Misadventures in Atlanta

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July 24, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

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By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

LOL. This is very much an Angie topic. I don’t see how much you can say about this one.

Most people know that I’m single because heck, I’m not married. I’m dating, and doubt people care either way. I do have some friends who are always looking to play matchmaker. That’s about it.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 24, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Glad to see the blog is up and working!

I agree with Dan, we should discuss that first segment from the CNN special last night. In referece to the chick with the white guy, that same footage was on MTV when they did their interracial dating documentary.

By Raqi

July 24, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

Some of my worst dates were with men that came via social networking. Everybody always got a brother, cousin or long lost uncle that they want to set you up with. And because they are sympathetic to their little “issues” they fail to reveal that info to you.

By Dan

July 24, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

@Slim

I saw it and was so struck by the comments of the women that I didn’t know whether to be p**sed or hurt.

How is it, esp. in the A that we could be so close (in proximity) yet so far away.

Assuming that she wanted to talk…

Well then, here’s my answer to that. If you’re so busy, so “on your grind” that contact with the opposite sex is no longer needed when the opportunity is there…then you no longer have a right to complain about being single.

If you’re not open to experience what someone offers…then don’t complain that “there are no good men”.

I mean, the President from Bennett sited “education, incarceration, and employment” as barriers to single, successful women.

As I watched the story, I saw something different: Ego. On the one hand the ladies want a man, but on the other, he has to be this, this and this.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

July 24, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

Good morning Good People, although I don’t go around blasting that I’m single I do let it be known depending on the conversation with whomever or when appropiate. I’m content with being single just as I was content when was married HOWEVER there are the few who play that pull off the wedding ring stunt and it leaves a bit of confusion here as whether to approach or not.

By Raqi

July 24, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

But if someone is busy then obviously that is not the right time or opportunity.

And then I don’t care what you may be engaged in if someone that find attractive cross your path a quick smile, eyebrow raise or nod will be presented in acknowledgement. If the person is actively seeking.

By melo

July 24, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

I feel there are enough brothers for every educated single sister..the problem is both sides do not want to concede to the other.Its all about power.Educated wmen feel being a wife is taking on an inferior position and brothers feel that educated women wil want to run them in the house.So we have this impasse.Its amazing that when you actually get an educated woman taking on a traditional role,thats where u see the marriage thriving. WE either have to go back to the basics of teaching our wmen folk once again, what it is to be married and at the same time teaching the guys the responsibilties of a man in marriage.The alternative is just having baby mamas.

By Rell

July 24, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

@DAN….mayne those ladies dont count…they are in the wrong profession if you ask me….hollywood would be alot better with some of these academy award winning actresses we have in our community….i mean they have bs themselves so long they actually believe the character they become…and stay there…..again a women only goal in current relationships is not end up like the rest of the heart women..so they insulate themselves with bs theories on what a man needs to bring to the table to avoid hurt….not going to happen when you dealing with a relationship..you will get hurt…..and again dan dont listen to that bs coming from those women..avoid them..there are plenty of women spread all over gods green earth looking for a brother like yourself….ATLANTA IS NOT GROUND ZERO!!!!….atlanta is a mutant in the grand scheme of things….go to two blades of grass alabama and your options maybe limited but they will be a bit more realistic when it comes to dating/relationships…etc

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

Most black women don’t “complain” about being single in the first place. Just like we don’t complain about being black or being a woman, it is what it is. Can it be a source of frustration at times? Sure. Just like being black and a woman.

Black men dropped the ball long ago. Many of us simply picked it up and continued on the grind.

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

Out of all my friends, I’m the only one that’s single. Even though I love the companionship on a man, I’m enjoying my new found freedom of going where I want to go, and doing what I want to do without having to think twice about it… Its always fun meeting new people. I don’t advertise being single, but lately I’ve been going to a lot of events around Atlanta by myself with hopes of finding a new male companion… Any suggestions of where I should go where the men aren’t afraid to approach a woman these days?

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

Dan Maybe you’ll feel vindicated once we see the Men’s issues on tonights segment.

By melo

July 24, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Most black women don’t “complain” about being single in the first place u bullshyting…..they dnt verbalize it that much but complain they do,we hear that every day on radio,in forums etc.We are not living in diff worlds,heck even on this blog they do, so what u talking about?God created us in such a way that we have to interact and fugg each other,that is the natural order of things and women feel the urge as much as man do.Women just happen to be more responsible and seem to have more discipline and staying power if they happen not to have a mate with them for along time. Cmeon sisters, we know u hurting and lets work to have this issue resolved. Well, ill speak for me, i luv my pudsy,single sisters tell me u luv ur Dykk too and aint getting enough!!!

By melo

July 24, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Any suggestions of where I should go where the men aren’t afraid to approach a woman these days? hw old are u and what do u like doing etc?

By Dan

July 24, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Let’s not start with the generalities…Black men didn’t drop anything, some have, not all.

And Red, stop playing, women talk about the lack of available men all the time. Here and in real life. Maybe it’s not a constant compliant, but it is a constant frustration.

@Raqi

If she’s busy..

We’re all busy, at the precise moment that I see her, I’m on my way to pick up my dry cleaning, hit the gym, buy groceries, something.

But when it’s worth it, you make time. Think about it like this, the time spent getting ready for, going to, and being at a club takes more time than those few moments on the street.

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

I never know when girls are taken or single. Girls I talk to are usually really attractive so they always seem to have a guy they’re seeing. I’m not big on wrecking relationships or contributing to them cheating on some guy. Not my Style.

As for me…I’m not sure how I put the single vibe out there. People have told me they are surprised that I’m single. Actually, had a co-worker wanting to sign me up for the Q100 radio station Bachelor of Atlanta competition. Haha.

But, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve hit it off with some girl and to find out oh yeah…she’s got a b/f! That sucks, but its the Game

By Rell

July 24, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

@melo….bingo..that is the breakdown…everyone needs the basics taught to them…not many have come from productive loving homes….here is a thought….when white folks get married..they celebrate….when black folks even think of getting married out comes the naysayers and folks that say naw dawg dont do it…you going to be tied down…etc..etc…hell just having a steady black relationship is a balancing act between being with friends and reassuring the insecure women you with…that presented herself strong

By Dan

July 24, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

@Slim

It’s not about vindication.

I date regularly. Whether a dating relationship or a friendship, these are stories that I hear, and they bother me.

I see my married friends, and I’m happy for them. Not just becuase they found someone, but becuase they’re out of the game…

By WilderBeast

July 24, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Goodbye!!!

You haven’t learned a thing I haven’t changed a thing My flesh was in my bones The pain was always mine

You haven’t learned a thing I haven’t changed a thing My flesh was in my bones The pain was always mine

I’ve felt the hate rise up in me… Kneel down and clear the stone of leaves…I wander out where you can’t see… Inside my shell, I wait and bleed…(x2)

And it waits for you!

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

melo - When you hear about it, on the radio on this blog it’s because it’s a forum to discuss. Go out to the bars and social scene and that’s not what we’re complaining about.

Danetta - I didn’t start with the generalities. You did. And on a whole, yes, black men have dropped the ball. I don’t care either way, I don’t see as a problem for me. I know there are enough good black men out there to keep my attention.

Constant frustration? Sure, just like you men have your frustrations with the female gender.

And Raqi, you are completely right. A woman will definitely slow down for a man worth her time. Just like a guy would. If you can’t get or keep her attention, move on.

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

Beautiful, this topic fits you very well. I believe in “not looking” for any particular guy right now. When it happens, it happens. No one is playing matchmaker w/me cuz my friends know my taste varies. I’d rather find someone on my own.

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

Well I’m 26, and I enjoy going to places with a variety of people. I usually go to bars in the Vinings area and downtown. This past weekend, I attended some events with the National Black Arts Festival. I go to lounges a lot… Shout out to Old School Saturday, that I attend the second saturday of every month. For example, I went to mingle at the W hotel. I’m a little old school I guess when it comes to Men approaching Women. I’ve been away from the dating scence for a really long time. So my question is, these days do Men wait for women to make the initial move?

By melo

July 24, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

When you hear about it(complaining) on the radio on this blog it’s because it’s a forum to discuss u got it and i do……..

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

Endless Romantic I’m 26 (single) and actually hit the similar spots you mentioned. Guys don’t look for the girls to make the initial move. I think, we look for a sign that you’re approachable. I’ve always been in relationships with different girls and I’ve been single for the past 5 months and its been fun for sure! Just have to be willing I think to put yourself out there and not force it. Some of the best people I’ve ever met were in just random situations

By Dan

July 24, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

@ARed

“…a woman will slow down for a man that’s worth her time…”

Well, here’s the thing. Up to the point that we meet, we’re both single. We’re single becuase the choices we’ve made and our selection process has allowed us to be single.

So, at 30, I realize that maybe, just maybe it’s time for me change my own process. So, if I’m approaching and I’m not your “type”…

maybe I’ll see you when you realize that dating “your type” is what has kept you single.

By LisaK

July 24, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

As I watched the story, I saw something different: Ego. On the one hand the ladies want a man, but on the other, he has to be this, this and this.

Sad but true.

I know many females who seem to be blind to the fact that they are the only thing standing in the way of them having a healthy, happy relationship with a man.

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Educated wmen feel being a wife is taking on an inferior position and brothers feel that educated women wil want to run them in the house.

It has been said that if both play their roles then noone will feel inferior to their mate.

WE either have to go back to the basics of teaching our wmen folk once again what it is to be married and at the same time teaching the guys the responsibilties of a man in marriage.The alternative is just having baby mamas.

I am a “babymama” and have to tell all my married friends i’m not bitter. My married friends (men too) asks me if i still think there is hope with how the rate is going? My answer is yes, i do. I still feel the same way they felt before they married. Of all the men in the world i am bound to be with one that is for me. And no, i’m not walking around a hurt soul with baggage. ir 2)Thinking most blk men i see are “The One” nor do i become the aggressor and find out. Yes i’m traditional most times b/c i’m the woman. Not pursuing a man heck no! If i missed the oppurtunity w/ a guy i’m okay with that, heyal i’m okay to go home and continue to hold my pillow until my time comes…maybe right now it’s not my time.

By melo

July 24, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

these days do Men wait for women to make the initial move? for the most part, i think yes…u seem to be doing the right moves ie getting urself out of the house.But appearance and ur facial presentation matters too.If u out there looking nice but ur face potrays smbody who is unapproachaeble,then guys may pass on u.Smile a lot,learn to flirt a lil,dress nice and fresh and just go out to have fun doing what u like to do without putting urself out there like the wwhres on piedmont,….sooner or later smeonne will notice.Good luck.

By mickiedee

July 24, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Rell, a lot of women are insecure when dealing with men because of our fathers and they we were treated growing up. I know that is what happened with me. My father was not stable so (would leave home for days at at time) that has affected my relationships with men tremendously. When they are out of touch for more than a day then I feel like they are not coming back.

By Demi

July 24, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Cause you can feel my ANGER You can feel my pain You can feel my torment Driving me insane I can’t fight these feelings they bring only pain You can’t take away Make me whole again

Mudshovel

By test

July 24, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

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By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Wilderbeast!

I think i know what is it that makes us go plug the ear w/ music? I need a new list! Dealing w/ the other corporate politics. They’ve gotten rid of cpl of us. Why i missed that drama. sigh

Glad i didn’t get caught in the jest of that mess.

