Misadventures in Atlanta

By LilZ

July 11, 2008 8:23 AM | Link to this

Good morning! My biggest problem tends to be that I am too much myself! I throw a bunch of stuff at them about myself (ie, I have a zillion tattoos, I work at a haunted house, I love zombie movies, I don’t cook unless it comes out of a box) and then they run screaming. I don’t do it on purpose, these are just the things I love to do and this is who I am so they just come up in conversation. I don’t want to hide this stuff because then I feel like I’m not telling the truth so if I comes up, I say it! That being said, I just recently met a guy who seems to love all of that stuff about me… so who knows. Of course, there is probably something wrong with him, like he killed his mother and lives with her dead body.

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 8:23 AM | Link to this

testing….

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 8:25 AM | Link to this

Helllllllo

GaMn look around and looks for anyone!! (‘) (‘)

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 8:27 AM | Link to this

ha!!! I can say my name!!!!

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

Whooo…Happy Friday! Blanca, you made it! How does it feel? You did good this week. It’s never easy starting something new.

I’ve dated no less than half a dozen guys this year with no real luck.

Let me also say, thank goodness you are an actual dater! I hope you will continue to share your experiences and kick some of our more complacent bloggers into gear!

By QC

July 11, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers, Lurkers..it’s Friday i hope you all have a great day/weekend..i’ll be in Lurkesville, Ga chillin in da Lounge…i’ll check back later

BK smooches

By slim one

July 11, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this

I am definitely not the problem. If my honey don’t appreciate this package, they can move on along, playa. Word.

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 8:50 AM | Link to this

I am definitely not the problem. If my honey don’t appreciate this package, they can move on along, playa. Word.

Tee hee hee…well, this may get the blog started off way early! We know how some of the male bloggers feel about women never owning up to thier dating flaws!

(I know you were being funny and I’m LMAO!)

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 8:50 AM | Link to this

Feliz Viernes Blanca!

My thing is I can be too picky somtimes. She’ll have to be the total package before I settle into a relationship with her.

Thing that turns me away most often these days is Negativity. Baby Girl…You aren’t going to bring me down with you!

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEE!!!!!

On-Topic: My biggest problem is overthinking..which can lead to all sort problems..because when you overthink there are occassions(vast) to misread. And look for problems when there are no real problems. And if you do it to much well you can create problems.

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

My biggest problem tends to be that I am too much myself! I throw a bunch of stuff at them about myself (ie, I have a zillion tattoos, I work at a haunted house, u need to frequent the circus Liz,im sure ull have more luck with those types….magicians,snake handlers….those types…u diffrnt…etc……

By Sam Jam

July 11, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

Blueberry muffins and oatmeal after my morning run. Ohhhh…my hair is not cooperating today and no clean panties. TGIF.

By LilZ

July 11, 2008 9:12 AM | Link to this

Melo - you might be right! But those types of guys tend to travel an awful lot…

;)

By abc

July 11, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

Blanca, I’d say the things you note as flaws in your dating approach simply expose what your dating goals are. Those goals seem to be establishment of a long term, if not permanent, romantic relationship. IMHO, those are positive attributes, not negative ones — even the notion that they all have expiration dates serves only to put the onus on their continued motivation to take the same approach. Good luck!

My biggest flaw in dating is about the same as in dealing with people in general: I don’t have a lot of patience. I’ll explain things once or twice, thoroughly and succinctly, but after that I start to think they’re either not paying attention or they’re not very intelligent. I get impatient with inattentive or unintelligent people, and I wish it wasn’t so — most people aren’t that way on purpose.

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Happpy Birthday Cee…..

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

My Biggest Flaw Is That Girls Don’t Like My Jokes….

:D Its Fiesta Friday!!!!

By pisces 08

July 11, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

Morning All. I’m probably too picky, but how dare you suggest the folks on this Blog have flaws…

By New Attitude

July 11, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

My biggest flaw has been not putting GOD first and going past that thing that is telling me something is wrong like he is so perfect because he is so gay! LOL! This is because I want him to be Mr. Right! I know today that I’m better than that!! Ladies & Gents, when you know better hopefully you will do better.

By The Truth

July 11, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEE

I’m on the wrong blog. I have never taken out 12 women in one year. If my shot/kill ratio was that bad I’d date dudes because something must be wrong with me.

Here’s how it goes. We meet, we’re either interested or not. If there’s a mutual interest we talk and see how deep. If it’s deep enough we get together. If not we can be occassional friends at best or I can help you get a home.

I’d rather meet 2 cool chicks in a year than go out with 12 bad ones. WOW

Flaws, I’d rather save my cash by not going out than waste it on a skittish serial dating chick. LOL

By mytwocents

July 11, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this

abc “My biggest flaw…” You saved me some keystrokes. Though I find grown ups w/ faux ADD more irksome than those who think on a different plane.

Happy Birthday, Baby! Already got a lil icing on ya cheek, huh?

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

My Biggest Flaw Is That BLACK Girls Don’t Like My Jokes…. that sounds better smart white guy…

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 11, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! TGIF! Even if it is gloomy out.

Happy Birthday Cemeeli

Kym Happy Belated, sorry I missed your birthday yesterday! I’ll see if I can swipe a few gas cards for you

BRB….need to get some work done first

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Slim I am definitely not the problem. If my honey don’t appreciate this package, they can move on along, playa. Word.

That’s where I’m at, right there. ^^^ But also, neither do I find flaws in the other person either. E’rybody ain’t for e’rybody. Seems like some people take the “natural” out of life. Let it flow, or let it go…

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Go Cemeeli, it’s your birfday!

Happy Birthday.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

TheTruth Haha…yeah I’d rather hit it off with a couple of mad cool girls instead of the variety pack of females. I’ve been out with probably 5 girls this year and they have all been fun & cool etc. I travel for work so its hard to really hold down a steady g/f. Haven’t been out with any clinically insane chicks this year, so thats a PLUS!

By Bre'

July 11, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

So thankful for seeing another Friday, getting ready to head to GA. I hope the peaches are sweet not mention some good watermelon.

Hmmmm I don’t date anymore however when I was my biggest flaw was making it very clear, “you are not the only one and my time is mine”. A bit direct but it clears up much confusion. I dated for 8 years…no serious guy I learned alot about self, men and the world of dating. You just have to decide on how you want to apply the lessons learned.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all

Happy B-day Cee

I would rather spend my time on Me, than go out with 12 women who cant see me for me

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Morning!

Thanks Kym i was celebrating w/ you lastnight, 2C,MO,ARed,Truth, and that, mytwocents for all the birthday wishes sweetness.

ungh…ungh…ungh…bam…bam…ba…oh, it’s not time for that?

I’m gettin’ my clothes wet tonight!

By QC

July 11, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEE-ME-ME

Your cake is in the Blog Cafe

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

happy bithday Cee….u 19 now,the youngest blogger hah…

on topic, i dnt have flows really,im a cool guy,laid back,work,give all my money to wify,expect her to cook,clean,do laundry etc… thats why she got me and i got her…when i waz dating, i had more girlz falling over themselves to get me than the city cld provide.so u see thats my proof….dating is not hard if u knw what u want and are realistic. For ladies,aim low…for guys,get a wman who luvs u more than she luvs herself and u get all the attention and benefits…any man who cant find a decent wman to date in this multitude,sme wrong with him… If a wman is picky or too picky,she is digging her own grave….how so u ask,well,look in the mirror and ask urself if u are a success or failure in getting the one u want since u set those goals when u turned 19.Yes or No will do…Consider this,the reason why u 30 and stil talking of dates since 19 is because u have been a failure thus far.Your fault….time to change the game and adjust ur approach..there are only so many men for wmen who get it….its a competitive game……. Off to a lame duck meeting.holla,i will respond……

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Well, no one else is listing flaws so I won’t either. LOL. Beau and I had a conversation about this a couple weeks ago. Most I knew, just wasn’t sure what the irration level of them was. But good to know that nothing was at deal breaker status and that we could talk about such things.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

MELO Playing that Race Card again Huh?! I love being defined as that “white guy”.

Don’t be Insecure, let it go

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEE !

QC ;)

Melo that sounds better smart white guy…

Please don’t start that one, man.

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

I’d say the things you note as flaws in your dating approach simply expose what your dating goals are. Those goals seem to be establishment of a long term, if not permanent, romantic relationship. IMHO, those are positive attributes, not negative ones

Abc said it best, but I also don’t think that Blanca’s list are flaws if her goal is to date for long term or for marriage. The only way they become negative attributes is if she is actually dating to have fun. That requires no looking towards the future, no over-thinking, no nothing, except for doing what feels right in the moment.

Even though I date for long-term, I have occasionally met interesting and/or good-looking men who I wanted to spend some time with, but I didn’t once think about the future. I already knew I was going to get off that train at the next stop. Women put guys in categories too.

I also agree with with Blue. Everybody ain’t for everybody, sometimes it’s just not a fit. That doesn’t mean that they other person (or you) have terrible dating flaws, since they were only being themselves. You have to find the person who you can deal with them being themselves.

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Happy Birthday CEE!!

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Thanks GaMan,QC,melo for the birthday wishes.

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

melo I personally think that people should mature a little before getting married. If I would have gotten married at 19 as you suggest, it would have been a disaster. I’ve developed much more as a person since then and what I wanted at 19 is a far cry from what I want at 31. There is no such thing as too picky if you are looking to spend the rest of your life with someone. That’s a LONG time to not have what you want.

But since you bring it up, question for you: Did your wife aim low when she married you? If not, why would you advise other women to do that?

By For Real

July 11, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!

Happy Birthday CEE what time are we meeting a PF Chang? I’m buying the first round of waters.

My flaw is chicks always think I’m marriage material. which drives me crazy. I scrub my forehead twice a day but I still can’t seem to get I’m Marriage Material off of it.

Blog ladies what makes a dude look like he is marriage material? I need help quick.

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Foots But since you bring it up, question for you: Did your wife aim low when she married you? If not, why would you advise other women to do that?

…sittin’ back chillin’ and thinkin’, “Sometimes it’s good to see someone else under the gun.”

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

i dnt have flows really

Well, melo, I’m glad you don’t have flows, but I’m sure you have flaws.

And just because you wifed the chick you were shacking and making babies with doesn’t mean you are flaw free. Come on now.

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

I won’t call this a dating flaw because it’s just how I am, but I like solitude. It’s like “solitude” and “companionship” are on the balance, and sometimes, one outweighs the other. Luckily, I think that my boyfriend is the same way, which works for us. After spending some time alone, I can come back to the relationship refreshed and ready to be close. I have never been able to stay with a man who needed to be up under me 7 days a week. Just wouldn’t work for me for long.

