Misadventures in Atlanta

By AmazonRed

November 7, 2008 8:47 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday everyone! I guess I’ll kick this one off.

Confidence is so sexy. Arrogance, in small doses, can be sexy too.

Confidence gone wrong…that happens when the advertising is better than the actual product.

For example: I had met a guy who talked a good game, he sold himself as extremely handsome, fit, sexy, and smart who had no trouble with the ladies. What I got was not my idea of handsome or sexy, chunky and sweated profusely. The convo was nothing stimulating and I could hardly understand him anyway over the country twang.

I was really scratching my head as to wear this confident, fit, sexy guy was! The let downs are even worse when the expectations (due to over confidence) are built up so high!

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 8:54 AM | Link to this

Off Topic

PoppaG I am offically in a love hate relationship with the study of law. I love legal research, I am hating WestLaw because I can not find what freaking need to complete this memo. I was up at 3 am this morning looking for information on divorce and child custody.

On Topic What do you consider confident behavior? Saying what you mean, meaning what you say. Staying true to your word and not back tracking or backing down.

What do you consider confident behavior gone wrong?

When your expect others to bow down and rest at your feet in wonderment at the glory that is You. Everyone’s shyt stanks

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

Confidence vs Arrogance? IMO you can’t really separate the two. I think they fuel each other. However too much of anything is a turn off. I have come to expect the occasional arseholeness when dealing with M. However I wouldn’t have it any other way now. I love his confident nature. But you know how I deal with the egotism? I call him out on it.

And you know what he calls a bytch when he sees a bytch. And I doubt if he would have it any other way.

The difference is being a way all the time compared to just feeling yourself a bit too much every now and then.

The thing about the single woman confidence is she doesn’t disappear after fusing. If you keep her in check being single, you’ll keep her in check after getting coupled. I had a hard time staying in check for a while, but a big slice of humble pie will bring anybody back down to earth.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

Amazon I agree, small doses of arrogance is sexy.

And since we are already sorta off topic thanks to Kym (LOL j/k), yesterday evening after my f-i-l was placed in ICU Mason came home with his brother and brother’s wife with him. I was upstairs when they came in, and M stood at the bottom of the stairs yelling up to me. I swear before the sound could penetrate my ear drum he was yelling again. And did so a least two more times before I went to see what he was barking about. When I got to the bottom of stairs he calmly said, “We are going to get something to eat. Let’s go”. After he was out of listening range my sister-in-law laughed and said “Good lawd girl, I thought I was the only one that had to deal with the earsplitting summoning of the master.”

Are those two brothers confident or just arrogant?? LOL

By Mrs Clean

November 7, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Raqi

I enjoy hearing stories about your interactions with your hubby. I am getting married in a matter of days and was wondering if you would go into detail about your 857 post.

I have been accused of having “the big-head” and getting out of hand every now and then. After having been single some time and meeting an amazing someone else who has single for some time, it is difficult to adjust.

We have fantastic communication but there is a generation gap so sometimes things are lost in translation..

What piqued my interest is your statement of “I had a hard time staying in check for a while, but a big slice of humble pie will bring anybody back down to earth”. Please explain..

By M.

November 7, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

I think confidence is just being comfortable with you and playing your game and just being you. ALSO, the most important aspect to me is that if you are confident, you really should NOT have to talk a lot, advertise, put on, or anything. It should just ooze from you without you doing anything. It should just be your nature.

Arrogance to me is a defense mechanism for insecure people. I think if you have to be arrogant, you use this as a way to over compensate for something that is missing. This goes for males and females. Whatever that is it is up to you. Perfect example, lately, I have been hearing this statement floating around Atlanta from guys..”SHE/YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY TO BE IN MY PRESCENCE!!!!” Im from Chicago and nobody is that bold. The guy who said this overcompensates because he is a overweight former linebacker. But arrogance and confidence are not the same thing.

By Dan

November 7, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

I gotta fly so I’ll make this brief…

I’ll agree with ARed when the hype is there, and the looks ain’t… Bab juju

As for confidence or arrogance, it’s the same fine line between genius and insanity.

Some of us walk it very well, some do not, in the end though, it’s self respect is “how you feel about you silly ibtch!” How someone else gone make you feel bad about you?

But question, is it overconfidence (or arrogance) if competency is the only standard?

That is, if you’re good at what you do (one of the best), is it really overconfidence or quoting statistics?

By China Doll

November 7, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this

ARed

Too Funny….we may know some of the same people. LMAO

By MELO

November 7, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

MELO’S FRIDAY MUSINGS I have not received an email from SlimOne’s from her myspce blog in 2 weeks, i wonder if she is now patrolling the lucrative Midtown/Piedmont/Peachtree st redlight district, or she may be on the equally lucrative graveyard shift at Ping Pony or Strokkers.Any sightings any one??!!

On topic Yu can be confident but be an Airhead like Sarah Palin,confident and arrogant(as in chatty and at pains to display ur knolwedgeableness) or confident,desirable and a lady.A confident,desirable lady is the one who talks less but as she moves,u cant but notice the regalness that she exudes.You become naturally attracted.A woman or man who is confident but quick to do a run down of her/his accomplishements(oh i have this and i have that and im gonna do this) is a fckng turn off. When u have it,there is no need to take efforts to put it on display. BE IT

By abc

November 7, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

Confidence cares not of other people’s regard for it; arrogance relies upon other people’s regard for it. In fact, other people’s perceptions are usually the motivation for it.

Confidence is positively expectant, supportive and secure. Arrogance is conceited, contemptuous, and imperious. Confidence is appealing; arrogance is repulsive.

The two don’t really resemble each other very much. I don’t consider that they’re even related, as if one could have too much confidence, thus crossing the line into arrogance. They’re motivated by different things, and represent different outlooks.

Confidence doesn’t breed conceit. Arrogance is the opposite of self-assurance.

By AmazonRed

November 7, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

LOL. China Doll that wouldn’t surprise me in the least.

By AmazonRed

November 7, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

The guy who said this overcompensates because he is a overweight former linebacker.

M., why does those types always seem to be the ones with those delusions? Are their minds left in their glory days?

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Good Morning..

Kym

PoppaG I am offically in a love hate relationship with the study of law. I love legal research, I am hating WestLaw because I can not find what freaking need to complete this memo. I was up at 3 am this morning looking for information on divorce and child custody.

Welcome to my world, population me…lol. There are days that I just get sick of westlaw. Luckily for me, lawschool gives us both unlimited westlaw and lexis. I’m sure that each of them just want to get us hooked so that we will come to them when we have to get our own supply. Sounds like a Drug dealer doesn’t it?

There are other sources as well. Try loislaw.com I think that it is free.

One reason that I decided to go to lawschool is that after a few years of being a paralegal, I realized that I was doing the work of a 1st year associate, but for way less the pay of a first year associate.

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Morning and Happy Friday Blog Fam Confidence is incredibly sexy to me. I’ve always been attracted to intelligence and “usually” with that brain power comes confidence, but I have been off on a few occasions. I don’t care where a guy’s expertise lies, I like for him to go about it with confidence. Confidence gives me security. When a guy is confident that he can handle his business, that is very comforting to me. If you don’t believe in yourself, how am I suppose to?

I am a very humble person. You would have to be around me for awhile to know that I have 2 college degrees. I don’t have to boast about such things - I back it up with action and strive to be the best at what I do. I make no apologies - some is God-given intelligence and the rest is due to hard work. I did decent in school, but I was not a genius or last in the class either. I do well on my job and have talents outside of work. I have had people around that have what my mother used to call that “slave mentality”. They expected me to downplay my talents or “dumb down” so they can feel comfortable and secure. Never happened and I eliminated those persons from my daily life.

Confidence I believe is part of what attracted Barack to a lot of voters. His confidence in his abilities to take the country in a different, better direction makes his supporters feel secure. People want to believe in something.

Arrogance is insecurity magnified! You could look like Denzel, but if you’re arrogant, you look like shyt to me!

By Brunson

November 7, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

confidence is essential to success not only in career but in relationships. nobody likes a girl/guy who they always have to reassure b/c they can’t see what others seem to enjoy and/or identify with.

my girl is confident. she is amazingly confident. i love watching her speak and how everybody is attentive to her words. its a huge turn on. we met over a mutual friends house debating. it was respectful, but we were both turned on by the other. we talked all night and into the next day. i dare say we fell in love that very day.

there is nothing wrong with confidence and a little “checked” arrogance. sometimes you just know your shyt is tight and fly and there is nothing wrong with being “proud” about it without being obnoxious.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

The thing about confidence is anybody can have it. You don’t have to be a wizard, you don’t have to look sophisticated, you don’t even have to have money. But if you believe in yourself and believe you can accomplish whatever you put your mind to, you are a confident person. Sometimes being able to pull off certain feats makes people a bit egotistical. What we sometimes fail to realize, no one individual corners the market on anything.

