the dark paying 30 upfront. lemme know what your moniker is for the sight. mines is DASVENUS.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Ared And I embrace the double standards that work in my favor. LOL

Like what:

I’m just askin’… LOL

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

DASV - I didn’t call her a slut. I called her the opposite exactly.

And I think the situation is messy because she’s dating guys who are not only friends, but who she keeps meeting through a guy who has made his feelings known for her.

Do you find that situation simple?

When you have to start off dating someone with the workds “I have to tell you something” there just may be complications involved.

How do you see it otherwise?

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Question, why every other day, one of you guys are posting about a woman expecting a dude to pay a bill? I have never, ever asked a guy to pay a bill for me. Is that part of the dating psyche after a while the man has to pay a bill or two????

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Dan self interpretation huh? I would say unaccountability. It’s no different than when a lazy shiftless person claims “laid-backness”. Definition by way of actions speaks for itself. If left up to us all our actions would go unpunished. We all can find justification for every ill deed that we performed. However, how I want to view it or chose to view it as it pertains to me does not change what it is.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

BK - Yes to the cop one and free drinks one. No on all the others.

By BreZee

December 10, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

Your girl is playing herself big time if she goes out with Derek’s friend. First thing that popped to my mind after reading this scenario was “JUMPOFF”. Not a good look at all…. Watch your back, she might try to go for yours when you’re done with it… Hot mess. Tell your girl to keep her panties up and play in a new sandbox.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 10, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

So talking to someone for 2 weeks automatically means that they have slept together? D*mn…since when did women become so easy and fast? 2 weeks barely scratches the surface of getting to know me. I am not giving the goods up that soon. If you don’t like it that move on son! I don’t sleep with every dude who takes me out to dinner and talks to me on the phone.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

BTW- Blue/For Real

Okay, you caught me yesturday. I may had was trippin’.

I caught the “female simp” comment, and “good gurl tricks” intention wrong…now poking myself in the eye with an icepick. I read all ‘at, with the bad bench eye and then tried to reply in the school gurl answer wit it. School gurl know dang well she ain’t ready for the big leagues. hahahaha…

Now, since i’ve had my brkfst and fooled with my folks on the phone; Im’a use my “bought sense”…

Yes, dude that i profess my love to could get it on credit, and i’ll make the payments. There’s not “hold” on the credit limit….

feel me?

Cee now dropping the mic, and walking away with her 100% authentic simpin’ Kangol hat tilt to the side…

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

DasV I’m not a club member either. I’m one800

Truth OJ’s 4 co-defendants get probation and no jail time. Our legal system is a friggin joke. Everyoone commits a crime but if you snitch first you get off free. WOW

Man, in this society you have to go at it like any animal surviving in the wild. Some berries, you don’t fugg with - they’ll destroy your stomach. Frogs, toads, & snakes with the bright pretty colors, you don’t fugg with - they’ll poison you. And if you do get yourself hurt, you retreat to a safe haven until you heal - you ain’t hangin’ out at the watering hole with a broken leg and a tooth missing.

OJ is one dumb azz Black man. He was totally set up and couldn’t see the trap covered by the fake grass. SMH

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Question, why every other day, one of you guys are posting about a woman expecting a dude to pay a bill?

Leggs - Cuz they’ve paid some bills before. LOL

I also have never had a guy pay a bill for me. That includes cash payments too. LOL

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Don’t you think she’s looking less appealing in Rick’s eyes? Better yet, Blanca, do you see Rick changing his behavior to be similar to the 2 dudes your friend is attracted to in the hopes she may soon find him worthy of dating (worthy not a good word, but you know what I mean)?

By Tim

December 10, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Leggs,

Its unfortunate, but far to often, the pay my bill request is standard fare. The sad part is, that if you are a paymaster, there will ALWAYS be a woman / women around to hook you up in return. In fact for some dudes, that is the key to their game.

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

ARED all of Blanca’s topics are simple. It’s a bunch of little girls that haven’t figured out what they want in life or have no clue how to go about getting it. I’d have more respect for them if they just said “I don’t want a long term term relationship, I just want sex”. Thing is they’re not mentally capable of seperating the two and wind up looking like fools.

I feel for you ladies because you are the first in history (over the last 30 years or so) to not have viable mates waiting for you to hit your prime. This causes what past civilizations must have known would happen, you go out and make stupid azzed decisions and compound them by making another bad one.

By KP (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

December 10, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Rick is simple too. I’d have an issue seriously being with someone that my friend/homeboy had been sexual with. I’m not sure how much time has gone by, but hopefully enough that jessica and derek have purged each other from their systems. If Rick and Jessica are truly meant to be together, then everything will work itself out. Hopefully, she keeps her panites up until she figures out if she truly has a future with Rick.

There will always be that uncomfortable feeling when they are all in the same place. Guys are not necessarily fans of knowing that someone has been intimate with their woman…especially someone they know.

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

Blow I never said that a man that sleeps around frequently and carelessly was not indeed a slut. What I said was a man will get a pass in both situations quicker than a woman ever will. It is what it is. It has been since the beginning of time and there has yet to be a woman born that can or has changed it.

And you know some things we shouldn’t mind someone else cornering the market on.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

Wow, standard fare…that’s a damn shame! Ok, guess I’ve been enlightened.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

Is there really a Tornado Warning until 3pm?

what us gon’ do?…I wanted to get out of here for lunch. Actually i shouldn’t even be at work!

Truth what’s it like at home?

hahaha

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

Rick is simple too. I’d have an issue seriously being with someone that my friend/homeboy had been sexual with.

KP (I think you meant John) That’s the part that’s troubling me too.

When do boys start bringing the girls they “casually” date around their friends? (Blog question for the men)

If she only dated first dude for a month or two, his crew of friends probably didn’t know about her.

By Blow Me

December 10, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

@ Leggs, Truth, ARED Men are funny Leggs The one’s who can pay their bills and get along with out feeling co dependent of a man…seem to get push to the wayside…and all the under qualified..only good for laying on their backs women are the first one’s UP..I have never asked a guy to pay a bill for me either. I have too much pride…I always let’s him know I can take care of my own and I will not be dyck fed to make it along in this world. lol ! I guess that’s why we are on a SINGLES blog..because we don’t get it!! We need to be more needy and co dependent…I guess men feel more needed when you actually NEED them like life support. I don’t think I could let go of myself and actually depend solely on a man…it would feel very vulnerable. lol! Like really for everything….like everything! Scary! Not that it can’t or won’t happen..I just would like to provide and call shots for myself that’s all…not taking nothing from him..I just want to know that I can do it.

By Blanca

December 10, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

DASvenus in the scheme of things rick is going after his goal. he is setting jessica up for failure and when her esteem is shattered by the discovery that she is if not a ho…. ho-ish, he will be there to soothe her concerns and make her ‘wHOle’ again. Whoa nelly! Do we think people really operate that way? My sense is that Rick (because I know him) is probably a little more than hurt that his better looking friends have a chance with the girl he wants. Your proposal, however, definitely has a sexier twist! ;)

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

Leggs I have never, ever asked a guy to pay a bill for me. Is that part of the dating psyche after a while the man has to pay a bill or two????

Not at all, those were simple examples of possible feminine double-standards that they could use to their advantage. But since you want to go there, let’s be honest - how many women do you know of that are being monetarily assisted by dudes?

Staceye So talking to someone for 2 weeks automatically means that they have slept together? Dmn…since when did women become so easy and fast? 2 weeks barely scratches the surface of getting to know me. I am not giving the goods up that soon.

If you don’t like it that move on son! I don’t sleep with every dude who takes me out to dinner and talks to me on the phone.*

Trust me, if we’ve been hanging out and we’re talking on the phone LIKE THAT, even if I ain’t hitting it yet, after two weeks you want me to hit it. So GTFOH with all’at extra.

By Dan

December 10, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

There’s accountability

There’s self identification

There’s “how the world views/labels you”

And there’s if you care.

From which “framework” are you asking the question?

You’re only accountable to yourself (and God if you believe), no one else.

How you live you life is a choice, how others view you is their problem, and if you care, it becomes your problem. The solution, to not care how people view you or your actions.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

There will always be that uncomfortable feeling when they are all in the same place. Guys are not necessarily fans of knowing that someone has been intimate with their woman…especially someone they know.

KP That’s why it is still, what it is…= games. I wouldn’t expect that said scenario to still be played out with folks that are truly stand up, & ready to call it quits to the top-head “circles”, and games.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

Wow, standard fare…that’s a damn shame! Ok, guess I’ve been enlightened.

Leggs, you don’t have any girlfriends that get some bills paid? I have several. Most of them expect it from their boyfriends. I had one friend that met some guy on Craigslist that gave her $500 to get a Gucci bag. :-/

I asked Beau if he’s ever done it, and he’s said he has for girlfriends. If he’s spending time in their homes, eating their groceries and using up their electricity…if they are in need of it, he’s helped out before.

By mytwocents

December 10, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

Yes, Cee, thank goodness ya boys looked out… WTH@!%! I am cuttin short the probationary period n definitely puttin you in the ‘best comprehends logic when sourced from peeni posessors’ lane … so done.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

My sense is that Rick (because I know him) is probably a little more than hurt that his better looking friends have a chance with the girl he wants.

Blanca I didn’t want to say it, but I figured he was aestetically challenged. LOL

By Blanca

December 10, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

ATL Guy Hey! Where have you been? Is it just me or have you been MIA on the MIA blog for awhile? At least when Blanca is around….?

By Brian

December 10, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

@BK OJ is one dumb azz Black man. He was totally set up and couldn’t see the trap covered by the fake grass. SMH

Come on now, don’t say that.. Can you imagine every racist A#$ DA, backwoods Sheriff, and any other racist authority that I forgot to mention coming after you, Black man murdered WF, it was only a matter of time!! He was free, but he really wasn’t… If that makes sense..

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

mytwo peeni posessors??

By Dan

December 10, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

@Truth

Perceptive and true.

But, let’s not mitigate the fact that the same guy that got married (with kids) was among the choices when she started making mistakes (with character, judgement, expression of sexuality).

@Tim

Her asking me to pay bills (and yes Ms. Leggs there are prostitutes) is like me asking for sex on the first date or immediately after she asks.

It’s an offer for a quid pro quo exchange. If I’m with it, she good. If she with my offer, I’m good.

Not different than a buying Christmas gifts.

But that makes me a Simp and her a Ho, ho, ho.

