Misadventures in Atlanta

By Lady J

August 27, 2008 8:20 AM | Link to this

Morning All Great topic!!

My personal message/advice to bitter singles? GET OVER YOURSELVES! No one has the market cornered on being hurt. Remember, you chose the person that pummeled your heart. So next time be more selective, and choose better.

so true snd there is nothing else to really add to that bc we all know from the start what is up!

Have a great day!

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 8:29 AM | Link to this

Morning…i’m struggling on 3 hrs of sleep

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 8:40 AM | Link to this

I have been that person and have definitely dated that person…a time or two. I remember coming to the realization that it makes no sense to keep trying to meet men when my view or opinion of them was skewed. Just made matters worse.

There’s this guy that works here that has been bitter for like two years now. Every woman here feels the blow of his anguish. If you let him say it every woman has ulterior motives.

By Dan

August 27, 2008 9:05 AM | Link to this

@WD

…takes that one patient person that breaks down the walls that have been put up.

^^And woe be unto that man/woman

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

G’Morning! So I was out in Dublin, Ireland last week out on Grafton Street (bourbon street of Dublin) and this cute girl was standing outside having a cigarette. We start talking. Her b/f just left her that day and WoW was this chick Bitter! She was saying about how she just wants to go to New York and get away, etc etc. All this Drama that my 4 Guinness drinks at the time couldn’t solve! She made this comment about why Irish girls go after these Americans…then I was like “ummm ok…” She realized she kind of offended me at that point and changed subject. I said, “hope it works out” and went back to party.

I’ve met many women whether its on a plane or train or coffee shop or bar…where you make small conversation and they just treat me like Dr Phil and tell me all their damn issues! Buzz Kill…haha…at that point I’m moving on!

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

But you know Dan after you have been hurt a few times your trust in the opposite sex generally wanes. Even after your trust has been restored it usually takes a really special and patient person to win your heart.

The problem is a lot of good people get jilted while we regain the proper level of trust.

By AmazonRed

August 27, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

Morning all.

Good advice to the bitter singles WiseDiva.

I’m definitely not a bitter dater. Life is too short to be bitter. As with any failed relationship, thank them for the life lesson and move on. No need to punish the next for sins of the last. How do you ever move forward that way?

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Her b/f just left her that day and WoW was this chick Bitter!

Obviously so. 99% of the human race would be a bit sour the day of a breakup.

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

Well Atl Guy, There might be something in your spiritual being that gives off the let me be your angel. Instead of the I want you to be my angel. LOL I had to mess wit cha.

I’ve met some bitter women and one in particular very bitter guy. I love him like a brother. We worked together for years before I got laid off from that job, but to this day he’s still angry that he has relationships that always end because of what she did. He never owns up to anything and you’re not going to get a word in edgewise. Same with a few women I’ve met.

By AmazonRed

August 27, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

Her b/f just left her that day and *WoW was this chick Bitter! She was saying about how she just wants to go to New York and get away, etc etc.

ATL Guy - Geez, she just got dumped, that day! That didn’t seem bitter, she seemed upset. A getway to NY seems healthy enough to me.

How did you expect her to react?

By Dan

August 27, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

Thus the woe…

The person that stays to take all that anger, all that unresolved frustration, and still stick around…kinda has to be a weak willed person. And even after the person has gotten over the “hurt”, “anger” and “bitterness” that relationship is completely unbalanced.

The person that stayed through it, loses all Hand, forever.

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

The measure of bitterness IMO portrays the level of love and trust you had for the person. It is human nature to hurt after being hurt. However you have to eventually let it go and move on. But to say that you have never been resentful after a breakup says that you have never truly loved. Or maybe never even been loved for that matter.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

Of course I would expect her to be bitter the day he left her. The point was, I wasn’t expecting that reaction from her at a pub in Dublin with live music going on in the background and everyone celebrating.

It just caught me off guard. My reply was “oh, I’m sorry to hear that” If someone makes small talk with me and I have something depressing on my mind, I don’t think I’d bring it up with a stranger. Maybe sometimes people just need someone to talk to.

Regardless, I’m not blaming her for being bitter at all! I can understand. But, people who are bitter tend to drop that negative energy on others…pity parties aren’t my Style

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

I’ve been bitter before, but I tend to be bitter towards the person who’s caused me the strife. I try really hard not to let that bitterness roll over into the next dating situation. I, DO however, try to pay attention to any red flags that resemble bad behavior or habits of the previous SO. In regards to my most recent ‘breakup’, i’ve already done the ‘I’m Tipsy So Imma Cuss Yo Azz Out’ Phone call. It always feels good at the moment to just let all that pent up anger out and not have too much memory of all the bad nasty things you said by the next day. LOL! As of right now, I’m not really sure which phase I’m in…I’m not angry..not sad…but am hopeful for a better situation

I need to super glue my eyelids open.

By Dan

August 27, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

I don’t think that’s a fair assessment. People grieve in their own times and in their own ways.

I’ve seen that fact borne out in real situations like deaths in the family, loss of jobs, et al.

To say that becuase someone isn’t resentful means whatever, isn’t entirely accurate. Maybe that person has learned to process their emotions differently, or better than that, places that relationship in perspective.

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

But Dan it’s not always a woe. A person that is too trusting is just as bad or even worse IMO as the person who doesn’t trust at all.

Sometimes our actions are merely precaution. It doesn’t mean that the person wants to sit and cry you a river at every meeting. It just means that it may take a little longer for that person to open up to you. To fully trust you.

As I stated earlier, when the bitterness is so new and deep-seated that it clouds your judgment you shouldn’t even be dating.

By SlimDiva

August 27, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

Good morning Folks!

SlimOne…that’s me MOST days…LOL!!

On topic…a few years ago, I mete a guy who had recently divorced due to his wife’s infidelity. He was extremely bitter and felt that every woman would cheat on him. I removed myself from that situation.

The new person in my life does not have to pay the consequences for what Mr. Navyman did. I realize that he’s different in a lot of ways. In the beginning I was hesitant…NOT bitter, but I eventually came around and accepted him for who he is!

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

Dan when things started getting serious between my husband and myself, I was no longer bitter, but my heart was not freely accessible. And he knew that. However I didn’t pour my anguish out onto him. It just took time for me to fully open my heart up for him to enter. He, maybe not even being aware…I said maybe, got me to peel away that steel box around my heart on layer at a time. And we were having fun. Dating.

By AmazonRed

August 27, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

To say that becuase someone isn’t resentful means whatever, isn’t entirely accurate. Maybe that person has learned to process their emotions differently, or better than that, places that relationship in perspective.

Dan - I agree. I think certain people will never react in certain ways because that is simply not their character. Some folks will be more sensitive, others not so much.

But I will admit I don’t think I’ve experienced core shaking love. So who knows…

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

Atl Guy What else did you do that weekend? Inquiring minds wanna know.

By Dan

August 27, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

I feel you. And congrats to you and your husband.

But for every Micheal Jordan there is a “Hot Sauce”. Your story, while inspirational, is not necessarily indicative of what happens.

I’m not denouncing or advocating either position, I’m merely stating that the chances that two people can go through that process and they both come out the other side together, is not likely.

But, like your tale of romance, there are always possibilities.

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

Dan I said to say that you never feel bitter is a stretch.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

ATL Lady This past weekend was kind of low key. I helped a friend move to Midtown on Saturday, went to the gym, & pretty much relaxed. I just got back from being in Europe past 3 weeks, last week. So catching up on things back here in the “A”.

This weekend, plan to party it up FO SHO

Whats new with you!?

By Dan

August 27, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

@Raqi

I’ve personally never been bitter about the demise of my relationships.

While I have experienced love in a number of ways, when that love is gone, for me it’s a matter of processing those initial raw emotions and then going on about my issue.

In the scheme of things to come and things unseen that person just wasn’t meant to be there for what is to come. I don’t begrudge them any emotion, I don’t even dislike them.

I understand that when a seminal event occurs in my life that will require the presence of friends, family and/or a SO, those people will be there.

I like to use the old Shakespeare “all the World’s a stage” metaphor. That is that in “my’ play the actors playing the roles will change, and I can (and have to) accept that fact, because my part is already written.

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Atl Guy Work, work and more work! I blink and the weekend is gone. I’m going to party it up too this weekend since we’re going to have an extra day. I will be getting my BBQ. Trying to tie up some last minute plans, but definitely will be out and about rain or shine.

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Dan you missed where I said I was not bitter at the time. So it is not that uncommon. There are plenty of women that are not walking around with open hearts but are actively and happily dating.

But thank you all the same. :-)

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

ATL-Lady What is your Scene for Nightlife??? I would ask your age, but wouldn’t expect for you to tell me! I’m 26 and will hit lounges, bars, clubs in Midtown usually. If I’m out with my boyz, probably just hit Buckhead some Dive Bars and throw some beers back and watch girls try wayyyy to hard to impress us!

Where do you Frequent?

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

“…that person just wasn.t meant to be there for what is to come.”

Dan the problem is we usually don’t come to that conclusion until after it has ended. The ideal thing would be to refrain from loving someone “just in case” it isn’t meant to be, but that is not realistic.

My relationship with my youngest son’s father should have never been, but it was. I loved him while we were together and hated him when we parted ways. Being ignorant of his double life I treated him as I would have had he come straight. Again like stated earlier, the key to a happy prosperous life to learn to move on. Whether it takes one month or one year, we have to move on.