By For Real

July 11, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

abc Does your lack of patience contradict the gentlemen in you?

Poots The only way they become negative attributes is if she is actually dating to have fun. Can you explain more? Or do you actually believe dating for fun is a flaw?

By For Real

July 11, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Dayummmmmm Poots delivered a wick Serena Williams backhand winner to Melo

15 Love Poots

Now serving Melo

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

For Real What I mean is that if her “flaws” all involve evaluating someone for long-term potential, they aren’t flaws. They are a means to an end. In dating for fun only, fun IS the end. You are looking at that person (or multiple people) for entertainment value, not long-term value, so you shouldn’t overthink or get overly excited by their potential. Have fun, go home, rinse and repeat.

By ChurchLady

July 11, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Mmmm…Just a closer walk with thee…Just a closer walk with thee

Rejoice Er’body

I thank my main problem is not being able to find a God Fearing Man/A Holy Vessel/Saved, Santified, Holy Ghost Filled/Fire Baptisted Gentleman. A man who can rightly divide the word of truth, a prayer warrior, evangelizing, tongue talkin’, single minded man.

Right now, He’s being prepared by the All Mighty and when he ready, The Lawd gon release him into my bussom.

I’s know that I aint perfect but the Lawd aint finished yet. He still working on me.

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

Thanks Blue and Foots.

Happy Birthday CEE what time are we meeting a PF Chang? I’m buying the first round of waters.

I thought i had myself a b-day lunch. ForReal are you for real?

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Thanks Mo you are welcome..

Cee I hope you have a great day..I went to a play last night. It was great!

I love being defined as that “white guy”. Uhhh Correction: You name is Token

RandyT was The white guy..or Mr. White Man.

Swiss is Funky White Dude aka Swirl

All other white people will be renamed later after lunch.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

Kym should I re-name you with Racial Context!?

By Blanca

July 11, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

Kym aka Lady Stage All other white people will be renamed later after lunch. But I get to keep my name, right? ;) Happy Friday everyone!

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

ChurchLady You wouldn’t happen to be one of the Smiley clan would you? LOL

Kym I love being defined as that “white guy”. Uhhh Correction: You name is Token

That ain’t cool. You need to let that ride.

By Church Lady's husband

July 11, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Closer to thee huh?

How ‘bout u get closer to de dishes you forgot to wash las nite!!

Told ya’ll she was crazy…us got um too chilens and she still talkin’ bout her bossum

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Blanca who did you make mad in the IT dept…cause you still dont have no RED

lololololol

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

I will let it ride when the two of them let it ride..since they both insist on keeping the racial floodgates flowing..I will keep riding the waves.

Frankly, I think we all take ourselves wayyy to serious most days and I am not willing to do that this Friday. Catch me next week for serious

Matter of fact I have some questions to ask the gentleman folks..

By abc

July 11, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Yes, For Real, I suppose it does. I don’t often get rude with people like that, I tend to start to ignore them.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all!!

Blanca I immediately evaluate my suitor for his longterm potential. I’m not sure if this is a good or bad thing Well isn’t the point of a relationship is for possible long term/marriage? So why not find out if the person has the potential from the jump? If more people did this it would spare a lot of drama down the road. If he is flakey, clingy, crazy, broke, whatever your no-no’s are, then cut your losses. Otherwise you begin to like this person for the wrong reasons (great sex, money, etc) and then find yourself making excuses for certain behavior that you not otherwise deal with because your rationale/judgement has become clouded. If kids are in the future…woud this person make a good husband and father/wife and mother? Most do not think of that and then find themselves in too deep and left with baggage (ie:single parenthood)to dela with alone because they did not take time to see what this person was all about before the stick turned blue!

I see the end before the real beginning. Despite my excitement for new relationships, I can’t help but see them as having an expiration date. (After all, I’m single. Obviously things haven’t worked in the past; why should this be different OMG…that is me! That excitement of newness can turn into fear and anxiety real quick. It’s that euphoric feeling that makes you wonder what is going to kill it, wnd when. It’s like looking over your back and waiting for that other shoe to drop. If it seems too good to be true…IT IS! I mean people can walk around with their heads in the clouds saying you shouldn’t think like that because not every relationship/guy is the same. True enough…but that is also like saying a pile of dog poop is not dog poop if you put flowers around it. No matter what you do…it’s still poop! Don’t kid yourself! Some call me a pessimistic person but I just see things in black and white. I do not try to blur the colors together to make grey. It is what it is.

LilZ I like tattoos…got a few myself. Haunted houses ROCK! And I LOVE vampire movies! Hey my My Space page plays trip-hop music and the back ground is that of goth fairies and pictures of vampires! Nothing wrong with you. You are just different! Embrace not being “the norm”.

ATL Guy She’ll have to be the total package before I settle into a relationship with her And what might that be son?

My Biggest Flaw Is That Girls Don’t Like My Jokes… Now see I laughed at your joke! LOL

ABC I don’t have a lot of patience. I’ll explain things once or twice, thoroughly and succinctly, but after that I start to think they’re either not paying attention or they’re not very intelligent. I get impatient with inattentive or unintelligent people I feel the same way…if I have to draw you a picture to make you understand…then you are not for me.

For Real what PF’s you going to?

Foots I can not stand a man who is in enema mode. I need my personal time and space. I can get tired of a guy real quick.

Kym You renamed all the white guys? LMAO Wow! Please…I beg of you…don’t name anyone Vanilla Ice! It will just bring back memories of Jim Carey imitating him on In Living Color!

HAPPY 21ST B-DAY CEMEELI! YOU SEXY THANG! lol

By mqew

July 11, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

MY GURL

HAPPY B DAY CEE MEEMEE

Aight, so wat we doin, was popping, wat we got planned. I’m buying!! And NO we aint goin to no smoothie spot, the gotta serve licca!!!

On topic: I’m perfect! I’on no wat the he11 Blanco talkin about. It is what it is….

Oh… Welcome Blanco

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Kym what did I say this morning to open the flood gates!? Haha, are you drunk!? You are right though, its Friday, lets not be Serious.

Staceye What up!

By ChurchLady

July 11, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Squirts, what’s the squirts?

I ain’t heard of that, how do you get the squirts? Is it that like bird flu or sars, by the way what evera happened to them, ain’t hear nothing but them in years.

Lawd, these plagues and diseaes popping up like pop cone. I tells you that’s why you gotta be right, cause you never know when something like them squirts could take you clean out the land of the living. Lawd, have mercy on our souls.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Kym It is all about the Muscle control lolololol

either you have it or you Don’t

By Church Lady's husband

July 11, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Baby it wat we bes doing wen all the chilens go to bed…I thank so

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Church Lady Stay tuned one of the guys will fill you in on squirting..but I am LMAO at you anyway.

GAMan That is not a complete answer but I am going to let that one go..So you going to explain the booty club parking lot and the mirror.

By i'm swiss (aka funky white dude; aka swirl)

July 11, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

@Kym

To answer your questions:

“Why is the booty club serving a breakfast buffet and why is the parking lot full?” — Is that a rhetorical question? Breakfast is served because it’s morning. And the parking lot is full because it’s the booty club. ;-)

“What is so doggone fascinating about watching yourself have sex in the mirror? You know what you look like right?” — It’s all about the different angles — w/ mirrors you can see the booty & the face at the same time.

“What exactly is the fascination with squirting?” — It’s positive reinforcement. Squirting is like “ooooooh you got me so wet” times 10.

Swiss mocha swirl out. ;-)

By Church Lady's husband

July 11, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Kym I am not touching that one with a 20 foot pole.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Churchlady I swear they are going to think I am a few fries short of a happy meal at work the way you got me laughing! LOL

Kym girl watch did you watch or dream about mami? LOL Squirts..I’m afraid to know. Now the mirror thing is just added eroticism….like watching your own p0rn live instead of making a DVD that may later come back to bite you in the azz! Literally! Now as far as the strip club being packed for breakfast…I’m not eating at a strip club! EWWW no telling what is in that food. They use alcohol to wipe the poles down but do they do that in the kitchen? HMMMM LOL

By Church Lady's husband

July 11, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Ok everyone pic me and Church lady…on da bed with all th wrinkles showing with mirrors all ov’er

Work it BIG DADDY

By Beautiful

July 11, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

mood today: chill. me and kels are going to do absolutely nothing this w/e. yay! entertainment is getting expensive. chasten your son while there is hope, and do not set your heart on his destruction. proverbs 19:18. amen!

off topic i watched the surreal life last night and mc hammer looked … ummm … good. that bald head, the booty, his build … lawd!. i loves me a teddy bear.

Blog ladies what makes a dude look like he is marriage material? I need help quick.

for one, he has a mortgage. seriously.

happy birthday cee! singing how young are you …

flaws what flaws?!?

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

i’m swiss (aka funky white dude; aka swirl) Dude, why am I hearing Wild Cherry right now?! LOL

Good job answering those questions. There you go Kym. Read up. ^^^

…off to lunch.

By mqew

July 11, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Kym Ummmm what sckripp club you see thas packed in the am??? Jus curious…

By Since we still on it...

July 11, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Not to be one to bring up ol’ shyt.. but I would like to say that after not posting some mo yesterday, reading AND laughing at ATL Guy’s “joke”, that as a single Black mother, I was not offended. Much because I am still doing the damn thang (with or) without a man. So in theory, it didn’t offend because it doesnt apply.

HOWEVER, I can say that as a mother to a young Black man, I was surprised that more men didnt see his “joke” for what it was. As MELO so eloquently put it “an assault on all Black men”. I have noticed that ATL Guy enjoys being in the mix of the conversation and often starts some ish in an effort to fit in. I’ve seen it time and time again. These are the same folks who’ll call you “my ngga” and think nothing of it.

AND, reading today’s comments, Poster Kym is doing nothing NO different (except being very forthcoming and blatant) in her race-filled attempts to goad this man. She’d shyt a brick if he called her something racially-tinged and call on EVERY black man in ATL to “beat his cracka a*”. Much like the girl at the club arguing with a man, then acts all surprised when she gets slapped to the dance floor.

The only way you can help an ignorant person is to enlighten him or her. Arguing with them only loses the point and makes you look just as ignorant.

One of the bigger questions is “why is it that us new generation negroes tend to let our women fight these battles (which we are fighting all wrong by the way: filled with emotion and screaming versus unapologetic strength and power? Does that speak to the quality of men or the quality of women?)

If you do not stand for something, you’ll fall for anything

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

okay, what going on in here?

In honor of the off topic topic imma do the blender mixer dance.

lol @ folks changing Blanca’s name. Blanca can i add Bahia to your name for added affect?*

Thanks Staceye, yep-yep i’m forever 21, mqew hey you, thanks chica. Did you brings my fav lemon pepper today?

