Misadventures in Atlanta

By MELO

October 28, 2008 8:35 AM | Link to this

**John O’Reilly hoisted his beer and said, “Here’s to spending the rest of me life between the legs of me wife!” That won him the top prize at the pub for the best toast of the night! He went home and told his wife, Mary, “I won the prize for the Best toast of the night” She said, “Aye, did you win. And what was your toast?”

John said, “Here’s to spending the rest of me life, sitting in church beside me wife.” “Oh, that is very nice indeed, John!” Mary said. The next day, Mary ran into one of John’s drinking buddies on the street corner… The man chuckled leeringly and said, “John won the prize the other night at the pub with a! Toast about you, Mary.”

She said, “Aye, he told me, and I was a bit surprised myself. You know, he’s only been there twice in the last four years. Once he fell asleep, and the other time I had to pull him by the ears to make him come.”**

By Dan

October 28, 2008 8:41 AM | Link to this

Good morning,

If my words or syntax is off, blame it on the concussion.

But on the topic, a strong woman is a beautiful thing. But for all the talk of “ego assuaging” of/for men; it’s the little things that we each take for granted.

Sure, you can open your door (car, building) but maybe I like doing it for you.

Yes, you are more than capable of ordering your food, but maybe I enjoy doing it for you.

You don’t need me to walk between you and the street, or to hold your hand when it’s crowded, or a myriad of other things that a capable and independent woman can do for herself, but maybe it makes me feel better doing it for you.

By Kym

October 28, 2008 8:54 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Take it from one who has had to learn(still learning)that the male ego needs to be stroked alot. So if you are in the resturant and things are moving slow. Let the man decide if he is going to push to get a table. If he gets one,the ego feels a victory. If it doesn’t it still feels a victory because at least it asserted its authority over the situation. If the male ego is wrong..and lawd knows they are wrong alot…you sometimes have to just play along. And curb your urge to say I told you so.

For example, say you are traveling and the man misses the turn. You may say to the man. “Dear you missed the turn.” His response, “Its cool I know a shortcut.” Now you may spend another 30mins driving around and be tempted to pull out the directions from Google but like Chris Columbus, this man wants to discover the way to your destination. Eventually it will dawn on him like it did for Chris..I might want to get the map. At which time you reach in and pull the directions out. And let the “Captain” guide the ship home.

Honey sometimes we have to let a man be the man. Doesn’t mean they dont like strong women just means in certain situations their egos need a boost..so give them one. Little victories matter alot.

By Steve

October 28, 2008 8:56 AM | Link to this

So what if he doesn’t want to talk politics? I like to talk college football but my girl doesn’t have too. I can talk politics because I know you want too but don’t expect me to get off on it.

By C tha 1

October 28, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

There is nothing wrong with strong women, but to your question there is a difference in how a woman presents her strength.

Of course different men prefer different displays of strength. Personally, I don’t get in to extremely overt displays of strength. For example a woman like New York from Flava of Love. There’s no way in hell I would waste my time with her. She may be sweet as pie on the flip side but all of her loudness, and look at me attitude would clash with my own stubborness.

Its not a point of being able to handle a strong minded woman…any man with a real backbone should be able to do that. Simply put, every person male or female should have the ability to put themselves in check. If he or she doesn’t the other person may feel like they have no role in the relationship. In essence it helps to preserve relationships, because if a woman does not respect a man enough to dial it back a little eventually she will lose said respect and the “love” isn’t too far behind.

Conversely, if a dude doesn’t respect his woman’s feelings enough to not beat his chest in every situation eventually she will feel she has no real voice in the relationship. JMO

By QC

October 28, 2008 8:59 AM | Link to this

Morning all..have a great day!

By MLL

October 28, 2008 9:00 AM | Link to this

Good morning, Blanca maybe it could be the way you said it…I don’t own a red cap and have S branded on my chest. no superwoman here I’m strong where/when I need to be and meek/humble the rest of the time.

Ladies, have you run into similar relationship probs? Nope. B I experienced the same setting a few weeks ago with Newbie, we sat at the bar enjoyed a drink while we waited on our table and when our table still wasn’t ready we ordered appetizers and enjoyed each others company, at one point of our conversation he said he was having a much better time than it would’ve been sitting across from each other at a table. at the bar you can take advantage of subtle touching sometimes you just have to think outside of the box and take advantage of a disadvantage.

By Blanca

October 28, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

Dan You made me smile. I actually prefer if a man does those things…and if he knows what side of the street to walk on, he gets bonus points. I may be “strongest ever,” but I’m actually pretty traditional. I wish more guys were!

By Dan

October 28, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

@Blanca

I learned a long time ago that the loudest person in the room is not the strongest.

I appreciate all the characteristics of a strong [independent] woman and all that comes with it.

But like C said, you don’t have to display that strength on every occasion that presents itself. Sometimes playing the back is the strongest move (for males and females).

My lady does not have to prove her strength to me, it’s what has drawn me to her in the first place.

Weak women are like cold coffee, somehow the same taste, but not really..

By jb

October 28, 2008 9:11 AM | Link to this

I think men are terrified of strong women - especially strong, black women. I am independent, have opinions, and voice my feelings. I refuse to be meek and mild (unless the environment calls for it, but that is temporary). This may sound angry, but it is frustrating to have to play a role for a man to even pay an ounce of attention to me.

I guess that is why I am still single. And no, I am not fat, ugly, or stupid.

By Steve

October 28, 2008 9:12 AM | Link to this

So what if he doesn’t want to talk politics? I like to talk college football but my girl doesn’t have too. I can talk politics because I know you want too but don’t expect me to get off on it.

By Bronxchic

October 28, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

Way to go!!!!! I’m sick of hearing about so many woman who are meek and weak. Say what’s on your mind - and if your date doesn’t like it - oh well…. Country boys beware!!! A real man will appreciate a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afaid to say it…

By zeke

October 28, 2008 9:17 AM | Link to this

Strong? Weak? What the hell is good about either? NOTHING! Being independent or straight forward does not mean strong! Being loud, obnoxious and confrontational does not mean strong! Being calm, considerate or somewhat passive does not mean weak! GET OVER YOURSELVES LADIES! A man who is considerate, even tempered and non confrontational is not weak!

By Bronxchic

October 28, 2008 9:17 AM | Link to this

Way to go!!!!! I’m sick of hearing about so many woman who are meek and weak. Say what’s on your mind - and if your date doesn’t like it - oh well…. Country boys beware!!! A real man will appreciate a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afaid to say it…

By Bronxchic

October 28, 2008 9:17 AM | Link to this

Way to go!!!!! I’m sick of hearing about so many woman who are meek and weak. Say what’s on your mind - and if your date doesn’t like it - oh well…. Country boys beware!!! A real man will appreciate a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afaid to say it…

By mytwentyfivecents

October 28, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Who are these chickadees browbeating the gentlemanly behavior out of some fellas? Must be a brickhouse circulating round town, distracting y’all from her true essence w/ her assets…

More so than crudely disguised references to genitalia and cleverly misspelled expletives, Independent and Butterflies seem to be the dirtiest words uttered on here. And many times, the label is affixed regardless of our individual stance. Cuz for the most part we are lumped. Collectively subject to the same stereotypes and categorization of the lil girl who scarred dude in 3rd grade by sayin ‘Leave my pig tails alone!’ Nevermind that her mama popped her if one ribbon was askew when she got home.

The moral is take time to understand the back story. Stop being EMOTIONAL, taking a woman’s behavior as a personal affront to your manhood. Just b/c one does well at coping in her life thus far, she should not be seen as a threat to how a man plans to run his camp. So many of us are ready to share — not dump — our burdens, but it’s a Catch 22. How many times have we heard She wanna be Saved or She wanna be the Man, with no acknowledgment for those of us in between?

A good leader would assess her qualities and identify their importance to him. If she can enhance his journey, they should try to conquer the world. If not, no need to diminish her, it just wasn’t a fit. Stop the whining bout y’alllll women…

Whew! Now I want some oatmeal.

By Dan

October 28, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

@jb

That’s a ridculous statement.

Why would a man be afraid of a strong woman, some men may be intimidated but not scared.

But that speaks more to you than to the man. The choice of men that you date, jb, speak not only to your physical preference but your psychological and emotional preferences as well.

And if you continue to find that you are dating weak men, then after awhile the constant in that equation becomes you

By Blue_Kolla

October 28, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

Here yoll go ===> WASSUP

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

Ladies, have you run into similar relationship probs?

Though it hasn’t been presented in the same way, yes I have. I don’t think it was more of a “strength” problem as more of me being impatient! I’m a Sagittarius and we’re constant seekers of knowledge and answers. I always like to know where things are going and what folks are doing. Always.

As the years progress, I’m learning just to slow down and let him handle things. If he’s driving, I’ll let him drive, despite my thinking there might be a better/quicker way to get there. He’s lived here longer. If the wait is stretching longer than promised, I may ask if he wants me to check on the table and I go with his answer (no/calm down/sure go ahead). Besides, the longer wait is just more time to enjoy his company.

It’s not always easy to consider someone else in your day to day dealings, but I’ve found it in no way threatens who I am or my “independence.”

By Roxie

October 28, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

IMO, there wasn’t any need on your part to apologize (least of all feel badly), but I understand how it is when keeping the peace is the greates concern of the moment (more than being right).

TBH, I don’t think you were displaying “strength” neccissarly…I mean, you just wanted to know what was up with the wait. I don’t really think it takes “strength” to get up and ask the hostess what the hold up is.

I must be like, SUPER strong, cause I would consider this normal behavior (addressing the servers, ordering your own meal) for any person—male or female. Any indication that I should not be doing this or that doing this is some how out of the ordinary…would definitely give me second thoughts of ever calling that person again.

By abc

October 28, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

My first impression is that he didn’t mean ‘strong’ as in strength of character, resolve, or self-sufficiency; perhaps he meant ‘strong’ as in aggressive, imposing, even impolite. Are you concientiously and genuinely polite to wait staff?

Now, just what is it with all this ‘strong woman’ stuff? Is it about having a job, paying bills, getting the oil changed in your own car, everyday stuff like that? To me, that’s just life. If you’re lucky and so inclined, you’ll find a man who’ll relieve you of much or all of that tedium. Likewise, if you’re lucky and so inclined, you’ll find a man who is happy to let you go on with it, if you place that much value on it.

Different strokes. No biggie.

By Riz

October 28, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

I’d give every possesion I had for the woman who was strong AT THE PROPER TIME.
When I come home after a 10 hour day and I still haven’t made the damn dinner reservations you asked me to because I’m trying to secure my job during hard times. Please don’t Speak your Mind just because you feel like it. I’m just as likely to tell you to get out of my face then listen to what you’ve said.

How about being a little less catty? When an individual is wearing something that isn’t the best fitting because they are trying to save some money- don’t cackle or snicker at their defense. Show a little modesty and restraint, it doesn’t hurt anything to keep your mouth shut sometimes.

And please don’t confuse being a total bi#$% with being strong - because I simply will turn away and ignore you.

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

Good Morning People!

Melo…Your morning toast, Good laugh.

MLL seems like you two enjoyed eachothers company at the bar instead. So did you stay seated there? Of course, why move when the vibe was going so well…

Blanca I would have handle that the same exact way you did with the hostess. I don’t think that says you are “superwoman”, you just assessed the situation and took action. I wouldn’t say that should have made him think you was being overly “independant” characteristics.

By southerngirl

October 28, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

Interesting….I have had this conversation several times with my brother-in-law. He thinks I am overly independent. I think that I have had to be due to life circumstances. My ex-husband walked out on me when our son was a week old. I was immediately put into a position of having to take charge….of everything, whether I wanted to or not. 14 years later and I still have to be in charge….I like it to a point, but would enjoy being with someone else to share the journey with. I don’t feel a raging need to control everyone around me, but I do handle my life and whatever challenges come my way. I would never want to be with a weak man who couldn’t or wouldn’t think for himself and make his own decisions (been there and done that). Strength in a man is essential - and if he is strong enough, my own strength will not intimidate him.

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

25cents Please step on the Red Carpet…we are taking pictures of returning Hollylwood Hits today, thank you.

Next up - Breezy with her newly relaesed, 1million copy sold, best seller free Ark membership, book. “How Big is the Wagon”.