By M.

August 27, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Great topic Wise. I heard once that the key is to Not dwell on bad experiences, learn from them and move on.

I think if you are dealing with a bitter person, the problems may be deeper. They may just be unhappy about many areas of life, and relationships just set off their negative mood. I think, as Wise said, if someone is patient, then that’s a good thing, but if someone is being patient with you and you are still having your bitter pitty party, they will eventually get tired and bored with you and move on.

By abc

August 27, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

I find that people most often use the word ‘bitter’ as a weapon, calling people that as namecalling. It doesn’t have much specific meaning. If one has some negative feedback that another doesn’t wish to hear, the namecalling commences.

Certainly, everyone who’s taken a chance on love has been burned, to a greater or lesser extent, with greater or lesser frequency. How you react to it is up to you, completely separate to that to which you react. You’ll either react postively, negatively, or somewhere in between, sooner or later.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

You know what Gets me… when I hear people say “my baby’s daddy”. It annoys me to no end. Instead of saying My Baby’s Daddy … might as well say “Donor” because what an insignificant title for someone who fathered your child. I hear this from people and I just feel bad for the kid. People making irrational & uneducated decisions and the child is paying the price.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

August 27, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Oh yes…this topic brougth me out of hibernation!!!

Hell yeah I am Bitter and don’t care if nobody likes it. hey hopefuly it will keep guys away! LOL Maybe I need to step it up!

after you have been hurt a few times your trust in the opposite sex generally wanes. Even after your trust has been restored it usually takes a really special and patient person to win your heart.The problem is a lot of good people get jilted while we regain the proper level of trust.Raqi so very true mami!You get tired of having your heart stomped on. So that is why Ijust say screw it! You know…I am much happier now? I’m not the bitter lonely chick…I am the bitter alone chick. There is a difference.

ARED I guess ATL guy thought she should just brush it off, drink and be merry! LOL

ATL Guy sometimes its easier to talk to a complet stranger. Why do you think people spend so much money for therapy! These are not your loved ones so you could give a rat’s azz if they think you are nuts! Me…I’m a whole other breed!

Slim Pass me the glue when you’re done. I need to do mine too. D*mn slepeing pills leave a sista drowsy as hell!

ATL Guy If I’m out with my boyz, probably just hit Buckhead some Dive Bars and throw some beers back and watch girls try wayyyy to hard to impress us! I have seen these desperate women. Heck I used to have one as a friend. Its so sad. But guys do it too….only in a “I got a fly whip, crib, I’m paid…let me buy us a bottle” type way! Now I will drink what you buy (hey why spend mine when you are dying to spend yours), But I will be so not interested in a guy like that!

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

Morning Shorties…

Atl Lady like you i’ma prolly do more to it to some more family functions as much as i can.

Just heard my 17 year lil cousin? (married into the family, my uncles sisinlaw child) was riding/driving 4wheelers with her boyfriend. The boyfriend was driving the ATV and she was on the back, he tried to ‘jump tracks’ to beat the train across, the train couldn’t stop as quickly and both were killed by the train.

We just say her over the summer…good grief.

By Wise Diva

August 27, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

cracking up @ Staceye, I should have dedicated the post to you, dang!

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

LOL at “bitter” just being a form of name calling. Bitter is as bitter does. Bitter, jaded, cynical…they are all clearly recognizable emotions.

This guy that works here is a trip. He lives to hear of women being jilted in relationships. Although he has not interests in the woman he feels every woman should live in misery as a result of the woman or women that wronged him.

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Atl Guy You’re right. I’m not going to tell you my age :-). Where do I frequent? That’s difficult to say because I try to stay in my lane but have been known to be the resident ‘senior citizen’ at a club like Compound. I like Endenu (sp). I hang out at Intermezzo. I go to Hairston’s, Martini Club, Sambuca’s. I like spoken word and I have been known to go to hole in the wall clubs like Ellery’s.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Staceye you missed my comment about me understanding why she was bitter that day. The reaction caught me off guard.

Its like when you meet someone and say “Hows it Going” they reply “I’m doing freakin Terrible” throws you off. Expecting a doing fine or great. That kind of thing.

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

On topic…especially Miss Staceye: I’ve learned bitterness is in alot of people, but under everyone’s hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

By Willie Dynamite

August 27, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Similac Sorry to hear about that.

By AmazonRed

August 27, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

But guys do it too….only in a “I got a fly whip, crib, I’m paid…let me buy us a bottle” type way! Now I will drink what you buy (hey why spend mine when you are dying to spend yours), But I will be so not interested in a guy like that!

Staceye - I’m so with you on this! LOL

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

ATL Lady Thats cool. Is Compound still open!? Thought they closed or just do event parties. I hit Opera Nightclub, Sutra, Shout, Whiskey Park, Halo Lounge, Front Page News Bar, Loca Luna, & Apres Diem for coffee. Actually, I have the best time always at Velvet Room. Seems less pretentious I guess.

The whole scene is wild to me in this city. You can go to different spots and people are totally different! I’m a young professional, drive a nice car, have a good looking entourage, & career with money behind me. Biggest turn off, the gold digger girls I keep running into. Need to find more girls that have that drive and passion, really enjoy life, but are down to earth also. Just because you look damn good in your dress…doesn’t mean you get my ATM pin number sweetheart.

I see these fake poser guys trying to work this pathetic weak game to girls, its comedy. These girls work the hustle too no doubt. People down to earth with Ambition, where are you!? Haha!

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Thanks WillieD, my uncle was mad and sad… This was his sister inlaw’s only child. I gotta tell my lil one when i pick him up this afternoon. The family is in awe. This reminds me to speak to my other uncle about his daughters and son that have been 4wheeling since 5yrs old he buys them too early and needs too stop the 7year old from being so free will on hers. Last summer she ran over my son with her ATV! I was HOTT but he turned out ok…my family and the kids are big fans of those ATV, mopads.

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

…sorry about my runon sentences…

By mytwocents

August 27, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

Not bitter. A balanced enough combo of idealist & realist that I’m still sweet. And one can only do what’s within their own power to make smart decisions bout who that sweetness is shared with so they don’t turn into Bitter Bob or Bitter Betty… Then when tryna work w/ embittered (could be a word, could be not) folk ya either gonna get drained or see a transference of the illness to you. So as ever, healing must start within.

Staceye In your heart of hearts, do you believe yourself to be truly HAPPY? When left alone w/o all the activities and off the stage and just chillin with you. Just thought about how ppl will say get a hobby or two, and I have only to realize they helped mask my depression only for as long as I was painting that d@m’n pottery or whatever. I wasn’t really happy, just less miserable than… After really dealing tho, luv that stuff.

Cee Sad reminder that tomorrow is not promised. Here’s to doin a lil more livin starting today!

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli those things should only be utilized with proper supervision and in designated areas. My youngest has one but he is only allowed to ride it in an open field down near my brother-in-law. And they made a trail thru a wooded area in the back of his house. Then and only then is he allowed to ride. Never on the street.

By Page1908

August 27, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

LOL @ fake poser guys. ATL Guy lol omg.

By Wise Diva

August 27, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

When I was dating Bitter Boy, he had some serious trust issues because his last girlfriend cheated on him. It became too much work reassuring him. I admit i had little patience for him after the third degree treatment.

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

Atl Guy The Compound is closed. That’s just an example. I love the energy from the under 30 crowd, but I don’t go everywhere they go. The club scene changes all the time. I feel you with the posers. Trust me, that’s at all ages. One day, we’ll meet. One day.

By kimmie

August 27, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Cee - Girl, I’m so sorry for your loss. I remember growing up, our next-door neighbor got himself and his son an ATV and they used to ride all up and down the hill in the neighborhood. My mom strictly would not allow us to ride with them! I have always been scared of riding anything other than a bicycle - would NEVER get on the back of a college boyfriends motorcycle!

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Raqi that’s why i won’t get my son and ATV or mopad. There is no way he could utilize it were we live nor am i skilled about using those things. My kin are allover town (down south) when using there’s bikes and mopads and all.

By Wise Diva

August 27, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

Great article on Living with Borderline Personalities.

By Foots

August 27, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

ATLGuy I’m a young professional, drive a nice car, have a good looking entourage, & career with money behind me. Biggest turn off, the gold digger girls I keep running into. Need to find more girls that have that drive and passion, really enjoy life, but are down to earth also.

If you read what you wrote above, you’ll see why you are attracting gold digger types. You describe your ideal woman in terms of who she is on the inside (someone who has drive, passion, enjoys life, down to earth), but you describe yourself in terms of what you have (nice car, career, money, good looking folks around you). Not one descriptor of who you are on the inside, only what you have. See the disconnect? You’re attracting folks who want a man with a nice car, career, money, and good looking folks around him because that’s what you’re putting out there to describe yourself, whether you realize it or not. Sure you’ll get bites from women looking for that.

Now if you want women to look for what’s on the inside, start describing yourself in terms of who you are on the inside.

If you’re tired of getting the same result, try doing it a different way. Lead with your drive, passion, capacity to enjoy life, and humor instead of your job, car, money, and good looking friends.

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

The only thing worst than dating a bitter being is dating a stoic.

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

What you trying to say WD? :-) Somebody on here need to read that article? j/k lolol

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

mytwo/kimmie - I don’t think they are safe for any child less than 15 years old.

Wise didn’t want to deviate off topic, really. apologize

Okay gang…circle back.