By Raqi

July 24, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Dan “But when it’s worth it, you make time.”

Bingo my brother.

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

I like this…reassuring the insecure women you with…that presented herself strong I have seen one of my friends do this exact thing and it cost her her relationship. Told her it would, but she didn’t believe me.

Endless Romantic, I’ve been single 2 years now and I have to force myself to go out. It’s something I don’t do. With lil leggs in Nebraska I find myself still going straight home because I’m not use to going out by myself. This is something I have to work on. Glad you’re getting out there. I may bump into you one day (LOL).

Ok Beautiful, this is your topic suggestion, where’s your comment?

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

Dan - I’m never “too busy” to meet people. And I’m not married to my career either, so like I said, it’s not a problem.

maybe I’ll see you when you realize that dating “your type” is what has kept you single.

And see, I don’t mind being single. So I’d rather stick to my values and convictions rather than to lower my standards and expectations of how MY black man should be just to have a relationship.

There ain’t a lot of black men like my daddy left these days, I don’t want this new school type of man you’re offering. Sorry. I’d really rather be single.

By LisaK

July 24, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Most black women don’t “complain” about being single in the first place.

Maybe none of the black women you know, but I hear my sistahs complaining on a daily basis (at work, on radio shows, on the way to work—public transportation, on television shows, on internet blogs).

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

July 24, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

Complaining is still complaining Ared whether it’s via the radio, blog, in person or written down on a piece of paper. I hear women complaining all the time about the lack of quality men.

By Raqi

July 24, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

(Sorry I didn’t finish my statement)

Dan “But when it’s worth it, you make time.”

Bingo my brother. So when we don’t make the time we obviously don’t feel that it (he) is worth it.

Like I said when we likey, you will knowy.

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Rell when white folks get married..they celebrate….when black folks even think of getting married out comes the naysayers and folks that say naw dawg dont do it…you going to be tied down…etc

This is exactly why i got frustrated earlier this week because I just can’t understand why all the negativity surrounding it. The “M” word is like saying Candyman Candyman Candyman 3 times in the mirror or something.

One of homeboys stopped by last night and he said he’s sort of taking a pause…because he was getting tired of just dating to be dating. I guess him seeing an old roommate of his do it allowed him to see that that life is not fulfilling for him. But it seems so much dating just to see a new face day-to-day is being done by many. Where are those folks that are in a healthy long term relationship?

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

To Melo and ATL Guy, thanks for the advice from a guys perspective… I think I got a little comfortable in my last relationship. After all we was together for 8 years. So I have done things to step my game up again. I’ll let you know how my weekend goes. Now I have to find out what’s going on this weekend. Now I have to update myself on the conversation about the special on CNN last night so I add my two cents to the conversation… :)

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

LisaK - if someone puts a mic in my face or a comment section on a blog, I might “complain” about a whole lot of things. That’s not indicitive of just complaining on GP.

So yeah, maybe it is the black women I know. I don’t kick it with a lot of negative, complaining a* people. Waste of time and energy. They just bring you down with em.

By Rell

July 24, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

@endless…you can not be 26 and old school….lol…that is funny…

@ared..you starting with the name calling early….you the most frustrated women on this piece…i take that back you not frustrated..but dayum disrespectful

@mickidee….i hear you but at some point you have to take responsibility of your emotions and get over it…i could go on and on about my painful childhood but why?…i am 35 now far removed from that and well adjusted…i advise you to do the same..move past that hurt…everyman is not your father

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I go about it way different than you. I’m actually out few times during the week and every weekend partying at clubs, lounges, whatever. Going out as almost become a second job for me…its a chance for me to just not worry about work and just have a great time with friends. But, I like not having someone as relationship mode right now. I like the flexibility & being able to do whatever. I’m probaby single by choice I’d say. If I found a great girl then I’ll move at it, but no rush.

You don’t go out that often, I’m always out … we’re both single. LoL!

By Raqi

July 24, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Rell that 10:27 is the gospel. We are our own enemy.

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Rell - Get over it. You have the most fragile ego on this blog. I made the comment because he called himself that.

In any case, stop caring what you think I am. Either accept it or get over it. But please quit crying about it.

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

Sexy Leggs, It’s something you have to force yourself to do in the beginning… Trust me… But once you get yourself out on the scene. You’ll have so much fun. I can’t even imagine being in a relationship right now. This is on another note, but I spoke with my ex-boyfriend yesterday, and he told me that he is about to be in another committed relationship. I had mixed feelings about that. My main thing is we just broke-up, why would you do that to yourself? Just a week ago he was saying how he’s enjoying being single. Not to mention he claims to still have feelings for me… Like I said, that’s another topic for different day.

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

Rell - One other thing is yes, I am frustrated. I’m tired of men and women always being on different sides. I think we should be on the same team but we keep pointing fingers at one another.

By Demi

July 24, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

The kisses of the sun - Were sweet I didn’t blink I let it in my eyes - Like an exotic dream The radio playing songs - That I have never heard I don’t know what to say - Oh not another word

Just - la la la la la - It goes around the world Just - la la la la la - It’s all around the world Just - la la la la la - And everybody’s singing La la la la la - And now the bells are ringing

There ain’t a lot of black men like my daddy left these days

My mom is a good black woman in her own right…But I ain’t look for women to be just like my momma…Times have change.

Cee I keep my headphone on just so I will not get caught up in all of this corp bs.

By missPharmD

July 24, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Regarding the CNN Special, Why are our problems always the focus of a special on CNN that makes us look bad. They spent more time last night on the negative than on the little positive they had in the show. I can’t imagine what tonight is going to be like when they talk about our black men.

I am TIRED of black folks falling for the okey dokey everytime a tv program wants to raise it’s ratings for one night so they decide to do a black special….knowing damn good and well that blacks folks will tune in along with their momma, sistergurls, boo, etc.

but cnn is not the only one……..nytimes.com wants to increase traffic to it’s website? they just get someone to write YET ANOTHER article about being a single woman in america and have folks circulating the link all over the internet then ……….. bam! increased website traffic —> more viewers —> more advertising money for them.

folks need to wake up and IGNORE the hype

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 24, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I didnt watch the special last night and don’t really have plans to watch the special tonight(I have my reasons)

But I do think the one problem we have in all relationships black or white. Is the ideal that someone else is responsible for our happiness. Finding a mate is not suppose to make you happy or a word I hate more than anything else(WHOLE). Finding a mate is suppose to enhance the happiness you already have. I think the game is twisted sometimes for all of us(including myself) because we can’t shake the idea that we have to attached to achieve the state of happy. Happy comes from the inside out..not the outside in.

By melo

July 24, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Endless another thing i notice with african america females is the attitude,call it bad attitude.If smeobody says hello its only courteous to reciprocrate.Ladies just have bad manners and it just may be a sign of the mental anguish some face as single mothers etc.Nothing beats a good attitude when u are a prospective.Just sitting there and not being chatty, mixing and mingling will not get u far,no matter how pretty and beautiful u look!

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Ya’ll off the chain early this morning. I’m almost scared to jump in. I agree and disagree with a lot with what was said in the earlier posts and a lot of what displayed on the show last night.

On topic Everyone in my peer group knows I’m single and looking. Most wonder why I haven’t met a husband yet because in their opinion I’m a good catch. With that said they aren’t going to necessarily introduce me to a brother that they know is not a good fit for me. I’ll be friends with almost anyone including brothers that have had run-ins with the law and have been incarcerated. I have play brothers that have done time in jail, but can come to my house and look and eat out of my fridge. Are they marriage material? Hell to the nah! Their minds ain’t right.

My problem with some of the women in the piece last night was the stupidity of some of the decision making. Ole girl had 4 kids by the same man!!!! What the hell was she thinking about???!!! Why won’t she do something that would generate more immediate income??? None of her kids had a smile during the entire interview!!!!

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Atl Guy, it’s all about disposable income. I don’t have a lot of that right now, and what I do have will not be spent in a club drinking and partying.

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

My mom is a good black woman in her own right…But I ain’t look for women to be just like my momma…Times have change.

Demi - They sure have, and like I said, I’d rather be single then.

Maybe if we stop being so lax on things important to us, we’d have a more solid family unit.

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Melo is on Point. Great Attitude or Fun Personality will get you way further than just modeling at the bar.

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Rell, Have you been to Old School Saturday the second sautrday of every month. They play music from the 80’s and 90’s. I promise if you go, you’ll love every song they play if you grew up in that era. I suggest going, especially if you love to dance… REAL DANCING…So that’s what I meant…

By Rell

July 24, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

@ared…again

new school type of man you’re offering….like the new school type of women is any better…raise your hand if you can cook…hell when i was single i did it all again i allowed my wife to take the reigns on some things otherwise she would feel like she did not add anything to me….when she meet me i was hell on wheels..you hate me know you would have wanted me dead in 2001…i was arrogant, independent, and could care less if you stayed or went…trust me love, as a women you will never experience that true freedom…you will always want a mate…men not so much…

@slim…a couple of days ago i realized that since me and my wife have been together 2001-present we have not been apart for more than 48hrs in all that time…..after the night we had sex we have not been apart…

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 24, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

PharmD You pretty much up summed up my reasons for not watching.

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

hi kids!

on topic i don’t advertise, but sometimes i wish i had the guts to allow ppl to keep their eyes open for me. i emailed Blanca this topic because of two advertisements i saw. one was a huge billboard seen as you drove by which looked like a profile from match.com. would i go that far for a man? sure … if i had $5000 to waste. the other advertisement was a lady looking for a date for her job’s xmas party. i believe it was placed in the newspaper there in GA. she referenced a website to visit and there an eligible bachelor would leave a reason why he was worthy to accompany her to her party. would i go that far for just a date? maybe. right now i’m doing the not looking thing. it’s working so far.

off topic dan, As I watched the story, I saw something different: Ego. On the one hand the ladies want a man, but on the other, he has to be this, this and this.

it’s called not settling. most women have a list of wants in a man. i have one, she has one. but don’t worry your pretty little head so much. as soon as that man walks by us in the grocery store, that list just flew out the window.

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

FACE IT PPL… THERE HAS BEEN A CONTINUAL DECLINE IN THE VIABLE RELATIONSHIPS BWTN BROTHERS AND SISTERS FOR SOME TIME NOW…AND BOTH SIDES ADD STANK TO THE MIX…

Dan has some very valid points and observations about the attitudes of some sisters…I know b/c I have listened to this ilk of colored chile bemoaning the lack of good black men…but they have this laundry list of what he must bring to the table…and some of it is not very realistic…period…they seem place more emphasis on the material and financial criteria than they do the character of the man…granted, I do not want to be with any person who can do less for me than I can for myself…but that is the operative here…do for myself…if it is a we can do this better together, then fine…does he have to be a white-collar, college educated man…that would be nice…blue-collar is cool too…especially if he is a firefighter…ooohh, rescue me…

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

Kym Finding a mate is not suppose to make you happy or a word I hate more than anything else(WHOLE). Just curious…if we supposedly came from man…would we really be whole without the other?

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

But I ain’t look for women to be just like my momma…Times have change.

Demi that’s right times have changed, and if your are anything like me, just keep chillin’ any your Demi-mama will be there change the station on your plugins.