By southerngirl

October 28, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

Interesting….I have had this conversation several times with my brother-in-law. He thinks I am overly independent. I think that I have had to be due to life circumstances. My ex-husband walked out on me for another woman when our son was a week old. I was immediately put into a position of having to take charge….of everything, whether I wanted to or not. 14 years later and I still have to be in charge….I like it to a point, but would enjoy being with someone else to share the journey with. I don’t feel a raging need to control everyone around me, but I do handle my life and whatever challenges come my way. I would never want to be with a weak man who couldn’t or wouldn’t think for himself and make his own decisions (been there and done that). Strength in a man is essential - and if he is strong enough, my own strength will not intimidate him.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

I may be “strongest ever,” but I’m actually pretty traditional. I wish more guys were!

Blanca, I feel you on this.

But asking that guy, he might say differently. Being opinionated changes that perception. How do I know? I asked my guy! If he only knew how much stuff I could say but don’t because I respect his word and opinion (he literally vented all day on Saturday). He’s way more opinionated than me!

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

How about being a little less catty? When an individual is wearing something that isn’t the best fitting because they are trying to save some money- don’t cackle or snicker at their defense. Show a little modesty and restraint, it doesn’t hurt anything to keep your mouth shut sometimes.

Even this, was a valid point.

Thanks Riz.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

For those of you who had an opinion about the mom who drove to Nebraska and gave up her kid, it’s today’s topic on MOMania. One early comment is how the mother is “admired”…

By MichelleD

October 28, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Interesting….I have had this conversation several times with my brother-in-law. He thinks I am overly independent. I think that I have had to be due to my life-circumstances. My ex-husband walked out on me for another woman when our son was a week old. I was immediately put into a position of having to take charge….of everything, whether I wanted to or not. 14 years later and I still have to be in charge….I like it to a point, but would enjoy being with someone else to share the journey with. I don’t feel a raging need to control everyone around me, but I do handle my life and whatever challenges come my way. I would never want to be with a weak man who couldn’t or wouldn’t think for himself and make his own decisions (been there and done that). Strength in a man is essential - and if he is strong enough, my own strength will not intimidate him.

By Kym

October 28, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

I changed my opinion on Nebraska mom last night after I read that she did not exhaust all her resources here. The school offered her counseling for the boy and she decline to take him. So Truth, I respectfully agree with you to a point.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

The more you know the less you need to say.

Jim Rohn (American Businessman, Author, Speaker, Philosopher)

By MLL

October 28, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

abc Being strong has so many different meaning to different ppl, I guess you would have to look at the situation to determine why he said strong to know where he’s coming from, something simple like a body gesture could set the tone for being labled strong.

Cee we were having a blast so why move as you stated, the vibe was on, no need to kill it LOL….

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

I think that women, like myself, who convey autonomous and independent traits, are self reliant and also able to handle emotional issues without the usual associations of “female distress”…simply intimidate some men and their frail egos…I have found that this apparent perceptual distortion of being strong (when it seems to have a negative connotation) always accompanies a man who is insecure with his own masculine identity and self-worth as a man…and I find it completely absent in men who are more secure and confident within themselves…and what are indications of my “strengths” are more complimented and acceptable by these individuals.

Now, this does not mean that I step on toes, so to speak, I do not mind having a man open a door for me, I do not mind any acts of chilvary from gentlemen…these traits of valor are endearing and pleasant…but if I have to be coerced into a subordinate role without any consideration to my value or views within the interaction…well, that is when I just draw the line and split.

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Southerngirl…maybe brother is sadden to see you work so darn hard, and by yourself with his nephew. So he wants to tell you as caringly as he can to slow down. But i know EXACTLY how you feel! You have to do what you gotta do!

By Raqi

October 28, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

abc I agree with you. Being a responsible adult with an opinion and preference is perfectly warranted. However being loud, rude, obnoxious and opinionated is a totally different stance.

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

@SouthernGirl I can feel you on that scenario…not that I have personally experienced anything similiar to that…but the point being is our life circumstances will force us into patterns of behavior for our very own survival and existence…this is a natural outcome of cause and effect…I have been on my own for 25 years and the consequences/choices in my life history have dictated that I be pursue life’s challenges more aggresively and more assetively…questions have to be answered, problems have to be solved, decisions need to be made…and I am the only one to do it…so therefore, thinking, acting and existing in such circumstances will allow me to develop less of a need for someone else to be that person for me…and that is just how it is.

By The Truth

October 28, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Morning folks.

What we’re speaking of is not strong women but weak men. This is becoming a common theme. In nature domination creates submission and vice versa. From your very first interaction you post your social status by the way you carry yourself. Alot of men are lower on the totem pole than would be expected.

For proof, every woman that said above she can say what she likes to her mate but when her boss tells her something she shuts up and does it. She does it because he has more social rank than she does. What she’s saying is she’ll tell that specific mate to kma but she’ll bend over for the boss.

Women are alot like dogs in the sense that you don’t have to be tough to deal with them but you must be 1/16th tougher than she is.

Being on the top for a guy doesn’t take one more ounce of work than being on the bottom. It’s a mindset. You may not like me but I WILL NOT be under you. Thats not the way this thing was set up. I’ve met alot of women in alot of different enviroments (army/prison/coprporate america/street/college) and NOT ONE was a dominant chick, although some had negotiated that position with certain individuals.

Every woman has a desire to submit.

Blanca you go through more men than the Atlant Falcons. Please sit down and rest that thang.

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

It is interesting how the traits of catty, obnoxious, loud or rude behaviors are what some ignorant or delusional ppl will associate with being strong….how funny because silence is a powerful tool…making foul comments, behaving in ways that are indicative of a true, yet uncouth self…these are not traits of strength…just immature foolishness.

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

Kym i read about the Smyrna mom as well. Regretfully, now that the boy was “dumped” by his parent, the damage to his self esteem is already done.

By Jason

October 28, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

“I’m too strong” is the female version of “I’m too nice.” Self-described “nice guys” aren’t necessarily nice, but it’s easier for them to blame a cosmic injustice for their failures with women than to accept and overcome their shortcomings. The same goes for “strong women.” As for a guy calling a girl he’s about to break up with strong, he’s simply trying to soften the blow and/or avoid conflict.

By can you smell what the baROCK is cookin? lol.

October 28, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

morning MLL, cee, QC, M’Karyl!

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Truth, stop picking on Blanca. She’s doing a good job and we’d like to keep her. And at least she acutally goes on dates!!! It’s a rare thing around these parts. LOL

By Beautiful

October 28, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

sexycool you had me crackin up yesterday! lol.

cee when my 9 yr old becomes a freshmen, i plan to hand him over to his dad. i have my reasons and i’m almost sure jr. won’t mind. i know my situation is different, but i feel so guilty/bad. it’s tough.

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

Good Morning…

First off, egos aren’t a gender specific thing. It is a human thing. For example, Amazon Red and Angie/Beautiful have weekly pizz offs to demonstrate who pizz is the strongest. i.e. “I can blog and answer whomever I please.” and “Respect my moniker”. So, ego is not just a male thing. No one likes to be “de-balled” in public.

Next, being with a strong woman isn’t as much a problem with many men. It is how that strength is manifested. Being loud opininated or just plain rude is when it becomes an issue.

By i'm swiss

October 28, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

“I think men are terrified of strong women - especially strong, black women. I am independent, have opinions, and voice my feelings. I refuse to be meek and mild (unless the environment calls for it, but that is temporary). This may sound angry, but it is frustrating to have to play a role for a man to even pay an ounce of attention to me.”

Maybe it has more to do with how you voice said opinions? Nobody wants to be around an a$$ — whether male or female (not saying you are). I don’t tolerate rude or confrontational male friends, either. So, maybe it’s not the fact that you have opinions & voice them. Maybe it’s just that you don’t voice them diplomatically?

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

@Blanca

Hermana…one thing I have learned in life is that the personality of who I have chosen to be suits me well…and if for whatever reason it is a turn off for someone else…then that answers the question about potential compatibility…NONE, NADA, ZILCH…and what I have also learned is that anyone who is truly compatible with me appreciates the same things about myself that I do…those traits that define me as my own unique individual…and it is not a contest of who he is not because of who I am…or vice versa.

By Blue_Kolla

October 28, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

2 Piece Whew! Now I want some oatmeal.

You must not be from the south. Southerners in general don’t eat oatmeal. LOL

Truth …that whole 10:25

Jewel ^^^

By MELO

October 28, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Blanca if he said that u are strong(good trait) but did not smile nor show a twinkle(bad trait),that means he was being negative about ur actions.He actually meant to say that u are argumentative(bad trait).No wonder there was no joy in his assessment becoz he does not vibe with that character trait. At the restaurant, he proly assessed the situation and felt,in his mind that the delay was warranted.I would do that too.My wife instead would want to project herself and address the female servers.I have noticed that she has that confrontational knack towards other females.If im present, i will calmly and firmly say,its cool,leave that alone.Because i dont sweat small stuff! I have noticed that a lot of women in Atlanta are just loud mouthed and too opinionated.Thats their opinion of strong and independent! There is a big difference.

By MLL

October 28, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Hey Angie say it aint so….regarding your vm yesterday LOL

By Chris

October 28, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

I like and am attracted to strong women. Not the control kind, but the confident and independent type. Any guy that get’s upset over his toes being stepped on by a woman is a baby. Don’t let one “baby” ruin your perception of men, keep your head up and smile and give a nice guy a chance.

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

when my 9 yr old becomes a freshmen, i plan to hand him over to his dad. i have my reasons and i’m almost sure jr. won’t mind. i know my situation is different, but i feel so guilty/bad. it’s tough.

Beautiful, that’s his father…Gurl, your example, is a TOTALLY different scenario. That lady did not drop her son off at his fathers, or a family member’s. She drove that baby to Baghdad and who knows what is going through his mind?

Why do you feel guilty? I’m sure it’s tough because you have raised him all these years and there is a bond. But you know when you take him to his dad’s, what kind of care he would be in, right?

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

For example, Amazon Red and Angie/Beautiful have weekly pizz offs to demonstrate who pizz is the strongest.

Um, no. PG, I respond to comments. I applaud ones that I feel are strong and I tear down the ones I think are stupid. I never come on this blog just starting stuff for no reason, there is always a comment (good or bad) that strikes me for some reason. And therefore I respond.

Nice try tho.

By The Truth

October 28, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Riz if a woman rags you for some reason at a critical time it’s because YOU negotited that contract with her. Something about you told her she could do that and get away with it. It could have been when you failed to live up to a few obligations you agreed to or the fact that she’s shouldering the load or that she simply doesn’t want you that much but prefers you over being alone. It happens, ALOT.

If a woman was arguing at me alot the first thing I’d do is review our relationship and I bet I could find the times I was on all fours and she was behind me stroking. These things don’t just pop up out of thin air, we produce them over time.

Disclaimer: I’m not speaking of you personally because I don’t know you yadda yadda yadda

Kym thank you for reconsidering my point of view. LOL

I saw the video of that mom who abandoned that boy. Just another chick that thought being a mother would make her somebody and found out the job wasn’t for the weak at heart. She’s really no different than the moms that actually keep the child but fail to live up to her repsonsibilty. While they haven’t physically given up their child they have mentally.

I’ve just found a path to riches. I’ll set up toll booths into nebraska and collect on all the families speeding there to dump their children. I foresee a traffic line heading into Nebraska if they don’t ammend that law. LOl

By Blue_Kolla

October 28, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

For proof, every woman that said above she can say what she likes to her mate but when her boss tells her something she shuts up and does it. She does it because he has more social rank than she does. What she’s saying is she’ll tell that specific mate to kma but she’ll bend over for the boss.

Can any married woman answer why this is? Is it because you have more trust, faith, and dependence in your job, than your husband?

I didn’t ask you single chicks that are just kickin’ it because I’m sure that the reply that I would’ve gotten would be something to to the tune of, “We ain’t married; I don’t know if he’s gon’ be around; He ain’t proved himself; …blah blah.”

By mytwocents

October 28, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli My publicist insists I decline all photo ops while adorned in my best pack a box gear, sweetie. Next career… Million dollar mover. Those cats make bank.

abc I can go with inclination and luck needing to coincide in life, love & the lottery. Takes lots of patience to standby while they circle each other, tho. But what is for me is for me.

By Rhonda

October 28, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

I have had to be a strong woman because my husband passed away and I have 3 children…..BUT just because I have to be strong does not mean I do not want to be taken care of. I am from the south and I have taught my sons to be gentlemen at all times. EVEN strong women like to be treated nicely.

By C tha 1

October 28, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

Here’s a situation my barber an I were talking about one day. One scene in the movie Crash involving Terrence Howard and Zoe Saladana (sp) where they get pulled over by the cops Terrence’s character is emasculated by Zoe’s due to her “strength”…albeit her strength was the result of liquid courage.