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

Foots I’ll give you a standing hand clap for that post. ^5 lol

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

…sometimes association brings on assimilation. If we hang around bitter friends and people, chances are you will carry/harbor bitterness.

By Foots

August 27, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

That’s terrible news Cee. I’ll send up a prayer for your family.

I don’t know that I’ve been bitter because of the end of a relationship, per se. I get to the point of realizing that it’s over for a reason much faster now, and that each failed interaction gets me closer to the one that will succeed. When things end, I’m still sad and I mourn the loss of the person, the relationship, the plans, the feelings, etc, but I can still see that it was probably for the best.

It takes a while for the sadness to subside, and until then, I try not to date. In the past, I’d date when I thought I was over it, but I could never really connect with the guy because my heart was still with the ex. So indirectly, he’d be paying the price because my heart would be closed to him. Those rebound relationships, I broke off when I realized that I may be doing more harm than good in trying to date while still hurt.

The important thing for me is to give myself enough time to heal and to retrieve my heart from the past person, then proceed into the next relationship like I’d never been sad about the last one.

By Wise Diva

August 27, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Atl Lady, ummm, yup. I ain’t sayin, but I’m just sayin

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

A teacher was reading the story of the ‘Three Little Pigs’ to her class. She came to the part of the story where the first pig was trying to gather the building materials for his home. She read, ‘and so the pig went up to the man with the wheelbarrow full of straw and said: ‘Pardon me sir, but may I have some of that straw to build my house?’

The teacher paused then asked the class: ‘And what do you think the man said?’ One little boy raised his hand and said very matter-of-factly …’I think the man would have said - ‘Well, I’ll be dayumned!! A talking pig!’

The teacher had to leave the room

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

Foots thats a really good analysis. I think you’re on point for the most part. I mentioned those things because those are what the girls see about me right away. Reality, I’m very down to earth…not arrogant at all…talk to anyone…and try to do community service to give back. I have an Atlanta running Group and they are awesome people.

The people I roll with or parties I go to…they are successful, educated, and probably into how they look. Went to this party and probably 80% of the girls there had some kind of Procedure done. When we go to clubs, we go VIP. I am around this crowd. Great People to Party with…wrong people to date!

Its hard to meet girl next door kind of people unless you are at a coffee shop or grocery store. My nightlife scene is excessive and I meet excessive people. That is no Surprise…

By MELO

August 27, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

I’m a young professional, drive a nice car, have a good looking entourage, & career with money behind me hw much money u got boy…hw can we verify that,my sis is looking for a boy like u,dripping with them bills$$$$$…….

By MELO

August 27, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Just because you look damn good in your dress…doesn’t mean you get my ATM pin number sweetheart. lurking is fun…….lol

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

AtlGuy Its hard to meet girl next door kind of people unless you are at a coffee shop or grocery store. My nightlife scene is excessive and I meet excessive people. Sounds like you just dissected your own problem.

By Page1908

August 27, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

ATL Guy, why in the world do you party and club so much? Well, you did say you were 26, so maybe that is why shrugs. I mean, come on. It sounds to me like that is really all you care about and therefore, you are meeting women who are just like you. If you want something different, I’ll go out with you! Sheesh, the club scene is sooo tired, IMO.

By MELO

August 27, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

AtlGuy are u the guy who owns those condos on Atlantic station..or is it ur Dad????????…maybe im confusing u with another blogger…..

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

Melo I’m just saying man, didn’t know you need me to show you proof. Do you not believe me??

Doubt your Sis is looking for a guy like me anyways, just a hunch

By Foots

August 27, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

ATLGuy At least you know that it’s hard to meet the kind of genuine woman you seek when you choose to hang around plastic folks, living a life filled with excessive nightlife. You go to the VIP section, women who want to be in the VIP will follow you. If you popping bottles, you’ll attract women who are interested in drinking champagne off your dime. You actually solved your own problem. You’re not going to meet the kind of woman you seek in those places. But even if you meet a nice woman while being your day to day authentic self, be aware that when she sees that materialistic, party animal, VIP version of yourself, a woman who isn’t into that kind of partying and focus on material things won’t stay in that atmosphere for long.

By Pimp name Demi

August 27, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

I’ve met many women whether it’s on a plane or train or coffee shop or bar…where you make small conversation and they just treat me like Dr Phil…

From my experiences, they just want/need some sex from the first attractive dude that crosses their past. Use their vulnerability to your advantage.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Melo condo in Atlantic Station…wrong person.

Page going to a club or lounge on the weekends is normal I would think. I’m not clubbin every night of the week! Just going out with friends etc. No, thats not all I do, I do work a lot. I’m just not the type to sit at home and watch television. You want to come out with me!?

By MELO

August 27, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

i believe u now….u look monied, even in ur typing and font..have u met the blog’s resident thousandnaire yet? lemme me know so i get u guys acquainted,so u can talk about real estate,wine and the braves…..

By Demi

August 27, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

But you know Dan after you have been hurt a few times your trust in the opposite sex generally wanes. Even after your trust has been restored it usually takes a really special and patient person to win your heart.

Nah, folks just need to work on their problems on their own, before jumping back into the dating field.

By Page1908

August 27, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

ATL Guy, ok, so you are not clubbing every night of the week, but it seems to be a lot of clubbing anyway. If you are into trying different experiences and places, sure, I’d go, why not. Send me your email.

By Demi

August 27, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

The person that stayed through it loses all Hand, forever.

I don’t think the person who you help through the situation really respect you for sticking with them through the storm.

That shyt only happens in movies, lol

By Dan

August 27, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

@Demi

That’s just it.

Some people don’t realize that their still processing that pain.

In that litany of questions asked one of mine is about that last relationship: what, when, et al.

It’s not direct interrogation, but I wanna know, because where a person is in that process, gives me a lot of info.

Like this one chick…moonwalked (literally) right out that conversation…

By Dan

August 27, 2008 12:37 PM | Link to this

@Demi

How could you be respected for putting up with the shyt that you will inevitably take?

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

Page1908 Whats your background…where do you and your girls go? You into lounges or bars instead of clubs? You are early 20’s right? If I remember right

derekatl@hotmail.com

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

August 27, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

Wise you can always dedicate it to me girl!! LOL

ATL Guy Its like when you meet someone and say “Hows it Going” they reply “I’m doing freakin Terrible” throws you off. Expecting a doing fine or great. That kind of thing. See…that is what you get fro assuming! LOL

Cemeeli I used to want that…again, now I says crew it. I’ve done this far without it….keep it movin’! LOL

Mytwocents I am happier with the drama of a relationship. I am always so busy and as tired as may be…it keeps me happy. Performing is like crack to me. I get high on it..and I am fine.

Raqi I am stoic for sure! I will never let you see me cry or let you know that you got to me. If I cry it will be done alone in my own crib!

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 12:54 PM | Link to this

Dan & Demi How could you be respected for putting up with the shyt that you will inevitably take?

I don’t think the person who you help through the situation really respect you for sticking with them through the storm

So how in the world do you all ask for a ride or die chick if you aren’t going to respect her for being there for the dayum rides?

I swear folks know they have two mouths…one on each side of their neck.

By Alvin

August 27, 2008 12:55 PM | Link to this

How could you be respected for putting up with the shyt that you will inevitably take?

Dan LOL, dude I was 21 and still on that, “My love will change this woman”, trip. I didn’t know any better then…Soon as I turned 22, I was a bitter dude with zero love or respect for women…they where just a living toy.

It wasn’t until I turned 26, (when lil’Demi was born) before I killed the poison out of my system.

You live and learn.

If I can over come those feels and my own personal hang-ups, I am sure any one can.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

Foots appreciate your insight. Good Stuff. When we go VIP in the clubs, the Grey Goose is free…girls aren’t drinking off my dime for that reason. Also, I’m really not materialistic. Nice things are great, but if I’m flying coach…I’m not complaining about it. Best dates I’ve been on are relaxed and usually don’t cost much. I go out on the weekends for sure because I work so much during the week. People I hang with do live it up…but why have it any other way. I’m just not looking to meet serious dates at these locations. I’d rather meet them at house parties instead where its more casual.

MELO are you being a Hater!? Haha

By Page1908

August 27, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

ATL Guy, mail call.

By Dan

August 27, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

@Slim

Ride or die is going through things together…

The babes I’m talking about want someone to take their frustrations out on. A disposable dude (or rebound, if you prefer).

Two women, two very different mental states.

By Foots

August 27, 2008 1:05 PM | Link to this

So how in the world do you all ask for a ride or die chick if you aren’t going to respect her for being there for the dayum rides?

Now THAT is a good question!!

I do hear that men want women who will stick with them through thick and thin, the woman who was there before his money was right and he was pushing Tom and Jerry down the street. The woman who loved him even though he had some growing up left to do. That’s ride or die.

Think of that song by Lenny Williams “Cause I Love You”. He loves that girl that much BECAUSE she helped him through a rough time after his woman cheated on him. She put him back together emotionally, taught him to love again. That’s ride or die.

So now, being a Ride or Die chick means that the man won’t respect you when he’s come through on the other side, even though that chick may have pushed him through to the other side??

I may need Blue of 2C to come break down this train of thought.

By Dan

August 27, 2008 1:06 PM | Link to this

@Demi

An analogy:

You work in a factory, you watch cars being assembled, so you know what the process is at each stage.

