Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 8:20 AM | Link to this

Thanks Goodness It’s Friday

By C tha 1

August 1, 2008 8:48 AM | Link to this

O.K. this is easy enough.

Guys, have you ever dated a woman who put you on a pedestal? Did she make you feel as if you were the king of her world? Did it make you happy being adored and catered to like this? Were you creeped out by her constant attention?

Yes, and it was cool for a hot second … then the second passed and I started to feel a little guilty. Because I know I ain’t shyt sometimes, and I am prone to trifling, low down, dirty, foul, and dead azz wrong behaivor whenever I get placed on a pedestal it teeters on unrealistic expectations. Eventually, I’m gonna F up on somehting and when I do, don’t be surprised.

The good treatment is well appreciated and reciprocated. Maybe not on the same level, but in relationships someone is always getting better treatment than the other person. I’ve come to realize there is no such thing as a true 50/50 relationship … that’s just some crap from Hollywood in a make believe world.

Real relationships ebb and flow like the tide where there are moments of elation, reciprocity, and insane chemistry. At the same time there are moments of fruitlessness, boredom, incompatibility, and selfishness. The question is can you survive it with the other person. Sometimes we jump ship too fast, other times we don’t jump ship fast enough.

By Wise Diva

August 1, 2008 9:02 AM | Link to this

Good Morning folks! I am OVERJOYED to see Friday get here. You have no idea, LOL.

@C tha 1, you have been on point all week with your comments! Wow, I appreciate you starting the discussion off so well :)

By QC

August 1, 2008 9:04 AM | Link to this

TGIF - MORNING BLOGGERS…I HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A NICE DAY & GREAT WEEKEND

www.blackthen.com

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 9:04 AM | Link to this

C tha 1 I co-sign your post. There is much pressure on the person being put on the pedastal, which means when you do fluck up, you have a longer way to fall when the shyt hits the fan. I’ve experienced both being on the pedastal and putting my SO on one. It was endearing to be the one getting the royal treatment. But like you said, after a while it was like DUDE, where is your backbone. When I was the one at the bottom of the pedastal I was devastated when the reality set in that no matter what i did to keep SO happy…that he was not exempt from messing up. It took me a while to come to terms with that.

As with everything in life, there needs to be a balance. When you’re getting too much of something, its easy to become unappreciative or take that thing for granted. There is no magic medium because we are all different and forever changing. One day a person could worship the ground you walk on, and the next minute they could be spitting & stomping on your footsteps in the sand. lol..such a large margin for error.

By Dan

August 1, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

Your buddy was onto something WD.

I think it’s less attention specific as it is person centric.

Ladies want the attention, but from the man that they want the attention from.

Classic example: Laura Winslow, Steve Urkel. That kid loved her so much that he created a clone of himself to make her happy (and a better version at that). And in all he did for her ever, she never really wanted his attention, until she chose to see the better qualities in him (the show played it like she “grew up”).

Point is that the object of someone’s affection is subject to that person’s whim. And if you’re not chosen to recieve his/her favor, no amount of persistence matters.

All else is psychotic stalking.

By KP (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

August 1, 2008 9:12 AM | Link to this

I dislike being put on a pedastal. I appreciate love, respect and appreciation, but being put on a pedestal is somewhat scary. I associate being put on a pedestal the same as being worshiped. I want to have a woman who is my relationship partner and not one who’s total life centers around me. It’s very unattractive to see women who only feel life is worth living because they are in a relationship. Personally, I value a little independence, but I know this is NOT the norm for most men.

By SexyLeggs

August 1, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

Good morning. A blogger posted a long time ago that her parents give each other 80% of what they need and 20% of what they want in their marriage to each other. I liked that. Perhaps you’re right Ctha1, no such thing as 50/50. Must admit it’s quite refreshing to see you being so honest about being prone to trifling, low down, dirty, foul, and dead azz wrong behaivor. I appreciate you admitting this. You’ve have filled Truth’s shoes w/that post!

I’ve been admired to a point that it got to be uncomfortable. To lavishly bestow your attention on someone on a continuous basis becomes suspect in my book. Admiration and appreciation by another is welcomed, but it must and should be controlled. If not, just a matter of time before someone turns into a stalker.

I too

By SexyLeggs

August 1, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

Good morning. A blogger posted a long time ago that her parents give each other 80% of what they need and 20% of what they want in their marriage to each other. I liked that. Perhaps you’re right Ctha1, no such thing as 50/50. Must admit it’s quite refreshing to see you being so honest about being prone to trifling, low down, dirty, foul, and dead azz wrong behaivor. I appreciate you admitting this. You’ve have filled Truth’s shoes w/that post!

I’ve been admired to a point that it got to be uncomfortable. To lavishly bestow your attention on someone on a continuous basis becomes suspect in my book. Admiration and appreciation by another is welcomed, but it must and should be controlled. If not, just a matter of time before someone turns into a stalker.

I too am glad it’s Friday, can’t take another beating by “the man.”

By C tha 1

August 1, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Thanks WD, my remeidial writing classes have been paying off lately:) I can actually get reports in by deadline.

By When?

August 1, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

C tha 1…with language like that I cannot imagine anyone putting you up on anything…except maybe on trial.

By Page1908

August 1, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

OMG SexyLeggs!

By abc

August 1, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

People act like they really don’t know what they want.

They want attention, they want beautiful companionship, they want money, power, position, all that and everything else — until they get it. How often do we read about people with everything material in the world that wind up getting busted for solicitation of a street walker? Stories like that are endless, for both genders.

I’ll go for an open and intelligent mind over a nice game of chess. Maybe that’s because I’ve never known any women like that.

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Dan mail call

By SexyLeggs

August 1, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

LOL…elaborate *Page1908!

By 2 Can Play That Game©

August 1, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

“Guys, have you ever dated a woman who put you on a pedestal? Did she make you feel as if you were the king of her world? Did it make you happy being adored and catered to like this? Were you creeped out by her constant attention?”

Yep! The chic Lisa from Texas, I mentioned yesterday….C, like you, this girl woulda ate the corn outta my shyt if I asked her to; Not sure is she put me on a pedestal becuase I was all that, or because she wanted to kill the competition! I was fresh outta college, and making some nice change, so all the chics at my gig were after me. Of course, I played that to the fullest! Well, Lisa wanted to get one up on ‘em, so she started going ALL OUT! Lo and Behold, I started liking the chic…..after awhile she grew tired of my ways, and one Saturday morning she was playing R Kelly’s song, “When a woman’s fed up”…told me to listen up, real closely!

By Page1908

August 1, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Girl, C tha 1 is nothing like Truth! LOL Truth is waaaay in left field most of the time lol

Can you also elaborate on the 80/20 thing you mentioned? Is that the same concept as the 80/20 rule people tlak about?

By C tha 1

August 1, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

When? Are you a grammar cop serving papers? Or are your reffering to the probability of a dude like me being on someone’s pedestal … who the hell are you?!

By Kevmoor

August 1, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday!!!