By Foots (aka Pootie Tang)

July 11, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

For Real Marriage material? Hmmmm… A man who would be marriage material to me is kind, compassionate, has a great love of family and God, likes children, has a vision for his life, is committment-minded and can support himself and if needed, a family.

So what the heck do these women see in you? Just kidding!!! nr

By Beautiful

July 11, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

What is so doggone fascinating about watching yourself have sex in the mirror?

memories.

I’m not eating at a strip club! EWWW no telling what is in that food.

lmao!

what’s up chicas? happy frickin’ friday.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

I am sitting here listening to the radio, and it hit me…

What happened to the good ol days?

Remember when everything use to be so calm, you meet someone talk on the phone…go to dinner and the movies!!

Life is so precious and we(most of us) take it for granite…we think because we are still healthy and got good jobs…that we have a lifetime to wait for everything…

It not the moments that you breathe…it is the moments that take your breath away

By ChurchLady

July 11, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

Lawdy, I did not know that the squirts had anythang to do with being BUCK NAKED. And to thank I had added that to my prayer list…#125-Prayer for those who has been aflicted with the squirts and that they would be healed from the squirts. Lawd, Lawd, Lawd.

You’ll still need to be healed from the squirts, just in a different way, so alls was not lost. Ahh Glory!!!

By i'm swiss (aka funky white dude; aka swirl)

July 11, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

@BK — “Dude, why am I hearing Wild Cherry right now?!”

That’s my intro music. Plays every time I roll up in the blog — on my Segway. ;-)

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

Let the music take your mind..just release and you will find…your going to fly away..glad your going my way.

i love it when we are cruising together…music if fine… cruising is made for love

cruise with me baby

Smokey Robinson

*

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

Poster with the mask on I wouldnt care what AtlGuy said about me on this blog or off. His opinion does not define who I am. Anymore than my opinions of him define who he is. So again it is really not that deep. I have been called much worse when I was around the corner and “the man didn’t hear me” and I have been told much worst to my face under the guise of tell me how well breed and trained I am. But if you want to go there..lets go all the way around the mulberry bush..and then come back to the middle. While everyone is up in arms about ATL’s statement the fact is any given day someone of the same race will make some jackleg racial sterotype comment about a member of their own race simple because well I am black so I can. If one of the known black guys on this blog had made that same statement or crack it would have not gotten a second glance. Matter of fact I am willing to bet dollars to doughnuts until el white man posted his race most of the folks on here thought he was just some young round the way brother..heck there is still debate on the race of abc..and like he said yesterday-longed winded but all the same who really gives a rats tushy what race anyone is.

Frankly unless you actually physical see who you are talking too anyone of us on here could be Asian, African, or pink with yellow polka dots.

When we decide to have a serious discussion on race then I will be serious..but if we are just going to throw out random comments and jokes on race well then I can flow with that too.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

have your a good song and swear you can dance to it…your body can do all the moves when you sitting…then you get up and realize…dangomeit!!! I am getting older

lolololol

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

mytwo if you are around…Creative party: 1) Everyone were wetsuits and bring bungee jumping gear. Outkast playing in the background

2C are you reinventing yourself today? 2 Can Play That Game, okay.

thinking what’s a reinventive name for Cemeeli (what da hayo is a Cemeeli anyway?)

Thanks Beautiful for the b-day wish.

i’m swiss you have intro music too? lol

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

ared i didnt have baies until i was married,shacking we did,but no babies were frtchcoming,she wldnt have it…… foots,between 19 and 31 a lot has happened,i knw ur views at 19 were so lala,but at 31 and still loking,im sure u have tempered ur prefs somewhat..Did your wife aim low when she married you? she was 21 when we started dating but im sure i had some of the qualities she was looking for,not all and maybe not even 65% My thing is just be realistic…..

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

Yesterday’s issue probably would have stayed in yesterday if a certain poster didn’t start it up again with another ill timed joke.

Most people had moved on but sometimes all it takes is a spark to set a fire off again.

We’ve got a male attention wh0re in our ranks folks…. exiting stage left.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

Kym uuumm you should have the DR if front of that one….

lolololol

By mqew

July 11, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

It not the moments that you breathe…it is the moments that take your breath away

Dude, say it again!!! I was at an Auto Body shop, trynna grasp $800… well the lady ended up knocking it down to $450. Ends up we’re talkin and she has a child with scoliosis (sp?) that is goin to surgery… needless to say where are those old days when ev1 appreciate evrything

By i'm swiss

July 11, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

@Cemeeli — “i’m swiss you have intro music too?”

Yup. And I’ve got a video too.

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

i didnt have baies until i was married,shacking we did,but no babies were frtchcoming,she wldnt have it

My apologies then melo. I have had gotten your story totally confused then. Maybe I mixed you up w/ someone else.

You did say that the family was pressuring you to marry her though, right?

My apologies again.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I always wondered what your name meant too…lololol

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

I am alive…I have food on the table…My son is healthy…I am healthy…My lights are on…I got Gas in my car..hell I got a car

Come on people we have alot to be thankful for and it is not Thanksgiving yet

YOU guys and Ladies are making a mountain out of a Mole

My advice is to be happy and live

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Since we are Still on It Poster That was really inspirational and inspiring! The Ignorance is twisting something I clearing said with a disclaimer as I was playing right off the bat into something so racially driven, when it didn’t have to be. You are fueling this. It wasn’t even serious yet you and Kym think I’m defining people or whatever.

I’m not trying to define anyone and I’m shocked this is even something being brought up Again today! I’ve been called Cracka, Token, WhiteBoy etc today yet there is no ignorance in that being said!?

Its a double standard, I get it. But if you are going to call out Ignorance, call it out across the board. I’ve apologized yesterday if it offended anyone, I haven’t heard any apologies from anyone talking trash about my race. Surprise? Not really, I could careless

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

ared u knw if u have been shacking with a girl for sme time or just seeing her and she has seen ur relatives and u hers,there is a pressure that cmes with it,if u are a normal person cming outa a normal family.Thats the pressure iam talking about,and the constant qstions from friends,family etc,saying when are u 2 going to do the damn thang.So eventually u say let me do it.It requires a complete mental make over tho to move from single to married……just like having a baby……too much responsilbitly cmes with that baton…..

By mqew

July 11, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

I am alive…I have food on the table…My son is healthy…I am healthy…My lights are on…I got Gas in my car..hell I got a car

Dude, believe me duly noted

CeeMee no wings, nowaday, trynna look good in a bikini….

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

Thanks melo, just asking because I was hoping I wasn’t just making up stories like some nut job. LOL

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

Okay Atl Guy go back and read my post..slower..where did I say you defined me? I said…your post jokes comments don’t define me or anyone else here. You can’t offended me unless I let you offend me..anymore than I can’t offend you unless you let me. But if my calling you Token was offense to your sensiblities..fine. *I apologies for offending you Atl Guy and calling you Token *

You are lucky..I only give one apology per quarter and never on Fridays

Swiss I am not apologizing to you because you went ahead and rolled with your name..so I have official adopted you as my little brother.

By Beautiful

July 11, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

melo same story here, but i just simply said no. i only deal with single mother, instead of divorced single mother. BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR OWN DESTINY!

By ChurchLady

July 11, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

GA Man Ahhh Glory!!!, now you talkin’ my language. All praises to the ALL Mighty. Thank him brother!!

Jesus, Jesus, ohhh, how I loves to call that name. Ummm….Ummm, he’s so sweet i knows. Yes, Yes Lawd, my soul says YES!!!

I thank we need to talk to take a praise break. C’om Blue Kollars get on them drums, Cemellei I knows its your birthday, but we needs you on that washboard, Foots, give her a metal clothes hanger,Red we needs you on the tamborine. That’s right children praise him.

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

@Blanca Greetings!

Although I am not on here often, I have been a part of this blog almost since its humble beginnings and I wanted to say hello and welcome!

In reading your entry today, I scratched my head a bit at what I was reading. I thank you for being woman enough to acknowledge what you think you are doing wrong in your adventures in dating, but if you have actually dated / have lations with 12 people in one year, you might be a serial dater!

Let’s not mistake the actual act of being in a relationship with a person and going out on dates, there is a difference!

If I translate you right, you actually only were in a relationship with 3 different guys, at different times, but went out on dates with up to 12 guys, am I right?

If this is the case, then I guess everything is okay.

The thing is this and I see it often with a high percentage of women….Many woman “CHOOSE” or “SELECT” the wrong locations, places or men to date, based on what they “PERCEIVE” or “THINK” is the right environment to meet a mate. When you shop for a mate, the people you meet almost never works out in your favor! I think this happens more than you guys admit and when things don’t work out in your favor, you blame the men instead of yourselves!

Love should come by accident, not with a mission!

Imma give you a scenario… If you go shopping for a car at a buy here pay here lot and you don’t research or do a car fax report on the car, then buy the car and it fails on you, who’s fault is it that the car failed, yours or the car dealer?

Think about it, you get what you get, because you looking for love in all the wrong places and you are attracting what you are in most cases!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

Atl Guy You know I spoke of the double standard/reversed racism yesterday. I said its hypocritical! You hear Black comedians cracking jokes on white people and they are in the audience laughing at their stereotypes being made fun of. But if it were the other way around…stop the press call Al & Jesse ‘cause we have been wronged! I think if it can be dished it should be taken back! Now of course there is racism that is evel that still exisit. I know that. But stereotypical jokes should not be taken so harshly. It is just that…a joke! It makes me shake my head when folks go back to days before they were even born to condemn someone because of their race. I speak on that all around the bored for all races. I am not going say I would not date a white guy because of what the slave masters hundreds of years ago did to Blacks. That is stupid! I can see if the same dude was alive now…then of course I would not mess with him. I do not think an entire race should be judged by the actions of somebody who just happens to be that of that race. Up until the DC Sniper (thanks jackazz), when the law looked for serial killers, that was the only time Black men did NOT fit the description. Granted there are some horrible people in every race…but if a Black guy rapes a woman…does that mean every Black guy is a rapist…no! Judge the person not the color. Really their is only one race…the HUMAN RACE. The color is just a different variation of it. So d*mn it..let’s just sing John Lennon’s “Imagine”…knock back a few drinks and enjoy what’s left of life (however long it may be)..it’s still too short to take offense and be tightwads! Find humor in everything! I will miss George Carlin for that!

By Tazzee

July 11, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Morning folks!