When you get the the showroom, you’re looking, not at the car, but at the defects (screw loose here, nut not tightened), not that you mean to, but you just “see” them.

By MELO

August 27, 2008 1:11 PM | Link to this

are you being a Hater!? Haha yeah,my sis lost on the jackpot but thats cool………..

By NY2GA, Inc.

August 27, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

My personal message/advice to bitter singles? GET OVER YOURSELVES!

Wise Can we put that statement on a billboard and hang it over in the place where the SoSo Def Records billboard is on 85? Welcome to Atlanta, baby. lol.

^5 to Page 1908 for putting it out there and trying something new.

By mytwocents

August 27, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

I figured I must’ve blacked out and missed how that feat is accomplished, Slim. But it’s a win-win. We don’t stand by—> they have reason to curse us and label us trife. We do stand by—> they have reason to question our rationale and label us weak. Is the moral having fortitude shows lack of? Bartender…

By Foots

August 27, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

ATLGuy When we go VIP in the clubs, the Grey Goose is free…girls aren’t drinking off my dime for that reason.

TO-MAY-TO, TO-MA-TO. Either way, unless you are famous, people pay extra to get into VIP, often a great deal, and women know that, so they hang around VIP, since they assume that people there have money to blow. By the way, nothing is free. If the liquor seems to be free, it’s because you paid for it with admission to VIP. It’s still your dime. TANSTAAFL.

Nothing inherently wrong with living it up. I guess I’m out of my “living it up” stage (if I ever had one) and into my “just being grateful for being alive” stage. For me, there was a point in time where the celebration isn’t just something that happened on the weekend, the celebration was in rejoicing every day that I was able to work, I had a car, I had a job and I was healthy. I can’t just live for the weekend, I have to live for every day, especially since they seem to pass by so fast now. It’s almost September, can y’all believe that?!?

By Dan

August 27, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

@Foots and Slim

When you meet, court, and be with RoD, y’all meet on equal emotional footing. Both heads are in the right space at the same time.

When you meet the bitter babe (or dude, taste specific), you and she are not on equal footing. One has work to still do, the other has done it.

That dynamic creates the inherently unequal relationship. It is movie lore that “she’ll see that he was the one there for her” in the end.

In real life, it don’t work that way. The transfer of anger is done and the person recieving it goes on to infect others in the same manner.

I refer to epidemiology for a reason, a broken heart, hurt feelings, and all that is not a simple personal experience. It is a disease that infects various people at various times.

Ever met someone’s disposable boy/girl friend? They can’t believe that you fell for it, or won’t believe the person has changed. And definitely don’t want to accept that the tranferrance has taken place and that they were the vessel.

By 2CPTG

August 27, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

Foots, I hear ya, gal…I was just gon’ sit back and peep today….lotta y’all had me trippin’…..but ummm, you’re right; I want that chic who was there thru it all!! Them chics who only show up when you’re shining, nah, I cain’t do nothin’ for ‘em, ‘cept what they’re good for; But that one….real ride or die……she’s the one that called the po-po on ya azz….but she’s also the one who bailed you out! She’s the one who put you on…..She’s the one who co-signed for yo bad credit havin azz!…..The one who let you use her ride, and drop her off at work, while you go job huntin…..We know ride or die chics when we see ‘em……

By Alvin

August 27, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

SlimOne Those are to different class of women…one is just ain’t Bish out to use you and the other is a real woman…there when you are on top, rock bottom, and when you are back on top again

That situation only work when you have two equally yoke individuals…A real give and take relationship…not you doing all of the giving and receiving nothing in return. If you with a dude and you are doing all of the giving and getting nothing in return. Just cut your losses and bankhead’s bounce on their a$$!!

Dan well stated!!!

By 2CPTG

August 27, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

Soror….ummm, you know the rules to blog dating, right…..you put it out there, you puttin’ it open for questions, later…..just lettin’ ya know, cause I shole wanna know how this turns out……..

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

Foots you aren’t getting it. I have connections…I don’t pay any kind of VIP admission or whatever you’re thinking. Just want to make that clear, you seem confused by it.

Also, its not just living for the weekends, but I’m so busy during the week, if I’m doing anything with friends, its a dinner maybe or going out running with people. I’m living during the week, its a different kind of living, my weekends I try to have those stress free and fun times. Yeah, hard to believe going into Sept! College Football time baby! Also, go Falcons!

NY2GA lovin the idea to put welcome to Atlanta over SoSo Def board! Shirley Franklin has that digital message coming out of the airport “welcome to Atlanta” haha LUDA!

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

Foots ^5 Just grateful to be alive stage.

Atl Guy What are your hobbies? Do you have any other than the social scene? That could be another avenue to finding that school teacher persona. I admire that you do donate some of your time to the community. Hey, she maybe wearing a toolbelt at the next habitat for humanity project. Can she throw you ontop of her workbench?

By Tazzee

August 27, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Afternoon Folks!

I was bitter for about 3 weeks after my last break up.

Nah, folks just need to work on their problems on their own, before jumping back into the dating field

Demi that is so true but a lot of folks don’t even know they have relationship issues until they get in another relationship. They may think they are ready but then when it’s time to get serious with the relationship they realize that they aren’t. This goes for men and women because I’ve experienced my fair share of bitter dudes.

But I’m no longer in the ‘let me the woman to show him all women aren’t (fill in the blank)’ business, so if I see a dude is projecting his issues from a past relationship on me, then I’m trying to get out of there.

By Wise Diva

August 27, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

Is anyone else digging Jazmine Sullivan right now? Her vid - nice. I think she is supposed to be performing at For Sisters Only.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

ATL-Lady Yeah I mean on weekends try to get out to Piedmont Park, play some ultimate frisbee or football with friends. I have an Atlanta running club, & involved with import custom cars. In reality, I’ve met my ex’s through maybe parties or going out in groups for the most part. Other girls, just fun to party with. I definitely recognize the nightlife scene for what it is

By MELO

August 27, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

Just want to make that clear, you seem confused by it. Foots, i had to laugh at that…….hahaha lol

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

“…equal emotional footing.”

Dan Really?

By Tazzee

August 27, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

Dan/Demi why blame the bitter person? The person that tried to save them, chose them…

This is the way I see it, unless you’re totally clueless you know when you’re messing with a bitter woman. But because of the man’s thrill of the chase - a dude will try to be the one that breaks through the fortress she’s built. This is especially true if the female is very attractive. Dudes say things like they like a woman with some spunk about her or with a little mouth on her.

They see a woman (attractive) cursing some other dude out and make comments like ‘she just ain’t had a man like me in her life’ - I’ve witnessed this many a times. Watched dudes all approach the same female after they’ve seen her rudely decline other dude’s request for a dance. Because in their male ego - they feel they will be the one to get her to say yes.

The club example is the surface of it, but I watch shows like Bridezilla and wonder what fool would go through with it and marry such a witch. It’s the same fool that will be lamenting that all women are evil in a few years.

I’m not saying this is either of you - but in the end what I’m saying is that anyone that got hurt by the bitter babe/dude…you picked them.

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

2C You got me laughing on your def of a ROD chick. lol It’s so true. I had a homeboy who is now married to his lady. Mind you, this chick has hit his azz over the head with a Heineken bottle before and buddy had to get stitches…but she took his butt to the hospital tho. LMAO!

I don’t fight, I don’t argue. I just hit dat bish wit a bottle.

But some dudes who you’ve been there through thick-n-thin for lose their way…after you’ve help make them a better person when they were at their low, they ready to leave yo azz for the ‘shiny penny’. That happened to a friend of mine. She should’ve sent his butt an invoice for her Consulting services. lol j/k

Alvin If you with a dude and you are doing all of the giving and getting nothing in return. Just cut your losses and bankhead’s bounce on their a$$!! Mayne! I haven’t done that in ages. I think I’ll bankhead bounce in the car on my way home today.

By Foots

August 27, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

ATLGuy Just want to make that clear, you seem confused by it.

LOL!! Not confused by anything sweetie. Go ‘head with your connections, Grey Goose, VIP and the gold diggers all of that attracts. When you’re ready for a change, you’ll change.

By the way, TANSTAAFL always applies.

Demi That situation only work when you have two equally yoke individuals…A real give and take relationship…not you doing all of the giving and receiving nothing in return.

I’ve seen plenty of situations that work although both people were not completely emotionally healed at the time they met. At some point in time, somebody will give more and it may be at another point in time that the other will give more. And there are times when somebody will have to carry the other person through.

I don’t think anybody is talking about the “dog them out” types, man or woman. No woman in her right mind would stay with a man who is currently dogging out women right and left trying to deal with hurt from a past relationship.

But she may work with him if he needs a little time to trust her completely because of his past experiences. Most people who understand hurt and have been there themselves make allowances for the possibility that their mates past hasn’t been all roses either and that they may need time to fully commit. That’s ride or die to me.

By Wise Diva

August 27, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

LOL @ NY2GA! That is a brilliant idea. I need to call some people!

By Tazzee

August 27, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

after you’ve help make them a better person when they were at their low, they ready to leave yo azz for the ‘shiny penny’

Been there.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

Foots if that lifestyle attracts gold-diggers…then thats on them. There’s a reason I’m not spending more time with these females. Simmer down Babe. How do you spend your Saturday Nights? Comcast Dating on Demand perhaps!?