By When?

August 1, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Would you talk to your mother or grandmother like that….or did they teach it to you….in between tricks

By Foots

August 1, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Ladies, have you ever dated a man who took his admiration for you beyond reasonable? Do you think women ironically want admiration but feel uncomfortable when they get it?

I’ve mentioned that crazy dude I’ve dated that was extra attentive. It got on my nerves. If I woke up in the middle of the night, this dude would be awake, just looking at me. He’d call over 5 times a day. It was suffocating. There is definitely a balance that needs to be there, whether I really like the dude or not.

Too much admiration does make me uncomfortable. I never want to feel like I am the only thing going for a man I’ve involved with. I can’t be his whole life. It sounds romantic if a man were to say “You’re my whole life”, but if he really meant that, it is a red, waving flag for me. Those kind of people are the ones who kill their mates if they try to leave because they feel that they would have nothing left anyway. That’s why it’s important for me to be involved with someone with goals, friends, a close relationship with family, hobbies, etc, so that I am not the only thing connecting him to this world.

A healthy love, respect and adoration is wonderful. Folks just have to find their happy medium, AND realize that the target changes from time to time and adjust.

By When?

August 1, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Hey Ctha1 if you have spell check….try using it…you are looking worse …..or as you would say badder and badder.

By SexyLeggs

August 1, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

I agree! Didn’t mean he was like Truth, just that he put his cards on the table with that post.

By C tha 1

August 1, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

Wait Mutha F& minute … talk like that azz handed back to you. But this is a computer and I’m not the one for useless blog arguments. Either way I see through you. You got balls enough to talk tough behind a screen but no spine to talk strong in public. I can’t even tell if you’re a man or a woman, but it don’t matter. **Miss me homeboy … you don’t know me.

By melo

August 1, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

I have been a dog all my lyfe,seriously and changed smewht with marriage.But even then,early on,i played sme tricks(u knw) and my wife caught me red handed cple of times.But she luvs me to death and does put me on a pedestal…..no joke.And so smetimes when i do hunt(like Dynamite said other day) i tend to lose the killer instinct, and i think subconciously,its outa respect for my wife and the guilty consceience does kick in as well.So i back off…..

By Dan

August 1, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

@C

Really?

You’re going to let a name on a screen bother you? Really?

By lurker

August 1, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

WHEN? What da heck is wrong witchu dis morning?! I actually liked C tha 1’s post and thought it was on point. I didn’t even see what you pointed out. Take the essence of the post and keep moving…gheesh.

By When?

August 1, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

Your last line shows who you really are….live on in your continuing to rely on what ever crutch is availible to you at the momment. (Try to get someone to explain this to you.)

By mytwocents

August 1, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

Yup, a lil Ebb & Flow is what’s really real. Page I think the basis of the Pareto Principle has been widely used for various theories and always seems to prove true.

Zoning off a lyrical drug cocktail… Have a happy one y’all…

By THE DIABOLICAL DK

August 1, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

Well Well I agree with your friend.. Im in the mindset of you cant please a woman, so I dont try.. I do whatever it is I like and if she can deal with it cool..

I have found women like mystery.. They like the fact they cant figure you out.. When they dont know where your coming from it intrigues them to find out more..

By Page1908

August 1, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

LOL @ C and When? ctfu

Mytwo Thanks. It seems to me I have heard it used is so many contexts and I guess people can use it to fit whatever point they are trying to make. I think I remember hearing it in a movie or something…who knows. lol

2 LOL @ ALL the chics at my gig were after me wow.

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

C tha 1 Because I know I ain’t shyt sometimes, and I am prone to trifling, low down, dirty, foul, and dead azz wrong behaivor Are you sure that’s not one of your victims coming out of the woods, wounded & walking with a limp? LOL!

By melo

August 1, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Did she make you feel as if you were the king of her world? Did it make you happy being adored and catered to like this? YEAH, ima king of her world and i luv it.When im in the shower,all butt nakkied,smetimes i look at my long thang and say..maybe its all ur fault we find ourselves,u and i in this situation smh

By 2 Can Play That Game©

August 1, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

Soror, you know how that shyt works…..it’s like the “new kid at school” syndrome….They see a new face, and they wanna see what’s up; Then, when they see you’re not an hourly employee like the majority are, and you’re salaried, and all the perks associated with it, they wanna know, who dat is????

By Semi-Shy

August 1, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Ladies, have you ever dated a man who took his admiration for you beyond reasonable? Do you think women ironically want admiration but feel uncomfortable when they get it?

Personally, I like for my partner to show me attention but I also want him to have a life of his own—preferably one that involves me as a priority but won’t crash the second I’m out of his sight. I like it when he caters to me but on that same note I want to do things for myself sometimes. There seems to be a thin line between reasonable admiration and annoying smothering—if you find a guy/girl that can distinguish between the two then kudos to you!

By mytwocents

August 1, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

when? May I offer you some Chronic II? Ready to Die? Game Theory? Eardrum? Whateva you like…

By Cemeeli

August 1, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

….zzzzzpppppp….

this girl woulda ate the corn outta my shyt if I asked her to;*

All i wanted to do was read a few comments while i was on this quick break from real work. And i run across the sho’ nuff.

2 boy, your are a cut up!

back to work

By 2 Can Play That Game©

August 1, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

melo….you’sa straight fool for that one!……

By For Real

August 1, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

For Real now putting Wise D on a six foot pedastal while looking up and basking in her glory.

By Page1908

August 1, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

2 lol who dat is lolol. Yeah, I know what you mean. Did you give any of them besides the one girl any action? If not, why not?

melo omg…you kill me with the stuff you say and how you write. shrug

By 2 Can Play That Game©

August 1, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

“Did you give any of them besides the one girl any action? If not, why not?”

What??? I was like a kid in a candy store! Shoot, one chic lived in the same apt complex as Lisa! I was messing with her first; that’s why I say I don’t know for sure if Lisa went all out because of the attention I was getting from the other gals, or what…..I ain’t turn down nuttin but my collar!

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

foots thanks for the read! i squeezed every last word in before i drifted off last night.

sexy i have a bone to pick with you!!! where’s your sexy self at? lol. quite often a man feels his love when he is directly faced with the possibility of losing a women. Mars and Venus on a Date by John Gray, Ph.D. whose crazy now? lol.

By m'karyl

August 1, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

I suppose for those who need an affirmation of adoration worth/value the pedestal gig has its merits…but I am just a down to earth person…I appreciate being valued for who I am as such…I love to cook ( and am quite good at it) and I appreciate someone who can reciprocate the gratitude…I have a wicked sense of humor and I love to laugh and I appreciate someone who can also reciprocate the pleasure of my humor…in short, I can appreciate a person who values the fullness of me being me…not as someone extraordinary, etc…just simply a good, solid, well-rounded person…I do not need to be iconalized (my own adaptation of the word) on a bloody pedestal…besides, my bottom may easily bruise when I fall…soft hind, hard head…ya’ know…lol

By Foots

August 1, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

I did have one guy that I put up on a pedastal in my mind. I was probably more in love with the idea of him than I was in love with him at first. His personality wasn’t worth shyt, neither one of them, but his face and body were so beautiful. It was the type of male body that you could tell what he looked like naked through his clothes. Clearly, I fell for the wrong parts of him, I didn’t get to his multiple personality issues and his volatile emotional state until later and by then, I was already in love. LOL

I only thought of him on Two Occasions…whenever I inhaled and whenever I exhaled. He wanted that admiration to spill over into expensive gifts and surprises for him, along with all my extra time, and was angry with me when it didn’t. I was in love, but not crazy.