My boy and I agreed that Zoe’s character was out of line and put her dude in a even more complicated situation because she couldn’t control herself. The liquor made her defiant to authority, and challenging it made her feel strong and she wanted her man to follow suit. Her defying the cop was akin to chop one nut off. Once the cop felt his lady up he just finished the job as Terrance stood nutless…impotent with no guts to rectify the situation all because his woman was too strong in that sense.

Unfortunately it don’t work like that…and that’s why I like Crash because it stayed true to life throughout. The chic put dude in a no win situation because her she didn’t exercise better judgement and decided to be strong. Question for the fellas Have you ever been pulled over by the police when you were with your date? How did you handle it? And I guess I would have to ask some of yall…Were you riding dirty?

I only got pulled over with a date once for failing to make a complete stop at a stop signe, and it was about two weeks after I got my license reinstated. My date was chill but had a hundred questions as to why it was taking so long and I had to show the police so much unnecessary stuff (something told me to ride with my receipt from the DMV). She was getting impatient, but I told her to be cool and that everything was gonna be alright. She rolled her eyes, but chilled out.

All in all whenever a dude is pulled over by the police he immediately has to play a subverient role unfortunately or else get ready for some serious consequences. Unless your ready for that high speed chase, run a serious sub 4.3 forty, have unbelievable stamina and know the woods like the back of your hand. Otherwise, simply go with the flow and make it pass as quickly as possible.

Sorry for the long post

By Chink - QuietStorm

October 28, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

Morning!

Truth Every woman has a desire to submit. I agree with ya

Am I strong? yup I have been on a road that has definitely tested me plenty of times…and I am still standing.

Anyway I am kicking myself for not voting last week…

By "Longtime Lurker"

October 28, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Morning all…

Blanca, in response to your post, it is like this….

Learn how to play your position!

A common prob. that I see with many of today’s women is that they do not know how to play their position!

Yes, you may be independent and outgoing and used to calling the shots, but when you are in the company of a man, let him order the meal, address the waiter, etc.

It can be a turnoff for a woman to be too forward or too assertive in some situations.

Example, I recently met a woman own owns a major company here in Atlanta and in Detroit. She is very beautiful, smart, etc. but although she dates, she has not had great luck with relationships.

This mid 40’s woman is doing one thing wrong and that is she is trying to be the CEO while dating!

Although I am impressed with her drive, attitude and ambition, I want her to allow me to lead in the relationship.

When I am around her, she has this take the bull by the horns attitude and says things like “let me take you to dinner” or comes across as very dominating.

Long story short, I have gone my separate ways with her and wished her the best! I explained to her that I wanted her, not the CEOand after repeated attempts to get her to settle down a bit, I was outty!

By Beautiful

October 28, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

poppa believe it or not, this is the first time in my life i have ever acted this way. if you read my old MIA comments going back one year, you will see what i’m referring to. i have never met or had to confront anyone like that before … rude, disrespectful, bold. it blows me away sometimes.

^ ^ ^ see what i mean. lol.

ared you kill me! lol. hair flip.

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

AR

Um, no. PG, I respond to comments

but that is my point, exactly. You could just ignore it and move on. You know that it isn’t gonna change her mind. You are just venting your frustration. What good is that really doing.

Last week for example, after she mentioned chicks being intimidated about her hair, you went on a rant. For what purpose other than to let the blog people know your opinion? It just keeps pizzin’ match goin’. You respond, then she respond.

Its like a south central gang thang, you shot my dog, so I’ll shoot your cat. It goes on forever.

It’s not like you don’t have an option.

Nice try to justify a rant, though.

By Beautiful

October 28, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

MLL yes guuuuurl! lol.

hey there mytwo!

cee what i was kinda referring to is either way, vol or unvol, it’s tough. it’s five years away and i’m trippin already. lol. we’ll be aight tho.

By lurker

October 28, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Truth Riz if a woman rags you for some reason at a critical time it’s because YOU negotited that contract with her. Something about you told her she could do that and get away with it. It could have been when you failed to live up to a few obligations you agreed to or the fact that she’s shouldering the load or that she simply doesn’t want you that much but prefers you over being alone. It happens, ALOT.

You told the whole truth here buddy. If you find yourself as a man getting blatant disrespect, somewhere at some point, something disconnected. Men (real ones), comes equipped with that thing where respect is garnered but never asked or spoken for.

By RELL - Pee's Standing

October 28, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Although I am impressed with her drive, attitude and ambition, I want her to allow me to lead in the relationship.

^^^^^WTF IS THIS RIGHT HERE…..you get the straight face homey…ALLOW….you should have left babies on her face to show who is boss!!!!!….i mean did you not see vanilla sky….why did cameroon run the car into the tree…..i mean come on……fugg these women talking that i am independent here me roar stuff….lol….blanca he was not feeling you period…he thought you would be an eazy target and you were not…so he was tired of the courting he prolly wanted to squeeze your D’s or either he got the draws and was tired of acting like he wanted you around…so trust he not cryin in kool-aid over this breakup…he shot you some bs to boost your ego….lol….too funny and now all these strong women come out the wood work….too funny

By MLL

October 28, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Women are alot like dogs , dang Truth who have you been dating?

By Dan

October 28, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

@Longtime lurker

I’m a strong proponent of words expressing true feelings, and you gave yourself away with this:

want her to allow me to lead in the relationship

Being allowed to lead is not a prerequisite of leadership, you either lead or follow.

At the same time if you find yourself in a romantic situation where your “leadership” is questioned then it becomes incumbent upon you as an individual, to decide if the relationship is worth continuing.

But no man, woman, or child “let’s” you lead

By Lulu

October 28, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Although I’ve recently been told I was physically a waif always, I am also better known as a strong woman… independently muscle bound in fact. My comment is not about if men find that a turn on or off, that varies. What I’d like to know is why, after finally being seated for dinner… anyone male or female. would like to flag down a hostess to add to the dining delay. What was this action intended to do and why? Obviously the lady was seeking confrontation over a point the restaurant had already won. No one, male or female, enjoys a date with someone looking for a squabble.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

For what purpose other than to let the blog people know your opinion?

PG, that’s the sole purpose of this blog.

And the POINT of the rant was that it’s sucks to see other women put petty limits on friendship. She may not ever “get it” so it’s a good thing I don’t post FOR HER.

I ignore several things and move on. But if we all did that, there wouldn’t be much of a blog.

So no, it’s not about ego or winning. Sorry.

By Lulu

October 28, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Although I’ve recently been told I was physically a waif always, I am also better known as a strong woman… independently muscle bound in fact. My comment is not about if men find that a turn on or off, that varies. What I’d like to know is why, after finally being seated for dinner… anyone male or female. would like to flag down a hostess to add to the dining delay. What was this action intended to do and why? Obviously the lady was seeking confrontation over a point the restaurant had already won. No one, male or female, enjoys a date with someone looking for a squabble.

By Lulu

October 28, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Although I’ve recently been told I was physically a waif always, I am also better known as a strong woman… independently muscle bound in fact. My comment is not about if men find that a turn on or off, that varies. What I’d like to know is why, after finally being seated for dinner… anyone male or female. would like to flag down a hostess to add to the dining delay. What was this action intended to do and why? Obviously the lady was seeking confrontation over a point the restaurant had already won. No one, male or female, enjoys a date with someone looking for a squabble.

By Raqi

October 28, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

A “strong” person IMO is one that is able to overcome adversity. Take a lickin’ and keep on tickin’. One that is steadfast and knows the benefit of persevering.

On another note every one that has a strong personality though is not a strong being.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

C tha 1, FYI Zoe Saldana was not in crash. It was Thandie Newton.

By i'm swiss

October 28, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Off topic:

How freaking hard can it be to program a freaking cableCard? Geez… I called {unnamed cable company that rhymes with shmomshmast} because I suddenly lost all my HBO’s on the cableCard. Now, 2.5 hours later I’ve got NO CHANNELS and the {schmomschmast} dude is STILL HERE scratching his head! How can this be this difficult?

By Beautiful

October 28, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

C tha 1 you get a phat blog citation for that long azz post! lol. j/k.

where’s slim?

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Beautiful

You aren’t innocent either. I remember an afternoon when you posted some stuff that should have stayed between the parties involved. Why do that?

My point is that if your ego is shaken by words on a computer screen then your ego is fragile. Fragile egos aren’t a gender thing, it is a human thing.

Truth

I agree with your 10:25.

I just will add that the submission comes with comfort & trust. If she is comfortable and trust you, submission will happen. It doesn’t happen over night. She has had to be self-reliant for a while. It isn’t easy to turn off and on.

By Et Moi

October 28, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Imagine being on a date with a 5’3” creature with long hair, stick out breasts, a round and soft body wearing a dress or a skirted suits who radiate tons of masculine energy……….How confusing? Masculine energy from a female can be very confusing to people.

So, what it means when a man says “Yeah, like Strongest Ever.”…….? He got so confused that he did not know what to think of your masculine energy. By radiating too much of masculine energy, you pushed him away – you forced him to accept you as another man and that’s why he could not smile or come up with a compliment. The comment he made:”Strongest Ever”, was a very masculine oriented remark to soothe your incoming masculine energy.

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

hehehehe…I was waiting on a male blogger to bring that “allow” to the forefront! Dang.

By MELO

October 28, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

Longtime Lurker if u had given that 40sh rump steak a good squiz from jump,she proly wldnt have wanted to lead herself.She resorted to wanting to be around u coz she was dry and thoght u wld quench her thirst temporarily.although she dates, she has not had great luck with relationships that proly makes u feel good,but aint the whole truth about herself!! A woman thats getting hit right will jus follow,no questions asked,period!! In my 40sme years,i knw that to be true.

By Kym

October 28, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

Cee or anyone else who may know or have a recommendation I am planning my kids summer..He will be 13 so we are going to do a couple of weeks of overnight camp. Can anyone recommend a place? So far I have the YMCA and Boys and Girls Club.

By MELO

October 28, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

dang Truth who have you been dating? why u seem slighted by the comparison of 2 animals MLL???

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

Lol @ i’m swiss’s dilemma with {schmomschmast}! you better keep tabs on ol’ boy. Tthat’s a long time for just a cablecord!!!

By "Longtime Lurker"

October 28, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

@Dan I appreciate your feedback, but you are wrong in regards to your thoughts about me and my situation. With that said,there are certain sutuations where a man must lead or take the lead.

By Chink - QuietStorm

October 28, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Raqi

I agree with you…its about what you been through that makes you a stonger person ..not how you can have an attitude!

By SexyCool

October 28, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

sounds like both bianca and steve were looking for a way out of the relationship…point blank end of discussion…

so he doesn’t talk about politics? there are a gazillion other things to talk about on this planet…

and he didn’t want you confronting the hostess…i guess his preference would have been to sit at the bar until jesus came or called…

yesterday, you indicated that there was a whole lot more going on…was him not liking your strong character is what you were alluding to?

and my extra personal question…had ya’ slept with him?

By Keep it real!

October 28, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

To Swiss,

You have made the most common sense statement today!

Tone means a lot in giving an opinion!

Can someone describe what is being a strong woman or a strong man?

It is not voicing your opinion without knowledge or information about the topic!

Who cares if it takes you 5 more minutes to get their, you are probably running late because most women are not ready to go on time!

Being strong is taking care of your responsibilities!

By Beautiful

October 28, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

poppa yep, guilty. ppl email me all the time … why do you do that? or why put that out there? it has gotten to the point where i don’t care anymore. i say what’s on my mind and if the bloggers want to take it literally … that’s on them.

the reason why i’m here has changed. it used to be genuine, now just wasting time basically.

By Lulu

October 28, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Amazon Red Aside from what does PG mean, obviously the time to deal with the delay problem is after you’ve dined and are awaiting the check. After check might make it seem the check is connected to the wait. Before check links delay to tip. That’s a good thing right. The operative word here is strong woman not stupid woman.

By Dan

October 28, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

@Lurker

I’m not wrong as I never posted on your situation specifically.

My post was about generalized situations (as I don’t know the dynamics of yours, nor do I care to)

But in all due respects, how can my thoughts about anything be wrong, they are after all, my thoughts.

If you meant my purported conjecture (which again was not the point of my post) then cool, if you read it that way I could be wrong (again not knowing the whole story).

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

Lulu, PG is me addressing my response to Poppa Grande, a blogger.

By SlimOne

October 28, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

Beautiful You lookin for me? Howdy my blog peeps. Been a minute since I peeped in on the daily drama, daily “if you don’t like my posts, don’t read em”, and the how to train your woman or man like dogs….I’ve just been on the job search still every week hoping something will turn up before this $$ runs out, not to mention the other thang I have to deal with in the upcoming months. Whaddi miss?

