Misadventures in Atlanta

By HAPPY HOLIDAYS - QC

December 4, 2008 8:17 AM | Link to this

Morning, have a great day all

By Dan

December 4, 2008 8:35 AM | Link to this

@WD

The visceral reaction you speak of is hormonal. It happens to men and women. It’s not the person, it’s something that is built into their DNA that instantly causes that reaction (ie a smell, pheromone that creates a chemical reaction).

Now that person could turn out to be a real arsehole, someone with whom there is no future. But whatever instinct that he/she sets off in us is there.

However, we - the generation of enlightenment- become far more advanced and selective when choosing mates. So the chemistry is not enough, there has to mutual likes and dislikes, hobbies, etc.

And that’s fine. That’s a way to go.

But for me, personally, the joy is not in having both reactions simultaneously, but exploring the options presented by one or the other.

That said, the Hollywood myth of romance as a fated attraction is not likely for any of us.

But you can be physically attracted to someone you learn to like mentally, and you can be mentally attracted to someone you learn to like physically.

It’s the way of the world, no one’s perfect. But there are perfect people for each of us.

Love is life, and life is love - Rev.Run

By Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

December 4, 2008 8:47 AM | Link to this

Morning WD

Sometimes (read almost always) the “chemistry” overules the “compatibility” until one is somewhat “committed”. This summer I dated a lady two or three times (mostly lunches), and there was a strong physical chemistry from first sight for both of us. But for dayum near the first time in my life (thus the screen name “…Been There, Done That…”), I did the smart thing and walked away before we jumped each other’s bones. It would have taken a hundred guys to help fix her problems and I knew that “gratification” would have cost me a lot of heartburn down the road. I realized that as my recently departed uncle told me when I got married many years ago, “Son, you are tying a knot with your mouth, that both hands and both feet are going to have a hard time untying”. He was right.

As Kenny Rogers said in “The Gambler”, “knowing when to walk away, and knowing when to run”.

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

IMO chemistry and compatibility are two very separate entities however they play equal important roles in relationships. To be at one with someone is very important. To have that magnetic energy that draws to each other is just as important.

IMO again how don’t care how strong the chemistry may be if you don’t have anything in common (incompatible) it will not last. Compatibility is the things we see eye to eye on and share the benefit of doing alike. Your outlook on life, work ethics, spirituality, intimate drive, necessary time spent together and such all are key compatibility issues.

IMO once more, chemistry make for those happy together doing absolutely nothing days and compatibility works not only along side chemistry but it also provides that necessary bond when that euphoria is just not that elevated.

Lastly, IMO you need them both to sustain a healthy, happy relationship.

By Dan

December 4, 2008 9:11 AM | Link to this

@IMO (aka Raqi) ;)

for those happy together doing absolutely nothing days and compatibility works not only along side chemistry but it also provides that necessary bond when that euphoria is just not that elevated.

Well stated.

But can you (IYO) build on one or the other?

I mean two people that are attracted to one another that don’t have the same outlook on life can still be together. They can find an accord, or not.

But can to people that are not attracted to one another, but mentally compatible build on that foundation?

Jus asking

Because you are who I’d ask

By Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

December 4, 2008 9:22 AM | Link to this

@Dan

The very few couples I’ve ever known that really did make it work “til death do us part” had both physical attraction, compatibility, and a third factor…MUTUAL RESPECT. At the end of the day, that third one might be the most important of all. You have to LIKE someone, as well as LOVE someone.

Thus the wisdom behind the words written on the bathroom wall, “remember that no matter how great looking she is, there is some guy, somewhere, who is sick and tired of taking her shyte”. You have to LIKE someone, as well as LOVE someone to make it work permanently.

By Michelle

December 4, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

Good morning All :) I agree with each of you..
**I mean two people that are attracted to one another that don’t have the same outlook on life can still be together. They can find an accord, or not.

But can to people that are not attracted to one another, but mentally compatible build on that foundation?**

My answer is Yes to both questions! Some people may call it settling..

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

I want both. I’ve had chemistry without compatibility and tried to make it work. Crash and burn.

I’ve had compatibility without chemistry and tried to make it work. That was more like a slow death. Trying to build on the compatibility without chemistry resulted in hurt feelings and the loss of what could have been a great friendship - well I’m not sure if the other party would have wanted a friendship.

In summary:

Chemistry without compatibility - sex partner

Compatibility without chemistry - friend.

Today is my Friday!!!

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

Dan while anything is possible IMO I don’t think it will have a long lasting effect. Now I do believe that chemistry can form or grow between two people over time. But for the most part when I want to do my thing and you want to do your thing and we never want to do the same things, it will eventually have a detrimental effect on the union as a whole.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

Morning all. Happy Founders Day to pisces08 and any other Alphas we may have on the blog.

I’m not willing to give up both chemistry and compatability. What I am willing to compromise is how much I’d depend on chemistry. I think compatability is most important, but the chemistry separtates the guy from all the other ones that look good for you on paper.

Compatability will sustain your relationship, chemistry will give it some vigor.

By Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

December 4, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

@Tazzee

Very well stated and right on the money.

By Brian

December 4, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

“Tribal sovereignty means that; it’s sovereign. I mean, you’re a — you’ve been given sovereignty, and you’re viewed as a sovereign entity. And therefore the relationship between the federal government and tribes is one between sovereign entities.” —Washington, D.C., Aug. 6, 2004

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

What It Do Kin Folk?

And u 2 Ragu. I know you ignore me er’day, but I will still speak to yah. wink-wink

Me being the type of nikka I was, chemistry has was always what I vibed off. Cause my goal was to get dem draws so you and I had to have that sexual vibe going on for me to give you a second thought. I had little concern for getting to know yah, or trynna find common interest, much less carry on a lot on conversation bout anything other than how I was gonna tap that azz.

In hindsight now knowing what I know, I am looking for mo than a phat azz and a cute smile, yah boy wants some substance, some intellect, some conversation, mental stimulation and not just a receptical, feel me. I needs the complete package.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

Physical attraction can only last so far.But when there is a meeting of the minds and 2 people have similar outlooks on lyfe,that in itself may end up being sexxy in the long run.When you have an admiration for somebody based on deeper core beliefs,that ends up being very enduring and sexxy in ur eyes,i believe. There is an african saying that says:the civet cat smells the same and this is mostly used by men when talking about how women are all the same(physically and in so far as the dress chasing stuff is concerned).At the end of the day,all men have to focus on the core stuff.Who is going to be the most important woman for me for the long term based on what I wld want in a partner and not just the good and juicy rump steak she may carry on her behind. Have a nice day,all. Hey Cam!

By Dan

December 4, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

@Randy T

I agree with you entirely.

But I ain’t kissing someone that I don’t like, and respect is earned, my boy.

In the case though that there is compatibility without chemistry, Taz, chemistry is not simply a physical function.

I’ve had chemistry with a number of women that I wasn’t attracted to physically, but mentally.

And those were some of the most volatile and exciting “relationships”

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

Hey Tazzee, glad you’ve made it to Atlanta safely.

Today is my Friday too. I felt a 3 day weekend was necessary in honor of my birthday. I’m glad to see you will be observing said holiday! LOL.

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

ARed My 3-day weekend isn’t all play. I’m headed back to Houston to get one of the cars and some more stuff from the crib. The play part is my friend and I are taking a detour through NOLA on the way back to watch the Falcons beat the Saints.

I hope you have an awesome birthday!

By pisces08

December 4, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

Morning All….. Thanks Ared!! So we partying this weekend..? Can’t wait!

I’m with you Wise, I want both, and I’ll wait…

@Ared, at least we know who to look for this time! I’ll have your gift too…

By Michelle

December 4, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

What’s up Melo :)

By pisces08

December 4, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

@Tazee… I wanna go!!

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Randy I agree. Respect and Like goes a long way in relationships.

My issue with the nature guy was my like for him started waning. And I never really thought of it like that, but looking back that is what happened.

I actually never paid much attention to the like we must have for each other until Mase said it one today. “You better be glad I like you.” That got me realizing that like is extremely important.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

So we partying this weekend..? Can’t wait!

pisces08, you know it’s going down. I’ll have to hit you up offline w/ the intel. LOL

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

pisces08 Meet me at the Breakfast Klub at 8am and you can ride with us.

By pisces08

December 4, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

@Tazee

What’s your offline add?

By Leggs

December 4, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Thank you for that post RandyT!

Good morning everyone!

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

I cain’t post what I wanted to ‘cause Tazzee has come here and said what I was thinking…

Happy Friday lady! :)

So Taz’, <—-(your new shortname since you’re a GaPeach again). Ah, may i have some of that 9:27…?

I too, want both compatibility and chemistry in my relationship.

The compatibility is important, it has to be there. Chemistry is what drew us, and causing us to react to each other with fervor.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

pisces, btw I’m spending Christmas & New Years in our 2nd city so let me know if you’re gonna be around during the same time.

By Leggs

December 4, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

Both are equally important to sustain any relationship. When compatibility sometimes flies out the window, respect is the glue and love and liking your partner is the icing on the cake.