And abc I agree. Sometimes arrogance is a byproduct of other people’s regard.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1083870/The-intimate-backstage-scenes-Obamas-election-night-vigil—posted-Flickr.html

By MELO

November 7, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

to be around me for awhile to know that I have 2 college degrees this is exactly what was talking about.And females are more prone to say that than males,thats my view.But u can make ur point across and make it stick without validating it with by letting us know what degress u possess Kimmie

If we were debating about smething to do with highways and roads on the blog,if i used my knowledge on the subject because i may be an ingeneer and articulated my point across, i do not have to embellish the point with the oh im a civil engineer line.Its crass.

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

PopG Yeah we have access to LexisNexis and Westlaw for free. Hooked is not the word I would use to described what I am feeling right now. Frustrated..is a nice safe word. I finally had to put down that memo and start working on this other one this morning. You are right about the work. I thought Paralegal work would be smooth..mannnn I am surrounded by papers and notes, thinking there is not a damn thang smooth about this.

abc I like what you posted.

By KP (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

November 7, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

Good morning blog fam! I appreciate women who operate with a unobtrusive swagger. Allow me to appreciate your confidence without you voicing/boasting it through your conversation.

In most cases, confidence is silent whereas arrogance is vocal. However, there are exceptions to this rule :)

By China Doll

November 7, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

M.

I can agree…I work with a lot of men. So through phone contact (work related)I met this contractor. He talked about how “fine” we was, how women are always so shocked he is still single…yada, yada. So he comes by the office for a buisness meeting and we meet.

Boy, oh Boy….I was not ready for this. He was 6’3 and looked like he was 8 1/2 months preggo with twins. Then on top of that he had skinny legs…so he looked like an egg on toothpicks. After all of the “self promotion” I was very disappointed. Then on top of that he had a gold tooth on side…top row. WOW!!!!

So he roll up on me…”you look good for a cocoa brown sistah. I usually like them a lot lighter.”

I’m not saying that I’m all that…but I take good care of myself. I am a “gym rat” (5am/5days a week). So I’m in good shape physcially. I get plenty of attention from men. Anyway….then I say to him, “I don’t usually like my men preggo and I walk way Naomi Campbell runway style.”

Now guess who is always trynna come by office when they on the property. The receptionist keeps me posted when they in the building so I can close my door.

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

Melo - You totally took what I said out of context, Melo. I was saying I don’t even tell anyone unless they ask or the situation warrants it. Anyway, I did not say what degrees I possess anyway, Melo! For all you know, I could have 2 degrees in Basketweaving, but their mine & I’m proud of them! Who are you to tell me how to make my point? See, your insecurity is showing. Stick to what you “think” you know about, like your tired fantasies!

By MELO

November 7, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

insecurity ME,insecure???? it dont matter what degrees,they are still degrees.The fact is u said it when it wasnt warranted.Thats my point.Im proud of ur achievements tho and ive always thoght u are a good girl, degrees or not and my wild sexx fantasies notwithstanding…lol

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 7, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

Morning folks.

Confidence is exposure while arrogance is the lack of.

Ared Are their minds left in their glory days? Men relive their greatest moments til they die. Women fixate on their greatest weakness or flaw.

A cat that caught a touchdown in the big game in high school will 40 years later talk about that catch. Forget the fact he’s put on 150 pounds and hasn’t worked in years. In his mind he is that guy running for gold. LOL

Brunson have you decided what you’re going to do?

Raqi I agree with your last post to a point. I don’t think you can just claim confidence. One victory builds on another and so on so in essence you have to work towards it. Thats why the guy that can’t win at home can’t win at work and eventually becomes, on the inside, a loser.

By AmazonRed

November 7, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

Women fixate on their greatest weakness or flaw. - Truth

I strongly disagree with that. If we didn’t know this guy during his glory days, but all he sells is how he was then, as opposed to the reality of now, all you’re gonna recognize is how you’ve gotten a lemon. LOL

By Dan

November 7, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

@abc

I’mma, respectfully, disagree.

Confidence and arrogance are two sides of the same coin, they exist on the same plane, if you will.

The only difference between the two is perception.

If the people that meet a confident person, perceive that person as arrogant, it usually speaks to an illumination of their own short comings. (Ex. Barack Obama’s “arrogance” according to some in the media)

But the beauty of confidence is that it radiates, as opposed to needed illumination in that it generates it’s own light - thusly it cannot be dimmed.

By Foots

November 7, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Melo And females are more prone to say that than males,thats my view.

And that’s another misconception because you don’t date men. I was introduced to a man by my mother last year who was the epitome of arrogance. Before he told me anything personal about himself, he told me what he drove, what year it was, what the interior looked like, how many degrees and jobs he had, how fine he was, etc. You see it if you go out. Every now and then, a guy will stand beside you at the bar and pull out every bit of money he has to rifle through, just to leave a dollar tip for the bartender.

It’s endearing in a way, because I think that the men are just trying to show you that “all this can be yours if you get on this team”, which is part of their Provide instinct. But taken to extremes, it’s a turn-off. I don’t want to hear about what you have, I want to learn about who you are. So many people don’t get that.

abc Your 9:37 is on point. Arrogance gets the gas face from me.

And yes, when I believe that my SO is being arrogant, he gets the gas face too. He is one of the most confident men I’ve ever known. It’s easy to trust in him because I know that he has trust in himself. But when he gets a little too full of himself, I have my ways to let him know he’s too far to the left.

By mqew

November 7, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday

Confidence is something that gentlemen exude. The self assurance that people may have that doesn’t need to be broadcast because it’s obvious, it’s emanating, and oozing out.

Arrogance, on the other hand, is not in a Gentlemen. It’ll have everybody in the room rolling their eyes wishing abc not u abc would STFU. Arrogance is linked with azzholes, bellowing their greatness, like M expressed. The adage of who are you trying to make believe, me or you.

Anybody no of a good spot for tonight?

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Kym

I understand the frustration. In paralegal school, I had to do a memo about Georgia’s one free bite rule and which dogs are exempt from that. Speaking of dogs…Barney (Bush’s dog) seems ticked to be leaving Washington…lol

Stuff that I wasn’t taught in paralegal classes:

Just wait until you are working and clients start calling asking for stuff because they start to realize that you actually know more about what is going on in their cases than the attorney.

One telephone call can wreck you plans for the day. Attorney is still waiting for your memo. Work late or work at home.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

Truth Confidence is a state of mind not an act of achievements. Confidence is having the belief that you can do. That’s why a confident person don’t yield to failure. Or rather don’t know failure. They keep believing and trying.

By M.

November 7, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

@ AmazonRed

You are so right…Just because girls chased your around because you USED TO BE a football player is a joke…Then he had the nerve to say that he had his old girl and new girl competing over him….I can never bring myself to be arrogant…

@China Doll

That is so funny…I bet you he was pear shaped….That is funny. I remember when online dating first came out…I heard ton of horror stories….People say I look like Janet Jackson, Toni Braxton, Nia Long….etc….

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Obama-quats!

What do you consider confident behavior?

Confidence to me is based upon being able to deliver as shown by experience, versus thinking that you can deliver based on hubris. A confident guy or woman is tempered with increased alertness and earnest effort, while arrogance tends to be more absolute and inconsiderate.

What is insufferable?

For me, the highest most undesirable trait a person can have is criticizing other people.

@WiseDive - This is a great topic!

By MELO

November 7, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

because you don’t date men concession given..

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

Melo - Again I say, who are you to tell me how to make my point, or what is warranted? Well guess what, it’s not warranted that we hear about your little tired fantasies either. Yeah, YOU, insecure! Tell you what, why don’t you gain some “confidence” so you can make your fantasies a reality?

See thats some of what I mean about the “slave mentality” - not boasting but just the mere mention of any achievement and some folks think you’re over-confident. Shyt, I know my education works for me but I know it pales in comparison to others that have diplomas lining their walls, so everybody isn’t going to think I’m “all that”!

By SexyCool

November 7, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

coach’s confidence drops my drawers…lol…

By AmazonRed

November 7, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

But taken to extremes, it’s a turn-off. I don’t want to hear about what you have, I want to learn about who you are. So many people don’t get that.

Foots, Bravo. I’m so with you on this.

That’s where confidence goes wrong. You shouldn’t have to sell yourself. I should recognize it in you w/out you having to tell me.

I don’t need to hear “I’m cute.” That should be apparent

I shouldn’t have to hear “I have a few extra pounds, but I wear it well.” :-/

I shouldn’t have to hear about your charm and ways with the ladies. That will be evident too.

And I certainly don’t need to hear about any material things you have. That speaks nothing about your character.

By Foots

November 7, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Truth Men relive their greatest moments til they die. Women fixate on their greatest weakness or flaw.

I’ve always wondered about that first part. I thought that it was like that because some men feel that their best days are behind them, that they want to recapture their youth because they fear getting older. Living in old memories keep them young, until they realize how old the memories are. It seems like every dude I know, from my dad to friends to cousins, talks so much about their pasts and everything they did. But if you ask them about their present, they’re not as excited, even if they have exciting things going on.

So can you explain in your view why men continue to relive past moments with such vigor?