…now channeling my SouthAfrican/Caribbean station… Shabba!

On another note…When did bridal/bachelorette parties become red carpet premieres? And the bride requests you wear her wedding colors for the party night.

By Dan

July 24, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

A definition of insanity:

Repeating the same action and expecting different results.

Now, I may be a little sensitive, but if the implications in these statements is that I may not be worth the time. I’m good with that. Becuase for every woman that fails to see my value, it’s her loss. The same point hold true for me, if I can’t get past my own preconceptions, notions, and uninformed speculation to meet a good woman with a nice spirit, then that’s on the D. No doubt.

That said, I’m working on me and mine.

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

new school type of man you’re offering….like the new school type of women is any better…

Rell - yawn Here we go again. I didn’t say the new school woman WAS better. I’d much rather get back to the basics, personally.

i was arrogant, independent, and could care less if you stayed or went

And this is PRECISELY why relationships are what they are. When did men, who claim to be men, give up on being fighters?

Seriously, that’s why these aggressive women can go ahead and have men like this. I’m really not the one to fight for a guy who doesn’t even CARE if I’m there or not! Goodness!

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Disposable Income!? I don’t spend that much at all going out! Eating out you spend way more. Connections, get VIP wherever and just don’t pay anything. Pre-game in the Car if you want to drink alot.

Thing is…females don’t spend much going out, guys buy your drinks! Whats the problem!?

Go to the “Paint in the Pods” event thrown by Ted Turner at the Sundial (top of the Westin) revolving restaurant. Its completely free 1st Thursday of the month…7pm - 10pm … has jazz music, really good odourves, desserts, all for free. Check out some Art Work, meet people, have a skyline view.

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

Endless Romantic, you’re right, I have to make myself go. You should see me at home talking myself into going out and most times finding an excuse to not go…rain, low gas, $18.00 in wallet, need to mop the kitchen floor (not really). I realize I’m making it hard on myself. I realize I have a problem in this area and am working on it.

That’s sweet *Rell.

By melo

July 24, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

My brother was married to this afr-america chic for about 3 yrs..they have since divorced.My bro dropped my nephw at my hse 2 weeks ago to go on the road..he runs his own trucking bizz.Nepw lives mostly with the mum tho.But the mum is the most disrespectful chic i know and she is oblivious of that.She calls me to say she cming to pick kid later at night after wrk so wl be a bit late…i say no problem.By the time she cmes,my wife is hme dwnstairs and iam upstairs.All she does is ring the bell, wife opens door and neph,anticipating its mum,runs to the door.She says hie,to wify,(all the while talking to smeone on the cell), and hollas james,lets go and never steps in the house or say thank u etc.We dnt mind being with kid coz he is mine too in a way,no big deal here. My wife tells me kid had to intervene and saymummy,hw come u not even cming in the hse,thats not right,but she hears none of that and takes kid and goes. We were not p** or anything coz we are of a diff cloth and all i told wify is upbringing is just not right, there! Now a wmann walking around with that kind of attitude cannot expect to find a man that will find her good at anything other than just for p******…she pretty by the way!

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

MissPharmDI personally watched it because I wanted to see for myself how Soledad O’Brien was going to conduct the interviews. She has always struck me as the type to straddle the fence as far as how black she wants to be on any given day. I’ve seen several interviews about her over the years and sometimes her heritage will include Black and other times it won’t. So how she edits the stories is crucial. I can’t say that CNN is just trying to increase ratings because I watch CNN on a regular basis anyway. Furthermore, you can’t step to CNN and say the piece didn’t show an accurate picture if you don’t watch.

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

@SlimOne

And the bride requests you wear her wedding colors for the party night.

Bridezillas abound…that is a little too much for me…but I stopped doing weddings years ago…I was in about six…and they all ended in divorce…ain’t wasting my money and time…good luck if you want to make it work…

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Lady Sage hey.

None of her kids had a smile during the entire interview!

Atl Lady As i was on the phone w/ my cousin who is married w/o kids and ask the same thing; Why are the kids looking so somber? I told her; Remember those kids are living this experience daily, they are not actors…Children know when their parent is hurting, struggling, downtrodden, lonely, ect….Kids feel ALL THAT and UNDERSTAND all that. They have no filters of their feelings whatever is ailing their spirit is shown in the natural.

Mamma/daddy hurt, they hurt.

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

here in the valley where i live, there is a lack of quality black men. and the ones that are ripe only date latino and white women. figures. i really should be used to this by now, but i’m not and refuse to accept it as the norm.

By Demi

July 24, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

m’karyl it would be nice if more women place more emphasis on a man’s character…Then they wouldn’t be complaining about these snaky dudes…being a former snake you do get a lot more play and love from women…Thanks Satan For Teaching The Fine Arts!!!

Demi is now realizing he is sounding like a hater

Ladies please keep men’s characters at the bottom of the list. Those young cats after me need to keep the cycle going.

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 24, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

Slim Honey it is not that deep. IMO to be whole person is to learn to find COMFORT AND ACCEPTANCE with who you are. That means accepting all of your own flaws and imperfections, triumphs and tragedies. What I know..is that there are wayyyy to many people who are looking to be whole(Good grief I can stand that word) when they don’t realize that as soon as they accept that they are where they are suppose to be at this present moment in time..that right now their lives are exactly how it was designed or planned.. for this appointed time in space. it is..at that moment you become whole(UGH). Now we can go all church in here if you like but if people keep feeding the idea and notion that I need Man X or Lady Y to feel whole(UGH)..then you are setting yourself up for a endless search.

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Reli, I’m going to check out the SunDial… I love doing things like that. Thanks

Sexy Legs, I might have that problem this weekend because all my friends are going to be out with their significant others. So unless, i just settle for anyone to go out with, I’ll be out on the town by myself. So go get your hair done, put on your little black dress, and go have a good night out on the town…

By missPharmD

July 24, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

ATL guy Soledad is Black by popular demand. When it’s convenient. No skills, chided the interviewees. I mean what was that about “we all know some successful dark skin people”. What? Are they so small in numbers they are able to be counted? She said it like it was a “few”.

By Bre'

July 24, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Greetings to all…..I hope all is wonderful and dry in Atlanta.

On Topic When I was single I don’t think I advertised it all. People could never fix me up my “likes” varied too much and bit out of range than the normal sista. However even dating in a place like Minneapolis where a sista could be looked over quickly by a brotha I never had issues dating. I don’t think I wore a sticker on my sleeve saying, “I’m single”. I’ve been just a pretty happy person with a decent sense of humor I don’t take too much in life very serious. So I think men were attracted to the fact that I was chill and could be one of the boys at times. When I moved to NYC I did not date for almost 4 or 5 years and I was cool with it. I was pretty busy with work life and focused on money that men really took a back seat. But I could have a date when I wanted one.

Now Slim I feel I’m a pretty good healthy relationship now. I realized some of the issues I had with him I needed to first look at self. Overall I can say I’m cool with being out of the dating scene. It was pretty easy at first going from single to commitment. Some things in the middle got a little wavy but two people really have to communicate and be on the same page in the same book. I mean really how do you take to people in there mid 30’s that’s single been doing your own thing. To change that mentality to its US, WE and Together can be a challenge. I think we start growing into who we are easily when your older and single, then trying to open and let another whole person in is not the easiest process. But the reward is not bad at all its just has to be what you really really want. If not you just really waisting alot of time and energy.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 24, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Ok…I am late today….

So Beautiful…you are co-moderating today? I know you get up with the roosters and still manage to be chipper! LOL

Do you advertise your single status to the world in hopes of attracting a mate? Heck no..I say it to keep the guys away! I want to stay single! So I say I am single and and keeping it that way!

ARED Don’t you hate the friends trying to play matchmaker? I feel if the guy you are trying to set me up with is so great why the hell aren’t you with him!!!???

Dan So are you saying we should settle because the men can’t get his game up? We should expect and accept less? I see heartache at the end when yu settle. You will never be happy. You may feel trapped and seek out what you really desire anyway…but now it is wrong because you are already in a relationship/marriage! I am glad I am not one of those chicks who long to be married and pop out babies. I have other things to focus on!

Black men dropped the ball long ago. Many of us simply picked it up and continued on the grind Ared So well put! But now they want you to sit back and let them take lead on what YOU have done while they slacked off. Don’t try to come claiming thr glory when you ahev not done any of the work! LOSERS!

Melo Well, ill speak for me, i luv my pudsy,single sisters tell me u luv ur Dykk too and aint getting enough!!! That is the problem..sex is too big of an issue in what a relationship is. Sex comes first and everything else falls behind! Some dudes marry the good puddy and find out later she sucks as a person and a wife. The woman marries the good d*ck and he sucks as man!

By missPharmD

July 24, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

sorry, I my last comment was to Atl Lady not the guy

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

they seem place more emphasis on the material and financial criteria than they do the character of the man

M’Karyl this is soooo true. Character is so very important…it really is Demi!. LOL

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

You know Atl Guy, now that track is over and I have a more flexible schedule I will be doing some things. However, can anyone recommend a nice spot for Friday or Saturday. Heck, I already don’t get out much I would be hard pressed to hang on a workday.

BTW, won’t assume someone is going to buy me drink(s). I’m slowly stepping back into the dating pool. Just takes time.

By Mahogany

July 24, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

I think often men think more about how a woman makes them feel and how she looks (ie. are you nurturing, easy to talk to, are you aesthetically pleasing, etc.) whereas a woman thinks what can you do for me and our family. We look at the qualities that make a good provider (education, income, etc.). This is not to say that a smart man doesn’t also consider the intelligence and professional achievements of a would be wife, but I don’t think they are in the same order on their priority listl. That is why when a woman says “I own my own home, I make 150k, I graduated from Yale. Why aren’t I married”, it’s not necessarily reflective of what their mail counterparts have on their top 5. It’s not fair, but I think to a great extent that it how it is.

I think in general we are stuck putting new information into an old system. We are trying to process 2008 data in an 1947 system and that isn’t going to work. People IMO need to think about the world we live in today and learn how to make it work for you to get what you want. Fact of the matter is women of all races are going to college at a much faster rate than men. As a result, family dynamics are going to change whether we like all of the changes or not. That is why I say we have to stop putting new info into an old system. I think everyone out there deserves to be in a healthy relationship and I do think that everyone that truely wants a relationship can have the one they want.

I think we are just too relaxed on the major issues and too stringent on the things that don’t matter

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

MissPham what are you talking about? Are you addressing the right person?! LoL

EndlessRomantic from what I told sexyleggs if you’re into that kind of stuff check this out

Go to the “Paint in the Pods” event thrown by Ted Turner at the Sundial (top of the Westin) revolving restaurant. Its completely free 1st Thursday of the month…7pm - 10pm … has jazz music, really good odourves, desserts, all for free. Check out some Art Work, meet people, have a skyline view.

First Thursday of August will have black Artists work on display, see this link for info. I saw Nelson Mendalla’s work when he was in prison at this event last year. Its Free, why not! Good way to meet people

http://www.pennhouseproductions.com/sundial/pods_jun08.html

By Amina

July 24, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

It is your fault that you are single if:

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

CemeeWhen the man came to serve her the eviction notice…I just couldn’t imagine. The piece didn’t mention anymore about her father or their father or about her niece’s situation. Just a lot of unanswered questions.