By Foots

August 27, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I watch shows like Bridezilla and wonder what fool would go through with it and marry such a witch. It’s the same fool that will be lamenting that all women are evil in a few years.

GIRL!! I watched several of those shows back to back on Sunday and I just SMH the whole time. I can’t figure out if they are really like that or if that’s just for the camera. If they are really like that, I wonder why those guys marry them. But most of the guys don’t seem to really have their stuff together either, so that may be why.

On Sunday, they had the one on where the groom was like 37 and was marrying a woman 15 years younger, and was like his friends were jealous that he had a pretty young thing. He also admitted that his money is what got her. She quit her job without discussing it with him, saying she couldn’t plan the wedding and work at the same time. He couldn’t get that mad because he KNEW that he got her with his pockets and that she’d stay in his pockets. SMH…

By mytwocents

August 27, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

2C There’s a world of difference in what came off your keyboard and theirs on that one. You sound like she’d be cherished, theirs sounded like she’d be disposed of…

Tazzee I marvel @ the grooms too. The young ones from the cornfields in Nebraska, hey… But the others must just be the ‘she’s so sexy when she’s mad’ types. Not my calling

By 2CPTG

August 27, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Slim, and .02, can’t speak for the next man……spoke on that when I had the mic, but that’s what I was talkin bout, bout them dudes who wearin the uniform, and ain’t recognizin…..me…..I know what it is….

By MELO

August 27, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

they dismissed some finance operative at my job last friday.The person really had no clue,had been on the job cpple of mnths,loud mouthed,supposedly christian, adult in 30s(bodywise) but had the mind of a 20smthing or str8 outa colege kid…came across like they knew stuff…but they were clueless and …im seeing shades of same here.

By Foots

August 27, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

ATLGuy How do you spend your Saturday Nights? Comcast Dating on Demand perhaps!?

Actually, I’m in a relationship with a down-to-earth, attractive, witty person with drive and passion. Sounds like you’re still looking for the female version of that. So, you really want to know what we do on Saturday nights???????? Give you 1 guess…and it’s NOT spending time in a loud establishment surrounded by materialistic plastic people week after week. That’s YOUR Saturday night.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 2:08 PM | Link to this

MELO learn how to type English then I could take your seriously. If they hired this fool and also hired you at your job…possible you both are in the same boat. You talk like you know everything in this Blog yet you’re always proven wrong.

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

Foots & Atl Guy Alright! Alright! Let’s not resort to this!!! We started out doing good. (Boxing bell rings in the background Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!)

By Beautiful

August 27, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

My personal message/advice to bitter singles? GET OVER YOURSELVES!

this statement right here really pysses me off!

Remember, you chose the person that pummeled your heart.

oh, like we seen this shyt coming when he was buying us cars, houses, building a life together, etc. sometimes it takes years for the SO’s bad side to manifest.

By Demi

August 27, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

But she may work with him if he needs a little time to trust her completely because of his past experiences

This is the problem with most women…Just leave his emotional a$$ the hell along…Trust, I’ve made up some fake a$$ emotional situation just for some sex…like my high school sweet heart dump my a$$ three weeks ago, LOL.

I was so dumb…I’ve never had one of those, LOL

so if I see a dude(girl) is projecting his(her) issues from a past relationship on me, then I’m trying to get out of there.

Yep yep!!! Tazzee I will join you on the Greyhound bus out of there.

Slimone can you do the bankhead bounce into the lean’n’rock wit, ine the superman, quicky followed by the coochie pop and then the hit the milli Villi(?) ???

GO SLIM GO SLIM GOOOOO, WORKIT IT’S YO BIRTHDAY WORKIT IT’S YO BIRTHDAY, NOW LET US SEE YOU POP THE COOCHIE DOO DOO BROWN!!!

go go go (give some heaadddd) go go go (give some heaadddd) go go go…now let me hear you say say HEAD, HEAD, AND MO HEAD…

Sorry Miami boy flashbacks.

By Wise Diva

August 27, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

you tell’em ATL Lady, back to your corners fellas, LOL

By Chink

August 27, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Uh Sorry I aint bailing no grown man out of jail

There is a such thing as tough love too…and I am not someones crutch …ie ride or die Chick.

Grown woman know that crap ain’t realistic That was a name of a song by the way. You down with OPP too..? Come on please…

By mytwocents

August 27, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

zulu Stop tryna get that guy fired. He won’t be able to finance his lifestyle. And how old is your lil sis? I know you ain’t gonna fix her up with a guy like you… Funny how my male kinfolk would be ready for target practice on any exhibiting some of their own behaviors.

By Foots

August 27, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

Atl Lady LMAO!!! You right! You right!! I guess what two grown and sexy folks do on a Saturday night is indeed grown folk’s business.

Besides, I think that melo will take it from here… chuckle

Demi If you say so, but it’s very rare for two people to meet on equal anything, especially on that which cannot be measured.

By Kara

August 27, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

Funny, the ride or die chick description sounds a lot like a dumb chick that believes she can’t pull any better guys.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Foots I’m very happy that you’re so settled down and ultra mature! You can talk about my Saturday Nights, but I can guarantee they are not boring or bland.

I respect your lifestyle…glad you respect mine. Have a feeling we’re at different points in life

By 2CPTG

August 27, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

I see somma y’all takin the descriptions of a ROD chic, literally……so for every one of y’all who would never……next time you complain of a triflin dude, ask yourself, were you being a ROD chic, or just dumb, for lettin it get that far!!!!!!

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

Beautiful Baby girl. I need for you to elaborate some more. We know that divorce is difficult, but try and put it into words. Why do you have a problem with what WD said? I know it might not pertain to you, but indulge me.

Kara I don’t think it means that he or she can’t get anyone else. IMO it means that their BS level is a lot higher than most because they see something about that person that skewed because of the bitterness factor. Don’t get me wrong my BS level is at an all-time low. Will dismiss with the quick.

By Demi

August 27, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

Demi If you say so, but it’s very rare for two people to meet on equal anything, especially on that which cannot be measured.

Foots on that I agree…the real them will come out in a few months…Yes a woman can help you heal some, but you must already on that path of recovery…Let God deal those folks heart, he’ll heal them faster than me.

Kara nah, sometime you don’t choose who you fall in love with…They don’t have to be thugs.

some thing about that person just make you say…Dayum, who are you and where have you been.

You just gotta go for it and hope for the best.

By Chink

August 27, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

2CPTG

Shoot I have been in situations where I did my all …and I dont regret it lesson learned I also have been in situations where I said no point blank and I dont regret it.

As a mature woman I am looking for a mature man not looking for all that drama that a ROD seems to entail.

So to be a ROD I have to physically harm my man and then turn around and take care of him, give him some credit, give him a ride….wait a minute what the heck am I getting out of this but the title of ROD??

I can do without

By MELO

August 27, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

mytwocents we trying to put our mum in a nicer rural house,maybe some atl guy cld sponsor that and provide compl….grey goose..lol…

AtlGuy, i wasnt refering that to u tho,but to what 2c posted above mine….but well,if the shoe fits…..As for my english and sp…i prefer shrt hand typing and am learning the queen’s lingo,zulu is my prefered esp when i bark commands(hey mzala!)…did u watch any soccer matches when u were up there in rainy brit land?…the season just started…

By Demi

August 27, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

Atl Lady I think it also depends on the woman’s level of emotional investment in the dude.

A woman’s BS meter is out of this world…when you have her mentally

Peep this, Imma sleep with her mom cousin and sister and we’ll see if she’ll take me back, LOL.

Or I may just find myself buried in the middle of no-where HAHAHAHAHAHA!!

By Beautiful

August 27, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

Atl Lady i have the right to be bitter, if i was bitter. as long as someone on the outside wasn’t effected by it, so what. i did not ask to be born a women with these f/u feelings. i’m not going to get over myself, until it’s dealt with.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

MELO Yeah man, my family are in Manchester. We went to see Manchester United vs Juventus (best Italian club team)… was Awesome. Got pictures of the EuroCup they displayed pre-game to the crowd. Fun no doubt

By 2CPTG

August 27, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

“but to what 2c posted above mine….”

ok, I bit….da hell you talkin about???? That I don’t know what constitutes a ride or die chic for me, or that I don’t know what I’m talking about in general?

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

Foots I do hear that men want women who will stick with them through thick and thin, the woman who was there before his money was right and he was pushing Tom and Jerry down the street. The woman who loved him even though he had some growing up left to do. That’s ride or die.

Yeap, that same chick that’s jonin’ talkin’ ‘bout, “When you gon’ get this AC fixed Blue?”, but’s still quick to holla, “Shotgun,” because she knows that if it was really that important, it would’ve been fixed 5 years ago when I bought it, and that if she ain’t trying to get wind in her hair, we can always hop in ova ride.

So naah Foots, you ‘on’t need no clarification. You know exactly what a real ride or die chick is.

Dem C’s Sup yoll?

Jamo-CA ;)

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

Beautiful I can’t lie I had to laugh when you said a woman with f/u feelings. IF that ain’t a true statement?