And yes, I agree with you on the women part too. It may not be a personal flaw, just something that I’ve not achieved yet, that will irritate the hellz out of me. No matter what’s been accomplished so far. I try very hard to remind myself not to fixate on the one thing that is wrong when 20 things are right. I have to force myself sometimes to see the forest instead of the individual trees. But you’re correct in that most women I know focus on that one thing that’s a little bit wrong in their present lives, instead of celebrating the many rights they have accomplished in their past or are accomplishing in the present.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

People say I look like Janet Jackson, Toni Braxton, Nia Long….etc….

M those people are confident. There’s the catch, confidence can make you believe the farfetched. But it is still genuine confidence.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

who are you to tell me how to make my point, or what is warranted? goodness grief,im sorry i made u so mad this morning! Hate to spoil a friday for anyone.I get it,u brook no criticism!! I apologize.

By China Doll

November 7, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

M

He also had what looked like “man boobs.” I was like GTFOH!!!

How in the world his pear shaped A gon be picky…he should elated that any female says “Hi” to his behind.!!!

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 7, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

Raqi Confidence is a state of mind not an act of achievements You’re totally right but to get that state of mind you must achieve at some point.

A boxer doesn’t go 0 and 35 and then think he’s the heavyweight champion. He goes 35 and 0 and then has earned the right to THINK that. A confident person doesn’t yield to failure because his past experiences (actions) have taught him he can come out ahead. Extremely rare is the person that can lose for long periods of time and still think they can win. The mind after awhile becomes accustomed to losing and then produces that result.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

abc/Dan Can i piggyback on your discussion between the two?

Confident people figure they’re one of the capable people in the room.

Arrogant people figure he or she is the only capable person in the room.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

coach’s confidence drops my drawers…lol…

LMBO

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

The quiet strength I referred to a few days ago is what I would call confidence.

Hey Cee! - What’s shaking for this weekend?

Kym - Isn’t the Pow Wow this weekend and are you still going?

By MELO

November 7, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

You shouldn’t have to sell yourself. I should recognize it in you w/out you having to tell me I thoght so too.i will let u be my spokelady today on the blog.My mouth is deemed too corrupt!! lol

By M.

November 7, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

You are right…That is that unshakeable confidence.

China Doll

LOL you might have woke up one day and he had on one of your bra’s for his mb’s!!!!

@ Wise Diva & Blog Women

What is the difference between someone being bouji and arrogant?

By MELO

November 7, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

LMBO laugh my bones off raqi??

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Hi Kimm-ie…

said like my brother put extra emphasis on the last part. :)

What’s *shaking for this weekend?*

Obama-shakes…Gurl, you know the party continues tonight and tomorrow night.

…i feel my slide comming on now!.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

…you must achieve at some point.

Truth no you don’t. A person can fail at everything they do and still believe that they can make it happen. Confidence is what you believe not what you achieve. If you don’t have confidence you cease to try.

I watched the show American Inventor when it aired and those people had confidence. Even when they were told the inventions were pretty much dumb they still believed. They stood there trying to sell it to the panel believing that it would work. And nearly all of them that left not winning said that they will be back next year or they would take it somewhere else to try to get it marketed.

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

kimmie Yes it is this weekend but no I am not going to be able to go. I have to sacrfice my POW WOW for the bigger goal of finishing my school work. I have a goal to finish this before the Turkey Day holiday. I am taking “the boy” to Universal Studios then. So no Pow-Wow for me.

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

Melo - I accept your apology. I just resent being accused of something I’m not and very, very far from. I detest braggers, name-droppers and never want to get mistaken for one.

Your a character on the blog, but you keep it interesting. You’re cool with me.

By Dan

November 7, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

@CeeMee

I’ll agree with that.

But (and here’s that line)

A confident person, believing that they are one of the smartest people- can accept differing points of view, constructive criticsm, and yield their position to a well versed argument.

An arrogant person on the other hand, dimisses differing points of view, damns constructive criticsm, and will stubbornly follow their own path and even if they fail, the circumstances (not their choices) are to blame.

Ex: the current incarnation of the GOP….

By Wise Diva

November 7, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

hey guys. it is FRIDAY!!

@M hmm, I think bougie is a cultural thing, and arrogant is a personality thing, not necessarily with class or sophistication.

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 7, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Foots So can you explain in your view why men continue to relive past moments with such vigor? My theory is in nature men are programmed to compete and win. Along those lines a man will relive his greatest victory because mentally it prevents him from being a dreaded “loser”. Sure, things may have gone south on every other front but in one arena he won and hence he’s a winner.

Also, most men have experienced their best days by the time they graduate from high school. The vast majority just go on to a life of existing. They exist to provide for their family, for those that depend on them. Probably why most family men in america are less than enthusiastic about their situation.

Kimmie calm down lady kung fu. Melo waved his white flag. The honorablething to do is accept. LOL

If any of you use electronic faxing services try myfax.com. Alot more send/receives than efax.com and a helluva lot less money. Efax is $16.95 while myfax was $100 if prepaid for a year. That comes to about $8.50 a month. Just saying.

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

Foots

So can you explain in your view why men continue to relive past moments with such vigor?

I think that many men (not all men) tend to think that about their legacy more as we age. What mark have we made on the world? It is part of dealing with mortality.

For example…There was a Jeffersons episode (I know that I am dating myself, but Cee has already made it know that I went to school with Moses, so its common knowledge, where George had a bust of himself made. He was worried about being remembered after he was gone. What mark had he made on this planet. Ultimately, the he knocked the bust over & broke it.

I think as a whole what truth said is true about women and weakness/flaws.

In the big picture, it creates a ying & yang for a relationship.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

Dan

I guess you and i will share that midget, penny, and peanut butter. Along with our wings and fries.wings

A confident person, believing that they are one of the smartest people- can accept differing points of view, constructive criticsm, and yield their position to a well versed argument.

That’s ^^ a great point.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

Confident is who you are, conceit drives you to dress the part.

melo B = behind or the like.

By China Doll

November 7, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

I like that “quiet confidence” like someone said previously. The type of confidence that you see and sense without it being said or implied.

The only way I can describe it is… that Denzel Washington-isk thing. The walk, the look in his eyes when he enters a room that commands attention, respect.

A man that has that…sends me into orbit. Whew!!!!!

By Dan

November 7, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

I’m headed home…

But I’d like to throw this in there, Truth.

Guys that live in their glory days are different from guys that remember them (PG - tell me if I’m wrong).

The difference between the two are in the telling of the stories:

The guy that lives in the moment remembers every detail and can describe, accurately the 5 w’s of that moment.

The guy that remembers, remembers it in a vague “oh yeah” kinda way.

As far as the living in the moment guys and, for that matter some married guys, there always exists the thought “what if?”

I take my leave of you, will comment Thursday….God I love my job!

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Kym - Got to have your priorities in order, I feel ya! Me & SO have so much work to do at each of our respective houses, but I am still going to try to make it.

Truth - You late, I already caught Melo’s white flag & using it for a tablecloth!LOL

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla what’s up homie?

By MELO

November 7, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Melo waved his white flag, The Mac Back!!, did u hear Mccain say that during the last days of the campaign Truth.Was that confidence,arrogance,ignorant bliss or just Dutch courage?

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Along those lines a man will relive his greatest victory because mentally it prevents him from being a dreaded “loser”.

Truth that statement surprises me but then it doesn’t. While I believe a man with confidence is not that easily shaken, I also know that men desire admiration. A stroking of the ego to say the least. Well, except the alphabet man.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

hey Truth,its perfectly in order to throw the so-called white flag inside the bedroom.Its called strategic retreat,remember from ur army days.U cant get booty if the woman is mad.U kiss,make up and then hit it!

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Dan

There is a difference.

Those who live in the past are destined to become part of it.

Life goes on with or without you. Another TV character from my past: Al Bundy. He stayed in the past, and look at him.

There is probably a median between your two scenarios, though. There may be more than an “oh, yeah”, especially if what you remember was an integral part of your life.But today’s issues are more pressing than reliving our past lives.

I don’t go around saying I’m PG and I played in the NFL. Most of my neighbors don’t even know. (Some ask if I played Basketball, though.) I know that those days are gone. I have other goals to pursue, and my past really gets locked away unless I am with my homies.

There are some “oh yeah moments”. Like learning to stretch a dollar on our Mardi Gras trips when we were broke as can be. So there comes a whole discussion about that trip…lol. I don’t want to relive that trip. Now, if I don’t have money, I keep my tail at home.

So, sometimes, its about reveling how far you have come in this journey. That alone sometimes can feed your confidence. Knowing that you don’t do all the dumb ish that you used to do. *PG can look back as some things done in his past, and say “It is amazing that I am even still alive considering that act was dumb as can be.”

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 7, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Melo lmao. Yep, that was supposed to be the call to victory in the end. The Mac is back. LOL Btw, it was ignorant bliss.

Has everyone heard about the chaos that was the McCain/Palin team? Wow Wtf was she thinking? LOL

Kimmie You late, I already caught Melo’s white flag & using it for a tablecloth!LOL Cool, I’ll take a sandwich and chips along with a refreshing beverage. and I’ll take my meal at the table.