By i'm swiss

October 28, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

@Keep it real — Thanks.

@Cemeeli — Dude finally got it working! It’s Shmomshmastic!

By MLL

October 28, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

melo you made sense @ 11:28 what happened at 3 minuets later?

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

Kym these are some that i can vouch for;

Huntsville Ala., Space Camp, The 4-H Club, Eatonton Georgia, Truett Cathy’s, Camp WinShape, Emory University’s Computer Camp and Cumberland Island has one…hope these help.

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

sup Slim…hope everything works out well for you.

By Beautiful

October 28, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

slim have you thought about a career change? never too late to hit the books again.

By MELO

October 28, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

and my extra personal question…had ya’ slept with him? where u going wit that SexxCl?

MLL,we all animals.Why u think scientists experiment with monkeys,cats,dogs etc on new drugs b4 they are used by man?

By SlimOne

October 28, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Cee Thanks chica, I sure to God hope so too. Will be going to my sisters 1st baby shower this weekend.

By Kym

October 28, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Cee I thought about space camp..he has gone to 4-H and Cumberland with the school, CampWinShape I will look it up and Computer Camp, I will have to see how he likes it. He loves video games so I bet he would have fun creating his own.

Thanks for the recommendations. Apparently like Xmas , Summer Camp registration comes early.

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

Cee

If I remember correctly, 4-H camp for 13/14 year olds is at Jekyll Island, not Eatonton after my 5th and 6th grades. I went there in my pre-teenage years.

I went to Camp Jekyll while in junior high (now called middle school).

I did the Space Camp in Huntsville, AL. It was cool. I’ll never forget it. I learned that I was too tall for the cockpit though. :(

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

Will be going to my sisters 1st baby shower this weekend.

Hiya Slim, good to read ya. I’m doing the same this weekend!

By SlimOne

October 28, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Beautiful Yeah I missed the cutoff for the fall semester and am seriously trying to do it for the next semester. I’m going to have to break down and do the online class since I’m sure I’ll be working by that time. I prefer to be up in somebodies class at least once a week for that interaction….whatever His will is all I can say at this point.

By mytwocents

October 28, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

Biker Boy Yeah, sweet, but so not a peach. From the apple. Some say it explains a lot. Question: What wears you out faster - a woman you consider too strong minded or one who’s too weak minded?

Cee I’m thinkin’ Tigress is a Fiji apple at that…

What up, Beautiful. How’s your world? See PG above on wasted energy. Oh yeah do you never ever dare change ur hair? I think I got hair A.D.D… gotta switch up.

And Chink were u the one learning DVR? If so, Directv lets u go online to program if u forget to @ home…

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

Slim

You still dealin’ with the “friend” issue, huh. Keep your head up.

Kym

Keep an eye on the Camps because with this economy, some of the funds are drying up for the camps. Early registration seems to be a way to count the interest so cuts can be made.

Cee

I know that you are the animal lover. Unfortunately, the AJC is reporting that the pregnant elephant at Zoo Atlanta has died.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

And PG, just so you know, if Sarah Palin happened to post on here, I’d ride her azz like Tonto too. I’m sure you can figure out the correlation there too.

Trust me, it’s not personal. The reaction would be the same if we were not able to use blog names on here (in fact, I’d prefer that). Certain statements will warrant certain reactions. I went to Berkeley, doth protest much, especially when it comes from other women.

Not to mention, folks always find fireworks more memerable.

By Dee

October 28, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

There is nothing wrong with being a strong woman. Most men respect it but a woman also needs to know how to use it. I love my femininity but am also strong when I need to be. I like for a man to order for me and to open doors for me. I let him know right away I am not a competitor but a friend. It has worked for me!

By Roxie

October 28, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

The Truth he is not.

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October 28, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

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By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

AR

Call it what you want, it is still ego. Look up id, ego, and super-ego.

It just part of your personality. No problem. But call it what it is. Doesn’t mean that it is bad.

I never said it was personal. It just feed that ego part of your personality.

By Roxie

October 28, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

The Truth he is not.

By MLL

October 28, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

Melo you’re an animal….now go bite yourself crunch

By SlimOne

October 28, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

Poppa G Yeah, unfortunately I am having to deal with the ‘friend’ issue. I spoke to a lawyer last week but I don’t have a court date scheduled yet. I was told they’d send me the date in the mail. I have not spoken to this person since the fiasco happened nor do I know if they’ve bonded out either…sigh

By Chink - QuietStorm

October 28, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

mytwocents

I am actually with cable digital DVR…but boy oh boy am I having the time of my life recording…I dont think I will be watching live TV for a while!! lol…I will check to see if I can do it online too. thanks

By Kym

October 28, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

PG Yeah I have Space camp on the list. I have a feeling young Skywalker will want to do that. Which means I have to budget for that now. It is not a cheap 6 days. The Boys and Girls Club has a one long program too. I just think two good weeks away this summer plus daily summer camp will start building up those summer memories.

By Dan

October 28, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

@MLL

We’re all animals “creatures of the Earth”

Consciousness does not seperate us from the rest of the animal kingdom.

Embrace that inner animal (acting on instinct, sensory perception, etc.) it’s kinda fun

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

It just feed that ego part of your personality.

PG, my ego will concede that to you. However, it’s not because it’s to demonstrate who is “strongest,” And that’s the part I took issue with. There was really no need for you to single anyone out because my “blog rants” are not reserved for any one person.

And, I hope you will concede that the purpose of the blog is to “let the blog people know your opinion” on things that are said. Because you’ve got to take that into consideration that we are ALL doing that.

By Blue_Kolla

October 28, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

Kym He will be 13 so we are going to do a couple of weeks of overnight camp.

If at all possible, resist the urge to want to be strong and manly in absence of father - you stay at home; and send an uncle/brother/pop/baby-daddy with the kid. At 13 and feeling his nuts getting heavy, a dude hanging out in the woods, needs to be around other dudes, so that they can talk and act like dudes - curse when the big one gets off the hook, get all hyped b/c Johnny snuck out a nekkit book, mix it up with Mike b/c he said something about his mother, actually having another man on his azz for moving too slow, etc.

Now provided that you can’t come up with this male relative, then by all means, boot up and roll out. Never trust your kid to these all-male camping trips, boarding schools, boot camps, etc.

By MELO

October 28, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

MLL u are very tender…maybe i can squiz ur butt a lil and make u feel a lil better..smile:)

By Blanca

October 28, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

Roxie TBH, I don’t think you were displaying “strength” neccissarly…I mean, you just wanted to know what was up with the wait. I don’t really think it takes “strength” to get up and ask the hostess what the hold up is. I’m with you. I like to think my strength comes from handling life’s tough situations with grace, not from simply inquiring about silly things such as restaurant waits.

By mytwocents

October 28, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

C tha 1 That’s interesting cuz I am known to lean towards agreeing w/ the guys on stuff like the sitchy in Crash. And like in Love Jones… unlike most of my girls, I blamed Nia Long for the rift. Maybe there are just a few merits to havin a big brother. Guess I’ll call him up and tell him I appreciate him so he can say “It’s about time;” then all will be right with the world.

By Beautiful

October 28, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

mytwo my hrrr is one length all the way around. i can’t cut it! lol. it’s my strength. besides, it gets men going. wink.

slim good to hear that. it takes a lot of patience though. just hang in there. sometimes i get tired and grab just one class instead of three. good luck.

poppa one morn i woke up and all of this was hilarious to me. somehow i turned garbage into something comical. and i really believe that if this blog was intended for the right purpose, one comment, it would be a much better place to visit.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

And like in Love Jones… unlike most of my girls, I blamed Nia Long for the rift.

mytwocents - OMG. I’m so with you on this. Nia Long p** me off with that, especially after taking advice from her dumbazz girlfriend!

Another one of my rants. LOL

By NoStress

October 28, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

Blanca - “strong” is the operative word here and we must be careful in defining acts of strength because more often than not what are “seen” as acts of strength are really masked weaknesses publicly paraded. Strong in regards to a person’s character is a conviction of one’s identity that is quietly resolved in one’s heart where to minimalize one’s self so that someone doesn’t become aware of their own insecurities when they are around you benefits no one - espescially not yourself.
In other words never compromise your identity for the sake of another. Yes, relationships do come with certain areas that requires compromise but who you are is never on the table! I’ll say this and then I’ll dip - don’t get it twisted with these dating rituals and what is expected and not expected because there are some people out there who know the rituals of dating and will meet your desired requirements on a date but dating ritual doesn’t make a person a mate it just means they were a good date. No more than a person you have history with makes them a friend it just makes you all story tellers.

holla

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

October 28, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

I have no time to baby a grown man. Stroke his ego, change his diaper…same thing! A man has to accept that he has a strong woman. Don’t gripe and complain when you get a woman that is totally dependent on you if you have a problem wiht a strong woman. I’m sorry if you have a need to be needed. Sounds like a personal problem to me. Now I may not be a parent, but to those who kave kids that are grown….I know you love caring fro them as babies and children..but weren’t you happy when they became able to take care of themselves? Now of course even when they are grown they will occasionally need you. Then you step in am handle that. As a man wouldn’t you sleep better knowing that if you got sick or unable to handle your usually tasks of life (Business, etc.)that the woman you are with can step in and handle it for you? After all if she is the one you trust. But then again there are some men who are so weak that they are intimidated by a woman who wants them..not needs them. Those are the ones that complain about a woman strength. I understand that there are some things that a man may just want to do for a woman. That’s cool. But I never expect a guy to do anything. I used to expcet him to be real but that is like finding a virgin in h0-house! So if I go out on a date, I do not expect him to pay. If he does..GREAT, cool points. Men in general have dropped the manhood ball where a woman could be secure and know that he woudl handle things. These strong women that men complain about…just know you created them. Women have had to adjust to the times…we have had to step up and take control because the men have fallen off. Now you want her to step back and play the subserviant citizen after that? COME ON! Get real. If a man has a problem with a strong woman..he is so not the one for me. I need a man who will up his game instead of asking me to fall back on mine! I like a challenge…make me want to come up to your level..not stop so can pass me.

Blanca I see nothign wrong with going to check on the table…you sat for 45 minutes and he did nothing. He had ample time to do it! He drug his feet and now you are wrong? RIGHT! LOL LOSER! If you are the strongest woman..atke it as a badge of honor!

Hey BronxChick…Manhattan Girl here! You know I feel ya! Meek is not chic…its weak!

Truth women are like dogs….I am more like a cat. Don’t let my appearance fool you to think I am weak…I will just wait until your asleep…lay on your chest so nice to make you think I am cuddling. Then when you are in a deep sleep I’d steal your air right from your body! LOL

C tha 1 That is not Zoe that is Thandie Newton in Crash! And theat cop was fondling her. You would not knwo who that feels because you are a man! Now I do agree she took it too far because that cop could have shot them both!

By Blue_Kolla

October 28, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

2 Piece What wears you out faster - a woman you consider too strong minded or one who’s too weak minded?

Now ain’t these two women really just one in the same - rock steady on a given position, but too weak to see the other side, all the while trying to throw your concentration by filibustering you to sleep by going off on tangents not even related to the original issue?

By Blanca

October 28, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

*SexyCool sounds like both bianca and steve were looking for a way out of the relationship…point blank end of discussion… Now that may be true…

By Beautiful

October 28, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

poppa and another thang! lol. see what you started. we complain on here all the time about bloggers not hookin up, blah blah blah. i found a new friend on this here blog and it was ruined by yours truly!!!

biitches!

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

Truth women are like dogs….I am more like a cat. Don’t let my appearance fool you to think I am weak…I will just wait until your asleep…lay on your chest so nice to make you think I am cuddling. Then when you are in a deep sleep I’d steal your air right from your body! LOL

LMAO @ Staceye! Does anyone else on here secretly wish that Truth and Staceye would hook up and report back? They could be a reality show. LOL

By Beautiful

October 28, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

yea, i’m a lil bitter bout that… so what!

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

i found a new friend on this here blog and it was ruined by yours truly!!!

Angie, you shot yourself in the foot with that one.

By Keep it real!

October 28, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

To Melo,

Great Sex will not keep a CEO in lala land forever! Lurker would have to step to the plate and knock that mind out the box!

To Slimone:

Best of luck with the job search!

By Kym

October 28, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

Blue I guess I should have not used the term WE and said HE is going to do overnight camp. WE comes in because I am spending my money to send him. Hence the we. So my bag.

The overnight summer camps are week-long or 2 week long camps. He is getting dropped off with a camera, some postcards, pre-paid phone card,few pair of drawers, t-shirts and shorts. See you in a week dude.