I know I have flaws - most of which I work on daily when dealing with others, so it’s not limited to dating. The same mess can get on my friends’ nerves. I’ll just list the big two:

• I’m selfish. Don’t get me wrong, I will give the shirt off my back for those that I love and I help others, but when I get home after work I can’t stand for my phone to ring and don’t let someone come by uninvited - I don’t go answer the door. With that, it is very difficult for me to get to know new people. Unless the guy is very persistent, I don’t do the calling or anything like that. Unfortunately, I don’t even think about the folks that aren’t cemented in my life. Every now and then I go through spurts where I’ll make an effort to get to know new folks, but most times I frown when my closest friends call (they don’t know though - I get it together before I answer).

• I’m very ‘rule’ based. This encompasses my impatient nature. I just think life would be much smoother if we all lived by the rules. If you say you’re going to be somewhere at a certain time, be there. If you ask me for some information and I give it to you - right it down or something, don’t call me again asking for it. Walk on the right side of the road, pull up to the first empty pump at the gas station, don’t ride in the far right lane if you aren’t turning or exiting, don’t ride in the far left lane if you’re going too slow, if you call and don’t leave a message - I won’t call back because I’m going to assume that you just wanted to chat at that moment and that moment is now gone….

The folks that already have a place in my heart don’t get the gas-face when they violate my ‘rules’ but new folks? They gotta be extra special or extra persistent to get to know me.

yeah, I’ll prolly be single for a long time

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

GaMan pulls out his ticket book to give out Citations

“Longtime Lurker” and Staceye AKA Black Mamba

I know its Friday and I dont do this on Friday…heck it has been a moment…but them posts were loooong as helllz….lololol

By i'm swiss

July 11, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

“Swiss I am not apologizing to you because you went ahead and rolled with your name..so I have official adopted you as my little brother.”

No apologies necessary, Kym. It’s all funny to me.

Although… exactly what do you mean by “little” brother? You trying to insinuate something?!?! ;-)

Grande swiss mocha swirl out…

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

When did half a dozen = 12?

By mqew

July 11, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Love should come by accident, not with a mission!

Jus wanted it read again…

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

@GaMan I ain’t posted in a while, so I should get off with a warning!

By Beautiful

July 11, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

Love should come by accident, not with a mission!

ok … ok … i have one flaw. dayum!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

Tazee I’m selfish. Don’t get me wrong, I will give the shirt off my back for those that I love and I help others, but when I get home after work I can’t stand for my phone to ring and don’t let someone come by uninvited - I don’t go answer the door MY God…are we twins? LOL I am the same way. People don’t understand that after working and working out 2 times a day, that fter that I just want to be left alone to chill and unwind! Heck I have been entertaining all day…no let it just be me the ghost that visit my crib on the regular! LOL

GA Man Leave me alone! Keep messin’ with me and I will have to punish you! Now….just say, “Yes Mistress”! LOL

By THE BIG PILL DK

July 11, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

They say the bigger the headache the bigger the PILL

Microbiologically speaking.. I am sometimes my own worse enemy.. I may like you in the beginning but then after a while I dont like you anymore.. I can be awfully non-chalant when it comes to relationships and even when something hurts my chest plate. I will act like I’m not phased, and will have to go home and hit the heavy bag.. Oh and the number one spot I feel i could work on is.. My willingness to cut people off and never speak to them again.. Most times I dont even tell people what they did but you know. It is what it is.. I was watching the usual suspects last night and Kevin Spacey said A man can convince anyone he’s somebody else, but never himself I guess thats why I am who i am because I cant be someone else.. Hate it or love but my flaws make me who i am.. I wouldnt change who I am for anyone.. Work on a few things, well theres always room for improvement, but they also say if it aint broke dont fix it.. These cliches kill me so i just take it one day at at time and play it how it goes…

By THE INFAMOUS DK

July 11, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

Now back to your regularly scheduled program..

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

RiiiiiiiiiP

LL Staceye AKA Black Mamba and Tazzee

*Here you go …”Have a nice weekend”

Staceye passes the fugg out when she sees her fine

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

LL your ticket is a warning Bruh….you know i got you Frat

Omega Psi Phi till the day I die

Staceye watch it…never mind Mistress

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:38 PM | Link to this

Best Job in the world is being a DAD

My son woke up this morning came and gave me hug and said thanks dad

I dont know what he thanked me for ….it is for those moments where i just smile

By The Truth's Wife

July 11, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

Where’s my husband?

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

@GaMan I am headed to the “clave” in a few hours, you coming up? Looking forward to some home cooking and other activities with the bamas!

By Tazzee

July 11, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CEMEELI

I meant to post that before my book about my flaws. Oh and that’s prolly my other flaw - I warn dudes about how I am in the beginning.

GaMan I think you should take that post and divide over the past month and see that, all in all, it was pretty light. I’m making up for not posting a lot in the month of June. kinda like how you really speed to make up for lost time after you pass that accident…at least I do

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

NawI wont make it this year…got a book signing plan.

Have 5..no 10 of em for me

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

Tazzee nice try…your fine is only .05

you can make monthly payments if you would like to…lolol

but then it goes up to .95

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

Ga Man Just as I thought. Good boy LOL

Truth’s Wife You had better love dogs, have a had a hysterectomy, and is fine with the cave man “I am master” ways honey or you will be up shyt’s creek without a paddle! LOL

By Sistah Big Bones

July 11, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

Church Lady You need to be dipped in the baptism pool and held down for at least 20 seconds

By IMHO

July 11, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

The Truth is not on here, cus he thinks he has no flaws. Everythang is our fault!

2CanPlayThatGame is this true? Is it always our fault?

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 12:55 PM | Link to this

@GaMan The highlight film is forthcoming! Met a couple of chicks on-line, that me and my LB are crashing with, so this should be interesting!

I might, forget might, I will have a few “war stories” on Monday,so stay tuned!

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Met a couple of chicks on-line, that me and my LB are crashing with, so this should be interesting!

Wow…Hope you come back with your liver intact. LOL

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Staceye I’m with you. It is interesting how the backlash can be varied due to the source.

Example: Jesse Jackson talking about Obama talking down to Black People for taking Accountability for their lives and how Jesse Jackson wants to castrate him for actually saying a positive message!?

Now, if I white person said that…there would be outrage EVERYWHERE. Its facininating really.

Stop Blaming Others, everyone should take care of their own Responsibility. Then Life is Good!

I could talk about Injustices that have happened to my family and keep bringing it up, but then I wouldn’t be progressing.

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

Is it over?

full as a phat rat and not only doing a lil more work

i’m swiss your video made me laugh.

mqew that’s okay i just had some’n even better. fried fish!

Cemeeli I always wondered what your name meant too…lololol

Gaman HUSH!

Churchlady i’m not even gonna go there..LOL you are something.

Thanks Tazzee.

By Tazzee

July 11, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

ATL Guy I implore you..LET.IT.GO please…

sexycool if you’re out there in cyberland please hit me up.

Anyone getting that new, cheaper iPhone - I think I’m going to get it this weekend. I’ve been thinking on it ever since they announced it was coming out today.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli why do I have to hush….lololl

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Tazee Its all good. Staceye brought up some good points…I’m discussing constructively. Everyone is Happy! No worries

Anyone have big plans for the Weekend!?

By QC - gone 4 the day

July 11, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

Enjoy the rest of your day bloggers!

HAPPY B’DAY CEE-MEE

QC said it twice, enjoy your cake

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli why do I have to hush….lololl

GaMan i meant Hursh!

alright, alright, alright…I’ll be here at my desk for a couple hours get it cracka lackin for me G-Man.

I get cake at 3pm, soooo let’s do this ppl!

Tazzee…iPhone…iPhone…girl how much is your gas in Houston? still i’d probably be lost trying to use that.

By m'karyl

July 11, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

ATL Guy

In theory, dude, I agree with some things that you state if ideal conditions of symmetrical identity perception are equitably acknowledged…but they are not…far too often white ppl will distort the paradigm of racial imbalance as being initiated by African Americans themselves…what a hoot…I do not need to talk about 400 year as ago and slavery…or even as 50 years ago and so many caucasians still live in ignorance of the racial identity views, values and virtues of African Americans from the collective experiental perspective.

I grew up in an integrated social culture in Illinois…I moved to the Deep South in 1983 and never in my life have I ever been spoken to by white ppl in with such racist, racially ignorant and racially sterotyped perceptions of my identity as a black woman…I did not experience this sort of behavior from the white ppl I knew uptop in IL. What is my point…I learned to very quickly address certain white ppl with racially based responses to their instigated ignorance and assault on my integrity…and what I also learned was that it felt psychologically liberating to actually say to white ppl (for whom this applied) what I really thought about them and the whiteyness…with complete racially appropriate adjectives…no, I do not complain when white ppl say things that are racially ignorant or insensitive…that is what they do, as long as I can do it back…fair game…to some degree because it will finally shut them up…and then there is a symmetrical identity perception in place…hallelujah!!!

By mqew

July 11, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

Dannnnng, and here i thought i was perfect…

Hubby came home for lunch with a looonnnng speech about a specific reoccurring flaw…

I don’t listen to his azz!

Well, I don’t. I neva thought I was this hard headed! :-)

By Tazzee

July 11, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli gas in Houston is a little cheaper than in ATL. $4.09 for premium where I go….dang, now you got me re-thinking this thing. Gas is high! Naw, I’ll just part the SUV and ride the integra for the rest of the year.

For some reason I’ve been feeling like a rebel and driving the SUV lately - I usually reserve that for Sundays…

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

IPHONE I don’t know … those touch screen phones…I’m not that into them. They’re cool, but I’ll stick with my crackberry 8330.

Its incredible how fast new phones hit the market and how quickly new technology is obsolete

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

mqew you are perfect! If you can fit a bikini, you are what’s up!

Tazzee…i’m watching you. Now that’s the Tazzee know. SUV’s are some very nice vehicles.

Is it hotter then a mess there? Houston, Texas…whew..just the thought makes me sweat

By Beautiful

July 11, 2008 1:38 PM | Link to this

Tazzee gotcha beat! i pay 4.79 for the good stuff. it has been steady for a minute. glad my job is only 7 miles away.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

MKary I understand what you are saying. Time does shape attitudes and generations will yield more tolerance. My family are from Europe and I’ve seen when a car bomb blew up the sides of every building on a street in the 90’s. Granted I don’t fully understand the racial tension in the south. I see People for People. But, from what I read and see, perception is changing. We aren’t there yet, but ignorance is everywhere…whether its religious, racial, gender, etc. These stem from ignorance of the other side and not being able to bridge the gap. Education & Knowledge is the only way to solve social or societal injustices.

By mqew

July 11, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

Cemee now you know lots a peeps can fit in them, It’s the ones that make you stop mid chew if you eatin…. Anyhoo whas on deck for this w/e? You n da boi, or u n _ <———- a beau? maybe? possibly?