By m'karyl

August 1, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

If I woke up in the middle of the night, this dude would be awake, just looking at me. He’d call over 5 times a day.

I can not stand that type of behavior…it annoys me to no end…suffucating it the least of what it is…it is an eerie sense of space violation to me…as if I am under complete and total scrutiny.

I believe that type of behavior is rooted in deeply seated insecurity issues…like a person has a need to close another person’s boundaries down to feel secure with that person.

By Wise Diva

August 1, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

Alright now “when?”, just state your case and argue your point and stop being so insulting/rude and condescending, that’s my job around here. LOL

By SexyLeggs

August 1, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Here I is Beautiful, you bellowed!

If I woke up in the middle of the night and someone was staring at me, my reflexes might get the better of me and you have a fist in your face.

By melo

August 1, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

…..I ain’t turn down nuttin but my collar! thats whats up bwa…..girlz luv BAAD boys,trust that….

By THE DIABOLICAL DK

August 1, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Internet Boxin.. How cute is that? Wankstas

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

I love the way you came with this. Admiration is welcomed but being stalked and hawked is something far different.

I love to be loved but don’t love me to death. I love to cuddle but don’t smother me. I love to be pampered but I don’t need to be cocooned.

I know I am late at all but….

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

The Blonde & The Indian!

An attractive Blonde, Kitty Mc Neill was driving through a remote part

of Texas when her car broke down. An Indian on horseback came along and

offered her a ride to a nearby town. Kitty climbed up behind him on the

horse and they rode off.

The ride was uneventful except that every few minutes the Indian would

let out a whoop so loud that it would echo from the surrounding hills.

When they arrived in town, he let Kitty off at the local service

station, yelled one final, “Yahoo!” and rode off.

“What did you do to get that Indian so excited?” asked the service

station attendant.

“Nothing. I merely sat behind him on the horse, put my arms around his

waist, and held onto his saddle horn so I wouldn’t fall off.”

“Lady,” the attendant said, “Indians ride bareback!”

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

sexy happy friday lady!

when a person is threatened by possibly losing their mate, their love grows for them. i could not believe he stated this in his book. i still cannot explain why this happened to me, cause i was very angry that night.

anyhoo …

By m'karyl

August 1, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

If I woke up in the middle of the night and someone was staring at me, my reflexes might get the better of me and you have a fist in your face.

Uh-huh…just automatic…I had an acquaintance who had a decent shoulder length head of hair. See always slept on her back…better spine alignment, etc…well, she once told me that she was kicking it with this guy who would play with her hair and arrange it on the pillow so that it was always just right…she did not know this until one night she happened to start awake and there he was styling her hair on the pillow…like she was dead or something…anyway, he told her that he always wanted her hair to look just right even when she was sleep…needless to say he was outta there…lol…eerie.

By m'karyl

August 1, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

@SlimOne

Oh shyte…that one will be added to my repetoire of jokes…lol…chuckle…chuckle. choke.

By Dan

August 1, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

@Beautiful

Be careful of using that as a tactic. Ultimatums, like bluffs, rarely work unless you’re willing to carry them out.

And then two, even if you are willing, be prepared for the frightening realization that he may actually not like you like that. And you presenting an ultimatum may have given him the perfect out.

jus sayin’

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Whitebread put me on a pedestal so that I couldn’t see what was going right there around me. My focus was captivated by the things he did for me and off of what he was hiding from me. Being 25 at the time I didn’t concede to the too good to be true train of thought. All I cared about was this man was the bestest ever at that time. Yeah bestest. We live and we learn.

By SexyLeggs

August 1, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

I got you Beautiful, but you posted that sentiment about how you felt when you learned he cheated on you a week and half ago. You’ve been posting since, why bring it up now. You explained yourself then.

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

dan the night i caught my ex cheating, i felt my love grow for him. my love grew cause i knew i was losing him.

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

sexy it was weird how i read it in his book, that’s all. i didn’t expect that.

By SexyLeggs

August 1, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

oh, ok, I’m on the same page!

To be placed on a pedestal is almost the same as turning into a puppet. The admirer is pulling all the strings in that s/he knows your every move, what you’re wearing at all times, what you ate for breakfast, lunch and dinner and when you last used the facilities (see I can be kind). More often than not, it’s about a love that turned into controlling that person.

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

When I was with the nature guy I didn’t feel his extent of overextended admiration to be hiding something, but it was merely stemming from his personal esteem issues. Which is what came to mind when I first heard the song mentioned in the entry. To know that you are not bringing the all that your mate desire can very well make you somewhat prison-guardish. For fear of them finding someone else.

One of my friends dated a guy that was a straight out dog. He did all kinds of crazy stuff and then attempted to appease her with much admiration coupled with being extremely overprotective. He knew good and well his actions were grounds for dismissal.

By m'karyl

August 1, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs

Yes indeedy,it is about control…positive and negative…the same tactics that are used to convey adoration can also be used to convey contempt…depending on how the idolizer feels about the object of the adoration…there is a twisted co-dependent feed and trap in those types of relationships.

By m'karyl

August 1, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

Ciao…until Monday.

By Tazzee

August 1, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

Wise Diva you have been on it this week!

Yes, I’ve been put on a pedestal and I have to agree I don’t like it because as soon as I messed up - it was like dudes’ fantasy land was ruined.

I’ve never experienced a stalker though.

TGIF!!!

By Foots

August 1, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

Beautiful when a person is threatened by possibly losing their mate, their love grows for them. i could not believe he stated this in his book. i still cannot explain why this happened to me, cause i was very angry that night.

He said “quite often a man feels his love when he is directly faced with the possibility of losing a woman”. This was meant for the scenario where a woman decides to leave a man (or vice versa) because he or the relationship is not right and he lets her go, but then he comes back even stronger a few days or weeks later. What you went through was totally different. His situation was an “absence makes the heart grow fonder” type. Be careful to take the words in the context that they were written.

Practical application: One of my co-workers lived with his girlfriend for a number of years, with no rush to get married. She wanted to move the relationship forward and instead of giving him an ultimatum, told him that she was moving on. She wanted a family and felt like she needed to go pursue that. He let her leave, but missed her and loved her so much that he asked her to marry him. That’s the type of situation Gray was talking about.

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 12:37 PM | Link to this

foots no, i read it correctly. and it verified that moment for me.