By Sassette aka Kym

December 4, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I agree with Raqi the two CCs are separate but play an equal part in the relationship. So like Tazzee I want both. No chemistry but you can talk about anything that makes for a good friend. Chemistry and no compatiblity..and you are screwing the hottest lump of dumb you ever want to meet. Okay well maybe not dumb but certainly not right for you in the end.

Of course this week is flying by I have so much stuff to do. Ughhh!!!

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

melo are you busy? You seem “worked”. LOl…Can Cee get you some coffee or something?

By FYI - QC

December 4, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

If you’re a Fulton County Resident planning on traveling for the Holidays - Fulton County Offices will be open 8am until 5pm on Christmas Eve 12/24/2008 but closed on 12/25-26/2008

By JIngle Bells

December 4, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

What happend to Porche Foxx of V103? I heard she got fired??

By pisces08

December 4, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

@Ared.

We’ll talk.

By Leggs

December 4, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

In Entertainment news: V103 knows how to keep us all interested. Porsche Foxx has been fired, again.

V103’s popular On-Air personality Porsche Foxx has been terminated! While I do not get the chance to listen to the radio much these days, I know that Porshe was killing it in her time slot. So when I got the news that Foxx has been canned I was shocked.

According to the Atlanta-Journal Constitution, Program director Reggie Rouse sent an e-mail Wednesday informing staff about Foxx’s departure, and she was taken off the list of DJs on the V-103 Web site. Her second stint at V-103 as midday host lasted just over 16 months.

The details are sketchy, but my my V103 affiliates are whispering about possible drugs, again.

Michelle from straightfromthea.com is saying that Foxx done went and failed her drug test.

As a condition of her probation, Foxx was required to submit to random drug testing and missed several court ordered monthly tests back in 2006. Her failure to comply caused the court to reinstate her probation. Sources could not confirm if she failed a court ordered test or a work-related one but hopefully this time Foxx will get the help she needs.

The buzz around the airwaves is that Former Hot 107.9 DJ Ramona Debreaux is the top contender for Foxx’s coveted spot.

All I know is that Rashan Ali is somewhere breathing a HUGE sigh of relief right now. It looks like her job is safe , for the moment.

I don’t care who you are; it sucks to be without a job during the holidays. How you gonna f*ck up after being given a second chance?

Theres more drama going on, but out of respect for everyone involved I will fall back. Nobody needs a nosey a* blogger up in the mix.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Im worked coz its year end and the audit is on and popping.But I know,worked for u waz code.. u thupid.I aint spend & worked like that,but do wish! Coffee??im on my 3rd seattle’s cup this morn. U got a baby sitter for this satday??U better,i cant wait to see Cee for the very 1st time!!!!! Im so excited for Leggs, Half a century on her clock but she has a 30sme spring in her legs and a face i cld kiss if she werent so close,the woman has good genes.

By Sassette aka Kym

December 4, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Not again Foxxx dang girl..you can free your mind without all that other stuff. Damn shame. Oh well..these things happen.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

How you gonna fck up after being given a second chance?*

It’s called addiction, Leggs.

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

…we and our?

ARed and P08 what’s up?

They told me anything said on the blog is up for discussion… ya’ll on here gyrating about meeting up and stuff…So, what’s up? Please exercise the preference to not answer sweetie.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

If thats true about Porsche,no sympathy here Leggs but very sad tho.Im so clean and fresh as far as druggs go,so i dont see it any other way. Warren Savage,same route.U so blessed, grossing six figure and waste and throw it for trifle stuff.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

They told me anything said on the blog is up for discussion… ya’ll on here gyrating about meeting up and stuff…So, what’s up

Cemeeli, no harm in asking girly. To answer your question: Nothing.

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Tazzee Not only should we all want both, FME it takes both to have a good relationship.

And welcome back to Hotlanta.

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

Raqi thanks for the welcome back - glad to be here.

OK, my other post got ate…

pisces08 Tazzee@gmail.com, that’s 8am Saturday.

Cemeeli What’s up lady? Imma be calling you about our breakfast date (where you’ll be cooking, LOL)

Dan I didn’t mean to imply that chemistry was just physical. But it is the chemistry - mental or physical - that makes folks want to jump another’s bones. For instance, Hill Harper is not my type physically, but his intelligence makes me want to jump his bones, LOL. A nice smile always helps…

let’s see if this one posts

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

U so blessed, grossing six figure and waste and throw it for trifle stuff.

Melo we know Warren Savage was crazy for that move. Porsche was on that herb for a minute i thought she dropped it.

WHy you wanna see lil ole me?

By MELO

December 4, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

WHy you wanna see lil ole me? challenge u on the dance floor..what did u think???

By Leggs

December 4, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

I’m given you the entertainment report, not MY report. Yes, I understand it’s called addiction (LOL).

Melo, thanks for the compliment. But, yes, I’m not sorry for her as well. Just like I didn’t feel sorry when Warren Savage messed up his career.

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Tazzee Fish, shrimp, and grits on deck. you and guests are the clean-up crew.

Anytime, i’m ready.

I’m suppose to host my Tree Party this w/e. You’ll be at the Superdome in Falcons Corner anyway…we’ll get it together.

smooches

By Leggs

December 4, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

Oh snap, you posted about Warren Savage. BTW Melo, stop pumping me up (LOL). I was told yesterday that I look old, so beauty is in the eye of the beholder (or how well one is aging is in the eye of the beholder)(ROFL).

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

I was told yesterday that I look old, so beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Leggs, I hope you gave up the cigs!

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

Lol Melo I danced to Beyonce’s “Get Me Bodied”’ lastnight (i only went to the gym for 30 min so i needed to make up)…OMgoodness.

You need to get The Queen on the ‘Beyonce challenge’…that girl’s extended dance version video will work a sistah!

By Leggs

December 4, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Just about! It was a running joke, but thanks for your concern (LOL).

By Poppa Grande

December 4, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Tazzee

I haven’t been to New Orleans since Katrina went through there. Most of my NO friends now live here.

Anyways, I’m wondering if Mothers (I think that is the name of the restaraunt down the street from the Superdome) is open there. If so, I might have to go to New Orleans next year.

Falcons should win because most of New Orleans best players will be suspended for the rest of the year including RB Deuce McCallister and DE Will Smith.

Have fun! Have beignet for me, I believe Cafe Du Monde is open.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

It was a running joke

Leggs, aha! It was a joke. So basically everyone knows you look ageless.

By The Truth

December 4, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Morning folks. And I do mean morning.

On topic: I must truly be lucky because I found what you all speak of at an early age. I was in a parking lot in germany and saw this chick and it was like lightning, POW. There were alot of folks around us but really it was just me and her. Whats funny is for those seconds that we stared at each other nobody even walked between our path. It was just meant to be.I had to have her, there was no other option. I got her too. We had a fairytale romance and wound up getting married. We travelled and learned together and grew up together.

I’ve had that feeling since and always wound up with the woman. Then again its hard not to when every fiber, every hair on your body is pointing to a chick and saying she’s yours. I want to be with her, without her and inside of her all at the same time.

Chemistry, compatibility, friendship, the whole boat. It’s been 25 years since I saw my ex and she still swears we’re soul mates. We still can relate on a whole different level.

What you’re referring to is a spiritual connection. It’s a combination of all the things we commonly speak of in love and relationships. The thing is, even with that you will continue to be human, to make mistakes, to hurt that person. The only thing is you have an internal bond thats stronger than anything you’ll experience together or apart.

So now when a chick thinks she’s running game she just doesn’t know, i’ve been to the big league’s and messing with this minor league league stuff doesn’t phase me one bit.

Michelle * Some people may call it settling.* Everyone on the face of the earth settles and you will too. Nobody can live up to your fantasies and asking them to puts alot of pressure on them to perform. The secret to happines isn’t wanting everything but being content with the things you have.

Slightly lumpy oat meal is on the stove for those that are hungry. Hurry because in a few minutes its goingto harden like concrete.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

I was in a parking lot in germany and saw this chick and it was like lightning, POW.

Truth, just curious. Was she white?

By Michelle

December 4, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Truth, you are the Truth! I completely agree!!

By Leggs

December 4, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

I hate oatmeal, let it harden!

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

Chemistry is the physical connection that we share with someone. Yeah, yeah, yeah we like to throw a little something extra in there (i.e. “stimulate my mind”) to make it be all pretty and such. But in the reality of things, we were created with that chemistry for the purpose of mating. You know that umph? Look real close…ump(h)…(h)ump.

By The Truth

December 4, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

ared she was black.

By The Baddest.....

December 4, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

I think it was Tazzee that said it best, but it does just depend on what you’re in need of at the time. In a perfect world we would all have both, but that just doesn’t seem to happen for the majority of us. So me, I choose to date the dude with the BIG dyk, nice whip, and endless cash and/or access to capital markets. I learned a long time ago how to play the game, and I’m ahead!

I’m always on a recession-proof hustle.

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

Chemistry, compatibility, friendship, the whole boat. It’s been 25 years since I saw my ex and she still swears we’re soul mates. We still can relate on a whole different level.

Truth So, whyyyy did you two split again?

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Thanks Truth, that’s what color she is in my head, but since y’all were in Germany, I realized that I could be wrong. LOL

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

While we have that chemistry and compatibility in play we still have to work at making the relationship be. We are separate entities. Unique personalities. Independent upbringings. We have to grow to be one while separate.