By Blanca

December 10, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed Blanca I didn’t want to say it, but I figured he was aestetically challenged. LOL Girl you Always make me laugh! An update on the Jess situation. After she and John had some scheduling problems (he rescheduled their date for this week twice) she told him that it’s probably best they not go out as she dated his friend over the summer. His response: “Oh really? Yeah, that would be awkward.” All is well that ends well?

By Tim

December 10, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Maybe Blanca’s ugly friend should start paying some of Jessica’s bills. She might give him some play if he did!

By Jamoca

December 10, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Hello you all!… sneeking on in…

my take on Double Standards is, get in where you fit in. They are what they are. Don’t go around trying to beat them or change them because you just lose face in doing so. There are and will always be things that one gender can get a pass on that the other can’t.

How you live you life is a choice, how others view you is their problem, and if you care, it becomes your problem. The solution, to not care how people view you or your actions.

…and I concur. Overall, very interesting points though.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Truth I feel for you ladies because you are the first in history (over the last 30 years or so) to not have viable mates waiting for you to hit your prime. This causes what past civilizations must have known would happen, you go out and make stupid azzed decisions and compound them by making another bad one.

Leggs I think Truth went home and got some rest, ‘cause it looks like he’s back to normal. ^^^ Dayummmm.

Brian Come on now, don’t say that.. Can you imagine every racist A#$ DA, backwoods Sheriff, and any other racist authority that I forgot to mention coming after you,

Two thoughts for you:

Point is, dude had freedom, his kids, and cash. All he needed was a little more sense, and he’d be aight.

By Sassy Me

December 10, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

You guys all made good points but it still is what it is. If I’m in an exclusive relationship then I’m in it all the way till the wheels fall off ‘cause I love hard. When I’m single it’s totally different. If it’s understood in the beginning that you’re only my rainy day lover then run it. What happens is after the relations one person always catches feelings and things start to fall apart….and after that there is nothing to do but be apart. Some men and women try to do that and fail b/c the other has put that thayow on them and they start trippin’. If you can’t stand that kind of heat then don’t go in the kitchen It’s not for everyone and maybe ol girl who started this whole thing was just gettin’ her freak on with whom she felt….to each his/her own. Ya dig?

By DASvenus

December 10, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

Ared i agree with everything you said…. except this ——> I didn’t call her a slut. I called her the opposite exactly

in my book messy = ho-ish = slut.

blanca yea… ppl really operate that way and you fail if you dont anticipate that move. if its made than you are in a better position to deal with it and if they dont you have the satisfaction of momentarily believing that humans (men) are good at heart.

nothing should be taken at face-value or completely relied on. JMO

BluK how you lookin for tonight?? i know you got lil mayne…..

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

she told him that it’s probably best they not go out as she dated his friend over the summer.

Good job Jess! From the way you presented it Blanca, it didn’t seem like she was gunning to run through his clique. I really hope she stops dating Rick’s friends tho.

Raqi - I think we can change the topic now! LOL. Did you say you had a story to share?

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 10, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Trust me, if we’ve been hanging out and we’re talking on the phone LIKE THAT, even if I ain’t hitting it yet, after two weeks you want me to hit it. So GTFOH with all’at extra. That is pure sullsh*t! It takes more than a few good convos (mostly of a guy lying to try to get the goods) and a few dates. I may look at his physical and say he is “Doable” within that time frame, true. And I may be turned on…but the difference in me and men is I actually know the meaning of self control and can practice it. Again..he can keep on moving if he don’t like the President of womanland (my goods). His Visa can be revoked and he can be deported back to whence he came! No biggie! No tears! Not a lagging thought! So no…you GTFOH with all DAT extra!

By sped

December 10, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

I think there is nothing at all wrong with this. I have dated guys in the same circle who cares, when you are on the dating scene your circle is usually pretty small. I know mine was….

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

Fellas, I have a patented line I’ve used forever whenever a chick hints that I should help her with her bills. I just ask her “Who paid that bill last month? Thats who you need to talk to”. For some reason that never comes up agin.

By Dan

December 10, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

@Sassy

Well….

You talk a lot of stuff, are you telling me that you’ve never had that hard OOOOooohhhh? The kind that made you “happen to drive by his house” after it was over?

You sound to me like a woman that tryed to play the game, got caught up (or sprung, if you prefer),got hurt and are at it again.

How close am I?

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

DasV and you fail if you dont anticipate that move. … how you lookin for tonight?

Yeah we can get on the board tonight or today, after lunch that is. LOL

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

I have a patented line I’ve used forever whenever a chick hints that I should help her with her bills. I just ask her “Who paid that bill last month? Thats who you need to talk to”.

Truth - LMAO. As a woman, I happen to like the response as well.

I don’t necessarily see anything wrong with it if you are in a relationship with a person and he/she is in a tight spot one month.

But habitually, or with someone you aren’t with…ain’t with it! Get your ish together!

By Blanca

December 10, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

Re: Bills I can’t imagine asking a man for help with my bills unless we are married and they are OUR bills. And I’m pretty sure if a guy asked me, I’d be totally turned off. Has anyone here helped a partner foot a bill? Have you been repaid or even expected to be?

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Dan just because you don’t care that your actions tells who you are or care even less that your actions causes you to be labeled as xyz, it does not change the fact that you are what you do.

We can’t change word definitions to suit us. Words don’t act out us, we act out words.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

Blow, laughed at your entire 11:45, but laughed the loudest at dyck fed and that’s why we are on a SINGLES blog! Whew!

BK, I knew of one girl who thought her shyt was made out of gold and dudes were paying for her rent, groceries, utilities left and right. Did she consider herself a ho, hell no! Did I, but of course!

Yes, I said damn to myself after reading Truth’s post.

ARed, I probably do have friends who bills are being paid by some dude, just don’t know about it. I don’t discuss w/my friends how or who’s paying their bills. Just never really gave it any thought.

By Sassy Me

December 10, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

I guess we can go in circles about this from now ‘til Nevuary but as adults we each still have our own personal beliefs,principles and practices which is cool. Black Mamba I like what you said and that’s what’s up.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

Truth I just ask her “Who paid that bill last month? Thats who you need to talk to”.

I never have that problem b/c I have no problem telling a chick that I have kid and zero cash for supporting a broad’s lifestyle; but that right there ^^^ is the joint. LMAO

Staceye …but the difference in me and men is I actually know the meaning of self control and can practice it.

I’m actually with you right here.

Again..he can keep on moving if he don’t like the President of womanland (my goods). His Visa can be revoked and he can be deported back to whence he came! No biggie! No tears! Not a lagging thought!

This here is totally irrelevant. Dude being at odds with the gatekeeper is not the issue here. We’re in C# and you’re over there in A Minor. Get with the getdown or sit da f******* down.

So no…you GTFOH with all DAT extra!

I knew you’d come back with something right along these lines. But I understand your against-the-grain psyche.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

Glad she told him. Out of all the men in Atlanta, she needs to find a new dating pond.

By DASvenus

December 10, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

LOL@ bluK im already anticipating your moves mayne. for real. cant after lunch… i doubt pogo available behind our firewall anyway.

aRed i read it the first time and it didnt make sense to me and i read again the second time and it still doesnt make sense to me.

call a spade a spade. messy is too (insert truth here)what f*kin is to friggin.

messy is yous a liar, or a drama queen, or a gossiper, or in this case a beya-tch to dialogue wit.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

I don’t discuss w/my friends how or who’s paying their bills.

Leggs - My friends and I talk about just about everything. Usually the info is volunteered.

I had one friend who decided to go to grad school in her boyfriends city, therefore leaving her job. Because she wasn’t going to be working she told him he’d have to pay some bills when she got there. He agreed. They are married now.

Another one of my friends raved about this Gucci bag she couldn’t afford, then low and behold she had it. So I asked her how she was able to get it so quick and she told me about the benefactor.

I just listened and said “wow girl!” LOL

By Blanca

December 10, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

*Sassette *Look like Blanca went back and told her check the blog..your hoe is showing on this one. And she went to moral high ground. * Come on, folks. It’s all in the timing. I wrote the blog for today yesterday afternoon. She called me this morning to tell me about the conversation she and John had last night. She had already resolved it before the blog went up this morning, but the scenario still stood as a viable topic for today’s blog.

My girl doesn’t read this blog anyway (whew!), and while her judgment in this situation may be questioned, she’s definitely not a woman of ill repute. I think she was simply excited about the prospect of this new fella and that temporarily clouded her judgment. Live and learn!

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

BK, you wouldn’t help out your girl with a bill if she was in a pinch?

DasV - To each her own then. Agree to disagree.

By Ally

December 10, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

Well…I was “dating” a guy once for about 9 months..whenever an issue would srise in our “relationship” he would love to remind me “I’m not your man”….So when almost a year later I ran into one of his friends/co-workers and we connected there wasn’t much that he could say considering he would always remind me..that he wasn’t my man. So thank you for always throwing that in my face..I have now been with my very loving “man” for over 2 years now…I think that if you are just dating someone and not committed, it’s ok to date friends if your friend is ok with it..

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

I love that answer Truth. I just couldn’t set myself up like that to ask someone to pay a bill for me only to be be said NO all the while they’re laughing at me as they walk out the door. Hell no!

Staceye came on in here knocking the damn door down. Girl, next time knock! We’ll open it for you. Your steel toed boots should be in need of repair by now!

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

Blog Fellas (for the most part, lol) When do you bring a girl around your homies? Say you are dating her, but she’s not your actual girlfriend. Does she meet your friends?

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 10, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Blue I happen to love songs in minor keys….so that is fine by me! LOL Against the grain is the best way to be! That means I am a leader not a follower! Again…president of womanland….the gatekeeper as you call it.

By Tim

December 10, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

Blanca @ 12:24

On the real, I like most guys have been hit up to pay a bill ( or in my case by some expensive a** glasses). Yes, I was young and foolish, and paid for the $465.00 frames only to find out that her roomates brother paid for the haircut that really set her look off! She was a freak, so I hung around for a while longer, but the lesson on being a paymaster was learned…

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

That’ cool ARed, I have two really good friends that I’ve known for over 35 years and I would never ask how their bills are being paid. To me, it’s useless information since I can’t do anything with the knowledge. Since we aren’t going to each other with our financial woes, I don’t meddle where I don’t need to.