By melo

August 1, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

Foots,Sexxy, seems what Beautifl needs is just a dykk plugged in that hole,that wl make things right 4 her…keep that mouth shut and pining for ex and stop the wind cming outa that bottom….jst my02 on that situ..

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

that he asked her to marry him

Foots In instances like that it usually goes bad sooner than later. He didn’t want to marry her but he did because he wanted her back. Once he is comfortable again he will possibly began to act his prior feelings. I am not saying that he will but that is usually how it happens. He can only pretend to want to be for so long.

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

melo shuddup! lol.

By Foots

August 1, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Beautiful I have the whole book, and I know that by reading the context around the statement that your situation wasn’t the example.

Another practical example because the idiot just texted me.

I dated a guy for a few months over the winter, but didn’t really see things developing. Though I dated others in that five month time period, I liked this guy and told him how I felt. I also told him that I knew that I wanted more than just friendship and that I realized that he didn’t want a relationship with me since he hadn’t made moves towards one. I let him know that it was time for me to go find what I wanted elsewhere. He fussed and bytched about my decision and didn’t want me to venture out, but still couldn’t offer anything more than what he was giving. We parted on relatively amicable terms. He was a little ticked at me, but I wasn’t mad at him at all. I just wasn’t what he wanted.

A few weeks later, I met my current SO. We had been together for a few weeks when the other guy sent me a text saying how he didn’t realize how much he cared for me until I was out of his life and how much he would like to see me. I ignored that, because I wasn’t feeling it anymore. In fact, I’ve ignored all of his texts from the last 3 months. He doesn’t even know anything about my new relationship, it’s none of his business.

The point is, I made the decision to leave the situation, he made the decision to let me go, he regretted the decision once I was gone. I’m happier than I’ve ever been. He’s still sending texts. See how that works?

By Foots

August 1, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

Raqi He didn’t want to marry her but he did because he wanted her back. Once he is comfortable again he will possibly began to act his prior feelings.

They have been married for several years now and have their first child on the way this month. He said that he loved her enough to marry her before she moved out, but that her action was the galvanizing factor to push him into action. He said that he had gotten too comfortable and was taking for granted that she would always be there. He also said that realized that he couldn’t bear the thought of her moving on with another man and knew that she was the one for him. So he got down on that knee.

By SexyLeggs

August 1, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Melo, what is wrong with you. I know you thrive on this, but your alter ego (slinging dyck everywhere) is a sick and twisted creature who shouldn’t be let lose (LOL).

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Foots It’s that vicious cycle of “The Chase”…Some men aren’t able to or are stuck in just the chase phase and don’t know how to cross over into that next level of courtship/relationship. Who wants to spend their energy on constantly dangling a carrot to maintain the “US”. I’ve been there….tired of doing it. This isn’t Karate Kid and your name ain’t Mr Miyagi..Wax on/Wax off…You’re in it to win it…Then you’re talking bout you need space…Man GTFOH! Call Snickers and get you some nutz.

By Poppa Grande

August 1, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Foots

It really just evolves around the “one that got away” school of thought. Either trying to avoid letting the one get away or trying the get it back.

Some cases are like Raqi said and some are like the case that you mentioned where the man just got too comfortable and needed a nudge to make that next step.

By lurker

August 1, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

the other guy sent me a text saying how he didn’t realize how much he cared for me until I was out of his life and how much he would like to see me. I ignored that, because I wasn’t feeling it anymore. In fact, I’ve ignored all of his texts from the last 3 months.

although what’s going on with you and your current SO is none of “idiot’s” business, why not be courteous enough to at least tell him that you’re not interested so that he’ll stop sending text messages? do you like the attention/knowing that he still wants you?

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

foots i believe the situations are quite similar. leaving him made my heart grow fonder. the only difference was even though my love grew, it was best that i never went back.

melo if i wanted my ex, i can have him back at anytime. i have better things to do than deal with folks who bring drama in my life. i’m stressfree. come on … stop the hate!

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 1:07 PM | Link to this

Foots that’s why I stated that it may not be the case. But his actions just mirrored many of the terminated unions that I have witnessed. The temporary solution from the dreaded “or else”.

By Dan

August 1, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this

“The one that got away”

As I think about it, I might miss that azz, I might miss hanging out with you, I might miss the in-jokes, but then….

I can build that with someone else.

So the one that got away, naw, she left and good for her, but it’s done. The Two

By Page1908

August 1, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

LOL eyes bulging out at SlimOne! lolol No you didn’t just say Wax On/Wax Off! lmao ctfu

By Dan

August 1, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

I can remember this one babe that just told me that I was no good she was right, that I wasn’t looking to amount to much (judging by the company I keep)….

But then there was a concert on her campus that I attended at the request of an artist, and when she saw me emerge onstage (as she rushed it like the rest of the groupies)…

The look in her eyes still makes me smile…

and yes, that night she got “the treatment” most groupies get…

By Foots

August 1, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

Raqi Actually, he never said “or else”. Saying “or else” would have been an ultimatum, but she didn’t go that route. She was fully prepared to leave to go after what she wanted. That wasn’t an ultimatum, that was a decision. From what he told me, I didn’t get the impression that she was looking back over her shoulder hoping he’d come after her. She was more like “if he comes back, fine, if he doesn’t, oh well”. He made his own decision then.

lurker He knows I’m not interested, that’s why I left in the first place. I was no longer interested in what he had to offer. I told him that it would be best for us to cut contact in our last conversation. He wanted to remain friends, but I told him that to be “talk on the phone” friends would be prolonging the inevitable, especially if we met other people. We agreed to the clean break. It’s not my concern that he wants to change the rules now that his heart is in his throat.

People stop reaching out when they continue to get no response, positive or negative.

Thanks for your analysis though.

By mytwocents

August 1, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

Slim Yeah, I’m not good @ being half-azzed with it. So while the window to my heart doesn’t really have to be pried open, I’m really not gonna be proppin it up for an indedinite period of time.

From classical in the car->hip hop on ipod-> jazz in the park… Now coming down off my high :(

By Foots

August 1, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Dan I can build that with someone else.

I guess that I have had relationships and emotional connections with such unique individuals that I never think I can build the same relationship with somebody else that I had with that person. Accounting for the differences in people, it would be different. Better or worse, but still different.

But then again, if I had relationships that were just about azz and spending time together, I can see how that would be easily replacable.

By Chica

August 1, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

I was talking to my friend who has large breasts, even bigger than mine. I’m a 38 DD and she is like at least an F. She said she wears keeps her bra on during sex because the dangle and aren’t perky and I was thinking, “How could she do that?”

Then it got me to thinking, if she is that self conscious then why even be with someone like that who can’t appreciate her fully.

By Demigod33

August 1, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

Foots Keeping dude on the “Just in Chase”…LOL

Page HEY!

I agree with whatever Melo posted to B (hey!).