By Dan

December 4, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Wait…

CeeMee is coming? Then so am I!

Long drive and all!!!

Bullshytting, I was going anyway…

It’ll be good to see the faces with the names.

I’mma bout need a roll call of who’s in and who’s out.

Disclaimer I will be clowing on folks that renege.

I just had a thought, Rell and Ared in the same place….at the same time….if you see a big guy walking around with popcorn, that’ll be me!

By Michelle

December 4, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

The Baddest I hear that hot sh*t! I ain’t mad @ ya AT ALL! LMAO!

By The Truth

December 4, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Cee because at the time I had access to more azz than I could shake a stick at and took advantage of it. Even with my attraction to her, which covered the whole range, I was still physically attracted to other women. Cuss me out, I’m a lustful dude.

Like Raqi just pointed out (1119) a part of the attraction is pyhsical, sexual, sinful.

Also, just because it doesn’t last forever in legal terms doesn’t mean it didn’t exist. I’m just not a forever kind of guy. Though our bond has lasted through time.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Any of u ever had the opprtunity to experience the Junior Statesmen Summer school program for high schoolers?? Im signing up my daughter for it at Yale,Princeton, Stanford or Georgetwn and hopefully,she will make it but wanted to have ur circumlocution(luv jaw breakers,hope that fits the context…lol) on it.Thnx.

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

PoppaG Yes, that restaurant is open. If you’re talking of the place that has the good breakfast, usually a line down the street - I went to the Essence Festival in 2007 and stopped by there. I will definitely have a beignet for you - never had one before.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

I just had a thought, Rell and Ared in the same place….

Dan Pligga neeze. You know I won’t be there. Party on without the fireworks.

By mqew

December 4, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

QC

mail call

By Dan

December 4, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

@Truth

I’ve had that moment too, to the woman that I was engaged to.

But after that experience, isn’t it better to not fiend for it time and again, hoping (in vain) to find another one.

To me, that’s akin to waiting on her/him to come back.

It’s an experience (one that I’ll never forget) but like all others in life, something to be added to the laundry list of experiences.

@The Baddest….

Wiston Churchill had a saying that ended in”…now we’re arguing over price”

You do realize how that statement could be perceived?

By Leggs

December 4, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

Dan, don’t fool yourself in thinking you’ll see a lot of faces w/the names. Best believe there will be some lurkers in the midst!

ARed/Rell, will more than likely NEVER be in the same place at the same time!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 4, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

Well compatablity starts with chemistry with me. If I have no physical attraction to a guy it is not going anywhere…I don’t care how nice he is or how much we have in common. The thought of kissing or laying down with a guy that I do not have an ounce of attraction to causes me to vomit. If he is cool..we can be great friends…but that is all. For example, this guy approaches me while I am out shopping. Now I can look at him and know I have not one tinge of physical attraction to him. But since he approached me nicely, I was cordial. I also let him know that I have no interest in dating him or any other guy for that matter. Now if he was atttractive to me..I would of course flirt. That is fun. But it would not go any further than that. Well this guy goes on to say that I need a good man in my life. I had to stop him…..”NEED”???? How about Not!?! But he…just like everybody else can not fathom that a woman can be happy….happier if she doesn’t have a man in her life. I don’t understand why that is so hard to comprehend. Are people really co-dependant on romance? I can have more fun chilling with a guy who is my friend than one who is not trying to go there with me. Now I have kicked a few friends to the curb for trying me. I don’t even do alone time in my crib or a guy’s crib anymore. I swear these guys will make a sista catch a case if they do not learn to behave! LOL

If the chemistry is there then we actually have a chance…unless I find out he is a bloody wanker and is more shallow than a kiddie pool. With my ex…it was physical attraction first….that kept my interest to get to know him below the gorgeous exterior. We had a lot in common and enjoyed each other’s company. Being that I was so attracted to him physically. mentally and emotionally…the bedroom action was frequent and off the chain and always desired. It didn’t feel like a chore. Nor did I try to avoid him because I did not want him. I ALWAYS did. I used to tell him that anytime he was in my crib he had to be naked. I mean he had the perfect body. So again….the physical was the major component!

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

I will definitely have a beignet for you - never had one before.

Tazzee WHAT?! LOL And we were at the same Essence Fest. One of the best weekends I had in my life.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

yea what truth said….most of mine have been the same way….

why should color matter?…just curious

saints will be without some key players but i think they will win…atlanta secondary has been shakey lately so look for brees to air that thing out this weekend…atlanta has to keep brees off the field for the birds to win period….no turnovers

tazzee the money coming to me again ya bwoi is 11-2…..

By The Baddest.....

December 4, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Michelle, thanks Ma. When women learn how to curb those erratic emotions, we’ll be so much better off. I just can’t settle for the apples that fall onto the ground, I want that top shelf man who brings more to the table than I have individually, otherwise I don’t need you, nor do I want you.

There is a different caliber of man that most women have never had access to, nor knew existed b/c they are still bottom barreling it. Forget that. Sorry, 1982 rules don’t apply to 2008 because so much has changed. Play, or get played.

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

ARed LOL, I had my first Hurricane at that Essence fest and I’ll have my first beignet this weekend (if I remember). Yes, that was a great weekend.

Leggs I hate I’m going to miss your celebration. Have a ball!

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

@Dan…dont count on it player…..let me just say this….the rah rah on the blog is me blowing of steam and just overall clowing..homes in the streets i am a chill smooth cat…trust me i am the mack in the back…if it were not for leggs approaching me and introducing herself i would not have inquired….i am cool in person…i just clown on here…so if that ever happen this is how it would play out…i would introduce myself to her say hello and KIM i know she hates me and there is no need to be around someone that hates you..feel me…plus i dont argue with females period dot…i dont even argue with wifey…feel me…so it would be cool

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Even with my attraction to her, which covered the whole range, I was still physically attracted to other women.

That’s why it takes more than just chemistry to have a relationship. It takes compatibility, platonic desire, mental & emotional dedication, obligation and discipline as well.

By The Truth

December 4, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Dan But after that experience, isn’t it better to not fiend for it time and again, hoping (in vain) to find another one. 100% co sign. It’s not something you could actually look for anyway, in my eyes. It just happens.

Raqi/Glaze While we have that chemistry and compatibility in play we still have to work at making the relationship be. We are separate entities. Unique personalities. Independent upbringings. We have to grow to be one while separate. now this needs to be highlighted. Just because you find that bond doesn’t mean you have a lifelong get out of jail card. You still have to put in some work to get it right. Well said.

I thinks some think that now I’ve got this then its over and forever is a foregone conclusion. It’s not and never will.

By Dan

December 4, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

@ARed/Rell

I’m fairly certain that two civilized adults can be in the same place at the same time without the superego battle.

I would even dain to say that in person, you two would likely be civil at the very least - end up laughing on the other extreme.

No aspersions to either party intended.

And to those that come, be glad to see you, and to those that do not…you gone miss a he!l of a good time!

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Ah, Dan don’t start nuthin.

just because it doesn’t last forever in legal terms doesn’t mean it didn’t exist.

aight Truth….

By The Baddest.....

December 4, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Dan you can interpret what you will from my post. Its easier to assume the worst isn’t it? It doesn’t matter really what you think. I’m just trying to provide perhaps a different angle, perspective, thought process to my sisters who are tired of hitting their heads against the same wall as it come to dating.

Compatibility and Chemistry, is there not more to life’s satisfaction than that? Aren’t they both fleeting? As we experience life, people, places, cuisines, etc. doesn’t our perspectives change, precedence readjusts? All things are ever evolving, unless you choose to be stuck. What’s hot today, won’t be hot this time next year. Change is certain.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

Rell Good grief…I don’t hate anyone, not even in real life. I can be cordial with anyone too, but I’m also selective in the types of people I surround myself with, period. That’s been existant LONG before I ever found this blog.

And don’t fault others who don’t get hyped about meeting random strangers off this blog. Besides, some of y’all need to remain a fantasy. Some of y’all are working with way more online than you do offline.

But uh, at the end of the day, this weekend is also MY birthday weekend and I happen to be busy with my own ish, football games and parties, so please don’t flatter yourself.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

I’m fairly certain that two civilized adults can be in the same place at the same time without the superego battle.

Dan - Duh.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/profile.php?id=719145344&ref=profile

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

What did i miss?

Dan you were engaged?

Just because you find that bond doesn’t mean you have a lifelong get out of jail card. You still have to put in some work to get it right.

aaaahhh… Truth Had his cheerios this morning. good

By Dan

December 4, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

@Truth

I think that was the nature of WD post though.

That flash moment, the one that they enact in the movies….on top of that guy being Mr. “I like that too”.

And what I’m stating, and you too (feel free to correct me if I’m wrong though) is that the combination of instant and sustained chemistry and compatability is damn near impossible to find.

A fantasy if you will.

And while I have been accused of being a romantic, I’m also a pragmatist, and I know that finding that lady is (was) a shot in the dark and I know for a fact that staying together is more work than wonder.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

ummmm aiight…that was not my line of thinking..but again its cool on my end..again happy bday and enjoy your weekend!..period dot!!