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

Demi I tried to keep up with that dance routine but now I see a white truck pulling up, with men dressed in all white, holding an all-white outfit….“this is just a dream, those men are not real, this is just a dream”

By MELO

August 27, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

So kara and chink, u saying if u find someone that u luv and they do sme wrong and go to jail(maybe bust ur lip..just saying),u not going to bail them out….? Bef4 i understood hw sme mothers behave soon after they give birth,my wife did me wrong one night…i was p**…i gave her a lil sme,(wont do it again tho,okay) but yeah,she bailed me out at the dekalb jail,we still going strong. Smetimes pple just act fools, taking advantage of certain citus…for example,my wife acted diff when she was on….fugged up and confrontational,not anymore tho coz i told her honey,that mofo thing will not fly if we going to be together till death do us part..cant imagine going thru shyyt like that next 35 yrs….so, now,i dnt knw what she does,but she has found a way to channel her demons smehwere else,maybe to her boss….lol

By MELO

August 27, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

2CPTG nah,bout some pple cming/looking in unifrm but not in unifrm really….

By mytwocents

August 27, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Demi when you have her mentally… That’s why it’s sad but comical when dudes brag on their xxxxs. The body is the easier one to get into so to really manipulate her, gotta go another route. It’s also why some women will be cryin their eyes out like ‘I don’t know why I’m acting this way, the sex ain’t even all that’. She blinked & he got into her mind.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

August 27, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Wise I totally digging Jazmine. Evert time I hear, “I Need You Bad”’ it takes me back to basement parties in Brooklyn. I heard a few more of her songs…I will be buying her CD.

ATL Guy Sweetie I am gonna need you to avoid Piedmont park…unless there is something you want to tell us love. LOL

Foots I have worked with Bride-zillas in my side gig as a planner. They don’t start off that way all the time. For one thing what woman does not want the wedding of her dreams? Now some of them have champagne taste with cheap beer money. That is where the initial problem comes in. Then, the bride and groom need to be selective as to who they as to be in the wedding. Even if they are your best friend…you have to ask: are they responsible, realiable, and financially able to handle the responsibities that come with it? I have brainstormed with Bridesmaids on what to do for the bride’s shower/bachelorette and it is all good until they have to come up witht he cash and then it’s crickets. Then they wait until the last minute to get fitted for dresses/tux and now the bride starts stressing because it is 2 days before and stuff that was supposed to be done has not been. That can bring out the worst. Do not ask broke or strapped friends to be in your wedding. You will regret it! But most of all the bride and groom must by on the same page. Men just get their tux and show up…meanwhile the bride has been making all the plans and dealibg with the bridal party who slacks on their duties. If the groom keeps his men in check ans splits half the duties, they he is aware of what is happening and how much it is costing. If do nothing, that female will run a serious bill aiming for that perfect day. And if she has done all the work and the groom disagrees with her planning that is when Bride-zilla comes out! It’s like where the hell have you been all these months? Now you want to say something! Hell no! LOL

Beautiful I co-sign your 2:16. Nobody wears, “I’m an azzhole” stamped on their forhead!

Mytwocents Funny how my male kinfolk would be ready for target practice on any exhibiting some of their own behaviors. Girl it’s the craziest thing…these mn will dog out woman after woman. But let some dude do to a female loved one of theirs, what they did to these other women..and it’s World War 3. The woman you dog out are somebody’s mom, daughter, sister, aunt, etc. So what makes it ok for you to do it…but not ok for the ohter men to do it to yours? HYPOCRITICAL B*ASTARDS!!!

ATL Lady Don’t get me wrong my BS level is at an all-time low. Will dismiss with the quick. Girl me too. I tell dudes my BS tolerance level is -10. I will kick a dude to the curb without blinking or thinking twice!

By Dan

August 27, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

@Tazzee

You don’t choose those women, they choose you.

The outward appearance of “a good dude”, but like PG said “don’t let the smooth taste..”

I think emotionally these women are attracted to and simultaneously repulsed by someone they feel can “help” them. Part of it is the pride of wanting to “do it alone” and the other part is the man that accepts that shullbit.

Real talk: I do love me enough to let you go. I see writing treatments! You can’t tie your anchor to a sinking ship.

But it takes time and experience to learn to walk away…

By 2CPTG

August 27, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

cool…you know we need a decoder sometimes, Melo….

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

Clarification for Chink/Other Trippin’ Chicks:

“Ride-Or-Die” is NOT synonymous with “Dumb-bass”!!!

By Chink

August 27, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

Melo

No I would not bail you out of jail….the most I would do is come get your possessions and use your ATM and get your money to bail you out.

And yes I might let him stay in for a couple of days depending on what the case is for.

If it was a case of mistaken identity OK I would help 100% but if its all you …..no buddy do the crime do the time.

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

Staceye I will kick a dude to the curb without blinking or thinking twice!

That’s because you’re celibate. You start getting that Good D again, and some sh!t gon’ change.

By Demi

August 27, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla sup Bruh!!

Slim just hit them with a few kung fu moves and let them know you mean business. I’ll be on the sideline slipping bull and goose.

By ATL Guy

August 27, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

Staceye I don’t go to Piedmont park for Those Reasons! Haha!

I really do feel like the Token Straight Guy in that area!

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

Funny, the ride or die chick description sounds a lot like a dumb chick that believes she can’t pull any better guys.

Kara your comment is something to think about, especially for those that are not aware/observant of who to be “down” with. I have labeled myself as a ‘ride or die’ before, and so I have also labeled other ppl in my life (friends/family). My relating to ‘ride of die’ is a) a little sort of the same as what folks have said in here today and b) the differentiation for me, is I don’t become/condone being a footstool for a person.

I am very vigilant to think, live, and be a true ‘ride or die’ if you will. When I can, i’m there for a person. It takes a minute for me to make ‘true’ friends ‘n so when I do those are the ones that I will go in battle for. As long as a person shows me that my investment in them is worthy & my willingness to “wade” for them is appreciated, imma gear up for ‘em. I’m not always 100% sure if the other person is worth it, be that as it may…some people in your life you go out on a limb for because that is where the fruit is.

By Jamoca

August 27, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon, All….

IMO… ride or die does/should not only pertain to the women…both parties should possess such a rare quality (also provided that one should know w/ whom they’re fuggin’ with) before this decision is made, b/c the phrase seems to be taken somewhat out of context a bit…if I understand correctly given previous examples from some of our blog men, no one’s referring to the chick whose Young, Dumb and Full ‘uh Cummm (excuse the expression)…but if some of us think back, I’m sure you can come up with some of the “old timers” and their wives who went through a tunnel of shyt together and only to come out clean, so there was no question in her reason for being with him for all those years, while together they reap the benefits of what was sowed.

There would seem to be a greater chance that a woman like that would not think twice (nor once) about dippin’ and/or skippin’ out on her old man, since it was already long ago established that she was on “his team” when the man ain’t have shyt. REAL MEN recognize and show great appreciation for REAL WOMEN.

Heyal, in that case…marriage vows are oaths to Ride or Die w/ your man/woman… no wonder so few have yet to achieve this.

Cee

Hey sis, couldn’t help but notice in your previous post earlier…. looks like this time “Simon said” what Cee wouldn’t or has yet to say, huh?… understandably we all do not flow to the same rhythm or sway to the same beat, however, I will say it’s such a beautiful thang when there comes that special someone willing to take the time to “slow their tempo”.

By MELO

August 27, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Chink i hear u,but iam not talking about felony stuff,misdmeanor type stuff and the cops lock him up be4 he posts bail and makes restitution eg, unpaid ticket.U telling me u going to dismiss a dude u supposedly luv coz of sme flimsy legal issue? Now thats where the ride or die chics will win coz they,in my view are real.Shytt happens to good pple(we not talking of patterns of criminal behavior) and ride or dies will have their boyzz back,even when in essence,they may be guilty in front of the legal system but the situation can be redempted or redemptive(if thats a wrd)Lets get real ladies….

By Raqi

August 27, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

My definition of ride or die is just sticking with it if or when times get tough. It happens from time to time. Men and women alike like to know that the mate they are with will not flee at the slightest sign of turbulence. And still even more I like to know that even if one or both of us hit rock bottom we could still be there for each other.

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 3:37 PM | Link to this

Chink And yes I might let him stay in for a couple of days depending on what the case is for.

If it was a case of mistaken identity OK I would help 100% but if its all you �..no buddy do the crime do the time.

That’s the same sh!t that an ex was talkin’ ‘bout when I got hemmed up for speeding/reckless driving, AND the same chick that wanted to get knocked off behind the building on Old Nat (a few months earlier), after having that c* driven crazy by a 150+ mph ride down 285. And I’ma tell you like I told her, “I don’t want to hear that sh!t. If you ain’t on your way, beat it then, ‘cause I got another call to make.”

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

And yes i have bailed someone out of jail before.

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Jamo ride or die does/should not only pertain to the women…both parties should possess such a rare quality…

Exactly, like Bonnie and Clyde. And to put it very simply, Loyal to the end.

And with that Chink, I’ll just tell you that you chose to be ROD to the wrong dude, in which case your “ROD” tag was stamped over with “DA”.

It ain’t seen very often, but when a dude and chick have matching ROD tags, there ain’t no doubt about it, and e’rybody that knows either one of them knows not to fugg with either one of them.

Demi What up champ!

By MELO

August 27, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

REAL MEN recognize and show great appreciation for REAL WOMEN u aint talking in tongues today and i will be 1st to affirm..yeah yeah.hear her speak!!!…Jamoca u did that,like ghetto wonder smth wld say….

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

I will say it’s such a beautiful thang when there comes that special someone willing to take the time to “slow their tempo”.

Get back shower planner you’re on to something.

waving @ Jamoca.