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

*Cee, this has been my name all along…

IMHO, naw, it ain’t always y’all fault….

quick shoutout to my lurker fans: Nic the Snowman, and Rajeev, aka 7/11…..

By Tazzee

July 11, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

Beautiful my job is only 6 miles away, but because I live and work so far from everything else, my weekend driving is what gets me. This weekend I’m driving into downtown Houston Saturday and Sunday.

Cemeeli It’s not too hot - or perhaps I’m used to it by now. Mid-90s. But I use other folks air. I stay at work until the AC goes off (6pm) then I head to the gym for a couple hours. By the time I get home, it’s around 80 outside and I keep my AC on 85 during the day…down to 78 at night.

Like my driving, it’s the weekends that kill me - it’s supposed to be 98 both days but I’ll be out and about during the day.

By Beautiful

July 11, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

m’karyl i have to say this, then i’m out.

yesterday’s joke really hurt me. i’m a single mom against my will … actually by choice. not really, but y’all know what i mean. that was the 10th reason why i moved back to CA. the racism in GA is so thick it made my skin crawl. you don’t ever feel that here. ever! my subdivision had a 100 house yard sale there in GA. all of our customers were white and they only went to the white houses. the customers passed up all of the black houses. i stood there in fvckin’ aw. i couldn’t believe my eyes. i shut it down and said fvck ‘em. this is not for me.

have a good w/e bloggers. waving

By m'karyl

July 11, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

@ATL Guy

Education & Knowledge is the only way to solve social or societal injustices.

This is true. When I was at Agnes Scott (Class of ‘96) there were young white women taking classes on African American culture in history, literature and aspects of the diaspora. Many of these young women grew up in a post-Jim Crow Southern culture with the vestiges of its legacy still permeating the perception of others…yet, by taking these courses and learning something about the marginalized voice and identity of African Americans through their history in this country the young women were more enlightened to the what, how, why and who of our unique culture as a racial collective…and in extension they also learned how to more equitably humanize their perception of the marginalized ohter, in other words they were less ignorant to a non-white experience. That is learning objective tolerance through education and reasoning.

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

It’s the ones that make you stop mid chew if you eatin.

hehehehe…lol…mqew that’s ^^ called “the mouth tor’ up look”..dang!

whas on deck for this w/e?

Girl, i’m going to chill in the A this week going to my favorite Jazz spot, then on to some new dinner spot my gf planned. A new beau…a beau…hmmm i didn’t even think about it…i need to get captian shrimp deck for my trip to Miami nxt week. hmmmm

By Narissa

July 11, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

Question for Blog…..

Is it crazy to wait to date..until I get myself together? There is this guy at work that I really like. We haven’t had the chance to just really talk, but he has plans and is on track to moving up(25yrs old), while I’m(24 yrs old) STILL clueless about what I want to do with my life. I know that he likes me too, but with me being so honest and open about things, if asked, I feel like I’m turning him away by my honesty about myself and my lack of ambition. For example, yesterday he asked me if I went to college and what my major was. I told him I went and didn’t finish, then I told him I switched from Computer Science to Chemistry. I told him that I was just all over the place. Now this is not a way to sell yourself, but it’s the truth.

I never dated before, and I really didn’t have plans on dating, but now, since meeting him, I realize how nice it would be to have a boyfriend, and how all of my insecurities and fears are really affecting me and will continue if I don’t get myself together.

I”m guessing I should back off from him, but I really feel like I’ll miss out. Do any of you have an idea of what I should do? I’m sure that no one is perfect entering a relationship, but I’m also thinking that there isn’t that big of a gap between the goals and ambitions of the partners. He already has a Master’s Degree…I haven’t did not graduate but I have plans to go back this Fall I don’t want him or anyone else to ever feel like they are carrying me, or I’m holding them back.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

Beautiful are you from the country side or actually in Atlanta? I mean so many of us have moved to Atlanta from the North or West or wherever. I’m white and I feel weird when I go through these small country towns on the way to Florida in South GA. I mean I feel like I’m being Judged by other white people. That is crazy. I’ve had issues with people in Cali though. Regardless..there’s sterotypes everywhere unfortunately.

By mqew

July 11, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

Ceemee Miami, hunh? Well, Ima practice contortions (sp?) now to fit in the luggage. I’ll pay the xtra fee…

Soo Captn is lil one? He’s goin?

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 2:07 PM | Link to this

why is that guy attempting to defend every white comment made, now? Damn, let it go, already!

By m'karyl

July 11, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

@ATL Guy

Yeah, true dat.. you will be judged by the small town folks because it is obvious the you are an outsider…a foreigner to them there parts…lol, so to speak…and don’t be driving one of them there dang yuppie veehickles and wearing high thread count cotton shirts with loafers by dang…lol…daggone if there don’t go another one of them dang Yankee Carpetbaggers…them same kinda agamitators dat brought the Civil Rights mess here back in the 60’s and ruint our colored folks…lol

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

why is that guy attempting to defend every white comment made, now? Damn, let it go, already!

2C - I mean really. Please reference my attention wh0re theory. Thanks. LOL

By abc

July 11, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

ATL Guy and some others here would benefit from studying up a bit on Southern History and Culture as a whole. A bit of African History would also be in order. Research into these would make it obvious that nothing happened that was out of the ordinary for those times. The cultures were, if anything, quite complimentary.

I emphatically submit that racism is not worse in the South than in other regions, from my own personal experiences. In fact, it’s a better understood phenomenon in the South, and (usually) handled better here — a good case in point would be a dialog such as this on a daily dating blog. If you think you sense discrimination against black people in the ‘burbs of Atlanta, you certainly are aware that there is equal or more discrimination against white people in certain parts of Atlanta.

Maybe California isn’t like that. Maybe they concentrate more on use and abuse of illegal immigrant labor there, at least, history of the past 70 years or so would indicate that. Maybe Colorado isn’t like that — uh, sorry, been there and it’s far worse there. All the midwestern farm belt is far, far more discriminatory against minorities than the South.

By Tazzee

July 11, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli looking at the freaking Dow today I might have to say no to the iPhone. I need to put that $200 under my mattress somewhere, LOL.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

Narissa you are 24 and never dated?? Alright, you’re thinking about this way too much. Forget education status or whatever. I’m sure you have a lot to offer. If you have similar interests then definitely go meet him for coffee or dinner or something. Get to know him as a person. You aren’t less than him because you didn’t finish your undergrad. People have different experiences that will shape their life. Don’t regret not taking a chance with him. See what happens. You have nothing to lose & dating is about having fun with enjoying eachother’s company. Keep that in Mind…stressfree!

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

Narissa

my dear…if you like this guy and he likes you…it is simple

Go for it…alot of good people never finished, but you are going back

you have to be honest and open thats all..

To thy own Self be TRUE

By m'karyl

July 11, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

@Narissa

Why not just get to know this individual as a person!??!?!? MAybe go out to a couple of just hang out type things and see if a good conversation or a good time can be had…find out if there are any mutual interest beyond just a platonic or casual association…why put too much stock into it upfront…both of you are young, on different yet parallel life paths and maybe just being able to have some fun is good enough for now…find out if you have any other common interest and goals…just go have tapas and mojitos at Fuego in Midtown or something…

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

Tazzee guess that’s why my energy bill is higher, i have the stat @ 80 degrees all day. I’m sure you’re saving alot.

this has been my name all along…

2C sorry dude…i thought it better w/ the acronyms…make sound better when you pronounce it two cee.

now checking the walls to make sure they are not padded

Why was i just looking for my phone and that joint was right in my hand…

I’m so dang special!!!

By Out of the Loop

July 11, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

Honestly, what is the squirts?

By BeBe KID

July 11, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

This is a problem that I continually have. The women, specifically black women that I have dated are financially challenged, needy and/or very stingy having a sense of entitlement. Leaving many of them can be compared to jumping off a sinking ship filled with debt and financial crisis. I never realized there were so many broke so called professional black women in the ATL. To look at them seeing what they drive, how they dress and attitude they project you would think they were all millionaires. Then you find to date them is to sponsor them. If you want to get paid pole dance, be a part of an escort or put your add in Atlanta backpages.com. Many men will have more respect for many of you.

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

@Narissa I respect your honesty about yourself and I think most “mature” men will.

At 24,you are still young enough to have plenty of time to build many relationships and old enough to know how you can improve yourself and become the best person you can be!

If I was in your position, I would simply put it all out there to dude and if he truly respects you and wants to be with you,you should let go of your insecurities and learn from him!

This guy could be a great homie/luva/friend for you and best of all, you all could build a solid foundation together,if you both want to work towards building a solid relationship and desire the same things!

I have a Bachelors,Masters Degree and a Ph.D and 95 percent of the women I go out with or date don’t have what I have and it is not important to me for them to have titles or wealth!

What is important to me is the first thing you mentioned…HONESTY, then integrity and the last two things you mentioned…DRIVE and AMBITION!

I never understood why people would want to wait until they are complete to find a mate, because in most great relationships, both people grew / grow, matured and worked with each other through the tough times!

The tough times are what love is built on!

By BeBe KID

July 11, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

This is a problem that I continually have. The women, specifically black women that I have dated are financially challenged, needy and/or very stingy having a sense of entitlement. Leaving many of them can be compared to jumping off a sinking ship filled with debt and financial crisis. I never realized there were so many broke so called professional black women in the ATL. To look at them seeing what they drive, how they dress and attitude they project you would think they were all millionaires. Then you find to date them is to sponsor them. If you want to get paid pole dance, be a part of an escort or put your add in Atlanta backpages.com. Many men will have more respect for many of you.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

2C & Amazon I’m not defending anything…I’m in dialog…whats the problem now?

By Poppa Grande

July 11, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

Tazzee

Fears about Fannie And Freddie have had an affect on the Dow today.

Fannie and Freddie say that they have taken major losses since last July (around 12 billion dollars) but are still above the amount needed to operate. There has even been talk about the government taking over Freddie Mac and Fannie Mae.

On Topic My biggest relationship flaw is similar to abc. Impatience. There are many times that I will do something myself in order to keep myself sane. I don’t want to worry about something getting done. However, I have even improved on that front.

Now, I’m going back to my listening of the “Mo’ Better Blues” soundtrack and lurking.

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

Honestly, what is the squirts?

Outoftheloop Sperm.

there’s nothing to see here ppl

lol @ Tazzee using grandads/grandma’s theory…keep some in the house. i need to do that

Pebbles if you wanna he’s cool…won’t bite. hehehehe…

By throckmorton

July 11, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

I’m ugly, disgusting, fat, and have skin tags. Other than those facts, bring ‘em on!

