Misadventures in Atlanta

By Sugar

October 8, 2008 9:00 AM | Link to this

As the nicest person in the world, I would have to say yes, we finish last. I am trying to find a class to teach me how to become a beyotch.

I see some of my mean female friends fight the guys off. It just kills me, I guess men like being treated like shyt. I’m too nice, and need to toughen up.

Why don’t men like a decent hard working, woman? I guess they feel threatened. Why are they not interested in nice women???? Do you really wanted to be treated like crap by your SO?

By NY2GA, Inc.

October 8, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

It’s interesting how when I am nice to guys, they take my kindness for weakness. Then I have to show the feisty side when I am challenged. When this happens, why does this often turn the guy on more?

Well hotdaayuum Wise! You hit the nail on the head with that comment. Nice to see that someone else has had a similar experience out there.

Do nice women finish last? No, I don’t think so. I just believe that slow and steady wins the race. LOL.

By Blow ME...HI HATERS!!

October 8, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

Good Morning

Great Topic Diva…You have been coming with some good ones this week.

On Topic- My opinion…good ones do finish last. Men are attracted to challenges…If you are easy and nice…they tend to get bored. Just notice how DRAMA Queens, and Beechs ALWAYS have a man. Men like DRAMA and a man told me this…Of course to a certain extent. You have to give him a dose of both…Nice…and the flip side…drama. You have to keep them guessing on what’s next…if you are predictable…they will get bored.

Men seem to love beechy women…I can not understand why. They say one thing…but is doing another.

It’s official men like FREAKS & BEECHS…..LMAO!!

Yup it’s true ladies…You are being too damn nice. That’s why you will finish last because you are filled with substances.

By MLL

October 8, 2008 9:16 AM | Link to this

Good rainy Hump Day! In the past when was nice I got taken advantaged of, and as soon as I turn into a whench I get much respect. My POV on this is guys don’t like a push over, I remember my first husband told me how he dumped his girlfriend because she was too nice, she said yes to everything he wanted, she wasn’t a challenge unlike me. I was young and it didn’t registered with me but as I got older and began to date again after that marriage was dissolved, I saw first hand of what he was referring to. There’s a time to be nice and a time to put the gloves on and stand your ground. But there could be a backlash so you’ve got to know how to play your cards in your favor. My approach now is to get a feel of how a guy handles toughness, if he’s a push over then I’ll play it nice but I won’t stay around, if he’s somewhere in the middle nice yet firm then I’ve met my match. Which I already have.

By DreamsMaterialize

October 8, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

Hey Everyone I like feisty women, but I hate a disrespectful one. There’s a difference. I like a woman who is confident, passionate, and will stand up for the things that mean something to her. I don’t like a woman who elevates herself above others and feels entitled to be treated like a queen but doesn’t feel the need to treat other people the same way. Sugar keep being nice. Never adjust your standards because others are too ignorant to appreciate what you’re offering. If you do, then eventually you’ll be somone you’re not, and that will be obvious to everyone. Do you sweetie.

By Peterock

October 8, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Nice girls don’t necessarily finish last. I’m sure it depends on your environment and the people you are around, but in many circumstances nice girls get scooped up first by guys that are ready for marriage. Ever been to a christian college? All those “nice” girls are usually engaged by their sophomore year.

I married the nicest girl I’d ever met…so I know they don’t finish last. I think they are more wife material honestly.

By MLL

October 8, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

It’s official men like FREAKS & BEECHS lol

By A Guy Seeking a NICE GIRL

October 8, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

I desire a NICE GIRL, a sincerely NICE one, to have in my life and in my heart more than anything in this world.

Women have always mistaken my kindness for weakness as well, so I know how terrible that feels. However, that is how my grandmother tried to raise me to be toward others, I don’t know how or don’t want to be any other way to a lady.

If any of you ladies are a kind, sincere, intelligent, polite, old-fashioned girl who tries to treat EVERYONE with the same degree of kindness and who truly seeks a man of the same fabric who feels like he was born 2-3 generations too late for today’s dating pool, please know that you are more precious to a man like me than all the money in the world.

I will gladly live my life alone and die a bachelor before I will settle for anything less than a NICE GIRL.

By Dan

October 8, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Slow and steady…Mmmmm

The flip side…Oh, yeah

Put[ting] the gloves on and standing your ground…Can you really?

I like it ladies…keep it up…tell me more!

By MELO

October 8, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this

Why don’t men like a decent hard working, woman A byttch/a*/mean girl can be a hard worker too.Nice dont mean hardworking…..

how he dumped his girlfriend because she was too nice Nice dont mean stupid and pushover either.Nice means respectable,cordial and mannered. * I remember my first husband* and how many husbands have u had?????

I think my wife is and was nice when we met.But she is a hard worker,talkative and feisty and certainly not a pushover.She got good brains atop her her head. Nice ladies will attract guys who are serious about dating and want a woman with substance.Bythsces/mean girls and hoodrats will attract the thrill seekers who are still in that game for fun. If you and nice BUT firm,you get a whole lot of respect from guys.Uall getting it twisted this early????………..

By MLL

October 8, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

Peerock you bring up a good point about men marrying nice girls instead of the not so nice ones. I think if I was a little nicer after I got married my marriage would have lasted since 2 heads continually bumping and no one backing down gets old really fast.

By MLL

October 8, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

Sugar keep being nice, it’s their lost.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 8, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

Morning All! Happy Hump Day!

DreamsMaterialize long time no see, pls hit me up when you get a chance, lost your info man!

On topic: I agree with Wise and NY2GA, Inc with the whole kindness for weakness thing. I have found that some guys respond better when you act dramatic! :0)

By Ryno

October 8, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

I would rather meet someone nice at the grocery store or Church than at the club. I also would rather choose someone fun rather than sexy.

Someone I can take with me to the Falcons games or who’ll enjoy a beach vacation as much as a luxury cruise.

Someguys might be attracted to the uber-beeyotchm, but they are marrying the sweet heart.

By Sugar

October 8, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

MLL I’m starting to think it’s my loss too.

By Ryno

October 8, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

I would rather meet someone nice at the grocery store or Church than at the club. I also would rather choose someone fun rather than sexy.

Someone I can take with me to the Falcons games or who’ll enjoy a beach vacation as much as a luxury cruise.

Someguys might be attracted to the uber-beeyotchm, but they are marrying the sweet heart.

By MLL

October 8, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

Guys What is considered a nice girl to you?

By Classics

October 8, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

Whose beeper keeps beep…beep…beeping!?!?!

Hey Folks!

Speaking of ‘nice girls’ I met some of the nicest women on this forum and since our encounter they have been nothing but stand up, supportive, pushing me to what’s been right in my face straight-up sistas! just wanted to give you all some ‘blog dap’ and a {{{hug}}}

Only God knew how all this would turn out to be for good with this trying time in my life right now…

Cee’s blowing a kiss jus’ cause.

For Real Hey bro! One of the regulars passed a note to me that A. Dolphin was waving at Nemo girl. What up shawty?

By S.A.

October 8, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

Nice girls definetly finish last;especially here in the ATL! Like the other comments said, women who are mean, nasty, have attitudes, and are straight “B’s” always seem to have some man “pathetically” following behind them(and there are many of those women here in Atlanta).I consider myself a great catch;and yes;a really nice person,that’s attractive, well-educated, and have dignity and respect for myself and others, and don’t sleep around,but I’ve been single forever and can never meet a “nice” guy. I guess men here just want some mean,hard,thug acting woman to be around, but when you decide you want a real woman and are ready to settle down; “keep it moving” don’t even try to talk to me then bro.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 8, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

I guess men like being treated like shyt. I’m too nice, and need to toughen up.

REALLY WHO SAID THAT!!!!!!!!!!

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I think nice women and men do finish last. Like someone said earlier the kindness is taken for weakness and I agree with Mo…men no matter what they say.feed off the drama queens.

Oh yeah I know I am late but to answer yesterday’s topic.

I agree with Tazee..I am not one to approach guys I will smile and show interest but I am not one to walk over and ask a guy out. Now I will talk a blue streak with anyone male or female but asking a guy out…nawwww not my thing.

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Tazzee is your email still the same?

By Chink

October 8, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Morning!

I am nice and I dont finish last. Sometimes a guy will interpret a comment as being mean when I am just being honest. One thing about me there is no catch what you see is what you get. But if you try to undermine my intelligence of course I am going to let you know that I know what you are doing.

I remember I dated this guy and his sister would always say you are too nice to him you need to be more mean and you will have him good. Bottom line he was a drama king. And I found myself losing ME in order to deal with him. It was a constant struggle.

So no more drama for me ..I will continue to be a nice girl sometimes that keeps the bad ones away…sometimes not. But I am still standing.

By Dan

October 8, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Nice women don’t finish last…

As was stated yesterday by Leon, it you have all these preconditions (for whatever reasons) about when, how, who, what he has, etc. before even getting to know the dude in the men you want to meet, then you take yourself outta the game before tipoff.

That’s not to say that you shouldn’t protect yourself. It’s just that we all have to realize that who you end up with might not be what we dream about, but what we need.

There are single, educated, sweethears all over the city that are single. And while I wish, I could help you all ladies, we might wanna start asking ourselves what’s wrong (not with us) but with where/how I’m looking.

Introspection is the first step to happiness

By Dan

October 8, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

It ain’t about sleeping around.

It’s about being open to experiencing things different from the norm.

By Dan

October 8, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

It ain’t about sleeping around.

It’s about being open to experiencing things different from the norm.