Raqi lets assume I’m approaching you at a gig. I really am attracted to you physically and just have to get in a word with you. Thing is my last 5 relationships sunk like the Titantic. I’m going to be alot less confident than if I had participated in great relationships. At some point your actions and your thoughts must converge or you’re simply acting. Acting may smooze you over for a minute but eventually I’ll be found out, as some women have said they run across frequently.

By lurker

November 7, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Truthy Truth Men relive their greatest moments til they die.

I’ve experienced. A dude that, and I mean EVERYTIME we hooked up, he was telling me how he had it and how it was and how many women and what he used to do and how he use to roll…blah blah blah. Big difference in recalling and reliving. That’s reliving. I agree to some point of holding on to those glory days.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

its about reveling how far you have come in this journey. That alone sometimes can feed your confidence.

PoppaG You have a optimistic assurance, as it comes across on this blog.

Self-assured people are comfortable acknowledging the good ideas and insights of others, where conceited/arrogant people, rarely acknowledge that anyone with a different perspective is ever right…and usually won’t have any basis for evaluation, since they rarely waste their time listening to anyone else.

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Truth

My theory is in nature men are programmed to compete and win. Along those lines a man will relive his greatest victory because mentally it prevents him from being a dreaded “loser”.

That is true, but mortality plays a bigger role in addition.

When you are young, you feel immortal most of the time and your whole life is in front of you. You take for granted that tomorrow will come.

As you age, you start getting aches and pains after activities that you’ve done you whole life. And realize that you are exactly what you used to be.

Looking back at those days brings back that feeling of immortality with fondness.

As you get older, you start thinking about wills, trust funds, and retirement. Those are things that directly relate to your “checkout” time. You didn’t worry about that stuff as a youngun’.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

HEY Poppa Grande I knw u got sme NFL loot smewhere,did u sign a pre-nup be4 u got snatched or u did the Will Smith thang and had no need for it?

By MELO

November 7, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

you start thinking about wills, trust funds, and retirement talking of retirement, u knw i put my wife and my retirement funds in sme safe fixed income funds about 2 moths ago after we had lost a bit.But the dow has been dropping ever since.I proly wld have been wiped out by now,im really thankful and proud that i made a good decison.

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

HEY Poppa Grande I knw u got sme NFL loot smewhere,did u sign a pre-nup be4 u got snatched or u did the Will Smith thang and had no need for it?

This Bama I tell you. Mofo you ask some just ughhh!!

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Melo

I didn’t sign for big bucks. I was a practice squad player. We were basically live tackling dummies. When I was in Cincy, I couldn’t hurt Corry Dillon…that would have gotten me a one way ticket out of there with a quickness. However, it wasn’t bad either.

I’ve much of mine in accounts and things that I will get later. At this rate, I will be able to retire probably in my early fifties. Then I still qualify for a NFL pension which is why I hung in there for so long.

No pre-nupt. Her family has some loot and major chunks of land up and down the east coast, that includes some land on some island of the coast of S. Carolina. Some in the Chesapeake Bay area around VA, Brooklyn, NY, and Martha’s Vineyard

She doesn’t really need my money.

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 7, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Poppa As you age, you start getting aches and pains after activities that you’ve done you whole life. And realize that you are exactly what you used to be. Reminds me of when I was in germany playing basketball. If a cat was 30 or so or wore a knee brace I’d tell him he needs to guard someone else. He just wasn’t going to be able to keep up. Cocky was the word. Now I’ve become the dude with a knee brace. LMAO but it’s not funny.

Melo somtimes luck has as much to do with wealth as knowledge. LOL

lurker you’re determined to turn me into a slurpy. :(

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Truth - I told myself I would chill with the political sites/blogs after the election, but I am an addict!LOL Yes, all the mess is hitting the fan about the McPalin train wreck! I go on the Huffington Post website - they are liberal-leaning and they break it all down and have links to all the stories - check it out if you havent. Yesterday they had this link to a story about BO’s chief strategist Axelrod and the goings-on behind the brilliant BO campaign. He said they had a staff member that had actually worked on the staff of one of the guys running against Palin for gov. They had already run down a list of folks that they thought McCain would pick for VP. They had her on the short list until they uncovered some dirt on her, including the Troopergate mess, so they were sure that McCain would not pick her BECAUSE HE WOULD VET HER AND FIND ALL THE DIRT! To their surprise he picked her and DID NOT VET HER! The Dems on the outside were worried about Palin because of the attention she initially got, but inside BO’s campaign they were absolutely giddy because they knew once the press got to digging it would be over! I’m telling you, kids will be studying BO’s campaign in political science classes for years to come!

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

And realize that you aren’t exactly what you used to be.

So you resort to jumping out of planes, climbing rocks and flying over the ocean with a parachute while hanging on to a rope giving you wife a heart attack and making her hope she don’t have to hear the reading of that will no time soon.

By China Doll

November 7, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

Kym

You are funny….some folk just don’t know when to stop or how to respect boundaries. Daynum…to not ask such personal questions. LMAO

By MELO

November 7, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

Mofo you ask some just ughhh!! any body near Kym aka Grumpy Smurf? plz remind her to take her meds..

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Raqi

*So you resort to jumping out of planes, climbing rocks and flying over the ocean with a parachute while hanging on to a rope giving you wife a heart attack and making her hope she don’t have to hear the reading of that will no time soon. *

Just like your shopping isn’t about him, this isn’t about you.

Immortality is the essence of the “Mid-life crisis”.

Look at like this, he chooses to capture that feeling through thrill seeking, instead of getting sports cars and/or younger chicks.

By Brunson

November 7, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

the truth we have decided to move forward with our plans to cohabitate. we had a nice long discussion last night over dinner and her calm, confident responses to my concerns but my doubts at bay. in fact, we’re putting in a bid today on this really nice foreclosed property not far from downtown..sweet deal! i appreciate you asking dude.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

And you know Poppa I have heard M state that he has no desire to be out all night partying or whatever like he used to. He comes home and goes to bed. If we are at friends house he will start looking at his watch around 10 o’clock and giving me the it’s about that time eye. When we are out he will have fun and enjoy himself but when it’s time to go, it’s time to go.

Most nights he is asleep before I am. Even if I get in bed before him, he is usually out before me.

And when you men folk get together someone always throws in a “man remember when…?”

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 7, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Kimmie I’d like to thank you for adding another must read website to my daily list. Last night when I should have been watching ESPN I found myself watching CNN. What’s wrong with me? LOL I’m addicted too butI’ll use this opportunity to continue to educate myself. All of a sudden politics is cool.

Come on folks. We all know Melo won’t hold his tongue about much. That’s what we like about him.

Somewhere in Alaska a trailerpark just got back a very high profile resident.

By Foots

November 7, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Truth/Poppa/Dan Thanks for your insights. I think that there is a lesson in that for me, in understanding that whole thought process. What really stuck out was that part about “existing”. My task now is to make sure that even with the routine of everyday life, that I can do something to break that monotony and turn “existing” into “living”. It can happen that way for women too, but I do think that men get caught up in merely existing and maintaining. Hence the need for the re-awakening of the mid-life crisis and the need for risky adventure. I think that if you allow him to “live” a little everyday, he won’t have to take it in such big chunks at one time.

I would be interested to know though, the types of things that would allow you, as men, to live a little more each day. Can it be as simple as you pursuing a hobby or having undisturbed time to do your own thing?

By AmazonRed

November 7, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Brunson, congrats. I’m sure things will go great for you two. Seems like you’ve found yourself a winner.

In the words of Michelle Obama “Don’t screw it up buddy!”

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Melo

One more reason that we chose to live in the “hood”. We can be a frugalselves and not look out of the ordinary.

Unfortunately, I talked to some of my friends about coming to my house with their Lambos and Ferrari’s. I don’t want my neighbors thinking that I got money…lol. So, we can bank stuff, and not worry at all about the Jones, Smith, whatever.

Speakng of neighbors, Mrs. Ann Nixon Cooper is getting much deserved attention. She was so proud to cast her vote last week.

Obama’s people have extended an invitation for her to be one of his guest when he is sworn in. She was funny…she said I can see it better on TV. She is thinking about it. Word is that Obama may personally call her and ask her before then.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

Truth, i didnt even realize that topic is a taboo.We had a lady here yesterday talk about her bedroom blues and Brunson about his co-habitation issues,a pre-nup seemed tame in comparison. But did u see Poppe’s classy response.If it is taboo,he didnt even flinch.Compare that to the angst that China and Kymn felt and their blog display.Who is classy now? But i thank this blog for teaching me so much about african american cultural values etc.Im so enriched by these interractions.

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Foots

Can it be as simple as you pursuing a hobby or having undisturbed time to do your own thing?

Both of those are correct.

It can be as simple as undisturbed Playstation time (for me XBOX) or a big hobby like restoring old cars (also me.)