The Boys and Girls club is a week and since he goes there now for after-school I am thinking some of the kids he hangs with now will be going. But I also want him to get out and meet other kids from all over. The YMCA has a camp up in North GA and they get kids from all over the southeast and of course space camp draws kids from all over.

Now as for camping out in the woods.There is no baby-daddy my son’s father passed away.

My dad was in the army so he is not going. He said he slept enough on the ground during those days. His uncles take him fishing and when we(I like camping) go camping with the group he fishes and hikes with men folks and other male teenagers.

By mytwocents

October 28, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

Beautiful Short n sassy can rev em up too. But regardless, I meant some salon stylin just for you … not just to use as a tool to put ole dude in a trance! To each her own cuz lotta folk just like long hair.

No she ain’t either, Biker Boy. I think many of y’all expect her to be one in the same, tho. And are we always plottin a sneak attack??? But once again it comes down to perspective. I think a weaker one been sittin there, ready to follow whomever regardless of direction. She aint gonna ask no questions, just happy he gon’ let her come with. The stronger one been unapologetically makin her way thru as best she can and would welcome dude w/ machete in hand ready to blaze a trail to make their way easier. (See how I always get a jungle analogy in :=) And when I ask questions it’s cuz I wanna better understand how u arrived at ur conclusion, it’s not necessarily a challenge. If my viewpoint is different then paint a picture to help me understand the why, rather than tryna leave it as ‘just cuz I say so.’ You surprised me, tho. Didn’t suspect you’d entertain a weakling, even in theory.

By Roxie

October 28, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

Staceye AKA Black Mamba is the REAL Truth! Amen to her post!!

By RELL - Pee's Standing

October 28, 2008 1:25 PM | Link to this

@staceye..that was a mouth full……lol…all i read is when i fall i fall hard….can you catch me?!?!?

By MELO

October 28, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

Great Sex will not keep a CEO in lala land *forever,!* i agree altho i like ur admission that great sexx leads to being led,albeit temporarily if the man is lame. Lurker failed in putting his dyzznick stamp and in leading.Lame azz dude……

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

I personally prefer a strong woman. I am a black man in the military stationed in the Middle East right now. My divorce from my ex-wife was finalized months ago (after being separated for a year and a half). I was so happy because my ex was such a weak person. She was a woman that could not think for herself and I hated that. How is that going to help me in a relationship when she can’t breathe without someone else telling her too. It really became a problem when she started listening to other people about me that never even knew me, met me or seen me ever. The last straw for me was when her and her mother decided that they wanted to talk to another guy in the military that they knew (and i didn’t know) about my pay and benefits in the military even though i was already sending money there for her and my son for their living expenses as well as money so that she can pay her relatives for letting them stay with them (even though she wasn’t paying them to live with them before) and even helped her family out sometimes when they needed help (like buying her mom her diabetes medicine because her dad didn’t have work). Why he was stupid enough to answer them, i have no idea as the navy and army are two different branches and get paid differently. Also, he lived in Texas while i lived in California (which is a lot more expensive than Texas) at the time. She is lazy and refuses to work. All she does is lay around the house all day and rely on the support i send to my son for her own personal needs. Then her mom is going to tell me that I need to do my obligations as a husband and a father?!! HA! She should have been talking to her own husband about that since i was the one buying her medicine and not him. NOBODY else was providing for her and my son. The court didn’t order me to pay any support because they have no jurisdiction since she and my son are in the Philippines but i send support for my son anyway. I want to get custody of him because i do not want him to grow up and learn those traits from his mother. I want my son to know what hard work and earning things for your own is.

Now my current girlfriend (another filipina) is a strong woman and i have nothing but respect and love for her and I even tell her that. She had something very bad to happen to her when she was in high school and i told her that for her to go keep going and not give up on life after that happened to her, i really admired her for that. She is a woman that really loves me and wants to help me. She loves to work and my mom really loves her because she is the complete opposite of my ex-wife. I have no problem with my woman telling me what is on her mind. I would rather it be that way because i feel that communication is the best part of a relationship and I let her know that i care how she feels. Also, i am confident enough in myself to not feel like i have to front on her and be “dominant” to her. We are PARTNERS and both know that the only way our relationship will stay strong and good is if we work TOGETHER and be there for each other. We are getting ready to have twin daughters soon and I am just very excited about it!!! I can’t wait to see them. And ready to be with them for good after i finish my assignment over here. DAMN, MARCH 2010 HURRY UP!!!

By RELL - Pee's Standing

October 28, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

thought for the day

What women say they want is not really what they want, because WHAT THEY WANT IS FOR A MAN TO GIVE THEM WHAT THEY WANT WITHOUT HAVING TO TELL THEM.

By Me

October 28, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

There is something to be said about a quite strength. Being opinionated is fine, being assertive is fine, but if you have to show both to project strength, then it is an act, a decoy or just a call for attention. He meant Pushy, not strong. Just because you can, doesn’t always mean you should.

By Chink - QuietStorm

October 28, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

Beautiful

i found a new friend on this here blog and it was ruined by yours truly Doesn’t sound like they were much of a friend to begin with! Let that crap go…just some friendly advice.

By MLL

October 28, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

Dan speak for youself, I’m a human being not an animal. God created man and animals. He made a clear distinction between the two.

melo come here, closer, feel that smack

By The Truth

October 28, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

Roxie do I know you? Is there something you’d like to say?

Staceye I say lets do it. We’ll live togather and you can enjoy the bliss that is The Truth. I’m telling you right now I’m not putting up with lip and you will be cooking 4 nights a week. Also, daily wear is a teddy and cortchless undies. Lets do this woman. LOL

Slim hopw all is working out over there.

Strength as its preached here is not a skill needed in a relationship. And for those that think they’re strong when the shyt hits the fan most would be out like yesterday anyway. Your past to a large degree dictates your future and if one had to bet I’d go with your continued mobil dating tendencies. Your bouncing now because your programmed to bounce, which is ok. Don’t think you’ll throw a switch and become the domestic goddess and wify in an instant. The women that got wifed up early in life did so because they had skills that were needed in that arena. Its amazing for a chick tothink that in order to get married she needs to date alot of men. No, she needs to date teh right man. Wake up blogsville, you’re wasting your product on numskulls.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

Doesn’t sound like they were much of a friend to begin with! Let that crap go…just some friendly advice

Chink, it’s easier to for folks like her to blame others rather than taking any personal responsibility for their lives and poor decisions.

sigh

By RELL - Pee's Standing

October 28, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

@jadiern….Then her mom is going to tell me that I need to do my obligations as a husband and a father?!!…nuff said

KEEP YOUR HEAD UP DAWG….JUST COUNTDOWN TO YOUR WAKUP AND LEAVE..YOU SHORT ALREADY…FEEL ME…FALL OUT!!!

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

The women that got wifed up early in life did so because they had skills that were needed in that arena.

Truth, Like what, getting pregnant beforehand? :-P

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 1:49 PM | Link to this

Dayum Slim man, for real gurl,…I hope everything turns out okay with that situation. Actually on both, but the other more than the first.

I’m sure you know what i mean.

Blog when you can gurl, i miss your crazy personality on here! I have to laugh at Melo’s warped thinkin’ now!

ForReal/Demi are constantly called upon for Slave Row 586.

By MELO

October 28, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

we complain on here all the time about bloggers not hookin up, blaHblah blah Hah????

i found a new friend on this here blog and it was ruined by yours truly!!! shame….its dry over there in caaali…

By Chink - QuietStorm

October 28, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

Truth I agree thats why I am not dating alot of people and making sure he the right one first…

ARED Hey we probably all been there…but thats how we learn!

Ya’ll have a good one

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

RELL, thanks for the words. i’m just taking it one day at a time over here and serving my country the best i can. But i stop letting her upset me. She tries to start arguments with me to make me mad and i think she is mad when I don’t give her the response she is looking for. She obviously can’t move on (almost two years and still have to try to mess with me instead of moving on herself). I have already moved on and about to start a new family and i am happy with my new soon-to-be wife and daughters and hopefully i can get it to where my son can join us too. I need to get my little man.

By Blow Me.....a.k.a. I like my popcorn wit HOT SAUCE

October 28, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

MEN

Why is being INDEPENDENT a bad thing? What is the problem with women trying and getting their own things in life?

Please Help me understand..because this losing me…I am at lost.

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

Blue or QC Have you noticed more homeless people intown?

PoppaG there is a 4-H Club in Eatonton Georgia. Went passed the Club this past w/e, and the beautiful Lake Oconee. The deer that were prancing along the edge of the Lake last Saturday was so peaceful to watch.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

RELL, thanks for the words. i’m just taking it one day at a time over here and serving my country the best i can. But i stop letting her upset me. She tries to start arguments with me to make me mad and i think she is mad when I don’t give her the response she is looking for. She obviously can’t move on (almost two years and still have to try to mess with me instead of moving on herself). I have already moved on and about to start a new family and i am happy with my new soon-to-be wife and daughters and hopefully i can get it to where my son can join us too. I need to get my little man.

By MELO

October 28, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

melo come here, closer, feel that smack i like the softness of ur butt and the sight of the stretchmarks……

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

@Jadrien

Let her ride…hell for her ain’t but a few phone digits away…you be the man, the person and the human being that you are…know your righteousness and your rightness…let her and her peeps have that shyte…it was theirs even before you came into the pix…and it will be theirs until they die…unless they choose to change…all that was in it for you was a valuable life lesson…now you really know you are the MAN you chose yourself to be.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 2:07 PM | Link to this

Blow me, a woman being independent is not a bad thing at all. My woman is independent but at the same time lets me be there for her when she does need me too. But she likes to work for her own money and earn things on her own and that is what i love so much about her. It is also good because i know that i can trust her to take care of business when things need to be done.

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 2:08 PM | Link to this

If I remember correctly, 4-H camp for 13/14 year olds is at Jekyll Island, not Eatonton after my 5th and 6th grades. I went there in my pre-teenage years.

PoppaG You’re like 150 years old. Stop thinkin’ all these places from your kid memories are just like you left them.

By Blue_Kolla

October 28, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

$.02 rather than tryna leave it as ‘just cuz I say so.’ You surprised me, tho. Didn’t suspect you’d entertain a weakling, even in theory.

The relationship between the lead and leader is a symbiotic one, with mutual trust being the foundation. That’s why. Has nothing to do with being weak. You can never lead unless you know how to follow that. Take a leadership course and you’ll find that out.

And I’ll tell you this from a man’s point of view: being strong in the mouth and strong in the head ain’t the same thing as being strong in selflessness, love for family, and one of unquestioned loyalty, which btw, is what men think when they think about a woman being strong.

The former is not strong, but a hard head and future problem. When I see that, I don’t hesitate to get on down the line.

By SlimOne

October 28, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

Cee Yeah I’m hoping that fact that i have no prior record or anything that it all gets thrown out and record expunged…but i’m out here in Good Ole Boyz town here in Conyers! Oh and I just called and buddy is still wearing the orange jumpsuit.

Truth I’m still hanging on. I haven’t slit my wrists just yet. I’ve been through many things before and am still here. I’m just searching for a bit of ‘normalcy’ (thanks for the verbage Dan) in the wake of hurdles i’m facing now.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl, you are totally right. Thing is i let rode out from the BS almost two years ago, but i still have to deal with her because of my son. But i did make it clear to her that she is not to talk to me at all UNLESS it is something to do with my son. When she starts trying to talk about other things, i just ignore it and be done with the conversation. I don’t have time to get into immature arguments and namecalling with people. I’m a grown man, that’s high school stuff. But, i will let her stay on that level by herself, the only thing i can do is pray for her that she gain some maturity and move on with her own life for herself.

By RELL - Pee's Standing

October 28, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

@jadrien…yea what she said….FLUCK GARDEN TOOLS DAILY…feel me..EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE PARENTS…HAVE EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE CHILDREN…you like me had the pleasure of hooking your wagon to one…..just remember its you not them…move on homie…..and stop talking to that chick…get you some legal rep..and go get your son…FLUCK GARDEN TOOLS DAILY!!!!!

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

Truth, can you tell me what “skills” Jadrien’s ex wife had to get wifed up in his 1:28? LOL

(I know it’s long as heck too)

By Blue_Kolla

October 28, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

Cee Have you noticed more homeless people intown?

Yes, notably more women and small kids.

By az

October 28, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Why is being INDEPENDENT a bad thing? What is the problem with women trying and getting their own things in life?

Nothing wrong with being capable on your own… but, from what I’ve experienced most of the women that say they’re the most independent have a network of guy and girl friends that they call on. Yeah, they may be independent of “a man” as they like to say but they have just transferred that dependence to their network of guy friends.