By Sassy Me

December 10, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

@ Dan…PUHLEAZE don’t attempt to analyze me ‘cause you’re not even close. I’ve had the OOOOHHHHH but I didn’t let it go to my head…drive by his house?….I’m gonna borrow a line from “Mrs. Crack is Whack” and tell you hell to the naw”. Did you read my virgin post earlier…my ego wouldn’t let me do somedumb sh!t like that. I think we’ve all been hurt in some capacity in regards to romance but me be a playa….umm that’s not my style. Yeah I talk alot of stuff ‘cause I can back it up…did you check the name **Sassy Me?….get at me dude. :-)

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

DasV im already anticipating your moves mayne.

Excellent. I hope to be a worthy opponent. And we ain’t playin’ no long azz game either, ‘cause I don’t want cheating and using a chess computer.

Ared BK, you wouldn’t help out your girl with a bill if she was in a pinch?

Of course I’d be right there on point if My Girl came up that one time in two years, talking about she was a little short this month.

But keep in mind the following:

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

Ared you wouldn’t help out your girl with a bill if she was in a pinch? depends on the chick. Some chicks are just sloppy with their whole beings. You’re not really helping them as much as temporarily patching a hole. It’ll bust again next month. In this case save your money and do just enough to keep fugging them. Know that any day could be your last and prepare to march on.

Now a chick thats been handling her business and hits a speed bump gets the full monty. Whatever, whenever. She’s going to get it back to you and then some.

Blanca seems like whatever you do you can always self correct and get back to “little Red Riding Hood”. Here’s a brief lesson:

1) A guy that sleeps with men is a _ 2) A woman that sleeps with men for money is a _ 3)A man that abandons his family is a 4) A woman that sleeps with men in a small circle is a 5) A person that steals is a _

My point is do the action and proudly wear the tag. No exemptions, no passes.

Cee I’m up now. Had to make my own breakfast. Cheese omellete, turkey sausage and toast. Now I’m thinking about climbing back in bed and trying this over again tomorrow. LOL BTw, I want one of those drinks. Enjoy.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

Leggs - As stated before, usually the info is volunteered.

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

Of course I’d be right there on point if My Girl came up that one time in two years, talking about she was a little short this month.

Danggit I forget I owe Mason those $1,500 from 6 years ago.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 1:03 PM | Link to this

Some chicks are just sloppy with their whole beings.

LMAO Truth, great point. You have me rollin today.

BK, thanks for the response. I figured that was gonna be your answer, but just checking.

By MELO

December 10, 2008 1:07 PM | Link to this

If we are a circle of guy friends,9 times out of ten,we discuss and share notes on how that girl works it in bed,unless somebody in the circle regards her as long term relationship material,then there is a code of silence.And having ur bedroom antics as open secrets is no good,not lady-like,its slutty.If its a guy doing it among a group of female friends,its still the same.The only difference,the guy is a hero if they are flocking to him and every one of them ex-females has dyckk halucinations, well after the dyckk is warm dried!!

By DASvenus

December 10, 2008 1:07 PM | Link to this

bluK LOL…. aight. is there a timer and do you have to call your play??

theTruth who paid that bill last month? classic.

typical answer: no one. so it needs to be paid too. and if you could put me 3 months out i’d be thankful.

best answer: i didnt have this bill last month. i got the service to be close to you.

By Foots

December 10, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

Blanca After she and John had some scheduling problems (he rescheduled their date for this week twice) she told him that it’s probably best they not go out as she dated his friend over the summer.

Good for her!! He was already waffling, probably because he knew.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

no one. so it needs to be paid too

LMAO!

By DuShawn

December 10, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

I will pay a chick’s bills if I’m laying at her spot alot and knocking her down on the regular. My limit,however, is the water bill (providing there are no leaks or past due balnces) or, not and , the cable bill (as long as she has no more than 2 boxes and no pay channels.)

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

Afternoon Blog Fam

I have no interest in the topic, high school mess if you ask me.

Leggs/Amred I’m with you on the bills thing - never asked a dude to help me pay anything. Their my bills I made, so I pay em. I don’t discuss at all with friends who pays their bills and don’t care - how will that info help me. Now yes, I do have friends that WILL and have asked or expected dudes they just date(and not that serious about) to pay a bill or fork over money for stuff. Sometimes it’s to see what a simp he is. They know the ones they can pull that mess on. They have more respect for the dudes that say NO. I was not brought up that way. I have a friend now that I had a major disagreement about this very subject. She is married, but always talks about a man “taking care” of her. She did not understand why I was not expecting my SO to pay some of my bills! She also does not understand the concept of picking up the check sometimes on a date! She said she never paid for anything when dating her now husband and the thought of it was foreign to her - not even on his birthday! My SO and I are a team and we help each other out in so many ways. The thought of me asking him to pay my mortgage or utilities and we are not even married is just tacky. If it’s something material we want that’s not out of reason, either we will buy it for ourself or one will surprise the other with it. For example, I know my SO will want Dark Knight on bluray, so I will probably get it for him. It’s not going to break my bank. There have been small things like that that I have wanted that he has gotten for me. But the large stuff we save for bday & Christmas gifts. Not an “expectation” or “payment” to see how much we can “use” the other. And yes, if I was having a hard time with something or he was, we definitely have each other’s back because we are committed, not jump-offs.

By Tim

December 10, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

DuShawn,

Good starting point, But what’s up with the water bill?

By MELO

December 10, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

Truth What do you think about the mess going on with the Governor of Illinois to put in my own view here Sassete, i suspect Obama was going to be knee deep in this and the FBI head honcho went in be4 that cld happen.This governor has not committed a crime in my view coz the deal was not delivered,so why rush to indict him over his voicing of intentions?? The FBI head guy is an Obama supporter in my view and pre-empted the commission of a crime on Obama’s part or at least a messy situation for him b4 inauguration. If u listened to Obama’s press conference yesterday, he said we, and backpedaled to I never spoke to the governor… blah blah blah.Read between the lines,somebody in his camp,i suspect, did speak to the Governor,possibly David Axeleroid,the chief strategist..Watch this space.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

Oh, I missed the “volunteer” part.

Ms. Crack is Whack almost went over my head…I forgot she said that!

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

Truth i’m jealous. What do you drink?

Cheese omellete, turkey sausage and toast. Now I’m thinking about climbing back in bed and trying this over again tomorrow.

There will be days that i will have like that. Be-leed dat!

I’m hungry….and i see the lunch crew is back with my order…Yipeee!

By MELO

December 10, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

Say you are dating her, but she’s not your actual girlfriend. Does she meet your friends? potential knock off?? Anytime, we having fun.Those are the chickks u take to the strip with ur homies,no taboos.

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Melo so on point. Dudes dont even have to discuss it. If a cat doesnt tell how she likes it rough its because shes a keeper and everyone respects that. Ol girl is vouched in and will get treated like an insider until or if she brings the bs, then she’s excommunicated with a swiftness. Its so much easier for us. LOL

Ared any chick that you hang with gets to meet the fellas asap. You can get two good pieces of info 1) How she’s going to act around the fellas 2) How insecure said chick is

When later she brings up that you hang with your boys to much you know its because she’s jealous and insecure.

Personally I look at how a woman COMES to me. If she’s in a new enviroment most women will come to whatever is closest to them or they’re most comfortable with. If she’s in everyones face pull out the ones and recommend a table dance because you’ve just contributed to the fellas entertainmnet fund. Either way I want to see which way this chick rolls.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

She did not understand why I was not expecting my SO to pay some of my bills! She also does not understand the concept of picking up the check sometimes on a date! She said she never paid for anything when dating her now husband and the thought of it was foreign to her - not even on his birthday!

kimmie, some chicks just got it like that! LOL. It doesn’t sound like she was trying to simp guys, but that was simply her expectation.

If I came up thinking that a man shelled out EVERYTHING monitarily, I’d roll that way too. LOL

But trust me, I definitely feel you on what you are saying, cuz I’m the same way.

Ah yes, the Dark Knight DVD has been the most anticipated DVD in my guys life. He even got the bootleg. LOL

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

All I can say is Amen Kimmie. Well stated!

By Foots

December 10, 2008 1:33 PM | Link to this

kimmie Your friend married an old-school man who believes that taking care of his woman is his responsibility. She let him do his thing. My pastor and his wife are like that. Her money is her money; he pays for everything.

I did date a man like this once. He was the African Muslim guy I dated for a few months. He would be straight offended if I offered to pick up a check.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 1:33 PM | Link to this

Lol Kimmie Hey sister!

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

Staceye Against the grain is the best way to be! That means I am a leader not a follower! Again…president of womanland….the gatekeeper as you call it.

All I can tell you is blame your Pops for not giving you the Y chromosome to make a johnson, ‘cause ain’t no real man gon’ follow you or no other broad. Get’chu some cats; you’re gon’ need ‘em.

Raqi Danggit I forget I owe Mason those $1,500 from 6 years ago.

The way you talk on here, I’m sure that you’ve repayed him many times over. He ain’t worried about it.

melo ,unless somebody in the circle regards her as long term relationship material,then there is a code of silence.And having ur bedroom antics as open secrets is no good,not lady-like,its slutty.If its a guy doing it among a group of female friends,its still the same.The only difference,the guy is a hero if they are flocking to him and every one of them ex-females has dyckk halucinations, well after the dyckk is warm dried!!

Layin’ it down, ha bruhman?

Tim Good starting point, But what’s up with the water bill?

I was gon’ ask DuShawn the same thing. Ain’t no tellin’ what wild azz explanation is gon’ be put forth though. Hahahaha.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

Jamoca… tell me why the simp is limp?

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

If she’s in a new enviroment most women will come to whatever is closest to them or they’re most comfortable with. If she’s in everyones face pull out the ones and recommend a table dance because you’ve just contributed to the fellas entertainmnet fund. Either way I want to see which way this chick rolls.

Good observationist! I like that.

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

BK All I can tell you is blame your Pops for not giving you the Y chromosome to make a johnson, ‘cause ain’t no real man gon’ follow you or no other broad. Get’chu some cats; you’re gon’ need ‘em. LMAO

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

Du…you got the crowd waiting man.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

Glad you guys asked about the water bill cuz I’m seriously SMH. Well, at least in my house, the water bill is the cheapest bill.

By lurker

December 10, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

Me thinks Jessica is being phrased as a piece of cake….everybody’s had a piece. Those dudes in that circle couldn’t care less about toss the trollop Jessie…they’re all taking their turn. She will be none the wiser if she don’t view it as it is…

I dated a cousin of a proball player once and he was gooood at throwing around his money. The true meaning of a hustler and knew how to make money. Problem was, he thought money could buy EVERYTHING so, I let him shop until he figured better. With that being said, there’s a flip side to that. I had the hardest time shaking that dude cause I never gave up the goods. I wasn’t really attracted but comtemplated consumating and moving into a relationship but the day he parted his lips to say “you’ll give in” was my motivation to see who would last longer, me holding out him spending out. Getting rid of him was quite scary because the tone of his calls became almost threatening. Whew! Will never do that again.