By abc

October 8, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Women that bring unnecessary drama and b*** get the door. Men might see how much they can get off of them first, but the door is what they’ll get, more often sooner than later.

‘Nice’ wins. Nobody will marry a beeyotch — or shall I say, few will stay married to a beeyotch. I’d recommend caution with the testing of boundaries, too, especially if that includes introduction of so-called ‘feistiness’, lest you inadvertently run some good ones off.

But hey, your mileage may vary. Chicks, after all.

By Brian

October 8, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Lol, Nice girls finish first, Always have always will.. Every nice girl I know is married, just got married, or on her way to getting married. Im sitting back like dang, I didn’t move fast enough..lol . And In what world do men like drama.. I mean I can only speak for me and my crew, but none of them like it, look for it or need it…

By MELO

October 8, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

I consider myself a great catch;and yes;a really nice person,that’s attractive, well-educated, and have dignity and respect for myself and others, and don’t sleep around,but I’ve been single forever I think we may need to tune up ur dating style a lil S.A.There is nothing wrong wit u,going by how u describe urself..hw old are u.We will help u get a good man!!

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

Let me say this before I read all these comments. Sometimes, nice girls finish last. I use to wonder why most of the men I knew opted for the bi*tch that came w/drama. I use to sit back SMDH at 2 guys who dated me, but chose to marry other women. Their response to not asking me for my hand in marriage is that they said those drama queens showed more interest in them by fussing and fighting over their dumb a*******es. Okey doke!

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

Morning everyone. Dreams, it’s nice to see you check in!

I guess I’m a bit of a mixture. I treat people the way I’d want to be treated but if you cross me, I will make my feelings known. I’ve been a pushover at times in attmepts to be “submissive” to my detriment. All in all, I like who I am. I like to socialize and meet people and as long as you got some sense, we’re gonna have an enjoyable time together.

I am pretty vocal about what I won’t stand for. I find that guys do appreciate that. For instance, if a guy asks me to call him (first) my next response is “I don’t make the first call, if you want to get to know me follow thru.” Of course some don’t go for that, but others will are appreciative knowing that they will be waiting by the phone if they are waiting for me to give em a ring.

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Guy Seeking a NICE GIRL, I need to talk to you (LOL).

By abc

October 8, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

I’d venture to say that if you’re a female and you think nice girls finish last, you’re associating with the wrong men. The nice guys are the ones who would appreciate the nice girls the most.

Which leads us back to ‘you attract who and what you are’.

By Brian

October 8, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

Why do women think,, “saying any and everything that crosses their mind out loud is an attractive feature? Of course Im not speaking of every woman in the world… But Im just saying.. Did anyone watch “Somebodies” on BET.. Thats a funny show. Anyway, ya’ll have a good morning.

By SexyCool

October 8, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

as long as nice doesn’t equal doormat…nice girls should do fine…

however…when i think of all the adjectives that i use to describe myself…nice is not one of them…

and as i think more about it…nice, when used to describe a quality in a person, usually translates to weak…

By Binford2K8

October 8, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

You can be nice and not someone who takes sh!t or gets dumped on. It’s all in how you handle yourself.

Ryno I agree that a club is not a place to meet someone for a serious relation ship in general. And that dating someone who is fun is a must - though they have to have some level of sex appeal.

Classics The women here are pretty cool (even AR ;p ). But the banter only goes so far if there is no attraction. There are so many good people out there, but sadly, if no one finds them attractive - it doesn’t really matter much …does it?

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

Nice doesn’t equate to “weak”. I’ve been told over and over again that I am a nice person. To me being nice means having empathy, respecting and understanding others. Treating ALL people humanly, from the bum on the street to my worst enemy. Nice is having a caring soul. Nice is treating folk the same way you want to be treated. Being nice simply shows good character!

By C tha 1

October 8, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

Dang! I can’t believe I actually agree witth something abc said. Ladies, his 10:16 post is on point…if you consider yourself a nice girl and find yourself finishing last it maybe because you’re associating with the wrong type of dude.

By SexyCool

October 8, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

oh, come now, everyone…don’t jump on the i’m a nice girl bandwagon just cause it’s the word of the day…

By Leon Phelps

October 8, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

I don’t think men try to avoid nice women, usually its some other trait that causes us to avoid a woman.
As has been said before most guys (with modrate to high self esteem) don’t want a woman who is a pushove or who always agrees with whatever we say/want. In a relationship there has to be some disagreement to balance things out, just like in the govt. the worst times are usually when the House, Senate, and President are of the same political party. In a relationship you need one some things that are opposite just to balance things out. But at the same time you can’t be a crazy Beech either. At least not for me… I don’t do drama at all. I don’t care how fine you are or how good you can cook ( now if you are fine and can cook I might have to think about it) But I do not do the women who live their life concerned with what other people are saying or doing. Nor do I deal with the women who don’t let you breathe, always need to know something, or always want something.

I like nice women but its often something completely aside from their niceness that turns me off…

By For Real

October 8, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam. Hey Cee just hollin at you. You want to share a phish sandwich with me today for lunch?

On topic: Webster defines nice as:

pleasing , agreeable, virtuous , respectable, polite , and kind

So, if you are attracted to people or approach people that find those traits to be of a weak nature. Then you should look at yourself and ask why do I attract or why do I approach, or why do I get involved with such people?

For thoes females that have been taken advantage of, listen close IT IS NOT BECAUSE YOU ARE NICE. YOU WERE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF BECAUSE THAT MAN WAS SMARTER THAN YOU!!!

For those females that say men aren’t attracted to nice girl, listen close NICE IS NOT THE REASON DUDE WAS NOT ATTRACTED TO YOU. THE BEYOTCH LOOKS BETTER THAN YOU!! AND THAT GOES FOR THOSE NICE GUYS TOO!!! EXCEPT FOR THE BEYOTCH PART… WELL WE ARE IN ATLANTA SO…

Nice vs Beyotch = NO FIGGIN CONTEST!!! NICE WINS!!!!!!

By kimmie

October 8, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Good rainy morning blog!

I’ve had guys that definitely took my kindness for weakness. I have an unassuming, laid-back manner and this is mistaken for greeness, pushoverness! In the corporate world I am mistaken also, until they try to get over on me and see I don’t play. Then it’s too late. I now have seen YOUR true colors. You see, I know it might be human nature to take advantage of perceived weakness, but I find nothing more foul. When I was a new manager at a company I used to work for, one of my associates used to just observe me and one day she took it upon herself to warn me that the powers-that-be at said company were cut-throat and I needed to watch my back. I thanked her, but told her that is the way corporate America is and I did not get to where I was by being a marshmallow. Cool & easy, don’t have to walk around with a club! She thought she had more “street sense” than I had, but she was sadly mistaken.

Yes, some men do like drama in spite of what they say. I believe though that the majority of them just don’t like a pushover, unless they are control freaks that want a Stepford type. The same holds true for most women - we don’t want a wimp for a man! Yes, I’ve been dumped because I did not offer enough drama (at least that’s the reason I was given, in so many words). Usually those dudes I could not have dealt with much longer anyway. Now men that like drama come off so punkish to me, an absolute turn-off. I think most people just desire some spunk, some life, a little spice in a person, and you can have that without being MEAN.

Yes, nice girls do finish last- last being the ALTER! :) So nice ladies & men - do you, be cool - you WILL WIN in the END!

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Sugar MLL I’m starting to think it’s my loss too.

Yeap… you’re losing out on all the wrong type of attention, that you really don’t want anyway. Melo already laid it out for you, dudes are throwing all’at effort and energy at bytchy broads just to see if they can get a hit, which in turn gives that ego a good shot in the arm.

To a dude looking for a woman with serious relationship potential, those bytchy, often-times ho-type broads are invisible.

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

I’ve been called “nice” before, by people who don’t know me. LOL

I don’t think I’ve ever been called “friendly” because I’m not. I don’t walk down the street saying “hi” to people for no reason. LOL. I guess I’m more cordial than friendly.

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Lol Binford guy, Classics is Cemeeli…waving :)

My “banter” with cpl of the blog women has shown me you never know what venue God will us to allow you to meet people, nice people at that, and the strangest is that they will be in your corner for NO benefit of their own!

There are so many good people out there, but sadly, if no one finds them attractive - it doesn’t really matter much …does it?

Also if you are attractive and have bad attitude or spirit/heart most people don’t want to be around you.

There’s two sides to that!

For Real I left fish in Vannah bro. I’m getting some comfort food for lunch.

Blue Cee making thangs happen.

By I need a permanent name...

October 8, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Good morning,

I’m here from time to time, once a month or so, and I had written a blog-length post before I remembered today is not about nice guys…so here’s what I think about nice girls.

First off, let’s be real about why guys stray from nice girls. Mostly because we feel we can’t do what we want do with/to them. We can’t fck them hard, can’t take them to the backyard BBQ/dice game or introduce them to our high school football teammates who happen to sell drgs now. Guys have it in the backs of their minds they can only do nice things with nice girls, and if it’s a choice…I’ll just leave her behind.

The honest people here will admit they are looking for someone of this in the middle of this nice-to-crazy who may swing one way or the other. That’s ok, because individually we may swing one way or the other. Even Hakeem told the “whatever you like” woman from Coming to America that he wanted someone with a little more edge.

I’m a nice guy, and I approve this message.

By Glennco

October 8, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

I was a NICE guy for 8 1/2 years to what I thought was an everlasting relationship with a woman I thought loved me the same , but then she decided to run back to her old high school sweetheart, who has been married and divorced 3 times. I guess this gave her a challenge that I didn’t. She never would tell me what she wanted from me. She took advantage of me. It broke my heart. I hope she is satisfied. Ps. she conjured all this up (phone calls etc) while under the influence of wine.