By Brunson

November 7, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

thanks amazonred, she is definitely a winner.

on topic: a very close friend of mine is known to embelish his qualities to women. even the ones he meets in person get the grandstand that he’s so put together, living in an expensive condo, etc. etc. the thing is he has access to those things so it doesn’t immediately come off as a lie. he figures by the time the truth is out, he’ll have figured out if she’s paper or plastic.

even though dude has gotten burned by this in the past, he is still running this game. i’m not sure why people feel like they need to lie to kick it. although, atlanta is so pretentious, i guess he feels like he has to up his anty to play in the dating game. so glad i’m beyond this.

By AmazonRed

November 7, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

The beauty of the blog is that everyone can chose to answer or ignore whatever they want to. We’re not obligated to anyone on here.

PG, was fine answering melo’s question, so he did. I asked if he was a Republican and he ignored. Easy solution. LOL

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 12:37 PM | Link to this

Melo Save that off the boat bs. You say off the cuff sexual crap all the time on the blog, heck most of the time no one can follow what the sam hell you are saying unless they read it 3 or 4 times to figure it out. I know plenty of gentleman from Africa and they wouldn’t dare say the crap you say in private or public company. Engineer my azz your tail is most likely the dude sending out these African prince scam emails.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 12:38 PM | Link to this

We can be a frugalselves and not look out of the ordinary now u making me feel guilty for choosing my zip coz my stash aint as inflated as urs!! lol But then again,unlike u, i aint gonna retire and live in the states,so i understand ur choice to save money…As for me,im gonna be real king in the zululand rural backwaters with my lil bank account,so im str8.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

say the crap you say in private or public company. Engineer my azz

No 1,i aint an engineer,not even close to what i do nor my training… 2) i wont say that crap in pvt nor in public, i do say it on the blog coz i want to.Sme enjoy it,thats the diversity i like. unless they read it 3 or 4 times to figure it out i guess i need another class of english as a foreigh language then, Kymmie.lol thanks for reading tho,ur a dedicated and valued fan!

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Foots with men and women alike I think it just sometimes boils down to having the time and resources to the things you have always wanted to do. And for a lot of people that I associate with that time is right about now. Entering our 40s. Once you have become established and gotten rid of the “where is my next meal coming” burden of life, you can live freely. Live responsibly and within means.

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

AR

PG, was fine answering melo’s question, so he did. I asked if he was a Republican and he ignored. Easy solution. LOL

I did not ignore you, I guess that the darn thing ate another post

My answer was that although I am a registered Democrat, I have voted Republican in the past.

I don’t trust any politician, regardless of party affiliation, any further than I can throw a MARTA bus.

There are somethings that I am conservative on and some things that I am liberal on.

I could never be Republican as long as they seem to not care about the Equal Protection Clause of the 14th Amendment. Prop 8 is an example of that….although 70% of blacks did vote for prop 8. To me, that Equal Protection Clause and Thurgood Marshall’s use of it in Brown v. Board of Ed. is the reason that I am where I am today, an black man with a degree from University of South Carolina in Columbia, SC.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Anybody here with knowldge of when Obama’s press confrnce is? P.S.lemme knw if uall need a translation to read this message.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

You know sometimes a person can have that “umph” (when referring to women my brother says we have that “ahhhh”) that can be mistaken as confidence. That “umph” or “ahhhh” is strictly based on how the person looking on catches that vibe. They could very well be the most insecure person on earth, but can project an “umph” that snags your mate. Animal magnetism it is. A call of the wild. Unsolicited Chemistry.

Have you ever asked someone “what do you see in him/her?” ? They caught that “umph”.

By Wise Diva

November 7, 2008 1:06 PM | Link to this

Press conference is scheduled for 2 pm EST

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

melo are you and the Mrs. doing any thing special this weekend?

By M'Karyl

November 7, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

@WD I read through the T.O.P.I.C-Talk Openly,Perceptively, Intuitively and Civily about an honest dicussion of reason..I liked today’s topic because WD went inside of herself to ask a question and then objectively ask for a response…now that is the *REAL MIA* blog…there are so many different levels of experience and intellect on this site..eclectic and expressive…collective and individual…one and none…that is why we are a special blog…they do not do here anywhere else on a blog…not this raw, real and still yet fluid…imagine that.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

melo are you and the Mrs. doing any thing special this weekend? yeah, i told her i wanted to celebrate this Obama thing.Luckily, she got sme free Comdey tickets from the V,so we hitting the spot again tmorrw without having to spend a dime,then maybe pass by Studio 72 for Blow’s blow out.If Truth follows thru on his promise,then maybe we can run his Amex card as well at the spot.And we have a church revival thang going on,on sat all day and sunday all day.The whole fam will pass thru there but not all day tho for me. And u??

By SexyCool

November 7, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

thanks, wise…

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl you are on point. Some days i gather from the blog, some days i’m amused, somedays pure foolishness, other days i’m frustrated. But in all, you said it best.

..eclectic and expressive…collective and individual…one and none…that is why we are a special blog…they do not do here anywhere else on a blog…not this raw, real and still yet fluid…

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 1:33 PM | Link to this

Imma play yall some Muzak.

(Everybody keep your hands to yourself. Yesterday was hug day, not today.)

Here goes:

All my love is all I have

(And my dreams are very special)

All my life I looked for you

And today my dreams come true)

You need me and I need you

(Love and us is very special)

Things you seem to do divine

(You look straight into my eyes)

I know our love was meant to be

(‘Cause our souls touch tenderly)

*Love is life and life is livin’ *

It’s very special

In my heart there was you holding

Love is life where dreams come true

And even though I can’t have you, baby

Desires like these are true for you

Hold my hand and take my life

(Through these days adventure rules)

Once my love was truly great

(Then my life was so together)

A change in life can bring good things

(When you’re here, love so supreme)………

By DuShawn

November 7, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

On the topic of confidence, I was hanging out with some potnahs the other night. At two separate venues, I approached two different women the exact same way. Verbatim, I said ”excuse me Ms, I’m thirsty and broke…..can you buy me a drink?” Surprisingly, both of them responded positively and asked what I would like to have. Additionally, neither female would allow me to return the favor and buy the next round. You gotta love Atlanta.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

melo Nothing special. Do a few chores around the house but that’s about it. I know we’ll go to the hospital but we can’t stay that long while he is in ICU. Maybe make a stop at the store. I’ll try to make the Sunday morning service this week. I missed the last couple of weeks.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

Thanks Dushawn!

By Wise Diva

November 7, 2008 1:47 PM | Link to this

WOW, MKaryl you have a way with words, love how you said that, beautifully put :) thanks

@Sexycool, hey there, no problem!

By MELO

November 7, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

I will have u in our prayers, Raqi, i knw u and M are in a tough spot.

By For Real

November 7, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!

Here is an equation for Confidence: “what you think about yourself”/ An Obstacle = Confidence or lack of it

Foots So can you explain in your view why men continue to relive past moments with such vigor?

I don’t know if you got your answer to this question but here is my response: Look at my definition of confidence. Looking back on past accomplishment gives us the strenght or courage we need to keep going. “I did once before I can do it again!” And we talk about to each other because men understand what it takes to overcome and achieve.

Off topic lunchtime looky-look:

Ladies when you get dressed in the morning and you chose to put a shirt with cleavage and then you decide to oil up said cleavage, do you do so with the belief that you will be the only one looking? Also, when you decide to put tight, hip hugging jeans that exposes your booty crack when you sit down. Do you do so expecting no one to look?

By Jamoca

November 7, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

Hey ya’ll! …Happy Friday!!!

Cee what’s up missy?! what’s going on with you this weekend, mama?!

look like it’s about time for that roll call too!

By AmazonRed

November 7, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

PG, as always thanks for answering

Engineer my azz your tail is most likely the dude sending out these African prince scam emails.

Kym, is it bad I laughed so unbelievably hard at this?!

By MELO

November 7, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

Billy Graham’s work as a pastor to presidents is coming to an end AP

I am sniffing this differently, but in any case, Rev Wright will step right in as replacement..lol

By lurker

November 7, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

a’ight mayne….Truth it is. Just simply. Nothing endearing catchy.

By RELL - Confidence King

November 7, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

Why raphael saadiq follow the lead of that crack head - whinehouse….his sound on the new joint is that 60’s sound…its aiiight will have to grow on me

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

Thank you, melo.

Anyone done with their Christmas shopping yet?

Anyone vacationing for the holidays?

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

Moca How the Beach Breeze in that beautiful city?

what’s going on with you this weekend, mama?!

Where were you this morning? Cee is celebrating this weekend? Aren’t you?

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

Anybody got change for a dollar?

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

Raqi - That’s one of my favorite songs! I pretty much know all the words to it.

Rell - I love that song too! They play it on Micheal Baisden all the time. Do you know what the name of it is? Solange(Beyonce’s sister) has a 60’s-sounding song out too that I like, sorta Supremeish.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

mytwo That duffule bag full of money you stumble upon when you left, belongs to me. I planted that at your crib. I’ll be to get it.