By MELO

August 27, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

and even tho kara and chink surprise me on this,my overall impression of afrcan american wmen(based on my obsvtion) is that they are ride or die…and the men in general let them dwn…..

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

Who’s going to take me to the UFC fight coming to Phillips in September?

By Jamoca

August 27, 2008 3:50 PM | Link to this

…and although the example of marriage was given, the term Ride or Die should not ONLY pertain to that “arrangement”…however, it does certify the union.

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

Blue…kill the motor pimpin’…sounds like you still wanna say a few thangs to say to ol’ girl. Lol…

By Demi

August 27, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

mytwocents yeah, having good only get you so far…I am sure if I really put some real effort, I would make a dayum good pimp…too bad lil’Demi had to show up..Alvin is now mean muggin Demi for been so soft.

Chink you haven’t been in a real relationship in some years, huh?

I just know how differently I tend to act when I am 100% with a woman and she is with me…I will pull up with SOME crazy a$$ shyt

Belike: This is my ROD Bish here, she has put up with a lot of crazy shyt with my Corp nicceries a$$

Now let me go to Kroger at 3am (straight outta bed) to pick up some Tampon, PMS pills, and some F/Kin cookies.

While Driving there: This is the last beepin time that woman wake me up at 3am to go and buy some…Shyt, I left the list and my cell phone home.

Mayne I was cussing on my way back to the house, to the store, on my way home and in my sleep!! LOL.

I am sure I am the only simp in the world who has did BS out of love.

By Jamoca

August 27, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

Melo

Sweetie, Mocha gonna let you have that one…you funny…although it seems I have no problem translating nor decoding your zulu thoughts and/or lingo…truth be told, this is all mostly entertainment for me, so there will be times where I can’t help but contribute a lil’ flava of my own to “the pot”…but thank you.

By Tazzee

August 27, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Dan “@Tazzee

You don’t choose those women, they choose you.”

So are you saying that you just sit around and wait for a woman to club you over the head? No, you pick a woman that you want and you pursue her. Yes, she’s the one that gives the ‘OK’ on the pursuing but in the end, once you enter into a relationship it was a mutual decision and for whatever reason - you chose to pursue a relationship with that female.

That’s like saying that you can fill out a job application to work at a seedy location - but it’s the job’s fault you’re dissatisfied because they hired you. No - you should have been more selective about where you filled out that application.

By mytwocents

August 27, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Hmmm made reference to a Bonnie & Clyde just yesterday…

Cee This planner’s been on that a minute, that planner’s been on it a minute, now you on it so can we get a green light to execute? Liked the fruit, by the by.

Miz Mocha What u doin over there sides makin lotsa sense & havin visions of ride or dies dancin in their heads? And yet more rain…make me put the Raheem DeVaughn away…

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

melo

my overall impression of afrcan american wmen(based on my obsvtion) is that they are ride or die…and the men in general let them dwn…

My brother in-law (he’s African) has said sort of the same about AA women. When he pulled me aside and had the conversation before they got married . (He say: Cee your sister is smart and sweet too, and she marries ME!?!!). i gathered from the convo that he thought sumthin wrong/missin from her thinking. Cause dude was a number when he was single, business was very well for him, meeting all the thirsty ones(sounds familiar melo?) I jus said to him…hey, she’s better than me cuase i don’t like no ZULU man. LOL…j/p.

By 2CPTG

August 27, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

“I am sure I am the only simp in the world who has did BS out of love.”

trust, you aren’t……don’t let both of y’all smoke, and ain’t no snacks in the house at 3am….guess who runnin’ at cookies, chips, now-n-laters, and all kinds of otha shyt????

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

Demi LOLOLOLOL!!!! that’s how we feel when ya’ll get sick..ya’ll turn into straight infants. Can you feed me the applesauce, it hurts when I move…can you hold my pee-pee too it’s too heavy for me to hold…can you use the baby wipes for my azz..the non-scented hypo-allergenic kind please

By Chink

August 27, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

Melo

So you didnt know you had a unpaid ticket? Learn to handle your business then… and promptly!

Blue

I will beat it then Thats not my problem thats yours!

Too me that is about maturity…there are traffic laws if you dont want to abide by them …why all of a sudden is that my problem?

I have priorities and bailing out grown men out of jail aint one of them PERIOD.

You want to get bailed out the next few words should be the money in _ ___ so you can use. Because I assure you ..you will need a bail bonds man.

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

Demi I just know how differently I tend to act when I am 100% with a woman and she is with me…I will pull up with SOME crazy a$$ shyt

Yeap.

I am sure I am the only simp in the world who has did BS out of love.

Nope.

And that trip to the store was crazy! LMAO

Cee Naah slim. I don’t have anything to say to ol’ girl, just like I didn’t at the time. I ain’t the type of dude to be wastin’ time, and when my freedom is on the line, time is of the essence. If you ain’t producin’, I’m putting in the second string early in the first quarter. Feel me?

By Chink

August 27, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

Demi

I guess I wasn’t deep in love then. Or maybe that was when I had enough!!!

CONS were outweighing the PROS.

By MELO

August 27, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Chink, pray ur game is tight all the time..

Cemeeli..i think ur bro in law is blessed….slavery did africa wrong coz they shipped all the good genes states side and now the offspring,esp girls, are fly and cute.Now it takes a discerning chic to see the inside,like what foots was alluding to early on..and ur sis saw mandingos inside and wrk ethic…magic!!! I think african men see nice chics with thugg dudes and thats where they get the ride or die impression i speak off…

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Slim that’s how we feel when ya’ll get sick..ya’ll turn into straight infants.

Yeap. Most dudes would rather take a two-piece from Tyson to the body, rather than catch a cold/flu.

Chink Too me that is about maturity…there are traffic laws if you dont want to abide by them …why all of a sudden is that my problem?

You missed the part where I said that she was having the time of her life, partaking in the exact same behavior a few months earlier. My unstated point was that it was not criminal in the sense of being a crime against humanity, so shouldn’t be viewed as such.

And FYI, every time that you or your mom, daughter, son, daddy, and whoever else you care about, get out here on 285 doing 85 or better, you can be arrested for reckless driving. Fortunately the informal norm around the metro is 70 and below and you’re good.

By Awwwwwwww...Dayum

August 27, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwwww…Dayum, Blue K!!!

Tell me them folk didn’t bust you on the “Ghost”?

Jam hey

And nothing but luv to all me PEEPS!!!

by Awwwwwwww…Dayum.

By Poppa Grande

August 27, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon all…

Cee

Sorry for your loss.

Demi

I am sure I am the only simp in the world who has did BS out of love.”

Nawl, man. Heck, I even remember my dad getting a request from my mom to go the Varsity and get her a darn chilli dog. Keep in mind I grew up near the Nascar track in Hampton, GA.

I have done it, too. As a matter of fact, last night, Mrs. PG was making a pineapple upside down cake at 1:00 this morning and I had to go to Kroger for ingredients.

I didn’t really complain, though. I asked for the cake. She made it for me.

Staceye

You are correct. I seem that day before the wedding make some really quiet chicks into somthing else.

I even saw the stress on my wife that day before the wedding when the cell was blowing up as everybody comes into town and everything goes on. I remember grabbing her during the rehearsal dinner while people were eating and listening to the jazz band) and taking a walk near the river so she could vent. Rehearsal dinner was at Ray’s on the River. I spoke to my pa and he handled the crowd.

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

If you ain’t producin’, I’m putting in the second string early in the first quarter. Feel me?

and the older we get there is no second string. The ones you put on first are the ride or die. When you go and get ghost on your folks they come looking for you…calling you by your nickname, and telling you; Chic, this is not how we ROLL!!!

My cuz had to do this to me when i left my ex. Break up, and 2months later imma go on a vacation with dude. Knowing i was already done!

By mytwocents

August 27, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

BK Question- If 2nd string comes thru, are you re-evaluating her for promotion based on that, throwin a few additional assesments her way, or lettin her stay put cuz maybe she’s just thirsty & seizing the opportunity to shine?

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

Yo Chink? I just thought about something else. Another difference between men and women - Women know that a dude can take care of himself, but a dude ain’t always so sure.

ring… ring…

Chick: Baby?! I’m at the jail. I was…

Dude: Wha?! You where?! I’m on my way! click

…Dude now doin’ 75 on Memorial Drive, all the while thinking, “Man I gotta get my p@ssy back to the crib, where it’s safe.”

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

hahahahaheeheehe…lookit melo tellin’ somebody to pray their game is always tight! ha, i needed that

slavery did africa wrong coz they shipped all the good genes states side and now the offspring,esp girls, are fly and cute.

Zulu you are on a roll. Lol

By Tazzee

August 27, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

Dang Chink, you’d let him sit in jail? I can understand if its some dude you just met, but if you guys were in an actual relationship and he was placed in the clink, I doubt you’d let him sit there.

For me, if it was because he got caught dealing or stealing, something like that (some ole alter-ego mess) then I’m done. But if it was speeding or even if dude got in a fight with some knucklehead - I’d have to bail him out.

I can’t stand the thought of some brother I care about sitting in jail somewhere.

Like BlueK said - with the way I drive sometimes, it’s only by the grace of God I haven’t been handcuffed myself.

By Chink

August 27, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

Melo

I am not nervous at all.

Your perception is your reality…

By Demi

August 27, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

2 & Blue K Whew, I am keeping the rest of my crazy in love days to myself, LOL

Chink this is not like you, what’s really going on young haitian cutie…How about we go to the shooting range and ease some of that tension (yes our clothes with stay on at all time, li’Ms freaky).