By The Truth

October 8, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Nice girls don’t finish last, they’re at home with their husbands by the time the rest finish the race. LOL

I have five couples that I’ve been watching over the last few years. One was the woman that just passed, another couple in their 60’s and 3 couples in their late 20’s(1)and 30’s(2). All have been married at least 5 years, they’ve lived here that long. While this is by no means a scientific experiment it is painfully obvious to me what type of woman gets married and STAYS married over the long haul.

First, all the women are extremely nice. I don’t know if it’s because they’ve been married for as long as they have or they’ve been married as long as they have because they’re nice.

Anyway, all the women in my experiment are almost interchangeable. They appear to be the same woman in different bodies. There are differences but the overall makeup is quite similar. I’d say that most chicks are in 4th or 5th gear (and going nowhere) while these women are in 3rd gear and prepared to take a long cruise down marriage highway. I’ve never seen one of them flare up at their spouses and that doesn’t seem to be a part of their makeup, at least in public. I’m sure they all have their moments.

Also, these couples met early and made the decision to do the thing and haven’t looked back. I think time on the track diminishes value, just my thought.

The husbands are the same way, geared for the long haul. They don’t go out and you wouldn’t see them in a strip club. They’re happy at home with wifey and doing family things and have been for the long haul.

I also have some couples I’ve been watching that shouldn’t be. I mean cussing each other out in front of others and saying “if it weren’t for the kids” and whatnot. The hubby with herpes is one of those, and he is probably one of the best of that group.

Btw, these couples are AA so its happening.

My conclusion: The chick you meet at the bar or club should stay there. Just the fact she has the need to throw herself out there is a big clue to what you’re getting. The chick you catch at Barnes and Nobles wearing old sweats and a baseball cap is the one. and grab her fast because you won’t see her on the track again. LMAO (All the MLB members now lining up at Barnes and Nobles waiting for thee chick)

This is Dr Truth giving it to you like I see it.

Btw, my ex wife was a very nice woman and she remarried and has been for a few years now. My point is certain women can get 2 or 3 husbands before some can get one. It’s all in their makeup. (please overlook the fact I fugged my ex for 5 years while she was remarried. she just likes being nice to me) LOL

By SexyCool

October 8, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

for real…we all know that the dictionary’s definition of certain words can have little do with how they are applied in society…

for the record…i, too, looked up nice in the dictionary…and by THAT definition, everyone would like to think of themselves as a ‘nice person’…

when ya’ folk talk about hooking you up with a cool, sexy available female that they know…i’m sure you don’t want to be described as simply nice…that is such a vanilla kinda word…

By abc

October 8, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

Now, what makes it so difficult to believe that you’d agree with me?! I am, for the most part, always right ‘round here! :-)

By NCGirlfromATL

October 8, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

@ BK To a dude looking for a woman with serious relationship potential, those bytchy, often-times ho-type broads are invisible.

Interesting that you say that. Honestly, if that were really true, then I’d probably be out of business. Not that nice women don’t get divorced, but I think the consensus here is that to most men nice = boring. If I hear one more man say he doesn’t want the drama, don’t bring the drama…blah blah blah blah blah…and then the next chick you see him with has 3 baby daddies, 2 restraining orders, and a couple of charges she’s defending herself for beating up Kiki (baby daddy #2’s other baby mama), I’m gonna choke someone! Granted, that’s not the dude I want anyway. But, my point is, there are plenty of good men out there who are, at the very least, giving the impression that they prefer the freaks and the drama queens, b/c that’s who they gravitate toward. If you want good/nice women to be in your view, you’ve got to stop giving us the impression that we aren’t worthy of your attention. That is, if you are a good man yourself.

My apology: To all of the really good, quality single men out there who have tripped up and fallen for the drama queen in the tailpipe, and didn’t notice the quality woman over here…I will be good to you. You will enjoy yourself with me. Even though I have enormous respect for single mothers, I am not one. I don’t even have a bad-A dog for you to be bothered with. My parents are still married. I pay my bills, keep my house neat, take out my own trash, have a 401 (k), and bathe/brush my teeth at least 2 times a day. If I’m the “silent but freaky” type, that will be our little secret. I know how to keep my girlfriends in check. So, yes, I apologize for being nice, aka boring. My bad. And as for that drama queen in the tailpipe…don’t let it happen again! LOLOL!

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

The chick you catch at Barnes and Nobles wearing old sweats and a baseball cap is the one

Truth, that’s me the next day, with a slight hangover from the club. That’s why I’m incognito. LOL

By For Real

October 8, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Truth The doctor is in indeed. Nice.. opps I mean good post.

Sexycool Not me the first thing I ask if I am being setup is she pretty, what her body look like, and is she nice. Nice might be vanilla to you but not to me. It says alot about what other people think of you. Oh and you on point with “everyone would like to think of themselves”

By Binford2K8

October 8, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Part of the Binford manifesto is this: If a female is attractive, it doesn’t matter if she has the most putrid personality ever (shoot, she could even be a dirty bird if you get my drift), she will have a guy who wants her. Period.

This doesn’t speak to if it’ll last more than a week, or be of any substantial quality (the dudes may know she is a b!tch and just want to hit it). Merely to the fact that there will be a line at her door and she can just keep running through them at her leisure.

That’s the way it is.

By Chink

October 8, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

SexyCool

I actually describe men I meet like that ” he is really a nice guy”. I don’t see how being nice is plain it is a good quality because not everyone is nice.

Maybe you should take peoples “I am nice” as face value unless you know something otherwise but then again that would be just your opinion also.

By MELO

October 8, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

got to stop giving us the impression that we aren’t worthy of your attention. That is, if you are a good man yourself. hey girl,hw u been NCGirlfromATL. I hear u on that statement but u see what happens most times is females and men move at different speeds. When u at 26,28,30 etc are looking to settle down,the guys around you at same age are still looking for the thrill seekers and getting the nothces on their belts.Still looking for swagg credibility.So it dont mean they dont value u,u are just placing urself in front of guys who are not at ur level of maturity yet.Go swim in a different pool to find ur mate.

By Tazzee

October 8, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks! Great topic Wise Diva

I want to respond to the topic and other comments but I had to stop when I read this:

“Someone I can take with me to the Falcons games or who’ll enjoy a beach vacation as much as a luxury cruise.”

He said Falcons and beach in the same sentence!!! Ryno umm, I’m nice most of the time ;-)

Cemeeli my email is the same.

OK, back to reading…

By kimmie

October 8, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Truth - Liked your post, Dr!

NC - Liked your post, too. And you are in a position to really know what’s going on! Just like women who only go for “bad boys”, a lot of men create problems for themselves with the type of women they go for too, and actually MARRY! It boggles the mind! SMH!

By abc

October 8, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

Yeah, Binford, but who really wants a chick like that after awhile? If you’d be #100 or #200, doesn’t she start to look a little, uhhh… sticky to you? I mean… ugh.

Besides that, most men (that are actually men and are taking a man’s approach to dating) have little interest in being ‘the first’; they want to be ‘the last’. Chicks like that, you’re just another guy in line, holding a number.

Chick says, “Next! Now serving #101!”

Hm.

By SexyCool

October 8, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

for real…why nice come last?

oh…and i do think of myself as a generally fitting the dictionary’s definition of nice…that’s just not how i describe myself…

By I need a permanent name...

October 8, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Truth: All those married women are nice because they are happy. I think it’s hard to find the nice trait, single or married, without the happy trait present.

He/she’s a nice person…BUT We’ve all said it, and many have heard it. I’ve been here 7 years and have seen many examples of nice not being enough for a guy/girl. With SexyCool on that.

By Tazzee

October 8, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

I don’t think nice girls finish last at all. When describing myself, nice isn’t a word that usually comes to mind but I will say that I’m ‘pleasant’ most of the time. Life is too short for me not to be. But I have been known to let it loose every now and then, but that’s usually when I’m pushed to the limit.

In my dating experiences, I’ve found that if I don’t express myself forcefully guys don’t take me seriously. If my mate does something that bothers me, I’ll calmly tell them. I had one guy tell me (during a yelling match after repeated offenses) that he didn’t think I was serious the first time I said it. errr??? Ever since then I try to avoid those with signs of ‘drama-love’ - meaning they don’t think you love them if there isn’t any drama.

But naw, I don’t think nice girls finish last. Most of the guys that I attract are usually won over my by smile.

By Jo

October 8, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Sadly, Binford & ForReal are right. The beeyotches get all the men because they are pretty & from what I’ve seen, the more beautiful a woman is physically, the nastier she is, because everyone spoils her so is it any wonder she develops an entitlement complex the size of Texas? Now, I consider myself a reasonably nice person but there are limits. I’m no doormat & if someone is not lowlife, criminal or nasty person) I do not associate with them

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Cee Cee making thangs happen.

That’s what I’m talkin’ ‘bout. Go’ead wit’cho bad self!

NC Chick But, my point is, there are plenty of good men out there who are, at the very least, giving the impression that they prefer the freaks and the drama queens, b/c that’s who they gravitate toward.

And when is all of this gravitation taking place, on Friday and Saturday night ha? …When dude is on the hunt for that new piece of azz.

Science: Once you get through the b!tchy on a broad, it’s pretty much a straight shot to the poosey; whereas with a nice broad, either you’ll need to demonstrate at least a fondness for the chick or be the type to dog the chick out without remorse. Contrary to popular belief, dudes don’t take comfort in doggin’ non-deserved chicks. So yeah, he’ll gravitate towards the bytchy broad simply to avoid feelings of guilt later on down the line, not because that’s his preference.