Positive note: Went out with a Cali head turner who hook me up with some nice dimes…Now having Demi to sing for me

Demi:

Bish i’m tha man, I I I’m tha man, got no wife but the white be my girlfriend, B*** i’m tha man, I I I’m tha man, got no wife but the white be my girlfriend,

I don’t knoooooooow, what yall been told. shawty look back up wassup you that’s what’s hanninnnnnnn [ pause ] You know i keep work, 17 5 same color T shirt that’s what hannin

By Page1908

August 1, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

Hey Demi

LOL @ Chica ctfu Come on, now. Even if a woman has mosquito bites they are going to dangle to some degree during that kind of situation.

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

we blogged about this awhile ago and i posted about the men that i came across while in GA just wanting the booty only. i told ALL of them that i couldn’t be their booty call and to look me up when you’re ready for something real. they always came back and did what raqi stated, Once he is comfortable again he will possibly began to act his prior feelings. my mistake was taking them back and thinking that they changed. lesson learned. a booty call … it is what it is. i received an instant message from durango two weeks ago. men are a trip!

By melo

August 1, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

Foots lets assume u and new arent seeing each other again(banish the thoght* and ol guy sends u that interested and regret it rhyme,wld u give it 2nd thoghts? * and yes, that night she got “the treatment” most groupies get* u handled that thang? if i wanted my ex, i can have him back at anytime i knw what u wld do when noone is looking,this female company on the blog gives u motivation to keep it closed…but think about those cold nights….. sick and twisted creature who shouldn’t be let lose yeah,the consequences of riding him wld be a swift and sweet fatal attraction…

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 1:46 PM | Link to this

Chica Maybe it’s too uncomfortable for her to let them just dangle, rumble, shake, gyrate all over the place. Maybe you could suggest she put them up in a harness attached to the ceiling…solves the perkiness & dangling situation. Whenever buddy wants to li, li, li em like a lollipop he can just pull down on the rope which will bring them to mouth-level.

By melo

August 1, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

that self conscious then why even be with someone like that who can’t appreciate her fully. hey chica,tell ur friend to date a married man with kids for a change…the young guys dnt apreciate boobs that have had milk supplies for kids..we married dudes like those better(esp me)and if they drop and dangle low,i can suckle them and tangle my neck around them…thats so climaxxx inducing…what a way to appreciate what ur mama gave yaa……

By melo

August 1, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

i received an instant message from durango two weeks ago. men are a trip! and…………?

By Foots

August 1, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

melo lets assume u and new arent seeing each other again(banish the thoght and ol guy sends u that interested and regret it rhyme,wld u give it 2nd thoghts?*

No. It will not be under consideration. I’ve gone down that road once and turned the corner. I’m on a new road now.

Beautiful Yes, in that case, I believe it. If all you were previously was booty, when they come back, all they would want is booty.

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

chica you funny.

melo if i were to have sex just so i won’t have a cold night, that would defeat my purpose of being celibate (one year this month). omg dude! i promise, as soon as i get some imma call you. k.

By Demigod33

August 1, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

@Chica my number is…

i would just put some whippa cream on them things…it is amazing what you can do with F cups chicks LOL

By Dan

August 1, 2008 2:04 PM | Link to this

@Foots

never did I say the relationship was about time and azz.

The relationship lasted for six months before she felt like she wasn’t getting what she wanted from me.

As for “unique individuals”, that’s a double negative, every individual is unique, so having fun and being myself with anyone is not indicative of the person, it’s about our reaction to one another.

I don’t do the whole, this person get’s this side of my personality thing. To know me, is to know me.

By Demigod33

August 1, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

Ay Ay Ay Pimp she’s fine She’s sexy, she’s cool She’s a Georgia Peach So she likes to get loose

Smoke Kush Sip Goose But if I give you some I want Dat Bubble Gum (Bihm)

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 2:08 PM | Link to this

melo and another thing, many female bloggers on here do motivate me. duh. and my boys, and friends, my lil sis. what/who motivates you? luke, hef? without those i deal with on a daily, i would truly be lost.

By melo

August 1, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

omg dude! i promise, as soon as i get some imma call you. k. babe,hold that thoght..k at u back..im off to Dallas this weekend with wify 4 musical concert,mandingo style..but ima plan sme cali trip,solo,..and once i bag that,ima give u notice….sze 14 is cming ur way,get ur shytt in order,deodorized,perfumed and smel good…we may need to drive along coast to san diego where i hear its neither cold nor hot,then waxxx that dem pudsy ,cooly mandingo@ breezy beach style and give u sme real hot dykk to pine for………

By Dan

August 1, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful

Stop playing….I can hear the slight buzzing as you type.

You handling business right now ain’tcha?….

By Dan

August 1, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful

Stop playing….I can hear the slight buzzing as you type.

You handling business right now ain’tcha?….

By melo

August 1, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

before she felt like she wasn’t getting what she wanted from me why u revealing ur details,stats and length in public like that?

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

Absolutely Nothing to Do with Topic:

You know what is so weird for me right now? My friend girls having and talking about having babies. I have not desire to have another baby. I have a 2 year old grandson. My kids are “big” now. I don’t desire the pitter patter of little munchkins around the house. I’m done. But I do talk with them little bundles and bundles to come.

My friend Doc is done also but she was joking about the fear of being drawn in sync with your female friends. There’s an old yet to be proven wives tale that states when women associate frequently and closely their periods become in sync. Doc jokingly stated that it has been known to happen with pregnancy also. A group of associating women to all be within months pregnant of each other.

One of friend’s has two babies and another surprisingly talked about possibly getting knocked up in the very near future. I thought I would never ever hear those words be uttered by her.

Doc and I were like yall need to get away from here with that nonsense. Don’t be putting us in jeopardy.

By Dan

August 1, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

@Melo

Your sex-crazed and slightly gay comments aside…

What she wanted was a committment, what I wanted was her best friend….

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

dan nope! thought about getting one, but can’t do it.

hey alvin!

By melo

August 1, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

Your sex-crazed and slightly gay comments aside hahaha,thats a digg,what wld u want me to wear…?

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

Because it just makes no sense whatsoever I will correct this sentence.

But I do talk with them about their little bundles and bundles to come.

By Nicole

August 1, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

What a funny topic? I was always talking about how I wanted a man who called all the time, wanted to spend all of his free time with me however when I started settling into my relationship with my husband I wanted to tell him to go somewhere!!! Leave me alone!!! I would come in from work and he wouldn’t give me 5 minutes to sit on the couch before he was in my face!!! He calls several times a day and emails more than that. Be careful what you ask for….I joke with my friends about it but the truth is its kind of cute! :)

By melo

August 1, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

I have not desire to have another baby i thoght u said,long time ago,that mason did not want babies….or is it u 2 were just in sync and iam just remembering one side of it?

By For Real

August 1, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

For Real and Chica’s friend doing it….

For Real: Hold this and i will grab your leg.

Chica’s Friend: Wait a minute the other one is under my back….

For Real: OUCH!!!!! MY EYE!!!

Chica’s Friend: Just let me get on top…

For Real: How do you expect me to breath?