By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S!

December 10, 2008 1:47 PM | Link to this

@ BK cause ain’t no real man gon’ follow you or no other broad. Get’chu some cats; you’re gon’ need ‘em. wow!! ouch!!

THAT IS EVEN LOW FOR ATTENTION W*******!

ALSO ARED WOULD YOU STOP LITTERING YOUR GARBAGE ABOUT YOUR NEW BEAU?!? ITS DISGUSTING AND WE DONT WANT TO HEAR ABOUT IT. YOU CAN TELL A WHOR3 WHO NEVER HAS A MAN. THEY WILL NOT SHUT THE FUGG UP ABOUT THEM. GROW UP!

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 1:49 PM | Link to this

Kimmie But the large stuff we save for bday & Christmas gifts. Not an “expectation” or “payment” to see how much we can “use” the other. And yes, if I was having a hard time with something or he was, we definitely have each other’s back because we are committed, not jump-offs.

Just out of curiosity, how many birthdays and Christmases have yoll put in, ‘cause it sounds like yoll have like 8 years in this relationship.

Truth If a cat doesnt tell how she likes it rough its because shes a keeper and everyone respects that. Ol girl is vouched in and will get treated like an insider until or if she brings the bs, then she’s excommunicated with a swiftness.

Ain’t that funny though. A chicks level of respect amongst dudes is what her dude says it should be.

any chick that you hang with gets to meet the fellas asap. You can get two good pieces of info 1) How she’s going to act around the fellas 2) How insecure said chick is

You dead on today ain’t’cha champ?

Foots My pastor and his wife are like that. Her money is her money; he pays for everything.

Correction: “Her money is hush money; he pays for everything.” …because she knows what to tell the FBI when they come sniffin’ around. <=== How ‘bout that? LOL

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

Hey Sister Cee!

Amred, Foots - You know, I can deal with an old-school type of thinking - my parents were kinda like that to a point. But knowing this sister like I do - naw! Like I would not expect my SO to take me to a 5-star resteraunt every time we went out, especially if I knew he was on a budget. Not her, and that’s the difference I am talking about here. And her hubby acts kinda like he got something he was not supposed to have! But hey, whatever works for you. I just had to put her in her place with the barrage of questions for me. She tries to make little “hints” when she’s been around me & my SO, so I had to shut that down. You run your relatiohship your way & I run mine my way.

By Dan

December 10, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

@Raqi

I am who I choose to be.

I am the sum of my choices, decisions, and their consequences.

No one’s definition of my actions, reactions, or the perception of me matters. No one’s

True, people can call you everything but a child of God, even when you are “doing good”. Likewise they will praise you when you’re “being bad”.

My point is, none of it matters. I live my life in the manner I see fit. Everyone else’s opinions and judgements are of no concern.

If that makes me whatever it makes me in the eyes of others so be it.

But I’m the one that has to live with me.

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

Changing the topic (Sorry Blanca. But I know you still get paid anyway, LOL)

My friend Lacy was telling us last night about an issue (she makes everything into an issue) that happened with her BF. While watching the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show last week her BF made a comment about Heidi Klum and some of the other models. Then while watching further he did what men are known to do on any given day, he adjusted, scratched or whatever it is, himself. She said it was more than a normal adjustment it was more like a firm hold that lasted about 30 seconds.

She being offended like she normally is about everything says she asked him “what was that”. He said it was nothing. But she knows (read: feels) that it was something. Maybe it was maybe it wasn’t.

Well to make her long ranting session short, she feels like he was being disrespectful when he got a “hold” on the situation by touching himself in front of her while watching these models.

Please note that she feels this is different from him watching porn and doing the same thing.

I will put this in the category of how some women can sometimes (allow themselves to) feel emotionally cheated on by certain situations.

I personally would probably have not paid that much attention to it. I mean unless he whipped it out or stuck his hand in pants and proceeded to pleasure himself, I would have probably called it just a “man thang”.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 1:53 PM | Link to this

any chick that you hang with gets to meet the fellas asap. You can get two good pieces of info 1) How she’s going to act around the fellas 2) How insecure said chick is

Truth - Those are good points. From my experiences, I meet the guys friends really early. I didn’t understand it, as I don’t tend to bring a guy around my friends unless there is something there.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

I hate ALSO ARED WOULD YOU STOP LITTERING YOUR GARBAGE ABOUT YOUR NEW BEAU?!?

I wouldn’t say it’s disgusting, but it is funny as hayo though. LMAO But even in Ared’s defense, you ain’t gotta call the chick a h0. THAS fugged up.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

Whor3s - Feel free to bypass my posts then. This is a dating blog boo.

Besides, he’s not new. :-D

And go figure, when I don’t talk about him, lurkers ask about him. LOL

By attention stealer

December 10, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

ummm, can we stay with the current discussion? it’s not everyday that we get bk and dushawn to peek in. can you save the petty what do you think issue for about 4:00ish? please!

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Like I would not expect my SO to take me to a 5-star resteraunt every time we went out, especially if I knew he was on a budget. Not her, and that’s the difference I am talking about here. And her hubby acts kinda like he got something he was not supposed to have!

LOL kimmie, I can’t hate on her because if I could do it, I would do it. And she even got a husband out of it! lol

It’s just that thing called a conscience and my own moral standards. Darn those things. LOL

By lurker

December 10, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

No we don’t!!! When?

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

uh-oh here we go with the who meets and, who don’t meet…when, where, or how…

Cain’t we all just meet and mingle w/o anyone being nosy, or offended about who Jefro/Jalla is?

I didn’t understand it, as I don’t tend to bring a guy around my friends unless there is something there.

ARed I’ve long time put that away. When folks get to asking too many questions, and trying to pry unnecessarily, i just ask them what’s up?…and WHY are they asking so many question??

It keep folks out cha’ business.

Don’t mind me…just a pet peeve i have.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

*She tries to make little “hints” when she’s been around me & my SO, so I had to shut that down. You run your relatiohship your way & I run mine my way.

Alright Kimmie, you’ll be skipping a grade, effective immediately.

Raqi Dude wants to fugg Heidi Klum. Tell your girl to keep dude away from any neighbors favoring Heidi Klum. And by all means, even though Halloween is gone for the year, run out and find a Heidi Klum costume.

Seriously though, if she loves this dude and is reasonably sure that he loves her, then she’s gon’ have to toughen up to make the dude respect her, otherwise she might as well bounce and save a year’s worth of sorrow; ‘cause the respect is gone or at least on the way out the door. If that situation were reversed, Denzel or no Denzel, a slim rubbin’ her crotch for any dude, tv or not, is through.

By Foots

December 10, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

Blue You might be right. They’ve had to get on him a few times about using that church tax ID for personal use. LOL!

By DuShawn

December 10, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

Had to step into a quick meeting. “But what’s up with the water bill?” I don’t know if I completely comprehend your question. If I understand you correctly, the answer is self-explanatory. I’m electing to pay one of the two least expensive bills. Typically water bills are paid quarterly and dependent on usage. Rarely, are they more a few bucks.

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

Raqi - If she’s that insecure, why sit there watching the Vicky’s Secret Fashion Show with him?! I’ve never understood why folks get jealous of their SO’s admiration of celebrities - folks they know they’ll probably never in a million years get a chance to meet, much less get with. Yeah, unless he went at it on himself, I probably would have laughed at him, but that’s me.

I remember laughing at a past BF about his jealousy over my passing comment about a certain athlete I admired. I was not disrespectful, just said I thought he was fine and went on about my business. He and his friend went on to tell me that in a dude’s mind, they really feel like they have a chance! I LMAO!

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

Ared Why don’t you just stop saying beau and call that bamma BeauREGARD?! LMAO

By lurker 2, 3 or 4

December 10, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

Yea, I dunno where she got that from.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

attention stealer…

Auw, you like reading who’s posting hall of fame comments?

‘aight.

By MD N8tv in GA

December 10, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

Jessica and Derek didn’t date all that long so I’d say dating John wouldn’t be a big deal.

Had Jess and Derek had a long term relationship and she had met John WHILE dating Derek, I’d say no way, no day. Just asking for trouble. Bottom line, if you didn’t meet John while with Derek they can’t be that good of friends.

Frankly, maybe she should try things with Rick. Maybe he’s the light at the end of the dating tunnel.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 2:19 PM | Link to this

BK, I’ll pass. I’m good over here.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 2:19 PM | Link to this

Blue you are not right! BeauRegard is from that movie….

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

Raqi, perhaps it’s me, but I wouldn’t be offended. I would heartily laugh at him in front of him. The models are scantily clad and most men would get a little excited watching them strut. However, yes would expect self control in that I wouldn’t expect to see the pinhead size of a wet spot (LOL). To adjust, scratch or whatever is their way of telling “johnson” to act right. The way I see it a lot of women should benefit from their man watching that show!

By mytwocents

December 10, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

Cee Lemme know when u piece it together.

By lurker

December 10, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

there are some bogus lurkers on here….i’m the true lurker 2,3 or 4 that came from a reply from truth. get your own lurker moniker…did i say that? lol

By RELL - Russell da love muscle

December 10, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

i use to bring the chick around the players to see how true her pedgree was….if she was all flirty then i knew we could pop off the three screw in the long run..if she held her own played her spot she won a rotation spot as a potential….and if she was disresptful or just out right rude she got dropped and left whereever i felt like leaving her…true story…

ummm as for dating former flames…me i dont care…me and here are done…..

By mytwocents

December 10, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Cee Lemme know when u piece it together.

By Dan

December 10, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

@Paying bills

Nope. Can’t do it.

Got enough of my own. Unless we married, ‘bout to be, or are shacking exclsively….

Might be on your own.

THat’s not to say I won’t put in on a bill here and there (if I’m running them up), but just out and out paying them jonz <—- it’s called cakin’

On the bringing your girl around the fellas

Truth was right, her reaction in those circumstances tell me a lot about her.

Too tense and she got to go.

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

Amred - Certainly haters just wish they could be you when they grow up, don’t they?LOL!