By BeBe KID

October 28, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Take heed women. Having a sassy mouth, a bad attititude, putting your hand on your hip and jerking your neck fom side to side does not make you STRONG! It makes you a lonely b**ch on cold nights like tonight. A lady knows WHEN to be assertive. Many of you are so STRONG you can’t stand yourself!

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

HEHEHEHEH. Sorry about the long post AmazonRed. Naw, she just caught me at a bad time when i was going through some other sh-t that blinded me to the way she really was. Just a dumb young mistake that i had to learn a lesson the hard way from.

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

@Jadrien

Uh-huh…it is not worth damning your soul’s integrity as a human being or a father for no positive gain…the higher road, although often more stressful and baneful, in the end is the best road to take…it may be lonely, there may be anger and frustration…but at least it leads to a higher place than the one we may be in….peace…and thank you for so valiantly serving our country in a time when we need brave, courageous and honorable ppl to do so…that is a higher road than I could have taken…and for that I am grateful that you are here to be who you are.

By BeBe KID

October 28, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

Take heed women. Having a sassy mouth, a bad attititude, putting your hand on your hip and jerking your neck fom side to side does not make you STRONG! It makes you a lonely b**ch on cold nights like tonight. A lady knows WHEN to be assertive. Many of you are so STRONG you can’t stand yourself!

By Jack

October 28, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

I think that in today’s world women are indeed more independent!! I recall dating a woman who was very independent and felt like she had to outdo the men!! Often she did too!! I think the real issue here is what image you project? As a man I enjoy a somewhat independent woman, but at the same time a woman who knows how to strike that special balance. Know when to be assertive and also to be a classy lady with a pleasant personality that does not chase men away!!!

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

Slim - An blog buddy of yours has your addy and i will get it. I’ll try and hit you up, if only for a bootleg, informal, eranest, carryon like granny’s prayer!

There is so much going on! We should be caught interceding for each other’s oppresion. Like someone said: Are you your brother’s keeper?

By Keep it real!

October 28, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

To Jadrien:

GET YOUR SON! BE safe my brother!

Women order your own food, you know how you want it prepared and how you like it! Why do I have to remember how you want your food!

What does ordering your food have to do with being a gentlemen or a strong man?

When you have your children at the restaurant you want them to tell the waiter what they want to order to build their self-esteem and independence!

Why do you want us men to order your food? We open doors for you, rub your body down when it sore,lcook dinner for you, fix your broken spirit, let you know everything is going to be alright and put a huge smile on your face by loving you with all we have!

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

Hey Jadarien, welcome. I hope you come back and blog with us. I only asked that question of Truth due to his comment at 1:43 regarding having “skills” to get wifed up early.

I’m 30 and single so I like to know stuff like that since I’m apparently past my marrying prime!

Be safe over there. :-)

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

Blue Yes, notably more women and small kids.

Making note. So sad…

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

@Cemeeli Keeper, warrior and friend…Hudson mess got me all fugged up…done cried a dry river…intercession on behalf of all pain, suffering, ill-doings and other negative ishes…praying for a more positive peace and healing…strength to be and to care…compassion and empathy…I know that we as a ppl are better than this that is going on…woman buying the house at the auction and giving it back to the owner should be the norm, not the anorm.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl, it really is a pleasure to serve my country. And you’re right, it has been very frustrating and stressful at times, but i have to do what i need to for my family. I can’t let her mess up the blessing that God is giving me now. He has blessed me with a good woman that understand me now and twin daughters that are due to be born either the end of november or beginning of december so i am very thankful and blessed for that.

By Lindy

October 28, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

Recently, I dated an ATTY that wanted a “independent and strong” woman. Yet he wanted to tell me what to say, when to say it, what to think and what to wear. Guys, if this is you, you are “stupid”!! Today’s women are not going to be your puppet, housekeeper, cook and only there when you want them. We want a 2 way street…get over yourselves.

By Kym

October 28, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

I thought were were talking strong and not independant.Strong I would think is personality trait.(I have that)While independant is more like self-reliant.(Which anyone free and over 21 should be). Did we shift to the Miss Independant talk?

By Lindy

October 28, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

Recently, I dated an ATTY that wanted a “independent and strong” woman. Yet he wanted to tell me what to say, when to say it, what to think and what to wear. Guys, if this is you, you are “stupid”!! Today’s women are not going to be your puppet, housekeeper, cook and only there when you want them. We want a 2 way street…get over yourselves.

By Lindy

October 28, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

Recently, I dated an ATTY that wanted a “independent and strong” woman. Yet he wanted to tell me what to say, when to say it, what to think and what to wear. Guys, if this is you, you are “stupid”!! Today’s women are not going to be your puppet, housekeeper, cook and only there when you want them. We want a 2 way street…get over yourselves.

By Becky

October 28, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

I would view this guy’s comments as a huge red flag. Any man in today’s world who finds it noteworthy because a woman does perfectly normal things like ordering her own dinner is a man to stay away from unless you want the guy to run your entire life. Sounds like he’s living in the past to me.

By MLL

October 28, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

melo one word geoduck - when you can compete then you just might get your props LOL

By Dan

October 28, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

@Blow

A woman being independent has become like Katt stated “bangin on breakfast. You so hard that you banging on breakfast [n-word]?”

I make that correlation because it’s not your independence that bothers me (general statement), I’m actually happy to see it. What bothers me is that in practice, you can’t let the little stuff go. (See: opening doors, pulling the chair our, the taking of the coat, etc.)

Being independent has become a default defensive position, as opposed to a temporary condition. That is, chicks is hollin’ “independent woman!” replete with neck nodding and eye-rolling as a matter of pride (kinda like dudes wear going to jail, being arrested, or general thuggery as a badge of honor).

For those of us that remember when an independent woman was a single mother caring for her kids alone, or a not yet married woman that was successful, the turn of this condition into a matter of pride has been disappointing to say the least.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

HEHEHE. Naw AmazonRed, i thought it was really funny. I hope to be back to blog with y’all also. This is actually my first time blogging and I can honestly see why people love it. I mean i read blogs on the sports page all the time, but i never wanted to blog on there because people get caught up in posting racist and ignorant comments all the time. But this blog is great and the people on here are really cool. I like this.

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

@Jadrien

Uh-huh again…life is sometimes a strange mixutre of cause and effect…each being the beginning and end of each other…so the only way we are to know which is which then, is by knowing where we are in the process of it happening…positive and negative interaction, reaction and transaction…this will always be the formula by which life rolls.

By SlimOne

October 28, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

Cee I have been blessed with folks sending prayers my way and stepping in to help as best they can…there is some comfort in that being that i’m now at a point where I don’t trust nair body..(yeah i said nair..lol)

By Dan

October 28, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

@Jadrien

You say that now….

Wait til your first blog fight..

Then the real colors will show.

By The Truth

October 28, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

Ared when you refer to getting wifed up its for the duration. Alot can get a ring for a short period of time. You can do that. I’m talking about having the skills to go the distance, which is what you want? Right? Forthat either you’re wired for it or not. Most aren’t. The other option is to watch those that are and model their behavior. Just like you look sideways at a married chick thats always out clubbing a dude looks sideways at a chick talking about wanting to be someones wife but always having her azz in the streets.

So Ared the cat thats looking for a woman with wify skillsets ain’t looking in the club. He’d do much better at the grocery store or a cooking class or Barnes and Nobles. Thats ok though, me and Staceye have just agreed to a wonderfull arrangement so I’m off the market. Y’all can do what you like. LMAO

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

intercession on behalf of all pain, suffering, ill-doings and other negative ishes…praying for a more positive peace and healing…strength to be and to care…compassion and empathy…

M’karyl In Jesus name, Amen.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

But this blog is great and the people on here are really cool. I like this.

Jadarien, those are famous last words on here buddy! LOL

But you are right in comparision to the other blogs on here. The racist rants are really irratating. This blog is a breath of fresh air in comparision.

By Blue_Kolla

October 28, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

Cee Have you noticed more homeless people intown?

Yes, notably more women and small kids.

Jadrien Then her mom is going to tell me that I need to do my obligations as a husband and a father?!! HA! She should have been talking to her own husband about that since i was the one buying her medicine and not him.

See…? I can tell that you’re a nice guy. When moms came at’chu with that rhetoric you should’ve said with straight face and icy tone ‘to get da fugg outta your face with that BS’, not necessarily in those words though. Then she’d know that you weren’t the one to be fugged with. You’re probably in your mid to late 20’s as well. Only after you stiffen that back, will they respect your position as man. They aren’t convinced yet, trust me.

Research, research, research. Make contacts at Father’s Rights groups through the internet and mail. Learn the law of the land, stack some chips, and come home ready to do battle. Won’t even tell you it’ll be easy, probably more like mental hayo, because you’ve got moms behind the scenes pulling strings. Keep your chin up, and watch for the hook.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

Yeah M’Karyl, they say that everything happens for a reason. It’s just a lesson that i had to go through I guess but something that made me stronger and a little wiser. But the only reason that i don’t regret it is because of my son. Just wish i got to spend more time with him, but I will be able to one day.

By Gerald

October 28, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

A woman complaining to a waiter does not suggest “strength”. And yes…there are ways for a strong woman to appear subtle. It’s an art…an art that most modern day women have long forgotten!

By MELO

October 28, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

when you can compete then you just might get your props LOL i like that metamorphosis in ur attitude MLL.I am a hard worker and do like a challenge from time to time,esp if coming from a deserving woman.As long as u open to 2 way communication and u free ur mind of preconceived negative melo attitudes,we can move mountains.My heart is really tender too…..

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

@Dan

Prep him up…lol

@SlimOne*

I see you standing so tall and high above all things that are beneath the righteousness of your being…and that something within in you is beginning to flame and open up anew…ride on the wings of Eagles and soar with the peace of Doves…raise your candle high.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

Truth, you know I was just messing with you hoping to poke holes in your theory.

Besides, I can’t believe Staceye, came out and scooped me for you. That heffa will pay. ;-)

By Teresa

October 28, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Anybody having a party next Tuesday for the OBAMA win

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

@ARed

You funny…work’em chirl…lol.

@Jadrien

Coming to accept the Principles of Truth (The Kybalion)…is the only reasoning that made (and continues to make sense) out of the life I have lived…for in it there is no rhyme or reason for secular justification.

@Cemeeli

Where 2 or 3 are gathered…so shall I be in the midst…peace…and give thanks.

By MELO

October 28, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Besides, I can’t believe Staceye, came out and scooped me for you. That heffa will pay. ;-)

Ared plz stop! we dont wanna start another east coast-west coast battle.Ever since Biggie and Tupac went down,it has been real peaceful.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Hehehehe Dan, even if it happens with all the fights i got into with my ex-wife last year and earlier this year, i had perfect training in ignoring people that try to work my nerves. NOBODY has EVER worked my nerves like that woman. hehehehe.

AmazonRed, i said that about the racist messages because i was reading the Falcons blog before i came on here and people on there still want to talk about Mike Vick all the time and try to compare every black person to him. All the talk about black quarterbacks and white quarterbacks is old and useless talk. At the end of the day, a football player is a football player. Don’t know what race has to do with how good or how much success u have in something, but some people seem to think so. But, in this blog, everyone pretty much stays on subject.

And Blue_Kolla, you are right. I just turned 25 this year. But i did tell her mom seriously after that not to say anything at all to me anymore since she wanted to be so ungrateful when i was doing something nice for her out of the kindness of my heart. I never asked her for any payback or nothing like that, but it’s cool. I don’t sweat it anymore with her. What’s done is done. I’m enjoying my life now and focusing on what i need to do.

By SlimOne

October 28, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

M’karyl That was very nice and poetic…i’ll be sure to keep that to refer to every now and then when I feel my arms getting too tired to carry the weight of the world. God knows my heart and so do my friends and family.