By throckmorton

July 11, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

I’m ugly, disgusting, fat, and have skin tags. Other than those facts, bring ‘em on!

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

This is a problem that I continually have. The women, specifically black women that I have dated are financially challenged, needy and/or very stingy having a sense of entitlement.

BeBeKID - No need to be bitter about it then. Go head and get you a non-black woman. You have our permission. LOL

If that’s the type of attitude you carry around in everyday life, then any woman with her ish together will avoid you like the plague.

By Kym aka Lady Sage

July 11, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

LOL @ out of the loop…I will let one of the guys tell you exactly what it means..

Then they can also tell me why…

Why swallowing means so much?

By throckmorton

July 11, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

I’m ugly, disgusting, fat, and have skin tags. Other than those facts, bring ‘em on!

By Jamoca

July 11, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon….

…and Cee: HAPPY BIRTHDAY, sis!

On Topic:

I’m sure that I have some flaws here and there, however don’t we all…

Off Topic:

This week may have been reserved for “foreplay session”, but today…someone is clearly askin’ to get flucked….(that Lil’ ALT Boy….get over there in that corner, b/c obviously you like gettin’ hit from behind…

Though I really do not feel the need to explain, although it’s not an issue (either way)…after catching up on yesterday’s discussion (as I figured), has “eased” its way to Friday’s (sub-topic), so on that note, I will add my thoughts to the table as well…

Ummm….(really don’t know what to call and/or address you as), nevertheless, you already know…(smdh)…glad to have taken the time to catch up on yesterday’s post….however, it makes me sad for my daughters…go to school to get “educated sense”, and leave common sense down below…

“…Education & Knowledge is the only way to solve social or societal injustices….”

Wasn’t your silly simpin’ sugary @$$ deballed?!…and so you just put the final touches by gettin’ your skirt blown….(smh)

Like heyal!… common sense can NOT be taught, and you clearly decided not to use any w/ yesterday’s low-budget comment…didn’t see a dayum thing funny about it….either way “you chop and/or spit it”.…I really didn’t particularly care for the message or the messenger

…though it’s an unfortunate and a sad situation all around (however, I handle my own quite well) you just decided to call out a race of people who have a much higher statistic, along w/ that snide remark to the black male, but “came out front” on the BLACK Woman…wonder if SOME of the men on this forum would have been so cavalier if you would have stated …and become a single father…or a parent for that matter…

Heyal, there probably would have been the same turn out…I just saw a little more behind it, is all…’lil’ buddy, has just gotten to comfortable…”

Then you have to nerve to start posting about ignorance…that’s all I read in your previous posts….the more you post, the dumber you sounded…then in the same moment, watched how you did the re-check on your disposition….(sigh)

By Poppa Grande

July 11, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

Cee

Happy Birfday!!

By mytwocents

July 11, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

Birthday Gal How’d u find out bout ya surprise party? Instead of wet suits I told em body paint would do. Is that cool? But yay you finally get to christen yours, huh? Snow goin?

Makin a schizo bday playlist for u. Kelly Clarkson, Uncle Luke, Bilal, Bone Thugs, Gang Starr, Robin Thicke… Confession See it’s not so much for you as for me, but I’ll share.

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Uuuuummmm Jamoca

Ok…Nver mind…lol

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Jamoca I can’t believe you actually brought that from yesterday back up…sigh. I don’t even need to go into it again because you just don’t get it. Your comment didn’t even make sense and was a total contradiction. Get a Life and Move On

By For Real

July 11, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Out of the Loop: For Real what is the squirts?

For Real: You don’t know?

OTL: Naw I don’t!

For Real: Wow. Well squat down a little and I will tell. Lower, lower, lower now wait on it, wait on it……

For Real now delivering a protein perm and a remedy for dark circles under the eye.

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

mytwo

How’d u find out bout ya surprise party? auw…that was for me? sweet.

Instead of wet suits I told em body paint would do. how you know i like body paint? Lol But yay you finally get to christen yours, huh? Never-aury Snow goin? he’s going for Miami this w/e. LAME!

Thanks for the b’day shout PoppaG and Jamoca.

By LilZ

July 11, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

Staceye - Sounds like I need to date YOU instead of all these losers I been seein!! Too bad I don’t like girls :( Thanks for the nice comment.

By mytwocents is not gettin sucked in...

July 11, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

BUT was not the Post Birthday girl speaking of women squirting? Cuz these definitions sound like skeeet…

Blanca I blame you. For mentioning foreplay.

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

@BeBe KID Atlanta has been recognized as the best city to front in,next to LA!

The reason Atlanta ranks in the top 5 cities for Bankruptcies and Forclosures is because folks front and folks live way above their means!

Here is food for thought, if you meet a chick who shines like a new car, pay close attention to detail first and what she says next.

Most people use the front to pull u in and usually in the first 30 days, if you are smart, u can figure out if they are a contender or pretender.

Listen more than you talk and also notice that the quota of women grows and more skin shows towards the end of the month, to get the bills paid by a sucka/weak game spittin/sponsor.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

Have a Great Birthday CeMee, Live it Up!

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

abc,All the midwestern farm belt is far, far more discriminatory against minorities than the South. we are not over there,we are here and wl talk about what we experience or may not experience here.Racism being worse in colorado for example does not excuse anybody,let alone a white dude making a racial joke to a black audience in Atlanta.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 11, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

Okay ya’ll I finally have a moment to breath!!

PoppaG Mo Betta Blues is my favorite movie, love the soundtrack as well. May have to pull that one out when I get home

Okay so what is the topic now? Said while speed reading

By m'karyl

July 11, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

@Longtime Lurker

^ 5 @2:47 PM post. Never met so many pretentious ppl in my life until I moved to the ATL…everyone is always “tending like they have money”…lol…I grew up in a very strong community of AA’s who worked hard to do well and lived within their the reason of their means…no pretense just good, strong work ethic, sound fiscal sense and moral rectitude…outa here, ciao!!

By BeBe KID

July 11, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

This is a problem that I continually have. The women, specifically black women that I have dated are financially challenged, needy and/or very stingy having a sense of entitlement.

BeBeKID - No need to be bitter about it then. Go head and get you a non-black woman. You have our permission. LOL

If that’s the type of attitude you carry around in everyday life, then any woman with her ish together will avoid you like the plague.

Who’s bitter? I am a realist I pay I play and move on. The black women with their ish togeter are definitely not in abundance. Believe that!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

Beautiful For $4.79 a gallon does a midget come out and massage your feet with you are being financially raped at the the pump? LOL

ATL guy where in Europe are you/your family from? I have family in London.

Narissa I am all for making sure you are right before bringing somebody in your mix. But maybe being his friend and not getting into a relationship would be better. After all..time waits for no man/woman. be real and upfront with him though.

ATL Guy I’m white and I feel weird when I go through these small country towns on the way to Florida in South GA. I mean I feel like I’m being Judged by other white people WTH…now that is new to me! LOL But not really…woman do it all the time…”that chick thinks she cute”! It used to bother me…but now I say..”no YOU think, therefore I am”. Why waste your breath and energy to say that. Sounds like low self-esteem to me!

BeBe KID while I have commented on the flossers of ATL…that goes for men too. Yes there are some fake chicks out there. I HAD a friend like that and she was like a leech…sucking me dry! But the dudes here who got empty aparments in the hood but is driving a benz and rocking namebrand everything and iced out jewels is just as bad as these “tricks” you speak of. But just as all Black men aren’t deadbeat dads..all Black women are like the way you speak. Where do you meet these women.

By For Real

July 11, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

Beybey Kid The next time you see a chick rolling in a nice whip, stick your head inside and see where her gas level is and then you will know if she is frontin.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 11, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Here is a gift card to the candy shoppe, have all the n&ls, gummi worms, alexander the grapes, lemondheads, jolly ranchers, sweetarts, etc you can stand (without going into a diabetic coma)! :0)

By Narissa

July 11, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

Thanks Longtime Lurker, m’karyl and GA man….I really appreciate your comments! :)

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

mytwocents whun even ready for that onoe.

Thanks AtlGuy.

I can’t sue you anyway…hehehehe…

Blogsidebar You gotta figure out when to be an azz and when not to (for lack of a better explicit), go ahead apologize and let it sit. And know how to not be trigger happy.

right Pebbles uh you all don’t get cake. say sum’n

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Never met so many pretentious ppl in my life until I moved to the ATL

M’Karyl - Well, I’m from L.A. so Atlanta is a nice change of pace, but it does remind me of home. People are trying to hard and doing too much here, definitely. But I’m used to this attitude and definitely know how to navigate thru it.

The black women with their ish togeter are definitely not in abundance. Believe that!

BeBeKID - Sorry babe, can’t believe it cuz it’s not true. Maybe you’re looking in the wrong places. Good luck with that. LOL

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

@For Real Not true on your 2:56! I know plenty of chicks, who hate puttin a $50,$100 bills in their gas tanks each week and will ride they whip until that yellow light comes on!

Hell, I hate filling up my whips and I have V-8’s that get 10 miles to the gallon, so I can’t co-sign with you on that one!

My trip to B-Ham this weekend will cost me to hundred plus round trip..Geez!

By Jamoca

July 11, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Hey…Silly Simpin’…

Made perfect sense….check how all of sudden you can’t comprehend what I’M sayin’, however, it took you til after “blog hours” to explain ya’ self…(smh)…I was told that scapegoat would be used as a decoy for simpish folks w/o a real come back aka “real explanation”, but there was really no relevance…I state my position on any issue of interest and/or , fluck what day it is!…had it not been for my workload yesterday…(esp, w/ the kind of day I had)….your lil’ puh-seh @$$ would have gotten sodomized…now…take this sanitary napkin, you bleedin’ down there…just watch that “pig’s tail”…may be “Big Ma” could use it to season the greens….

…and what the heyal did you really expected from an ignorant post like that…your @$$ needs to be broken….I just gave you, what you gave the forum…did you really expect to recv a well thought out response?…

Btw…as I recall, you revisited this discussion a little earlier today….now you wanna stop…naw, bust it!…but dayum, I just forgot, you can’t…may be if I hurry, the sperm bank will still be open, I could sure use some gas $$$ for these two nuts…(smh)

By BeBe KID

July 11, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

BeBe KID while I have commented on the flossers of ATL…that goes for men too. Yes there are some fake chicks out there. I HAD a friend like that and she was like a leech…sucking me dry! But the dudes here who got empty aparments in the hood but is driving a benz and rocking namebrand everything and iced out jewels is just as bad as these “tricks” you speak of. But just as all Black men aren’t deadbeat dads..all Black women are like the way you speak. Where do you meet these women.