By Rell

July 24, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

@staceye..come get your hug…lol

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

Now a wmann walking around with that kind of attitude cannot expect to find a man

LOL melo, she did find a man AND got him to marry her. So there is clearly a sucker born every minute. LOL

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

Speaking of sex, I’ve resulted in my Battery Operated Boyfriend aka BOB, until I can find a good companion… I never thought I would result to that..

By Willie Dynamite

July 24, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

Late Morning All,

On Topic- your personality dictates how or whether you go about advertising being single. Sometimes desperation screams advertising to a point. Not much legs to that topic obviously.

New Topic- I saw the special last nite and came away feeling like I wasted a part of my life. We can view it as slanted or whatnot based on the examples given. The woman with 4 kids struggling is a Very,Very,Very small segment of our community. Yet it was presented as a case example of the black family. I would have liked to see the struggles of a single mother with 1-2 kids while balancing college and job. That would be more a realistic representation of what we see everyday. Another thing is that we pretty much already see the problems and solutions from our perspective. That show doesn’t change any of that. I think it also perpetuated some of the stereotypes that other races have of us because of the extreme examples given. They glossed over the Black Middle class family (of which I belong and see in my circle everyday). Needless to say I would welcome some dialogue about solutions to the major problems that cause our situation, underfunded schools and lack of proper nutrition in black neighborhoods.

By Jade

July 24, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

People like to smugly tell a formally educated woman that dudes ain’t checkin for a degree. But when you look at the state of the friggin children growing up in our community, perhaps dudes OUGHT TO BE. Oh but wait, my ‘no expectations supposed to be having azz’ got no right to ask a black man to think beyond his dangly bits when it come to selecting the mother of his chillun.

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

Endless Romantic - Why did you stay with a man for 8 years who didn’t marry you (I think). What were you not seeing all that time?

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Kym Suga, i wasn’t trying to get deep..was merely playing devils advocate but thanks for the dissertation though. As much as you hate the word, it definitely made me feel WHOLE WHOLE WHOLE WHOLE and WHOLE. lol I get the whole…oops my bad…i get the “being comfortable with who you are flaws and all”….I get it.

By Demi

July 24, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Cee LOL for real.

ATL Guy I went there a month or two ago…I thought it was cool.

By NoStress

July 24, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Soledad is supposedly “Black” in America, did this show speak to her experience? Her issues as a “Black woman” in America? I just wonder.

By Dan

July 24, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

@Staceye

This idea of settling is disturbing. Inherent in the idea of “settling for less” are 1) that you deem yourself worthy of more; 2)that your ideal isn’t flawed; 3) that despite all historical evidence to the contrary, all you have to do it wait, and you will get what you want.

The world doesn’t work like that. Do we have the job we each dreamed of as children, some yes/some no. Those of us that don’t, work to get where we want to be, we put in the effort. Those of us that have the job we want, have put in the effort.

But being stubborn and resisting what “is” for what “could be” strikes me as counterproductive.

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

sexyleggs I’ll recommend some places for the weekend, whats your style? I’m not going to ask your age, but what kind of interests?

ATL has tons going on next couple weeks

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Welcome Jade! and LMAO @ “dingly bits!” I’m so stealing this. LOL

ATL Guy - How diverse is Paint the Pods thing? The CNN special told the black women we need to get white men! LOL

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Dan I don’t understand what the problem is for having standards as to who you want in your life as a man. We are sposed to just take any old thing. In my opinion if you know what and who you want in your life less time for strife and trife. Let alone self inflicted pain.

I also believe that black men and women have dropped the ball..The pain and struggle is not only on the backs of black men.

By NoStress

July 24, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

And um…. “Marry your baby daddy”… Does a wedding HAVE to be expensive? I doubt that it does. Why do these couples have to be COERCED into getting married?!? If they wanted to get married in the first place, I would think they would have done it already, without needing some organization there urging and pushing them to do it. “marry your baby daddy” makes it seem like marriage was just never an option, and suddenly this godsend organization comes down and introduces this “novel” idea to them or something

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Willie Dynamite - Amen.

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Kym Suga, i wasn’t trying to get deep..was merely playing devils advocate but thanks for the dissertation though. As much as you hate the word, it definitely made me feel WHOLE WHOLE WHOLE WHOLE and WHOLE. lol I get the whole…oops my bad…i get the “being comfortable with who you are flaws and all”….I get it.

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

staceye the one that gets me is when she sets you up with a guy and you find out that he hit on her first! lol. so now you tryin’ to give me your sloppy seconds? lol.

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

Atl Lady we know all of that’s real from last night. Been going on for years. More questions would be had if they reporters knew more. not all “our” issues were aired

Sometimes desperation screams advertising to a point.

WillieD

True, that’s why you can’t be all up in someone sons face grinnin and skinnin for the chance to hook him. i see some of my sisters and wanna say so bad: Girl, go sit down somewhere!.

I would have liked to see the struggles of a single mother with 1-2 kids while balancing college and job. That would be more a realistic representation of what we see everyday.

I would have liked to see the struggles of a single mother with 1-2 kids while balancing college and job. That would be more a realistic representation of what we see everyday.

Right, even though there’s millions of that single story. But not dramatic enough.

By Dushawn

July 24, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

A special on CNN isnt going to get those who need to be reached. If you are in a battle, pulling out any ole weapon wont necessarily accomplish your goal. You have to take into consideration of all aspects of your approach or you will fail. So just sitting on tv spouting, while with all the good intention it may have, wont do any good and there are ramifications for everyone involved. Dropping any ole bomb trying to hit your target, yet taking out innocent villages is ineffective and dangerous…

Im over these kind of specials. Most of the topics they are talking about dont have anything to do with me, and the folks they are talking about and to arent watching.

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

Amazon its really diverse actually, all ages, races, etc. Everytime I’ve been to this Paint in the Pods event its been just good times and you have the best view of the city. It can get busy, but yeah diverse crowd. The CNN special wants black women to date white guys!? What!? LoL

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed, The thing is he would be the one to talk about marriage to me and my family. So when I graduated from college, and moved back to Atlanta in 2005. That’s when I thought we would get married, well at least that what he said. I became a flight attendant for a little while. That was an issue… I was told that I was too INDEPENDENT. I never thought there was a such thing. The list goes on… I thought it was the little things that count the most in a relationship. The basics… For him it was the opposite… I thought he would change his opinions, but he didn’t… He wanted me to be perfect… Finally he told me, I didn’t turn out to be the woman he expected me to be…

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Kym Suga, i wasn’t trying to get deep..was merely playing devils advocate but thanks for the dissertation though. As much as you hate the word, it definitely made me feel WHOLE WHOLE WHOLE WHOLE and WHOLE. lol I get the whole…oops my bad…i get the “being comfortable with who you are flaws and all”….I get it.

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Um Soledad O’brien is from an Australian father decent and her mother is Cuban -Black..her parents had to move from Australia because of the racial hate that they experienced when she was a child so she can speak on her experince just like any other black person..SMH..

By Cassie

July 24, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

no one in this blog has pondered the possibility that a degree from an hbcu might hold less weight to a white person on a resume. maybe people from hbcus anticipate going through only black HRs?

I certainly was concerned with the weight a degree from an hbcu would hold, but maybe that was because mine in particular was in constant danger of losing its accreditation. but still, omission of this particular idea seems to me to be more of the whole “babying” thing, not realistically considering the negatives and refusing to acknowledge hbcus have backdraws. the “black experience” is simply just not important to me and if i’m somehow less black because i dont see much value in an hbcu, oh well.

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

Love house music and old school R&B. I like jazz bars w/good food. Like to be in a place where the “fakery” is at an all time LOW. Like down to earth ppl. When BellBottoms existed, I like clubs like that. I have’t been to any of these new clubs cuz they’re too, too crowded for my comfort level. Ok, you might be the only one on the blog that doesn’t know my age (JK).

By Demi

July 24, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

Bre’ where is BRE’?

This can’t be her, not the drop a dude in a minute, Bre’

LOL

Some things take work…*I hope he respect and appreciate you each and everyday.

By classycrimson

July 24, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

If one day all women decided that NO jobless men would EVER have sex again as long as they aren’t gainfully employed, the male unemployment rate would zero out. We have so much more power than we realize and the ones who are being soo permissive and not making any guy work for anything anymore are ruining it for the rest of us….and our kids!

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

In my opinion if you know what and who you want in your life less time for strife and trife. Let alone self inflicted pain.

And why do we fret so much when we have not found ourselves married? Some of these relationships we see/hear about are not all wonderful. Some of them are in painful stages. Dayum that.

Jazzy my appreciation for 11:55 post.

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

No StressShe’s not going to talk about her experiences. She feels priviledged. They sent her to find out the dirt. The whole marry your Baby daddy thing is so overblown. Every man that I have ever known that wanted to get married got married. No one had to push him down the aisle. The women allowed the situation to be status quo all those years. I’ve known guys who old my in private that they had no intentions of ever marrying their baby mammas and kept using the financials as the number on excuse because it makes sense to the woman.

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Blind Willies on N. Highland Ave is a cool Jazz Spot on a Saturday Night.

House Music? If you like lounges…Halo is an interesting lounge off 6th street (look for the people at the door outside or you won’t find the place, its in like an alley) But, very trendy, bar will change colors, etc. House / Techno / DJ scene.

Place for a drink and to chill… Shout or Whiskey Park (right next door) more trendy. Just a bar to hit in midtown…Front Page News or Park Tavern maybe.

Maybe these help? Again, don’t know you too well so just throwing out suggestions

By Bit-O-Hunny

July 24, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

missPharmD you said it. You gets the ^5 of the day from me.

By melo

July 24, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Sex comes first and everything else falls behind! sexx is part of the package,in fact it constitutes a great %age of the package…u reminding me of Mccain,who is stressing the surge,without conceding that political settlements and accomodations in Iraq has resulted in relative calm.When ple want to fight for their own,it dont matter u bring the whole of american there,they still will fight u regardless. I do think that everyone that truely wants a relationship can have the one they want. NOPE…not ecactly but close…there is nobody out there that fits exactly into ur fantasies,if u hear that its a lie.Dan said it best being stubborn and resisting what “is” for what “could be” strikes me as counterproductive..as long as u feed urself that illusion that u will truly find ur exact match,u doomed….look in the mirror and ask urself hw long u been looking.U got to twick ur requirements eve nw and then and find a happy and realistic medium.MaryK ‘s* does he have to be a white-collar, college educated man…that would be nice…blue-collar is cool too* is so true and realistic.

By Willie Dynamite

July 24, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

To a point dont we all settle. Isnt compromising settling. I’m definitely not saying settling in that you fall for someone that treats you badly or disrespects you. I’m saying that most people can tell you what they dont want. Very few can tell you what they want. Nowadays Jesus Christ could bump into a chick and she’ll dismiss him because he’s too short or his hair is too long. I’m not trying to paint a broad picture just saying that in order to find someone you have to find yourself first because alot of us are lost.

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

I also believe that black men and women have dropped the ball..The pain and struggle is not only on the backs of black men.