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Besides, some of y’all need to remain a fantasy. Some of y’all are working with way more online than you do offline.

WOW

By Dan

December 4, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

@ARed

As always, ma, do you and have a blast at it for your C-Day.

@CeeMee

Yes, not something that I talk about a lot

@Ms. Baddest

You do you too, but they way I read the original post, is that you was at the cash.

You’re right, doesn’t matter what I think.

Still, thank you for trying to add to the discussion. And I like the “banging the head on the same wall” joint…..methinks she may be enlightened…

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 4, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

Afternoon All! Its another day at good ole AT&T…anyone catch the irony there?

RELL Besides, some of y’all need to remain a fantasy. Some of y’all are working with way more online than you do offline. LMBAO! You are sooo wrong for that! Witcha cool self! :0)

Okay somebody said something about Beignets and got a sistah’s sweet tooth cracking! Add a slice of King Cake to that and Im good!! MMMMM!

On topic: whatever ya’ll have already said!

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

As always, ma, do you

Dan, And as always, I will. Do you ever have anything not blatently obvious and non-generic to post?

But thank you to you and Rell for the bday wishes.

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

THE BADDEST…

Gurl, u’on know shyte. Obviously, u aint run up on the right one. Slick mouf chicks like u gets nothing but DNA in dey face.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

@MO…Red posted that…i was just like wow….what a ballsy comment….but i understand where it comes from…but still WOWWWWWWWWWWW

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Mo - Rell didn’t say that, I did. He just highlighted it.

By The Truth

December 4, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Dan sometime I think its not possible to do the whole 9 yards thing too but then I remember my neighbor whose wife died. He said he saw her with some friends and it was a wrap. 37 years later and they’re still in love, though she’s gone.

Alot comes down to what we have on the inside. Thats why I jump on these chicks that practice short yard plays but when the game starts they always want to go long. If you want to go long you have to think and practice long. My .02

CEE I’ve sent Santa a note for him to review this years activities to determine what, if anything, you qualify for on the gift front. His reply? He’s chcked it once and he’s checking twice but its alot of ish to look over. I’ll let you know what the verdict is after he finishes reading your scroll. LOL

By The Baddest.....

December 4, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Dan indeed enlightened.

Shaw-T Lo………….crickets

By Dan

December 4, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

@ARed

Yep. Captian Obvious, that’s me

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 4, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

ARed Girl you’se a fool for that comment!! I laughed so hard when I saw it (as I was speed reading). Sorry for giving your kudos away! I was like RELL..WOW!!

Totally off topic: has anyone heard Rahsaan Patterson’s Christmas CD?

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

@Shawty T-lo….bwoi yousa a fool….i know who this is NOW!!!….lol….

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

RED

Aiiright, Red come clean!!! Who needs to stay dey azz in cyber space? That WAS gangster!!! You might just be ready for some LO in yah life. What say u?

By Dan

December 4, 2008 12:38 PM | Link to this

@Baddest

I went back and read that original post, and the subsequent one’s - color me confused.

So are you saying that you figured out the hustle in that you on the hunt for the perfect guy, or are you on the hunt for what that guy can offer.

By The Truth

December 4, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

Shaw-t all women are after money to a certain degree. Baddest just put it out there. If a chicks not concerned with loot before getting together she will be after. She was looking for someone to fund or at least co-sign her fantasies from the rip. Here’s a short list of things women desire. You tell me which are free:

1) A big wedding

2) A big home

3) A family

4) Lottsa of whatever she likes

5) Vacations-preferrably near water and sand, and not the local beach

6) More kids

7) More money

So really cash was written into the contract from the beginning but it was in real small print.

Good afternoon Mo. I hope you’re not getting caught up in that.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

Aiiright, Red come clean!!! Who needs to stay dey azz in cyber space? That WAS gangster!!!

Shawty, that person knows who he is, so I’ll leave it at that. And I’d never want to keep you away from your prototype Raqi. LOL

Mo, glad I could make you laugh. I know how it came across, but there is really no nice way to say something like that, so there it went. LOL

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

BADDEST

All I got 4 u is….face down azz up!!!

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Mo I didn’t know he had one - I love his voice so I’ll have to get that one. I just found out the other day that Ledisi has one. I’ll be buying that too.

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

RED

Baby gurl, you know Ragu keeps giving me dem daynum crickets. I keep hoping that she would at least say “Hi.”

Truth

Gotta cha, keep drinking dat simp juice and signing dem blank checks. What’s yo favorite favor?

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 4, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

Truth Thanx buddy but I dont know just yet if this will affect me one way or another. Time will tell.

ARed you are right, somethings just have to be said outright. Thanx for that chica!

Tazzee That Ledisi is nice, I saw the advertisement for the Rahsaa Patterson CD so I’ll be getting his too! Im a fan

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

Shaw-T Lo, maybe she’d say hi if you called her by her screenname Raqi instead of Ragu. LOL.

Or maybe she’s just selective about who she spends her blog time with, like me. LOL

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

Cee not dumping a bowl of Cheerios on Truth’s head.

While pointing my inky-pinky baby finger at Truth.

Dude you know i don’t care nothing about no list. Im’a mine, regardless.

By JtJ

December 4, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

As usual, you guys are off the chain. I am a die-hard lurker and just wanted to co-sign what Raqi said in her 8:57 post. Compatibility & Chemistry go hand in hand. Why would anyone want to settle for one or the other? In the end, which will come a lot sooner, you will see that it was time, feelings, emotions wasted. Speaking from a woman who married young, you don’t know the two exist until you have had and experienced them. You know it is possible and you don’t waste time when the two are not there. No sense in just going along with it for the sake of compatibility if you are also longing for chemistry. I can say that in my current relationship, we hit it off instantly because our phone conversation proved that we had compatibility and our 1st date definitely proved there was chemistry.

By The Baddest.....

December 4, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

Dan what I said is that as I evolve, what I want/need/desire does to. Point, blank, period.

Truthafter money eh? Not so much, I’m after the man that can match and/or master my efforts, all of them.

By DASvenus

December 4, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

good afternoon good ppl

CEEcee you crackn me up gurl wit yo observations.

him walked in and earths spin stalled heat and pressure up my spine crawled

his boy asked for permission he wanted in for free i jokingly said: 1st tell meh who him be

he looked at me and through me at once everything i wished to hide he saw in that moment whateva he’d sd was my law

i saw none but him and he saw none but me we walked in alone and out a ‘we’

we danced and talked and ate and laughed discovered what we instinctively knew my favorite color was red, his blue

his hands on me: the most natural thing our minds and bodies fit horizontally, vertically on a perpetual tip

ok i have to stop he’s no longer here this day….. no tears

he was the one but not for long enough realizing that trugh still is tough

you can plan a pretty picnic but you cant predict the weather you know what you’d do but not what the other

life is constant change only consistency is: it goes on on days like this i fight the urge to be withdrawn

By Shelby

December 4, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon ppls……

@RELL stay focused LOL…

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 1:03 PM | Link to this

That was:

Im’a get mine, regardless.

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 1:07 PM | Link to this

Tazzee/Mo

Ya’ll should get with that “Someday” by Ledisi!

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 1:07 PM | Link to this

Dan chemistry and compatibility is possible to sustain but you have to want it and work at it. Even the sun rises and sets. Every day and all interactions will not be an experience of sheer bliss. But just because I don’t want your hands on me at this very moment or I don’t care to be in the same place with you at this time does not mean the chemistry or compatibility no longer exist.

All things are not always automatic. But they still work.

Some days M and our relationship can be the furthest thought from my mind, but he can walk by and just touch my shoulder and without any effort from me my heart will get happy, my stomach will jump or my glaze (LOL Truth) start to flow telling me that umph is still there.

And there are days when I do think about him and us, but it takes a bit of priming (getting my mind into the swing of things) to get that chemical reaction to boiling.

Compatibility works the same way.

By Angie

December 4, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

I agree, in a committed relationship when you have both been exclusive, that would be personal when it ends. However, when you are auditioning/interviewing stages and you are trying to see if you are ready for prime time, when things don’t work out, for whatever reason, it’s fine to be disappointed, but it’s good to keep things in perspective when that doesn’t work out. It was new, it didn’t fly, we are moving on. NO need to get indignant in those situations.

i agree 100%

chemistry and compatibility has to be there! this is another reason why i’m not married. finding a man isn’t the problem.

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Never heard of that CD and I thought I had all of hers (except the Christmas). I’ve got Soulsinger, Feeling Orange but Sometimes Blue, Lost and Found - I’ll have to look into that one.

By The Truth

December 4, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

Shaw-T your showing your stupidity. Women cost, period. If your with them your paying a price. Even if its nothing but your time. You could have been doing something else to earn more or learn more. And dudes with cash dont mind giving chicks a few bucks because it makes for a much cleaner trnasaction. You’re gonna pay up front or on the back end but your gonna pay. Those are the rules of the game. Now take that little nugget of info and go get your gold teeth cleaned.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

it goes on on days like this i fight the urge to be withdrawn HEY DasV,why,u got some sadness there at the end,what u thinking bout?

By M'Karyl

December 4, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

Hey folk…same tone this year as last year with the blog convo…ummm

By MELO

December 4, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

Now take that little nugget of info and go get your gold teeth cleaned lol

By Dan

December 4, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

@Das

That was beautiful….