As for my buddy, I’m not hating on her either, it worked for her and it works for some other women too, just never for me. Some of that is due to morals and whatnot. But that approach just would not work on my SO at all. Yeah, she got a husband out of it, but her little “hints” and “comments” around my SO were about to block me getting mine!

Hey, have you been watching Housewives OC?

By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S!

December 10, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

@ A*******HOLE

THAT WAS MERELY A TRICK MY LAST POST I DID NOT EVEN POST TO YOU.

BUT YOU ARE SO ENGULFED IN YOURSELF YOU THINK IS ALL ABOUT YOU!!

SO STUPIDLY SILLY SIMPLY!

By Sassette aka Kym

December 10, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

Raqi Tell her it is not that deep..really. I mean who sits there and calculates how long dudes hold their nuts? This is a molehill hell this is not even a molehill this is more like a molehole.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

mytwocents “Charlie Chocolate Factory” with Jonny Deep…

I might watch that tonight…

Beauregarde said: “Eyes on the prize, Violet, eyes on the prize.”

By Foots

December 10, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Raqi Hmmmm…. I’m split on that one. I can see what Blue is saying about disrespect, but I can also see me laughing about it if it was in a light-hearted moment. Context does matter, so if both of us were playing around and laughing while it was going on, I wouldn’t think anything of it. That’s one of those situations where I don’t know how I’d react unless it happened to me. There’s a line between playing around and disrespect and I’m foggy on where that is in this case, if she’s the type to usually overreact.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

Kimmie Yeah, she got a husband out of it, but her little “hints” and “comments” around my SO were about to block me getting mine!

No she didn’t. She got a sponsor with a jelly-back.

By lurker

December 10, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

Lurker, Lurker234, Lurker

Y’all hit me up at rosie2step@gmail.com.

By lurker

December 10, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

Ya’ll please read the Strawberry Letter and the responses today. LOLOLOLOL

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

Blue really? See I was thinking more on the lines of kimmie. I feel she may be making more of it than it really is. It’s like if I accused M of looking at the chest of every woman that walks by with full set. Yeah he likes them, but no I ain’t gonna drive myself batty worrying about whether he looking. Now if he stopped in his steps, completed turned in their direction and literally gawked, then yeah that would be a problem. Was she looking for something therefore seeing something for way more than what it was? The man could have very well touched himself, but I don’t feel it was that big of deal. but that’s based on how she told us it happened.

LOL Leggs. My friend Doc said if it had been her husband doing that and it was how Lacy said, she says she would have taken advantage of the situation and rode him dry.

Kym that’s what I said. To pay attention to how long the hold was…if it was actually a hold the full “30 seconds”. Like I said she was looking for something probably based on him making an earlier comment.

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

BK - No she didn’t. She got a sponsor with a jelly-back.

You know, that’s the point I was trying to make, but I just didn’t know how to put it! Thanks for making it plain, cause that exactly describes the situation.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 10, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

Afternoon All! Mo is strolling in all late after hiding from the rain at home. Well I see the topic, or lack thereof, has been covered so no need to check there. So whats up err’body??

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

Blue…a jelly back? go on now…go on.

mytwo See how we ^ take it anutha.

By Foots

December 10, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Blue He doesn’t have to be a sponsor with a jelly-back. It seems to me like two people with the same value system found each other, which is always desirable. Now if the guy resents his situation, but does nothing to change it, that would make him a jelly-back. Otherwise, they are both just being themselves.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

Mo why you at home and i’m at work, ma?

Where they do that ^, at?

It’s Wedndesday, AND it’s December (Christmas time).

Kimmie allright: Soon im’a be itchin’ to by me a new dress, and shoes…strolling in with an ivory and gold boxed Fondue set, wrapped all nicely set for a “ceremony” come ‘09, nah.

Stop playing with my emotions!

By Sassette aka Kym

December 10, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Now here this

I am tooting my own damn horn..I got an A in my Law and Ethics class and a B in my Business Org Class. One more final left….

By DreamsMaterialize

December 10, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Hey Ya’ll Seems like everything’s been said about dating circles and bills already. lol I will say that everyone plays a part in the game. The woman who asks for bills to get paid is playing her part, the guy who pays them is playing his part, and the cat that tells her to f*ck off is playing his. Just have to decide where you fit in.

By MELO

December 10, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

kimmie,is the guy hard up for money or he got it??I ask coz the standards by which monied folks go by may not be the same as those of an average joe.If i had it like that,yeah, i wld just pay,thats what the money is for. RAQI there is more about the dynamics of that relationship we do not know.If she is as tight about stuff as is coming across to me,then maybe he is just trying to loosen her up so she can see the joke side of things at times.He may not have been hitting it and feels some pressure..Is she good with gifting him like that or shes a tight wand with the puddy coz that may have been a statement. Or maybe he got an itch,say herpes.Who knows.I wouldnt be coy about scratching an itch on my dyckk or scrotus in the presence of my queen unless the itch is not innocent.And yeah,on a good day and its just her and me at home, i can take melo-junior out for a sec or 2 just 4 him to enjoy the breezy and sunny weather outside.No problem in that.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 10, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

Leggs My steel-toe boots are always ready girl! LOL

Blue you can only speak for yourself! You do not know me or those who feel like me. Many just are not a open with it because they are afraid of being ostricized. Be I don’t care what you or closed minded individuals like you think of me. Let’s see…you are paying my bills, buying clothes or food or doing a d*mn thing for me…cause I do them. So your miniscule opinion of me fails to even make one hair on my body wave! I am glad I do not have the Y chromosome…I think there is a serious defect in it and I think that defect somehow play the goalie between your madness and common sense. It never lets common sense in the goal. Oh an BTW…I love cats…I’m just allergic to furry animals! Oh that explains it all! LOL

I Hate Far from Lesbian or bi-sexual. What the hell can a woman do for me? I got enough azz and t*ts so why would I go after the same thing I got? HELLO! Let me break it down for you in short bus terms: I am perfectly happy being alone. My focus in life is not a relationship. It is on my career goals. I want no distractions. Not to mention I have a 0 BS tolerance factor. I do not stand for failure in myself or any man that I deal with. He does not have to be where wants to be yet…but he had better be on his grind to get there and not settling for the cards he was dealt. Ambition is key! I will not stand for a man who w******* around and I am supposed to turn a blind eye and have that stupid mentality that a man will be a man! That is selling myself short just for the sake of having someone of the male species in my life. Please!!! I am not desperate. Nor will I have just any man in my life just because “people” think that is the highlight of life and that is what I am supposed to do. I have male friends. That is fine for me! Expect more…get more!

BTW…you say you hate attention whor3s…well you are the one who get’s on here, “calling out” ARED for being one! I swear is she had a d*ck I would say you ride it hard! If you don’t like somebody’s post simply skip them unless the are talking to you. Problem solve. Channel your hate into something more contsructive like playing in traffic!

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

Foots - Girl, you just have to be there, around them to understand what I’m saying. I agree with you, but unfortunately BK is right with this one.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Hey, have you been watching Housewives OC?

kimmie, Of course. Those are my OG girls.

And I don’t know of haters, just motivators. LOL!

By DuShawn

December 10, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

On topic: I could never date one of my potnahs ex-females. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll f%k da shyt out her clandestinely, but we could never date. On the other end of the spectrum, when I was an undergrad, I started to really dig this dark-skinned trackstar girl from St Louis *(Outstanding thighs…my goodness!). She wasn’t officially my lady, but we spent a lot of time together and enjoyed one another. One of my LB’s noticed how close we were getting, and as his obligation dictated, he pulled my coat. He said, ”DuShawn, I see you starting to really feel lil black, you know Curt f%ked her right?”* I confronted her about it; she said it was way before we met. I asked my dog about it. He said it was true, and apologized for not telling me himself. Shortly thereafter, she won the Ques bikini contest, Bruhs were jokingly hollering out ”That’s Dushawn’s girl….I’m like, Man that ain’t my lady, stop playing”. As the years past, and she and I developed a history together, I fell in love with her and no longer cared who she was with before me. However, I still never technically made her my lady, even though I treated her as if she was.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

CONGRATS Sassette!

Cee now making a special Blueberry lemonade smoothie for Kym.

Go gurl!

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

I’m just allergic to furry animals! Oh that explains it all!

Staceye…i was having a good sip of my Green Tea when i read that one…Dang! Lol

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

Congratulations Kym.

melo what???

By MELO

December 10, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

I’m like, Man that ain’t my lady, stop playing see ladies..the blackie is downgraded simply coz a hommie f*** her be4.I wld do the same, i dont knowingly phuck, where my partners phuckked.Never liked merry-go-rounds.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

Excellent work SassakaKym. You should be very proud. We all know you worked hard.

Staceye, nothing for me to say (LOL). Girl, nothing surprises me w/you. Had to laugh at the constructive playing.

By Blanca

December 10, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

DuShawn I fell in love with her and no longer cared who she was with before me. However, I still never technically made her my lady, even though I treated her as if she was. If you truly loved her, what was the problem? What kept you from pursuing a committed or true relationship?

By Dan

December 10, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Good job there Kym!

Way to learn!

Actually said with no sarcasm

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Melo - No he’s not rolling like that, got a decent job. He’s a nice-looking bro but very, very overweight. She’s very attractive and flirty and says all the time that he is not her usual type(pretty boys - light with “good hair” her words). Like I said before, he acts like he got something he was not supposed to have. I’m not knocking necessarily, you do you & what you’re comfortable with. Everyone plays a part in the game, like Dreams said. But you play your game and let me play mine like I want and the way I know I can win. When you start getting all up in mine I have a problem. That’s why this situation came to mind. I know plenty of folks that have all kinds of stuff going on I know I could not deal with, but hey to each his own.

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

Blue, Melo, Shawn, Dan, KP and whoever else What would you men consider to be acceptable small gifts if you were to receive a different one everyday for the 12 days leading up to Christmas? I was thinking about going to the dollar store. LOL

So far I have the sweater that I already purchased, a set of cufflinks and the trimmers. Now I need some other more inexpensive gifts. Oh I did see a pair of socks that I am going to get. And maybe a nice tie. But I can’t think of anything else right now.

The mister claims to have already purchased all 12 gifts he is going to give me. smirk. He lies sometimes.

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

Kym Congratulations on your academic achievements!

By Sassette aka Kym

December 10, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

Thank you all so much!! Last one tomorrow and then no school until Jan 12th.

For Real Now why the hell can’t you say congrats like everyone else? Some people’s children.

By Jamoca

December 10, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

…Okay so what’s the subtopic?…I know you all have one. So much to read, too little time…

Jamoca… tell me why the simp is limp?