Beautiful I was expecting you to be on her giving out your beloved Roses to the confident men on the blog.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

Five minutes ‘til the conference starts on CNN

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Raqi - I have started Christmas shopping. I have 3 already and I bought one today at lunch. It’s a T-shirt with Jimmy Hendrix on it for a good friend whose a big fan. I am going to go ahead and start wrapping the gifts as I get them.

I don’t have change - I only carry large bills or use my debit card!LOL!

By Leon Phelps

November 7, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

Foots To answer 2 of your questions

Anybody who has a relationship with their US Congress person, holla at me if you can get me 1-3 tix for the Presidential Inauguration, I live in VA and I have been told by the office of my senators and representative that its gonna be next to impossible due to the # of folks already on the lists ahead of me

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

The man ain’t even sworn in yet and folks done started on him already. One of the ladies here just walked thru the office saying, “they must have meant 2:30 CP time.”

By For Real

November 7, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

This is what I got out of MK’s 1:13 post:

For Real is hearing this in Demi Moore’s voice.

Translation - Dolphin dipped in chocolate sauce.

Translation - I’m a screamer but I like to do it in Portuguese

Translation - Me, you and another girl and then you and another girl while I watch.

Translation - I’ve been pinning for you but I was scarred to tell you on the blog.

Translation - I’m wet and my two fore fangas are sore

That’s what I got from MK’s post but I could be wrong. For Real now wondering if Wise Diva was thinking the samething? Kismet, ain’t it Wise….

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 7, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

Afternoon All!! I know I am late and all but its been a busy friday!!

Rell I actually like Raphael Saadiq’s new joint!

I dont have time to get today’s topic so For Real can you provide an update?

Also can some1 pls advise what Obama’s conference was about as my employer has sites blocked

So where is everybody celebrating this weekend??

By Pam

November 7, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

Melo act like hot peppers burning & flowing through your a$$ after you’ve eaten them aka MR THINK HE KNOWS IT ALL

By MELO

November 7, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

Its 9 mins and he aint shown up yet! Im a big on-time person too and i need him to do better.

By RELL - Confidence King

November 7, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

@kimmie - you mean o girl….song is cool

@lp..nice break down

By MELO

November 7, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

Pam?? Pam Anderson? i luv ur boobs girl.

By Jamoca

November 7, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

Cee (speak of the devil) Up until about 5 minutes ago, I was planning on a weekend of just chillin’…besides the usual Sat routine of the girls’ music lessons t’mrw and rehearsal afterwards for the upcoming Christmas play. Ms. 5’9 has a hair appt TONIGHT! No telling when she’ll be done… Let’s see…what else…

Oh! and my cousin just sent me a text a few minutes ago, asking if I want to join her, my uncle and a few others to the Tampa Bay Int’l Auto Show at the Convention Ctr (since that’s his thang)…plus they have plans to go to Arigato’s later that eve…(my favorite spot)! But really just wanna chill. I’ve had enough excitment…

By RELL - Confidence King

November 7, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

NFC SHIP BOUND NOW…..how does this happen

http://sports.espn.go.com/nfl/news/story?id=3688600

By DuShawn

November 7, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

Men are forced to develop confidence early. As a young boy you learn quickly it’s mandatory for survival. It’s the foundation of the male ego. Typically, young men initially realize its importance through competitive interactions with peers. As an adolescent, one becomes aware of the resilience required to accept, digest, and release the huge amounts of rejection that come with manhood. I think back to my six grade school dance, all the boys on one side of the gym and the girls on the other. It took a lot of courage for me to be the first one to walk all the way across the court and ask this little girl to dance. Of course she said no. My little potnahs laughed as I walked back unsuccessful and humiliated. Fortunately, my confidence was only depleted temporarily. Shortly thereafter, I was at them again. As life went on, this scenario would repeat itself, in one form or another, thousands of times. Ironically, I’m of the opinion, that one gains self assurance from past failures. Knowing you can accomplish something will not breed confidence, the realization that if you fail, you will still be alright does.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

Lok at all those mufgas behind him on the podium.My cousin is on top of the wrld right now!!

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

The man ain’t even sworn in yet and folks done started on him already. One of the ladies here just walked thru the office saying, “they must have meant 2:30 CP time.”

And so the f*** begins.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

men live their entire lives reliving their single greatest accomplishment, while women live their lives regretting their single greatest failure.

@ Leon Phelps A person should’nt live their days looking back or regretting Life’s failures. For example: I have failed, but the refining process in my “lack of success” of things, helped make me who I am today. And as far as reliving the single greatest accomplishment, or any accomplishment. Hmmph?…..If we’d make a conscious effort to simply take “success” as a grain of salt, doing so will keep us humble and at best “healthy” confidant.

Just something I wanted to plug in that thought.

It does not matter what you do. What matters is how you do it, of your own accord, with your own vision, with your own love. Then whatever you touch becomes gold.

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 7, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

My president isn’t sounding presidential today.

Folks, don’t expect ithers to accept BO today. It will happen over time. Don’t sweat the bumps in the road.

Raqi I have cancelled xmas and will send a memo when it is reinstated. Right now projections are 2010 or 2012.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Brian Nichols just received 48 guilty verdicts and 6 Not applicables.

By Jamoca

November 7, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Mkaryl loved your 1:13 and Dushawn I liked that 2:50. especially this, the realization that if you fail, you will still be alright does May be because I can truly relate to that portion in particular. hmmmm… I guess for me it just boils down to knowing what you’re really made up when it comes right down to it. So it may be safe to say, you’ll never really know, until you’re tested. Much easier to fall, but hard as heyal to rise…

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

Mo I gotta tell you this has beeon one of my favorite topics. Chime in

I learn my lesson as a kid about confidence and arrogance and not to toot my own horn, i can spot it, debate it, chew it up and give it back.

anyway…

Moca What or who, is it that makes you wanna chill with all that family folks doing? Gurl, you should go!

By Pam

November 7, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

Leave it up to one bad apple in the bunch. Brian Nichols found guilty on all counts

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

Raqi

Brian Nichols just received 48 guilty verdicts and 6 Not applicables

It couldn’t happen to a nicer guy.

For him, just him, I would institute a guillotine execution in the middle to Turner Field.

By M'Karyl

November 7, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

@For Real

Thera is an arse large enuf to accommodate you mouf’…at 3:25 it will be ready for you to crawl into it and bawl a wail…lol

By Brunson

November 7, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

the truth maybe people will stop riffing on his eloquent speaking so much. He was speaking very informal, can’t fault the man for switching up his delivery style.

By RELL - Confidence King

November 7, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

dont know if this as been discussed on here but YT is upset on my gig about requiring kids to do some community svc - i say they have to do something…thats the problem…lazy

http://www.barackobama.com/issues/service/

By Wise Diva

November 7, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

Pam, I was just thinking the same thing, blowing my Prez Obeezy conference high (even more than the economy, that is :()

hey has anyone heard from Slimone? I miss reading her!

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Truth Cancel Christmas??? Christmas is my most favorite holiday. I plan to go all out on the decorations and hope to have a nice family gathering. This one is not going to be as hectic as the last few have been. It’s going to be like it used to be when I younger at home with my parents. Christmas eve we listened to Christmas songs while baking cakes and cookies. Everybody secretly wrapped their gifts in their rooms and we placed them all under the tree that Eve. I want a old fashion type of Christmas this year.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

Dushawn Guy, i feel your whole 2:50…all over it! Boys are not the only ones that learn that confidence at an early age.

I guess since my mom wanted a son as her second child, she got some chracteristics of it in me. Good deal for her because my sister is 100% femme!

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

PoppaG That is my idea. Him and all child molesters public hangings and beheadings at noon. Bring your lunch. Some folks don’t deserve to breath air.

Rell I dont know why they are most high schooler are required to do community service hours before graduation and unless they stopped using it most colleges look at it favorably on college admissions

By Jamoca

November 7, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

what you’re really made up (smh at myself) …ya’ll know what I meant…”what you’re really made OF.”

Moca What or who, is it that makes you wanna chill with all that family folks doing? Gurl, you should go!

(You slick wit’ it chick!) lol!

That lil’ woman just want me as a stand in because the place will be full o’ menfolk, but then LAMeeeSW, when the results delivers a reverse effect. LOL! But she’s hilarious! plus “Uncle Lorenzo” is going (the one who just out of know where says he wants a whole dayum rotisserie chicken…smh lmao!) He has everyone rollin’! I may go, still haven’t made up my mind yet…

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

Truth

I think that even he has to adjust to this thing.

His life will truly never be the same. There will even be people around when he takes a shyt. (Secret Service and security)

He hasn’t even had time to grieve the loss of his grandma.

Running for President isn’t the same as doing the job of President.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Jamoca Im getting Grown and Sexy this weekend to party! I got some cute lil peep toe shoes, and jeans that i’ve been holding in the closet with tags never worn.

Don’t stop…get it..get it…Don’t stop, rock with it…

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 7, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

He called himself a mutt. Not cool.