Slim now rummaging thru fridge for some vittles

By m

October 28, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

my husband and i had “issues” when we first started dating. i have almost always held a job that would be considered a male-type job (landscaping, foreman, etc) on a predominantly male crew and atmosphere. i even worked with him for a long time under the same circumstances.

when we went from friends to lovers and began seriously dating, it was almost expected of me to turn off my normal self and be this girl-type, which just really isn’t “me”. i had issues with him paying for me, holding doors open for me, normal gentlemanly things were stepping on my ego. i considered myself a very independent and strong woman/person, with my own thoughts and opinions and i voiced them often.

after some time (we’ve been together for 8 years), i eased into the relationship. it’s been a compromise…i have given a little more to the girly side and he has sacrificed his ego some to counter mine. it was a long struggle but now it’s a nice balance.

for what it’s worth though, i still get irritated when he insists he walk between me and a street on a sidewalk, or puts himself between me and cars in a parking lot. i don’t feel like he’s being gentlemanly, i feel like i’m his daughter. but i tell him so too! ;)

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

*@SlimOne

Someone once told me that the voices of others coming back at us are really the voices from within us hidden by the current overcast of cloudiness standing in our midst…peace

By MELO

October 28, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

Anybody having a party next Tuesday for the OBAMA win now thats a good creative thoght Teresa…..i will be there,will take wednesday off.Ladies,lets do this..maybe ared,mytwo,cee,mll or sexxyl can host.Its going dwn!!…

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

plz stop! we dont wanna start another east coast-west coast battle

melo, please, it makes some of y’alls day.

But Staceye knows I love her. Besides, I supposedly have super powers that allow me to break up fatal attractions, I maean, friendships on here. So if I wanted him, I could get him! LMAO.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl, that was nice. I did accept the truth that i made mistakes also, but i still can’t regret making them, i just have to learn from them and be better next time.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

But, in this blog, everyone pretty much stays on subject.

Ah, it must be nice to be a newbie! LOL

Jadarien, like I said, I read the sports blogs. They make us look like Girl Scouts. LOL.

You’ll be fine. Nice to have another male blogger!

By Kym

October 28, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Slim Good luck in your job search and when you feel down..start counting your blessings..it helps

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

melo, ever the social butterfly, I’ve been invited to 3 election night parties already, so I’m not hosting NATHAN!

Radio talk show host Warren Ballentine is hosting his part at the Pearl Bistro and Bar on that night as well. If things go all night as I suspect, I might just head over there as it’s in my hood.

By The Truth

October 28, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

Teresa don’t buy your party hats to soon. There’s still alot of trickery and deceit to be played out. This thing is just starting.

Ared sorry but after dealing with the devastation of knowing you had another man I had to move on. Now its me and Staceye baby. Hold on, “woman bring me my drink, and this time no poison”. Ok, now what we were talking about? Yeah, Staceyes happier than ever. LOL

Btw, that wasn’t an attempt on Obama yesterday. That was 2 idiots that are now heading to to the big house to make love with their cellmates. Idiots. The real threat will be effective.

By MELO

October 28, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

ared,u missed that!im putting u on the east coast,so figure who is on west..

By Jerry

October 28, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

any man who cant handle it when a woman asserts herself probably isnt very sure of himself and a strong woman sure find her self a man who isnt put off by that .she deserves a strong man and shouldnt settle for any thing else.She would wind up not respecting him soon enough any way and that a fast track to break up city

By Hot Mamma

October 28, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

It’s PLUCKIN’ Amazing to me!!! All of you’ll dyfunctional AZZES become DR. PHIL all of sudden. LMAO

Disclaimer: exclude RELL, PG, M”karyl and TROUFF from the list.

By Keep it real!

October 28, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Wow Ared is 30, man she is overthehill! LOL

Ladies you do not have to change your behavior in order to please a man!

Just be yourself, if you are real woman you will know how to respond to a man!

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Lay down lay down lay it all down Let your white birds smile At the ones who stand and frown Lay down lay down lay it all down Let your white birds smile At the ones who stand and frown…

We were so close there was no room We bled inside each other’s wounds We all had caught the same disease And we all sang the songs of peace…

So raise candles high ‘cause if you don’t We could stay black against the night Oh raise them higher again And if you do we could stay dry against the rain.

By Dan

October 28, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

For my election night party…

Dripping Springs Vodka, a couple of friends in the Big hotel room.

And…

After the win, tears and more Drinking, and singing of the Negroe Spiritual!

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed, yeah i have been enjoying myself on here tonight. I hope to still have enough time to come back and blog often after i start my classes again, but I think i won’t have a problem with it. How often are y’all on here?

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Lol @ nair.

Slim I feel ya’, you get tied of giving people the benifit of the doubt. And someone that you never thought woulda been the snake in your garden, had the worse venom! I know what your saying.

Good to see you have family and friends to help you out.

But GOD…..

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

@HotMamma

LMAO…thank you!!!!

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

u missed that!im putting u on the east coast,so figure who is on west..

LMAO. I got ya melo.

Truth, you think you can beat Staceye and her man, Mr. Rabbit with 6 settings? LOL

No worries, tho. You’ll be back. LOL

By Teresa

October 28, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

Anybody having a party next Tuesday for the OBAMA win

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

Give a little bit Give a little bit of your love to me Give a little bit I’ll give a little bit of my love to you There’s so much that we need to share So send a smile and show you care

I’ll give a little bit I’ll give a little bit of my life for you So give a little bit Give a little bit of your time to me See the man with the lonely eyes Take his hand, you’ll be surprised

Give a little bit Give a little bit of your love to me I’ll give a little bit of my life for you Now’s the time that we need to share So find yourself, we’re on our way back home

Going home Don’t you need to feel at home? Oh yeah, we gotta sing

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

How often are y’all on here

Jadarien, I live here. LOL

But the blog is open from 8 am to 5 pm eastern time. They don’t trust us to behave outside of normal working hours so they lock the blog up.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

LOL. The Truth is funny. Man i wish i could go to an election party. It’s been a while since i been able to drink.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

October 28, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

Ared LOL girl you made me laugh on that one! me and Truth…under one roof! You ever seen War of the Roses….we woudl make part 2 and make part one seem like a kid on a carousel! LOL

*Thank you Roxie!!!

Rell You wouldn’t even hit the ground love!

Truth You would really trust me with your food? LOL Trust me you would not have to put up with my lip…you’d be unconscience after I hot you with the new pot set you’d buy me to cook 4 days a week with. Hey…duck….one had hot grits in it! LOL

Bebe Kid You act like being alone is a bad thing! LOL It’s cold at night..but since I kept a roof over my head and am power on…I can turn on the heat baby! LOL No problem! The best part is..I can watch my shows in peace…why…because I am alone…not lonely!

Melo East Coast-West Coast! LOL Too funny! That’s my homie from the westside!

Jadrien But, in this blog, everyone pretty much stays on subject. You just caught us a good topic day. I have seen the blog change topics with the first post! Like Ice Cube said…”Today was a good day”! LOL Check back tomorrow! bring popcorn and watch a blog fight break out! LOL Oh and duck!

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

LOL AmazonRed. Well, here where i’m at right now is already 10:34 pm so I guess i will be on here for a few before they shut the blog down for the day.

By OJ

October 28, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

I have traveled a bit around the world, American men are the weakest set of people i’ve seen. Its just mind boggling. Too much pride and arrogance and they tend to mistake that for strength. i have always hated this stupid idea of “independent, strong women” what in the world does that mean? If you are so damned independent and strong, then go f*** yourself and stop complaining about not having a man. Truth is men are suppose to provide, women are to “help” not be the bread winners of the house. But you ladies cut men too much slack by putting up with all these lazy, good for nothing men that think they ought to be worshiped everyday. Stop it ladies, there are good responsible men out there who doesn’t think the world is about them. Set your standards and stick to them. I personally finds it intriguing for a woman to be responsible not “strong”, complementing not “independent” and have standards and not just settle for anything that comes along.

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

@Jadrien

This blog is like church…some of us are here everyday…all day…some pop in and out…some rap is cool…some fights break out…no, let me say the ppl articulate their differences of opinion quite vehemently (y’all knows who you is…even being me…lmao)…but overall, we are quite an eclectic mix of ppl…most of the other ajc blogs get too race bound…but that is THE ATL…at least from my 24 years there (and,yes I will return)…overall, the MIA is quite a lovely dysfunctional mix of fam…lol

By Scott

October 28, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

My $.02. Most strong women I have dated do not respect boundaries, and are basically like bulls in a china shop. While its great for everybody to have an opinion, that isnt the same thing as voicing your opinion. Many smart women have tact, they know when to argue, and when not to. To choose their battles. Many “strong” women I have dated did not have tack. They like to argue, even if it was a moot point. I’ll take smart over strong any day, and be much happier from it.

By abc

October 28, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Now really, if you’re waiting for a table in a restaurant, what do you think an inquiry or complaint is going to get you? It’s kind of silly, really. Would you like to vent your impatience or frustration? To simply ask what the delay is will get you nowhere, it’s not as if they forgot you were there.

If I felt compelled to ask about a scene like that, I’d ask them how much longer it would be, with consideration of going elsewhere if the answer is longer than I’d care to wait.

If I didn’t feel compelled to ask, but my female companion wished to act out about it, I’d consider her ‘strong’ in a negative way, i.e., ill-mannered.

One can be opinionated without being a boor. That’s something that’s more apparent to men, as the term ‘boor’ is more readily applied to men than to women, but the term applies equally, at least. I think women that consider themselves somehow stifled, or who receive pushback upon delivering their input, should consider the method of delivery rather than the content.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

LOL Staceye.. i will definitely try to be back on tomorrow. The topic did catch my eye, but now i’m even more curious, hehehehehe. Naw, it’s cool to see people’s sense of humor. You and The Truth are funny.

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Hey y’all we got some rank citrus juice…WTF!?!?!?!??!?…that OJ will not be hitting my vodka cocktail…lol

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

Heheehehe M’Karyl, it’s good to have that diversity though. How is the MIA anyway? I never been there and always wanted to visit there. I do miss the ATL though, but I love the experience that I have in my life from being in the military. I have got a chance to go to places that i never though i would ever get to go and places i have never even heard of. It is fun and interesting learning about different people, their country and their culture.

By Dan

October 28, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

@Jadrien

They ain’t playing (at least Staceye)

I’m telling you it’s some mean jokers on this jon

By The Truth

October 28, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

Ared you think you can beat Staceye and her man, Mr. Rabbit with 6 settings? LOL I can put her to sleep, wake her up and do it again. Plus I can hold her at night, and then send her to get me a refreshing beverage. Mr. Rabbit is no comp for me. LOL

Staceye yes I’d trust you with my food. I know those viles of liquid you like to put in my food and drinks is for flavor. I know you love me butcut down on the spices, my stomachs been hurting alot lately. LOL

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

Cee

PoppaG You’re like 150 years old. Stop thinkin’ all these places from your kid memories are just like you left them.

LOL. You’re right.

I forget that Ms. Jane Pittman and I were hanging out by the indian burial mound (the actual Rock Eagle is a burial mound).

We were talking about the good ole’ days when Apostle Paul was writing Revelations & the heathens in the city of Corinth.

Seriously, though, Rock Eagle will always have a special part in my heart. Not only did I get a break from my parents, it was the place where I first heard Eddie Murphy’s “Delirious”, and we laughed all night (literally) to “The Barbecue” from that concert. I don’t think that I slept the whole week. I had a headache on the ride home because of sleep deprivation

By Leggs

October 28, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

Hello everyone. 230 comments. I check in tomorrow. Voted today and it took me 1 hr 18 mins. C-ya!

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

You know what Dan? I think you’re right. Staceye might really poison him. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! The Truth is crazy though. I think it will be an interesting matchup. LOL!

By M'Karyl

October 28, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

@Jadrien

MIA is this blog…some ppl get way too serious about some ishes…some talk pure BS(Holla Blue Kolla…lol)…overall, it just folks expressing themselves…nothing can get under your skin…and then when the (insert CITYguy) ain’t here, race ain’t…mostly male/female gender benders,etc.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

Ah Truth, when you grow tired of trying to tame Staceye, Mama Red will be here, waiting for you with open arms.

P.S. We can still hook up when you are off walking the dogs. LOL

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

Actually it was John who wrote Revelations. Dang, I am tired.

AR

I never said that the blog wasn’t for opinions. Show me where I said that it wasn’t, and I will cheerfully concede.

I said that the opinions was to stroke the ego.

By Beautiful

October 28, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

hi chink! that was early summer. over it. :-)

melo we just can’t seem to get along. why? what did i do to you?

i hate you poppa!!! you ruined a great morning. lol. wink

see y’all in the a.m.

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

Beautiful

Have a good’un.

By MELO

October 28, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

i dont fight beautiful,im a luver,bedder if will.Did i mention u negatively anywhere??

By The Truth

October 28, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Ared* We can still hook up when you are off walking the dogs. I like that. LOL

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

I never said that the blog wasn’t for opinions. Show me where I said that it wasn’t, and I will cheerfully concede.

No, what you said is that somehow me posting MY opinions was somehow tryign to keep a “p**” match going, like my purpose is somehow different than someone elses.

And I told you were incorrect in that statement.