Thank you for sharing that Next time remember the copyright ;)

By M'Karyl

December 4, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

Hey folk…same tone this year as last year with the blog convo…ummm…hope all is well within each blogfam’s reality…and hope you were not in any lines that stampeded someone to death for a bargain…and they wonder why I let holidays go…ummm…and….

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

EARLY!!!!!!…..LOL

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/28038281/?GT1=43001

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

RED

Lil Mama, I was taught to speak to those who spoke to me. She aint even said “scat.” But yah boy cool wit it. I will remain cordial to her though.

Happy B-Day, hit one fo yah boy!!!

By MELO

December 4, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

I got a question and joke 4 u,if uall take it the way i do: we were on some corporate team building stuff yesterday,bowling in stckbridge and indoor exercises.Now the coach split us into 4 groups of 6 in each and asked us to use the mash mellows and raw spaghetti to build a model building with an egg on it to support it and see which group would come up with the tallest building. My group of 6, all blacks (3 fem and 3 guys), came last in the competition and there was a lot of arguing among us cause the blding barely came up. Now the group that won was diverse. Now tell me,if u can, why u think we lost. Take a stab at it and at 2.30pm after my lunch,i give u the answer.

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

Shaw Why me? Yes, my mom taught me manners also. So Hello. But why me?

Truth be told I can’t see you thru my Mason colored glasses. His superb husband duties and his 600 millions soldiers swimming in my uterus at this very moment keep those glasses tinted in his favor. So if you want to give an opinion or ask a question based on something that I post, I will be glad to respond. Other than that…nada.

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

HI DasV.

Tazzee it’s the song #15 on her last CD.

Melo I’got an idea of the answer but i’ain’t putting it on blast. You got jokes…Lol

By The good side!

December 4, 2008 1:38 PM | Link to this

Hello to the most engaging, intellectual sistas in the ATL!

Special show-out to Rell,Melo,Dan,Poppi and the TRUTH for keeping it real all the time!

Stacey has spoken and I am charged to give up my Holiday eating and get this body looking good because the physical comes first and then if you are sharp like the MAMBA the mental will last a lifetime!

THE BLACK MAAMMMMBA! AHHHHHH

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 1:38 PM | Link to this

His superb husband duties and his 600 millions soldiers swimming in my uterus at this very moment keep those glasses tinted in his favor.

I’m SO DONE for today folks. LMAO and TMI @ Raqi! LOL

By M'Karyl

December 4, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

@Dan

DasV always has some good things to say…the Sistah is the most righteous…a powerfully focused and good SOUL…gotta love her…she is just that way…peace Sistah Das

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

It also DOES NOT help that I’m eating pasta with alfredo sauce right now. looking side eyed at my lunch

By Dan

December 4, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

@Auntie

That was at once the sweetest and grossest thing!

But I catch your drift….well stated….

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

TRUF

Partnah, u’s u and I’m me. Nigs like u keep dem broads head gassed and talkin’ that stupid shyte 24/7. It’s a least one in er’ group.

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

Dat’s why her name is iRaqi.

I get real tickeled at you Good Side with your admiration for Sis Staceye…it’s so cute.

By Angie

December 4, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

truth

singing

i’ll buss the windows out yo car

lol. how’s ev1?

By Sidelines

December 4, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

Ared…I’m SO DONE for today folks. LMAO and TMI @ Raqi! LOL, I was thinking the same thing…lol!!!

Ragi, I’m not even mad at you woman!! It’s a beautiful thing though! You go…when I grow up and get married again, I’m calling you and take some notes, lol!

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

RAQI

I ain’t no homewrecker, but I like nice thangs and I do read tween the lines too. Gotta cha on that, Miz Lady.

And dully noted, my treat from last light is still lingering on my mustache.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

Cee, send it takpat78@gmail.com.Lets see how wild u are.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

I wish I could pull the plug on this daggone blog right now. Y’all nasty! LOL

By DASvenus

December 4, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

MELO yea. a bit of sadness here…. understandable though… it only happens once, and its come and gone for me. now im just lookn for a really cool roommate wit a job and pays his bills on time whose done wit nonsense and walks the line.

Dan thanks, blog-bruh. LOL i never remember the copyright… TouCan aint neva showed me how to do that.

M’K thank you for that sista-gurl! hows the struggle wit you??

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Melo. nope.

Cee now dumping melo’s challenge in a bowl of cereal.

By Angie

December 4, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

loving someone shouldn’t feel like a job and shouldn’t take a whole lotta work. loving someone is effortless.

now loving someone who doesn’t want to be loved … the hardest thing you’ll ever do.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

Familiarity destroys seduction. This rarely happens early on; there is so much to learn about a new person. But a midpoint may arrive when the target has begun to idealize and fantasize about you, only to discover that you are not what he or she thought. It is not a question of being seen too often, of being too available, as some imagine. In fact, if your targets see you too rarely, you give them nothing to feed on, and their attention may be caught by someone else; you have to occupy their mind. It is more a matter of being too consistent, too obvious, too human and real. Your tar¬ gets cannot idealize you if they know too much about you, if they start to see you as all too human. Not only must you maintain a degree of distance, but there must be something fantastical and bewitching about you, sparking all kinds of delightful possibilities in their mind.

By The Truth

December 4, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

Shawt and Stupid please tell me how you’re the only cat that has graced mother earth and never dropped a dime on a chick. The baddest playa’s in history understood the rules but you, in your infinite wisdom, have figured a way to get much azz and not pay for it. Please share with me how you do this so I can save my nickles and dimes. Btw, whether you pay for a meal movie or just give the chick the cash outright it’s still loot out your pocket. Share with me how YOU get around this.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

What I need is a woman who is something, anything; ei¬ ther very beautiful or very kind or in the last resort very wicked; very witty or very stupid, but something. —ALFRED DE MUSSET

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

LOL Amazon and Sidelines. Why is that TMI? We had sex a little over 12 hours ago. One teaspoon of jizz houses anywhere from 50 million to 600 million soldiers, and since those little marchers can live up to 24 hours they, or most of them, are probably still marching around looking for an ovum to invade.

LOL They can march all they want though, ain’t no baby making going on in my pouch. I banks on the 99.9% effectiveness of my BC.

I really didn’t mean any harm.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 2:19 PM | Link to this

We all have a self-image that is more flattering than the truth: we think of ourselves as more generous, selfless, honest, kindly, intelli¬ gent, or good-looking than in fact we are. It is extremely difficult for us to be honest with ourselves about our own limitations; we have a desperate need to idealize ourselves. As the writer Angela Carter remarks, we would rather align ourselves with angels than with the higher primates from which we are actually descended.This need to idealize extends to our romantic entanglements, because when we fall in love, or under the spell of another person, we see a reflec¬ tion of ourselves. The choice we make in deciding to become involved with another person reveals something important and intimate about us: we resist seeing ourselves as having fallen for someone who is cheap or tacky or tasteless, because it reflects badly on who we are. Furthermore, we are often likely to fall for someone who resembles us in some way. Should that per¬ son be deficient, or worst of all ordinary, then there is something deficient and ordinary about us. No, at all costs the loved one must be overvalued and idealized, at least for the sake of our own self-esteem. Besides, in a world that is harsh and full of disappointment, it is a great pleasure to be able to fantasize about a person you are involved with. This makes the seducer’s task easy: people are dying to be given the chance to fantasize about you.

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Yes, I realized that after I hit post and went to my meeting. That song is cool, but nothing like ‘Think of You’ - it took me a while to realize Who she was talking about, I used to skip that song.

Angie How do you define love? My definition of love requires some work because at my nature I’m selfish, and while during the honeymoon stage, it might be effortless to love, when that wears off, I have to make a concerted effort to consider someone else’s needs/desires instead focusing on me.

By Angie

December 4, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

i read this somewhere this past w/e

a person who is judgmental and always got something to say doesn’t have their life together.

hmmm

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

Why is that TMI? We had sex a little over 12 hours ago.

Raqi covering ears La la la la!!! I don’t even want to know of my parents having sex and I certainly don’t need images of jizz dancing through your uterus during my work day!

Though naturally assumed, I guess some of us don’t need it to be said. LOL. It just shocked me, is all! Go girl.

By Angie

December 4, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

hi tazzee!

love is a verb. you can’t be selfish with it. i don’t tell the ppl in my life i love them. i show it every single day. everyday!

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

LOL Amazon I actually meant for the original post to sound as crass as possible.

But I am sorry.

By DASvenus

December 4, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

rell omgoodness…. tell me where you got that.

melo on gmail IM aaaalllll day (and night sometimes too) just sent you an invite

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

auuwww…Taazee you’re gonna make me cry. ‘Thinking of You’ is a tear jerk.

iRaqi You and your army…please slow down! You know they say “it’s in the water”. As I read that, i cain’t help but remember “ovaries” and whatnot, then cringe…cause mine has been untouch for a minute and i’m sure mamma’s lil eggs are some tickin’….well you know.

By Angie

December 4, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

covering ears La la la la!!! lol.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

LEGGS,Im planning on getting u a present for ur coming out day.Hit me up on my u know how.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

@DAS…send me an email to dwilliams2022@hotmail….and i will send it to you

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

TRUF

C’on ova here, get comfy and put your Chuck Taylor’s up on the coffee table.