Don’t believe me? Check the stats. Most bytchy broads complain about dudes being dogs - meaning that she’s been ran through by 20 dycks this year, while the nice girl complains of not being able to find a man since 06.

Last Note: Once a dude hits 35, and puts that mature stamp on his social resume, he pretty much ain’t puttin’ up with no BULLsh!t from no silly azz broad. She can get da fugg on down the line.

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

NC I will slide you 5 on the backhand side for your comment.

I have been called bytch because I set boundaries, and express what those boundaries are and boring because my idea of fun involves a trip to the State fair(which is where I was Saturday) followed by a lazy Sunday watching football and rooting for Steelers(There is Steeler football and everyone else) and checking my ff stats.

Fun apparently is spending hours on the phone arguing and cussing each other out or playing the hang up game.

And I wont say the fellows make horrible choices because I have made some horrible choices too.(flashback)But nothing to where I had to catch a case or be a witness. So if boring is what I am so be it.

There is a Indian Pow-Wow in early November with my name on it.

By The Truth

October 8, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Btw, just because a chick is nice doesn’t mean she won’t light it up in the bedroom. Nice can be interchangeable with “wanting to please, badly”. The guy just has to get that out of her, which is the case with all women.

Whats funny is the guy that marries a nutrag and then she locks up on him because he doen’t treat her like she’s treated herself. The other guys got the wild stuff and you get the headaches. LOL

Ared I’m dissapointed in you and this is 2 days in a row. Yes I read that line yesterday about eyeing some cat in a bar. You have a man. Either terminate and move on or decide to stay. Remember the job you’d like to occupy. ( Dr Truth drops his head) Now the hangover comment.

No matter your product if you put it in front of the wrong crowd it will not be received well.

By MELO

October 8, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

but then she decided to run back to her old high school sweetheart, who has been married and divorced 3 times u may have missed the signs buddy.Nice dont mean stupid!If u dont have any experiences what so ever with females and u plunge headlong into marriage, u are a disaster waiting to happen.I dont know ur story but it kinda stinks on the surface.There is no way my woman can cheat me without me sniffing that smething aint right.Thats like being chewed,with ur eyes, wide open.Maybe its just me,but both females and men can commit without necesaritly losing body,mind and soul.Have ur antena on alert all the time buddy..Good luck on ur next relationship !Glennco!!!!!!

By Binford2K8

October 8, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

abc Did you ever meet a heavy person who was SO nice, but was always alone? The reason most likely is because they’re heavy. They are usually nice because that’s how they get attention and draw people in.

If a person has model quality looks, people just flock to them and forgive way more than they ever should because the attraction factor is so high. For example, I know a guy who is a singer and has good looks - I’ve witnessed a girl he was seeing find ANOTHER girl’s panties in the bed they shared. And somehow, he didn’t get a brick up side his head (she stayed for a few months after that). And that wasn’t the first (or only) only occurrence of that nature.

I’m not saying I want to be #100 or anything (matter fact, I don’t want that at all). I merely practice observational learning and have seen this throughout the years and consider, by and large, a fact.

I want a nice girl that I find attractive in the ways I define nice and attractive (which apparently is a niche market). That’s my choice.

But years of watching have shown true what drives the market, and a lot of times, looks trump all. Not whether someone is nice.

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Jo, did you type that right???? You only want to associate w/lowlife, criminals and nasty folk???

By Daddy K

October 8, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

A woman should radiate feminine energy, niceness and kindness however the self proclaimed nice women are manipulative; they will do anything not to upset a man; anything to get commitment. This is not niceness – this is manipulation.

On the other hand, there is no way an attractive woman will come off as nice. An attractive woman get approached at least by 100 men a week, she knows she is rich in sexual currency. A b*** attitude is just a way to keep 96 of those men away. She is not rude and dramatic; she is just being selective and trying to manage her time well. When the same woman hit mid 30’s, her sexual currency devalues. When she hit mid 40’s, she then turns to niceness to cope with her sexual deflation and that’s when you hear her roar: “nice girls finish last”…..please

By Beach Lover

October 8, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

I’m a female, and I think that “I need a permanent name” has it exactly right….lady in the street, freak in the bed. I don’t think it’s a whole lot more complicated than that.

By MELO

October 8, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

Most bytchy broads complain about dudes being dogs - meaning that she’s been ran through by 20 dycks this year, while the nice girl complains of not being able to find a man since 06. ,BK,thats whats up!

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

Cee Cee making thangs happen.

That’s what I’m talkin’ ‘bout. Go’ead wit’cho bad self!

NC Chick But, my point is, there are plenty of good men out there who are, at the very least, giving the impression that they prefer the freaks and the drama queens, b/c that’s who they gravitate toward.

And when is all of this gravitation taking place, on Friday and Saturday night ha? …When dude is on the hunt for that new piece of azz.

Science: Once you get through the b!tchy on a broad, it’s pretty much a straight shot to the poosey; whereas with a nice broad, either you’ll need to demonstrate at least a fondness for the chick or be the type to dog the chick out without remorse. Contrary to popular belief, dudes don’t take comfort in doggin’ non-deserved chicks. So yeah, he’ll gravitate towards the bytchy broad simply to avoid feelings of guilt later on down the line, not because that’s his preference.

Don’t believe me? Check the stats. Most bytchy broads complain about dudes being dogs - meaning that she’s been ran through by 20 dycks this year, while the nice girl complains of not being able to find a man since 06.

Last Note: Once a dude hits 35, and puts that mature stamp on his social resume, he pretty much ain’t puttin’ up with no BULLsh!t from no silly azz broad. She can get da fugg on down the line.

By Margie

October 8, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

I have not had a date in 10 years, frankly I no longer am interested in playing the game, but yes, nice girls do finish last. Men in my age group want the young blondes, not women their own age, and the divorced men are better off staying divorced and not ruining anybody else’s lives, although it is never “his” fault.

By I need a permanent name...

October 8, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

Thank you Beach Lover, now where do I send the check? LOL.

By Dan

October 8, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

• dog the[bytchy] chick out without remorse..*

*the more beautiful a woman is physically, the nastier she is, because everyone spoils her *

These two statements are extremely accurate.

I can get through the nastiness to taaaddazzup, and then not feel guilty for getting dressed while you’re in the bathroom.

As far as the pretty women with stank attitudes, they get the same treatment. Nice to have flucked you, I’ll remember your (face, body) fondly, but I really don’t like you - so I’m out.

I’d add this to BK’s post, if you’re getting calls during the week ladies, he’s sizing you up as a good one, worthy of time in his schedule.

Anytime between sundown on Friday thru Sunday aroound 12, you’re not the one.

So be enlightened, be encouraged, for no man wants the mother of his child to be a bucock (if he can help it)

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

You have a man.

Truth, when did I get one of those? If I had a man why am I out in bars?

Besides, I was just looking. Not like I was gonna approach anyway.

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

I need a permanent name… * How about *Mista Fuggin’ Nice Guy? LOL

SexyCool oh, come now, everyone…don’t jump on the i’m a nice girl bandwagon just cause it’s the word of the day…

Seeing as you’re normally of a real positive nature with a little salt thrown in from time to time, it’s my duty to tell you that your skirt’s been hangin’ for the last 2 months.

Kym There is a Indian Pow-Wow in early November with my name on it.]

You bet’not be talkin’ ‘bout that Skins-Steelers smashin’ coming up on the 3rd.

Truth Btw, just because a chick is nice doesn’t mean she won’t light it up in the bedroom.

Good roll homie, I just hit on the Pass Line.

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Had to laugh at sexual deflation!

By NCGirlfromATL

October 8, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Fun apparently is spending hours on the phone arguing and cussing each other out or playing the hang up game.

^^5 to Kym

BK You stoopid! LOLOL!

kimmie a lot of men create problems for themselves with the type of women they go for too, and actually MARRY! It boggles the mind! Exactly my point! It’s not just about the quick hit and quit. Drama queens and freaks get married too, and then they mess up a good man for the next woman.

Wassup Melo?

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

Anytime between sundown on Friday thru Sunday aroound 12, you’re not the one. Never a truer statement uttered!!!!

By SexyCool

October 8, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

bk…i appreciate the observation…

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

Blue No I am not speaking of the butt whipping the Steelers will give the Redskins..on Nov 3rd. There is a real Indian Pow-Wow at Stone Mountain Park Nov 6-9 that I will be attending.

By MLL

October 8, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Dan if you’re pretty/beautiful you’re already pegged as a nasty person who is spoiled, so get what you want and get to stepping is pretty much how you’re summing it up?

By kimmie

October 8, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

Kym - Did you go to the state fair in Perry? I’ve always wanted to go to that. I will definitely be getting to that Pow-Wow! Have you ever been to the Apple Festival in Elijay? I went a few years ago and it is so much fun and all of the apple dishes are delicious. The apples I brought home were great too, made some wonderful pies. Yeah, call me boring too, that stuff is right down my alley!

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Kym No I am not speaking of the butt whipping the Steelers will give the Redskins. zzzz…

There is a real Indian Pow-Wow at Stone Mountain Park Nov 6-9 that I will be attending.

Now that sounds interesting.

By Sarah Palin

October 8, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

Well i learned recently that giving good ummmm … will get you places you never dreamed of!