Cee hmmmm?…My only response to that would be to redirect your question back to this SIMP you speak of. I wonder why would his insufficiencies intrigue you so?

any chick that you hang with gets to meet the fellas asap. You can get two good pieces of info 1) How she’s going to act around the fellas 2) How insecure said chick is

I like that ^^^ right there.

Raqi I think your friend is definitely overreacting. I would also think it’s no different than for him to watch porn. Getting somewhat aroused/intrigued would be expected, which seems to be the case.

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

*Kym congrats to you.

Staceye I love you like leftover gumbo but your azz is bi or straight lickin. Come clean. I’ve worked with mass murderers I hated less than you hate men.

Blanca because men don’t get that excited about going to buy used cars. And no matter what a guy says when he finds out you’ve been run up in he discounts you. Used to be guys went out for the hunt and new meat. Now you’ll deliver your own carcass pre-slayed. LOL

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

He’s a nice-looking bro but very, very overweight. She’s very attractive and flirty and says all the time that he is not her usual type

kimmie - That sounds like Gretchen and Rip Van Winkle on the OC Housewives. She kept it real when she said she wasn’t attracted to him initially tho.

Sometimes I think about trying to pull that off. I do think you can fall in love with that type of guy…eventually. LOL

By For Real

December 10, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

For Real is now sound asleep after holding his Johnson for 33 second.

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

Cee -Dang, why you gotta dangle the fondue set over a sister like a carrot?!!

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

Raqi Now if he stopped in his steps, completed turned in their direction and literally gawked, then yeah that would be a problem.

Now isn’t that equivalent to dude grabbing his nutzack for 30 seconds. That’s a long time. Hayo, according to yoll women, some dudes can’t stay in the poosey for much more than that. LOL

Foots/Kimmie He doesn’t have to be a sponsor with a jelly-back. It seems to me like two people with the same value system found each other, which is always desirable. Now if the guy resents his situation,…

Now I could swear that the 5-star while on a budget was an example of the type of sh!t that this broad tries to lasso dude with, so I stand on my position - dude is a jelly back. I’ve known dudes just like this. And I’ll bet this broad talks to dude like shinit all up in front of peeps, to include his family.

A broad that’s really in your corner is ready with the fresh water and clean mouthpiece; and as much as it may hurt, even throw in the towel for yo azz, before she watches you take a career ending blow. Feel me?

Staceye Ummm… what’s with that long azz manifesto, all about how I don’t make you cross your legs and squeeze that clit real tight? You jumped way off the cliff on that one. Somebody send Staceye an inhaler. She’s getting light-headed.

DuShawn ”DuShawn, I see you starting to really feel lil black, you know Curt f%ked her right?”

I’m LMAO over here, ‘cause I can see this scene playing out and hear your boy saying that. Good Lawd! But I bet if it wasn’t for Curt you probably could’ve ringed that chick.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 3:37 PM | Link to this

Throw in a box of tissues from the dollar store for one of those 12 day gifts. When he asks why, tell him you know he crys in private knowing he has such a beautiful and thoughtful wife.

By KP (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

December 10, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

Raqi, One weekend day of peace and quiet with a remote, watching sports, wings and your attention could probably be one of the top 3 gifts you provide him.

By Dan

December 10, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

@Raqi

It really depends on whether y’all are doing utility (said sock, shoes) or flash (nice gear, grown men toys otherwise known as electronics) or building up to the finale.

As always, draws, t-shirts, and wife beaters are a necessary and overlooked purchase for the male in your life.

If it’s about flash, I would suggest the soft(hard)ware that merges the TV with the computer.

But good luck with it either way

By DuShawn

December 10, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Blanca I was a couple years older than she was. I graduated and moved backed to Miami. We maintained a long distance relationship for a while, but of course that was short lived. Honestly, I’ve never stopped loving her. I think of her often even though we have not spoken in decades. Occasionally, I’ll see a female here in Atlanta that looks the way I imagine she would look 20 years later. I’m often tempted to approach them and ask “excuse me Ms., but is your name Latrell?”

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

because men don’t get that excited about going to buy used cars. And no matter what a guy says when he finds out you’ve been run up in he discounts you. Used to be guys went out for the hunt and new meat. Now you’ll deliver your own carcass pre-slayed. LOL

Blanca - Now do you see why it’s often best to just watch from the curb until you’re sure it’s safe to cross the road? Ain’t nothing but 18 wheelers out there. LOL

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

By Tazzee

December 10, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

Kym Congratulations on the grades. I know you’re going to celebrate tomorrow.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 10, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

Kym Congrats! Get the edjumacation girl! LOL

Truth I do not hate all men. Just the azzholes I have come across. Now I have male friends in my life that I think are good. They may suck as lovers. But as my friends…they good so I keep them that way. I have one guy friend..we used to date…but realized that we were better when we were just friends. Well he has a girlfriend now. And I have met her. She is sweet. But he cheats on her liek no other! Now that made me wonder about he and I. Did he do that to me? Oh well it doesn’t matter now. It’s not my problem. I’m just glad we are just friends. Funny thing is, if I am attracted to a guy (and we are dating)…I think I am lot nicer! LOL That is why I say physical attraction is key with me. I am nice to anyone who is nice to me. That does not mean I like you in that way. But some guys have taken my friendliness as a romantic thing. UGH!

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

Amred That sounds like Gretchen and Rip Van Winkle on the OC Housewives. She kept it real when she said she wasn’t attracted to him initially tho. LMAO Rip Van Winkle, I love it! Yeah, my buddy kept it real, but she’s still keeping it real by saying it all the time!

By DuShawn

December 10, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

I don’t knowingly phuck, where my partners phuckked. I agree to a certain extent. I would never make a conscious effort to pursue a chick my potnah had been with. Well….let me qualify that. If I conluded that there is the slightest possibility that me f&*king her would disturb our friendship, I wouldn’t do it. However, if they were never serious and she’s at me…best believe Imma dyckherdown. As a matter of fact, Imma ask my homie what the neck game was like. His response may determine whether or not she’s worth the time. (Of course I’m speaking in hindsight)

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

Dang, why you gotta dangle the fondue set over a sister like a carrot?!!

Kimmie

Jus sayin’ sis…I found one especially for on of dem nights…

Gurl, don’t play with me.

By DASvenus

December 10, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

LOLROTF @ town bike

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Raqi go to his barber and buy a bottle of that fragrant alcohol they use. If he has a big azz wallet buy him a front pocket wallet that wont break the lines on his dress clothes. Write him a letter explaining how much his girl loves and appreciates him. Be his servant for a night, no sex allowed but everything else. (Hold on while I slap the shyt out of myself for typing that. Sorry, sex is allowed) Buy a bottle of his fav top shelf liquor.

Also, your friend would be straight left trying to figure that out on her own. I wouldn’t even address it and she BETTER not act like she has a tude. Its my thang and I can touch it whenever and however I like. Thats the kind of stuff that makes a dude realize he’s made a big mistake.

Btw, the socks and tie is being lazy. You know what he likes or wants. Get that.

By MELO

December 10, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Raqi,shaving cream,calvin klein etc draws,deo,white tees/vests,house shoes,silk ties,socks,runners,bracelet,neck chain,his favrte pudsy cream(u knw the one he licks lavishly when its laid on ur spot!),grill tools,and some tools to work that garden/yard outside. my address is 4011 lesl pl,30o58 dekalb GA. Send ur appreciation card there in time for xmas.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

Blanca If you truly loved her, what was the problem? What kept you from pursuing a committed or true relationship?

Get real. That chick would have to give dude a kidney for him to forget that he knew Curt, and that Curt knew Lil Black. Simple, just like that.

Raqi What kind of dude is this Mason cat. Is he handy? Or the pretty-boy type?

For a handy dude, get useful tools that dudes won’t buy themselves but need all the time. Example: That little magnetic extension rod with the light on the end of it. That joint is priceless when you’re working on the ride and drop the screw and can’t reach it because it’s down in the crevice and your fingers are too big to get in there.

Pretty Boy - Get him a 6-12 month supply of that special face cream that he has to go all the way across town to Muhammed’s to get.

It ain’t about the price as much as the thought and usefulness of a gift.

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

LOL ForReal you are a nut. Literally.

BlueK It’s not the same. Him stopping and looking is disrespectful. If we are walking together and he turns away from me to eye another woman…those are grounds for dismissal. Or better yet a nut cracking.

But my friend’s guy could have just been scratching and just didn’t let go right away. You know you men have to check up on the position of lil man every so often. LOL

By Jamoca

December 10, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

…still reading…

Giving you a “hear-hear”, with a pat on the back, for a job well done Kym! Good going! Great way to bring that New Year on in!

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

Leggs He may need that box of tissues when he sees the total of my Christmas shopping bills. LOL J/K

KP…nevermind. LOL But you know then he’ll be complaining because I wasn’t there to make him a sammich and a glass of kool-aid.

Dan He has underwear. I always buy him underwear just because. Remember it will be 12 gifts in all. I plan to start mine with the least expensive and end with the “best” one on Christmas day. But I want them to be useful gifts.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 10, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

Blue WTF are you talking about? LOL I guess some men think that every woman wants them. smfh

By Dan

December 10, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

@Jamoca

I do believe that you one me 2 apologies.

One for the Simon comment, and two for the thug reference…madam

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

Its my thang and I can touch it whenever and however I like. Thats the kind of stuff that makes a dude realize he’s made a big mistake. - Truth

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

…Thats the kind of stuff that makes a dude realize he’s made a big mistake. You got that right Truth!

By MELO

December 10, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

They may suck as lovers. But as my friends I dont know why guys on the blog dogg u that much,like u said u arent phuckeable.U come across that way on the blog but i bet its becoz they dont knw u personally.When guys dont suck,u do phuck.I hope they understand now Mamba.I have never been the one to like nor pursue the chics who dont deserve a pursuit.A pudsy that comes on a platter aint worth shyyt!!.A difficult but hot pursuit makes the phuck much sweeter,memorable and cherished,for a long time.

By Sassette aka Kym

December 10, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

Thanks again everyone!

Tazzee No big celebrate just a huge sigh of relief…and maybe some butter pecan ice cream.

