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Friday, August 1, 2008
It’s Under Control
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Jennifer Hudson is scheduled to perform in the city this weekend. I am checking my VIP access connections to see if I can catch her singing, Spotlight. Jennifer sings, Are you a man who loves and cherishes and cares for me?/ Are you a guard in a prison, maximum security
When I first heard this song, I immediately thought of a controlling boyfriend I once had. As we said yesterday, I have him to thank for this gem: Careful what you wish for when you say you want an attentive boyfriend. Now I have my “attentive boyfriend within reason and compliance of Georgia laws” disclaimer!
Jennifer’s song reminds me of a funny quote by comedian Fred Allen: I won’t say I hate you - but my admiration for you is under control. My buddy Phillip has this theory about women. He believes that although women say they want admiration, it’s actually a real problem when it happens.
According to him, in many ways, we constantly uphold this social ideal as a requirement for wooing us, yet being put on a pedestal becomes a turn off. Now I believe there is a huge difference between being put on a pedestal and being put on a GPS tracking device.
We argue about this theory all the time because he doesn’t think a happy medium can exist for women. We either want the admiration or we complain that we don’t have the admiration. I agree with Fred Allen, keep the admiration under control and we will get along fine! What do you think?
Guys, have you ever dated a woman who put you on a pedestal? Did she make you feel as if you were the king of her world? Did it make you happy being adored and catered to like this? Were you creeped out by her constant attention?
Ladies, have you ever dated a man who took his admiration for you beyond reasonable? Do you think women ironically want admiration but feel uncomfortable when they get it?
Thanks to our beloved Raqi for this topic idea.
HAPPY FRIDAY!
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