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

Kimmie yep I went to Perry this past weekend, bought a cowgirl hat, ate fair food(everything at the fair is on a stick, cheesecake on a stick dipped in chocolate…yeah I know americans are fat..) but there are also a bunch of shows to see and the rides and carnival games. Plus the little booths with people hocking their products. It was really alot of fun. Heck we even caught a live stock show.

This will be my first Pow-Wow so I am hyped. I have not been to the Apple Festival but while I was at the fair I picked up a Georgia festival guide, there are alot of great things going on right here.

By Dan

October 8, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

@MLL

See, I know quite a few beautiful women. Some with edge, some without. But the overarching point is that the stank attitude is what garners bad treatment.

A pretty woman will get the treatment more often of course (trophy lay!) than an unattractive woman with a bad attitude.

But those in the know, know that you can’t judge a book by it’s cover. Some really hot women, are really intelligent (making them hotter), but to be dumb, nasty, and fine…..

Superman that thoooooo….

By The Truth

October 8, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

Ared my bad. I thought you and ol boy were as 1. I still need to get you to advertising in the right magazines. LOL

That indian pow wow does sound nice. Watching those cats get smoked out is wild. ( Does that mean I’m boring too?)

Kym/NC * a lot of men create problems for themselves with the type of women they go for too, and actually MARRY! It boggles the mind* its not only men that marry wrong. Plenty of women do it just to say they have SOMEONE. I guess after years of being lonely drama seems like a nice alternative, until you have to deal with that mess. Then again alot of dudes don’t know the difference between a knockoff and a wife.

By KJ

October 8, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

I see some of my mean female friends fight the guys off.

No offense, but they’re probably hotter than you are. Hot girls generally act like that because they can, and they know that there are plenty of pathetic guys out there that will put up with it, just so they can impress their equally pathetic friends.

I don’t know why you’d want anything to do with a guy who “takes kindness for weakness”. I’m the opposite, if you habitually act mean to me or anyone else, you’re gonna be shown the door. Any guy worth his salt will appreciate an attractive girl who’s not a giant PITA.

By SexyCool

October 8, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

Success Thought for the Day

Become master of yourself.

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

Kimmie the fair runs through Sunday so there is still time to go.

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

my bad. I thought you and ol boy were as 1. I still need to get you to advertising in the right magazines. LOL

Truth, no problem. Seems that way doesn’t it. We’re going on vacation together too. However, he’s pulled that “why define” line. So okay, let’s have it your way. LOL

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst with that one!

By MLL

October 8, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

BK Dan when me and my current guy first started out we only talked thru the weekday. It was very frustrating b/c I wanted to get the ball rolling. I always question (myself not him) why only on the weekdays and maybe a call/text here or there on the weekend just to say hi or that he was thinking about me. I was very confused but I waited it out to see where it was goind since our weekday conversations entails so many areas of the past present and goals for the future. Finally he started coming around on the weekends. Maybe he was feeling me out to see what type of woman I am or if I was going to b*tch at him for his lack of weekend attention (which I did bring it to his attention in a noncontentious kinda way)

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Truth Okay the Pow-Wow is not about smoking out. It is suppose to expose everyone to Native American culture and heritage. (Dance,crafts etc..) I am looking to buy some native items and learn little bit about my drop of Indian blood.

You will have weed heads thinking it is a pot fest like in old Piedmont days-people come with their families dude

By SexyCool

October 8, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

that success quote comes from Og Mandino…

By BeBe KID

October 8, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Many men like “DRAMA” Queens because they are themselves “DRAMA” Kings getting some kind of ardrenalin rush from chaos. But, at some point in that relationship the stress of it takes its toll resulting in stroke, heart attack and eventual premature death for many men, especially black men. Big child support payments and strained divorces await you if you are lucky enough to maintain your health and sanity.

Men usually experience a Eureka moment an epiphany usually when they get older or mature realizing that being with a b*** woman is a poor selection when there are other choices that can or should have been made. All that glitters ain’t gold. Many men are nothing more than sponsors and servants to these b-type women in every sense of the word not excluding the role of sexual servant. Nothing is worse than observing a miserable couple in a dysfunctional relationship frontin and fakin to sustain status quo. Usually b-type women migrate from one relationship to the next ultimately becoming old and bitter leaving a path of destruction behind them finally reaping what they sow. Accepting the role of servitude by the man is often a result of damaged self-esteem and a manipulative female that chokes off any attempt of him regaining his self-esteem, just one of the many games that people play.

To all the really nice women, please stay that way. Your biggest challenge is to meet an equally nice man. They are out here, maybe not in abundance, but they are here!

By Wise Diva

October 8, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

hey guys! good discussion, especially the ladies, I like how you are weighing in

hey KJ! loved this -> if you habitually act mean to me or anyone else, you’re gonna be shown the door

co-sign! I don’t care how hot you are either, your cuteness can only last so long before you start to look like the troll you behave as

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

I have stated before that “guys just like to be tortured.” Sometimes it does seem that the more direct (not mean) I am, the more they pay attention. I figured they just think that fiestyness will make for a good lay with a decent looking woman.

Anywhoo, it’s fun.

By kimmie

October 8, 2008 12:56 PM | Link to this

Kym Thanks, Imma try to make that happen!

Truth - It’s always sad when anyone marries just to “have somebody” or just goes out and gets somebody because they feel “it’s time”, man or woman. I was specifically referring to those guys that, like you said, don’t know the difference between a knockoff & a wife. Same for the ladies that don’t know a bad boy/thug from a real man/husband. I know those couples you mentioned in your post didn’t just latch on to “somebody” - each recognized the “nice” qualities in the other and were not about the BS and drama.

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 1:03 PM | Link to this

MLL Maybe he was feeling me out to see what type of woman I am or if I was going to btch at him for his lack of weekend attention (which I did bring it to his attention in a noncontentious kinda way)*

The first one. He probably could give a dayum about tryin’ to bytch at him when you ain’t even his woman yet. He was liking you but still hittin’ the other chick on the weekend. Before he gave up the guaranteed p*ssy, he had to be reasonably sure that you were at least a 1/1 bet at being about something.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 8, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Men usually experience a Eureka moment an epiphany usually when they get older or mature realizing that being with a b woman is a poor selection when there are other choices that can or should have been made. All that glitters ain’t gold. Many men are nothing more than sponsors and servants to these b-type women in every sense of the word not excluding the role of sexual servant. Nothing is worse than observing a miserable couple in a dysfunctional relationship frontin and fakin to sustain status quo. Usually b-type women migrate from one relationship to the next ultimately becoming old and bitter leaving a path of destruction behind them finally reaping what they sow. Accepting the role of servitude by the man is often a result of damaged self-esteem and a manipulative female that chokes off any attempt of him regaining his self-esteem, just one of the many games that people play.*

TRUE STATEMENT ABOVE^^^^^

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 8, 2008 1:20 PM | Link to this

my attitude is not equipped for the sassy mouth…because i dont mind choking a bench until her tongue rolls….lol…what you say….lol….one thing i hate more than dumb arse people…is phat sassy mouth hatin arse women!!!!!!!

By Poppa Grande

October 8, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon to all.

I just think that people in general don’t like pushovers, but like nice people. I just think that people get these terms confused. They aren’t synonyms.

Many females gravitate to bad boys during some point of their lives. For example, my high school girlfriend just love Bobby Brown over the other members of New Edition because he was “not boring” aka a bad boy. She laughed at Ralph “Mr. Sensitivity” Tresvant. But, I bet she would be on the different side of the issue now.

Some guys do the same thing. It just that females may experience their love for bad boys while young, and guys tend to want the “spice” later.

I don’t think that its a gender issue. It is a human issue.

Kym

This is the first year in about 8 years that me and the Mrs aren’t going down to Perry for the State Fair. I hope that you ate a Turkey Leg for me. Those things are off the chain.

My wife collects stuffed animals and I’ve won many of them there.

BTW if the Steeler have anymore injuries to the RB position they may have to call Jerome out of retirement. It is sad what happened to Mendenhall. Shattered shoulder: ouch. I guess Ray Lewis can still hit, and he got the old man strength now…lol

By Tennispalya

October 8, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

You folks are off the hook, but let me just say this, love and happiness can be found in a bar also.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 8, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

RELL You are too funny for your 1:20! Dayum!! lol!

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 1:38 PM | Link to this

But you know you loves me Rell. LOL

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

NRO my attitude is not equipped for the sassy mouth…because i dont mind choking a bench until her tongue rolls….

Then I know how you feel about THIS

People need to be respectful and bishes, in particular need to learn when to shut the fugg up. I bet from this day on, this chick get’s it.

By Tennisplaya

October 8, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

You folks are off the chain with these post. Let me put my 2 cents in. Nice girls finish where their heart and minds lead them to. Also you can find love and happiness in a bar.

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 1:47 PM | Link to this

she could even be a dirty bird if you get my drift), she will have a guy who wants her. Period.

(the dudes may know she is a b!tch and just want to hit it). Merely to the fact that there will be a line at her door and she can just keep running through them at her leisure.

Binford…you are right on…and that goes to show you how much more cosmetically driven people are.

Tazzee…yes you do have a good spirit…if that equates to nice girl, don’t never forget to wear that hat.

Blue Lol you giving folks monikers boy! btw- How are your jr. bachelors?

I bet that Peacock gurl somewhere eating strawberry Chex Mix.

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

How far is Perry. Sounds like a nice outing for me and my child.

By Binford2K8

October 8, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

We all talk about attitudes and not taking crap and respecting yourself, but does anyone find it interesting that a human’s hard wiring pushes them towards the strongest “breeder” (usually looks based), but their cognitive dimension can be at complete odds with that more often than not?