You and I know that there are more than enough brothers flossing and faking. I concur and you get no argument from me. I have met some real fakers at the Ritz Carlton Buckead.

By abc

July 11, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

Hey, Melo, folks were tossing issues specific to Atlanta and Georgia vs. the left coast, I thought it apropos. Misunderstanding of history is rampant around here, and everywhere I suppose. The staunchest white supporters of the Confederate Battle Flag as a state emblem typically know the least of Civil War History, just as those who want reparations for American Slavery know the least of Antebellum and African History. Jim Crowe in the South vs. the same era elsewhere in the country doesn’t really look that different, yet it resulted in a huge migration of African Americans to places like Chicago, St. Louis, Kansas City, Omaha, Denver — but a better life isn’t necessarily what they got. For the past 25 years, the migration has been from those places back to the South, and especially to Atlanta. Calling it a diaspora now is about as accurate as calling entrapment, transport and enslavement from Africa to America by the same name, and for migratory patterns in between. The word ‘Diaspora’ is more typically ascribed to Persian expulsion of the Jews in ancient times. A lot of misinformation gets flown as the truth.

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

Narissa you didn’t like my advice!? LoL

Staceye Haha right on! Females can be really bad about that, no doubt

MELO continue to drive home my race as an issue, you over-sensitive and insecure loser. It doesn’t phase me cause I’m secure. Melo, because you are from an African Country (World Cup in South Africa will be Awesome by the way! Thinking about Going) … I don’t address you as the “African Guy” … so cut the Bullsh*t

By non deadbeat

July 11, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

BeBeKid maybe it’s you and the breed of women you’re attracting. If your mix or type usually comes with the instant recommendation of a pole or escort service to make ends meet, maybe that’s the problem. Maybe it a reflection of one’s self. Maybe you attact skeezers. If you met a broke sista accompanied with circumstances even on her worst day, I don’t think the thought of pole or escort would ever come to mind. Maybe you should reflect.

By "Longtime Lurker"

July 11, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

I am outty folks, gotta get out of here, before the storm hits. Y’all have a safe weekend and most of all ‘BE OWT’

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

maybe it’s you and the breed of women you’re attracting.

LOL. I know if the type of car she’s pushing is even a factor, you’re after the wrong thing. A car is a depreciating asset. Plenty of folks, both men and women, don’t have the flossest rides. That’s cuz they got the car money going into the bank.

But yeah, there are certain cities (L.A., ATL, etc) concerned with status. If you don’t like the pickins in the city, go elsewhere.

By Blue Kolla

July 11, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

Jamo What up slim.

@ LL ref: 2:20 Dude, the ladies here have a helluva squad in the Blog Brothers here. They get more jewels than De Beers.

By Poppa Grande

July 11, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

Mo Betta Blues is my favorite movie, love the soundtrack as well. May have to pull that one out when I get home

Sorry, I didn’t care as much for the movie. The music is awesome. Defayo Marsalis and Terrance Blanchard plays their tails off.

However, now, I am on the Superfly soundtrack.

Curtis Mayfield…

Talking about skrip clubs and such, Did have a birthday party at the Foxy Lady or something???? j/k…lol

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

atlguy, dude,i waz talking to abc,not u specifically so check urself.A black dude making a white joke in a predominantly white audience wld get the same treatment u got,so there is nothing perculiar about what u got,grow up.Be nice and if u dnt understand nuances of ur audience,listen and learn b4 u open ur pitful mouth. abc appreciate the history lesson…ive never lived anywhere else in the us apart from from the A. Im going to the world cup 2010 and making plans to make money outa it!! And by the way,call me african guy,its an honor coz iam african!!

By Jamoca

July 11, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

Hey Baybeh Blue..MyTwo, sup girl…

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 11, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

PoppaG the music made Mo Betta my favorite. Granted there are some others that I love as well but I really got into Mo Betta. That Superfly was no joke either. You are really jamming over there today. And no, my birthday isnt til Sept!! Wrong Mo!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

2Cents WTH kinda of playlist is that? LOL Wait a minute…those are on my IPOD! I shall be quiet now! LOL

LilZ * Too bad I don’t like girls* OOh me neither girl! LOL men may get on my nerves…but not enough to make me bat for the other team. Besides…I don’t know how play baseball! LOL

For Real You are trying to get BebeKid slapped aren’t you? LOL I don;t see the purpose in $20 here and there for gas..just fill it up d*mn! It’s not that serious! You waste more time and energy going back and forth to the pump! Logic is lacking! Now I can see if you are broke and $20 is all you can afford to put in. Then you got a whole other issue!

**

By Poppa Grande

July 11, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

Kym Talking about skrip clubs and such, Did have a birthday party at the Foxy Lady or something???? j/k…lol

I actually had your name in the first post, but I wasn’t there when I saw it on the blog.

By BeBe KID

July 11, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Never met so many pretentious ppl in my life until I moved to the ATL

M’Karyl - Well, I’m from L.A. so Atlanta is a nice change of pace, but it does remind me of home. People are trying to hard and doing too much here, definitely. But I’m used to this attitude and definitely know how to navigate thru it.

The black women with their ish togeter are definitely not in abundance. Believe that!

BeBeKID - Sorry babe, can’t believe it cuz it’s not true. Maybe you’re looking in the wrong places. Good luck with that. LOL

LOL! Keep it real! There is not an abundance of good black men and there is not an abundance of good black women. If it were an abundance, the State of Black America would be better. The divorce rate among black people would be less and it would be less of a challenge for good black women and men to find ideally suited black mates. You know it’s black women who complain the loudest about finding eligible stable black men! Deal in truth! Keep it real! This dating scene has some game to it and you must be aware or you will be a victim! Believe that!

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

Melo the world cup will be tite, no doubt!

I’ve seen Black people making white jokes to a bunch of white people and there wasn’t any outrage or anything. They understood it to be playin. Have you seen the show “America’s best dance crew” LiL momma said “you guys can really dance even for white guys!” this is coming from a black person. Reverse that…White judge says, “you guys can really swim, even for black guys” that would be a totally different reaction. Your Thoughts…You Agree?

Stay proud of your Country. What country are you from in Africa?

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

“just as those who want reparations for American Slavery know the least of Antebellum and African History.”

So what are we missing then? The fact that Japanese Americans who were interred during WWII, received 50 stacks apiece for their descendants…hell, these tap-dancers have went from the promised 40 acres and a mule, to just an apology…fvck that! Gon’ say it, the AA of today suffer from no direct effects of slavery, so we aren’t entitled, right? I’m sick of WHITE FOLKS trynna tell Black folks about us….both of y’all check out that special on CNN in the next week or so, and if you can relate, then your voice will be relevant….

By Poppa Grande

July 11, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Mo Sorry. That last question was directed as Kym. However, when I hit post the screen came up “May I help you” and when I refreshed the post was up without Kym’s name.

I had to repost the question to her.

Thanks. One of Mary J.’s songs uses a sample from Superfly, and wanted to hear the original. I ended up listening to the whole Superfly soundtrack.

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

There is not an abundance of good black men and there is not an abundance of good black women.

BeBeKID - I am keeping it real. I guess it depends on your outlook and the company you keep.

I’m not the one on here moaning about my dating situation either and I’ve never complained about finding eligible black men. They are everywhere. But look who is on here complaining…you! Ponder that one and maybe change your attitude, Mr. Gloom.

Like I said, if it’s SO BAD out there, date white women or something. LOL

By The Truth

July 11, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

On frontin: Everybody in this country is frontin. We all make purchases assuming we have another check coming. That is not necessarily the case. We plan our retirements assuming the companies in our portfolios are stable. Some are not. We do everything assuming that tomorrow brings more money. Alot of american families have found that to be a lie.

Everythings gone up from gas to food to services but your income hasn’t. That’s a recipe for disaster if I ever heard. And like I believe Kym said don’t count on gas going down again. The supply shrinks daily and over the next 40-50 years it will be all but gone.

I was watching some of the basketball contracts being passed out and they’re assuming that attendance and revenue will hold steady or grow. That may not happen if the economy stays this course. And by the way, none of the economists have a solution for what ails this country. I can see some ballers trading in Bentley’s for Hybrids when their contracts get cut up.

A few short months ago I was baby ballin and now I’m ballin like a beyootch. LOL I never saw this coming. Luckily I had assets to tap into to keep me afloat but they don’t last forever.

A few years ago I made myself a promise that I’d never work for anyone in my life again. If you know of someone that has a job drop me a line. LMAO And yes, I do windows. I’m laughing but not really. This shyt is cwazy. LOL

Narissa you’re a sweet lady. I hope it works out for you.

Beautiful my subdivision had a 100 house yard sale there in GA. all of our customers were white and they only went to the white houses. the customers passed up all of the black houses You all should have had nicer stuff. LOL

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

before i jet and forget.

Thanks everyone for all the Birthday Wishes.

that list is waht’s up mytwo like Blue say you all up in my subconcious.

next thang you know….shhh

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Ceme where the party at? Where can i go listen to some jazz tonite folks and eat sme nice food……?

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 3:50 PM | Link to this

You all should have had nicer stuff. LOL

LMAO!!!!

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

Damn all this rain! I just lowers my resistance. Nothing like spending a day in bed, while the rain pours and getting your uh…snuggle on! LOL

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

2CanPlay your perspective is the fundamental issue here. Government take care of me attitude or this entitlement is wild to me. Take some accountability, Man Up, handle your business. It was terrible and definitely a scar on US history & Injustice…I understand, but will you continue to hold this generation to blame for actions happened before I was even born!?

Listen…My family were killed by Terrorists in Europe. Do I continue to ask for recipriation from the govt for the unjustice of losing my family…no. Own up to your responsibilities and make the most of what you’ve got. Quit waiting for someone to bail you out whenever something negative happens. Don’t talk to me about Injustice. I’ve lived through it in more ways than you know

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

http://www.sa.c2a.co.za/ atlGuy, all that land belongs to my tribe and my dad is the chief.He got 20 wives..and iam a Prince…..see where my pride stems from…? (believe at ur own risk)

By Poppa Grande

July 11, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

Truth

You all should have had nicer stuff. LOL

Now that was funny..LMAO!!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

ARED Plenty of folks, both men and women, don’t have the flossest rides. That’s cuz they got the car money going into the bank So right..I still havethe car my parents got me in 2000 (a 2000 Grand Prix) I will drive it until it dies! No car payment wanted! LOL

ATL Guy * “you guys can really swim, even for black guys” that would be a totally different reaction** Oh hell yeah! Again..Al & Jesse would be making a public spectacle of it!

2C although no amount of money will change what happened in the past…I personally believ if one race was given reparations…then all should be given. Selective reparations is dead wrong.