Dushawn Your story about still loving old girl has me thinking about these two fellows I know and have known for many moons. Now I have made the beast with two backs with both fellows. One is divorced and one is married. Married tells me he loves me and never stopped and given air and opportunity would gladly welcome my presence in his life again wife or no wife. Other dude well depending on the weather and if the Fakecons win or lose he loves me other days I am his best friend. Him I had to bid a not so fond fair the well to.. as my heart could not take the stress and my brain got tired of figuring out which personality was going to show up. Saying all that to ask.. If a person means that much to you love wise then why not try to make it work.? Riddle me that fellows. Oh yeah Dushawn you might be able to find ole girl on Facebook..lot of folks on Facebook now.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

….

Hall of fame, hall of fame…READ:

Write him a letter explaining how much his girl loves and appreciates him.

^^ From the blogger that’s been precieved by some as heartless.

Be his servant for a night, no sex allowed but everything else. (Hold on while I slap the shyt out of myself for typing that. Sorry, sex is allowed) Buy a bottle of his fav top shelf liquor.

my address is 40XX leXX pl,30o58 dekalb GA. Send ur appreciation card there in time for xmas.

I would never make a conscious effort to pursue a chick my potnah had been with. Well….

Shortly thereafter, she won the Ques bikini contest, Bruhs were jokingly hollering out ”That’s Dushawn’s girl….I’m like, Man that ain’t my lady, stop playing”.

And why has For Real’s town bike comment been pulled?

See why i check/read ya’ll so much, and I leave Pebbles, 7/11, Kung Fu, and Becky and ‘em to talk to themselves?…

You cain’t get this kind of convo anywhere!!!

O my Lamb!

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

Raqi *Didn’t you say 30 seconds?

Staceye WTF are you talking about? LOL I guess some men think that every woman wants them. smfh

That was my point. I ain’t hardly trying to convince you to want me. You applied literal weight to my words. Slap your ego in the face and tell it to go si’dine.

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

Truth “bottle of that fragrant alcohol.”

That’s a good one. He already has a money clip that I bought him 3 years ago.

“Write him a letter…” I thought about a personalized but…

“Be his servant for a night” Ain’t I already that??? LOL

“liquor” He doesn’t drink.

“You know what he likes or wants” Yeah and I already know what he has. That’s why I am looking for suggestions on some things that I may not know of that you men folk appreciates.

Melo LOL

Blue somewhat handy. He already has drills, saws and hammers. Oh a laser level and measure device. That’s a good one.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Get him a 6-12 month supply of that special face cream that he has to go all the way across town to Muhammed’s to get.

Mrs. Beauregarde: What do you use Cream for?

Willy Wonka aka Jonny Deep: To lock in moisture.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 10, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

because men don’t get that excited about going to buy used cars. And no matter what a guy says when he finds out you’ve been run up in he discounts you. This is too funny. Guys say they wanta pure woman. Well if every woman was pure…who would you be sleeping with? What’s funny to me is that men will say they want a virgin and discount a woman if she is is not. Well I don’t want a man who has laid with everything born female with a pulse! I see that as regurgitated meat as well. But who am I (or any non-virgin) to judge? Hello…whats that saying about rocks and glass houses?

By Dan

December 10, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

@Melo

She’s actually a terribly sweet person.

The blog persona is her ego and it is obviously bruised.

But make no mistake about it, buddy, she a good one.

By DreamsMaterialize

December 10, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

Is everyone as ready to go home as I am? lol Rainy day/night…good time for some inside activities.

Staceye sup witcha. see you still spittin that fire & venom. lol Still holdin it down in Dunwoody?

ARed You know I had to shout you out since you always got a good compliment for a bruh.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

DuShawn, you’re still married right? LOL

By DuShawn

December 10, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

I disagree with the fellas. I think age and time has a way of making one view that situation differently. I know of a few partners that have married and started families with females they knew had been intimate with mutual friends of ours. If my potnah dated a chick in his 20’s and I get with her in our 40’s, who the hell cares. Mind you, you never forget it, but you can move pass it. A prime example, the last time I was home, my wife and I visited a potnah of mine that is married to a chick I used to date in high school and early college. They have 3 kids and I was in the wedding. However, every time she hugs me, I remember the things we used to do……and I’m sure he does to.

By Foots

December 10, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

kimmie I see what you’re saying. If my man was struggling, even if I did have caviar tastes, I’d live on a sardine budget so we can make it. Poor dude, he bought his way in, now he has to pay to stay.

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

men don’t get that excited about going to buy used cars

Truth I thought you men said you prefer a woman with some experience at your age now. Having been driven is not the same as circling the odometer 10 times around.

Yes Blue I said that she said 30 seconds. But remember I said she was probably making more of it than it really was.

By MELO

December 10, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Dan, we have met.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Melo A pudsy that comes on a platter aint worth shyyt!!.A difficult but hot pursuit makes the phuck much sweeter,memorable and cherished,for a long time.

You better tell Staceye the rest of the story…

If, after all that chasin’ dude hits it, and it ain’t hittin’ on shYt, dudes gon’ act like the invisible man. Why? B/c the broad put all that stock in it as if that was the Crown Jewel, but dude was unimpressed likening it to shiny glass; and gets on down the line. Then this same chick is sittin’ up talkin’ ‘bout dudes just want the poosey, and how they cain’t get none, ‘cause the Queen of Womanhood ain’t lettin’ richard in. Mannn pleez.

How many chicks will admit to a dude disappearing after he’s hit the poosey?

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

Dreams - Thanks for the shout out. The compliments are because you’re deserving. If your blog personality was monkey-like, you’d get treated as such. LOL.

I am definitely ready to head home. Gonna make a hearty rainy day meal. Usually I make chili, today I’ll probably make jambalaya.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

Melo has met Staceye. She’s real real cool ppl. However, she’s a good read on those days when she doesn’t want to be flucked with. The girl can spit nails and I like that in all women. Speak you mind and don’t sugar coat jack!!!

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Mind you, you never forget it, but you can move pass it.

Shawn I think the fact that my first husband is dead makes all the difference in the world.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Staceye/Blue both of ya’ll need to go si’dine…

Why are you two contesting with each other about who has the biggest_?

What i read….

Blue does not go ‘toe to toe’, with females.

And

Staceye Has become just like a “frozen” candied strawberry.

The right man just need to come by and defrost her @zz.

So stop!

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

Melo A pudsy that comes on a platter aint worth shyyt!!.A difficult but hot pursuit makes the phuck much sweeter,memorable and cherished,for a long time.

You better tell Staceye the rest of the story…

If, after all that chasin’ dude hits it, and it ain’t hittin’ on shYt, dudes gon’ act like the invisible man. Why? B/c the broad put all that stock in it as if that was the Crown Jewel, but dude was unimpressed likening it to shiny glass; and gets on down the line. Then this same chick is sittin’ up talkin’ ‘bout dudes just want the poosey, and how they cain’t get none, ‘cause the Queen of Womanhood ain’t lettin’ richard in. Mannn pleez.

How many chicks will admit to a dude disappearing after he’s hit the poosey?

By MELO

December 10, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

If, after all that chasin’ dude hits it, and it ain’t hittin’ on shYt, dudes gon’ act like the invisible man My maan,all Pudsy is way over-valued until u hit it!!! It dont matter u marry the chic or u dont.Every time pudsy is till fresh,the stock value is way up.Its all mental.

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

Staceye aka Lick it til its wet Thats the balance we’re trying to strike. A cats got to have some booty but doesn’t want something everyone else has. Once again a mean dbl standard but I won’t worry about it since it only applies to women. Remember, women sell beauty and comfort and men are forced to pay for it. A chick with dyckmarks all over her scalp fails to be comforting because of her past experiences. At that point she’s simply looking for a fella to land on, who she will then deny the same pleasures she gave the knucleheads because her head is screwed up. Its a viscious game we play.

To look at in other terms in past era’s once you gave up azz nobody would pay for you. Not even a goat. Things have only changed moderately since then.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

I think age and time has a way of making one view that situation differently

Cuz really at the end of the day it’s ego. If the girl she flucked has no bearing on your friendship w/ dude…then what is the problem? It be different if dude is your BOY, but for someone you just head nod with in passing…

A lot of dudes just can’t deal with knowing. Unless she’s a virgin, she’s been with someone else before you, so it’s really no different except that you KNOW.

I can see that time and age will help solve that. LOL

By RELL - Russell da love muscle

December 10, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

@raqi

• coffee table book on his favorite subject or something with history…

• a vintage bottle of wine/liquor

• a pic book of you professional done

• what kp said

• something related to a hobby or interest he a*

• a vintage grooming kit where you had the soap as the shaving creme

• sports package on direct tv

i have more…lol

By Raqi

December 10, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

I am out. Headed to Dollar General. LOL Will read you all tomorrow.

Nighty night.

By DuShawn

December 10, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

Sassette it would be good to see her and talk about old times, but I’m not really trying to find her. That season has far past.

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

Dan/Melo I don’t know Staceye so all I have to go on is the style of the poster on here, but as Dan said, I do see a bruised up chick. And, I ain’t even hatin’ on you fellas for being the shoulder to lean on, but give that chick the whole enchilada, and let her know that beans will make you fot (fart for you Webster-totin’ MF’s).

By DASvenus

December 10, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

bluK i had just the opposite problem.

you know my line (ill make forget your first, demote your best and wish i were your last)…. add to it for some…. ‘you cant handle the truth’

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

Dang, not even a goat….

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

Melo has met Staceye. She’s real real cool ppl

And Leggs and it would be foolish for any of us to assume otherwise. Her desire not to deal with men and their BS has nothing to do with with being “cool” or not, ya know! LOL

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

Raqi you’re talking a bout a gender thats already inclined to fly solo anyway. doesn’t take much for him to bail and run. The worst thing isn’t the physical damage but the mental shyt these chicks are putting themselves through. We all know a pudsy will pop back but their minds stay fugged for a long time. I don’t date dudes and I don’t pay for shyt they did to you.

Alot of these chicks need therapy more than they need a man.

By Sassette aka Kym

December 10, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Truth BBC is reporting that Jesse Jackson, Jr. might have been the dude that offered the Governor cash for the seat.

From BBC News:

Federal agents quoted by ABC News named Congressman Jesse Jackson Jr as the man who offered Mr Blagojevich the money.

In transcripts of telephone conversations released by the FBI on Tuesday, Mr Blagojevich is quoted saying that a man referred to by officials as Senate Candidate 5 would “raise me 500 grand. An emissary came. Then the other guy would raise a million, if I made him a senator”.

When asked whether he was Senate Candidate 5, Mr Jackson said “I don’t know”.

Mr Jackson, son of the prominent civil rights leader and former presidential candidate Jesse Jackson Sr, told ABC news he had been asked to “share with [federal investigators] my insights and thoughts about the selection process”.