My argument is this, ain’t no chick fixin’ run thru my stacks. Yeah, I will pay for yo dinna and a movie but a rolling ATM i’m not.

Now if i wanted to get/stay in the game without spending a dime I could do that too. It’s all about the laws of prey and predator. As a former peddler of flesh…feel me, it’s all about how you work on them brain cells.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Raqi, no apologies necessary. At the end of the day, your union is inspirational for many of us to read.

Plus, you hit dude in a way he would understand. Funny!

So I’m just being silly, cuz that’s me! LOL

By Angie

December 4, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

love is something that you don’t want to hold on to. it’s really not yours to keep. be selfish with your money instead. men do it, even when married.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

DasV, been a minute,is the job situ cool? I’ll get some details from u later,will hit u up too.Hang in there girl….

By Dan

December 4, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

@Rell

I feel you on the art of seduction

But what that book misses is what can’t be written

Seduction isn’t a series of steps to be mastered or handbook, seduction is as innate an action as breathing, an act to be performed not for mastery but a skill.

Think of it as a lifetime of apprenticeship…you’ll never reach mastery (nor is that the goal) but it is the journey that informs each traveler

Plus, seduction is in no way universal. It is as specific to a woman as her fingerprints, as tailored as her style, and can be a form fitting as her favorite little black dress.

But that’s not a skillset that can be sold…

I may not even be conveying it correctly, but make no mistake about it…I signed up a long time ago

By DASvenus

December 4, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

angie either love is effortless or its a verb; it cant be both. or if it can, explain please.

Rell youve got mail

By Sidelines

December 4, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

Ragi…lol, girl your too much!!! jizz…lmao!!!

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

Melo i’m on a conference call and asked my parties about that exercise you mention earlier, and two of the ladies (one in Pennsylvania) is crackin’ up!

By Sidelines

December 4, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

Ragi…lol, girl your too much!!! jizz…lmao!!! No harm girl, never heard it described that way tho…lol! And, cute…

By Leggs

December 4, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

Tazzee, sorry you won’t be able to make it. I would like to meet as many bloggers as possible. Thanks. I hope to have a great time, not sure!

ARed, thanks for my laugh of th day with—->Some of y’all are working with way more online than you do offline. Hilarious!

Ok, let me go back to reading!

By Angie

December 4, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

venus but it is! when i tuck my baby into bed every night that’s love and effortlessness … and a verb.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

@dan…player i know that….i have read the dayum book three time already and i still find more stuff i missed the other times or maybe i experienced something that highlights certain passages a lil more…and i dont read it like a step by step..hell its not written that way…but lil short doses of things to think on thats all…just ish to ponder player….feel me…

By MELO

December 4, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

Cee what they cracking at shawrty….?? tell me why it is then.

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

Plus, seduction is in no way universal. It is as specific to a woman as her fingerprints, as tailored as her style, and can be a form fitting as her favorite little black dress.

Dan that right there ^ is so true. And you know what, it’s not even the every single time for the one woman coming from the same man. Or even different men for that matter.

What succeeds in seducing me today may no affect on me tomorrow.

By The Baddest.....

December 4, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

Shaw-T Lo, what you are is disillusioned. It must be nice in your world, visit ours sometimes.

We all pay to play, just at different levels. The only sure thing is death.

By Dan

December 4, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

@Rell

I know that….

wasn’t really meant for you…

But I’ve read the joint too

By Jamoca

December 4, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

peeking in… Hello you all…

Pretty much agreed with Raq and Tazzee. Which btw…loved the 1:34, Mrs.Raqi Aufton IzzaBaaaddddBytch ;-) and that Mirena - just lovely, isn’t it? :-)

B/C you know that supa-sperm can live anywhere b’twn 2-5 days in the womb…but averages about 72 hrs! ….and up to a week if those pro-swimmers reach the fallopian tubes. But that 99% effectiveness has a way of taking the edge off, huh? LOL! …ya’ll be on your good behavior(s) good now.

By Dan

December 4, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

@Auntie

I know that too,

That’s something that you learn about your chosen after a time

It’s also a never ending pursuit, like Truth’s friend…I would wager that to the day she died he spent the time learning how to seduce her everyday.

My problem is in choosing the woman to share that journey with

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Angie for me, action is not effortless.

Example - last Saturday (rainy and dreary here) I had a hair appointment. I really wanted to just head back to the house after my appointment but my BF called and she wanted me to stop and get her something to eat. Not only that - she wanted it from a place where I had to get out the car and get the food (I went to drive-thru for my lunch). My selfish nature didn’t want to have to get out the car with my fresh ‘do but my love for her did it with no problem.

Now I don’t have any children and I’ve been told that a mother’s love for her child is one of the greatest loves you can witness. But I can tell you this - I love my godson dearly. Digging those nasty visitors out his nose is in no way effortless but I do it because I love him and I want him to be able to breathe.

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

Melo…lol

Gracie from PA said; Good luck with that.

I really don’t know why your team couldn’t get the building excercise up. But i do know you have zulu mental so you shoulda been got that one built.

By For Real

December 4, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Let me see:

What up Mo I got a prayer out for you.

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

ah…ah…ah…uh.

We get King Tut tickets from Ga. Aquarium for Christmas perks.

I’m so elated. I did not want to pay for that exhibit.

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

LOL Sidelines. Before I got my first IUD implanted about some 12 odd years ago I asked my doc how successful it was. She said considering that the man I have sex with can pump up to a teaspoon of his fluid containing up to 600 mill marchers into my pouch with one shot, 99.9% were good odds. I nearly fell out of my chair when I heard 600 mil.

Jamoca You know I have taken a couple of PTs since being married because that 1% and AF likes to play tricks on me from time to time.

YALL CAN UNCOVER YOUR EARS AND EYES NOW. I AM DONE TALKING ABOUT LITTLE SOLDIERS.

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

I love my godson dearly. Digging those nasty visitors out his nose is in no way effortless but I do it because I love him and I want him to be able to breathe.

Tazzee cute. auw

Hello Moca.

By Angie

December 4, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

tazzee i gotchu! makes sense to me.

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva oh yeah, For Real’s summary reminded me - you can’t be approaching spinster-hood. You’re younger than me and I am no where near spinster-hood, LOL.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

Cee u and ur girls are way offside with that..all it tells me is i got a bad reputation with u and most.

But the correct answer is(read the qstion again*:: there was nobody with mexican blood in my group

By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S!

December 4, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

I KNOW WHO Shawt-lo is…. Rell DO NOT FALL FOR IT TRUTH!

@ RELL STOP BEING A LIL ATTENTION HOE-ZO!! PULL DOWN YA SKIRT YOU’LL SHOW EVERYONE YA THONG!

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

Tazzee nasty visitors?? LOL you are on your way to good motherhood. But until you have had a hand full of diarrhea or face full of vomit…you got a few more steps to go.

Nothing like spending the afternoon scrubbing your soiled hands with Clorox that makes a mother’s day worth it.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

do still want Raqi after finding out she didn’t wash this morning?

LMAO. Y’all gonna kill me today. The dog hair and velvet part killed me too.

By I luv MEAT!

December 4, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

This subject sucks!

By Sassette aka Kym

December 4, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

Angie Loving a kid is not effortless. You love your child unconditionally but it takes all my strength not to beat mine senseless( his uncle has command that he have that job) and believe me this week he has gone high and too the left. So there is major effort put in when a kid reaches those teen years.

By Wise Diva

December 4, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

what’s up guys!

LOL @ Tazzee, alright, then. That works for me!

JtJ, I can tell you are lurking and laughing at us crazies, LOL jump in more often!

I HATE, I see you are on the all caps rage again, LOL waving

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

melo your rep is au’ight. hehehe.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

@I hate….WRONG AGAIN A.S.S HOOOOOOOOOLE

By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S!

December 4, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

FUGG YOU RELL! IT IS YOU…SUCH A LOSER! YOU ARE THE BIGGEST BLOG LOSER ON HERE!

@ FOR REAL Truth and Shaw- T Lo going at it. Awwww ish it’s gon be some dog hair and velvet flying THAT WAS SO FREAKIN HILIARIOUS!

By The Truth

December 4, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

shawt I never peddled flesh but I never sponsored a chick that wasn’t wearing my name either. You pay for meals and I do. thing is I get taken out by the chicks that take me out too. I don’t do the atm thing and never have, not my thing. But like I said we all gotta pay to play, and that goes for the chicks too.

By Keep it real! From Ohio

December 4, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Peace,love and happiness to all!

When I was young I wanted that chemistry and chased all flavors to get it!

Now that I am older, mature and married I must have that compatibility so I can keep the chemistry going!

30 year fixed rate 5.250.

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

Raqi I have a long way to go. I will only change his poo-poo pants if no other adult is around. His mom, my other BF and I were at the house and he dropped a bomb. They were looking at me and I was like ‘naw, y’all can handle that one’ - then I left the room.