I’ve always found that fascinating.

By MELO

October 8, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

However, he’s pulled that “why define” line, now on this ared, u got to draw the line in my view.Ur boy has enjoyed ur company and benefits,im sure and is kinda taking it for granted.By that statement above, is he saying if he saw u strolling down the street with another dude, he wont raise a finger,ask or be unconcerned?? If thats his attitude,u need to slide and leave his azz alone.U are not asking him to marry u, just to see what he refers you as,not a friend, i hope! U may have shown him some weakness in your armour and is trying to take advantage.If u let that happen, he will be rolling all over u and u will be in major dilemna.Put ur foot down.U are going to earn his love and respect after that.Good luck!!

By Binford2K8

October 8, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

We all talk about attitudes and not taking crap and respecting yourself, but does anyone find it interesting that a human’s hard wiring pushes them towards the strongest “breeder” (usually looks based), but their cognitive dimension can be at complete odds with that more often than not?

I’ve always found that fascinating.

By MELO

October 8, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

He was liking you but still hittin’ the other chick on the weekend head nod BK

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

PoppaG

AWWW man I didnt get a turkey leg I stood in line for one but I kid you not the line was about 30 people deep there and at the bbq pits. (30 mins was just too long to wait) I had a footlong corndog and the homemade peach cobbler and vanilla icecream.(among other stuff)

We spent about 8 hours walking and playing games(I know I blew at least 10.00 bucks at the .50 and .25 games.) I tried my best to win a stuffed purple monkey

Dont mention the Steeler injuries I am just sick about it. Willie P is out, and now Mendenhall, Moore is working it out though he had some great runs the other night. Tell Hines I said this is one Nation fan that was ready to issue him and Big Ben some old fashion “suicides” for all those dropped passes the other night so they need to get “right” over during this bye week.

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

melo, I don’t disagree with what you are saying. Just remember my happiness is #1 and I’m not stupid. So I’m straight. One thing I always have is a plan.

By What's Up With That?

October 8, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

Speaking for myself, I’m a very nice girl and an attractive one, and I’m quite single. Most men will look, but will not approach.

By For Real

October 8, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

Getting a burger at krusty’s…

Dude: Okay boys what do yall want.

1st Boy: Ummmm I want a hot dog

Dude: Son they don’t sell….

2nd Boy: I want pizza

Dude: Son they don’t sell….

Teenage Girl: Dayummm I wish yall herryup

Dude: Okay boys Imma order fa yall

1st Boy/2ndBoy: I want, I want ice cream, I want a jelly sandmich.

TG: WTF!!! Is dis man yall need to move!

Dude: Looka here lil gurl you betwatch yo mouf

TG: I ain’t got to do ish you betta get out of POW!!!! Wow look at the pretty stars. My jaw hurts. Who are these three girls pulling me out of here.

1st Boy/2nd Boy: We eat what you want!

By NCGirlfromATL

October 8, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

@ Truth Then again alot of dudes don’t know the difference between a knockoff and a wife. Co-sign

Actually, I agree with all of what you said. Women are bad for choosing a guy just to have a guy, and men keep trying to turn a hizzo into a housewife. You’d think, given that knowledge, we’d all be a lot better when it came to choosing a mate. But like Forrest G said, “Stoopid is as stoopid does.”

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

Leggs Perry is about hour and 45 mins away its a bit pass Macon. Take 1-75 South and then 475 towards Tampa and follow the signs. It is a great outing. My son didnt go due to punishment so I went with my sisterfriend..it was her first time down there and she is already talking about next year.

By Tony

October 8, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

If you want to play games, then yeah, you need to be tough and mean. If you really are serious about meeting someone and settling down and not being a “serial dater,” perhaps you just need to be yourself and actually give people whom you may not even talk to normally a chance.

By I need a permanent name...

October 8, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

What’s Up With That?: I’ll tell ya what’s up. Men don’t play with dolls. That’s why we look and keep it moving.

By joe

October 8, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Everybody: stop playing games and just be real! No wonder why you are all alone or get burned over an over. There are plenty of nice people to match up with other nice people out there. Just don’t settle. Let the players and beyotchs pair off and cancel each other out.

By For Real

October 8, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Ared I would like to offer my services to help bridge that gap between your current dude and the next dude.

Check One:

By Happily married!

October 8, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

I’m not sure I qualify for a dating blog, I’m very happily married - but I used to date!

I noticed this phenomenon also - I was always nice to guys and my friends who were demanding and inconsiderate seemed to not only get forgiven for all these things, but rewarded for it. It just wasn’t my personality and I did wonder about it. I think it’s the rule about you want what you can’t have. If the women acted like they could care less about a guy, he wanted her more - the thrill of the chase so to speak.

But don’t worry - the right guy will find you! While I’m happily married several of my more demanding friends are on their second or third marriages and still not happy.

By Dan

October 8, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

@WUWT

So if you see a single dude that you are getting that “tingly” feeling from….do you approach?

Not with the “Hey wanna catch this corner for a quickie?” But with, I kinda like your style would like to know a lil about you, here’s my number?”

Keep waiting on the approach, and you may wait a lifetime…

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 2:08 PM | Link to this

Why thank you For Real. It’s glad to see so many fine gentlemen willing to help!

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

ah, ForReal is Krusty’s a real burger joint?

TG jus got knocked the f out!

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Cee All’s well that ends well… and the c** crowed thrice. LOL

Binford We all talk about attitudes and not taking crap and respecting yourself, but does anyone find it interesting that a human’s hard wiring pushes them towards the strongest “breeder” (usually looks based),

Sounds like you’ve got some confidence issues. You’re right about the strongest breeder but that ain’t only about looks. You’ve got to carry yourself like a M-A-N, meaning… put some air in your chest, stand up straight, give and demand respect, and handle your business.

I can say that ‘cause I’m a regula lookin’ dude, and I do aight. LOL

By Wise Diva

October 8, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

WOW, sassy mouth? haven’t heard that one in a while.

No woman ever made history by behaving

By Poppa Grande

October 8, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

Kym

There was a reason that the line was about 30 deep…lol But I understand. My wife usually gets the funnelcake, then she is sugared up like a kid.

I know Hines is probably harder on himself for dropping passes than anyone else could be. After all, that is how he feeds his family. However, he has hauled in more passes that he has dropped. That is why he will be in Canton when all is said and done. If Stallworth and Swann are in there, so should he ..He has more receptions they they do

Leggs

Perry is a little less than 2 hours south of Atlanta, pass Macon.

By Jamoca

October 8, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

…while darting thru the door (like Kramer)…w/ my box of strawberry chex mix in hand…then stops to take a close look at the perfectly-shaped little square, right before popping one in my mouth

Sup witcha’ Classic Cee ? You good, Mit’ Lady? …definitely sounds that way :-)

Good Afternoon, ya’ll…

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

Thank you. Sounds like fun.

By For Real

October 8, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

What’s Up With That Attractive, single and nice. That’s cool. Do you like cake?

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 8, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

@BK…NOPE I DONT CONDONE HITTING A WOMEN..but choking yes….lol

@diva…yea sassy mouth…..you know the type that likes to pop there bubble gums just for spit

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

What’s up Speaking for myself, I’m a very nice girl and an attractive one, and I’m quite single. Most men will look, but will not approach.

If you ain’t looking friendly and approachable don’t expect quality dudes to be lining up; don’t matter how good you look or how phat that azz is, dudes about the business ain’t even trying to be bothered with all’at extra. See… right now, it’s too many of yoll out there with the fugged up attitudes and the odds just ain’t that great.

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

Blue All’s well that ends well… and the c* crowed thrice.*

Whew-wee, somebody sound wo’ out!!…that’s still good though.

Heck, i always want more men to women in my household. So if God ever see fit for me to have anutha…let it be male-chile. *sometimes i can’t stand my own estrogen. Lol

By Dan

October 8, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

@WD

No woman ever got knocked out for behaving, either

Dan reiterates that he does not advocate violence against women, really old people and children under 2.

But I will push a smart azz 53 YO down some stairs to get that “act right”,

buss a 3YO in the throat or pop ‘em on that collarbone,

and I may yet have to shake a chick to sleep one day….

By For Real

October 8, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

Ared That’s how my mamma rised me.

Cee I don’t know it looks like a Krusty’s.

For Real now looking up Wise’s mis-behaving skirt and stop shaking your knee.

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

PoppaG Don’t get me wrong I love Hines(Forrest Park give it up!!) but he and Ben give me mini heart attacks when they do that not to mention my ff points…but I know thats the game and you cant catch them all. Yeah he is Canton bound for sure…and he makes this nation fan proud. Oh yeah and tell him to tell Tomlin he is doing a great job! Love his emotion during the game.

Now waving my terrible towel GO STEELERS GO!!!

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

Moca i’m doing better right now. We’re slow with the numbers today and i decided to not allow my mind to idle. So here i am bloggin’.

What up?

By SexyCool - 10.18.72

October 8, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

rell…choke me and i’ma put on a pot of grits for dinner…lol…

By The Truth

October 8, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Bk did she get dropped or what? There was no volumn though. I wonder what she said. LOL

Melo gotta co-sign your 148. Just playing the game means you lost. If the dude can’t decide now he won’t later. Why? You already accepted the drop down.

Ared personally, if I was feeling a chick and she didn’t know if I was it I wouldn’t be going on vacation with her. That’s a nogo. I can get screwed over by anybody. Won’t accept it from somebody I care for.