By abc

July 11, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

2CPTG, what’s irrelevant is the idea that there will ever be reparations for slavery. There will never be such reparations. Now, you can debate until the next millennium for or against it, and it won’t change a thing. Shall you do so, or just let it go and focus on something that is actionable and relevant?

By BeBe KID

July 11, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

There is not an abundance of good black men and there is not an abundance of good black women.

BeBeKID - I am keeping it real. I guess it depends on your outlook and the company you keep.

I’m not the one on here moaning about my dating situation either and I’ve never complained about finding eligible black men. They are everywhere. But look who is on here complaining…you! Ponder that one and maybe change your attitude, Mr. Gloom.

Like I said, if it’s SO BAD out there, date white women or something. LOL

Gloom, no…. I have a ball I date women that I find attractive. I select well and weed out but looking at the black dating scene with rose colored glasses is comparable to thinking that gas prices are reasonable and this economy is good. It’s good that YOU find eligible black men in abundance but the reality for many black women is just the opposite. If I asked 10 black women if good black men were in abundance I will probably get at least seven negative responses perhaps more so KEEP IT REAL! You may not have challenges in relationships but the majority of your sistas do. Believe that! But like you say you don’t have it like that so why would you be concerned.

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

LMAO!!!! i knw who is rubbing it in…..

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

auuuwwww maaaannn!

By GaMan

July 11, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

Truth yous a fool….**

Do you hear me…a str8 fool

By mytwocents

July 11, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

Staceye I said it was schizo!Back when they 3 disc changer radios I used to have Kirk Franklin God’s Property, Lil Kim Hardcore & Jodeci Forever My Lady on permanent shuffle cuz they got stuck in there. Explains A LOT

Jamoca Sweetie, you still got ya hand on yo hip? Well when I dip you dip we dip… You get the neon orange body paint first, k? Now do I need to spy on the oldest this wknd or she so afraid what mama might do…

Cemeeli Make it a tasty weekend even tho you ain’t nowhere near Lil Haiti. Hmph his loss. Really, tomorrow’s not promised so, ya know.

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

guy, nowhere in my post did I say take care of me! That’s y’all damn problem, y’all think folks lookin for a hand-out, how ‘bout what ya owe me!!! And of course, it’ll never happen….while y’all callin the shots! Dammit, come January……we gon see ‘bout all them nevers…..prolly why most of y’all white boomer generation scared as hell, cause ya know, “times a changin’”….

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

melo now it all makes sense! LOL

By mytwocents

July 11, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

Staceye I said it was schizo!Back when they 3 disc changer radios I used to have Kirk Franklin God’s Property, Lil Kim Hardcore & Jodeci Forever My Lady on permanent shuffle cuz they got stuck in there. Explains A LOT

Jamoca Sweetie, you still got ya hand on yo hip? Well when I dip you dip we dip… You get the neon orange body paint first, k? Now do I need to spy on the oldest this wknd or she so afraid what mama might do…

Cemeeli Make it a tasty weekend even tho you ain’t nowhere near Lil Haiti. Hmph his loss. Really, tomorrow’s not promised so, ya know.

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

hey,atlag,ceme,mytwo when my dad is planning to get physical with one of his brides(he 75) there is a wild bush from where he gets a bunch of leaves,rubs them on his back,right by the bone dwn below near the buttocks….in 20 mins,old man wl be so hard core its riduculous! Being the capitalist iam in the fam,im trying to get a patent on that thing coz it beats viagra/cialis combined hands dwn…..

By The Truth

July 11, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Staceye I still have the car my parents got me in 2000 (a 2000 Grand Prix) I will drive it until it dies! No car payment wanted! LOL We’re car pooling from now on. You start driving on monday and go till friday. I’ll drive the week after that. BTW, who do I call IF I’m sick the week I’m supposedto drive? LOL

Ok, I got my oil changed, my tires rotated and balanced and now I’m ready to park my truck in the garage. This is cwazy. LOL Gas was 3.95 at QT. Woo fuggin hoo.

By abc

July 11, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

If that’s a reference to something Barack Obama would do in favor of reparations for slavery, then that is just plain foolish.

My impatience is kicking in.

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

You may not have challenges in relationships but the majority of your sistas do.

BeBeKID - Sucks for them then. That’s their problem!

Good luck to ya.

By Poppa Grande

July 11, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

BeBe Kid

*. If I asked 10 black women if good black men were in abundance I will probably get at least seven negative responses perhaps more so KEEP IT REAL! *

Just because they say it doesn’t mean that they are correct!!

What makes good black man may vary from female to female to a degree. Some women just want attention and if they get it, then that man is good. Some want to live a certain lifestyle and if there aren’t any men that allow them to do that then there are no good black men.

There are no controls to your research. It is too broad. You are just relying on some other people’s word? That’s not good because people lie.

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

2C My Lawd..Lil’ Kim next to Kirk Franklin….I tink Churchlady passed out after reading that one! LOL

Truth You are a hot mess! LOL

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

The Melo….how they feel about marijuana over there? Is is a crime to indulge in a plant over there?

By MissJackson

July 11, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

ATL GUY Do you look like Justin Timberlake, D. Beckham or Anderson Cooper? All of them can “get it” if ya know what I mean. Do you like chocolate??

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

Just because they say it doesn’t mean that they are correct!!

Not only that PG, but for the 7 women that have it bad, there are still those 3 that aren’t complaining. I guess those three aren’t “keeping it real.” LOL. Please.

Some want to live a certain lifestyle and if there aren’t any men that allow them to do that then there are no good black men.

And PLEASE get that said! LOL.

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

“If that’s a reference to something Barack Obama would do in favor of reparations for slavery, then that is just plain foolish.”

never said that, either…..

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

marijuana over there not as big an offence as here,if u talking about just smoking…what they call petty crime……..but buying and selling can get u a number of yrs in the slammer…….

By Cemeeli

July 11, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

I’m out of here friends.

I see you mytwo…shuffling…now, Don’t quit, show ‘em what you workin’ wit’.

Jamoca you already released now breeeeeeeath.

Duece, Peace, Ciao…in all that.

chair spin

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

2CanPlay You Said Gon’ say it, the AA of today suffer from no direct effects of slavery, so we aren’t entitled, right? I’m sick of WHITE FOLKS

So because I’m white I “Owe you” !? Get over yourself. You will never know how good you’ve got it in this country…you always complaining and crying about everything. Keep up this Government Save Me attitude…see how far it gets you.

You’re looking at places like Mayamar where the Government actually stopped International Aid and everyone was dying earlier this year. How about that for some perspective….again you don’t know how good you’ve got it Here. I’m tired of hearing how because I’m white I owe you something. Drop this Race Crap and take care of your own responsibilities like everyone else instead of waiting of what you think is “owed” to you

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

Oh MissJackson has come on here tryin’ steal my boo! LMAO Oh wait…I think that is Binford. But I think we are divorced now! LOL

*David Beckham is FINE…Lord Jesus! Oh yeah and Tom Wellington (Smallville….Superman!

By mytwocents

July 11, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

ChurchLady you still here? See how the King kids are fightin? Put them in the prayer circle :(

(believe at ur own risk)- already do w/ half the words on this screen. Why does daddy waste the leaves? Seems to be in y’all’s veins. You can’t the only boy. Feel sorry for my poor sistahs in the village.

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

mamba what sense..my libido? oh yeah..i learn from the master,playa in chief…hehehe……….

By abc

July 11, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

Then what, pray tell, will January bring that will affect such a change, 2CPTG?

By ummmm

July 11, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Where is awwwwww dayum?

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

just lowers my resistance at least u got a good excuse 4 being an easy lay today……!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

melo Of course! I understand now! LOL

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Seems to be in y’all’s veins YES AND NO…WE spoilt in africa!!!!! coz the laws allow it…the afrcan america guys i talk to salivate about that but too bad they cant do it here…im taking a crew over there 4 a vacation….

By ATL Guy

July 11, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

2C Thinks Obama will just Change his world and give him entitlement he’s been owed. What is with this moron!?

By BROCK

July 11, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

In reference to Predatory overweight white women and the sucker black men who date them…… “Come on black men, you date white women WE won’t date”

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

July 11, 2008 4:35 PM | Link to this

Have a great weekend all! I am out!

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

http://www.flickr.com/photos/34985302@N00/354894070/ Look mytwo,

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

“you always complaining and crying about everything. Keep up this Government Save Me attitude…see how far it gets you.”

lemme put a bug in ya ear real quick!!! I don’t look for the government to do shyt for me, ok!!! I’m in my mid 30’s and I’ve YET to work for any company more than 2 years! and I’ve yet to work for anybody more than 6 months a year for the past 5……and I’m livin quite lovely! and as far as this debt I’m referring to…..shyt, I didn’t make the promise, they did! Because they haven’t fulfilled that promissory note, it’s supposed to be forgiven, and dropped?

and I din’t say you…..unless you’re a gov’t affiliate, then yeah, pay up!

By AmazonRed

July 11, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

at least u got a good excuse 4 being an easy lay today……!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yikes. LOL melo. Still holding strong tho…

By 2 Can Play That Game©

July 11, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

“What is with this moron!?”

ok, this the shyt I’m tombout…..punk azz cracka….if you don’t think change comin, then yo head gon stay stuck in the sand! like I said a minute ago, I ain’t lookin for the gov’t to do shyt for me…….furthermore, I’m finished correspondin wit yo azz…..

By mytwocents

July 11, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

Beautiful pic of my cousins. Is the dance “for” anything or just ceremonial stuff? Gonna need weeks when I go.

By The Melo

July 11, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

thats from swaziland(a cntry inside south africa),they do that every year,iam not too familiar with the tradition,but evry year,the King,Mswati gets to pluck a bride from that rich,tender list……he has 20 sme as wee speak…

By The Truth

July 11, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Melo you’re bullshyting us. Those pics were taken in arizona. One chick has on shades and the other one is holding a cell phone. The whole african thing is a lie. LOL

Really, is that your tribe?

By Jenny

July 11, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

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By mytwocents

July 11, 2008 5:04 PM | Link to this

Selection is probably an honor, I guess. But my American mind would eff up every step so I ain’t gettin the very last drops outta that old man.

Have a Great Weekend All

By Jenny

July 11, 2008 5:05 PM | Link to this

flaw? i’m flawless ha ha i have been using a free dating site lately thats pretty cool its called friendpad check it out its at http://www.friendpad.com

By Sxzscorpia

July 16, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

1) I’m picky

2) I may have a wall up that though I don’t think it’s there, deep down it affects how I play out a relationship.

By Sxzscorpia

July 16, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

1) I’m picky

2) I may have a wall up that though I don’t think it’s there, deep down it affects how I play out a relationship.

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