By M'Karyl

November 7, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

@Cemeemli & Jamoca

Truly…all is well…and give thanks…I am living in a post-elected Obama world like I would in the pre-elected…only for some reason, now I am heard and seen differently by some…lol.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

Speaking of “Grown and Sexy” I was wondering should I wear my Foxy Brown (1974) get-up to do the laundry tomorrow or my Cat Woman (1960).

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 7, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli I was off yesterday so of course I am having to play catch up and my sinuses are bugging due to this weather! But I am lurking and tryin to see wassup!

Truth you cant go around cancelling Christmas man!! And to think, me and Lil Mo were looking forward to sharing our hot chocolate and cake with you Christmas Eve! >:0(

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

Truth when did he say that. I know I walked away to the copier so when did he say that?

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

Kym

PoppaG That is my idea. Him and all child molesters public hangings and beheadings at noon. Bring your lunch. Some folks don’t deserve to breath air.

I’m all for public punishment. It would deter some people. The prison is private. No real public humuliation. Selling tickets can help the city’s budget.

Of course, the police following proper procedure gives me the only hesitation. They do frame people, and Pennington has a quota system (even though he denies it). More people are arrested at the end and beginning of the month. They are trying to get their numbers.

He got in trouble while in D.C. for that stuff, and New Orleans for similar shadyness.

In class I saw a documentary of a criminal system in the middle east. Dude was found guilty. The officer escorted him out of the door and you hear “pop! pop!, pop!” The trial, verdict, and carrying out of the verdict all in the same afternoon. Now that may be a little hasty

By Brunson

November 7, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

and now the world will scrutinize the “mutt like me” comment. i wish people would get over the idea of perfection already.

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

I thought BO was very thoughtful and concise with his answers. He’s not giving a speech, he’s answering questions. He had complete control of that room, almost stern, totally about business. It’s also nice that we have a president who can easily pronounce foreign names - he had no trouble. He was also personable, asking one of the reporters how she hurt her arm that was in a sling. He made sure he got over that the economy was top priority, he would like to see an economic stimulus package passed by Congress sooner than later - before he’s sworn in and if not, 1st thing after he is prez. He also made it clear that there can be only one prez at a time and Bush is still the prez so he can’t just come in and bulldoze. One reporter asked him about Iran and a couple of other countries & war. He gave a good answer but then reminded her that the election was just Tuesday.

Some fool on the CNN blog said he thought he was going to solve the economic crisis and have us out of Iraq in a month! Said he’s already backtracking on his promises. Idiot!

All in all, a good 1st press conference I thought.

By Raqi

November 7, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

I know…I’ll wear my Catherine Tramell (1992). Perfect.

You all have a good evening. I’m out.

By mqew

November 7, 2008 3:37 PM | Link to this

Has anyone been to the Ten Pin or the Wine Loft?

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

Brunson

and now the world will scrutinize the “mutt like me” comment. i wish people would get over the idea of perfection already.

Thank you.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Truth, i was going to ask u what a mutt is,but Pam thinks i knw it all so i wont press u on that and risk dimnishishng my image in her eyes,unless ofcourse u volunteer..

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

PoppaG I know Middle East justice is harsh but some folks need it. Everytime I read news stories about babies being molested. Dude standing there crying..talking about he sorry, yet some child is dead or permanently disfigured. I say warm up the firing squad I am sure there are plenty of daddies who would glad sign up to shoot off some rounds.

But you are right about the police..they will of course some how screw it up. Now I didn’t know that about Pennington and the quotas.

By Jamoca

November 7, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

Don’t stop…get it..get it…Don’t stop, rock with it… Cee in your case its more like, “Don’t stop, Barack wit’ it”…Ha!

LMAO!!! That’s hilarious, b/c Wednesday it was: Shabach Hallelujah! Barak Praise the Lord!!!

Now she quotin’ Luke!! LOL!… and making plans to whistle while she twerk!…u know I’m just messin’ with ya’ :-) Just make sure you get that permission slip sign by “Hawpo” hehehe…

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Mqew

Has anyone been to the Ten Pin or the Wine Loft?

Ten pin was nice, but definitely overpriced for my tastes.

I’d rather go the the bowling alley on Monroe and enjoy myself for a cheaper price. 300 is pretty cool, too.

Tin Pin’s prices turned me off.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

i wish people would get over the idea of perfection already.

Brunson That’s the truth.

By kimmie

November 7, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Poppa I agree - the man has to adjust just like anyone in a new job. He’s probably rest-broken and he did just lose his grandmama and finish a long campaign.

Truth - I heard the mutt thing. Actually I’ve heard quite a few biracial people jokingly refer to themselves that way. I guess everything the man says will be examined with a microscope. Really, Lord be with him cause he can have that job!

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

mqew i’ve seen the, Ten Pin it’s a bowling alley? no? If you go let me know the atmosphere.

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

Kym

But you are right about the police..they will of course some how screw it up. Now I didn’t know that about Pennington and the quotas.

You weren’t supposed to know.

In my opinion, that’s had to factor into what those cops did to Ms. Johnston (no-knock warrant).

I’d trust Dick Cheney before Pennington. He is deceptive, and slicker the Gotti. Cheney will tell you up front that I am gonna “screw you”. Neither are on my christmas card list….lol

By DuShawn

November 7, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

There already blogging about that Mutt comment. People are a trip.

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

There already blogging about that Mutt comment. People are a trip.

As I said before ..and so the f******* begins.

By RELL - Confidence King

November 7, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

Kendra Wilkinson has met someone who she would like to spend the rest of her life with,” Hefner told Us Weekly. “He popped the question last Saturday. I have given her my blessing and will be giving her away at a very special wedding ceremony at the Playboy Mansion this coming June.”

• if thats not a player then what an da hell do you call that…..weenism at its finest…potentially the next OJ….

http://tv.yahoo.com/the-girls-next-door/show/38541/news/urn:newsml:tv.tvguide.com:20081106:d32063324f8d0cc58816cbd87673161b__ER:1

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

Cee in your case its more like, “Don’t stop, Barack wit’ it…

Moca i like that ^^^! yous my gurl. Harpo? Harpo? Gurl like Sophia say “you betta bash Mista’s head wide open and thank about heaven later”.

I’m Shabachin’ all the way ‘til Sunday. Maybe by then i’ll be a lil more calm.

mqew/PoppaG When i go to a bowling alley i tend to want to play Pool instead. I don’t know why i’m like that.

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

She is marrying Hank Baskett of the Eagles..we can go ahead and drop him from the fantasy rosters now..he wont be worth a quarter next year..wait let me check…hell he is not worth a quarter now.

By DuShawn

November 7, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

RELL Heff is the ultimate playa.

By mqew

November 7, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

PoppaG expensive is def not the aim of the eve. BUT, My girl and I wouldn’t bowl anyway… I’ll let you know either way Ceemee

What about Stats Anyone?

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

Du - Where are they bloggin about it?

By Brunson

November 7, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

stats is reminisent of luckie food lounge but with a sports theme mqew. by that i mean the food is great (tasty and reasonably priced) and the spot is hot.

By RELL - Confidence King

November 7, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

@du….i am tripping off he gave her his blessing…why as a man would i want to marry a women like that….her dome game must be proper…..

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

Cee

Du - Where are they bloggin about it?

There is a blog on the AJC.

There aren’t very “purebreds” here anyway. I know that I am not a purebred. He just knows one of the mixture places.

I shoot pool as well. I am horrible at bowling…lol

Kym…you caught yourself….He ain’t worth a nickel right now. Eagles keep drafting receivers and they keep underperformimg. DeSean looks like he may be the real deal.

By MELO

November 7, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

so uall are mutts,i get it.

By Wise Diva

November 7, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

hey Brunson, meant to welcome you before, thanks for sharing your experiences with us, you invoked some interesting responses from our crew, really gave me something to think about re: co-habitating.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

only for some reason, now I am heard and seen differently by some

M’Karyl My boss keep smiling too darn much, and acting like imma snap or cry, or something. If he say one more time how great of a speaker Barack is, imma jump up and say Black Power, with 2 fist in the air.

Really, I just wanna pull him to the side and say…i know you’re not sure about this man as your President, it’ll be alright. Heck, I darn sure wasn’t sure about the presidents before. stop the madness

By mqew

November 7, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

DANG, I DON’T HAFTA PICK UP MY LIL MONSTER… FEELS WEIRD NOT TO HAVE HIM FOR FRIDAY FAMILY NIGHT

Oh well, me and my girl will be out and about so I’m sure I’ll get over it!

By Brunson

November 7, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

thanks for the welcome wisediva i’ve followed the blog for a while and appreciate the commentary that takes place here (sometimes ;)yesterday i decided to seek advice rather than festering with my doubts.

not sure if you read earlier, but things are a go. we put a bid in earlier on a spot and it looks promising. my girl is a gem and i want to make this last forever. she is equally committed to forever after, so we are stupid good these days.