But I would never let him sit around in poop if no one else was around that’s why I won’t keep him by myself for more than an hour until he’s fully potty trained, LOL

hand full of diarrhea and a face full of vomit!?!?! I think that only comes after that 9 month bond in the womb…unless you’re a medical professional.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

Tazzee in more graphic terms,luv is when u cant or wont spit at the sight of ur luved one’s foul shytt(dudu).Thats luv,zulu sense!! When ur luved one is ill and its the middle of the night and u up,taking care of them and their needs rather than worrying about ur own lack of sleep,thats luv.

By The Baddest.....

December 4, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

I HATE you are absolutely correct. Now where have we seen that ‘DNA on the face’ statement before…..RELL

Sometimes you just have to let the kids play….LOL

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Amazon ForReal is a nut. LOL

You can wash the glaze off of you, but a Summer’s Eve nor fire engine hose will not wash the soldiers away. March on little soldiers, march on.

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

I HATE A10 CHIN WH ORES

How bout dis, fake azz moniker having bish, don’t hide behind some g/d letters, reveal yo self. I dare u azz to say dat shyte with u usual alias.

By Jamoca

December 4, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

some dog hair and velvet flying HAHAHA!!!…yo’ silly self! LMAO! and you forgot, the aquarium platform shoes with goldfish swimming around, chkn’ n’ rice and half o’ the ho ho’s …a fight would break out at the ho-asis! LOL! j/p…hehehe

Speaking of, Truth you know your inbox will be blowing up the closer it comes to your imminent departure. I bet someone’s planning your surprise (Ho-asis) farewell party as we post. And she ain’t gettin’ through if she’s half a ho-ho…hahahaaaa! just jivin’ ya… but N/R.

Raqi yerp, I hear that. That one percent chance comes from those fertile genes that run in the fam. Can’t really say miscarriages run in ours…those embryos hold on for their dear lives…talk about thriving. But you know the B-I-B-L-E says that Sarah gave birth to Issac (I love that name), when she was 90 yrs old. so… teehehehe…I see you giving me cow eyes. You can never be too careful tho..

Some flavored may be strawberries n’ cream spermicide can take care of all ‘at. ;-)

Cee hey chile… I see you tangled in all that rope. Be careful not to hang ya’ self. Where’s my machete?…gotta get you outta that mess. I see him tryin’ to take you there ;-)

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

@I HATE…go play in traffic bench….its not me for the last time..but hate if you must….we see you he-she’s have nothing to do during the day….what did they shut down all the glory holes down in midtown or something…..i suggest you find some quick work homo….because there is no more room on my dizzle for you….beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeench

By I luv MEAT!

December 4, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

10 Chin Wh ORES FUNEE

By DASvenus

December 4, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Dan who would want to seduce if your success is dependent on their insecurities?? besides true love is minus the seduction….. except during those times when the heat needs to be turned up.

Melo job going well. its a lot but im handln it….and wit style and finesse. i dont mind workn when im gettn duly compensated. feel meh?! i kno u do!!

Angie maybe you should define “effortlessness” to me…. cause when i tuck my babies in im usually breathing hard, fighting hard to control that ‘what?!’ factor and desperately attempting to understand the need for four glasses of water because i tucked you in.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 4, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Good Side you are too funny! LOL I’m starting to think you like torture dude! Be careful…you may end up in the mistess’ dungeon! wink wink

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Sassette You awight over there Def-Con?

Melo You stayed up and took care? good rep

By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S!

December 4, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

AMAZING! I WAS NOT REFERRING TO YOU SHANTY LO. AS I SUSPECTED I FIGURED YOU WOULD ANSWER SO IGNORANTLY..WHO ELSE ON HERE TALKS SO BITTERLY FOUL AS YOU RELL FUNNY FUNNY FUNNY

@ THE BADDEST THANKS HUN! IT WAS TRUE

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

You can wash the glaze off of you, but a Summer’s Eve nor fire engine hose will not wash the soldiers away. March on little soldiers, march on.

Raqi, I thought you were done witht the soldiers talk! LOL.

But yeah, I know all about how the soldiers work. Hopefully, my knowledge of the reproductive cycle is part of the reason I’ve successfully dodged those bullets after all this time. Pun intended. LOL.

As if we didn’t have enuf TMI today, I can also tell where I am in my cycle just by the “wet wet” alone! LOL

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I see. You do have a ways to go. LOL

melo that is love. I remember those nights like they were yesterday. My youngest was 3 when he came into my room one night saying that his tummy was hurting. I took him to the bathroom and after about 5 minutes I figured it was false alarm. Not even 2 minutes after putting him in the bed with me he exploded in his shorts. While I had him in the tub taking off his soiled pjs he vomited in my face. My reflex made me grab his leg to pull him back and landed me with a hand full of mess. My oldest vomited in the car once and it was like 95 degrees outside. And we were a long way from home. I love those boys. LOL

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

@baddest

DNA on the face’

that phrase anyone can jack….i guess you are a kool-aid dranker as well…i know who it is….and its not me FNG..had you been here a couple season back you would clearly see who it is….now please you go run and wait for you simp to come shoot sunshine up your behind…i am like you on here bellyaching ova some dude that was treating you like a jumpoff….please you lost and the game as not started….wrong time of day to even start flucking with me..

By pisces08

December 4, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

@Tazee… it didn’t work.

By Dan

December 4, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

@Das

Naaa, not my style

First, I do not deal with insecure women, it’s not in me. I have to have a woman with a sense of self, not focusing on what she lacks.

In that context, that’s what makes the seduction all the mo’ betta.

Becuase she knows herself, there’s very little left for me to find to seduce her…but hopefully a lifetime in which to find it

And, my experience tells me that some women don’t mind showing their men what they’ve discovered about themselves

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

Jamoca That’s true about Sarah. But you know at this stage in my life I would have to ask the Lord to let the blessing he has already given me be enough and he should “Share the Blessings” with WiseDiva and Tazzee.

See old ladies have babies too. Don’t yall want to be like Sarah our foremother. Imma start praying for you two to be maternally blessed tonight, even if it takes another 40 years.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

WHO ELSE ON HERE TALKS SO BITTERLY FOUL

are you serious….bench you psyco fa real….lol..thats like the pot…aww fluck you know the rest…LMAO

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

10 CHIN WH ORE

HE IS NOT ME & I AM NOT HE. BUT I WILL TELL U WHERE U CAN FIND ME….I’M DAT SEMEN THAT’S DEEP IN DEM CREASES OF YO NECK.

By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S!

December 4, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

@ ARED HOW CAN YOU TELL WHAT TIME OF THE MONTH JUST BY THE “‘WET WET”“? PLEASE EXPLAIN THAT ONE?!?

By MELO

December 4, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

I can also tell where I am in my cycle just by the “wet wet” alone i hurt my fingure and thumb this week while cutting that dekalb frmers market hen,so im all bandaged.I wld have come over to fingure u ared and feel that warm moist. Melo You stayed up and took care? for a luved,regular or side, i wld.U dont believe a man can luv a side(more than 1),u females are wrong tho… mail call DasV I am hoping by satday, these bandages will be off.There will be so many cougars in haristons so i need all my hands and fingures unencumbered!! So much to touch,so little time…..wheew..

By The Baddest.....

December 4, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

The Baddest now pushing RELL’s a/k/a Shaw-T LO a/k/a Angry Black Man a/k/a Can’t Express Myself w/o Being Rude and Using Expletives play pin further in the corner.

Play by yourself!

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

pisces08 did you use one ‘z’ or two? What’s your addy, I’ll send you a message.

melo now that’s some love - I can do it, but I can’t guarantee I won’t hurl a bit myself during the caretaking.

By DASvenus

December 4, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

Raqi LOL@ your stories… they fit mines. a very elite couple took a likn to my oldest when he was like five or six and they took him places. once he peed on their dining room rug (you know the good rugs). he provided a robe and she washed his clothes and dried them AND iron them. i was sooo embarrassed…. and i remember me and my hubby laughing cause i tole him when he got out the car i was so proud at how good he looked. little did i know)

By Leggs

December 4, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

ARed, I started to post to Raqi saying I thought you were done as well, but thought if I didn’t perhaps you would and you did (ROFL).

BTW everyone, I’m working really hard, but you guys have me cracking up (as usual) Even 10 Chin W******* has me laughing with its creative spelling.

By Jamoca

December 4, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

Loving a kid is not effortless. You love your child unconditionally but it takes all my strength not to beat mine senseless

Kym YES!YES!YES! INDEED! Picture this: Ms. 5’9 and I’m 5’4! When I tell you I loved the look on that gal’s face, when it was apparent she underestimated Mama b/c of my height. Had her hightower behind lookin’ up at my 5”4 self…from off the floor one time. Yes, it takes strength with much effort. Tell her like mine told me …. “it’s not easy, but I do it because I love ya” ….the day I do not react in other words…the day I act as if I don’t give a doggone, then honey you betta know, you have much to worry about. Later on you’ll look back and be thankful for the direction and CORRECTION Mama provides.

With her yellar complexion, I have to occasionally check that behind, but I do it on the weekends. 2-3 to heal. LOL!

Melo I’ve got to say, I loved this ——-> in more graphic terms,luv is when u cant or wont spit at the sight of ur luved one’s foul shytt(dudu).Thats luv,zulu sense!! When ur luved one is ill and its the middle of the night and u up,taking care of them and their needs rather than worrying about ur own lack of sleep,thats luv.