Chica’s Friend: I just need 10 minutes…

For Real: 10 minutes!!!! I’ll be dead!!!

By IslandGirl

August 1, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Hello Everyone

Just cruising by to say hey and have a fantasic weekend.

Foots…Ms Hola Hoop Queen, do you plan to go to Play Date this weekend?

**Melo(9 calm down with all that sex talk..

Demi Hello dear, long time no chat. Hope all is well.

Ared where you at…what is the weekend round up?

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

Raqi I think there is some truth to the contagiousness of it all. One of my cousins and I are exactly one month apart. I’m June 1st, she’s July 1st…My sister just found out she’s preggo and now the cousin that lives closer to her is now also newly preggo. I saw my sis this past weekend but i’m not worried cuz obviously you have to be gettin the puddy beat out to get preggo. Unless someone has added a new realistic feature to my Mr. Bullet……Dayum, i been neglecting it too

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

melo long before Mason asked me to marry him he knew I did not want anymore kids and he was fine with that. So we went with it.

By Just saying

August 1, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

Okaaay. It’s getting a bit oversexed and uninteresting. The flow was nice this morning. Just sayin

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

LOL Slimone. What a feature that would be.

By melo

August 1, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl..k..i knw its torture when u dry…im looking forward to my weekend,im hyped………

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

Slim My friend Denise has been anti-baby since I have known her now here she is talking about wanting to have a baby. I will never ask her this but I wonder if being around the other two babies prompted the feeling or is it her husband to be that wants it. But either way they better keep those baby making hormones away from me.

LOL at myself because I have actually taken 3 preg tests since I have been married.

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

Raqi I just gave that some thought and i wonder if the box would include a baby juice donor profile inside…that way you would know a lil about the daddy. LOL!

By melo

August 1, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

SlimOne u of all pple is the last one i ever thoght wld get bulleted,coz u seem so crafty and all.I imagined u can get urs and eat it too and the guy wld be the one to feel like he outa pocket,sore coz he cant get one on the regular after u gave them a quickie peak and bolted…..hw wrong i waz..

By For Real

August 1, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

Hey anyone hear that Tony, Toni, Tone is performing tonight in Atlanta?

By melo

August 1, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

taken 3 preg tests since I have been married. we dont want any anymore too,but my wife does not do good with bc pills and they mess up her cycles…..we have had to murder 2…..thats not a nice feeling……..

By Poppa Grande

August 1, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Slim….I mean this in the nicest possible way. “you are silly.”lmao.

Also, you are correct about the female cycle sync. Raqi, one of my classmates did her paper on that phenomenon. Usually, women who either live together or work together sync. Two factors affect it stress and/or pheromones (especially if males are present in similar environment).

Random Thoughts as this week draws to a close… 1) Why is the week after time off the most hectic? It seems like they absolutely did nothing while I was gone last week. I am exhausted.

2) Since its the first of the month…(channel the song). I was just at Publix, and it seems that every cart checking out that had brand name items ( was paid for by EBT. My tail was standing in line with Publix brand pancake mix instead of Bisquick. What is this ish. smh.

By Demigod33

August 1, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

IG things are going well on my end…I am actually doing some work ova here, ain’t that some shyt? Any way I hope you have a great weekend.

B I think you are going about wanting a relationship the wrong way…Is there any way you can close your heart off and just date? Not have sex, but just plain ole jane date.

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Nicole that’s so true. Some nights when I get irritated when I can’t turn because he sleeps in the middle of the bed I think back to those times before we were married and I wished he was there. Just for companionship. Now sometimes it like will you please go some where.

Or when he insist on being aggravating when I don’t feel like playing. At one time I wanted him to be there when he couldn’t be.

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

RaqI I have no idea what it is…Honestly, I am far off from ready to be a mother but I’ll admit, after i heard about my sis and saw her Saturday, my body has been whispering ‘baby’ ever since. I had to slap myself while looking in the mirror..”Get Yourself together..this is just a dream, this is not real”. LOL!

melo I’ve spoken before numerous times about my bedside drawer (Mr Bullet). I have not used it in a long while but i was looking for something in my nightstand the other day, and the sucker’s batteries havent died yet. Its got a hair trigger. scared the shyt outta me lol

Getting a does or two of vitamin D is not an issue. I just have to send otu the bat signal and Whah-lah it drops from the sky. But i’m not really looking for a CutBuddy right now….Although i am overdue for an earmuffilectomy but For Real has been on the bench with a jaw injury. LMAO j/k

By Foots

August 1, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

melo May I suggest an IUD, or even the Patch? Goodness! There are other methods of birth control out there other than pills and abortion.

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl where is she? i didn’t give her the day off. lol.

registering kels in school today. first year in hs. i’m excited. omg!

By Poppa Grande

August 1, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

For Real

Yeah, they will be at “Pearl” or something like that.

From what I hear, though, Raphael Saadiq is not with them. He has been with them for a minute.

By lurker

August 1, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

2) Since its the first of the month…(channel the song). I was just at Publix, and it seems that every cart checking out that had brand name items ( was paid for by EBT. My tail was standing in line with Publix brand pancake mix instead of Bisquick. What is this ish. smh.

last week there was an article in Newsweek telling that one way “we” are coping with high gas/grocery prices is by switching from national to store brands on grocery items.

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

we have had to murder 2

AH!!! That’s not even an option to be considered in my house.

By Foots

August 1, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

IslandG I doubt it. I wouldn’t mind going though if our plans change. It would be unfair of me to participate in the hula-hoop contest though. Gotta give some other hips a chance to do their thing. LOL!

By melo

August 1, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

IUD? thats like a thing u put in and then take out…eeeewhhhh…the doc shld be the best person to say, dont u think,i cant understand why she wnt get it right….but then again in america,she may not even be an aunthentic doc..cld be a piedmont type fake azz doc from the news..lol

By Dan

August 1, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

@PG

Go you one better.

While working at a drug store, I would see a gang of people on the first of the month buy nothing but tata’ chips, cookies, microwavable soups, candy, and oven ready pizza.

It was the first time I realized that I had Republican leanings… I don’t remember being that disgusted.

@Slim (aka Brice Banner)

The Bat-Signal is calling you!

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Did any of you hear the new R Kelly song?…talking about he got a call from some skrippas lawyer saying she preggo and it’s his..(saying true story)…he singing about how he raw dawgged the skrippa and might now be a daddy when he didnt’ even like the girl…she just some chick he took home and he should’ve just gone home to his lady instead of a quick late night creep.

By For Real

August 1, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

thanks PG dayummm why groups can’t stay together? Individually they ain’t ish but collectively they are the bomb. I might go away tho maybe he will be there.

Slim It’s called carpotunnel of the jaws.

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

melo I told yall this before. Mason told me the only other woman he ever even wanted to marry aborted their baby. He says he walked away from her and hasn’t spoken a word to her since.

Although I myself do not believe in abortion, I will honestly say I believe if I did that now being married to him I will probably end up in fatal situation. Truly.