Chink is now returning to her roots and making a doll name, DEMI.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

August 27, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

Blue I am not not controlled by sex. So that has nothing to do with it. When I was getting it…I was never ruled by it.

By MELO

August 27, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

good nite all

By Chink

August 27, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

Blue

I know we are different …but whats wrong with tough love? Love doesnt mean always saying yes. Sometimes you gotta say no so they can grow and dont do that crap again….

By Foots

August 27, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

Staceye For one thing what woman does not want the wedding of her dreams?

I may be in the minority on this one, but no wedding dreams over here. I mean, I hope it’s nice when it happens, but what I want to focus on is the rest of our lives that starts after the party is over. I’d really like to elope and start the honeymoon early…lol

melo ride or dies will have their boyzz back

I’ll always have his back, as long as he has my front.

Jamoca You right, I guess that wedding vows do describe Ride or Die for each other: For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do you part. If that ain’t ride or die, I don’t know what is.

Demi I am sure I am the only simp in the world who has did BS out of love.

Nah…ya girl been on the Connector and on I-20 driving 55 mph so she won’t get pulled over wearing just a trenchcoat, with her best friend on the cell on standby with a change of clothes just in case she get in an accident and can’t put clothes on herself. LOL!!

And speaking of Saturday night/Sunday morning, I got my crazy azz up and went to the grocery store in the rain because I didn’t have the groceries to make what he requested for breakfast. I should have made him eat that can of peaches I had in there…

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

PoppaG thanks for condolence.

Ah…did you have mami make you a pineapple upside down @ 1 in the mornin’? I know you said you asked for the cake, but uhmm usually there is something deeper with that crave that time of night.

Anything more to share?

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

I recall an ex of mine’s mother called me at 3 or 4 in the morning one day. (me and him hadn’t been talking & had broken up) But she called me because she was freaking out that he had got locked up. So Capn’t Save-A-Nic came to the rescue. She wasn’t sure how the whole bond thing worked. She was panicking about coming up with the whole amount…I’m not sure if that’s being a good friend or being borderline dummy. said in my Fred Sanford voice

By Jamoca

August 27, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

Sup Blue and Demi!

Ya’ll be good, nah… FriTaTas you know ya’ girl tends to be on some other stuff (at times), so she often gets the “I still don’t comprehend” type of rebuttal… but on the other hand, it’s not meant to be understood by all…but I bet you catch my drift (lol).

Cee

Ya sis’…you know “she” been on to somethin’…and simply planted the seed, it’s just “The Right One” had to come along with the fertilizer…and soon-to-be makin’ it rain (LOL); but we’ll leave that one alone….and uh, yeah I’m going over the calender…soooo, who knows?… heyal, if they didn’t, bet they @$$ know by now (lol)… keep playin’ with me, here?…

so with that, I’ll part with this:

“Dance like nobody’s watching, love like you’ve never been hurt, sing like nobody’s listening, live like it’s heaven on earth.” – Mark Twain

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

2 Pennies If 2nd string comes thru, are you re-evaluating her for promotion based on that,…

Trick question, but I’ll answer. Probably not, second string is usually parked in the friend zone. But every now and then, times like this show a person that the 2nd stringer should’ve been the starter all along.

By Awwwwwwww…Dayum

August 27, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

…Dude now doin’ 75 on Memorial Drive, all the while thinking, “Man I gotta get my p@ssy back to the crib, where it’s safe.”

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww…Dayum Blue K!!!

I am speechless!!

Aww…Dayum thinks to himself: Shiddd he spoke the truth!

By Chink

August 27, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

Tazzee

I have and I will …by the way I could be bias about this since it happened to me and it occured a certain way…

Until I meet a guy who I will bail out of jail …I know he the one…lol..j/k I think

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

Staceye I am not not controlled by sex. So that has nothing to do with it. When I was getting it…I was never ruled by it.

I knew you were going to come back from that angle. Elevate and stand up here next to me for a minute.

If you was getting that Good D, then you would also pro-bably have a spiritual/mental connection with said dude. ‘Cause we know that good chicks like you ain’t out fuggin’ random dudes. And it’s that connection that will make you a little more thoughtful before giving some dude the boot. ‘Chu think about that?

By Foots

August 27, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I can’t stand the thought of some brother I care about sitting in jail somewhere.

I spent a nervous night on call because dude had gone out with his friends and while on his way home, one of his drunk azz cousins called him and told him he was pulled over. I was sick with worry that he’d get in a bad situation with the police just by showing up not fully sober himself.

Everything was cool, but if it wouldn’t have been, I would have been standing in line at Dekalb with my line of credit checkbook in hand. LOL!

By SlimOne

August 27, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

But I must say ole boy did come pick my azz up at 4 in the morning off Memorial Drive, back in the day, cuz i was too dayum drunk to drive myself back to the southside. He probably cussed me out in his head as i drunkenly talked about kissing a girl all the way back home..wtf was i thinking…then next day woke up with a skyscraper-sized headache in my pj’s and no undies on in my own apartment?

By Poppa Grande

August 27, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

Cee

Anything more to share?

Yeah, it is darn good cake. We won $100.00 of it today. The office had a contest and I entered it. It won first prize.

Holiday weekend/football start celebration

My firm loves to eat. Speaking of which, I don’t think that Jews are supposed to eat pork, but my boss was eating the pulled pork sandwich from Williams Brothers bbq…hmm..lol

By Tazzee

August 27, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

Chink yeah, that’s it. You’ll know he’s the one when you would get up out the bed at 3am to bail his behind out.

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

Darnit Jamoca…okay! Imma dance, sing and love like nobody’s business. Kapeesh?

like Gill say…send the rain.

By Blue_Kolla

August 27, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

Tazzee For me, if it was because he got caught dealing or stealing, something like that (some ole alter-ego mess) then I’m done. But if it was speeding or even if dude got in a fight with some knucklehead - I’d have to bail him out.

I can’t stand the thought of some brother I care about sitting in jail somewhere.

Keep that up and I’ll have to send over one of these Ride-Or-Die 101 Certificates.

By 2CPTG

August 27, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

“You’ll know he’s the one when you would get up out the bed at 3am to bail his behind out.”

Ride or Die friends will do the same!!!! Shout out to Sexy Cool, and ‘nem!!!

By Atl Lady

August 27, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Cee I caught that too!!! The last time I was up in the middle of the night cooking for a man just cause he asked. (trying to keep it PG-13)

By Demi

August 27, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

You know its leather when we ride wood grain ‘n raw high doin’ what we do whachin screens geting high girl you keep it so fly with your sweet honeybuns you was there when the money gone you’ll be there when the money comes Off top I cain’t lie I love to get blowed You my lil’sugar, I’m yo little chulo And every time we kick it it’s off to the groovy Treat you like my sticky ickey or my sweet oowy goowy (fa real though)

Jam how are things going for you bey?

Foots LOL, remind of the time my girl (same woman) wore my boxer over her panties with my long white tee and me in some straight hand me down jamma and holie tank top, to pick up some late night snacks, cause we been going at it all day. We ain’t even ghetto, but we look like some one threw us under the bus 5 ways to hell, LOL

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

August 27, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

foots I think I want the wedding more that the husband! So Can I just marry myself? get the dress and the whole shebang..without the pain in the azz husband? LOL

Blue I do not do random dudes. You are correct. I used to beteh connected person..but I have lost deisre to want to connect. Now I think I will just have a booty buddy! No connection needed!

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

PoppaG me and my coworkers eat at Williams Bros. BBQ too. They’ve actually catered some of our meetings.

…and no i was not talking about your lil office contest! I was thinking more like; Why was there a 1am CRAVE! i know you peeped what i was saying. :)

Live, love and laugh…and as always be easy everyone.

By Wise Diva

August 27, 2008 5:04 PM | Link to this

Have a wonderful evening!!

By Cemeeli

August 27, 2008 5:06 PM | Link to this

okay Atl Lady! I know the last time i was up eatin or anything at that time of night i was up sumthin’ good or good was up on me!

Be good girl.

By Jamoca

August 27, 2008 5:07 PM | Link to this

Ohhh…almost forgot, Cee was this cuzzo Shee-Shee w/ the lil’ one?…please say it ain’t so!!!…regardless, you know my heart’s out there for you all.

Foots

If that ain’t ride or die, I don’t know what is.

Exactly!…this was the first thought in my mind, saying to myself “Grandma Jett and Grandma Minnie were some true Ride or Dies in their day” …wanna be just like em’ when I grow up. LOL!… however, one must first recognize who they chose to Ride or Die for! … and both of my Paw-Paws were some of the realest men I’ve ever known.

FriTaTas …(LOL!) I see whatcha up to, chic!…. Uh, hee-hee heyal!

Night ya’ll!

By mytwocents

August 27, 2008 5:47 PM | Link to this

BK I know that you know that I know I ain’t trickin’ no info outta you that’ll compromise the top secret intel…

Cee Is Simon on the mic for good? Cuz him was talkin all kinda ways cept sideways. Wonder what got in but hope it’s here to stay.

Mocha Choca La-ta-ya-ya Ain’t doin nuthin cept tryna find some rain boots to match my favorite umbrella fight off the onslaught of these here treacherous rain drops. Mmmhmm Nite Nite