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Tuesday, October 14, 2008
“Essential qualities”
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
You may remember last month’s story about a French Muslim couple granted an annulment after the bride allegedly lied about her virginity. A French judge granted the couple’s annulment because he found that the wife misrepresented her “essential qualities.” (In response, French lawmakers said the verdict should be overturned as it discriminates against women.)
Our girl Angie reminded me of this story when she wrote to me about the term “essential qualities,” what that means and how it can be applied to many of our relationships.
We talk a lot on MIA about meeting someone’s representative, a person who at first tries to encompass the good, attractive “essential qualities” we all generally may want in a partner. Do you find yourself at times misrepresenting your true self, even with the best intentions at heart?
How would you define essential qualities; are they physical attributes, such as virginity in the aforementioned example? Are they spiritual or emotional qualities?
And say, for instance, you dated someone who claimed to be successful, only to discover he or she was deeply in debt. Would that be a violation of “essential qualities” and grounds for divorce?
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