Amen…I concur wholeheartedly…and there does not seem to be cut and dry answers to the questions about how we engage in a open and fair game of interaction between and amonsgt us as ppl…I guess that I first and foremost view men as ppl…as individuals just like anyone else…I do not objectify them as male entities where a set of designated criteria determines how I treat my brothers as men and my expectations of a man…I think part of our problem is that we do objectify the other (male or female) and determine how we are going to treat each other based on that criteria of objectification…it inherently dehumanizes the person with whom we are engaging…I am a person…a human being…I happen to be black and female…yes, that has influenced my identity experience, but it does not define it in its entirety either…I breathe, blood flows through my veins and I am human…therefore, I think, I feel, I exist…let me be a person first…and not an object.

By Demi

July 24, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Endless Romantic pointing a finger at you and laughing my a$$ off

I hope you did not buy that line one bit…your dude was weak bey. Whatever he said to you, remove “you” and put “him” on the receiving end. You should count your blessing for not marrying that dude.

I think that came out wrong…oh well

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Cassie although I don’t think going to a HBCU is less than or the experience is less than. I didn’t chose to go to an HBCU either it wasn’t important to me and didn’t matter as far as where I was trying to get to professionaly. I don’t negate the experience for those that chose that. Doesn’t make me any less black tho.

By SAMIAM

July 24, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

hey folks!

in regards to “Black In America” i watched, did’nt see anything new, nothing we as a people did not already know.

i’m thinking the series was not really for us, but for those are not of our community (whites). i think that this was to prepare/condition/expose other cultures to our culture in regards to Barak becoming President. to portray the different levels/magitudes/struggles/good/bad aspects of the black race. essentially to let others see what the different dynamics of us and attempt to erase certain preceptions, beliefs and maybe even stereotypes. and to try to remove some of the desparity/myths along the racial divide.

they showed AA who are successful, those stuggling, medical issues that we as a people are predisposed, etc.

notice how they started the program started off…family reunion, finding the white cousin. emphasing that we are all are “a part of each other, etc.”

just my pov.

By Tazzee

July 24, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

Here we go with the discussion downgrading the HBCUs again.

First of all, folks need to look at the job placement rate and ANY university they attend. HBCU or otherwise.

Second of all, there are HBCUs that major companies target, believe it or not. The accounting program at my alma mater is tops (Aggie Pride), major companies from all over the US recruit there every year. The job fair at A&T was so big that students from UNCG would come over to our job fair to get a chance to talk to some of the companies. Any company interested in diversity looking to hire accountants recruited at my alma mater.

When I graduated and started working, I discovered that my company had 4 main schools where they recruited - A&T was one of them.

So don’t be fooled, do you research and pick the school that’s best for you.

In the end, if you don’t have the drive, personality and grades - it doesn’t matter what school you go to.

Cemeeli I see you been looking for me, LOL. I’ve been busy at work but I read up at the end of the day. I was planning to just stop in and say hi to you - but I had to comment on this HBCU thing.

By WOW

July 24, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

Why do successful black men and women avoid each other?

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this

And why do we fret so much when we have not found ourselves married? Some of these relationships we see/hear about are not all wonderful. Some of them are in painful stages. Dayum that.

Cemeeli - Thank you. I have to sit and ask myself…what is so bad about my single life? Nothing really. I can come and go as I please, don’t have to consider anyone else in my decisions and travel the world.

If there is someone to share all that with me, great, but I don’t see why I have to stress over it. If it’s gonna happen it will happen. If not, I’ll be in the Mediterranean and living life. LOL

classycrimson - LMAO! Where do I sign up. I do believe if women were less accepting of such behaviors, men wouldn’t be able to take advantage of us the way they do.

By WOW

July 24, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

Why do successful black men and women avoid each other?

By WOW

July 24, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

Why do successful black men and women avoid each other?

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

I wouldn’t settle Willie I would say soften our wnats to a degree. There is a type of man that I wanted in my life but wasn’t stead fast on some things..but the basics of what I desire and require respect, love, employment, hard working, attractive to me, hard body, great sex, educated, smart, funny, loving..yeah got him and didn’t settle.

Some people can be unrealsitic yes but hey it is what it is..I know me so I know the reality of what i want and I have him.

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

EndlessRomantic 8 yrs in a relationship for the guy to tell you that you aren’t the woman he thought you’d become. You’re 26 now. Getting back in the Game will be a Reality Check for you. Be able to have your self confidence out in public. Us guys will pick up on a girl that is not self assured real quick and walk the other direction. Also, don’t mention this ex of 8 yrs. Guys see dating someone for 8 years at age 26 as baggage. He will not be fully out of your life and we realize that. Thats something we won’t touch with a 10 ft pole. Just a Heads Up. Mix it up and be open

By Raqi

July 24, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

To a point dont we all settle

Yes WillieDyn we all for something. But the key is to not settle for less than you want or deserve.

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

@SAMIAM I go back again to this quote by W.E.B. Du Bois…“Herein lies the tragedy of the age: not that men are poor, — all men know something of poverty; not that men are wicked — who is good? not that men are ignorant, — what is Truth? Nay, but that men know so little of men.”…this was written in 1903 (The Souls of Black Folks)…and I find that it still rings true today…so few ppl outside of the Black experience really know anything about it…we are such a diverse ppl…yes, we have a collective history…but the roads on that map have taken many divrgent paths…so old, some new…if this program can bring to the forefront the actual diversity of our racial collective, then so be it…and then let us follow through with the Native Americans, Hispanic Americans, Asian and South Asian Americans as well…let’s bring the voice of an non-European Americans to the table…to paraphrase Langston Hughes…”We too sing America…”

By Dan

July 24, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

@Willie D

Yes there is a Black Middle Class, Virginia, of which I happen to be a part of.

But I succeeded to the middle class in spite of, not because of. I did the extra studying, I did the extra work, I sought out examples of success and modeled my behavior after them. A lot of my contemporaries did not and subsequently have had a tougher path. So I have seen those stories and rougher.

But you are right, we are not monolithic, we have strata like any other element of American culture. But those stories don’t make good ratings, do they? Even the Huxtable children had to have some troubles.

By melo

July 24, 2008 12:37 PM | Link to this

If one day all women decided that NO jobless men would EVER have sex again as long as they aren’t gainfully employed, the male unemployment rate would zero out unfortunately,economics 101 applies to dating as well.Im talking about supply and demand girl.Demand is that natural pull factor that forces a wman to go out there looking, with a beam on the forehead coz they cant control that urge any more.Thats hw God designed this..u go out and look for an unemployed dude,turn lesbian,get a bullet temporarily or just settle for smething……God and Man and run this thing!!

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

This is kind of a difference generally from what I’ve seen is that white successful women go after white successful guys. I don’t know why this is any different with the black community. There can’t be different standards?! You don’t think!?

I mentioned my Asian ex g/f and we would go out, she’d go up to the bar…every black guy there were trying to buy her drinks. Thought it was interesting because there were black women there, yet they went after my ex. Granted she’s hot as hell, but still do black guys look for Asian, white, latino women more than black women???

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 24, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Thanks for addressing the HBCU issue, I totally agree with you. I went to Hampton and we had some great jobs fairs as well. Our education dept was always recruited heavily, much like your accounting dept. Its up to you as the student to seek out your opportunities regardless as to the school you attend, or take advantage of the resources made available to you.

By Willie Dynamite

July 24, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Feel what you saying Jazzy and I agree Raqi. I’m glad that the gist of what I was saying came through. Unforunately the ones that need it cant comprehend that.

Dan understood bruh

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 24, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I didnt attend a HBCU but I do know from a friend that Goldman Sachs recruits heavily from Morehouse..(hence the white valdictorian(sp) was recruited from there along with a few other folks.

I am not even sure how HBCU’s fit in this whole convo on the blog but whateva.

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

Melo LOL @ you!!!!! You’re funny. You don’t believe what you just said do you?

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

I am not even sure how HBCU’s fit in this whole convo on the blog but whateva.

Exactly. Just a troll starting thier own topic. It was presented like some asked a question about it, when no one did.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 24, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

ATL Lady Don’t let these folks bully you into agreeing with them! Don’t be afraid to speak your mind! They don’t like…tell them to kiss your azz! But never back down! Come out of the corner swinging and make sure to land each punch! LOL

My problem with some of the women in the piece last night was the stupidity of some of the decision making. Ole girl had 4 kids by the same man!!!! What the hell was she thinking about???!!! * I agree…that is so true! Nobody put a gun to her head to make her have all these kids..and not even married! That is a professional baby mama! Thank God they were at least not by 4 different deadbeats! That is even worse! First kid..ok you messed up. But now you know better! Clinics give out free condoms and birth control…no excuse! And if I am that dmn broke the last thing I should be doing is having sex. I need to use that energy to better my life and go to school..work a second job (hell first job for that matter)!

Endless I have attended Old School and I hate it! I love the music..but I am turned off by the men who could be my daddy try to get at me! EWWW! Its like Taboo 2!

Dan * only settel temporarrily and only on certain things. Those are job, car and crib. I work my way up to the ones I want. They are all stepping stones to what my goal is. But relationships, I will not settle because it is not one of my goals…therefore not important to me. Basically a waste of my time and energy.

No Stress Some folks have to be led instead of leading! SAD! You are right…it should not take an organization to make people be responsible for completing a family.

Beautiful I do not do sloppy seconds either! LOL

ATL Guy I think it is the fact that Black men have problem dating outside of their race…but Black women for some strange reason do (Of course I do NOT). It’s this weird stand by your brotha thing that closes the possibilities of them finding a good mate. Those brothas are not checkin’ for you like that so why do you feel this allegiance to them? They are like that old Christian joke…a storm with floods came and everyone was told to evacuate. Well this one woman said to the cops that came to warn her, “I’m not leaving…God is going to save me”! Then they boat to come get her, and she said,”I’m not leaving…God is going to save me”! Lastly, then sent a helicopter and she said, “I’m not leaving…God is going to save me”! So she drowned and arrived in heaven She said to god, “God…how could you let me die. I believed you would save me”> Gos answered….”I sent 3 people 3 different times to save you..and you ignored them. What did you expect me to do?” The moral is…stop waiting! If that man has all the qualities that you like, except his skin color is not what you expected….you are missing out! That is a trivial thing.

Endless There is nothing worng with being independent! They are just too weak for you! They did you a favor! Independence is a not a bad word! Lazy, needy, etc…those are!

By Star1

July 24, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

Where is THE TRUTH?

By Star1

July 24, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

Where is The TRUTH?

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 12:56 PM | Link to this

why do you guys watch that garbage on CNN? i mean really. what did you learn? prolly nothing. you know this stuff already. why watch and then spend the next day crying about it. i’ll watch tonight if time permits, but don’t bet on it. i focus daily on the positive.

thanks Blanca for using my topic. preciate cha!

and where is Truth? i need my daily dose of dating lol. lol.

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

Kym aka Lady Sage

I have been listening to the HBCU and non-HBCU argument for more than 30 years amongst us…I know ppl who have attended both HBCU’s and non-HBCU’s…the degree to which any given ppl within their designated group has been sucessful had less to do with where they obtained their degree, but rather with what they decided to do with their education…period. One daggone thing is for sure…we did not have to fight to integrate HBCU’s to get an education…ppl choose a path and the resources for getting on that path are relative, not absolute…choose an education if you want to be able to have more financially rewarding options…where you go to get it does not matter…get it!

By LisaK

July 24, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

m’karyl 12:17

Right on!