By Kym aka Grumpy Smurf

November 7, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

PopG They have won their last four games..and they beat the Steelers(naw our o-line beat us) but thats a whole other Oprah. Hank Baskett-next OJ-got it.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Kym/PoppaG I meant to ask. Did you all see the guy from Denver..ah, Brandon Marshall did after making that winning TD, lastnight? He pulled something out of his pants tombout a glove to represent his support for Obama. I couldn’t wait to hear what he had to say during the interview…

By For Real

November 7, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

mqew

By M'Karyl

November 7, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

@Cemeeli

Read the “The Last Integrationist”…in the opening chapter, I think the brother, Jake Lamar, sums up all we all think…must read…in the mean time, say “Oh, yes he must have learned a lot at Harvard”…lol

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

Mqew/Cee

Ten Pin is part of the Dolce group..Dolce, Geisha House, etc.

On Friday and Saturday….$80 per lane. Max of 6 people per lane.

Billards….on Friday and Saturday…you get a room on the 2nd floor for $40 w/ max of 20 people or 3rd floor for $60 w/ man of 25 people.

I got that info off the website.

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

For Real/mqew The Ultimate is really cool. Hopefully it will stay that way.

By Demi

November 7, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

My president is black, my Lambo’s blue And I’ll be goddayumed if my rims ain’t too My momma ain’t at home, and daddy’s still in jail Tryna make a plate, anybody seen the scale? My president is black, my Lambo’s blue And I’ll be goddayumed if my rims ain’t too My money’s light green and my Jordans light grey And they love to see white, now how much you tryna pay? Let’s go!

So I’m sittin right here now man It’s (Nov. 5) haha, 2:08 AM ‘igga I won’t say win, lose or draw Man we congratulate you already homie See I motivate the thugs right You motivate us homie, that’s what it is This a hands on policy, y’all touch him, we ride ‘igga Yeah, first black president, win, lose or draw ‘igga Haha, matter of fact, you know what it is man Shouts out to Jackie Robinson, Booker T, Washington homie Oh you ain’t think I knew that shyt? Sydney Poitier what dey do? Haha, my president is black I’m important too though, my Lambo’s blue I was, I was the first ‘igga to ride through my hood in a Lamborghini yeah haha

By Brunson

November 7, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

has anyone seen the bodies exhibit? its back and at the atlantic station i believe. considering check that out this weekend.

By mqew

November 7, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

Thanks Brunson I like the word reasonably…

Ceemee go ‘head and tell boss man the real at least so you don’t have like the BLACK POWER move

And I love pool! I use to go to PLAYERS in Marietta… I wonder if it’s still there…

MELO no YALL, you can’t tell me you’re pure bred…

By The Truth aka SHO NUFF

November 7, 2008 4:35 PM | Link to this

Barack shouldn’t have spoke. One of the laws of power is rarely let your court see you. Familiarity breeds contempt. I need to speak with his handlers.

Mo/Raqi bah humbug. Yea, xmas has been scrapped and will be replaced with a rock swapping ceremony. All I have to do now is break it to my grand niece/nephew who always think they’re in for the latest gadgets.

Brunson look towards the sky. The Truth now punches him in the throat. Listen, I hope this thing works out but I have doubts. Your laying on the booty 5-6 times a week, you can still watch espn and you can leave the toilet seat up. Why mess up a good thing? Millions of men want what you have. I wish you luck anyway and promise not to be the one to say “I told you so”.

By Wise Diva

November 7, 2008 4:35 PM | Link to this

yeah Brunson, I was glad to hear it, all the best to you guys, it’s sweet and refreshing to hear a guy speak positively about the lady in his life. I eat this kind of stuff up, a lot of guys on here make me hopeful about someone feeling that way about me. Thanks again!

By MELO

November 7, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

I just got my visa for tonite from the queen

By MELO

November 7, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

MELO no YALL, you can’t tell me you’re pure bred i am, where u heading tonite? Why dnt u leave that girlfriend of urs alone…

By Brunson

November 7, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

haha the truth dude, you are hilarious. my girl is super cool. she watches espn more than i, although we both love the sport of football and basketball. as for the toilet seat, she doesn’t trip about stuff like that, as long as there are no “drippings” around the rim, she’s cool. lol

she’s an alabama grad, so you already know what it is. cbs this weekend as they tap that lsu @ss. should be fun to watch the lsu fans through tons of salt at saban as he leads the tide to yet another victory. 10-0!!

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 7, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Truth rock swapping?? Okay I didnt know you were The Grinch! LOL!! He’s a mean one, Mr Grinch…..

By Demi

November 7, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

I don’t owe you like two vowels But I’d like for you to pay me by the hour Hahaha And I’d rather be pushing flowers, Than to be in the penn sharing showers See Tony told us this world was ours And the Bible told us every girl was sour Don’t play in the garden and don’t smell her flower Call me Mr. Carter or Mr. Lawn Mower Boy I got so many girls like I’m Michael Lowry Even Gwen Stefani said she couldn’t doubt me

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

“we are stupid good”

I thought that was cute.

mqew please don’t say Playa’s outloud. It’s not there.

By mqew

November 7, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

Ceemee/ForReal Never heard of the Ultimate…

looking online now

THANKS!!!

By Jamoca

November 7, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

Mkaryl How ya’ been?! You on high beam up there as well I see… :-)

Melo so uall are mutts,i get it.

I must concur. I believe it to be rare to find a thoroughbred individual over here ….although some people prefer not to acknowledge this in their own family tree. But one word comes to my mind - slavery. I’m sure I am not the only one with a diverse background, although I would not have known this if it were not for asking so many questions.

But just for folks to dissect every little thing, is so petty. Like a classroom full of students to a sustitute teacher - As if they seem to think, if “we” give him enough hell by pestering him long and hard enough, may be he’ll just quit/resign. How childish is that shyt. And like sponges, children soak up this type of mentality and they wonder where “they” get it from. smh

By Demi

November 7, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

Yo, this is my story, this is my song And to them rudypoots don’t attempt to try this at home It’s just a poem until y’all learn right from wrong Kwow when to bless a situation, when to grab the chrome But it’s back on, another stormy night in Atlanta, Georgia Overcast, but on behalf of Outkast, I cordially Invite you to an emotion filled theater Bring your umbrella cause young fella it gets no weirder

We reign, reign supreme, preme, dungeon, dungeon kings Do you know what it brings rats, mice, snakes up out of they hole Chonkyfire, spliced with rock n’roll indubitably, piper pied Now hold on my brother no, no, no, no, can’t stop the stride

By Cemeeli

November 7, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

@ Brunson Welcome sports fan! Cool

Ya’ll have a great weekend, and be safe.

chair spin

By Poppa Grande

November 7, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

Truth

Barack shouldn’t have spoke. One of the laws of power is rarely let your court see you. Familiarity breeds contempt. I need to speak with his handlers.

That is why I would never want to be president. There will always be someone unhappy with my choice.

He spent his campaign talking that this campaign is about you. He can’t just turn around and not be seen. Right now, it is ok because he is in the training period and can’t sign things yet.

He picked a good Chief of Staff. Emanuel is a guy that even Pelosi will back down from.

I think that was the point. in choosing him

By Demi

November 7, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

Now throw your hands in the air And wave ‘em like you just don’t care And if you like fish and grits and all that pimp s** Then everybody say O-Yea-yer

Now, my oral demonstration be like clitoral stimulation to the female gender, ain’t nothin better Let me know when it’s wet enough to enter If not I’ll wait, because the future of the world depends on Therefore, if not the child we raise gon’ have that n**** syndrome Or will it know to be the hard regardless of the skintone I really feel that if we tune it, it just might get picked on Or will it give a f/k about what others say and get gone The alienators cause we different keep your hands to the sky Like Sounds of Blackness when I practice what a preach ain’t no lie I’ll be the baker and the maker of the piece of my pie Now breaker, breaker 10-4 can I get some reply? Now everybody say…

By MELO

November 7, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

hey Rell, dont sleep on man u and arsenal tmrw at 7.0 am

By Demi

November 7, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

They trappin’ him off within then Look at the fonky red’ead Done flipped them all as dead Paint wet, now I’m set Fight the shyt, watch it hit Block lot, Neighborhood charcoals and that old mark-o After dawn, on the porch (Got gone), mind blown Fashioned like, ‘iggas sold, new or old It’s gettin’ sold in the ghetto

By Demi

November 7, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

@Jamoca

Well, I say you’re my, beginnin my end You’re my sista lover and friend God is, your light from within It shines through your beautiful skin What they, say bout you ain’t true There’s no me if there is no you I hope, that you understand You got to respect yourself before I can

By Brunson

November 7, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

peace good people, lets do this again next week.

By mqew

November 7, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Melo you’ll never disappoint anyone… consistency is the KEY! LOL! AND, I don’t believe the breeding is pure, no such animal

Ceemee Say it ain’t so, Players is gone?

Last one, what about Eros Tapas?

By Demi

November 7, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

He picked a good Chief of Staff. Emanuel is a guy that even Pelosi will back down from.

I can’t stand that Bish named Pelosi!!!

By The Truth

November 7, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

Brunson j/k dude. I wish you luck with that priject.

By Wise Diva

November 7, 2008 5:10 PM | Link to this

Have a wonderful weekend everyone. Hugs all around!! muah