I remember I helped out many o’ nights and some days with my great-grandmother, while I was pregnant in my last trimester. She died 6 days after my little one was born.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

Whor3s, the wet wet changes consistancy during your fertile time. Not saying you can’t get pregnant at different times of the month, but if you cycle is pretty consistant, it’s a good gauge. And also, you gotta factor in the life of the soliders too. If they’re chillin in there and you ovulate, you’re gonna get knocked up.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

@baddest…cute attempt but please love again i am not anger nor bitter….i should be with some of the things i CHOSE to subject myself too..but i am cool…big sis tazz already wiped my azz in that dept and told me to snap out of it months ago so i am good….now again i know you are bored and you need something to do….i say start twizzin off that wolf p.u.ssy you have on your upper lip….or you could crack your toe knuckles…anything other than to think the above or even think to send one my way…aiiiiight you gump a.ss chick

By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S!

December 4, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

@ Baddest LET ME HELP YOU! SUCH AN IDIOT…

By For Real

December 4, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Excuse me does anyone know what time it is? Anyone?

For Real now sticking his hand Ared pants to see what time it is.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

I wld have come over to fingure u ared and feel that warm moist.

melo You are such a pig. LOL

By The Baddest.....

December 4, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Ok, enough jolly good times for one day. Gone.

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

I thought you were done witht the soldiers talk! LOL

Amazon I know I said that. But since I am still on the subject, for next 24 weeks M and I are going to see how many little marchers we can pile into my pouch.

That 1% will be looking more like 0.0001%. Imma have to convince M that we may need to call in the lamb skins and latex to help out. LOL

March on soldiers, march on.

siigghhhh I am truly done now. LOL

You all have a good evening.

(WiseDiva and Tazzee happy procreating girlies.)

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

melo i wasn’t being snide. I was giving a compliment zulu. Dag, stay with me.

my experience tells me that some women don’t mind showing their men what they’ve discovered about themselves.

Dan ah, this is true.

Jamoca Tangled? i’m doing just fine…but thanks anyway.

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

For Real now sticking his hand Ared pants to see what time it is.

LMAO. Okay For Real, laugh all y’all want, but I bet some of you dudes wish y’all had chicks so diligent in trying to keep themselves off the delivery table or out the clinic…

By DASvenus

December 4, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

Dan i feel ya…. just after i hit ‘post’ i took a look at what rell sent me. needless to say im intrigued. (goodlookn out rell)

By Jamoca

December 4, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

and he should “Share the Blessings” with WiseDiva and Tazzee.

See old ladies have babies too. Don’t yall want to be like Sarah our foremother. Imma start praying for you two to be maternally blessed tonight, even if it takes another 40 years.

BAH!…HAHAHAHA!!!…What is really going on in here?! Too frickin’ funny!!!

Lemme pass Wise and Tazzee some deadbolts,nuts, gizmos and gadgets… and Cee can you please spare couple of your chastity belts, with the skeleton keys? …especially since thangs about to change around here and there! LOL!

By Raqi

December 4, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

the wet wet changes consistancy during your fertile time

Amazon my code to Mason during that time is “white icing”. I forewarn him that “tonight we will be mixing eggs whites and cream”. 99.9% do your thing.

Wise why do you let me hang around here? I am a bad influence. LOL

I am gone for real this time. Nighty night.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

December 4, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

For Real thanks for looking out, I appreciate it!

I see this weather has brought the gloves out for some! Come on ya’ll, leave the BS alone. But I am getting a good laugh

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

since I am still on the subject, for next 24 weeks M and I are going to see how many little marchers we can pile into my pouch

Raqi, you seem to be in a sharing mood today. I kinda want to ask why y’all are taking on this challenge while another part of me REALLY doesn’t want to know. LOL

Happy Humping. LOL

By Jamoca

December 4, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

Cee Anytime…really. ;-)

Lemme come out of here…I need some air now. I’ve had enough of the madness.

Ya’ll, please be good and be safe.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Welcome back Tazzee,too bad we cant meet this weekend.Hope soon.When i look at that face in my gmail add book,i cant help but curse A and USA men! There is a chinese elders saying that reads thus,the ripe & juicy fruits will fall where there are no takers.Smtimes i just feel,these elders had so much prophetic powers.

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Mo what does Rashaad sing? i think you said Is he new?

By MELO

December 4, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

Cee,no, u good.i was on sub plot.U knw i fire on many cylinders.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

@ared….your right…i had a girlfriend that could do that same thing…plus she would get a sharp pain in her side when she was ovalating….so what you speak is true….

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

Cee can you please spare couple of your chastity belts, with the skeleton keys?

Moca…oh, allright. Here. Now listen, you gotta be selective with your keys, only one Chief gets the other set of your key.

By Wise Diva

December 4, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

It is truly hilarious to see the comments that try to be all tough/gangsta, LOL, I dare you to post under your usual moniker!!! seriously? ya’ll crack me up!

By MELO

December 4, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

only one Chief gets the other set of your key thats the official line..hehehe

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

so what you speak is true…

Rell Of course it is. LOL

Being on the pill, I don’t ovulate anymore, but when I did, I think I felt it too.

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

Jamoca I’m just hoping my prayers will outweigh Raqi’s because I’m not trynna be apply for AARP while my child is applying for college.

melo Thanks, I need to update that pic. Yes, we’ll meet. I know your bark on this blog is much worse than your bite, LOL. I’m not a Hairstons fan, but maybe I can get you and Mrs. Melo out to Taboo 2 one Friday night - especially since Filipia (sp) is back.

By For Real

December 4, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

“trying to keep themselves off the delivery table or out the clinic…”

For Real now looking at his hand in amazement. He didn’t know it could that… For Real now consumed with fear for his hand has done that many, many, many, times.

By RELL - short eyes

December 4, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

@WISE…i am thinking the same thing….i am like post under your usual self

@ared…yea that ish use to freak me out..but needless to say she introduce me to going in uncovered….lol…she was the first one….one of the better relationships i had the pleasure to experience

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

..sure is…

Melo why you on me today? :)

By Angie

December 4, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

kym, tazzee, venus

i appreciate y’all giving me another way to look at this thing called love.

wish i can stay and play

By For Real

December 4, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Raqi vs Tazzee - The Praying Wars…

Raqi: Oh baby Jesus please oh please give child to Tazzee.

Tazzee: Oh baby Jesus born to Sweet Mother Mary. Kill Raqi!!! Her her NOW!

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Tazzee let me know about that.

Melo you see Tazzee is so ladylike in getting a formal introduction. My stance all along.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli, im not on u,i thoght u were going to debunk that..lol. But be good and good nite!lol

By Shaw-T Lo

December 4, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

DIVA

My point, why hide behind some fake azz monkier, hell dis a m/f blog, Whatuma do, what’s gonna happen? NOT A DAYNUM THANG…YO fake azz gon come rite back on here tomorrow bumpin’ yo gums, clicking keys, so be who u are!!!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

December 4, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

Imma start praying for you two to be maternally blessed tonight, even if it takes another 40 years. Raqi I am glad you did NOT include me in that prayer! LOL

By AmazonRed

December 4, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

..but needless to say she introduce me to going in uncovered….lol

That certainly takes a lot of trust. Beau knows that I’m never trying to be his baby mama, but you still gotta be checking for diseases too.

My best homeboy and I had a talk about a month ago. He and his girlfried are going strong. He still wasn’t ready to propose after a year. Amazingly, she’s 35 and hadn’t put any pressure on him to marry.

Lo and behold, she’s 8 weeks pregnant and he’ll marry her in 2 months. 35 year olds still getting accidently getting pregnant. Who’da thunk it. LOL

By MELO

December 4, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli me and Tazzee got a diff relatiosnhip.U and me,we still wrking on it coz right now, my eyes still see dble,dble…lol hehehe

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

melo what is debuk?

By Tazzee

December 4, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

For Real Thanks for that laugh to end my day before heading out into this crazy traffic.

have an awesome evening and weekend folks.

GO FALCONS!!!

By Cemeeli

December 4, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

ohhhh he make me ill.

Go home to your wife Melo!

Good night all.

By MELO

December 4, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

debunk is to contradict my official statement

By Jamoca

December 4, 2008 5:21 PM | Link to this

Tazzee LOL at your 4:38! Well sistah, looks like you betta get to it, b/c I’m sure Raqi’s sitting in traffic with her special request to the Great I AM right about now. The elders say that there is life and death in the tongue. But what she’s praying for is NEW LIFE. Hahaha!

Now listen, you gotta be selective with your keys, only one Chief gets the other set of your key.

…hmmm…so Cee how many copies should I make for you? The Great I Am, Baby G-sus, or Chief? that’s a tough one… :-P

…speakin’ of thumpin’ folks upside the head —-> Him say: You’re either for me or against me. But the little sprite man says: Image is nothing, thirst is everything…yet the image is so everchanging.

See ——> this time I STIR, WHILE YOU TASTE. Don’t taste so good huh? May be it’s scorched? Heyal, I’oun know. I guess that means I’m off the team. Hmph! I say: Divide and Conquer.

I’ll take those belts now. :-)