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

I might be wrong but I think Truth is vacationing. He’ll be back.

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 1:06 PM | Link to this

God answered….”I sent 3 people 3 different times to save you..and you ignored them. What did you expect me to do?” The moral is…stop waiting!

LMAO @ Staceye. Good story.

Yes, I have a loyalty to the black man, as I desire to keep the black family unit together. However, if God sends me a good man who is not black, I’m going with it.

Besides with all the black men on this blog talking about “squares” and “poindexter” guys like they are a bad thing, maybe I will end up with a guy in a race where being a solid man is actually celebrated instead of scoffed at.

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 24, 2008 1:07 PM | Link to this

mkaryl

Why are u address those comments to me? I didnt even bring up the HBCU convo..I just piggybacked off of what Tazzee said. So that portion of the manifesto should be addressed to the troll.

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

atl lady i thought he was broke! reminds me of my mom when i was little saying she didn’t have any money. but when i peeked, she had some. all i wanted was $1. lol.

what’s up jazzy?

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

@Kym aka Lady Sage

Because I was agreeing with what you said and I just elaborated on how inane the whole dayummm convo is…been listening to it for 30 years and it don’t mean diddly…get an education…that’s all sis…next

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

Yes, I have a loyalty to the black man, as I desire to keep the black family unit together. However, if God sends me a good man who is not black, I’m going with it.

Truly, I do believe that there is nothing better than a black man’s love…spoiled rotten by the love of beautiful black men…father, uncles, grands, elders, etc…and it is a wonder all unto itself…and ideally that is where I would like to stay focused if I can.

By melo

July 24, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

spoiled rotten by the love of beautiful black men for me,its the flip side..this black waman pampers me so bad,most days i lose my mind and cant recognize myself.Dont think a thick white woman (i see black men with thick ones mostly)( or any other race for that matter) could equal that….

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

Tazzee hey girl!

HBCU, Ivy League, Community College, Technical School, HSD…who cares!?! What are your work skills, abilities, experiences who are YOU?

I have managed and been managed and never seen such an uproar on the cliche. Why does it matter where you went to school? I work with a team full of non-HBCU class and they have nothing against what school you attend. We make jokes about their Gator, UGA, Tech coffee mugs from 10 or 20 years ago. And who got slautered during the finals. But all that’s water cooler talk. All they want is for you to do your dang job.

now where is my broke down State T-shirt?

By Something Just For Me

July 24, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

I want to get the Vaginal Rejuvenation procedure done. Does anyone know of a doctor? Have you had it done? Did you like it?

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

ARed I have no quarrels with folks that wanna be married soooo bad. But when they go and get all hyped because they are ready to hook someone and all of a sudden hate the single life. I’m like don’t call me with that mess, and no we can’t hang cause now you on some other stuff that i don’t do. My mom has gotten the “don’t do me” conversation when she gets on that…you need to get out and date. I’m more focused on her well being she’s more focused on mine. Ain’t that a bleep?

By melo

July 24, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

want to get the Vaginal Rejuvenation so the men u slept with tore it up real bad?????????????

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 1:38 PM | Link to this

I want to get the Vaginal Rejuvenation procedure done. Does anyone know of a doctor? Have you had it done? Did you like it?

You should go to the MOMania blog. I believe they discussed this few months ago.

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

Vaginal Rejuvenation

I ahd to google that one…ummmm…okay now…lloking ofr the good stuff, why don’t you tighten up on that backstroke…lol

@melo

Amen bro’…

By Something Just For Me

July 24, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

Melo

Hello! No, I have three children and my vaginal muscles need to be tightened.

Anybody else want to jump in and show their ignorance?

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

@Something Just For Me

Just found this article online about the procedure…just some fyi…

http://womenshealthnews.wordpress.com/2007/08/31/vaginal-rejuvenation-not-proven-safe-or-necessary/

By melo

July 24, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

have three children and my vaginal muscles need to be tightened. oh, i got three too,we havent found that necessary,in fact the pudsy is tighter and more fun….girl stay away from men with forked dykks…or better yet,exercise

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

i’m underpaid…m’karyl can i come work for you?

I can put the stones in group by color.

By SAMIAM

July 24, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli

i agree with your 1:29 post. folks just wanna know that they choose the most qualified person/best company fit for the job.

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

Back from lunch…went to Strokers and it was boring! Nobody was dancing (LOL).

Anyhoo, wth is vaginal rejuvenation? If you don’t mind me asking, why do you need yours rejuvenated? Seriously, why would it need to be rejuvenated. I’m down for learning new things.

By Something Just For Me

July 24, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

m’karyl

Thank you! I’ve been googling all morning trying to find out as much information as I can. Thanks AmazonRed! I want to have multiple orgasms again. The G Spot Shot is an option too. My single friends are curious also. I wonder, when we find a doctor, if he’ll give us a multi discount? J/K.

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

ATL GuY, trust me, I don’t even bring my ex up at all…

Staceye, I agree with you about the OLD MEN trying to holla… That’s one of the few bad things about OSS…

DEMI, I’ve learned to stay away from insecure men now that I can recognize the RED FLAGS.

**FINALLY I WANT TO GIVE A SHOUT OUT TO ALL HBCU’s… ESPECIALLY “TUSKEGEE UNIVERSITY”…

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

@Cemeeli *I can put the stones in group by color.

Hey-ale…as blind as I am becoming, I may have to hire you to string the small dayuuum beads…seems that the holes done got smaller compared to when I started doing this 40 years ago…lol…ole’ arse wench that I is…

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

I’ve noticed when we start talking about not being able to find someone and ‘finding ourselves’ etc…can you all that are currently WHOLE alone shed some light on things you all did to get to know who YOU are? Then Willie D stated there are so many of us that are lost since we don’t know ourselves but how about we explore ways to go about doing that.

By melo

July 24, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

A patient’s concern regarding the appearance of her genitalia may be alleviated by a frank discussion of the wide range of normal genitalia and reassurance that the appearance of the external genitalia varies significantly from woman to woman i dont see how anybody,even a doc, can look at that thing str8.And if u looking at ur own Just For Me,with ur legs apart and u looking dwn to it,its never a clear shot or sight of its shape…just be happy of what ur mama gave U….

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

Beautiful You moved back to Cali?? I had no idea!

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 2:08 PM | Link to this

I’ve noticed when we start talking about not being able to find someone and ‘finding ourselves’ etc…can you all that are currently WHOLE alone shed some light on things you all did to get to know who YOU are? Then Willie D stated there are so many of us that are lost since we don’t know ourselves but how about we explore ways to go about doing that.

By SAMIAM

July 24, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

shout out to the HBCU’s too

a undergraduate of a HBCU instituion and obtaining my advanced degress from prodominately white institutions was a great balance.

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs if oyu want a man stay your azz outta strokers you only going to catch chicks…….LOL

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs if u want a man stay your azz outta strokers you only going to catch chicks…….LOL

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

Somthing Just… You might want to try to email V103..they had a doctor on during their yearly health week, where they have all types of docs come on to answer listener questions. I believe they had a OB/GYN that gives that G-Shot & Rejuvi…they maybe able to give you his name. From what i’ve heard, the G-shot only lasts a few months (3 to 4) and you have to come back for ‘touch-up’s.

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

Slim yeah I can shed some light…spend some time with yourself, get comfortable with that and being aloneenjoying your own company, reaching your own golas without thinking you have to wait for a mate. Grow, appreciate life as an individual, treat yourself, date yourself, meditate, excersize, do what is necessary to make yourself happy. Look in the mirror and appreciate what you see if you don’t change it. if you were dating you would you date you??

listen to music that opens your heart and soul, write in a journal your thoughts, desires and goals and begin a plan to reach them…while a woman is busy doing her and being the best she can be and appreicate herself? A man will follow it turns a man on to know that his woman has a hobby has friends can be away from him and not call him every five minutes. DO YOU and a man will follow….a solid secure woman will have a trail of men behind her and she can pick which one she wants to have. trust it.

Put forth what you ask for from a man, you want a man that has his shyt together have yours together, you want a man that is finacially secure be that yourself. don’t be afraid to step out the box sometimes if you are out and see a man that is dressed nice or smells good tell him you never know what will come of it..be free and a man will come. DO YOU I garuntee you he will be standing in front of you and you will see him…

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

can you all that are currently WHOLE alone shed some light on things you all did to get to know who YOU are?

SlimOne - this probably sounds trite, but I’ve always kinda just knew. I remember being a teen and crying over having braces and being skinny etc, and my mom was pretty much like, this is who you are, love it or don’t. And after that I was straight.

I remember wanting to fit in with the in crowd, but never wanting to do what it took to stay there (cutting class, stealing designer clothes, etc). I just liked myself and never felt the need to change myself just to be liked.

I’ll never forget at my college grad dinner where one of the “cool girls” back in jr. high stood up and said how she had always admired me because I was always true to myself, even if everyone else was faking it to be more than they were. I was really touched.

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 2:19 PM | Link to this

Somthing Just… You might want to try to email V103..they had a doctor on during their yearly health week, where they have all types of docs come on to answer listener questions. I believe they had a OB/GYN that gives that G-Shot & Rejuvi…they maybe able to give you his name. From what i’ve heard, the G-shot only lasts a few months (3 to 4) and you have to come back for ‘touch-up’s.

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

I know I’m pretty much content w/my present position in life. Carefree and single. Would love companionship and that will come in time. I’ve looked myself in the mirror and spoke outloud the traits I need to work on. Then, I wrote them down to have a visual reminder.

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

BeautifulLOL My mom used to do me the same way. I thought I was the only one. I did learn from her that people have money to do exactly what they want to do when they want to do it. That’s why I don’t listen to people that tell me they’re broke. Not only is it a negative vibe and I don’t like negativity, but it’s temporary. I have a former co-worker that I talk to from time to time who right now can sing a great I’m broke song, but let her want some weed or liquor. She’s got money for that 7 days a week.

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

jazzy yea gurl! made the move back for many reasons … mainly selfish ones.

sexy strokers huh? one day imma buy me a lap dance too!

melo fellow VR is SUPPOSE to makes you feel like you’re 18 again. tight like an 18 year old. but they say once you turn 40 … awww shyt! lol. you’ll have better sex than when you were 18.

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

@SlimOne

I think that it is just a part of the journey a person is on in life… I have always been on the road to *self-actualization…getting to know who you are means being able to ask some serious questions about yourself and then being able to be objective within yourself to get to the veritable answers…my childhood emotional abuse from my mother rendered me void of knowing true emotional happiness…and that was the first question I asked…what do I need to do, know or be in order to become an emotionally happy person within myself…and then I went looking for the answers (internally and externally)…

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

SEXYLEGGS, i couldn’t have said it better myself…

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

listen to music that opens your heart and soul, write in a journal your thoughts, desires and goals and begin a plan to reach them

methods of Self-actualization

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Jazzyone, you got a point there (ROFL). Just wanted to break up my scenery. Went w/a good friend.

Self-reflection can only help when one is trying to clean up their act.

Hello WillieD.

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

but let her want some weed or liquor. She’s got money for that 7 days a week.

lmao.

atl lady my sis is like that. she cry broke all day long. but when she wanted that new carpet from Lowe’s that cost $2500 … and when her dog ate that hot dog and got sick and cost her $1100. she’s so funny. oh, and she paid cash.