By Demigod33

August 1, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Melo why not get yourself fix or the wife cut…the side effects only last 10 days in men

By melo

August 1, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

and foots, u knw thats why i luv africa smetimes..when u cme to america,the females get a strong hand.she says* i aint having no mre* shayyyyt.if i was back hme.i proly wld have been hitting for my 15th baby by now….i still got pure good grade crude in ma system and ma back is waaaaay strong…….

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

melo A doctor implants it and it stays there for up to five years.

By melo

August 1, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

I will probably end up in fatal situation. Truly. uhhhh,now thats some ish…u may not believe it,but i waz thinking about u last nite,in a good sisterly way….about sme u posted yesterday………

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

Dan The CT seems to waking up…somebody must’ve stole my dayum VDPOD (Vitamin D-Pod) lol

Is it just me or has this been the longest dayum week of the summer?..got a whole nother 1.5hrs

By Poppa Grande

August 1, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

For Real

Word is that he was horrible about being on time and all that. He is one of those creative types that may not have much business sense.

I heard that he had similar problems with the Lucy Pearl things. It affected their money. Dawn put him on blast before she left and was replaced by Joi.

By Dan

August 1, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

@Slim

Glad you elaborated, I got worried for a split second (VDPOD?)…

wheew…wiping forehead from this TX heat

By Foots

August 1, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

melo the doc shld be the best person to say, dont u think

Well, if the doctor believes that the best way to avoid having any more children is to have, unprotected sex, get knocked up and then abort the fetus, then she must know best. smh

I have a few friends with IUDs and it works as intended. Simple insertion, can stay in 5 years, easily removed. Good option for those who don’t want to be sterilized and don’t like pills or patches.

By melo

August 1, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

why not get yourself fix, Demi,u knw bro, i luv u to death,but if u were near me here, i wld have punched u in tha mouf….me fixed? Only way i can get fix,is if nobody knew and the supreme court has orderd it..justice anthony scalia,judas iscariot clarence thomas and sme swing judge to make 3 majority….. im just hlding out in case wify says i can get another american sister to live in our 3rd bedroom like we do back home.Then ill get me sme fine bootylscious chic like mytwo,staceye or a young one that can cook and sexx like ared……

By Jamoca

August 1, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this

Hello you all!…

LOL!!! @ “carpotunnel of the jaws…”

@ Melo:

Actually, your doctor inserts the device, which depending on the brand, can stay in place for 5 YEARS and is 99% effective…the Mirena is the latest one, and has fewer side effects…I love(d) it b/c it’s not something you have to remember to take on a daily basis, however depending on how “rough (she)likes to ride em’”, can cause the device to become displaced…but IMO, I think it’s the best one out there!

Fri-TaTas…you had me tearin’ up w/ your 10:24 earlier….LMAO!…I see you caught that too.

Cee…enjoy ya’ wkend, sis…I’m sure it’s much needed and well deserved.

By melo

August 1, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

A doctor implants it and it stays there for up to five years sure it wnt scratch me when i get in there..see im educated but am african, i take this technlgy thangs with a bit of salt…anything with potential to hurt no#1 is looked at sideways…lol

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Foots Well, if the doctor believes that the best way to avoid having any more children is to have, unprotected sex, get knocked up and then abort the fetus, then she must know best.

You know you are a trip….LMAO!

“Where foots?” …..”Home fixin ta shaavee Mister” lol

Dan Don’t put that into the atmosphere..VD…sound like you cursin me smh

By Foots

August 1, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

melo sure it wnt scratch me when i get in there..

It will be in the uterus, which is closed off by the cervix. You’re not getting in there. Educate yourself about Mirena and about other options. Like Jamoca says, Mirena is the newest IUD out there. Click here and here.

By melo

August 1, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Foots and Jamoca i hope it works well for pple who sexx,coz i knw sme of u folks when married dnt get none,we might say it wrks blah but i aint the type to go without,if i dnt get mine,u out,go tell that IUD thang to ur doc and the consequences,i dnt play like that… im gonna tell her to ask doc about that and hear if thats a good option…if it dnt wrk well,well(im smiling) she may need a helper in da hse and is on weak bargaining leverage right now..

By Jamoca

August 1, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

sure it wnt scratch me when i get in there..

Unless the “ro-ta roota” is long enough to reach beyond the vaginal canal, through her cervix, which will bring you to the final destination of the uterine walls (her womb)…tho’ I’m almost certain you were kidding…smh

By QC

August 1, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

What’s up Demi i just sent you an email….just stopped by to say hello…anyone going to the BB HAIR SHOW this weekend??????

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

it’s not something you have to remember to take on a daily basis

Jamo That’s the main reason I like it. Not too long ago I had it out for 3 months and I was on a temporary pill that I could not miss a day taking. My doctor said it was so mild it only worked when you took it. If I missed a day I was in big trouble. I missed a few days. LOL One of the most stressful times of my life. Going all those years not having to worry about it and then one day having to remember to take a pill everyday. Around the same time. That nearly drove me crazy. sigh

By Dan

August 1, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

@Slim

U right.

But I thought my fellow celibate mate would get the joke…

And if you buy that, I have a couple of mortgage backed securities to sell you…CHEAP

By Tazzee

August 1, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

I know I’m late with this one, but I’ve had folks having babies all around me during the past two years and I have yet to get the urge for one myself.

And while I don’t want to have a child, I would have one for my husband. But he better hurry up and come on because these eggs are getting old.

By Alvin

August 1, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

melo it’s not that serious dude, LOL. I got myself fix at 22. I knew I was a very irresponsible dude…Not much really change…I am quite sure I can hung with the best of them.

While I am not against abortions, I am against folk not taking precautions first…married or single.

By melo

August 1, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

foots,raqi,jamoca thnx, i will take that up……

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

it only worked when you took it

Let me explain that a little further. The effects of the pill did not linger. It did not your system for the long haul. The day you failed to take it was the day you were wide open.

By Tazzee

August 1, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

Dan you’re in TX? never knew that. but you’re right, it is hot as hell here.

Or as my friend likes to say whenever she visits me “It’s so hot, I walked past Satan on the street and he was like shoot, it’s hot out here”

By Raqi

August 1, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I truly believe that may me the case with my friend Denise. He may be convincing her of it and now she believes it. It’s all good for her though. I wish them the best.

By Tazzee

August 1, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

Raqi thanks for that explanation - I was sitting here wondering which ones work when you don’t take it?

By Sidelines

August 1, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

Slim, …..”Home fixin ta shaavee Mister”…your a trip! lmao…that was one of the funny parts of the Color Purple!

Everyone…please have a good/safe weekend!

By melo

August 1, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

Dan and Tazzee hw is the weather there ths weekend,wl be in dallas early tmrw till sunday eve,any rain in the forecast..?

By Foots

August 1, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

Raqi The day you failed to take it was the day you were wide open.

