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Monday, September 15, 2008
Stick a fork in her, she’s “done.”
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
This is a friend-story, once removed. A friend of my roommate recently moved to Africa for her job, a stint that she expects to last at least a year. “Sherry” is single, childless, and 46 years old.
When I first learned of Sherry and her singledom, I asked my buddy if Sherry had moved a lot in her life, preventing her from being able to settle down in one place, much less with one person.
Nope, not the case. In fact, Sherry took the leap to go to Africa after 15 years in a major metropolitan city. In that time, she had only dated one guy for more than a year…the rest just didn’t work out, she said.
She spent her 20s and 30s wishing, hoping and waiting for love to happen, for marriage to happen, for kids to happen. But it didn’t. Now in her 40s, she said she finally has come to peace with the reality that it may never happen for her. In her words, stick a fork in her, “she’s done.”
I’m not sure whether to feel bummed or empowered. It’s easy for our friends and mothers to tell us that “it’ll happen one day,” but the truth is, it may not. No matter how gorgeous or smart or successful we are, maybe love doesn’t find everyone. And who is to blame? The odds, or ourselves?
How many of you singles in the MIA world are still wishing, hoping and praying for love? And how many of you are at peace with the possibility that you may always fly solo?
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