Jams whats up woman? Talky Talky

By Binford2K8

October 8, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla

There is no lack of confidence or ability to “man up” here. My friends say I am possibly the most picky man this side of the Mississippi who they sit there befuddled when I break up with a woman who they think fits inside my “box”.

But I took a bunch of psychology and sociology classes in college and find fascination with human behavior. So when I conducted studies/researched/observationally learned this kind of stuff - you would be surprised that if you plotted it on a bell curve, it DOES work that way.

Hundred of examples that I’ve come across support what I’ve stated earlier. So my next question is: If there is a creator, did it create this intentionally or did it evolve it to this?

Putting bravado on a blog is one thing - the world in it’s practical application is another.

By Jamoca

October 8, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

Also if you are attractive and have bad attitude or spirit/heart most people don’t want to be around you.

That reminds me of Big Ma…while she’s sitting on her sofa in the “front room” and “shelling peas”…saying: “That woman gots some nasty ways about herself, I don’t care how cute she “thank” she is”….

I say: Big Ma?…Gawd don’t like ugly, huh?

Big Ma say: …and he ain’t too crazy ‘bout the pretty…or else somebody need to come n’ whoppp’ her @$$ and flip her ugly behind…INSIDE OUT! (and then she bust out laughin’ at herself)…lol! She was something else…

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

I think I’ve found my halloween costume.

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41W6CEQV15L.SS500.jpg

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

Keep a smile on your face and a song in your heart! I’m constantly approached just don’t feel like buying just yet.

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

regarding For Real’s Krusty Burger joint…

I always say, parents teach your kids at home, or the streets/law will teach them. One way or the other, the lesson WILL be learned.

That youngin’, for the rest of her life, will be extremely careful about what she says to anybody else.

By SexyCool - 10.18.72

October 8, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

truth…i passed along your message…

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 8, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

If you ain’t looking friendly and approachable don’t expect quality dudes to be lining up; don’t matter how good you look or how phat that azz is, dudes about the business ain’t even trying to be bothered with all’at extra. See… right now, it’s too many of yoll out there with the fugged up attitudes and the odds just ain’t that great.

yea what he said…..these air head broads kill me with i am cute and nice why no one want me…ummm lets see…out in public you think because someone says hi they trying to marry you…..YOUR ARSE IS MESSY AS HELL…meaning you use your car like a moving garabage can or bedroom closet….at home you pile dishes in your sink…etc etc……ummmm you have do many rules when it comes to sex…meaning all the things you not doing to or for him…but you want him to do er thing….you are lazy by nature..so your idea of fun is going to the store for ice cream and back home to sit in bed…..lets see ummmm you have one girlfriend and a bunch of male friends or no girlfriend at all and a bunch of male friends…everything always happens to you and its never your fault…i.e. victim mentality…ummmm you just an overall sour person…list could go on…

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

I can get screwed over by anybody. Won’t accept it from somebody I care for.

Truth, you’ve screwed over plenty of women you’ve cared for. LOL

There is a risk when you are dating, especially before you get to the exclusive part. All signs seem to point we’re moving in the right direction, but until the trigger is pulled I accept things for what they are. I’m empowered to walk at anytime.

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

uchem…Moca…only Showty-ro’ on the corner of Glenwood and Wesley Chapel get to call me Mit’Lady, k? n/r. Plus, you gotta be wearing dark sunglasses and driving a tricked-out 300, MonteCarlo, or Escalade while saying mit’lady or baby-girl.

I swear they’re gonna get better!!!

By Poppa Grande

October 8, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

Kym

Even though, I am not a Steelers fan. I can admit that the one thing that the Rooney can do is find a coach. Al Davis has hired more coach since 2000 than the Rooneys have hired since 1970. They had to see something in Tomlin to hire him.

Foots Last I spoke to Hines: he, Simone and Jaden (his son) were good. That has been a minute though. You asked about him the other day He has a bar called the Locker Room in Pittsburgh. I haven’t been. I’m not a big fan for Pennsylvania period. Watching CNN this morning made me like it even less…:(

By What's Up With That?

October 8, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the feedback. I should adjust what I said. Men DO approach, but they are ones that I have no interest in, and no matter how much I give the cold shoulder, the more they latch. I’ve been followed everywhere from the church to the grocery store.

Now, if there’s a guy that I’m interested in talking to, we may smile and give eachother the eye, but that’s as far as it goes.

Guys, can you explain that?

By Wise Diva

October 8, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

Love the Ike Turner school of thought, so sexy! I only meant that “sassy” is all relative, and I think it is needed, appropriate, and justified when being disrespected.

By Binford2K8

October 8, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

*By What’s Up With That? *

I can theorize on it: You think the guys that approach you are not of your “level”, yet the men on the level you seek don’t see you as on their “level”.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ladder_theory

It is satire, but has some truth in it.

By Dan

October 8, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

@WUWT

You bullshytin’

Explaination enough?

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 8, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

@WUWT….Yo regardless you putting out bad vibes….you not TOO CUTE to be approached….i mean i do get approached by people i dont find desirable but does that mean i diss them…no i just give em a lil convo and excuse myself….i mean dayum and just because you might finally meet someone that lites your fire…have you ever stop to think you may not lite his…and he may use to get that 4 month backlog off…i mean come down from your palace babe and drank some of this reality in the streets….

By The Truth

October 8, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Ared thats why I dont want it to happen to you.

By For Real

October 8, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

Truth Krusty Burger was the sound.

I think it is needed, appropriate, and justified when being disrespected. Being disrespected is relative too cause you ain’t said nothing about me looking up your skirt.

For Real now checking the calendar to make sure it’s Tuesday.

By Dan

October 8, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

@Binford

That look like something abc wrote.

By What's Up With That?

October 8, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

No falsities here, Dan. There’s a great song by the singer Basia that you ought to listen to (“If You Only Knew”).

Thanks, Binford! Rell, you made me laugh out loud! Actually, I do give a very nice ‘no thank you’, but if it doesn’t work (and it usually doesn’t), I then have to be cold.

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Truth, thanks for your concern. Trust me, I know where the door is if it comes to that point. Eyes are wide open.

By For Real

October 8, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

Now, if there’s a guy that I’m interested in talking to, we may smile and give eachother the eye, but that’s as far as it goes.

Guys, can you explain that?

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Good ole Al Davis…why any coach would want to play for his crazy tail I will never know.

Poppa G I have never been to Pittsburgh I actually became a Steelers fan because my son’s father was a Bengals fan…so just to spite him. LMAO My son poor baby he has a Chad J. jersey and wants a Troy P. jersey.

When the Steelers play the Bengals he just claims whoever wins.

Okay what happen in Pennsylvania I am about to start boycotting all news stations again.

By RELL - 10/15/72

October 8, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

@WD

Love the Ike Turner school of thought, so sexy! I only meant that “sassy” is all relative, and I think it is needed, appropriate, and justified when being disrespected.

HOW MUCH SHOULD A MAN TAKE….IS MY DUTY TO TAKE ALL YOU GOING TO SAY AND NOT RETURN THE FAVOR….HOW MUCH SHOULD A MAN TAKE?…ike turner was an abuser…i am talkin about someon pushed to far….but again women like the melodrama….i guess you black women need a free pass to pop off at the gums guess that the new thing for all these independent women out here

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Cee So if God ever see fit for me to have anutha…let it be male-chile.

I’ll tell you, I prayed HARD for mine; went kind of like, “Lord, YOU know that I really want a boy, and I’m gon’ thank you before hand, because I know that you’re going to work this one for me.” And when the chick looked at that ultrasound and said it’s a boy, I asked her if she was sure and she said, “Yeap… it’s right here” while circling his johnson. I walked out of that joint and almost cried.

Truth There was no volumn though. I wonder what she said. LOL

Mayne, I think For Real’s skit would be pretty accurate.

Cee only Showty-ro’ on the corner of Glenwood and Wesley Chapel get to call me Mit’Lady, k? n/r. Plus, you gotta be wearing dark sunglasses and driving a tricked-out 300, MonteCarlo, or Escalade while saying mit’lady or baby-girl.

…and these are the types of dudes linin’ up for these young bytchy broads, that nice chicks complain that they ain’t gettin’.

NRO i mean come down from your palace babe and drank some of this reality in the streets….

LOL That was slick right there. ^^^

By Jamoca

October 8, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

Ohhhh, Bellevedieeeerrre….come heeeyah bowaay…LOL! Sup Blue ?…was goin’ on witcha, mayne? I see you all got a little rain there…

LOL!!! @ Cee …chick, I was only encouraging those of us who are trying so hard, but still don’t seem to get it…so “we” continue to practice…ha! Ummmm…whatcha’ got in that tote bag of yours? That chex mix just “amped up” the munchies… just looka all these pnaple N&L wrappers…sigh

Was hapnin’ Truth ?

By Gets who's back ATTENTION WHOR3

October 8, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

I see the somethings never change……..same deal, different day. smh!

By Gets who's back I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3

October 8, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

I see the somethings never change……..same deal, different day. smh!

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

PoppaG

I did read how AIG pimped the American people though. The asked for a 85 billion dollar bailout and then took $440,000 for a executive golf outing and spa treatments at St Regis in LA. $23,000 spent on spa treatments alone.

By Poppa Grande

October 8, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Okay what happen in Pennsylvania I am about to start boycotting all news stations again.

Nothing that the news stations did. They just showed some campaign workers out and about. Since Pennyslvania is a swing state (since McCain has all but given up in Michigan).

One lady told a campaign worker that she just couldn’t vote for “that black boy”. She wasn’t afraid to say it. There are many others that feel that same way and won’t say it.