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

slim imma be honest. i’m tired of finding myself. i’ve spent enough time alone dammit. now where is he? lol. i do have flaws, but so what. he will too and prolly more.

and i work on them every single day. i’m working on being the one.

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

@Content

Practice self mastery =(don’t get overstressed about situations that you can not control), enjoy, learn from YOUR journey, give and deposit good seed into others, show yourself to be proven content w/ yourself (don’t question if you are/are not “whole”) just be.

as always i’m just talkin’…my way is that of a simple chic.

By mytencents

July 24, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

Has it been a sunshiney day for all so far? Here’s my five cents from before lunch…

**i luv my p——,single sisters tell me u luv ur D—- too and aint getting enough!!! This is why I smack the ruler across your knuckles every day!

So we have this impasse.Its amazing that when you actually get an educated woman taking on a traditional role,thats where u see the marriage thriving. But this is why I never kick you outta my class.

One would think that you shouldn’t have to necessarily have a marketing team to find a mate. And yet, how many times do men express surprise that she’s single? How many times does she express surprise that she’s still on the market? Stuck. Thinking Could many of us be victims of our own assummptions?

Fellas, just b/c she does not dress like your favorite video vixen doesn’t mean she won’t show you pleasures you’ve never known. Maybe she wants someone to see past the exterior. And just b/c she does dress like your favorite video vixen does not mean she wants to show you pleasures you’ve never known. Maybe she wants someone to see past the exterior.

Ladies, just because his car or home is modest doesn’t her can’t afford or strive for greater. Maybe we should stop looking at the exterior so much and focus on the interior. And just because his car or home seems immodest doesn’t mean he’s shallow, he could just take pride in the things he’s worked hard to achieve. Maybe we should stop looking at the exterior so much and focus on the interior.

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

If you don’t put a million miles on that thang it won’t be loose or hang to the floor. That snapper will continue to snap back at em’ LMOAFF!

By Demi

July 24, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

but they say once you turn 40 … awww shyt! lol. you’ll have better sex than when you were 18

I would like to testify to this statement. As long as women are taking care of their body throughout their thirties, the sex will be off the hook…but I think it has a lot to do with that woman’s maturity level, regarding how she feels about herself. Plus most women don’t fully learn their body until their mid-thirties anyhow.

I could be wrong.

By melo

July 24, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

but they say once you turn 40 … awww shyt! lol. from my exp.(and believe me,ive phuckked many wmen) sexx with a birthy vagina(having popped 1,2,3 babies etc) is nicer,better,more plzure than with a 18,20 or unbirthed one(wman with no kids) Its just diff,dont ask me to give u a scientific explan,coz i dnt have any but thats hwy i have felt it..much more smooth,nicer and just plain pleasure( vagna is like wine,nicer with age)..maybe it was the delivery of the wmen who have birthed,i dnt knw but im speaking from my vantage.Only time it dnt sound right for me is if she is a mother,but she left that hole wide open..then it suckks!!Any 40 yrs old in the room?

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

i’m tired of finding myself. i’ve spent enough time alone dammit. now where is he? lol

@Beautiful

Yeah, sometimes it does make you wonder…found a real groovy chick in the process too…and I guesss she and I (oh, that is me) will be together until from this life we do depart…At least I can keep myself good company…I love to cook…I love to create and design…I love to read and I can carry on a dayuum good convo…even if it is all by myself…well, at least I ain’t missing out on me…lol

By mytencents

July 24, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

CNN In general, I think Soledad is the sh sh shuga honey iced tea and anything that swings the lens our way is a necessary thing to broach much needed dialogue re deeper issues. Like the struggling Realtor/Massage therapist. Her kids resulted from her searching for something in that man she did not get from her father. There are SO MANY issues which contribute to highly sexualized behavior but most zoom in on the single motherhood and fail to examine the root cause. There are several injustices within our communities - especially within Black culture— which we don’t dare acknowledge, so how can they be addressed? And measuring levels of blackness kills me. Heard her the other day say something to the effects of while other folks are confused & concerned about it, she’s very aware of it and really that’s all that matters.

M’k Gonna pencil you in btwn Mommy and Oprah w/ Maria Shriver on the other side of my shero panel. The papis yesterday, firemen today… are you clairvoyant? Please mentor me in the way…

By melo

July 24, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

But this is why I never kick you outta my class. are u going to tutor me(one on one) on that tongly language u speaking with m’karyl yesterdy? Why u always weaving in and out of my grasp….whcth u scared of…my rumblings about my nuptials…..? (i thoght i do a good job of weeeding competytion 4 u) If you don’t put a million miles on that thang it won’t be loose or hang to the floor u one of the honest/realest out there…….sme here are so salty…………

By Sidelines

July 24, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

Demi, I would like to testify to this statement. As long as women are taking care of their body throughout their thirties, the sex will be off the hook…but I think it has a lot to do with that woman’s maturity level, regarding how she feels about herself.…Nah, sweetie…your on point with that one! lol…

Afternoon everyone

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 24, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

Jazzy You took my answers..LOL

I was going to say write in a journal. How I learn more and more about myself is well I write letters to myself. I get everything I am feeling out about myself and how I feel about a situation in letters or in poetry. And then I fold them up and put them away..and read them when I need to. For some folks that may not work and Tolle forgive mebut how about talking to yourself.

Now I am not talking about going down the street having full blown conversations and yelling like a loon..I am talking about sitting in quiet meditation and actually talking to yourself and being honest with yourself about who you are and what you are feeling at the moment.

The other thing is to spend some time with yourself. A wise woman once told me..

“I don’t care who says they love you..no one can ever love you as much as you love yourself.”

So just as we spend time with our mates or love ones loving them..we also have to have some self love time.(lawd I know that phrase is going to take a ugly turn)

By melo

July 24, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

did u all see that bythch with 4 kids’ mouff..it was bent and crooked coz of that bj……..that dude put her to work,gave her 4 pop,pop,pop,pop,got her depressed and still no ring…..and lots of bills…afr amerc men are smthing tell ya!

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

mytwo okay i don’t cosign ‘cause my credit is under surveillance.

So what i’ll do to get with you on that 2:38 is match you 500 Jericho March with Bro. Earl’s damsel to 1000 of Wilderbeast’s protein shakes.

By mytencents

July 24, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

Beautiful You likin’ moonlighting for Blanquita? Your 11:23 is kinda wild… in the valley where i live, there is a lack of quality black men. and the ones that are ripe only date latino and white women.

The option to date interracially without reproach seems to be most comfortably extended to everyone except women of color (I do mean all shades.) Yeah, I’d love to explore this topic.

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

AngryBlackB**

Has anyone heard of this blogspot…a co-worker just sent me the link to it????

@mytencents

lol…well, on the base criteria…I like chocolate with junk in the trunk like a VW and a hood ornament like a RR upfront…lol…latino…firemen (yummmmm)…soft, full black man lips are nice too…black men have the finest lips to kiss…yeah! And these days I am having to check ID’s…these young brothers in the Tidewater are bold…and beautiful…

By Demi

July 24, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

“The walls between the countries with the most and those with the least cannot stand. The walls between races and tribes, natives and immigrants, Christian and Muslim and Jew cannot stand,” he said.

http://www.ajc.com/news/content/shared-gen/ap/PresidentialElections/ObamaGermany.html

Call me racist, but for some reason those words carry a deeper meaning coming from a black dude…

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

I disagree self reflection should be done at all times it helps one grow and stay in touch with self. We ll grow and change if there is no self reflection you are stunted and not able to grow as nature and GOD designed it.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 24, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Ared At least you will keep your options open!

*Something Just For Me D*mn girl…what have you been doing? LOL Why do you need that? Well if it is for the enjoyment of your mate just use vinegar and water right before you have sex….my granny said that is an old trick. I have never had to do it…my problem is the flip side of that. But she said that is what the ladies in DR do. And she remembers that from childhood! Wow!Oh…do you know how to contract your kegel muscles? If so doing those whenever you can would helps..even during sex! Once you learn to do it fast….the guy loses his mind when he is at the peak!

Sexyleggs I went to Strokers on Friday night! I was recruiting a dancer(s) for a Bachelor party. But none of them do private parties. But a male dancer friend of mine hooked me up.

**Endless I did not attend and HBCU but I have attend Tuskeegee’s homecoming since “04” with my crazy friends who graduated from there. Girl it was my first time in AL. I saw a possum and I ran fast as hell. Oh yeah..I got sick…yet another respitory infection just like I got when I first moved here in “04”. My asthma wents nuts! What is in the Southern air?

TenCents And just b/c she does dress like your favorite video vixen does not mean she wants to show you pleasures you’ve never known. Maybe she wants someone to see past the exterior. Story of my life. Why dress like a granny? I dress for me..not men!

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By Blkprincess

July 24, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

Just something of interest

http://www.cnn.com/2008/US/07/23/btsc.obrien/index.html

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

Here’s the key to being “complete”:

Love yourself!!!!!!!!!!

Take pride in all that you have accomplished in life

Daily strive to be a better person

Keep having goals

Be emphatic

Appreciate the wonders of God’s green earth

Take it slow, stop rushing

After a day’s work go home, put your feet up for at least 30 mins, grab a glass of wine/scotch/brandy/whatever your choice and sit back and say AWWW…..

By Blkprincess

July 24, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Just something of interest

http://www.cnn.com/2008/US/07/23/btsc.obrien/index.html

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

@ mytencents - Oh, i didn’t notice the change in the extra .08 you’ve come into.

whistling

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Has ATL become the City of Urban Imposters? lol

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Melo Im 42…muah!

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Demi, you’re right. Taking care of your body and the maturity level goes a long way in having great, unbridled sex. No hangups but openminded is one of the keys to great sex.

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

mytwo always good to see you pop in.

the only way i see me finding someone is getting out and traveling my side of the world more. i have no problem with that. my problem is our black men are either giving up on us or can’t handle us. another one of my new dating rules is pulling back. what i mean by that is not showing so much attitude. i’m still gonna be me, but i’ll be a more laid back calm me.

oh, and imma be more spontaneous. it’s hard cause i like stuff planned.

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

SlimOne The females are just as imposters as the guys. Women love to blame the guy for this and that. Check yourselves too hunnies! You’re 1/2 of the Equation!

Harsh reality, if you’re single and putting yourself out there, coule be a reason guys aren’t approaching you. Attitude or Look or whatever.

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

MytencentsIt’s just a matter of timing and the person. I dated outside of my race at an early age and because of the place (city) where we dated, it wasn’t exactly comfortable for either of us. Plus, I was dealing with deep rooted self-esteem issues so I had a skewed self-image at the time. I don’t have an overall problem with it b/c I have a tendency to draw men outside of my race anyway. I just hate the same men that wouldn’t give me the time of day are the same men who say the negative and insulting things when I’m out with someone of another race.

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

@Demi

Why would that make you a racist???? A racialist maybe…and that is okay too…when you live in an experience that is continually defined by racial facotrs you tend to racialize things…that is not being a racist because you are not using the race of another person in a derogatory or discriminating manner…am I a racist because Black men have the most beautiful lips to kiss…no, am I a racialist? yes, no doubt and I make no excuse for it either.