Cuz your exact words were “For what purpose other than to let the blog people know your opinion”

And I’m like “duh.” What other purpose is there? You said it like it’s not supposed to be like that. It’s certainly not to keep a “pizzing match going”

Basically, you got it wrong bruh. And you certainly didn’t help the situation by calling her out to prove your invalid point.

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

M’Karyl…Sorry LOL, when you said MIA, i thought you meant Miami, heheheheh. It’s cool though. It’s good to see people express themselves over different subjects and be able to have fun doing it.

LOL at AmazonRed, you so crazy, hhehehehehehe. So, i guess the dogs would be getting walked all night then. LOL.

And Blanca, i just wanted to tell you sometime before your blog shuts down for today that i hope everything goes well for you and you find the guy that can accept you for the WHOLE you. If he cannot, then that’s his issue to deal with, his loss. If they really care about you, they have to take the good with the bad, nobody is 100% good.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

i dont fight beautiful,im a luver,bedder if will.Did i mention u negatively anywhere??

melo, try your 1:51.

I had a good laugh tho. LOL

By mytwocents

October 28, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

BK Good follower ~> good leader… that’s what I already know and yes, the idea has been reinforced by courses I’ve taken. And it’s precisely why I’m always amazed at the disconnects between the hunters and gatherers who have gone about gathering vs. Whine, complain and become embittered. And still think guys don’t accept that many women perceive the same thing y’all do regarding strength of mind versus words.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

LOL at AmazonRed, you so crazy, hhehehehehehe. So, i guess the dogs would be getting walked all night then. LOL

Whoa there Jadrien! I’m AmazonRed, not InfinityRed. A sista needs her beauty sleep. LOL

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

AR

*For what purpose other than to let the blog people know your opinion? It just keeps pizzin’ match goin’. You respond, then she respond. *

I also included the other sentences after it as a follow up to the statment. I did not say that giving your opinion is not what this blog is for.

You ladies go at it just about every week, and nothing changes. That why I say it keeps the pizzing match going.

I’ll drop it there, though.

By MELO

October 28, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

oh,cmon babes beau.So de only way to make u happy is to shove dis in ur mouf…?

By Demigod33

October 28, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

Jadrien WELCOME TO THE MAD HOUSE….

Hello All

Blanca as much as you date…you should be able to pick out weak dudes lika pro.

I see most dudes on here don’t have that problem…unless we’re in the market for crazy puddy for a DAYUM good hump…and pray the Bish doesn’t causes too much trouble in the long run.

Ay be easy - you don’t want no trouble with me Just be easy - the drama ain’t nothin’ to me Ay be easy - before you have problems just breathe Ay be easy - you ain’t worth dyin’, believe me Just be easy - you don’t want yo mama to grieve Be easy - well mind yo bizness, don’t bother the G Be easy - swear you stuntin’ but you frontin’ to me Be easy - behind the scenes or behind yo ? Ay, be easy

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

PoppaG So you and Ms. Pittman sat and sup with Apostle Paul while he talked about the book of Corinth? Lol…Good to read your experience was a cool memory as a lil dude.

Tigress Fiji apples are in season!

By mqew

October 28, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Damn

Am I too late again…

Ummm, so should I even ask if we’re on the original topic?

Well, I will anyhoo. My mother really tried to “give” me something (advice) that she expressed that she could not, ever, follow. I know, contradiction at it’s best.

Stroke the ego

I’ve struggled with it as well. Not the simple, open the door, pay for everything ;-) etc… It goes deep. It’s hard to go along with somethin that you don’t believe in… but then again it’s up to him to back up if you don’t… but if he doesn’t then, I feel as if you don’t then you’ll have the same issue again, SOON!

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed LOL. Beauty sleep. That’s what the next morning is for. LOL.

By lurker

October 28, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

KIR Ladies you do not have to change your behavior in order to please a man! Just be yourself, if you are real woman you will know how to respond to a man!

Best comments today

By Michelle aka QC

October 28, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

THANKS FOOTS & MECCA My coworker Mr.Luster will be in touch with your references. Cee-me-me yes i’ve noticed several homeless people and my heart goes out to them; even coming through 5ive points at 7:20 am they’re all around i just say a prayer for them all. Have a warm evening all

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

Demigod33, thanks for the welcome. Everyone that i work with (and grew up with) tell me i belong in a mad house anyway. LOL.

By Demigod33

October 28, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

You’re gonna be a shining star, and fancy clothes, fancy car-ars. And then you’ll see, you’re gonna go far. Cause everyone knows, who you are-are. So live your life, ay ay ay. You steady chasing that paper. Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. Ain’t got no time for no haters Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. No telling where it’ll take you. Just live your life (Oh!), ay ay ay. Cause I’m a paper chaser. Just living my life (ay), my life (oh), my life (ay), my life (oh) Just living my life (ay), my life (oh), my life (ay), my life (oh)

So live your life.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

You ladies go at it just about every week, and nothing changes. That why I say it keeps the pizzing match going.

• sigh -

Me responding to something Angie said is NO DIFFERENT than me responding to anyone else on here every week. The only difference is the fact that my response will probably be disagreeable because we have different philosophy’s and approaches to life. There have been other bloggers who I’ve gone at it with from week to week while we are on different pages. It’s just a blog fact of life when two people disagree strongly on something.

I guarantee you if ANY blogger would have made some asinine comment like “it’s hard for me to make friends, maybe it’s because of my long hair” I would have responded. Now, the “tone” of the response may have been different, but doesn’t mean I would have let it go.

A pizzing match with someone would be us pizzing about the same damn topic from week to week.

In short, your assesment was off base. Period.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

October 28, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

Truth I got your drink alright…I will pull a Color Purple on you too! LOL

ARED Truth, you think you can beat Staceye and her man, Mr. Rabbit with 6 settings? Girl I almost choked on the apple I was eating! Good one! No match for Silver Bullet! LOL

OJ The truth is…there is a difference between what men are “supposed” to do and what they “really” do. Now I admit a lot of women allow these men to be trife. But strong woman will not deal with a weak man and he BS. She is content being alone if or until a man is strong enough and capable of being trusted to handle his business. Its not our fault men have fumbled the ball and we pick it up and continued the game!

Scott its not about liking to argue. But I will not bite my tongue if you offend me, disrespect me or just downright p1ss me off! I wnat a man to let me know if I upset him. Why hold it in?

Jadrien Just be aware..there is some bipolar-ness on here. (I try to remember to take my meds..but I forget sometimes) LOL So who is nice today may be b*tch on wheels tomorrow! LOL Come back and don’t bring your feelings! LOL Somebody will insult you could be me…who’s to say). LOL But don’t take it personal.

Truth Oh too much arsenic…I mean Adobo? Ok love…LOL

Dan I am not mean…on a Tuesday…when the wind blows 7 degrees west! LOL

By i'm swiss

October 28, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

Hey, Demi — do you play ALTA?

By Observant

October 28, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

I have noticed that AmazonRed really seems enthralled with The Truth although they play it off as jokes and shooting the shyt. It would not surprise me if there was some hooking up going on the sidelines.

AmazonRed you riff on everybody but TheTruth just shuts your shyt down and, like his earlier example, like a dog, you get on all fours. Tongue wagging and everything. It’s hilarious actually. I’m sure I’m not the only one who notices how the fire goes out of that @zz when The Truth has something to say. Interesting dynamic.

By mqew

October 28, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

PLEASE tell me that the women you were associated with or met did not think you were intimidating because you have long hair!

BEAUTIFUL… did you say that?

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

LOL Naw Staceye, i wouldn’t take it personal. I get bi-polar myself also. It’s a good day for me today…. or maybe it’s the drugs. LOL!!

By mqew

October 28, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Oh and hey ev1.

Ceemeemee, Staceye, Ared, Poppa, Truth, Blue, Kym…

Ok I said ev1 right? I know yall were looking forward to my greeting ;-)

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Cee Have you noticed more homeless people intown?

Yeah, I bought three happy meals for a woman and her kids Friday. McDonald on Marietta Street by Five points.

I don’t give money, but I have bought food on ocassion.

By Bishop Long (not Demi)

October 28, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Everyone that i work with (and grew up with) tell me i belong in a mad house anyway. LOL.

@Jadrien

Shhhhhhhhh…WATCH THIS!!

Staceye I am a mood for a little “S&M”, don’t bother with your pill tomorrow nite and meet me at Club Venus.

Staceye is now beating the B.Jesus into Bishop Long (not Demi)

By Bishop Long (not Demi)

October 28, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss which song would you like?

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed you riff on everybody but TheTruth just shuts your shyt down and, like his earlier example, like a dog, you get on all fours. Tongue wagging and everything. It’s hilarious actually. I’m sure I’m not the only one who notices how the fire goes out of that @zz when The Truth has something to say. Interesting dynamic.

Observant, you are right on. That man knows how to handle me. I love it.

And I’ve seen his picture and there is a hot man behind that screen. Bow chicka wow wooooowwww….

But I don’t need to troll for internet azz tho. So don’t even put that bullsh out there. I’ll let you know if that changes tho. :-)

By mqew

October 28, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

…on a Tuesday…when the wind blows 7 degrees west! LOL

LOVE IT. That’s why I come back!

By Kym

October 28, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

Why does the soap opera always start at the end of the damn day? Why can’t we get through one day with out Peyton Place?

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

October 28, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

Mqew You late as hell! You’re fired! LOL

Jadrien Oh…you are Bipolar Bobby?

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

LOL Bishop Long… another introduction into the Mad House huh? I don’t know, you might not know left from right after Staceye get through with you. LOL!!!

By Poppa Grande

October 28, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

AR

It is just easy to get a rise out of your blog personality. She knows it. That why I picked you two out.

It was her and Foots last week, so you aren’t the only one.

Heck, I got a rise out of you today.

That is where the ego stuff in the blog personality comes out. I imagine that in real life it isn’t that easy to get a response.

Have a good night.

By i'm swiss

October 28, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

@Demi — LOL… Nevermind, I guess. Was talking about the tennis league. Must have been another “Demi.”

By The Truth

October 28, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

Observant actually we communicate off the blog and I like her alot too. That may be what you pick up on. I may have to beat up her bf. LOL

*Mqew hi to you too.

By Observant

October 28, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

AmazonRedActually, I imagine he will inform us if/when that changes. Remember its his terms.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

Hello mqew!

Actually these were her words: i also wonder, but never ask, if it’s my hair that intimidates other females. it’s hard for me to make friends. i’m usually the one to make the first move because i know at that moment that i’m intimidating her somehow.

I’ll leave it to you to draw your own conclusions. LMAO. You can already imagine how I feel about somthing like that regardless of the person saying it. LOL

By Cemeeli

October 28, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

mqew - waving I gotcha gurl. don’t write me off.

Lol @ you coming in here all late, sis!

I don’t give money, but I have bought food on ocassion

PoppaG/Blue/QC I haven’t been downtown in weeks and at times my heart is so heavy thinking about the homeless, especially these upcomming cold nights/mornings! when i resided in Atlanta i befriended on man that would get winter coats/meals/cpl bucks here and there. and i’ve been thinking about Mr. James lately. wondering if he is alive and well

Hey Demi.

By BEAUTIFUL (not Demi)

October 28, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

said while hit a mean a$$ hair flip:

Don’t hate me because I am BEAUTIFUL!!!

You see my pinky, you see my thumb, see my fist you better RUN!!!!*

YOU BISHES!!!

LOL

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

October 28, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

Oh Jadrien You know me so well!** LOL Good night all!!!

By Jadrien

October 28, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

LOL Staceye… they usually describe me as either bi-polar, multiple personalities, or crazy as hell. LOL.

By Demi

October 28, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss my baad…its a metal band name as well.

By AmazonRed

October 28, 2008 5:05 PM | Link to this

AmazonRedActually, I imagine he will inform us if/when that changes. Remember its his terms.

Hey, that’s cool too.

But PS, I know what subtle is, and I wasn’t being it. Glad you recognized overt flirting!

PG, I like you, so I’ll leave it be. You’re still a little off base, but it is what it is. Good night.

By For Real

October 28, 2008 5:07 PM | Link to this

What up blog Fam!!!

2E’s!!!!!!! You back!!! We didn’t know what happened to you but here is a list that we came up with:

beautiful I can’t make friends either. I wonder if it’s because my zipper is always down?

Jadrien Welcome to the blog. I am the blog official picturetaker. So I will be scheduling some time with you to get a pics. Oh by the way do you like dolphins?

By Keep it real!

October 28, 2008 5:12 PM | Link to this

Do truth and Ared have something going on?

By glafollette6453

October 29, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

ok..