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Friday, October 3, 2008
Seeking your parents’ qualities in your mate?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
We’ve all heard that many women seek men who remind them of their father. Likewise, men may want a woman who embodies characters of their mom.
In my case, sure — I want a guy who is hard-working, affable, successful and good; the basic qualities that describe Dad. I’ve also found myself judging a man by the most ridiculous things when they don’t jive with my dad’s skills. For one, when going on vacation, my dad can pack a trunk like it’s a Tetris game. Just leave your bags on the curb because he’s got it under control, and frankly, likes it that way. (I once had a guy help me load up my car by basically throwing things in a messy pile. I won’t lie - it made an impression, but not a good one. I kept seeing him anyway; it wasn’t That big of a deal.)
That said, I’m looking for someone vastly different than my Dad in other ways. I want a partner who is more curious about the world than my father, someone who maybe isn’t such a sporty “man’s man” and likes participating in philosophical debates or gardening. Still, my ideal man is like Dad where it counts most.
Do you find yourself judging your partner by your parents’ characteristics? Is it because that touch of home makes us feel better about the relationship potential? What of your parents’ qualities do you hope to find in a partner?
Happy Friday!
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