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Friday, July 11, 2008
Grab a mirror: What’s your biggest dating flaw?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I’m feeling introspective, maybe because I’ve dated no less than half a dozen guys this year with no real luck. Still, I don’t regret ending those brief relationships, because I knew they weren’t going anywhere. I was turned off by varying qualities; one was clingy while another was flaky. One was disrespectful and another was downright insane.
I could spot their bad qualities, but I’ve also learned to recognize some of my own:
I over-think things. This may make me a better writer, but I don’t think it helps in the dating world. I need to learn to take things at face value.
I immediately evaluate my suitor for his longterm potential. I’m not sure if this is a good or bad thing, but some friends have said I take it too seriously. (This also ties into over-thinking.)
I get overly excited in the beginning. If said evaluation goes well, I let my mind and heart think a little too often about the person, which possibly sets me up for disappointment and frustration. (Luckily, I know better than to call or text or be “too available.” We can chat about silly dating rules in another blog, though.)
I see the end before the real beginning. Despite my excitement for new relationships, I can’t help but see them as having an expiration date. (After all, I’m single. Obviously things haven’t worked in the past; why should this be different?)
I’ve bared my negatives; now it’s your turn. What’s your greatest flaw? And when applicable, how did you overcome it?
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