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

STACEYE, I’ve been in Atlanta all my life, and its only within the past few years that the air quality has become horrible. I was walking to Centinnial park on my break yesterday, and I felt like I was about to die. It was so hard for me to breathe. I had to start back using an inhaler…

By KP (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

July 24, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

(KP is having an awesome time lurking despite the temptation to jump into the discussion)

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

M I agree black men do have the best lips to kiss ain’t no hate there from me. I love my mans lips one of his best features and he knows how to use them.

By m'karyl

July 24, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

Well, I am outta here for today…I need to go pick up some oxtails…I am making Spanish style oxtails for my neighbor…marinated in red wine, rosemary and garic…braised in olive oil and then simmered in a red wine/beef broth mix…carrots and pearl onions…yummmm…

By melo

July 24, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

Jazzy ripe and sumptous,like a tomato…hmmmmmmmm if u like Obama go to drudgereports,u’ll luv that backdrop with the Berlin crowd. Hope he dont burn out b4 Nov….. Mcain just seems so stiff and a poor campaigner at that…tho….

By Blkprincess

July 24, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

http://www.cnn.com/2008/US/07/23/btsc.obrien/index.html

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

myten been cornered?

KP Your opinion and comment is just as valid. We don’t know who will benifit from what you add.

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

Endless RomanticI second that on the air quality. There are some days it’s not good to be outside. I asked my doctor about it because I thought I was developing asthma. He told me to check the air quality guide on a regular basis. On the days that’s deemed unhealthy or above, I cut my time outside.

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

m’karyl so the date is May 25, 2012 and there will be 75 guests … what? i asked you to cater my wedding remember? lol.

kp how did you meet your SO? did you advertise yourself?

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

Atl Lady, Endless Romantic i developed a cough while i was there. it was a dry uncontrollable cough. it would surface when i spoke. my doc said allergies, but i knew it was the GA air/climate. it’s going away now and i’m really happy about that. it was kinda embarrassing. she had me try an inhaler and meds like claritan.

By mytencents

July 24, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Willie D I definitely agree with your point way back bout what was NOT highlighted. Dr. Malveaux also mentioned this briefly so perhaps her commentary on that was left on the cutting room floor.

ATL Lady/Beauty the same men that wouldn’t give me the time of day are the same men who say the negative and insulting things when I’m out with someone of another race. My thing is that half the time, it’s not a woman they even want, they just don’t want the other race to have her. The psychology I’ve gotten on it is mind boggling. Cuz ya know I ask… Now ATL did you already have issues u were working thru or was it the treatment y’all got that wore you down?

M’k I’m not even gettin involved w/u & these hood ornaments, but put those send the chocolate drops too young for u on a midnite train to Georgia

Cee Thought we was sisters. Must question one who gonna cheat me outta my 8 cents, too stingy to jeopardize credit for & gon’ volunteer the protein shakes of a wilderbeast. But for real, how long u think take him to whip up that much?

that tongly language u speaking with Cannot wait for my Zulu translation booklet to arrive from Amazon. If this means what I think it means, somebody’s in BIG TROUBLE!

By KP (http://chatkafe.blogspot.com)

July 24, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

Beautiful, Men typically don’t have to advertise themselves because of the natural exposure we receive (especially here in ATL). I personally don’t agree with the process of advertising oneself because it portrays a sense of desperation. Men typically flee from seriously pursuing a woman who draws too much attention to herself. Attention getters are usually good flings or sex-partners, but terrible candidates for long-term relationships. Just my two-cents!

By SAMIAM

July 24, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

over the past few days/weeks i have been checkin’ the banter between certain folk…so have there been any blog hook ups on this spot? just askin.’

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 3:50 PM | Link to this

Intersting question SAMIAM*

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

Staceye is my blog g/f…if that counts. We cyber hook up everyday!

By KJ

July 24, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

LOL @ the idea that women have to “advertise”. Any reasonably attractive woman just has to show up and not be insane (well, sometimes THAT’S not even a necessity), and the rest will fall into place.

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

kp you’re correct, but if i shy away from advertising myself, i’m willing to take that risk … and it’ll be fun. i don’t consider myself desparate, cause if i wanted to be married next month … no prob. the problem is he prolly won’t be the one for me. i only want to do this ONCE!

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

ten …me and u , us never part…

I not cheat you I match you. Hehehe…da wilderbeast proseens is of nutrition for you. He say.

Not sure how you got put in the corner…but gonna take more than zee translation booklet to get you otta the corner. anutha futha.

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

BeautifulAtlanta doesn’t have the green space it used to have. There used to be more trees in key places like downtown to help control the smog.

MytencentsI had to learn to love me. I agree with your analysis about some men, but in the end it’s my decision to be happy. Happy about my choices whether they are good or bad.

By SlimOne

July 24, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

ATL Guy The females are just as imposters as the guys. Women love to blame the guy for this and that. Check yourselves too hunnies! You’re 1/2 of the Equation! I don’t recall placing blame on the men or anyone for that matter…an Imposter is an Imposter.

By Demi

July 24, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

m’karyl thanks for the correction…poor choice of wording on my part…trying to learn how to speed type and think.

my problem is our black men are either giving up on us or can’t handle us

B ……CRICKETS…..MORE CRICKETS….AND ALLLL SKEET SKEET, MORE CRICKETS………… Just say you haven’t met the right one or maybe due to your thought process at the time, you scared them brothers away.

Sidelines sista wazzz up!!!

m’karyl being a well made brother, I see why black women love most of us, LOL…some of us brothers do need to allow our inner man to catch up with our looks though

By Rell

July 24, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

can we get off complaining about women in atlanta…..look again you get it how you live…stop belly aching when you run across these flaky females..just charge them to the game and keep it moving…geesh….atlanta is an international hub of travel…get your international on…take your game beyond peachtree street…..feel me…there is nothing wrong with the women here…here is the problem if your a 30 something year old man and you trying to date any chick in atlanta under the age of 28 you deserve what you get….those females should be on the dyck to jaw program…stop trying to wife up the first thing smiling back at you..hell they dont learn how to wash right until 28….so next time you out and you meet that young flirty twenty something…fill her ears with something good and stop trying to impress her…hell the guys on her job do it..the one at qt…kroger….apt complex…ups deliver guy…at jiffy lube..bouncer at velvet room….etc

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

SAMIAM yep!

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

SlimOne I’m throwing it out there because many comments in this room refer to guys doing them wrong or those that don’t man up. Saying it goes two ways. Some females don’t deserve the guy’s attention.

What have you done for me lately…mentality

By pisces 08

July 24, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

Afternoon All…. Hey ARed, Sexy.

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

Demi u heard the crickets…lol you silly.

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

SAMIAM, haven’t you read about meet and greets. Don’t know when the next one will be.

By MsM

July 24, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

Endless, the problem was him. Good riddance!

Imagine being married to someone for almost 20 years who was jealous, very dependent, believed everyone was out to get him, drank hater-aid all the time, and against his wife no less. Then divorce him, and you’re on his list like everyone else (a stranger). Had issues I could help’em with. BYE!

By ATL Guy

July 24, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Rell I’m with Ya. I love the girls in the ATL. Spent some time up in Chicago and was missing that Southern Hospitality I got from the ladies down here! You hit the nightlife in this city and realize how many unbelievebly hot women are in this city and most are down to earth. Can’t say that in Los Angeles or Miami…

By Demi

July 24, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Rell Mayne, you know you just called women under 28 Dishes and Holes…without even saying it right, LOL.

By AmazonRed

July 24, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Hey pisces08!

By Sidelines

July 24, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

Demi, wassssup!!! You’ve got me in stitches…’crickets’, lmao!!!!

By mytencents

July 24, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

Iguana Nooo, Albino not backed in. Meerkat is tho. Punishment. And since we volunteerin svces in the animal kingdom, gonna loan you out to uhmmm… (peerin round lounge)

Hi Lurkers! Do any of you have any Crazy Azzzz Questions to ask? Please. Anyone. Bueller. Bueller…

By Beautiful

July 24, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

good nite all! i’ll try to do better next time on my topic idea. i tried.

smooches to you.

By Rell

July 24, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

@demi…i am not calling them that…but they sure are attention w******* and flaky..and they should..who wants to be all boo’d up when you should be out exploring your options….so shame on these fools who keep falling for that “she is mature for age” crap…yrb…she doing what she made to do..and her ish is wet in the morning just like your morning wood…so quit cryin…..thing is you should be on her perview guiding and molding her the way you want….but thats another post for ya…

@atl…your right i have been many places but i find southern women to be way more approachable and open to discussion…i did not find that in cali….i take that back yes i did..but there skin was fair lighter than the average sister..feel me…did not get that when i went to the windy city or DC…..southern women have that charm period…

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

Hello pisces08

I have a crazy a$$ question to ask…can you tell me how to get, how to get to Sesame Street????

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 24, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

Hi ATL Guy….my blog b/f! Smooches!

Rell You trying to say I am not charming? LOL

By Endless Romantic

July 24, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

Thanks everyone for the great conversation. I must say, you made my work day a lot easier… Enjoy your evening!!!!

By Demi

July 24, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

Sidelines LOL…I hope things are well on your end!!!

Rell I peep what you are saying bruh, but not all are bless with game. These days, women I meet are often a reflection of me in a lot of ways…minus my craziness…Which is why I say more men really need to work on their inner man.

By Rell

July 24, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

staceye…you are charming in your own way…lol

but overall…you make a nucca wanna sang….all ways and forever this moment witch you…its just like a dream to me…and you…that always came true….lol

name that movie!!!

By Cemeeli

July 24, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

mytwo how you gonna offer me up for any ole road kill? It’s like that?

Thanks rell for offering the compliment about southern women.

Ya’ll be easy.

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

Beautiful Are you going to select the topic tomorrow? I agree with Endless. Great conversation and topic.

By Jazzyone

July 24, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

If everytime you run up on a woman and say shes crazy it says something about you..cause not all women are crazy…

Whenever I hear men constantly say that it clues me about their behavior as well and it means they are drama themselves becasue typically women ain’t tripping for no reason..so stop saying we crazy…like we get there all by ourselves..puhlease…

By M'Karyl

July 24, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

@mytencents

Sug, head to the Tidewater…got the beaches and the bays…hot days…and lots of hot sightseeing in barely there bathing suits…oh yeah!!!!

By M'Karyl

July 24, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

@mytencents

Sug, head to the Tidewater…got the beaches and the bays…hot days…and lots of hot sightseeing in barely there bathing suits…oh yeah!!!!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 24, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

rell LMAO you are a mess! What movie is that….a Martin or Eddie Murphy joint?

By M'Karyl

July 24, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

@Beatiful We’ll hook it up…make some mean Sangria to go with it…lol…eats is on!!!

By SexyLeggs

July 24, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

Goodnight everyone!

Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation. (Kahlil Gibran)

Stop squinting and open your eyes and see the big picture playing out in front of you. PAY ATTENTION!

By Demi

July 24, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

Jazzyone you have a good night lady…

By HS Teacher

July 24, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

No, I don’t tell anyone. Right now, my rings are in the safe deposit box, and that might be the only way someone could tell.

By az

July 24, 2008 5:04 PM | Link to this

House Party, I still remember that line from that movie… funny as hel

By Atl Lady

July 24, 2008 5:08 PM | Link to this

Jazzy^ 5!!