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Jamoca Ohhhh, Bellevedieeeerrre….come heeeyah bowaay…LOL!

You stoopid!

By I HATE ATTENTION W*******!!

October 8, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

**THe REgular I know it all BLOGGERS are still here. And they wonder why they can not get a date. No one can ever tell your nappy headed hard headed women nothin..Give it up fellaz! They are roasted out…

By I HATE ATTENTION W*******!!

October 8, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

THe REgular I know it all BLOGGERS are still here. And they wonder why they can not get a date. No one can ever tell your nappy headed hard headed women nothin..Give it up fellaz! They are roasted out…

By Wise Diva

October 8, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

oh goodness, I was referring to Dan’s comments: But I will push a smart azz 53 YO down some stairs to get that “act right”,

buss a 3YO in the throat or pop ‘em on that collarbone,

and I may yet have to shake a chick to sleep one day*

Rell, I am sure he was being facetious, and so was I. Thanks for your response go, it proves my point about sassy being relative

By For Real

October 8, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

Kym How do you expect them to right the ship with rough ebows?

By The Truth

October 8, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

Fellas, I knew dam well i wans’t the only one not willing to listen to that bs. My fellow Ike’s make me proud.

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

I walked out of that joint and almost cried.

Blue that is cute…you was praying for real-serus ‘bout jr. Ha ha, luv it!

One of my gurls has 3 boys and with her husband, that chick doesn’t ever have to do much when it comes to her cars, yard and trash. i jus took my trash out this morning, in the rain fussin’ cause my boy wasn’t dressed.

and these are the types of dudes linin’ up for these young bytchy broads, that nice chicks complain that they ain’t gettin’.

How come? That’s ^^^ how come. Cause when you’re always nice they’ll get real hood with it. And they wanna see if they can swoop/punce a nice gurl’s and run game. But then when Classic get’wit ‘em they are like….auuuwww Mit’lady, where you from? And I’m like; Yea, gthoh.

Respect

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

Moca i don’t tote bag, i handbag it playa! <— are you? Now&Laters would be a great fix right now. Yes, banana flavor.

By Wise Diva

October 8, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

Somebody needs to take a valium, it’s not that serious, or is it?

By Poppa Grande

October 8, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

Kym

There are many parts to AIG. Not all of it was part of that bailout. The actual insurance portion of the company was doing ok. We represent some of their companies here. So, did the law firm that I worked for. My friends brother in law works for them and explained it. They keep them separate. Oxendine (insurance commissier here in GA) keeps a close eye on them here in GA to make sure that money doesn’t mix. Then you have misappropriation of fund issues. Since gov’t prohibited them from mixing the funds, the gov’t felt obliged to help them.

For example, The Harford (that you see advertised on TV with the Elk/Deer/horned animal) is one of their companies.

They are huge. I’m not defending them. But, they aren’t the only ones.

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

I Hate No one can ever tell your nappy headed hard headed women nothin..

Cain’t speak on the nappy, but I’m always telling this one chick that she’s hard-headed like a mugg. But she swears up and down that it’s me. LOL

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

For Real LMAO!! There is always Vaseline.

If I just asked the American people to bail me out I would think they would want to choose a more fiscally responsible place to do it..than dropping that kind of cash at a luxury spa. They could have had a meeting at the Marriott for way less.

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

ForReal, today is WEDNESDAY!

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

PoppaG I know they are not the only ones I was just cracking up at the image of these exes making decision on fixing the problems over 18 holes of golf and brews.

If I make this hole we will go with plan A, if Jim makes it then we go with plan B

As for the comments on Obama well what can you say..people have their beliefs…and if she has been in that state of mind for life no need to expect change now.

I saw a bunch of McCain/Palin folks at the fair along with Obama supporters too.

Funniest t-shirt by far was I am voting for the Old Guy and the Hot Chick

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Truth Fellas, I knew dam well i wans’t the only one not willing to listen to that bs. My fellow Ike’s make me proud.

…I ain’t advocating laying hands on a chick but a lot of women, especially in the south, will get real lippy with a dude, and some will even try to go with the hands. It’s getting worse and worse, and some of these broads are deserved of the beatdown that they’re getting. Personally I just want yo azz gone… said like loan.

By Jamoca

October 8, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

Cee I think I’ll pass on the ‘nana N&L’s…don’t like em; they taste like canned milk w/ extra sugar to me…lol! Tote bag/ handbag, point is you keep snacks handy, ‘speshally N&L’s…like grandma with the peppermints in church… you know why she passing those things around…

Blue Cain’t speak on the nappy Why not?…yo’ girl got “kitchen” back there?…LMAO! Since you pay close attention to a woman’s hair, then I suspect you’d be familiar with the term (kitchen)… but I guess it would be safe to say….a hard head make a soft @ssss, and if you’re directing this scenario towards your SO…then I bet you’re appreciating her “hard-headedness”, huh? …just playin’

By For Real

October 8, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

Kym You don’t understand how hard it is at the 30,000 ft. level. They are actually saving money by going to the spa. You obviously don’t know what ashy elbows does to a $500 shirt.

Leggs That’s not what Wise’s boy-shorts says.

Truth I believe in beating kids and some chicks azz. Hellz I beat mines while listening to the blues.

Chick: For Real I’m tired of yo azz always trying to tell me what the fugg to do.

For Real: Starts singing If You Think You Lonely Now

Chick starts to weep.

By Poppa Grande

October 8, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

I was just cracking up at the image of these exes making decision on fixing the problems over 18 holes of golf and brews

If you only knew how many times that I’ve been with a client and an attorney at the Cheetah over lunch and talking about case strategy, its actually funny when I think back at it.

Talking about bringing a breach of contract claim while Tiffany is on the stage in all of her glory.

Alluvia (the restaraunt inside the Cheetah) actually has some good food.

I was with a sole practioner then. The big law firms don’t bring paralegals along with clients. However, I really got some hands on experience with the sole practioner. There was just a secretary, a paralegal (me), and an attorney.

By The Blogger formerly known as Kym

October 8, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

For Real

I see and the horror of crusty heels in 200.00 socks or the discomfort of lower back pain passing your Black Amex over the counter to the salesperson.

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

Moca…me either. My cuz gave me a pack of banana last week and the state i was in, i didn’t notice which falvor until she said they were banana. I was already smacking with everybody else.

For Real ‘n ‘em aint gon lay no chic out. I don’t know why they tryin’ to pull on the domestic violence tap. I thought them fools was a “lover not a fighter”.

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

OMG, Ok ForReal, that one went right over my head. Gotcha! You silly!

By Jamoca

October 8, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

Cee I’m so glad to hear/learn that you’re in good/better spirits today, just try to keep your mind from drifting into “Idle Mode” on the way home… a little pick-me-up music you say …betta reach for Rob Bass…”It Takes Two”…you thought I forgot about that, didn’t you?! LOL I laugh everytime I think about it, girl…

Ya’ll be safe out there.

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli, how’s the martial arts (judo I think) coming along?

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Jamoca …yo’ girl got “kitchen” back there?…LMAO! Since you pay close attention to a woman’s hair,

Naah slim, my girl ain’t got on pots-n-pans in the kitchen; and that goes for the back-of-the-neck kitchen as well as the “sink” kitchen. I don’t play dat.

By Cemeeli

October 8, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

…and it’s takes TWO to make it outta site…it take two to make a thing got right…now Moca, you aint right.

Leggs That’s kimmie who’s using her legs to throw people into the middle of next week, not me. supposingly its good for strength, hmm

Me, i’m strength training my spirit.

By Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 8, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

I am entering at the end of the discussion, but had a moment and thought I would throw my two cents in.

In my book, only nice girls/women will do for anything beyond a wild evening. Sassy is fine, but show me an “attitude” and I’ll show you the door. Self confidence, in men and women, is necessary, but to be bytchy…nope. Personally, I am attracted to a women who is strong, yet trusting enough to be vulnerable, soft, and a lady.

By the way, Yahoo called Atlanta the number one singles city last week. There are plenty of nice women, and plenty of bytches so all should be happy ;-).

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

I’ve been having brain farts all day today. Thanks Cemeeli.

By MELO

October 8, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

I have been a patron of Oldschoolsaturday for a minute.And i know and appreciate a quality chic,nicely dressed,bossom up front and confident when i see one!!However,lately,the quality of ladies thaat are attending the shows and the pics on the website are less than stella.Whats up with that??

By Blue_Kolla

October 8, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

Leggs I’ve been having brain farts all day today.

Well at least they don’t stank, as opposed to Foots who poots (YR). She be killin’ mofo’s in the office with them silent but deadlies.

Peace out’choll…

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

Enjoy life!

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

the quality of ladies thaat are attending the shows and the pics on the website are less than stella.

melo - Ouch! My girls and I are on the website, but we looked hot tho. ;-)

By Leggs

October 8, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

ARed, you gave Rell a headsup!!!

By Angie

October 8, 2008 5:04 PM | Link to this

Nice can be interchangeable with “wanting to please, badly”. The guy just has to get that out of her, which is the case with all women.

yep!

By Wise Diva

October 8, 2008 5:09 PM | Link to this

Thanks everyone, have a safe and wonderful night!

By AmazonRed

October 8, 2008 5:12 PM | Link to this

Leggs, you’d have to know what I looked like and go thru about 1000 pics to find me. LOL

By Angie

October 8, 2008 5:13 PM | Link to this

ared lmao! are you dating J? lol. he fed me the same line. and it’s been two years right? you know where the door is …