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Friday, August 15, 2008
When I Became a Man
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I wanted to switch things up for Friday, and per constant request, I’ve asked one of our more outspoken readers, 2 Can Play That Game, to take center stage, and give us a topic for Friday.
But when I became a Man……I “put away childish things.” Now, as I’m sure you’ll notice, there is no age requirement in this statement. It simply says “when.” Fellas, if you were anything like me, it took some time before you put away childish things. Now, I’m not talking about your X-Box, Nintendo’s, and the like. Mind you, I still want a Wii, even if it is for the “low-low”. No, when I say put away the childish things, I am referring to your thought process. Do you think as a child? Understand as a child, are you still on milk?
We’ve heard far too many times about “boys wearing men’s clothing,” “mama’s boys,” or “man-child.” However, fellas, you have to ask yourself, does the shoe fit? Are you a boy perpetrating manhood because you merely look the part? Or are you fulfilling the fiduciary charge that was given to you? Charge? Yes, because it was man who was given a direct order.
Now, I won’t give you a whole run-down of the events of the Book of Genesis, but y’all know how it went down: Eve got caught up, then Adam followed suit. However, God didn’t step in until AFTER man failed, for lack of a better word, because He held man accountable. What was the first thing out of man’s mouth? “That woman you gave me..” Imagine that!
Some men are still shirking their responsibilities, and deflecting blame on the ladies. I’m not going to use my air time (Thank you Diva), to bash my fellow brethren, but what I do want to do is put the onus back on us to “take charge”. More specifically, to take charge in our relationships.
The way I see it, and I don’t mean to sound chauvinistic, because I’m not a “Bossy Dude”, I am a “Boss Dude,” I believe the man is supposed to be the head. But with that role comes responsibilities. Blaming females for “not respecting you,” “killing your manhood,” is garbage to me. First of all, one has to allow himself to be disrespected; second, “cain’t” nobody steal my manhood!
Now, before y’all start on me, I’m not saying go out beat ya chest, and gather a harem. No. But man up, and you’d be surprised how much your stock will rise.
Ladies, how can you tell if you’re meeting a boy in a man’s clothing? Does his actions say it, or does his “uniform” give him away?
Fellas, have you put away childish things? Are you accepting the responsibility placed upon you?
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