I think we’d all be in trouble if the regular pill was like that. I never take mine at the same time. Then there’s always the interference with antibiotics. I’m going to ask about the Mirena next time I’m at the doc. It may be cost effective now. I have insurance, but the increases in payments for the Pill under my new insurance are ridiculous. Literally from $15 for three month supply to $60, and that’s for generic.

By Foots

August 1, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

Tazzee “It’s so hot, I walked past Satan on the street and he was like shoot, it’s hot out here”

LMAO!! That’s the reverse of what I say when it’s really cold:

It’s so cold that I went outside and saw Frosty the Snowman and he was like “You got a jacket I can borrow?”

By Dan

August 1, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

@Tazzee

If your description of yourself holds true….Take the first flight to Dallas.

I’ll meet you at the terminal with a priest in tow..

By Alvin

August 1, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

QC I just got it on my blackberry…that office memo was funny as hell…my co-workers are rollin ova here.

By Jamoca

August 1, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Ohhhh, and hello Demi, I almost missed ya’…..please, not the mean-muggin’ face…lookin’ like Shabba!hahaha…I know, I just tried ya’ with that one, but *she knows betta, doesn’t she**? LOL!

Melo/Foots

I’d only recommend this one for folks who are in a 100% EXCLUSIVE/ trusting relationship, b/c with a contraceptive this convenient and effective…first idea comes to mind, “there’s no excuse for my woman NOT to allow me to dig in her with “the Oooo-Baby” aka “Raw”.

However, once removed…she so fertile, she could breed em’ like roaches…LOL!!!…not to mention of course it does not protect either one from catchin’ that “NINJA”…

By mytwocents

August 1, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Can’t speak for my fellow American sisters but sounds like there’s no reason u can’t go ahead and schedule that snip-snip today if that’s what’s holding u back.

By Tazzee

August 1, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

melo It’s supposed to be hotter in Dallas than here in Houston this weekend. Sat 103/78, Sun 104/79 - no rain in the forecast. Enjoy!

By melo

August 1, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

my wife works for same co as u foots,ur insurance is dam exp……

By QC

August 1, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

Demi/Alvin/CapeCrusader I know right…somebody got too much time on their hand, LMAO

2cptg..i sent it to you also

HOLLA….

By Tazzee

August 1, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Dan I don’t think I ever described myself on here…but er umm, bump the plane - I’m hopping in my car right after work, I’ll be there by 7pm, LOL.

Seriously, I’ve been trying to make my way to Dallas for a weekend since I’ve moved here. I’ll have to hit you up when I decide to make that trip.

By melo

August 1, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Oooo-Baby” aka “Raw”ahhhhhh…..u jamican and married…..?

By Beautiful

August 1, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

alvin not right now. i have a headache.

sittin’ here munching on corn pops …

By mytwocents

August 1, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

Mocha Gonna need you to lead our monthly Sex Ed seminar. Where can I send my anonymous questions???

By melo

August 1, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

Damn Tazzie,thats hot..i be in room or swimming til night when we venture… mytwocents im praying none snatch u and we meet up later….selfish but a man got take care of own intrests…i can stll handle my thang at 65……..

By Alvin

August 1, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Jamoca you just reminded me of the young lady who had her inside twisted around by this bless wannabe porn actor, who was high on some type of acid….That poor girl wouldn’t stop bleeding for nothing.

Dude just dropped her a$$ off at Jackson (in Miami) and kept it moving…In my defense:

I wasn’t thinking all too straight either, LOL

By SlimOne

August 1, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

melo Maybe you could stuff some of that cotton they put in aspirin bottles first before you go poking all up in the uterus all willy nilly. Just a suggestion.

Anybody watch Black Men Revealed on BET…what da hayo is an orGIZSM? LMAO

By Dan

August 1, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

@Taz

Moved where? You in TX?

@Melo

Hot, nikka, hot! Between April and September that’s the forecast in TX.

Hot, nikka, hot!

By Tazzee

August 1, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Have a great weekend folks!

By Alvin

August 1, 2008 4:35 PM | Link to this

Jamoca and I am in no mood to mean mugg anyone…I dont get outta this dump until 8pm

By Tazzee

August 1, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

Dan - yeah, I moved to Houston from Atlanta two years ago.

OK, I’m gone for real now. I’m actually going out on a Friday night, which is something I rarely do….

By Jamoca

August 1, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

Raqi

then one day having to remember to take a pill everyday. Around the same time. That nearly drove me crazy.

I remember after I had my oldest daughter, I went on the Depo…big mistake!…that drove me absolutely insane…my cycle was so irregular…then I tried the pill, if only I could remember to take it on time, if at all…and then finally I heard of the Mirena, and it put all of that to rest!…Aaaahhh….

Melo

Why folks always associate Jamoca w/ being Jamaican, which of course is not an issue here…LOL!…(and Jamoca describes a flavor, btw)…

I was thinking more along the lines of Busta Rhymes’ “Oooo baby I like it raw…ya ya yaaa..ya ya…Wooo-haaa, gotchu’ all in check”….LMAO!!…at least that what some of the fellas I grew up around (incl some uncles, cousins)ref’d to diggin’ their women out as doing that “Oooo Baby” …LOL!!!

Fri-TaTas

Hey girlie…just send em’ to my addy…this organization also complies with the HIPAA guidelines…LOL!!!

…sooo what’s on the agenda for the wkend, if any?…I’m spending mine by doing the remainder of school shopping for uniforms, supplies and such…however, “we” may get out Saturday with nightlife folk and hit up The Blue Martini…”I feel like dancin’…”

By Jamoca

August 1, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

* dont get outta this dump until 8pm”*

…I see you’re just waiting on them to unleash the beast, huh?…LOL!!!

By melo

August 1, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

good weekend flks….heading to insurection (sp) to get sme goodies for mouf and tngue for the road…..

By AnnieR

August 1, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Is my mate in control? …he thinks he is!

By Alvin

August 1, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

I give it to ya raw! I said I give it to ya raaaawww!! I’m Ason baby, I’m the Ason baby I’m Ason baby, I’m the Ason I’m Ason baby, I’m the Ason Givin it to ya raw baby The raw deal, because

By Foots

August 1, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

Slim what da hayo is an orGIZSM?

Girl!! I almost fell off the sofa when he said that! And when Special K was like “Can I buy a vowel??”

They still haven’t improved the format of that show. Those men bicker much worse than women, especially when they start that “I know more than you, mine is bigger than yours, betcha I can take your woman” childishness. Those brothers that host are full of chocolate fineness though.

Everyone have a good weekend!!

By M'Karyl

August 1, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

Checking in before we check out…evrybdy have a groovy weekend…avoid the heat and stay cool…peace!

By Wilderbeast

August 1, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

Now whispering in Peacock’s ear

(I like the way you come)

Hey, baby, I like it rawww… Yeah baby, I like it RAWWW!!! Ooh, baby, I like it raww… Yeah baby, I like it RAWWW!!!

NOTE: Right after getting to know/tested and all that good stuff.

By Jamoca

August 1, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

You all have a fabulous weekend!!!…ya’ girl is out.

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