But he insisted he was “not a target of this investigation”.

By i'm swiss

December 10, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Nothing really to say on topic. Sounds like chic’s getting passed around like bong hits.

Off topic — swiss is one happy (and relieved) mofo today, after accepting a new job. Always good when the old company goes belly-up & the new job is a promotion & a 25% raise. :-) Blog drinks on me!

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

How many chicks will admit to a dude disappearing after he’s hit the poosey?

I’d admit it if it were true. Hasn’t happened to me.

By kimmie

December 10, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Raqi - You know your earlier story reminds me of something I heard on Q100/The Bert Show awhile back. This dude emailed Bert complaining about his jealous wife. He would go over to a married buddy’s house every other week to play cards and hang with the fellas. He was complaining because the wife would not let him go that week because it was the nite of the VS fashion show and she knew they would probably be watching it.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 10, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

Blue I’m sorry…it’s your ego that needs to take a seat.

I never said it was the crown jewel. But it is mine! And I just don’t let any dude with a few good words and and a cute face up inside of me. Frankly, the spread of all these STD’s scare me. And we all know condoms don’t protect everything. If all these dudes claiming that their baby mama is crazy! Well had he taken the time to get to know her as a person rather than getting the goods he may have found that out. Just as these chicks having babies from dudes they barely know…again…see past his face, finances and crap he speaks and you may see who he really is. My original post was based on someone who mentioned that because 2 people having been dating 2 weeks that they have already done the deed. I spoke on my behalf saying I don’t go jumping in bed with a dude because we have been seeing each other for 2 weeks. That type of thinking is why I prefer not to date. If the guy is already trying to get the panties so soon..then that is all he is after so why either of our time. He can go!

By lurker

December 10, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

Raqi a really funky vest/sweater vest, fedora/fadora, suspenders, buy all the ingredients of his favorite seafood and prepare (crab, lobster, mussels, etc), you said cuff links right…I bought Onyx links for a guy friend one year…that was a winner

By RELL - Russell da love muscle

December 10, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

@melo/blue…poo see is always hot for who she invest in….no extras on your part…all you need to give women are nouns, verbs, and adjectives…trick ponys and magicians dont last…if you solid and she can see it, touch it, or smell it..then you will get chose with your mouth closed….plus the poo see is never the goal only an end to a bigger journey….thats why i always say i have never activily pursused a women and got her…its when i was on point an she stepped to me mutually on some cooperation that i won…all that convincing is for the young crowd..feel me

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

Melo A pudsy that comes on a platter aint worth shyyt!!.A difficult but hot pursuit makes the phuck much sweeter,memorable and cherished,for a long time.

You better tell Staceye the rest of the story…

If, after all that chasin’ dude hits it, and it ain’t hittin’ on shYt, dudes gon’ act like the invisible man. Why? B/c the broad put all that stock in it as if that was the Crown Jewel, but dude was unimpressed likening it to shiny glass; and gets on down the line. Then this same chick is sittin’ up talkin’ ‘bout dudes just want the poosey, and how they cain’t get none, ‘cause the Queen of Womanhood ain’t lettin’ richard in. Mannn pleez.

How many chicks will admit to a dude disappearing after he’s hit the poosey?

By DreamsMaterialize

December 10, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

ARed ‘ppreciate that. Never have to worry about Dreams actin’ anything ‘kin to a monkey. lol You makin’ jambalaya? Damn can I come get a plate? ;-)

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

I’m not sure why you posted that ARed, but yes I do know this.

No one has disappeared on me either.

By Foots

December 10, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

It is interesting to read how much value that men actually place on sex. If it really were “just sex” to them, it couldn’t be powerful enough to put a mental block on their feelings for a woman, or affect their egos enough to allow them to fall in love, yet still refuse to want to commit just because she had sex with somebody they knew. I’m sure that it wouldn’t matter if the lady played spades with somebody they knew, or enjoyed another nice pasttime, like watching a football game with an old potna. So ladies, even if a man says “it’s just sex”, know that it means much more to him that just fun and games.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

I’m not sure why you posted that ARed, but yes I do know this.

Because I was agreeing with you Leggs.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

Cee now making *real jambalaya for the folks left in the Lounge and sitting around with their mouf to’ up!*

Dreams Close ya’ mouth.

Jamoca They don’t need any more latte. You see they’re already actin up.

Kimmie even though you over there working. Stop looking on Bed, Bath and Beyond’s website for that K500 Fondue Set, you want.

Foots Stop daydreaming about how you can save your plate of jambalya and serve it to him while ya’ll play wrestle later.

Sassette Gal, that report card can only be displayed on the Lounge wall one way now. Your smoothie is ready, go on.

mytwo** Wake yo’ butt up!

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

DasV ‘you cant handle the truth’

You stoopid. Hahahahaha

Staceye Alright slim…

Rell ….plus the poo see is never the goal only an end to a bigger journey….thats why i always say i have never activily pursused a women and got her…its when i was on point an she stepped to me mutually on some cooperation that i won…all that convincing is for the young crowd..feel me

I’m wit’chu all day right there. ^^^

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

So ladies, even if a man says “it’s just sex”, know that it means much more to him that just fun and games.

Foots, your 4:36 was everything. Good post. LOL

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

You were??? I’ve stated many times here, I get my wires crossed sometimes, especially when I’m sleepy.

For the record, not all guys disappear after hitting the poosey cuz they got it….some disappear cuz they afraid of catching feelings and best to get out when the deed is done!

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Melo A pudsy that comes on a platter aint worth shyyt!!.A difficult but hot pursuit makes the phuck much sweeter,memorable and cherished,for a long time.

You better tell Staceye the rest of the story…

If, after all that chasin’ dude hits it, and it ain’t hittin’ on shYt, dudes gon’ act like the invisible man. Why? B/c the broad put all that stock in it as if that was the Crown Jewel, but dude was unimpressed likening it to shiny glass; and gets on down the line. Then this same chick is sittin’ up talkin’ ‘bout dudes just want the poosey, and how they cain’t get none, ‘cause the Queen of Womanhood ain’t lettin’ richard in. Mannn pleez.

How many chicks will admit to a dude disappearing after he’s hit the poosey?

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Always good when the old company goes belly-up & the new job is a promotion & a 25% raise. :-) Blog drinks on me!

hmmph you see…i’m swiss…these folks cain’t see when the “token white boy” has sneaked in and decided to treat them to sumthin nice.

So just sit over here with Jamoca while she finish cleaning up latte drink spills and she will let you know what to do with those drinks.

By For Real

December 10, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

BBC is reporting that Jesse Jackson, Jr. might have been the dude that offered the Governor cash for the seat.

Awwwww dayummmm!!!! Now jr. will be rhyming….

Jesse Jr.: Pops!

Jesse Sr.: What you know good!

Jr: Give me a word that rhymes with joggatize

By MELO

December 10, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

Age has not altered my views on that issue Du/ared.Im not letting another man pine on my wife for the sexx they had yrs back.And with me and my previous sexx partners, ive always had the thoght,if i wanna phuck again, im free to do so at a discount.I feel other males,feel the same way about their exes.That explains my phobia with partners and exes.

By The Truth

December 10, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

Foots/Ared you’re so right. Azz is a s important to men as money is to women. And that covers your code word “security” too. LOL

By Foots

December 10, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

Blue How many chicks will admit to a dude disappearing after he’s hit the poosey?

Well, hellz, it’s happened to me. That’s what I call the Houdini. You file that under “Ish that didn’t work out”. Maybe they just wanted the chase, maybe they felt like we wouldn’t be a good fit as a couple, maybe they felt like they didn’t want a relationship at the time. But for whatever reason, yeah, I’ve had someone break it off by pulling a disappearing act.

And if I really tell the truth, I’ve done it too. We were together twice, but the more I got to know him, the more I knew that I didn’t want him long-term. So because I didn’t want the drama that he was good for, I just stopped answering the phone. He was the finest thing I’ve ever seen, but his attitude sucked.

By i'm swiss

December 10, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

Thanks, Cemeeli. Whatcha drinking? — I got you… :-)

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

you’re so right. Azz is a s important to men as money is to women. And that covers your code word “security” too. LOL

Truth, that works for me. :-D

By Blue_Kolla

December 10, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Peace out’choll.

Tip: Since cars are capable of hydroplaning at 50mph, please don’t be out here trying to do 80. We actually want to see all yoll back healthy tomorrow.

By Foots

December 10, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Swiss Congrats!! I’ll take an Amaretto Sour with a slice of orange and two cherries with extra-long stems.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Cee drinks any and every exotic bottle of Mojito mixer for her virgin frozen drinks.

Lol…see Publix for detail.

Thanks so much i’m swiss…This will go well with my blender.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Foots, I have had the disappearing act happen to me and I’ve done the same thing.

I thought BK was talking about it happening right after you’ve had sex, like the first time.

I think that’s different then him just disappearing after dating and sexing a while.

By i'm swiss

December 10, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

“Swiss Congrats!! I’ll take an Amaretto Sour with a slice of orange and two cherries with extra-long stems.”

Coming right up, Foots — on 1 condition. You can tie a knot in those stems w/out your hands, yes?

By Foots

December 10, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

Truth Money is important to men too. If time = money, then money = azz. Just ask short and funny-looking Russell Simmons. LOL!

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone.

Enjoy life and be careful. Forehead kisses to everyone!

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

Ya’ll be easy.

~Ciao

By Foots

December 10, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

swiss Yes, sir, I sure can! I can’t keep a pretty face while I’m tying it though, so if you want knots, you’ll have to deal with the “concentration face”. LOL

By DreamsMaterialize

December 10, 2008 5:05 PM | Link to this

Swiss congrats man. Don Julio tequilla for me since ARed won’t let me get a plate of jambalaya.

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 5:06 PM | Link to this

That’s what I thought he was asking too ARed, right after the do!

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2008 5:11 PM | Link to this

LOL Dreams. I set aside a plate for ya.

By i'm swiss

December 10, 2008 5:13 PM | Link to this

Foots — The “concentration face” can be a beautiful thing… depending on the focus of your concentration. ;-)

Have a good one, everybody…

By DreamsMaterialize

December 10, 2008 5:17 PM | Link to this

ARed Ok thanks. Thought for a minute you were being stingy. lol I’ll be over in like 30min. what should I bring? ;-)

By Leggs

December 10, 2008 5:21 PM | Link to this

Just your tool belt (LOL).